Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...

Iamhere · Iamhere

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Iamhere · Iamhere

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hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

KathyS · KathyS

I was going to reply to WakingUps post but thought I'd just start this as a new topic so more would read it. When I sponsor someone, below is the stepwork I send for step 2. The first 3 steps are the most important because they build the foundation for the rest of the steps. If we don't ha...

Lyne · Lyne

Inspired by a recent post from a member, the only thing I think guilt and shame do are make us feel worse. No good has ever come from ruminating about guilt and shame. If I do something I feel was wrong or hurt someone, I will make amends ASAP (Steps 9-11.). However, if I choose an action to save myself, an...

Lyne · Lyne

I did some reading about the slogan, Just for Today. And yes, sometimes we are stuck Just for Today doing something we really don't like. The reading in Hope for Today said then we should look to make a change. We don't have to do something we hate day after day. Often it is fear that is holding us back....

Lyne · Lyne

Inspired by a recent post of a member, I took a look at "Keep coming back" in C2C. Growth is not a constant forward direction. We will lose our way, make mistakes, cry, feel frustrated, and have tons of setbacks. So why do I keep coming back? I need a rational perspective, a light to find my way, I never...

Lyne · Lyne

This morning I was reading about self-love. The article said you cannot really love someone else until you learn to love yourself. And you need to practice self-love with belief and consistent behavior. I learned to hate myself due to an abusive childhood, followed by relationships with alcoho...

A4L2 · A4L2

To be fair, I spent a lot of time around alcoholic brains. That might explain why this has arisen; nothing more than familiar contempt. I recall hearing stories about having a devil of a time around child support and ex-alcoholic husbands. Now going through it I need a place to be honest with myself....

Lyne · Lyne

This morning I was reading about how family can perceive our positive changes in recovery. The article I read was called: My Family Thinks I'm a Little Crazy. I have 14 years in alanon and coming up on 2 in ACA/Dysfunctional Families. I was thinking about all the positive changes recovery has given...

youknowme2 · youknowme2

Heyas. It's Mel. Good to see you all. Things are good, I work as a counsellor now and I'm doing OK. I won a bunch of prizes for writing this last year, and wrote 2 novels. Feeling pretty good. My brother Jimmy is in bad shape. He wants to come and live with me. He's 40, I'm 49. My parents are still stuck in deni...

A4L2 · A4L2

I filed for divorce end of May. I don't regret that for a minute. He moved next door to live with alcoholics. Literally behind my house which is so weird and messed up. There was little I could do about it and there he remains. It's unfair but honestly what can I do except pray on it and that's the point I'm at...

WendyP · WendyP

Recently, I had the opportunity to apply the Three A's to a Family situation that I was involved in. Like the reader in Courage To Change,April !st,who use to try to jump from awareness to action,without even pausing for acceptance.Their thinking went like this'Something's wrong!quick,let me fix...

Lyne · Lyne

Although Betty has been gone since right before covid, many things she taught me have stuck in my head. I like this one: I can't, He can, I will let Him.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yes, things do come out better. I am so much happier after Arizona! I have been feeling so much better since my boyfriend & I have been back together since the big misunderstanding & fight we had last March 31st. We may still have trust issues but at least there is forgiveness. I am staying on my s...

SteveC · SteveC

does anyone have any Al-Anon approved documentation or literature on this slogan? If so perhaps they can send me to anlinl or the area. I want to share this as a topic in my group meeting however any information that I google sends me to the point of origin and i am not certain I can explain this slogan clea...

nicuRN71 · nicuRN71

I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...

Franchia A · Franchia A

"Let It Begin with Me..." What are we being shown now that wasn't there before? Like a crowned, round thing that rose like the sun, the enigma of a Higher Power is revealed to us in the midst of our emerging awareness, a Higher Power who wraps newcomers and recovering fellows alike in the warmth of a merci...

Lyne · Lyne

Alanon has allowed many of us to grow up for the very first time. We can learn to face the world, take responsibility for our actions, and become responsible adults. We can learn that there is more to life than problems, and recognize we need to have more fun. Allowing a sense of humor can help us detac...

Lyne · Lyne

There are all kinds of people and they adapt to AA in all kinds of ways. My spouse just hit two years of sobriety. Life is better but the alcoholic personality is still around at times. I think part of the problem is that if you are unable to look at yourself, then you don't see you own behavior. Alanon h...

Lyne · Lyne

I was reading today about how it's never too late to become happy. Healing from trauma allows us to become alive again. I also read that we can use the power of our minds to change our brain chemistry. I believe this is what happens in recovery. During my 14 years in alanon I've gone from a depressed and...

Lyne · Lyne

Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...

a4l · a4l

There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...

Lyne · Lyne

Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....

Wornthehellout · Wornthehellout

Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...

Macworkz · Macworkz

We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.

Lyne · Lyne

Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...

McTater · McTater

I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...

DFG · DFG

I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...

texas yankee · texas yankee

For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...

Lyne · Lyne

I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...

Lyne · Lyne

Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...

a4l · a4l

The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...

a4l · a4l

Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...

WendyP · WendyP

High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...

Lyne · Lyne

Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...

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	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	67	94543	Mar 21, 2025 by WendyP
	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	23	19173	Apr 4, 2022 by I Love Ancestry
	STICKY: Donations Needed for Web Hosting - UPDATED (Preview) Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...	WebHelper	4	8613	Nov 18, 2021 by newnoz
	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Al-Anon Step Work Board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726454/al-anon-family-group-steptradition-board/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	6547	Jul 17, 2021 by Iamhere
	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Moderators (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726428/al-anon-family-group-moderator-team/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	5400	Jul 6, 2021 by Iamhere
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	25	34680	Feb 3, 2021 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	39	13052	Dec 20, 2020 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	9382	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	58371	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	13970	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	30656	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	24791	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	Step 2 Worksheet (Preview) I was going to reply to WakingUps post but thought I'd just start this as a new topic so more would read it. When I sponsor someone, below is the stepwork I send for step 2. The first 3 steps are the most important because they build the foundation for the rest of the steps. If we don't ha...	KathyS	7	11683	12h ago by Lyne
	Thoughts on guilt and shame (Preview) Inspired by a recent post from a member, the only thing I think guilt and shame do are make us feel worse. No good has ever come from ruminating about guilt and shame. If I do something I feel was wrong or hurt someone, I will make amends ASAP (Steps 9-11.). However, if I choose an action to save myself, an...	Lyne	2	101	7 days ago by Lyne
	Just for Today (Preview) I did some reading about the slogan, Just for Today. And yes, sometimes we are stuck Just for Today doing something we really don't like. The reading in Hope for Today said then we should look to make a change. We don't have to do something we hate day after day. Often it is fear that is holding us back....	Lyne	4	88	11 days ago by ClearTheFog
	Keep coming back (Preview) Inspired by a recent post of a member, I took a look at "Keep coming back" in C2C. Growth is not a constant forward direction. We will lose our way, make mistakes, cry, feel frustrated, and have tons of setbacks. So why do I keep coming back? I need a rational perspective, a light to find my way, I never...	Lyne	1	95	February 9th by ClearTheFog
	Self-love (Preview) This morning I was reading about self-love. The article said you cannot really love someone else until you learn to love yourself. And you need to practice self-love with belief and consistent behavior. I learned to hate myself due to an abusive childhood, followed by relationships with alcoho...	Lyne	3	145	February 6th by ClearTheFog
	Into the void of the alcoholics brain. (Preview) To be fair, I spent a lot of time around alcoholic brains. That might explain why this has arisen; nothing more than familiar contempt. I recall hearing stories about having a devil of a time around child support and ex-alcoholic husbands. Now going through it I need a place to be honest with myself....	A4L2	2	167	January 21st by Lyne
	Am I crazy or more screwed up? (Preview) This morning I was reading about how family can perceive our positive changes in recovery. The article I read was called: My Family Thinks I'm a Little Crazy. I have 14 years in alanon and coming up on 2 in ACA/Dysfunctional Families. I was thinking about all the positive changes recovery has given...	Lyne	1	156	January 18th by A4L2
	Hey hey kids (Preview) Heyas. It's Mel. Good to see you all. Things are good, I work as a counsellor now and I'm doing OK. I won a bunch of prizes for writing this last year, and wrote 2 novels. Feeling pretty good. My brother Jimmy is in bad shape. He wants to come and live with me. He's 40, I'm 49. My parents are still stuck in deni...	youknowme2	7	242	January 16th by A4L2
	Circus monkeys (Preview) I filed for divorce end of May. I don't regret that for a minute. He moved next door to live with alcoholics. Literally behind my house which is so weird and messed up. There was little I could do about it and there he remains. It's unfair but honestly what can I do except pray on it and that's the point I'm at...	A4L2	3	170	January 16th by A4L2
	The Three A's (Preview) Recently, I had the opportunity to apply the Three A's to a Family situation that I was involved in. Like the reader in Courage To Change,April !st,who use to try to jump from awareness to action,without even pausing for acceptance.Their thinking went like this'Something's wrong!quick,let me fix...	WendyP	2	1444	December 12th by AngelVictory
	Thought I would share another Bettyism (Preview) Although Betty has been gone since right before covid, many things she taught me have stuck in my head. I like this one: I can't, He can, I will let Him.	Lyne	2	867	November 16th by Lyne
	things come out better in the wash... (Preview) Yes, things do come out better. I am so much happier after Arizona! I have been feeling so much better since my boyfriend & I have been back together since the big misunderstanding & fight we had last March 31st. We may still have trust issues but at least there is forgiveness. I am staying on my s...	Hoot Nanny	1	294	November 7th by Lyne
	Slogan but for the grace of god (Preview) does anyone have any Al-Anon approved documentation or literature on this slogan? If so perhaps they can send me to anlinl or the area. I want to share this as a topic in my group meeting however any information that I google sends me to the point of origin and i am not certain I can explain this slogan clea...	SteveC	21	4386	October 2nd by DFG
	Anger and Frustration (Preview) I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...	nicuRN71	9	3038	September 5th by Lyne
	Let It Begin With Me... (Preview) "Let It Begin with Me..." What are we being shown now that wasn't there before? Like a crowned, round thing that rose like the sun, the enigma of a Higher Power is revealed to us in the midst of our emerging awareness, a Higher Power who wraps newcomers and recovering fellows alike in the warmth of a merci...	Franchia A	3	983	September 4th by Franchia A
	C2C, 3/31, Growing up (Preview) Alanon has allowed many of us to grow up for the very first time. We can learn to face the world, take responsibility for our actions, and become responsible adults. We can learn that there is more to life than problems, and recognize we need to have more fun. Allowing a sense of humor can help us detac...	Lyne	2	1414	September 4th by DFG
	Thoughts about AA folks, inspired by a member's posting recently (Preview) There are all kinds of people and they adapt to AA in all kinds of ways. My spouse just hit two years of sobriety. Life is better but the alcoholic personality is still around at times. I think part of the problem is that if you are unable to look at yourself, then you don't see you own behavior. Alanon h...	Lyne	1	958	September 4th by DFG
	It's never too late.... (Preview) I was reading today about how it's never too late to become happy. Healing from trauma allows us to become alive again. I also read that we can use the power of our minds to change our brain chemistry. I believe this is what happens in recovery. During my 14 years in alanon I've gone from a depressed and...	Lyne	2	1355	Aug 28, 2025 by AnnaBanana
	Reminder from C2C, 8/19 (Preview) Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...	Lyne	0	1119	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	Alanon boards and life in progress. (Preview) There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...	a4l	1	1007	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	When life is overwhelming, ODAT (Preview) Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...	Lyne	2	1050	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	2	664	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	0	552	Aug 13, 2025 by Klynn13
	self care Tuesday (Preview) setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...	mamalioness	4	3102	Aug 13, 2025 by labutter
	C2C 8/11 (Preview) The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....	Lyne	0	1017	Aug 12, 2025 by Lyne
	Tired of being supportive (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...	Wornthehellout	5	841	Aug 3, 2025 by newnoz
	C2C, detaching with love, 6/16 (Preview) This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...	Lyne	4	1314	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	New meeting in Twin Lake, MI 49457 (Preview) We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.	Macworkz	2	940	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	Another Bettyism (Preview) Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...	Lyne	4	1276	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/30, prayer (Preview) This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...	Lyne	2	1149	Jul 28, 2025 by DFG
	Sponsor issue? (Preview) I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...	McTater	3	1201	Jul 28, 2025 by Macworkz
	Spouse Issue (Preview) I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...	DFG	2	1059	Jul 27, 2025 by DFG
	C2C, for Monday 7/7, Maintenance Steps (Preview) This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...	Lyne	2	1225	Jul 24, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 6/23, Being honest with ourselves (Preview) This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...	Lyne	0	1168	Jun 23, 2025 by Lyne
	for Dad's that are estranged from their sons . . . . (Preview) For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...	texas yankee	1	1193	Jun 15, 2025 by Lyne
	Expectations, C2C P. 110 (Preview) I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...	Lyne	0	1237	Jun 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/2, gifts from alanon (Preview) This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...	Lyne	0	1195	Jun 1, 2025 by Lyne
	no one can steal my serenity (Preview) Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...	Hoot Nanny	1	1318	May 20, 2025 by Lyne
	Something Betty taught me (Preview) Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.	Lyne	0	1172	May 18, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday 5/12, we are not alone (Preview) This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...	Lyne	0	1160	May 11, 2025 by Lyne
	Self care for Thursday (Preview) The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...	a4l	1	1342	May 2, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/21, unity in diversity (Preview) The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...	Lyne	0	1198	Apr 20, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/14, Distorted thinking (Preview) The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...	Lyne	0	1203	Apr 14, 2025 by Lyne
	not so good grief (Preview) good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...	Hoot Nanny	1	1325	Apr 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/7, Does God have a sense of humor? (Preview) The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...	Lyne	0	1381	Apr 6, 2025 by Lyne
	Accepting grace. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...	a4l	3	1289	Mar 31, 2025 by Lyne
	Changing the Things I Can, Trying To Accept Those I Can't. (Preview) High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...	WendyP	3	1351	Mar 27, 2025 by PK
	C2C, 3/24, alcoholism a disease?? (Preview) Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...	Lyne	2	1315	Mar 27, 2025 by Lyne
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