Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

hotrod · hotrod

Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...

Lyne · Lyne

My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am subbing today for Iamhere. Thank you for allowing me to be of service. Today's Daily is from "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie and discusses Leaving Room for Feelings: "We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robo...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page talks about the importance of self-care, especially when we are in a crisis and think we do not have time for it. In times of crisis we need to be at our best. That is why we have to strengthen ourselves with good food, sleep, exercise, spiritual contact, emotional support. Reminder: "I am...

a4l · a4l

Ok lovely family. I don't know how familiar this is so I'd like to put it out there for some help. I am at a stage now where I excitedly feel like I've reached the middle ground between all or nothing. And accordingly I want to try and put the pieces of my puzzle together. Because this is both new and old, I am a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that, since coming to AlAnon, they have become aware of choices that they never knew they had. The author now realizes that if the are uncomfortable with something, they don't necessarily HAVE to do it! Of course, the author ref...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

This morning I sat here drinking my coffee like I always do.I was listening to the police scanner,checking the arrest reports online,seeing when certain people were last on messenger or made FB posts.And I also checked the court websites to see if they have any new charges or court dates. That's bee...

Hi, new member here · wvlady

Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...

Hta7911 · Hta7911

My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday was Easter a day of Celebration for Christians however, I cried so much yesterday that today my eyes will barely open. You see, my husband walked out after 21 years together. He says he doesnt want to fight any more. Yet we werent fighting. He says that he is working on staying sober and I am...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I think I'm more tired today than I was yesterday we are done with the yearly trek until next year I hope. My X is absolutely in rare form and I am over it. I am trying to stay in my own hula hoop and mind my business I won't lie .. I did break out the bedazzled horns and adjusted them to make sure they still fit .....

a4l · a4l

For years I've been wanting two things: a massage and excercise. I've snuck in jogs here and there, did a lot of walking with the kids etc.

a4l · a4l

Good morning all! I have chosen to embark on a pathway to positivity. Choosing not to dwell on the past, not to always look at the half empty glass, but to focus on the positives and keep looking up. At the same time, to allow myself to remain positive, boundaries and good people around me are so very nec...

hotrod · hotrod

the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds. The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step. To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding. We will not always know what is best for other people and even oursel...

mamajo70 · mamajo70

Good evening, I am new here but not new to the program. I'm starting a new group in my town and looking for suggestions on a group name that is appealing and follows the guidelines set out. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

Fedora · Fedora

I have two kids, 9 and 12. I have not had a discussion with them about AH's drinking. My counselor (whom I have not seen in over a year now as she was in a different location) told me that "children see and know all". While I don't doubt that, I have not found the guts to come out and talk to them about dad's beh...

PinkInk · PinkInk

Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...

El · El

Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the unique support of alanon. Alcoholism is an isolating disease, so realizing that there is a place where people come together to share their stories is a comfort. There is a sentence on this page that describes the 12 steps as something which, when ta...

Lyne · Lyne

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.... Some days are really hard accepting my A...and today is one of those days, Lyne

texas yankee · texas yankee

I guess I'm one of those "fair weather friends" here, cause when things are going well for me (regarding my adult son), I'm pretty carefree - I've offered a few thoughts here to others dealing with stuff, and I go to FTF meetings, but I forgot that this Al Anon preparedness stuff is like exercise - if ya st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling so sick to my stomach! I have to learn that you don't mix certain things together one after the other! I need to practice more self-care. I am not doing things the a way I had been when I reached my goal weight. I had 30 or so lbs. to goal. It was so hard but I tried to use the program & my common se...

Freetime · Freetime

Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same prob...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family! Better late than never.....Today's Courage to Change discusses Step Six. This step suggests our lives will undergo great change, and many of us fear nothing will be left if we shed our characteristics that helped us cope. Many have fear of the unknown, yet if we've worked...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I could not ask for a day like today w/o praising my God! I am so grateful. Ordinary fits on a day where there is no pressure! I thought the day would be so difficult because of the nature of my involvement on a particular study. The topic was anger. One of the 12steppers was of the group. It wasn't Al anon at a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks about steps 10, 11, and 12. The author shares that they have often heard of these steps as "maintenance steps," but the author likes to think of them as growth steps- steps that let the author continue to challenge themself. The author tested the theory that...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all. Being of service, and posting the daily for tomorrow from Hotrod! The C2C reading for Tuesday, August 6 speaks about the feeling of being trapped in a burning building. It points out that ae stroing handis . Behind the flames and becons to me beckoning come through the dor. We kne...

a4l · a4l

I am really grateful today for all the love in my life. The alanon program I feel has been like taking a stroll with a wisdom beyond myself, where everything I've struggled with emotionally, mentally and spiritually, has been lovingly broken down for me, into easy to understand parts with practice ex...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ok .. so as we ALL know as practicing parents .. this stuff is HARD. LOL!! One of the hardest not fun moments has been the whole letting go stuff. Letting go of gender expectation, letting go of enabling, letting go of the children I see as I watch them become struggling young adults (that's the hardes...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well the first leg of the trip is done and we will do it again next week. We had such a good time. The kids are where they are suppose to be at the moment. Our trip out involved a trip to Lambert's if you are in the area it's a must go to. After having a great time there we went and met up with my friends and had su...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/5, talks about how resentment can poison all your waking hours. The author could hold resentments for days or years! Since alanon, the author can feel their feelings, but does not have to rehearse and review the list of grievances. The writer tries to use their energy for...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi MIP family-Lately I am doing well, happy, coping well, and of course there are ups and downs. Today I have learned that a former colleague and friend is in the hospital. He has pancreatic cancer and was doing well until a tick bite came along. His prognosis is quite guarded. And my 14 year old dogg...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have learned not to express our anger, specifically to remain silent (and resentful) instead. The writer describes having grown up in a home with alcoholic parents and violence in the home. Learning that expressing anger equaled abuse...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It just keeps better & better! My God & i are turning things for the better. I thought it couldn't get better but it has.

Lindie · Lindie

I want to take control of our finances, we are always behind because of AH drinking. We both work full time jobs. AH is the one who brings in the most money. I want to be able to get things caught up, some in savings and start saving for our future, but how can I do that without taking control of AH drinking? We...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65766784/alanon-step-8-8-1-2019/

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon shows how much wisdom is condensed in the slogan Live and Let Live. The slogan tells us first to Live -- fully, richly, taking joy in what we do. The next part -- Let Live -- is more difficult because it calls on us to accept the right of all other human beings to liv...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Hi All! I just wanted to drop by here with an update. It's been awhile since I've checked in because I've been a bit busy! I got married last month to a wonderful man who is an amazing partner. We met online three and half years ago, neither of us with a plan to ever get married again. But you never know where...

DavidG · DavidG

~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...

Elabella · Elabella

Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...

Lindie · Lindie

My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...

lookingup · lookingup

hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....

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	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	14	3531	5 days ago by Iamhere
	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	64	52996	July 9th by Iamhere
	STICKY: Continuation of Funding Drive (Preview) Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...	hotrod	14	1057	May 13th by Lyne
	STICKY: Donations needed for web hosting renewal (Preview) Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.	WebHelper	15	327	April 28th by Bo
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	22	11663	March 7th by Iamhere
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	607	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: MIP Funding Drive (Preview) Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...	hotrod	16	1709	May 17, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	24	47250	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	3316	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	15035	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	30	1655	Feb 2, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	15875	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	Update :) (Preview) Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...	SerenityRUS	10	103	6h ago by Iamhere
	Good focus, good boundaries (Preview) My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...	Lyne	3	39	6h ago by Iamhere
	Today's Daily 08/15/19 (Preview) I am subbing today for Iamhere. Thank you for allowing me to be of service. Today's Daily is from "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie and discusses Leaving Room for Feelings: "We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robo...	PosiesandPuppies	3	48	yesterday by bud
	Courage to Change, 8/16 -- Self Care! (Preview) Today's page talks about the importance of self-care, especially when we are in a crisis and think we do not have time for it. In times of crisis we need to be at our best. That is why we have to strengthen ourselves with good food, sleep, exercise, spiritual contact, emotional support. Reminder: "I am...	Freetime	4	42	yesterday by bud
	ESH on boundaries. (Preview) Ok lovely family. I don't know how familiar this is so I'd like to put it out there for some help. I am at a stage now where I excitedly feel like I've reached the middle ground between all or nothing. And accordingly I want to try and put the pieces of my puzzle together. Because this is both new and old, I am a...	a4l	7	83	yesterday by a4l
	Courage to Change August 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that, since coming to AlAnon, they have become aware of choices that they never knew they had. The author now realizes that if the are uncomfortable with something, they don't necessarily HAVE to do it! Of course, the author ref...	Skorpi	5	52	2 days ago by bud
	My Morning Routine Ruins My Day (Preview) This morning I sat here drinking my coffee like I always do.I was listening to the police scanner,checking the arrest reports online,seeing when certain people were last on messenger or made FB posts.And I also checked the court websites to see if they have any new charges or court dates. That's bee...	SunnyFrogs	17	174	2 days ago by KT2015
	Hi, new member here (Preview) Hello everyone! I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from you all. I'm walking down a road that I've been down before and can certainly benefit from any wisdom/experience shared here in this forum. To give you a little history, I was married to an alcoholic for fifteen years. Our marri...	wvlady	17	262	3 days ago by Iamhere
	Newbie. Need advice (Preview) My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...	Hta7911	6	112	3 days ago by El
	The end of a 21 year relationship with an "a" (Preview) Yesterday was Easter a day of Celebration for Christians however, I cried so much yesterday that today my eyes will barely open. You see, my husband walked out after 21 years together. He says he doesnt want to fight any more. Yet we werent fighting. He says that he is working on staying sober and I am...	Tammy	9	651	3 days ago by bud
	i'm sooo tired .. (Preview) I think I'm more tired today than I was yesterday we are done with the yearly trek until next year I hope. My X is absolutely in rare form and I am over it. I am trying to stay in my own hula hoop and mind my business I won't lie .. I did break out the bedazzled horns and adjusted them to make sure they still fit .....	SerenityRUS	6	95	4 days ago by andromeda
	Did something for me :-) (Preview) For years I've been wanting two things: a massage and excercise. I've snuck in jogs here and there, did a lot of walking with the kids etc.	a4l	7	68	4 days ago by a4l
	Still human still capable of biting. (Preview) Good morning all! I have chosen to embark on a pathway to positivity. Choosing not to dwell on the past, not to always look at the half empty glass, but to focus on the positives and keep looking up. At the same time, to allow myself to remain positive, boundaries and good people around me are so very nec...	a4l	9	135	4 days ago by Choriste
	ODAT Reading 8-13 (Preview) the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds. The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us...	hotrod	5	52	4 days ago by bud
	C2C, 8/12 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step. To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding. We will not always know what is best for other people and even oursel...	Lyne	5	51	5 days ago by bud
	Group Name (Preview) Good evening, I am new here but not new to the program. I'm starting a new group in my town and looking for suggestions on a group name that is appealing and follows the guidelines set out. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!	mamajo70	4	69	5 days ago by Iamhere
	How much to tell children? (Preview) I have two kids, 9 and 12. I have not had a discussion with them about AH's drinking. My counselor (whom I have not seen in over a year now as she was in a different location) told me that "children see and know all". While I don't doubt that, I have not found the guts to come out and talk to them about dad's beh...	Fedora	10	188	5 days ago by SerenityRUS
	Newbie here! (Preview) Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...	PinkInk	11	137	5 days ago by canadianguy
	Overnight company (Preview) Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...	El	10	129	5 days ago by KT2015
	Hope for Today Aug 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the unique support of alanon. Alcoholism is an isolating disease, so realizing that there is a place where people come together to share their stories is a comfort. There is a sentence on this page that describes the 12 steps as something which, when ta...	yanksfan51	4	59	6 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	God grant me.... (Preview) God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.... Some days are really hard accepting my A...and today is one of those days, Lyne	Lyne	5	108	6 days ago by hotrod
	Out of the blue . . . . (Preview) I guess I'm one of those "fair weather friends" here, cause when things are going well for me (regarding my adult son), I'm pretty carefree - I've offered a few thoughts here to others dealing with stuff, and I go to FTF meetings, but I forgot that this Al Anon preparedness stuff is like exercise - if ya st...	texas yankee	14	245	7 days ago by bud
	I feel so sick! (Preview) I am feeling so sick to my stomach! I have to learn that you don't mix certain things together one after the other! I need to practice more self-care. I am not doing things the a way I had been when I reached my goal weight. I had 30 or so lbs. to goal. It was so hard but I tried to use the program & my common se...	Hoot Nanny	5	122	7 days ago by hotrod
	C2C, August 9 -- Being Myself (Preview) Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same prob...	Freetime	7	91	8 days ago by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 8/8 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Better late than never.....Today's Courage to Change discusses Step Six. This step suggests our lives will undergo great change, and many of us fear nothing will be left if we shed our characteristics that helped us cope. Many have fear of the unknown, yet if we've worked...	Iamhere	2	41	8 days ago by Lyne
	update just an ordinary day! (Preview) I could not ask for a day like today w/o praising my God! I am so grateful. Ordinary fits on a day where there is no pressure! I thought the day would be so difficult because of the nature of my involvement on a particular study. The topic was anger. One of the 12steppers was of the group. It wasn't Al anon at a...	Hoot Nanny	2	59	9 days ago by Iamhere
	Courage to Change August 7 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks about steps 10, 11, and 12. The author shares that they have often heard of these steps as "maintenance steps," but the author likes to think of them as growth steps- steps that let the author continue to challenge themself. The author tested the theory that...	Skorpi	4	60	10 days ago by El
	From HotRod - Courage to Change 8/6 (Preview) Greetings all. Being of service, and posting the daily for tomorrow from Hotrod! The C2C reading for Tuesday, August 6 speaks about the feeling of being trapped in a burning building. It points out that ae stroing handis . Behind the flames and becons to me beckoning come through the dor. We kne...	Iamhere	2	69	11 days ago by Iamhere
	A gratitude share. (Preview) I am really grateful today for all the love in my life. The alanon program I feel has been like taking a stroll with a wisdom beyond myself, where everything I've struggled with emotionally, mentally and spiritually, has been lovingly broken down for me, into easy to understand parts with practice ex...	a4l	2	61	11 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Parenting .. (Preview) Ok .. so as we ALL know as practicing parents .. this stuff is HARD. LOL!! One of the hardest not fun moments has been the whole letting go stuff. Letting go of gender expectation, letting go of enabling, letting go of the children I see as I watch them become struggling young adults (that's the hardes...	SerenityRUS	0	55	12 days ago by SerenityRUS
	We made it ... LOL (Preview) Well the first leg of the trip is done and we will do it again next week. We had such a good time. The kids are where they are suppose to be at the moment. Our trip out involved a trip to Lambert's if you are in the area it's a must go to. After having a great time there we went and met up with my friends and had su...	SerenityRUS	5	112	12 days ago by SerenityRUS
	C2C, 8/5 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/5, talks about how resentment can poison all your waking hours. The author could hold resentments for days or years! Since alanon, the author can feel their feelings, but does not have to rehearse and review the list of grievances. The writer tries to use their energy for...	Lyne	4	62	12 days ago by a4l
	Sadness amongst happiness (Preview) Hi MIP family-Lately I am doing well, happy, coping well, and of course there are ups and downs. Today I have learned that a former colleague and friend is in the hospital. He has pancreatic cancer and was doing well until a tick bite came along. His prognosis is quite guarded. And my 14 year old dogg...	Lyne	5	100	12 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Aug 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have learned not to express our anger, specifically to remain silent (and resentful) instead. The writer describes having grown up in a home with alcoholic parents and violence in the home. Learning that expressing anger equaled abuse...	yanksfan51	6	80	13 days ago by a4l
	Awful beautiful life. (Preview) It just keeps better & better! My God & i are turning things for the better. I thought it couldn't get better but it has.	Hoot Nanny	6	104	13 days ago by Hoot Nanny
	How do you gain control with out controlling the alcoholic? (Preview) I want to take control of our finances, we are always behind because of AH drinking. We both work full time jobs. AH is the one who brings in the most money. I want to be able to get things caught up, some in savings and start saving for our future, but how can I do that without taking control of AH drinking? We...	Lindie	11	198	13 days ago by tiredtonite
	Step 8 posted to Step Board please join in and share yourESH (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65766784/alanon-step-8-8-1-2019/	hotrod	2	81	August 3rd by Lyne
	ODAT, August 2 - Live and Let Live (Preview) Today's page in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon shows how much wisdom is condensed in the slogan Live and Let Live. The slogan tells us first to Live -- fully, richly, taking joy in what we do. The next part -- Let Live -- is more difficult because it calls on us to accept the right of all other human beings to liv...	Freetime	5	79	August 2nd by DavidG
	My Miracle in Progress- An Update (Preview) Hi All! I just wanted to drop by here with an update. It's been awhile since I've checked in because I've been a bit busy! I got married last month to a wonderful man who is an amazing partner. We met online three and half years ago, neither of us with a plan to ever get married again. But you never know where...	Green Eyes	4	105	August 2nd by Iamhere
	A Love Story... (Preview) ~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...	DavidG	6	91	August 1st by DavidG
	Courage to Change 8/1/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...	Iamhere	2	54	August 1st by Lyne
	Lies & Deception.... (Preview) Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...	Elabella	16	262	August 1st by 2HP
	I need to find the strength (Preview) My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...	Lindie	8	138	August 1st by Iamhere
	God's Timing (Preview) Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...	WendyP	8	102	July 31st by WendyP
	Trying to keep my mouth shut (Preview) I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...	SerenityRUS	6	133	July 31st by Iamhere
	FOO (Preview) hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...	lookingup	4	93	July 31st by lookingup
	Courage to Change July 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...	Skorpi	4	70	July 31st by El
	C2C reading Tuesday 7-30 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....	hotrod	8	90	July 31st by bud
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