Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...

Iamhere · Iamhere

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Iamhere · Iamhere

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hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses how difficult it can be to find compassion for oneself and others, and especially for "certain people." We have to look past anger and rage for kindness. We need to let go of resentment from unrealistic expectations. We should ask ourselves, How Important is It? Compassion m...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on some of the protocols of alanon meetings, specifically as they relate to the concepts and traditions of the program. The writer describes being taken aback by how peaceful and quiet the meetings seemed. As someone who had lived in an alcoholic home...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently I had to be in the presence of my exH for an extended period of time as part of a legal proceeding. This was the first time I've been that close to him, for that long, in 2 years. I know he has been under strict court ordered alcohol monitoring for almost a year and thus is as dry as he has been in almos...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that many Al-Anon members lost touch with their feelings as a result of living in the contradictory and explosive world of alcoholism. Many Al-Anon members lose touch with themselves as well. Recovery does not mean becoming a different person; for...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A head full of injuries and a heart full of despair often accompany the new member to an Alanon meeting, and are sometimes what fuel the content of first shares. Good it is that a new member finds the group that hears these first pain-focused expressions graciously, as it allows the newcomer to proce...

Lyne · Lyne

Some people judge their self-worth by their accomplishments and on what others say. In this manner, a sense of satisfaction is fleeting. But another part of self-worth can be by their ability to love others--saying a kind word, writing a considerate note, or just by appreciating someone else. W...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at grieving and how it relates to recovery. The writer describes losing his father to alcoholism and instead of feeling grief, felt a mixture of relief, pity, a vague type of sadness and a lot of anger. In his view, his father had not died because of a resp...

DM2021 · DM2021

This days reading refers to the previous two Friday readings that speaks to the reader about recovery fromconsistently avoiding painful feelings and situations just to play it safe and that we run the risk of not livingour lives fully. Step four should help us to realize those parts of our personal...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading reminds us that in Al-Anon, with the teachings of the Steps, Traditions, Slogans, courage, faith and our need for each other,each issue we encounter, even the painful ones, will in our journey pass as time goes on and we grow sharing our experience, strength andhope. We ultimately l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on forgiveness. Before Al-Anon, the author thought forgiveness was a way to exercise power. They could decide to bestow forgiveness on others and demonstrate their own kindness, but they did not forget the infraction. Now, the author sees forg...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Sitting under a tree with pigeons brought this man what pigeons and gravity can gift. At first angry, he realized it wasn't about him...it was about the pigeons, he just got in the way. Lesson: active alcoholics do what they do, including drink, sometimes we may place ourselves in the path. Our choic...

Lyne · Lyne

The member takes a new approach to Step 7--instead of being tearful or too intense, the member suggests looking at shortcomings with a sense of humor. Can we not laugh at ourselves, and stop taking ourselves so seriously? Real change can come with a belly laugh. If we can move out of our own way, we ma...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the effects of negative thinking. The writer describes falling into the habit of negative thoughts when feeling tired, bored or stressed. The tendency is to focus on what is wrong, and that type of thinking can take over. Through al anon, the writer l...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that no one can know what is in one's heart, soul, or mind, nor know how to meet another's needs, if we don't tell them. It is also unrealistic to expect any one person to be able to meet all of someone's needs. The author used some negative emotions like silently fuming, pouting, and t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page comments on the role of faith in allowing some Alanon newcomers to more quickly grasp and benefit from the Higher Power concept than those without or that have lost faith. A practiced faith in something greater than ourselves from previous spiritual endeavors can offer a great start, but...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power of love. The writer describes times of worry when it felt like he/she was not doing anything important in life. It felt to the writer as if nothing of much consequence was getting accomplished. As the writer learned more about love: love fo...

Gailsy · Gailsy

So happy I decided to look this group up again. Did not remember any of my account information so had a hard time getting back in. I already recognize some names from many years ago. tiredtonight and hotrod are 2 Ive noticed from way back. This disease is always with us but sadly I have fallen into the chro...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading has no "reminder" or "quote" it is basically a culmination of my previous post on working Step 4that I posted last Friday. It is a list of outcomes that should help the participant doing the 4th Step check onwhether they are working the Step to the best possible outcome for themselves. ...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how seeking knowledge and understanding can prevent us from making progress. Of course, the author shares that some knowledge is helpful - like looking at past experiences to find information about ourselves and our relationships. Inventor...

DM2021 · DM2021

"On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world." ~ Henry David Thoreau Betty you are always in my thoughts and your memory liv...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Turning our life and our will over to a higher power (Step 3) is not just a one and done, observes today's author. It is something we do more often as we develop and grow spiritually. The circumstances that lead us to Alanon include few or no other choices but to admit our powerlessness and look for help. A...

DM2021 · DM2021

The steps can be broken down into 4 parts,1 to 3 are about facing up, 4 to 6 are owning up, 7 to 9 are making up, 10 to 12 are keeping up. Twelve Steps1. We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives had become unmanageable.2. Came to believe that a Power greater t...

SusannaMaria · SusannaMaria

Hi I live on a small island and am looking to find an online sponsor

Lyne · Lyne

Why do they drink when they know it damages themself and the family? How do they justify drinking behavior--after all, they are suffering too? Reminder: Trying to analyze why another person persists in destructive behavior cannot help me out of my own difficulties. I can overcome them only by tu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is on the topic of forgiveness. The writer begins by acknowledging that in his/her early days in the program, he/she did not feel the capacity for forgiveness. The writer also stated that he/she equated forgiveness with accepting unacceptable behavior. O...

tyt84 · tyt84

Hello, This is my first time posting here, but I have read many threads and they have been helpful in my journey in navigating life with an alcoholic spouse. I regularly attend Al-Anon meetings and rehab support groups, but I've yet to be able to discuss the below out of the shame and fear that it has caus...

DM2021 · DM2021

Al-Anon's Twelve Traditions1. Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.2. For our group purpose there is but one authoritya loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servantsthey do not gove...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading starts out with bringing to mind how it feels to go to the grocery store to find that the item(s) weexpect to be there are gone and that the grocer only needs to take inventory to realize that it is time to restock. For us taking the step to do an inventory on ourselves, by doing the 4th Step...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on decision making. In the past, their desire to make decisions that got them exactly what they wanted prevented them from making decisions at all. In Al-Anon, the author learned that we can never know the outcomes of our decisions, we can only use...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

'We punish ourselves far more than life ever punishes us' begins today's reading, perhaps a startling claim for some. We may see this in action, however, when we observe the fearful thoughts that can arise in our mind around the alcoholic's behavior and consider the distress we feel as a result. Alan...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

February 17th marked six years since we lost the founder of this site, Miracles in Progress. The anniversary was noted on another MIP message board and I felt a need to acknowledge it here as well. The Al-Anon message board has been the most active at this site and I am forever grateful to John F for it's c...

Lyne · Lyne

Early on, the member learned that abuse of any kind was unacceptable. Each of us have choices, and we can set limits, give ourselves guidelines, etc. But it took several years to realize that it was they who were still abusing themself. In this case it was verbal abuse--calling themself homely, th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how we can give any and all anxieties and troubles to our Higher Power. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home; her parents were unaware of so much that was happening to the extent that a babysitter abused her and life went on as if nothing had...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading reminds us that in Al-Anon when we feel at our lowest and most afraid is the time to realizethat our faith and prayer in and to our Higher Power can bring about the relief and answers we need. Todays Reminder: "I have an important part to play in my relationship with my Higher Power...

freedomssong · freedomssong

Hi All, I'm relatively new to actively being involved in Al-Anon, though I have known about aspects of it most of my life and I'm about to turn 61. I'm aware that I have a huge pattern of forcing solutions. It started when I was a very young child, as my mother, who has been sober for almost 50 years, starte...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great perspective check today as we are asked to consider how confusion can be a gift. This can be when we feel we need to make a change but are uncertain as to what it should be. Confusion may be a sign of grace that helps me realize that it is not yet time to act. When we know more than we need to before it is ti...

Lyne · Lyne

Every person is different, in alanon and elsewhere. Comparing ourselves to others is a defect of character and it causes self-dislike. Each of us have special qualities and we should not compare ourselves to anyone else's recovery. We are all doing the best we can. We offer an important contrib...

DM2021 · DM2021

The C2C reading today suggests that in order to help us in Al-Anon get past all the negativity that we have been living with due tothe disease of alcoholism and its affect on our personalities, that we replace those negative feelings towards ourselves with actionsthat are positive and/or creative....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how the climate in an alcoholic home can be one of division and separation. The writer describes seeing parents divided during arguments fueled by alcohol, siblings being divided when hearing why cant you be more like your brother or sister and divi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their friendships with people. The author notes that they sometimes reach out and try to be friends with people, even when those attempts are friendships are repeatedly rebuffed. The closing line at Al-Anon meetings ("though you may not like a...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of violence, and of the fact that whilst al-anon does not give advice regarding staying or leaving relationships, but emphasises personal responsibility for our own safety and well-being. It reminds us that no matter how unfair, dangerous or harmful the behaviour of another is...

Chinstrap · Chinstrap

Hello, I'm sure my story is a familiar one. My husband of 4 years has always had a problem with drinking to excess. Previous to meeting me it resulted in serious cases of self harm. When we got together he seemed to turn a corner despite some back slides but I always made sure I was there for him, loved h...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Regardless of circumstances, we have the capability to take at least a small step towards a positive result or feeling notes this writer. This can be an action in the program, for someone else, addressing a health or emotional need of our own, something we fear, something that will recharge or stir o...

Lyne · Lyne

The newcomer to alanon is given a suggestion to wait 6 months before making any major decisions. Thinking can change dramatically after 6 months of program. At that time, the writer decided to continue to wait, to learn and to recover, before deciding about their relationship. But the writer ha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the slogan: think. As the writer points out, for many of us thinking (too much) is the problem. The intention of this one word slogan is to think before acting, think without acting impulsively, act with thoughtfulness, not reaction. The writer ha...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...

SunnyFrog · SunnyFrog

I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...

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	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	23	12805	Apr 4, 2022 by I Love Ancestry
	STICKY: Donations Needed for Web Hosting - UPDATED (Preview) Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...	WebHelper	4	2476	Nov 18, 2021 by newnoz
	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Al-Anon Step Work Board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726454/al-anon-family-group-steptradition-board/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	1779	Jul 17, 2021 by Iamhere
	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Moderators (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726428/al-anon-family-group-moderator-team/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	1357	Jul 6, 2021 by Iamhere
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	25	22290	Feb 3, 2021 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	39	6654	Dec 20, 2020 by DavidG
	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	65	76854	Nov 13, 2019 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	4643	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	52200	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	8375	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	23025	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	20047	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	Hope for Today, Monday, 3/27, compassion requires patience (Preview) The writer discusses how difficult it can be to find compassion for oneself and others, and especially for "certain people." We have to look past anger and rage for kindness. We need to let go of resentment from unrealistic expectations. We should ask ourselves, How Important is It? Compassion m...	Lyne	4	18	11h ago by Gailsy
	C2C for March 24, 2023 Disease of Alcoholism (Preview) The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...	DM2021	5	38	yesterday by StargazerLily
	Hope for Today Mar 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on some of the protocols of alanon meetings, specifically as they relate to the concepts and traditions of the program. The writer describes being taken aback by how peaceful and quiet the meetings seemed. As someone who had lived in an alcoholic home...	yanksfan51	4	21	yesterday by StargazerLily
	Even after almost a year of court ordered monitoring (thus no booze), brain damage exists. (Preview) Recently I had to be in the presence of my exH for an extended period of time as part of a legal proceeding. This was the first time I've been that close to him, for that long, in 2 years. I know he has been under strict court ordered alcohol monitoring for almost a year and thus is as dry as he has been in almos...	Fedora	5	39	2 days ago by Daffodils
	Courage to Change March 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that many Al-Anon members lost touch with their feelings as a result of living in the contradictory and explosive world of alcoholism. Many Al-Anon members lose touch with themselves as well. Recovery does not mean becoming a different person; for...	Skorpi	4	25	4 days ago by Fedora
	3/21/23 ODAT The Evolution of Healthy Sharing (Preview) A head full of injuries and a heart full of despair often accompany the new member to an Alanon meeting, and are sometimes what fuel the content of first shares. Good it is that a new member finds the group that hears these first pain-focused expressions graciously, as it allows the newcomer to proce...	Enigmatic	3	32	6 days ago by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 3/20, how to evaluate worthiness (Preview) Some people judge their self-worth by their accomplishments and on what others say. In this manner, a sense of satisfaction is fleeting. But another part of self-worth can be by their ability to love others--saying a kind word, writing a considerate note, or just by appreciating someone else. W...	Lyne	1	38	8 days ago by DM2021
	Hope for Today Mar 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at grieving and how it relates to recovery. The writer describes losing his father to alcoholism and instead of feeling grief, felt a mixture of relief, pity, a vague type of sadness and a lot of anger. In his view, his father had not died because of a resp...	yanksfan51	3	38	8 days ago by Daffodils
	C2C for March 10, 2023 is about Acceptance (Preview) This days reading refers to the previous two Friday readings that speaks to the reader about recovery fromconsistently avoiding painful feelings and situations just to play it safe and that we run the risk of not livingour lives fully. Step four should help us to realize those parts of our personal...	DM2021	8	101	9 days ago by DM2021
	C2C for March 17, 2023 That This Too Shall Pass (Preview) Todays reading reminds us that in Al-Anon, with the teachings of the Steps, Traditions, Slogans, courage, faith and our need for each other,each issue we encounter, even the painful ones, will in our journey pass as time goes on and we grow sharing our experience, strength andhope. We ultimately l...	DM2021	3	49	9 days ago by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change 3/15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on forgiveness. Before Al-Anon, the author thought forgiveness was a way to exercise power. They could decide to bestow forgiveness on others and demonstrate their own kindness, but they did not forget the infraction. Now, the author sees forg...	Skorpi	5	44	11 days ago by tiredtonite
	3/14/23 Pigeons and Seat Selection (Preview) Sitting under a tree with pigeons brought this man what pigeons and gravity can gift. At first angry, he realized it wasn't about him...it was about the pigeons, he just got in the way. Lesson: active alcoholics do what they do, including drink, sometimes we may place ourselves in the path. Our choic...	Enigmatic	3	43	13 days ago by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 3/13, shortcomings (Preview) The member takes a new approach to Step 7--instead of being tearful or too intense, the member suggests looking at shortcomings with a sense of humor. Can we not laugh at ourselves, and stop taking ourselves so seriously? Real change can come with a belly laugh. If we can move out of our own way, we ma...	Lyne	2	46	March 13th by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today March 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the effects of negative thinking. The writer describes falling into the habit of negative thoughts when feeling tired, bored or stressed. The tendency is to focus on what is wrong, and that type of thinking can take over. Through al anon, the writer l...	yanksfan51	2	47	March 12th by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 3/6, mind reading (Preview) This reading says that no one can know what is in one's heart, soul, or mind, nor know how to meet another's needs, if we don't tell them. It is also unrealistic to expect any one person to be able to meet all of someone's needs. The author used some negative emotions like silently fuming, pouting, and t...	Lyne	4	81	March 8th by Daffodils
	3/7/23 ODAT Lesson to be Learned from Faith (Preview) This page comments on the role of faith in allowing some Alanon newcomers to more quickly grasp and benefit from the Higher Power concept than those without or that have lost faith. A practiced faith in something greater than ourselves from previous spiritual endeavors can offer a great start, but...	Enigmatic	3	65	March 7th by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Mar 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power of love. The writer describes times of worry when it felt like he/she was not doing anything important in life. It felt to the writer as if nothing of much consequence was getting accomplished. As the writer learned more about love: love fo...	yanksfan51	4	68	March 5th by PosiesandPuppies
	Missing in action for years (Preview) So happy I decided to look this group up again. Did not remember any of my account information so had a hard time getting back in. I already recognize some names from many years ago. tiredtonight and hotrod are 2 Ive noticed from way back. This disease is always with us but sadly I have fallen into the chro...	Gailsy	4	74	March 5th by Lyne
	C2C for March 3, 2023 is about Maturity (Preview) Todays reading has no "reminder" or "quote" it is basically a culmination of my previous post on working Step 4that I posted last Friday. It is a list of outcomes that should help the participant doing the 4th Step check onwhether they are working the Step to the best possible outcome for themselves. ...	DM2021	3	98	March 5th by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change March 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how seeking knowledge and understanding can prevent us from making progress. Of course, the author shares that some knowledge is helpful - like looking at past experiences to find information about ourselves and our relationships. Inventor...	Skorpi	3	69	March 4th by tiredtonite
	In Memory of Betty 7/30/1937 to 2/29/2020 (Preview) "On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world." ~ Henry David Thoreau Betty you are always in my thoughts and your memory liv...	DM2021	4	84	March 3rd by Gailsy
	2/28/23 C2C Step 3 – Not One and Done (Preview) Turning our life and our will over to a higher power (Step 3) is not just a one and done, observes today's author. It is something we do more often as we develop and grow spiritually. The circumstances that lead us to Alanon include few or no other choices but to admit our powerlessness and look for help. A...	Enigmatic	2	65	March 2nd by Lyne
	The 12 Steps of Al-Anon (Preview) The steps can be broken down into 4 parts,1 to 3 are about facing up, 4 to 6 are owning up, 7 to 9 are making up, 10 to 12 are keeping up. Twelve Steps1. We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives had become unmanageable.2. Came to believe that a Power greater t...	DM2021	3	159	March 1st by Enigmatic
	looking for an online sponsor (Preview) Hi I live on a small island and am looking to find an online sponsor	SusannaMaria	5	2122	February 27th by Ralu
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/27, why do they drink? (Preview) Why do they drink when they know it damages themself and the family? How do they justify drinking behavior--after all, they are suffering too? Reminder: Trying to analyze why another person persists in destructive behavior cannot help me out of my own difficulties. I can overcome them only by tu...	Lyne	3	72	February 27th by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Feb 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is on the topic of forgiveness. The writer begins by acknowledging that in his/her early days in the program, he/she did not feel the capacity for forgiveness. The writer also stated that he/she equated forgiveness with accepting unacceptable behavior. O...	yanksfan51	5	58	February 27th by DM2021
	First Post -- Would Very Much Appreciate Feedback (Thank You) domestic violence assault child endangerment (Preview) Hello, This is my first time posting here, but I have read many threads and they have been helpful in my journey in navigating life with an alcoholic spouse. I regularly attend Al-Anon meetings and rehab support groups, but I've yet to be able to discuss the below out of the shame and fear that it has caus...	tyt84	5	121	February 26th by PosiesandPuppies
	Al-Anon 12 Tradions (Preview) Al-Anon's Twelve Traditions1. Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.2. For our group purpose there is but one authoritya loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servantsthey do not gove...	DM2021	2	50	February 26th by SunnyFrog
	C2C for February 24, 2023 Grocery Shopping (Preview) Today's reading starts out with bringing to mind how it feels to go to the grocery store to find that the item(s) weexpect to be there are gone and that the grocer only needs to take inventory to realize that it is time to restock. For us taking the step to do an inventory on ourselves, by doing the 4th Step...	DM2021	3	64	February 26th by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change Feb. 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on decision making. In the past, their desire to make decisions that got them exactly what they wanted prevented them from making decisions at all. In Al-Anon, the author learned that we can never know the outcomes of our decisions, we can only use...	Skorpi	4	47	February 23rd by SunnyFrog
	2/21/23 ODAT Not Generating Trouble for Myself (Preview) 'We punish ourselves far more than life ever punishes us' begins today's reading, perhaps a startling claim for some. We may see this in action, however, when we observe the fearful thoughts that can arise in our mind around the alcoholic's behavior and consider the distress we feel as a result. Alan...	Enigmatic	3	56	February 21st by DM2021
	Remembering John F (Preview) February 17th marked six years since we lost the founder of this site, Miracles in Progress. The anniversary was noted on another MIP message board and I felt a need to acknowledge it here as well. The Al-Anon message board has been the most active at this site and I am forever grateful to John F for it's c...	tiredtonite	2	90	February 21st by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 2/20, standing in the way of recovery (Preview) Early on, the member learned that abuse of any kind was unacceptable. Each of us have choices, and we can set limits, give ourselves guidelines, etc. But it took several years to realize that it was they who were still abusing themself. In this case it was verbal abuse--calling themself homely, th...	Lyne	2	67	February 20th by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Feb 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how we can give any and all anxieties and troubles to our Higher Power. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home; her parents were unaware of so much that was happening to the extent that a babysitter abused her and life went on as if nothing had...	yanksfan51	3	73	February 19th by DM2021
	C2C for February 17, 2023 Is About Faith (Preview) This day's reading reminds us that in Al-Anon when we feel at our lowest and most afraid is the time to realizethat our faith and prayer in and to our Higher Power can bring about the relief and answers we need. Todays Reminder: "I have an important part to play in my relationship with my Higher Power...	DM2021	2	76	February 17th by Daffodils
	Forcing Solutions or Improving My Situation? (Preview) Hi All, I'm relatively new to actively being involved in Al-Anon, though I have known about aspects of it most of my life and I'm about to turn 61. I'm aware that I have a huge pattern of forcing solutions. It started when I was a very young child, as my mother, who has been sober for almost 50 years, starte...	freedomssong	2	96	February 16th by Lyne
	2/14/23 The Gift of…Confusion? (Preview) Great perspective check today as we are asked to consider how confusion can be a gift. This can be when we feel we need to make a change but are uncertain as to what it should be. Confusion may be a sign of grace that helps me realize that it is not yet time to act. When we know more than we need to before it is ti...	Enigmatic	3	87	February 15th by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 2/13, compare=despair (Preview) Every person is different, in alanon and elsewhere. Comparing ourselves to others is a defect of character and it causes self-dislike. Each of us have special qualities and we should not compare ourselves to anyone else's recovery. We are all doing the best we can. We offer an important contrib...	Lyne	2	91	February 13th by tiredtonite
	C2C – February 10, 2023 – Replacing negatives with positives (Preview) The C2C reading today suggests that in order to help us in Al-Anon get past all the negativity that we have been living with due tothe disease of alcoholism and its affect on our personalities, that we replace those negative feelings towards ourselves with actionsthat are positive and/or creative....	DM2021	3	118	February 12th by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Feb 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how the climate in an alcoholic home can be one of division and separation. The writer describes seeing parents divided during arguments fueled by alcohol, siblings being divided when hearing why cant you be more like your brother or sister and divi...	yanksfan51	2	77	February 12th by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Chnge Feb. 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their friendships with people. The author notes that they sometimes reach out and try to be friends with people, even when those attempts are friendships are repeatedly rebuffed. The closing line at Al-Anon meetings ("though you may not like a...	Skorpi	3	77	February 9th by Daffodils
	C2C 29 September- Violence and personal responsibility. (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of violence, and of the fact that whilst al-anon does not give advice regarding staying or leaving relationships, but emphasises personal responsibility for our own safety and well-being. It reminds us that no matter how unfair, dangerous or harmful the behaviour of another is...	Youknowme	9	422	February 8th by SunnyFrog
	Need guidance/advice (Preview) Hello, I'm sure my story is a familiar one. My husband of 4 years has always had a problem with drinking to excess. Previous to meeting me it resulted in serious cases of self harm. When we got together he seemed to turn a corner despite some back slides but I always made sure I was there for him, loved h...	Chinstrap	7	173	February 7th by Fedora
	2/7/23 C2C One Small Step, and a Guarantee (Preview) Regardless of circumstances, we have the capability to take at least a small step towards a positive result or feeling notes this writer. This can be an action in the program, for someone else, addressing a health or emotional need of our own, something we fear, something that will recharge or stir o...	Enigmatic	4	87	February 7th by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 2/6, Please wait (Preview) The newcomer to alanon is given a suggestion to wait 6 months before making any major decisions. Thinking can change dramatically after 6 months of program. At that time, the writer decided to continue to wait, to learn and to recover, before deciding about their relationship. But the writer ha...	Lyne	2	105	February 7th by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Feb 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the slogan: think. As the writer points out, for many of us thinking (too much) is the problem. The intention of this one word slogan is to think before acting, think without acting impulsively, act with thoughtfulness, not reaction. The writer ha...	yanksfan51	2	94	February 5th by PosiesandPuppies
	Hey All...Sharing my Life Updates (Preview) Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...	Iamhere	14	203	February 5th by tiredtonite
	Forgiveness (Preview) I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...	SunnyFrog	22	276	February 3rd by SunnyFrog
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