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NEWBIE: I AM SO CONFUSED...
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I AM SO CODEPENDANT THAT I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING BUT I CANT ALWAYS CHANGE MY REACTIONS. MY HUSBAND IS OR WAS LIKE HE SAYS ADDICTED TO SEX. HE WAS FIANLLY AFTER YEARS OF THIS GOING ON AND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH THERAPY HE FINALLY HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED BI-POLAR. I AM EXHAUSTED AND LOST. I WENT T...
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question about site and what actually "goes out there"
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Just a question...
i understand now that the information posted on this board is put out there into cyberspace. I guess I never really thought much about it, but yeah, it does make sense.
My question is...and forgive my ignorance, but...
Is all that is said in chat available as easily???...
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he is home
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well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but rem...
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The disease takes two more
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Yesterday, a good family friends laid to rest two sons - Q. 23 yrs old & C. 30 yrs old -
Q. overdosed on Friday night and then while the family was preparing to attend the services, they were notified that C. had done the same thing. Now only God knows if either was intention or accident...
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Rita G
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Coming out of the codependent cloud
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I think for the first time in my 47 years I'm realizing it's not my job to save the world, what a relief!! All kidding aside, I am seeing that in leaving my AH I am seeing hope in my own future and excited about living a life of truth, serenity and faith. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me and it isn't going to b...
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6 year old self love
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Hi all
Just wanted to share what made my day today.
My 6 year old daughter was showing me her schoolwork folder and in it was something she had written at school....she is learning to write by herself and sounds out the words without asking for help...those of you with kids probably remember th...
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an update!!
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I have not been on the past few days!! I came to realize somethings and I can smile now!! I guess it could be considered an awakening!?!? I was given a book at my first f2f by a member who I think felt really bad for me cause I cried....OK balled the whole time!! I was ment to go there and he was ment to give me the...
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Fear
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I feel I have to respond to both John and Isabela about the topic that is being pursued at the moment. The word FEAR is paramount here it is what brought Isabela to write her post in the first place. Was she naive NO, probably the same as the rest of us just feeling very vulnerable and wo...
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Did you make a New Year's Resolution?
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I certainly did. "They" say that the two top resolutions are lose weight and quit smoking. Well, since I am very slim and do not smoke, I thought of something else. So far I am sticking to my resolution like glue.
Here it is...DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND BY ANYONE ANYMORE!!!
My A doesn't push me aroun...
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Yeesh!!!! my poor tree
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This last ice storm killed my tree!! whaaaaa
Hosted on Fotki
[URL=http...
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Spirituality and Spiritual Journey~ Help Needed!
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My thinking has gone totally astray. I want to know too much, need to know it all. By this thinking I have stopped thinking at all. I've struggled with a HP. I am now at a point where I really don't know what spirituality is or what a spriitual journey is. I can understand that a spiritual journey means that...
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"....And acceptence is the answer to all of my problems today..."
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"...And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppos...
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A miracle in progress
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Just had a phone conversation with a sponsee who's alcoholic is near terminal. He is feeling lonely, helpless and lots (but not all) the things I used to feel when I was new to Al-Anon. He has chosen to hang on and be supportive to his alcoholic while they ride the roller coaster together an...
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Trading one addiction for another
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isabela40 wrote:
The research I have done has shown that many many people turn to other addictions to solve the initial addiction. That is why many many people in AA are some serious smokers, including Bill W. who was a severe chain smoker. That is also why "13th steppin" is notori...
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he is in jail
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just got a call from AH,he called from jail they got him on dui or dwi not sure which,he goes brian{son in law}called the cops and they got me,he is blaming son in law..i told him that it isnt his fault or mine or my daughters,it is his fault..he said well i dont need to hear this right now that i have other thi...
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addicted to my husband
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I have come to the conclusion that I have an addiction also. I am addicted to Loren. And, believe me, that addiction is just as dangerous and deadly as if it were meth. People die of broken hearts, sometimes looking like a natural death, and sometimes it is not a natural death. But make no mistake, it is...
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can't do it
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so tonight i am at the bottom of the barrel....no place lower to go. i feel like i am unlovable and there is no possibility for anyone to see the real me and be able to stand it.
i lost a 15 yr relationship/10 yr marriage....i know it always takes two but i think it was my lack of strength,codependency, l...
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i have had a major slip or......... something
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i have had some kind of a major slip or a break of some sort or something.
i am feeling afraid and vulnerable.
all i can think of is step 2......,
"came to believe in a power GREATER than ourselves [myself] that could restore us [me] to sanity"
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Sick and tired
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I am so out of touch of what is right/wrong anymore. So sick of everyone's advice. Sick of being sick and tired. I am sick of being a doormat. I am sick of coping with day to day life. I am sick of needy people who can't cope with everyday life and extremely sick of know it all's. Sick of the passive-aggressiv...
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something else
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my daughter and son in law just got back from the store,they said that the store down the road has about 4 cop cars sitting there{prolly waiting for drunk drivers}my AH has to go right by that store to come home,they just left to go back to that store to tell the cops about my AH OUT somewhere drinking and wi...
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New here, but with old theme
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I'm probably covering much of the same ground other posts have covered, but from what I've read on the message board, it doesn't seem like anyone minds that too much, so I'm going to tell my story, with the hope that the writing of it helps bring me out of the numb, dead feeling I have much of the time, and th...
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he went the bar at 3 this afternoon
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it is now midnite and he isnt home yet,he started drinking very early this morning{10am}my daughter and i left to go set up for a yard sale that we were having that was down the road at a friends car sale busniness,around 1;30 he shows up and nocticed that his bike helmet was gone wanted to know wher...
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making changes
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i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move...
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HP works in mysterious ways
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You may recall my husband was arrested for DUI on 12/30. He hit another car, and a telephone pole, then made it back to our house, where he was arrested. This is his 3rd in the last 4 years, 4th lifetime. I was pretty sure he was going to jail. I am now solely responsible for suppo...
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again he asked if i could buy him a new saw
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he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...
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Seeking solutions for ourselves
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Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...
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Question of can you fall out of love with yourself????
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Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post.......
I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...
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Happiness isn't a goal... its a choice!
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(((((Everyone)))))
Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...
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Business Meeting Agenda For Sunday JAnuary 14
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Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est
Old Business
Newcomers Meeting
SChedule
New Business
Mipathon
Mip Donations
If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks
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Group Business Meeting
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Hi all - Just a reminder that our Business Meeting is Sunday, Jan 14 @ 9pm ET. Hopefully you in the west can join us.
Love and hugs - Dot
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WOOOOHOOOO!!!!!
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We have had an Amber alert in the area since Monday for a missing 13 yr old boy. Tonight he was found. But that's not the whole miracle!!!
They also found another child that had been missing for 4.5 yrs (2002) at the same apartment!!!
This is so awesome!!!! He is now 15 yrs old and his paren...
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Goals
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I am trying to set new golas for this year. I get nervous about not being able to meet them. I actually met one last year. I really need to get my spending under control.
Any suggestions
Marsha
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Letting go vs setting boundaries
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I went to a one on one counseling session last Friday. During which, I was asked if I believed my AH when he said he quit drinking. I had a very difficult time answering the question, and I realize it was not because I didn't know the answer to a simple question, but rather what the answer might mean f...
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My A is gone. Just left with his neice and all his stuff
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Charlie, my boyriend I told you about, who has an alcohol problem and I feel his whole family is "fake" to me, is taking a shower, and he said his neice is coming to pick him up in a little while. He said "xxxx you" and is actually leaving. He said he will be in a hotel for the night. He ca...
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Out for a few weeks
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MIP family,
I will be out of touch with all of you for a few weeks - having surgery tomorrow on my elbow. (More hurricane recovery - lol) I'll be unable to type for about 2-4 weeks. Hopefully if I heal fast, I can be back sooner than the full 4 weeks.
Have to share this funny moment with you -...
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When will I be ready to change?
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Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...
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just tired
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I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...
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Living in the purple city
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Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts.
I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...
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New behaviors, old reactions
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It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so.
As I embra...
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He said...she said
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My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good.
I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...
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Pity
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After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...
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Disease progressing
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Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...
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A special thank you to everyone at (((((((((MIP))))))))
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I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate.
I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...
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Newbe who HAS to somehow let go..
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I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...
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Being a Martyr
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I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...
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Complaint......
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I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though?
I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...
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phone calls and needing to get online with you alll
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What is really hard for me is when he is on the phone with his "family", I have no access to my puter--line tied up due to phone call. Tried Verizon DSL and I could never get it to work. Ihaave suggessted that he get prepaid callphone such as NET 10,or Trac Phone. Now that is up to him. He got this...
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Do I stop talking? and a few more questions
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Hi all. Its been a while since I have posted. I again went back to the A in my life. For I would say the 100th time I was wrong to do so. Why I do this I still don't know. Anyway, my A is now away. It sorta happened so fast this time. Usually in the past 6 years ...
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New to the board
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Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this message board thing. I have been in search of some release from my husband that is an addict. He hasn't drank or used for just about 2 years, but acts in rage at times; like he used to when he drank. I know it isn't my fault but when he is yelling I can...
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DIVA!!?
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Where is our Bad, bad Bill update dahling. love,debilyn
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dont understand something{upset}
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hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...
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Hello Friends
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(((((((((Friends)))))))),
Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol....
I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...
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RE:Ally
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Hi All
I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully.
So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...
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Update On Scout
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Hello All,
Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout.
He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home.
I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what *is.
T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08
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John
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I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...
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how do they earn trust?
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I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...
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sticking it out
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My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week.
I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...
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Loss of Physical affection and intimacy
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Hi all,
My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor.
She is back to work full time.
I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...
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I guess It may be really over. I get so defensive when he associates with his family---RAGE
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I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...
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hippietrippiechick
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Never knew or forgot how mean someone can be
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I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...
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