Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kicky · kicky

First and foremost, my A and I split up 4 months ago after 7 years and the decision he made NOT to go to rehab. So the other day I was shopping at Target with my kids, and I ran into this guy I knew from my 20's (20 years ago)....funny and cool, and then on the party scene in our city. He was at Target with his 2...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone))) Recently my A has thrown the word "crack" into conversation in a joking manner. It's happened serveral times over the past couple of months, and each time I thought how weird. So I resolved to ask him about it the next time it came up. Well he called last night -- which for the past 4 mo...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

This is the question that has been lingering lately. When I first started out on this journey of aloneness I was DESPERATE to find someone ANYONE to fill that void of lonliness!!! Still now almost six months later I still feel guilty when I think about seeing other people. #1 I guess I'm not totally done...

Christy · Christy

Last night I watched 20/20. It was about the poorest town in America, Camden NJ. The show featured several families of children, their hopes, their dreams, their differences. One little guy tugged at my heartstrings, a 4 yr. old named Ivan. Homeless, with his Mother and little brother, he looked f...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) As I posted earlier this week my AH has been home all week with the kids because there has been no work with his company. He works on contract stuff now and its really dried up. So he's been doing as much as he can with them, trying to keep them busy, but still feeling depresse...

mama_nz · mama_nz

My ex (A) keeps calling me and asking me what the state of affairs is in our 'relationship' (we have been separated a year now). Just before New Years Eve he said he wanted to stop drinking. He said that last New Years Eve, it never happened. Nothing has changed, only the story is getting a li...

gardengal · gardengal

As it is morning for me I think I will start by reading the daily reader C2C. Give myself enough time to get ready for work, so I am not in the harried rush that I usually am. As in every employment there are those who are miserable and not pleasant to be around, always negative etc. So today I will not get enme...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Ah has been gone for three months and has only seen his children once. He even had to leave Christmas because he was sick and he had the shakes. My poor babies do not deserve this. Weekend after weekend he lets them down. They are 6,5,5. I am so sick of seeing the disappointments on their faces. I have ran ou...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))) I have been struggling lately in my life. Things have been getting to me, emotions have been on overdrive. A big question I ask myself all the time is, "What is Love", I am unsure of the answer to this. I Love my family unconditionally, that...

Rita G · Rita G

ok - well i've been at home - today i'm back at work, so then i'm back at mip. glad to be here - surgery went well & recovery is going fine - still limited to use of 1 hand so - typing is slowwww & time consuming -but only 2 more wks then i should be able to use the other arm. wow - i've b...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

I hope I am not jinxing myself, but I had a great day today!! As you all know, my AW is my qualifier Anyway, My AW, my 3 daughters were all together with me. Today has been fantastic, no drama, no resentment, no mood swings, nothing but love. I did not obsess or overthink anything today. Marriage Counselin...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Hello Family, I have been greiving....... and in doing so I find the good , the bad and the ugly. I do not often post, I guess it is because I can at any time go to a meeting attend an onlie meeting or just chose to sit quietly and maintain a little space for my HP to chat . The weather here had been very un...

ally · ally

((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))) I don't know whats happening to me this week but their is a new side to Ally showing in here. The real Lynn is showing through. Ally is fun, etc. Lynn is struggling big time in her life right now. I have a situation in my life that has been going on for a few mon...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My exA is very mad at me. His sister just let it slip to him that she knows hes drinking again. Admittidly, I did tell her......well, she asked me...and I couldn't lie to her. All the signs were there and she is not stupid. (She didn't say I told her) He was sober for a short time last ye...

Elli · Elli

Hello, I am new to this site and want to give some background...I am 45 years old and married, I have no children (thank God) and a 12 pound, spoiled rotten pomeranian. My husband has a drinking problem. We have been married for a little over five years. He is an independant sales representative, mea...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Still can't believe it but my AH has been attending AA meeting for the last week. Never thought he would ever admit he had a problem because he is highly fuctional and his drinking only really affected myself and my daughter. Kind of figured he would give us up rather than give up drinking. Fe...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all... there seems to be a lot of newcomers lately, so I thought I would re-post my favourite joke about "trying to make an alcoholic happy", and how it is an exercise in futility. Enjoy! One morning, the nice wife wakes up early to make her alcoholic hubby breakfast, and makes him two egg...

leo · leo

Hi Everyone, Just wanted to wish any other Aussies like myself Happy Australia Day and for anyone else you can celebrate with us. Have a good one. Luv Leo xxx

jewely · jewely

wow, it is just one thing after another lately. if i was superestitious........, i would think the grim reeper is out to get me. this summer i experienced a fire. i was sitting in my camper van, all packed up and ready to go, when i saw flames, i jumped from my vehicle ,the impact of the explosion pushed me a...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my boss was talking to my mom and she told my mom how good I am doing. She is very happy with me. Speical the way I handled the whole situation and still came to work. I am so happy right now. Life is going good. I am doing good all around. Home with my husband, my job. So life is going good. This is beca...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))))) Oh WOW!!! I just found out I had a really lucky escape. I met with some friends yesterday,who knew I was seeing Mr New Guy on his return from Belgium. They were really interested to know how things had gone,since they were so excited that I had finally plunge...

smpoli · smpoli

I am a bit frustrated today. My A went over to do some yard work that needed to get done...he comes back and whines about wanting a beer. How good a beer would sound right now. I wish I had a few bucks. on and on...so I finally went out while I was running my errands and picked him up one. Of coarse he is "so grate...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) Thanks to everyone who replied to me on the post and PM's about my frail constitution to say no and be ok with it. The answer is no, I don't agree that she has to come home to seek help. I did many of the suggestions, walk throughs, lists and what it boils down to is this. Th...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hey (((((Friends,)))))Live has been full of hills and valleys these days...sometimes I get so tired of climbing them and other times I am as happy to be in the valley for awhile...enjoying lifeJob is going very well, kids well.....another story...they just don't give me the respect they gave t...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Is there something magical about your one year aniversary in the program? Yesterday marked 1 year to the day. So what all happened yesterday? - Chaired my first F2F meeting. Not by choice, everyone else who showed up on that rainy miserable day was either new to the group...

jackie · jackie

First of all I would like to say that I am so happy to have found this place. I have been reading the posts and doing a lot of research on alcoholism. Here is my story.... I met my husband when I was 12 or 13. Started our relationship when I was 15 and got married at 20. He treated me like a godess since day 1. We di...

jackie · jackie

Why does HIS drinking make ME sad? Why is it when HE decides to drink MY day is ruined? Why am I upset by HIS choice? How can HIS decision have such a negative affect on ME? It is because I love HIM. HIM and my children are MY life. I love him so much that it hurts. I know how good we can be together and how good he ca...

jewely · jewely

this is not easy for me to share.........., when our little boy died at eleven years of age, some fervent well meaning religous people told me, ''it was because of your husbands sin that god took your child away.'' i will never forgot how those words went straight to my heart. i alm...

gail16 · gail16

Hello, I am married to a functioning alcoholic and I am about to go crazy, so I decided it's finally time to get some help. I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 and we married 3 years later and have now been married for over 4 years. I always knew he liked to drink beer, but I didn't realize there...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I've noticed lately on the board there's alot of shared pain. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also noticing that lately there's alot of feeling bogged down in the now, as in "I cannot see how things are going to get any better! My life's a mess, I cannot believe the new low we...

ditto · ditto

You guys teach me so much with your shares. I wanted to take this time to say thank you. I have entered the dating arena. I was on a couple of dating sites. I told you about the first man I met and that his drinking a bottle of wine by himself bothered me. Everyone here understood my hesitance to get invol...

brownie · brownie

Hi my partner as been drinking heavily since September last year. He went through detox May 2006 and didn't drink for 6 weeks. He was doing really well. The back end of June he had the odd drink. He was telling me he wasn't drinking but you can tell. End of August 2206 he went into hospital with a burst ulcer...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has very very few bills to pay anymore yet he regularly lets so many of them go that it is really difficult for me not to say anything. Today I found out that he has let the main telephone line be cut off. That's a new one. I have allowed him to use my cell phone this week, now he is acting like it is hi...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))) Thought I would update my wonderful family here on how my new date went. You may remember that I was concerned about the amount this guy was drinking on our first two dates. A year out of the relationship with my ex A ........I was very anxious to ensure I did...

kissers · kissers

My grandmother invited my 9 year old and I over for dinner this evening. She made a beef stew to be placed over egg noodles. My daughter didn't understand the concept, so I explained it to her. She said she did not want beef stew. So my grandmother started having a fit because she wanted everything to go he...

Josmom · Josmom

Everyone's been asking him for at least 6 months and he's been insisting he isn't drinking. Tonight I'd finally had enough. All the signs were there and I knew he had been drinking, but he continued to deny it. He finally admitted it. I guess I should be relieved since it's been go...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday and today my husband thank me for being supportive of him, for not giving him a hard time about what was going on. I stood by him and was very supportive and he was very greatful he gave me a hug last night and thank me. He also told me this morning he was glad I help him by being supportive. I feel the...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((My special family)))))) Some days I do better than others. Detatching from unacceptable behavior is getting easier, being honest about my part in things is getting easier (I am more honest with myself), but here is the humbling part: I have a hard time telling anyone no. I do it... but then I f...

meagain · meagain

My A son is home (not here) from working about 2-3 weeks in the oil patch. He called and I was'nt home so I called him back. He is always down or at least sounds that way to me. He doesn't know when he is going to work again. He never sounds"down" when he talks to other people-just me. S...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I've been being nice to myself for quite a few months now. Those little things a gourmet chocolate once a week, extra dog treats for Sully, taking the time to comb thru resale places for cheap cashmere I could not afford new. I've done so well at getting used to being nice to m...

Wilted · Wilted

Will Al-Anon be able to help me. I left an abusive marriage after 23 years and jumped right into a new marriage without really taking the time to heal. Three years later it is obvious that my new husband is an alcoholic and I have traded one set of problems for another. On top of all of this, I now live four st...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night at my f2f someone was talking about being involved in worrying, trying to control, trying to fix other's situations. She said she believes that when she became overinvolved with someone elses issues...it was because there was something about her own life that she was avoiding look...

doxie · doxie

Oh who would of ever thought I would be in this position. Just trying to sit here and figure it all out. But as we all know in life with a A, or in my case (and a lot of yours) a whole family of A's, life don't make sense. We just have to hang out and do what is right for us living amidst it. Recently my AH&#...

fluffy · fluffy

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Gailey · Gailey

Today is a sad day. My dil is going to court today to finalize hers and A son's divorce. I prayed for over a year that it would never actually come to that. It was not meant to be...I guess. They have both gone on and are with different partners now. My son has gotten a job that he really likes and seems to b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My 12 yo daughter was supposed to stay at a friend's house until tonight but had to come home early yesterday. First, her and her friend spray painted F you on the wall inside the shed at the girls house. They painted over it and that problem was solved. Now last night the two of them were home alon...

serendipity · serendipity

i offered my ex my car so he could go to his inservice meeting. on the way back he hit a deer. not too much damage, just cosmetic. i was so mad. it was my dad's car and i always feel like i am betraying his memory when i let my ex drive the car. i only let him take the car when it is to my benefit or the kids. so i fe...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP))) Today is one of those days for me where I can see the down spiral effects of enabling. My AH has been enabled by someone almost all of his life including me. We have sheltered him and bailed him out of problem after problem and because of that he has no real concept of the world and how it wo...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Yep I can swear like a sailor when I want to but I won't bore you with it. Or myself. My A is out of jail with a new charge .... operating a vehicle without owner's consent. But the funniest part he had consent but she is married and can't explain the whole situation to her husband. I'm accepting what that rea...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) What a wicked number it does to a person when they have run out of the booze or the drugs. My AH has been home with the kids this week because he hasn't had work in two weeks. We're financially hanging on by a thread, but one alternative was to take the kids out of daycare for a week or two to...

QOD · QOD

Thank you so much Carolinagirl & Andrea12 for your replies to my LONNNGGG post yesterday. It was very encouraging. Carolinagirl - you mentioned the money thing and how he hasn't worked in 13 months. Well, he hasn't worked STEADY. He has managed to hold down a job for a month or 2 here and there. And c...

Sallen · Sallen

I just need to vent and I know....I know, get to more face to face meetings. My A is my 17 year old son and he is making me crazy. He is an alcoholic/addict and is non-compliant with his meds for his bi-polar which just makes it so much more unmanageable. He has been in outpatient treatment and in residen...

QOD · QOD

It has been a while since I have posted. Life is so busy. We finally sold our house and I bought a new one in my own name. We moved last Tuesday. Or rather should I say, the kids and I with the help of my family, moved a huge household worth of stuff. My AH was absent through most of it. No wait, that is not fai...

hudsond · hudsond

I have been thinking lately about the differences between the men's and the women's responses to their situations and in their posts/responses to others. Sometimes I get rather jealous--this may be in my head or just the way I'm seeing it, but the men seem to be so matter of fact about th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Well as some of you know my AW and I seperated 3 months ago. I told her that I loved her, but if she was actively drinking that I could no longer live that way. The chaos that spins around her is just not healthy for me and the kids. Here is the tricky part. She has run short on money ove...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

Hey ya'll, I'm stumbling around the new (to me) world of depression and anxiety and would like to know how some of you handle it. Without meds and with - how do "they" as in Doctors figure out what is right for you? Using the power of hindsight I have figured out my Mom went through ye...

kitty · kitty

I just realized a few days ago, that I have no clue how truly negative of a person I am. I'm sure I have a belief that humans are abusive, violent and critical and this shapes what happens to me. Even though I know about positive mental programming & I enjoy relationships, I am still more negat...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"You're telling me that an unarmed man with one leg just robbed a bank and then wheeled over here to get a sub?" Virginia sub-shop manager Amanda Carriker, to police officers searching for a disabled man they suspected of robbing a nearby bank. The accused reportedly stopped for a san...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hey ((((((((roomies))))))) Well here i go again venting I feel kindof like a broken record but It is what is on my mind!!! My Hubbys Dad Calls him this morning like he does every Sunday morning to tell my hubby that he got his blood test results that he had taken a few weeks ago and had talked with his doc abo...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, I know that my posts are very confusing sometimes, probably because I am confused so much all the time. I think this one begins with me. I am starting to see that by not naggin about the A's drinking he has more time to think about it himself. sometimes I do slip and say things he has done that has h...

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	Anyone ever date an A who is working a program? (Preview) First and foremost, my A and I split up 4 months ago after 7 years and the decision he made NOT to go to rehab. So the other day I was shopping at Target with my kids, and I ran into this guy I knew from my 20's (20 years ago)....funny and cool, and then on the party scene in our city. He was at Target with his 2...	kicky	9	714	Jan 27, 2007 by kicky
	Crack??? what are the signs?? (Preview) (((Everyone))) Recently my A has thrown the word "crack" into conversation in a joking manner. It's happened serveral times over the past couple of months, and each time I thought how weird. So I resolved to ask him about it the next time it came up. Well he called last night -- which for the past 4 mo...	Lunamoth	13	711	Jan 27, 2007 by Andrea12
	Will I ever feel ready to move on? (Preview) This is the question that has been lingering lately. When I first started out on this journey of aloneness I was DESPERATE to find someone ANYONE to fill that void of lonliness!!! Still now almost six months later I still feel guilty when I think about seeing other people. #1 I guess I'm not totally done...	carolinagirl	6	711	Jan 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	20/20 (Preview) Last night I watched 20/20. It was about the poorest town in America, Camden NJ. The show featured several families of children, their hopes, their dreams, their differences. One little guy tugged at my heartstrings, a 4 yr. old named Ivan. Homeless, with his Mother and little brother, he looked f...	Christy	4	593	Jan 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	Staying Peaceful and Serene (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) As I posted earlier this week my AH has been home all week with the kids because there has been no work with his company. He works on contract stuff now and its really dried up. So he's been doing as much as he can with them, trying to keep them busy, but still feeling depresse...	twinmom2	4	730	Jan 27, 2007 by sissy
	He won't leave me alone (Preview) My ex (A) keeps calling me and asking me what the state of affairs is in our 'relationship' (we have been separated a year now). Just before New Years Eve he said he wanted to stop drinking. He said that last New Years Eve, it never happened. Nothing has changed, only the story is getting a li...	mama_nz	11	666	Jan 27, 2007 by mama_nz
	What choices can YOU make today that will help YOU feel serene? (Preview) As it is morning for me I think I will start by reading the daily reader C2C. Give myself enough time to get ready for work, so I am not in the harried rush that I usually am. As in every employment there are those who are miserable and not pleasant to be around, always negative etc. So today I will not get enme...	gardengal	4	532	Jan 27, 2007 by Fifi
	He's breaking my childrens hearts (Preview) Ah has been gone for three months and has only seen his children once. He even had to leave Christmas because he was sick and he had the shakes. My poor babies do not deserve this. Weekend after weekend he lets them down. They are 6,5,5. I am so sick of seeing the disappointments on their faces. I have ran ou...	Friendofyours	7	719	Jan 27, 2007 by HowToSaveALife
	LEARNING TO LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))) I have been struggling lately in my life. Things have been getting to me, emotions have been on overdrive. A big question I ask myself all the time is, "What is Love", I am unsure of the answer to this. I Love my family unconditionally, that...	ally	3	757	Jan 27, 2007 by Maria123
	Honey I'm Home!! (Preview) ok - well i've been at home - today i'm back at work, so then i'm back at mip. glad to be here - surgery went well & recovery is going fine - still limited to use of 1 hand so - typing is slowwww & time consuming -but only 2 more wks then i should be able to use the other arm. wow - i've b...	Rita G	10	652	Jan 27, 2007 by irish54
	Today was great (Preview) I hope I am not jinxing myself, but I had a great day today!! As you all know, my AW is my qualifier Anyway, My AW, my 3 daughters were all together with me. Today has been fantastic, no drama, no resentment, no mood swings, nothing but love. I did not obsess or overthink anything today. Marriage Counselin...	Cucamonga	3	439	Jan 27, 2007 by Cucamonga
	MaggiG state (Preview) Hello Family, I have been greiving....... and in doing so I find the good , the bad and the ugly. I do not often post, I guess it is because I can at any time go to a meeting attend an onlie meeting or just chose to sit quietly and maintain a little space for my HP to chat . The weather here had been very un...	MaggiG	5	499	Jan 27, 2007 by ally
	HOW DO I STOP IT HURTING ME (Preview) ((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))) I don't know whats happening to me this week but their is a new side to Ally showing in here. The real Lynn is showing through. Ally is fun, etc. Lynn is struggling big time in her life right now. I have a situation in my life that has been going on for a few mon...	ally	11	748	Jan 27, 2007 by ally
	my dilemma (Preview) Hi everyone, My exA is very mad at me. His sister just let it slip to him that she knows hes drinking again. Admittidly, I did tell her......well, she asked me...and I couldn't lie to her. All the signs were there and she is not stupid. (She didn't say I told her) He was sober for a short time last ye...	annmarie	7	473	Jan 27, 2007 by annmarie
	New here (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site and want to give some background...I am 45 years old and married, I have no children (thank God) and a 12 pound, spoiled rotten pomeranian. My husband has a drinking problem. We have been married for a little over five years. He is an independant sales representative, mea...	Elli	9	632	Jan 27, 2007 by lin0606
	AH went to a meeting (Preview) Still can't believe it but my AH has been attending AA meeting for the last week. Never thought he would ever admit he had a problem because he is highly fuctional and his drinking only really affected myself and my daughter. Kind of figured he would give us up rather than give up drinking. Fe...	Elizabeth M	5	628	Jan 27, 2007 by lin0606
	Oldie but goody..... The egg story (Preview) Hi all... there seems to be a lot of newcomers lately, so I thought I would re-post my favourite joke about "trying to make an alcoholic happy", and how it is an exercise in futility. Enjoy! One morning, the nice wife wakes up early to make her alcoholic hubby breakfast, and makes him two egg...	canadianguy	7	728	Jan 27, 2007 by nmike
	Australia Day (Preview) Hi Everyone, Just wanted to wish any other Aussies like myself Happy Australia Day and for anyone else you can celebrate with us. Have a good one. Luv Leo xxx	leo	8	682	Jan 26, 2007 by Diva
	what the H_LL is going on here? (Preview) wow, it is just one thing after another lately. if i was superestitious........, i would think the grim reeper is out to get me. this summer i experienced a fire. i was sitting in my camper van, all packed up and ready to go, when i saw flames, i jumped from my vehicle ,the impact of the explosion pushed me a...	jewely	7	753	Jan 26, 2007 by jewely
	good (Preview) Yesterday my boss was talking to my mom and she told my mom how good I am doing. She is very happy with me. Speical the way I handled the whole situation and still came to work. I am so happy right now. Life is going good. I am doing good all around. Home with my husband, my job. So life is going good. This is beca...	nycbt	4	521	Jan 26, 2007 by Karilynn
	OH WOW!!!!!!!!!! A lucky escape!!!!!!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))))) Oh WOW!!! I just found out I had a really lucky escape. I met with some friends yesterday,who knew I was seeing Mr New Guy on his return from Belgium. They were really interested to know how things had gone,since they were so excited that I had finally plunge...	chris52	7	589	Jan 26, 2007 by Karilynn
	Another day, another 6 pack (Preview) I am a bit frustrated today. My A went over to do some yard work that needed to get done...he comes back and whines about wanting a beer. How good a beer would sound right now. I wish I had a few bucks. on and on...so I finally went out while I was running my errands and picked him up one. Of coarse he is "so grate...	smpoli	6	599	Jan 26, 2007 by smpoli
	Big Thank You! (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) Thanks to everyone who replied to me on the post and PM's about my frail constitution to say no and be ok with it. The answer is no, I don't agree that she has to come home to seek help. I did many of the suggestions, walk throughs, lists and what it boils down to is this. Th...	rtexas	6	644	Jan 26, 2007 by canadianguy
	Hills and Valleys (Preview) Hey (((((Friends,)))))Live has been full of hills and valleys these days...sometimes I get so tired of climbing them and other times I am as happy to be in the valley for awhile...enjoying lifeJob is going very well, kids well.....another story...they just don't give me the respect they gave t...	Andrea12	4	674	Jan 26, 2007 by mel123
	One year in Alanon, and some firsts... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Is there something magical about your one year aniversary in the program? Yesterday marked 1 year to the day. So what all happened yesterday? - Chaired my first F2F meeting. Not by choice, everyone else who showed up on that rainy miserable day was either new to the group...	rtexas	14	695	Jan 26, 2007 by emma
	New here...my story (Preview) First of all I would like to say that I am so happy to have found this place. I have been reading the posts and doing a lot of research on alcoholism. Here is my story.... I met my husband when I was 12 or 13. Started our relationship when I was 15 and got married at 20. He treated me like a godess since day 1. We di...	jackie	7	605	Jan 26, 2007 by hudsond
	Why does HE have such an affect on ME?? (Preview) Why does HIS drinking make ME sad? Why is it when HE decides to drink MY day is ruined? Why am I upset by HIS choice? How can HIS decision have such a negative affect on ME? It is because I love HIM. HIM and my children are MY life. I love him so much that it hurts. I know how good we can be together and how good he ca...	jackie	7	612	Jan 26, 2007 by annmarie
	when our little boy died (Preview) this is not easy for me to share.........., when our little boy died at eleven years of age, some fervent well meaning religous people told me, ''it was because of your husbands sin that god took your child away.'' i will never forgot how those words went straight to my heart. i alm...	jewely	14	788	Jan 26, 2007 by bubbles1990
	Hi, I am NEW here... (Preview) Hello, I am married to a functioning alcoholic and I am about to go crazy, so I decided it's finally time to get some help. I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 and we married 3 years later and have now been married for over 4 years. I always knew he liked to drink beer, but I didn't realize there...	gail16	10	571	Jan 26, 2007 by mama_nz
	This too will pass! (Preview) I've noticed lately on the board there's alot of shared pain. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also noticing that lately there's alot of feeling bogged down in the now, as in "I cannot see how things are going to get any better! My life's a mess, I cannot believe the new low we...	Tiger2006	5	638	Jan 26, 2007 by chris52
	Gowing healthy is lonely work (Preview) You guys teach me so much with your shares. I wanted to take this time to say thank you. I have entered the dating arena. I was on a couple of dating sites. I told you about the first man I met and that his drinking a bottle of wine by himself bothered me. Everyone here understood my hesitance to get invol...	ditto	5	607	Jan 26, 2007 by chris52
	Partner back in hospital (Preview) Hi my partner as been drinking heavily since September last year. He went through detox May 2006 and didn't drink for 6 weeks. He was doing really well. The back end of June he had the odd drink. He was telling me he wasn't drinking but you can tell. End of August 2206 he went into hospital with a burst ulcer...	brownie	6	671	Jan 26, 2007 by brownie
	when whatever you do isn't enough (Preview) The A has very very few bills to pay anymore yet he regularly lets so many of them go that it is really difficult for me not to say anything. Today I found out that he has let the main telephone line be cut off. That's a new one. I have allowed him to use my cell phone this week, now he is acting like it is hi...	maresie2	3	654	Jan 25, 2007 by rtexas
	The red flags were right!!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))))) Thought I would update my wonderful family here on how my new date went. You may remember that I was concerned about the amount this guy was drinking on our first two dates. A year out of the relationship with my ex A ........I was very anxious to ensure I did...	chris52	11	678	Jan 25, 2007 by kissers
	Need to vent!! (Preview) My grandmother invited my 9 year old and I over for dinner this evening. She made a beef stew to be placed over egg noodles. My daughter didn't understand the concept, so I explained it to her. She said she did not want beef stew. So my grandmother started having a fit because she wanted everything to go he...	kissers	4	484	Jan 25, 2007 by kissers
	Just found out husband relapsed (Preview) Everyone's been asking him for at least 6 months and he's been insisting he isn't drinking. Tonight I'd finally had enough. All the signs were there and I knew he had been drinking, but he continued to deny it. He finally admitted it. I guess I should be relieved since it's been go...	Josmom	3	430	Jan 25, 2007 by aunitedway
	thankful (Preview) Yesterday and today my husband thank me for being supportive of him, for not giving him a hard time about what was going on. I stood by him and was very supportive and he was very greatful he gave me a hug last night and thank me. He also told me this morning he was glad I help him by being supportive. I feel the...	nycbt	1	389	Jan 25, 2007 by rtexas
	How I can tell I haven't graduated yet... (Preview) ((((((My special family)))))) Some days I do better than others. Detatching from unacceptable behavior is getting easier, being honest about my part in things is getting easier (I am more honest with myself), but here is the humbling part: I have a hard time telling anyone no. I do it... but then I f...	rtexas	11	937	Jan 25, 2007 by hudsond
	What do you think? (Preview) My A son is home (not here) from working about 2-3 weeks in the oil patch. He called and I was'nt home so I called him back. He is always down or at least sounds that way to me. He doesn't know when he is going to work again. He never sounds"down" when he talks to other people-just me. S...	meagain	6	587	Jan 25, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Treat yourself (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I've been being nice to myself for quite a few months now. Those little things a gourmet chocolate once a week, extra dog treats for Sully, taking the time to comb thru resale places for cheap cashmere I could not afford new. I've done so well at getting used to being nice to m...	Jennifer	1	426	Jan 25, 2007 by AndiLynn
	So tired...is there hope? (Preview) Will Al-Anon be able to help me. I left an abusive marriage after 23 years and jumped right into a new marriage without really taking the time to heal. Three years later it is obvious that my new husband is an alcoholic and I have traded one set of problems for another. On top of all of this, I now live four st...	Wilted	8	618	Jan 25, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Being overinvolved in other's lives (Preview) Last night at my f2f someone was talking about being involved in worrying, trying to control, trying to fix other's situations. She said she believes that when she became overinvolved with someone elses issues...it was because there was something about her own life that she was avoiding look...	Gailey	5	704	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	Who'd a thunk it (Preview) Oh who would of ever thought I would be in this position. Just trying to sit here and figure it all out. But as we all know in life with a A, or in my case (and a lot of yours) a whole family of A's, life don't make sense. We just have to hang out and do what is right for us living amidst it. Recently my AH&#...	doxie	7	758	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	... (Preview) ... -- Edited by fluffy at 06:00, 2007-01-25	fluffy	3	557	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	I'm feeling very sad today! (Preview) Today is a sad day. My dil is going to court today to finalize hers and A son's divorce. I prayed for over a year that it would never actually come to that. It was not meant to be...I guess. They have both gone on and are with different partners now. My son has gotten a job that he really likes and seems to b...	Gailey	7	580	Jan 24, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	What have I done to my children? (Preview) My 12 yo daughter was supposed to stay at a friend's house until tonight but had to come home early yesterday. First, her and her friend spray painted F you on the wall inside the shed at the girls house. They painted over it and that problem was solved. Now last night the two of them were home alon...	carolinagirl	5	624	Jan 24, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	can't keep anything nice (Preview) i offered my ex my car so he could go to his inservice meeting. on the way back he hit a deer. not too much damage, just cosmetic. i was so mad. it was my dad's car and i always feel like i am betraying his memory when i let my ex drive the car. i only let him take the car when it is to my benefit or the kids. so i fe...	serendipity	5	647	Jan 24, 2007 by maresie2
	Enabling....leads to so many problems (Preview) (((Hello MIP))) Today is one of those days for me where I can see the down spiral effects of enabling. My AH has been enabled by someone almost all of his life including me. We have sheltered him and bailed him out of problem after problem and because of that he has no real concept of the world and how it wo...	twinmom2	3	517	Jan 24, 2007 by maresie2
	Every swear word I can think of (Preview) Yep I can swear like a sailor when I want to but I won't bore you with it. Or myself. My A is out of jail with a new charge .... operating a vehicle without owner's consent. But the funniest part he had consent but she is married and can't explain the whole situation to her husband. I'm accepting what that rea...	Jennifer	2	583	Jan 24, 2007 by maresie2
	When the pot has run out and the A becomes depressed (Preview) (((Friends))) What a wicked number it does to a person when they have run out of the booze or the drugs. My AH has been home with the kids this week because he hasn't had work in two weeks. We're financially hanging on by a thread, but one alternative was to take the kids out of daycare for a week or two to...	twinmom2	5	600	Jan 24, 2007 by maresie2
	To Carolinagirl and Andrea12 - Thank You! (Preview) Thank you so much Carolinagirl & Andrea12 for your replies to my LONNNGGG post yesterday. It was very encouraging. Carolinagirl - you mentioned the money thing and how he hasn't worked in 13 months. Well, he hasn't worked STEADY. He has managed to hold down a job for a month or 2 here and there. And c...	QOD	4	607	Jan 24, 2007 by maresie2
	Just need to vent (Preview) I just need to vent and I know....I know, get to more face to face meetings. My A is my 17 year old son and he is making me crazy. He is an alcoholic/addict and is non-compliant with his meds for his bi-polar which just makes it so much more unmanageable. He has been in outpatient treatment and in residen...	Sallen	2	513	Jan 24, 2007 by QOD
	So tired of the game! (Preview) It has been a while since I have posted. Life is so busy. We finally sold our house and I bought a new one in my own name. We moved last Tuesday. Or rather should I say, the kids and I with the help of my family, moved a huge household worth of stuff. My AH was absent through most of it. No wait, that is not fai...	QOD	5	546	Jan 24, 2007 by QOD
	men vs. women--just a thought (Preview) I have been thinking lately about the differences between the men's and the women's responses to their situations and in their posts/responses to others. Sometimes I get rather jealous--this may be in my head or just the way I'm seeing it, but the men seem to be so matter of fact about th...	hudsond	7	668	Jan 24, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Next few days are going to be tricky... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Well as some of you know my AW and I seperated 3 months ago. I told her that I loved her, but if she was actively drinking that I could no longer live that way. The chaos that spins around her is just not healthy for me and the kids. Here is the tricky part. She has run short on money ove...	rtexas	11	703	Jan 24, 2007 by kicky
	Getting through depression w/wout meds (Preview) Hey ya'll, I'm stumbling around the new (to me) world of depression and anxiety and would like to know how some of you handle it. Without meds and with - how do "they" as in Doctors figure out what is right for you? Using the power of hindsight I have figured out my Mom went through ye...	Orchid Lady	6	775	Jan 24, 2007 by DeeDee
	Negativity (Preview) I just realized a few days ago, that I have no clue how truly negative of a person I am. I'm sure I have a belief that humans are abusive, violent and critical and this shapes what happens to me. Even though I know about positive mental programming & I enjoy relationships, I am still more negat...	kitty	10	781	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	Every dog has his day.. (Preview) "You're telling me that an unarmed man with one leg just robbed a bank and then wheeled over here to get a sub?" Virginia sub-shop manager Amanda Carriker, to police officers searching for a disabled man they suspected of robbing a nearby bank. The accused reportedly stopped for a san...	Tiger2006	6	677	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	Not feeling resentful towards my hubby.... (Preview) Hey ((((((((roomies))))))) Well here i go again venting I feel kindof like a broken record but It is what is on my mind!!! My Hubbys Dad Calls him this morning like he does every Sunday morning to tell my hubby that he got his blood test results that he had taken a few weeks ago and had talked with his doc abo...	bubbles1990	7	670	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
	Chaos has subsided for now....learning more about me (Preview) Well, I know that my posts are very confusing sometimes, probably because I am confused so much all the time. I think this one begins with me. I am starting to see that by not naggin about the A's drinking he has more time to think about it himself. sometimes I do slip and say things he has done that has h...	hippietrippiechick	4	583	Jan 24, 2007 by fluffy
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