Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

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Iamhere · Iamhere

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WebHelper · WebHelper

Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...

JerryF · JerryF

Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reader talks about the progress the author has made and that when they are troubled about what lies ahead, they can look back at where they have been. Time offers evidence that the Al-Anon program works - they see growth in their lives and the longer they live by these principles, the more evide...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...

Iamhere · Iamhere

MIP family - thank you for your support and prayers as I am trying to be of maximum service to my parents. It's been a significant challenge and I am feeling very overwhelmed. I'll spend time when I have time sharing more but, for today, my mother has been placed in assisted living and my father is reluc...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 9/20, the member suggests if we have an attitude of contempt for our alcoholic, we need to seriously examine ourselves. The member reminds us that As have an illness which includes being confused and guilt-ridden human beings with a badly battered ego. They do not need to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentments and bitterness, and learning to forgive. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and experiencing many forms of mistreatment. The result included feeling like an extremely angry and resentful victim...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading speaks about a newcomer to Al-anon who noted that many Al-anon readings referenced a higher power. The newcomer wasn't certain they wanted to have a relationship with a higher power or what they would even do with one if they had it. They were relieved to learn that members of the fello...

Freetime · Freetime

Chapter Four of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Negotiating Boundaries," makes the point that knowing what is good for us and what is not good for us is a foundation for setting healthy limits (boundaries) for ourselves, in relationships and other parts of life. Boundaries are for our ow...

JerryF · JerryF

My former sponsor, DON,T!! taught me a lot which I came to accept as very very valid because of how it changed my life. One of the most important, if not the most important is that Humility is "Being teachable" which has always worked when I work it. Patience is always good for my heart and spirit and the...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are asked to consider the validity of the points we get stuck on. If others are not responding the way we expect, perhaps we need to adjust our own thinking, or perhaps our sense of timing. We are asked to consider others' right to a different point of view. TODAY'S REMINDER: An open mind is a hand...

Youknowme · Youknowme

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Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their challenges sleeping. They tried everything from hot milk to seeing the doctor, and yet still could not sleep. The author was too exhausted to pay much attention to anything outside of their own needs. One day at an Al-Anon meeting, anoth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading focuses on the topic of expectations. It uses an example of an Alanon member who has badly injured their foot. They are in severe pain and unable to get to their in person Alanon meetings. The member admits that though they see themselves as an independent person with good creative pro...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Both AA and Alanon emphasize that their programs are of a spiritual, not religious nature. This focus allows each member to use Alanon steps and principles in line with their personal religious (or non) perspective, without the unpleasant awkwardness of another member insisting on branding the p...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 9/13, the member talks about time as a special kind of checking account: there are 24 hours to spend, and they are precious. You can make a positive change and enrich your life by using the 12 Steps, HP, alanon meetings, people, calls, and literature. You can spend your time to grow, enjo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about acknowledging and feeling our feelings rather than stamping them down. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic home where the lesson was dont feel. The writer grew up distrusting feelings and in effect distrusting him/her-self. The wr...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading describes recovery as a triangle with higher power at the top and the Alanon program, tools and life at the other areas of the triangle. The reading goes on to say, "As long as I keep everything in that order, with my higher power as my sole focus, everything in my life works serenely, eve...

Freetime · Freetime

Chapter 3 of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Communicating Clearly," explains that in alcoholic relationships, some of us learned to hide and bottle up our feelings, and some of us became "compulsive truth-tellers," unburdening ourselves on the nearest person, whether they wanted t...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

In today's reader the author talks about having a nagging suspicion that they weren't doing their Step 4 inventory right. With their HPs help, they finally realised that it wasn't that they had done their Fourth Step wrong, but rather that they had the same sense of inadequacy about their whole life...

DM2021 · DM2021

I think I blew it last night because I allowed myself to get to a burning point concerning the constant control that AH exerts on just about everything I do. The constant, holy than thou opinions and put downs sometimes just gets to me and I think this time it is because I have been trying to recover from so...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author asks about anything that might be standing in the way of trusting our Higher Power. In the author's case, it was a desire for a guarantee. The author resisted turning their will and life to their HP because they felt that if they held out, they would themselves come up wit...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading calls us to action, asks us to open our eyes and our minds to what we have and who we are. What are we going to do with that? How are we going to engage our potential? "What am I going to do with what Ive got?" If we concentrate our efforts on gratitude and on our own unlimited resources, they wi...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor reminds us that the purpose of Alanon is not validation of self-pity, caustic rants, or vindictive counterattacks, but to gently nudge us toward a more spiritual view and course of action. We undoubtedly will read or hear the suggestion that it is our own view or actions that are...

a4l · a4l

I was sailing along,progressing nicely and then why hello, here I am again, the isms of chaos and manipulation and self sacrifice. Now to be sure, today these are matters which represent bumps in the road as opposed to road closures but nonetheless very unpleasant. My alcoholic aging parent is...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/6, speaks about feeling the right and obligation to control others. Somehow we thought we should set the standards for the A, for the family, etc. However, if we are trying to follow the alanon program, then we need to overcome the ideas of directing, scheming, and manipul...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan Just for Today. The writer describes finding it impossible to stay in the present. Instead thoughts were always focused on the next day, week or month. It got to the point that thoughts of the future overtook the present day. The writer...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reading talks about that as we let go of obsession, worry and focusing on everyone but ourselves, many are bewildered by the increasing calmness of their minds. We know how to live in a state of crisis, but is can take a bit of adjustment to become comfortable with stillness and the time we now ha...

Freetime · Freetime

Continuing with the second chapter of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Building and Rebuilding Trust," the member on page 40 shares about learning to "act as if." In her family of origin, showing love was seen as a weakness and could be used against her. She was unable to show love to her hus...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to how important it can be for an Al-Anon group to use a group conscience to address challenges they may be facing. The author shares that their home group had gotten into a rut. They hadn't had new members in a very long time, and seemed to cycle through t...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading promises rewards. With a changed attitude (concern, love, and kindness for others), I can expect the circumstances of my life to change for the better. If I expect good, it will surely come in some form for me. And, if I offer others a "tolerant uncritical awareness" and focus my viewp...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Hi all! I still get on to read and rarely post anymore, but had to share an update! I had the most interesting not shocking things hit my awareness. So I went to al-anon meetings for years and had my old wise sponsor whom helped me do my first step work and pushed me to grow and do amazing things! Fast forward...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor admits the tendency to try changing others to fit self desires, and to blame the failure to meet those desires on the shortfalls of others. A wish for others to always be there for them, but not ask for much in return...more like a pet than a human relationship. Not surprisingly, re...

LinSC · LinSC

I think it was 2017 since I was last here. At that time my son was my qualifier. He since has married, had a child and quit alcohol and drugs cold turkey totally. Without a program, I am not sure how he is doing emotionally and spiritually and not sure if he has been affected by "arrested development". He no...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/30, talks about how ones attitude dictates the way we experience the world. This came about through the members sponsor asking them to use a grievance list, and then gratitude lists when feeling low, unhappy about family, and/or when feeling fine. The member was surpris...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the important role detachment has in recovery. The writer describes learning to detach from her mother. In alanon, the writer learned that she had become so focused on her mother and the disease of alcoholism that she didnt know where her mother ended...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading touches on what it was like for an Alanon member to grow up in a home with two parents affected by alcoholism. Their father being an alcoholic and their mother having been raised in a home with alcoholism; the member feels neither was able to give them attention they needed as a child. Th...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

In today's reading, the author talks about the trust they felt in working with their first sponsor. They describe how they felt before they asked them - a mess, questioning whether the sponsor would accept them, thinking they would be turned down because they were not worth saving. The sponsor gent...

Freetime · Freetime

The second chapter of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships is titled "Building and Rebuilding Trust." It mentions that living with alcoholism has made us unable to be open and honest, because we came to doubt ourselves and mistrust others. We did not to let anyone know the "real me," sometimes as a...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's story tells of a man's struggle with his spouse's occasional program lapses. Al-Anon reminds him to instead rejoice in her successful periods of sobriety, to appreciate her effort, and not to take on her problems with alcohol. TODAY'S REMINDER: When we slip into responsibility or fixing m...

serenity47 · serenity47

Sometimes, I don't always recognize my own growth, or I am critical of the pace of my growth. Today was an emotional , stressful day. My daughters boyfriend whom we have come to love and appreciate relapsed/slipped. Upon hearing the news, I did not sleep at all well last night and found myself feelin...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

At some point in our Alanon journey, our appreciation deepens for the role of honesty and candor in our recovery. This often is accompanied by acknowledgement that our behavior at times, like the alcoholic's, has been neither sane or rational; progress...This may not be the end of the Alanon journe...

annt · annt

I buried a memory from when I was 12 years old. I saw my brother hiding liquor bottles in his room. He was also smoking marijuana. I was asleep at night when he came into my room and stuck his hand down my nightgown. My life has been a rollercoaster ever since. It ruined my marriage and caused me a lot of harm....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how students learn to play the piano - they start with just a few keys and one hand, eventually adding a second hand and more keys, until they are using all the keys on the piano from the low bass to the high treble. The author considers how in Al-Anon,...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 8/23, the member talks about the fear of making mistakes. This could bring accusations and abuse from the alcoholic, as well as themself. The slightest error felt huge which they could not let go of. Yet the member struggled to give the appearance of perfect self-contro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how we might seek answers, changes, self worth, from people and/or situations outside of ourselves. The writer describes coming to al-anon looking for answers. The writer looked to parents, friends, partners etc: looking everywhere except Highe...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading is about the consequences of my attitude, and calls for compassion for our qualifiers. Our behaviour (contempt, indignation, neglect) is ego-destroying, and the ego of the drinker is already painfully battered by guilt and fear. TODAY'S REMINDER: My spouse is a child of God, and...

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	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Al-Anon Step Work Board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726454/al-anon-family-group-steptradition-board/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	163	July 17th by Iamhere
	STICKY: New Business on the Business Forum - Moderators (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67726428/al-anon-family-group-moderator-team/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	1	134	July 6th by Iamhere
	STICKY: Donations Needed for Web Hosting - UPDATED (Preview) Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...	WebHelper	1	292	May 6th by WebHelper
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	25	16701	Feb 3, 2021 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	39	4284	Dec 20, 2020 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	20	8233	Jan 23, 2020 by Beckon2
	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	65	68193	Nov 13, 2019 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	2780	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	50242	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	6012	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	19344	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	18390	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	Courage to Change September 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...	Skorpi	1	13	10h ago by Freetime
	If you keep an open mind.... (Preview) Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...	JerryF	5	39	14h ago by DM2021
	9/21/21 ODAT - It Can't Be Me...Can It? (Preview) Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...	Enigmatic	3	36	yesterday by tiredtonite
	18th Sept C2C progress (Preview) Today's reader talks about the progress the author has made and that when they are troubled about what lies ahead, they can look back at where they have been. Time offers evidence that the Al-Anon program works - they see growth in their lives and the longer they live by these principles, the more evide...	Bettertomorrow	4	25	yesterday by tiredtonite
	Being Human and needing a Higher Power (Preview) Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...	JerryF	10	71	2 days ago by JerryF
	Honored to share 9/19 with Jerry (Preview) MIP family - thank you for your support and prayers as I am trying to be of maximum service to my parents. It's been a significant challenge and I am feeling very overwhelmed. I'll spend time when I have time sharing more but, for today, my mother has been placed in assisted living and my father is reluc...	Iamhere	7	45	2 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT in alanon, 9/20, accepting reality and my A (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 9/20, the member suggests if we have an attitude of contempt for our alcoholic, we need to seriously examine ourselves. The member reminds us that As have an illness which includes being confused and guilt-ridden human beings with a badly battered ego. They do not need to...	Lyne	1	29	2 days ago by DM2021
	Hope for Today Sept 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentments and bitterness, and learning to forgive. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and experiencing many forms of mistreatment. The result included feeling like an extremely angry and resentful victim...	yanksfan51	4	45	3 days ago by JerryF
	September 18 Hope for Today - Personal Recovery (Preview) Today's reading speaks about a newcomer to Al-anon who noted that many Al-anon readings referenced a higher power. The newcomer wasn't certain they wanted to have a relationship with a higher power or what they would even do with one if they had it. They were relieved to learn that members of the fello...	tiredtonite	4	35	4 days ago by JerryF
	September 17 - Intimacy Book - Boundaries (Preview) Chapter Four of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Negotiating Boundaries," makes the point that knowing what is good for us and what is not good for us is a foundation for setting healthy limits (boundaries) for ourselves, in relationships and other parts of life. Boundaries are for our ow...	Freetime	7	48	4 days ago by Freetime
	Patience and Humility (Preview) My former sponsor, DON,T!! taught me a lot which I came to accept as very very valid because of how it changed my life. One of the most important, if not the most important is that Humility is "Being teachable" which has always worked when I work it. Patience is always good for my heart and spirit and the...	JerryF	3	37	6 days ago by JerryF
	Sept. 16, ODAT - Look Again (Preview) Today we are asked to consider the validity of the points we get stuck on. If others are not responding the way we expect, perhaps we need to adjust our own thinking, or perhaps our sense of timing. We are asked to consider others' right to a different point of view. TODAY'S REMINDER: An open mind is a hand...	Bbrave	4	48	6 days ago by DM2021
	I'm writing a memoir about domestic violence (Preview) -- Edited by Youknowme on Thursday 16th of September 2021 11:31:36 AM	Youknowme	2	62	6 days ago by Youknowme
	Courage to Change September 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their challenges sleeping. They tried everything from hot milk to seeing the doctor, and yet still could not sleep. The author was too exhausted to pay much attention to anything outside of their own needs. One day at an Al-Anon meeting, anoth...	Skorpi	2	47	6 days ago by Lyne
	Sept 4 Hope for Today - Expectations (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the topic of expectations. It uses an example of an Alanon member who has badly injured their foot. They are in severe pain and unable to get to their in person Alanon meetings. The member admits that though they see themselves as an independent person with good creative pro...	tiredtonite	4	80	6 days ago by Im
	9/14/21 Unaffiliated, Spiritual Program; Not Religious (Preview) Both AA and Alanon emphasize that their programs are of a spiritual, not religious nature. This focus allows each member to use Alanon steps and principles in line with their personal religious (or non) perspective, without the unpleasant awkwardness of another member insisting on branding the p...	Enigmatic	4	51	7 days ago by Lyne
	C2C, 9/13, improving one’s life (Preview) For Monday, 9/13, the member talks about time as a special kind of checking account: there are 24 hours to spend, and they are precious. You can make a positive change and enrich your life by using the 12 Steps, HP, alanon meetings, people, calls, and literature. You can spend your time to grow, enjo...	Lyne	7	77	8 days ago by serenity47
	Hope for Today Sept 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about acknowledging and feeling our feelings rather than stamping them down. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic home where the lesson was dont feel. The writer grew up distrusting feelings and in effect distrusting him/her-self. The wr...	yanksfan51	2	37	10 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	September 11 Hope for Today - Higher Power (Preview) Today's reading describes recovery as a triangle with higher power at the top and the Alanon program, tools and life at the other areas of the triangle. The reading goes on to say, "As long as I keep everything in that order, with my higher power as my sole focus, everything in my life works serenely, eve...	tiredtonite	1	32	10 days ago by Lyne
	September 10 - Intimacy Book - Communicating (Preview) Chapter 3 of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Communicating Clearly," explains that in alcoholic relationships, some of us learned to hide and bottle up our feelings, and some of us became "compulsive truth-tellers," unburdening ourselves on the nearest person, whether they wanted t...	Freetime	3	70	11 days ago by Im
	Sept 11th, C2C, Step 4 (Preview) In today's reader the author talks about having a nagging suspicion that they weren't doing their Step 4 inventory right. With their HPs help, they finally realised that it wasn't that they had done their Fourth Step wrong, but rather that they had the same sense of inadequacy about their whole life...	Bettertomorrow	3	30	11 days ago by Freetime
	I Do Feel Better, but ..... (Preview) I think I blew it last night because I allowed myself to get to a burning point concerning the constant control that AH exerts on just about everything I do. The constant, holy than thou opinions and put downs sometimes just gets to me and I think this time it is because I have been trying to recover from so...	DM2021	5	49	11 days ago by DM2021
	Courage to Change September 8 (Preview) In today's reading, the author asks about anything that might be standing in the way of trusting our Higher Power. In the author's case, it was a desire for a guarantee. The author resisted turning their will and life to their HP because they felt that if they held out, they would themselves come up wit...	Skorpi	4	68	13 days ago by Iamhere
	Sept 9, ODAT - My Potential (Preview) Today's reading calls us to action, asks us to open our eyes and our minds to what we have and who we are. What are we going to do with that? How are we going to engage our potential? "What am I going to do with what Ive got?" If we concentrate our efforts on gratitude and on our own unlimited resources, they wi...	Bbrave	4	56	13 days ago by Iamhere
	9/7/21 ODAT – Alanon: Helps Change How We See Problems (Preview) Today's contributor reminds us that the purpose of Alanon is not validation of self-pity, caustic rants, or vindictive counterattacks, but to gently nudge us toward a more spiritual view and course of action. We undoubtedly will read or hear the suggestion that it is our own view or actions that are...	Enigmatic	6	102	September 8th by tiredtonite
	Cunning and baffling; clearing my mind. (Preview) I was sailing along,progressing nicely and then why hello, here I am again, the isms of chaos and manipulation and self sacrifice. Now to be sure, today these are matters which represent bumps in the road as opposed to road closures but nonetheless very unpleasant. My alcoholic aging parent is...	a4l	7	106	September 7th by Iamhere
	ODAT in alanon, 9/6, tendency to control (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/6, speaks about feeling the right and obligation to control others. Somehow we thought we should set the standards for the A, for the family, etc. However, if we are trying to follow the alanon program, then we need to overcome the ideas of directing, scheming, and manipul...	Lyne	6	58	September 6th by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Sept 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan Just for Today. The writer describes finding it impossible to stay in the present. Instead thoughts were always focused on the next day, week or month. It got to the point that thoughts of the future overtook the present day. The writer...	yanksfan51	4	65	September 5th by tiredtonite
	C2C Sept 4th - moving from crisis to calm (Preview) Today's reading talks about that as we let go of obsession, worry and focusing on everyone but ourselves, many are bewildered by the increasing calmness of their minds. We know how to live in a state of crisis, but is can take a bit of adjustment to become comfortable with stillness and the time we now ha...	Bettertomorrow	5	65	September 4th by tiredtonite
	September 2 - Intimacy Book - Trust (Preview) Continuing with the second chapter of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Building and Rebuilding Trust," the member on page 40 shares about learning to "act as if." In her family of origin, showing love was seen as a weakness and could be used against her. She was unable to show love to her hus...	Freetime	3	55	September 4th by Daffodils
	Courage to Change September 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks to how important it can be for an Al-Anon group to use a group conscience to address challenges they may be facing. The author shares that their home group had gotten into a rut. They hadn't had new members in a very long time, and seemed to cycle through t...	Skorpi	4	70	September 3rd by Lyne
	Sept. 2, ODAT - Rewards (Preview) Today's reading promises rewards. With a changed attitude (concern, love, and kindness for others), I can expect the circumstances of my life to change for the better. If I expect good, it will surely come in some form for me. And, if I offer others a "tolerant uncritical awareness" and focus my viewp...	Bbrave	5	94	September 2nd by Iamhere
	Program work is always needed! (Preview) Hi all! I still get on to read and rarely post anymore, but had to share an update! I had the most interesting not shocking things hit my awareness. So I went to al-anon meetings for years and had my old wise sponsor whom helped me do my first step work and pushed me to grow and do amazing things! Fast forward...	Breakingfree	5	104	September 1st by Iamhere
	8/31/21 C2C (Preview) Today's contributor admits the tendency to try changing others to fit self desires, and to blame the failure to meet those desires on the shortfalls of others. A wish for others to always be there for them, but not ask for much in return...more like a pet than a human relationship. Not surprisingly, re...	Enigmatic	4	70	September 1st by Iamhere
	Many kinds of Addictions (Preview) I think it was 2017 since I was last here. At that time my son was my qualifier. He since has married, had a child and quit alcohol and drugs cold turkey totally. Without a program, I am not sure how he is doing emotionally and spiritually and not sure if he has been affected by "arrested development". He no...	LinSC	5	83	September 1st by Iamhere
	C2C, Monday, 8/30, attitude (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/30, talks about how ones attitude dictates the way we experience the world. This came about through the members sponsor asking them to use a grievance list, and then gratitude lists when feeling low, unhappy about family, and/or when feeling fine. The member was surpris...	Lyne	9	104	August 31st by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the important role detachment has in recovery. The writer describes learning to detach from her mother. In alanon, the writer learned that she had become so focused on her mother and the disease of alcoholism that she didnt know where her mother ended...	yanksfan51	5	85	August 29th by Iamhere
	August 28th Hope for Today Self Knowledge (Preview) Today's reading touches on what it was like for an Alanon member to grow up in a home with two parents affected by alcoholism. Their father being an alcoholic and their mother having been raised in a home with alcoholism; the member feels neither was able to give them attention they needed as a child. Th...	tiredtonite	8	104	August 29th by Daffodils
	August 28th, C2C - Trusting enough to work with a sponsor (Preview) In today's reading, the author talks about the trust they felt in working with their first sponsor. They describe how they felt before they asked them - a mess, questioning whether the sponsor would accept them, thinking they would be turned down because they were not worth saving. The sponsor gent...	Bettertomorrow	3	68	August 28th by Iamhere
	August 27 - Intimacy Book - Trust (Preview) The second chapter of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships is titled "Building and Rebuilding Trust." It mentions that living with alcoholism has made us unable to be open and honest, because we came to doubt ourselves and mistrust others. We did not to let anyone know the "real me," sometimes as a...	Freetime	7	88	August 27th by Freetime
	Aug. 26, ODAT - According to my will (Preview) Today's story tells of a man's struggle with his spouse's occasional program lapses. Al-Anon reminds him to instead rejoice in her successful periods of sobriety, to appreciate her effort, and not to take on her problems with alcohol. TODAY'S REMINDER: When we slip into responsibility or fixing m...	Bbrave	10	93	August 26th by tiredtonite
	I see big and subtle improvements (Preview) Sometimes, I don't always recognize my own growth, or I am critical of the pace of my growth. Today was an emotional , stressful day. My daughters boyfriend whom we have come to love and appreciate relapsed/slipped. Upon hearing the news, I did not sleep at all well last night and found myself feelin...	serenity47	6	77	August 26th by Iamhere
	8/24 ODAT – Honesty > Lifetime of Growth (Preview) At some point in our Alanon journey, our appreciation deepens for the role of honesty and candor in our recovery. This often is accompanied by acknowledgement that our behavior at times, like the alcoholic's, has been neither sane or rational; progress...This may not be the end of the Alanon journe...	Enigmatic	8	107	August 25th by Enigmatic
	Alcoholic Brother (Preview) I buried a memory from when I was 12 years old. I saw my brother hiding liquor bottles in his room. He was also smoking marijuana. I was asleep at night when he came into my room and stuck his hand down my nightgown. My life has been a rollercoaster ever since. It ruined my marriage and caused me a lot of harm....	annt	3	92	August 25th by annt
	Courage to Change August 25 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how students learn to play the piano - they start with just a few keys and one hand, eventually adding a second hand and more keys, until they are using all the keys on the piano from the low bass to the high treble. The author considers how in Al-Anon,...	Skorpi	4	68	August 25th by DM2021
	C2C, 8/23, making mistakes (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 8/23, the member talks about the fear of making mistakes. This could bring accusations and abuse from the alcoholic, as well as themself. The slightest error felt huge which they could not let go of. Yet the member struggled to give the appearance of perfect self-contro...	Lyne	9	105	August 24th by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 22 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how we might seek answers, changes, self worth, from people and/or situations outside of ourselves. The writer describes coming to al-anon looking for answers. The writer looked to parents, friends, partners etc: looking everywhere except Highe...	yanksfan51	3	63	August 22nd by tiredtonite
	Aug. 19, ODAT - Compassion (Preview) Today's reading is about the consequences of my attitude, and calls for compassion for our qualifiers. Our behaviour (contempt, indignation, neglect) is ego-destroying, and the ego of the drinker is already painfully battered by guilt and fear. TODAY'S REMINDER: My spouse is a child of God, and...	Bbrave	10	146	August 22nd by Im
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