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7th Tradition for Forum Hosting
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It's time for voluntary contributions to support our MIP forums. We are currently paid up through May 2020, and need $215.76 to extend that through the next 12 months. The donation link is below. Please note that the form says Al-Anon Family Groups, but donations will support all the forums on MIP...
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MIP meeting room
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i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...
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MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times
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.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...
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THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON
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The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...
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Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms
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Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...
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MIP Business Board
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The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...
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INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION
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The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...
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Do's and Don'ts
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Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...
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Step Work Board
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http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...
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Saturday 6/6/20
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Today's Daily is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. For this reading, she speaks to the 6th Step of Al-Anon... "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." She speaks of the long and diligent road to progress by working on the first five Steps. This w...
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Conflicted about deciding to leave
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AH has declined considerably since his inheritance and our move to a property he received. I love him deeply but watching him spend daily on alcohol and drugs what could have been put to beneficial gain such as his talk of starting a construction/contracting business is too much for my own mental heal...
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Courage to Change 6/4
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Good morning MIP family! Today's reading is about Step 2 which is about possibility and hoe. We come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. All that's asked is that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available. We don't have to believe that it WILL h...
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Resilience
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I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me
Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently...
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C2C, June 5 - Step Three, and Who Cares?
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I didn't like the Third Step when I first came into Al-Anon, but I was so desperate that I figured I would just have to go along with whatever the Steps told me. I did not like the idea of turning my will and my life over to anyone or anything, because experience had taught me not to trust most people. No way...
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Roommate is finally gone
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Finally! The roommate is finally gone. I got her up early on June 1 and we listened to one of our favorite pastor on Facebook and then I made her get up and at it and I helped her pack and get her stuff in the car and she was out of my house by 11:30 AM I could see after the live Facebook that we watched from one of ou...
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I'm back!
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I don't know exactly how long it has been. But I am ready to get my program in order. I am thinking about Betty & how much she affected my life. I need to get back what I feel I have lost. All the horrible things that are happening hurt & are painful I can & will turn my life over to God. I love you all...
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Alcohol and affair?
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Not sure if Im in the right place or not. about a year ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. He blamed it on his drinking and a mid life crisis. Hes been in AA, therapy and alcohol free since. He is doing everything possible to make up for what he did but Im still having a very hard time with it....
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Having a tough day....
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So our older dog has to go to the vet and the younger dog is crying because she wants to go. Men are here fixing cracked cement. My tooth broke and I have to wait and see what day next week my dentist will do emergencies. We have a huge bee/hornet flying around the kitchen. And my A wants to drive me to the c...
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Courage to Change June 3
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In today's reading, the author reflects on one of the diversions alcoholics sometimes use to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking: creating diversions by accusing or provoking. Often, those who are living with the impact of alcoholism tend to react, to argue, to defend the...
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Assisting adult children
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Hey everyone. I'm going to make a long story short. February 28: my son had a weird episode while driving where his BP dropped causing him to nearly black out and the subsequently had a panic attack from this episode. Turns out it was because he was unclear of the doctor's order from 2 days prior where sh...
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A different person.
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Do you feel like the recovering alcoholic in your life is back to the old person you knew before? Or that that person is gone for good and now theres a new version? Not a bad version but different? My recovering alcoholic husband just doesnt seem to understand that thats how I view him now. Hes hurt that I f...
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Offering What I Can
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If there's anything I've learned on this recovery journey, it's that an offer of es&h can differ from situation to situation, person to person. I can't assume to know another's feelings and there will be times when I don't think I have anything to offer to someone else. Times when I believe whatev...
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C2C, 5/31, our spiritual journey
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The reading for Monday, 5/31, discusses how program enables us to explore our hidden motives, secrets, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. Guided by a Power greater than ourselves, we learn to overcome obstacles to our personal growth, such as the effects of alcoholism and a variety of de...
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more is being revealed
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Today I realize that I still fall into brief periods of denial.When I am getting along ok with my husband and I am finding small things that I enjoy.If I have a good day,I tell myself that things are not so bad.For a brief time I can close my eyes to some truths about my life and myself.But then when he is bei...
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Apology!
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I mistakenly gave the daily on 5/31 instead of 6/1 from C2C. Acknowledged my mistake and promptly admitted it! Happy Monday to all.
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Hope for Today May 31
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a reflection about the fourth step:made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves The writer describes having lived a life of pursuing perfection. He/she felt that any shortcomings were failures, and brought this belief into the approach of t...
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REFLECTION 5/30/20
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TODAY'S REFLECTION COMES FROM ONE MORE DAY. Quote of the Day: "I expect to pass through life but once. If, therefore, there can be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now." --William PennEach night, as we place our heads upon our pillows, we can think...
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Mind...Body...Spirit and emotions
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This was a very rough day for me starting from when I had to work hard to get up from bed and Keep the Shakes from doing massive negative control over my mind, body, spirt and emotions. I never experienced such a trauma and it wasn't because of cool temperatures because we are not having such. I shook l...
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Roommate's meeting got POSTPONED
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I had to REALLY detach and just "do my thing" today as roommates meet with HOPEFULLY her next landlord got postponed....so I am still "wearing her" but I am keeping cordial distance, not engaging her, not inviting another cycle of drama and chaos....shes telling me "i was crying because she had...
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C2C, May 29
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Today's reading focuses on the uselessness of worry and fear. We can catastrophize, turning neutral situations into nightmares. In the past, many of us tried to predict disastrous outcomes as a way of protecting ourselves. But this makes us lose touch with what is happening now, and puts us on co...
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I Can't Do This On My Own
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The title says it all,that's why I'm back. I have to believe life can be better than this. I have to believe the program works if you work it. I have to believe my higher power will guide me. And I have to believe you all know what you're talking about. That pretty much sums it up.
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Attraction...Not Promotion...
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The below is from Al-Anon World Services Organization...yes, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters...in Virginia Beach, VA... The "Dear Abby" Newspaper Column for June 2 Will Recommend Al-AnonIn communities where editors choose to publish the recommendation to try Al-Anon, it would be appropr...
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Courage to Change 5/28
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Good morning all. Today's reading is all about Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares a story about rushing on a motorcycle to a meditation class, not wanting to be late. Right in front of the class, the bike dumped the author who wa...
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Darling dog died on Monday, Q violently drunk on Tuesday. Need to create a web of support. I don't know where to start.
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Hello,I am new to Alanon.My dog died in my arms on Monday. He was my best buddy. I can't believe he is gone.Tuesday, my Q became violently drunk last night. With the help of my sponsor, I am now at my parents apartment and am ok. They are not living here due to COVID... so I'm all by myself. Which is hard in its...
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Courage to Change April 27
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects that, after living with the effects of the disease of alcoholism for years, many of us felt that good times would never come again. We may have shut our hearts and minds to joy, happiness, our hopes, and dreams. It seemed too painful to hope. We weren'...
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TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY
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"What worries you, masters you."--Haddon W. RobinsonGod, help me to have the strength to set reasonable limits for myselfand to tell others when I cannot help them. Help me learn to say no.--Melody BeattieGod is watching over me, making my path easy.--Alan CohenThe Way To God"Start the Day with Lov...
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Language of letting go-May 27
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Melody Beattie. Talks about choices-we do have choices, more than we let ourselves see when we feel trapped, that is codependency rearing its head. When we hear ourselves say that we have to take care of somebody or we have to try and control that person or we have to behave a certain way or we have to feel...
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Courage to Change 5/21
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Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding. We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to imp...
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Hope for Today May 24
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Good morning Everyone- I am going to start with the thought for the day and work back into the reading. Todays thought is simple and powerful: Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life. Where are we putting the focus and energy in our days? This idea is applied more specifically to the...
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C2C, 5/25, denial
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The reading for Monday, 5/25, explains how denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism. In other words, many of us have been living in chaos, worried about our families, full of self-doubt, spiritually, emotionally, and physically depleted, and yet we would pretend everything was just fine....
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WOW!!! the truth and a good reputation
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I don't bring my personal crap to work, but I did open up with the off. mgr. of my little Tues. job, the only one I got, and told her my situation...We had become friends and we share stuff with each other Well, after finding hazzardous stuff she just leaves for the dogs to get into, I texted my boss AND the of...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY_could use some prayer
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trying to type with bad finger and it slow going...its sealing and I think I'll lose feeling on the very top of it, but its going really well, considering the severity of the cut I took care of me by deciding not to work tomorrow because this cyclically passive aggressive roommate cycles between being n...
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New - looking for how others handled kids in a situation
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Hi all, I hope this post is ok -I am brand new to the forum and to al-anon, if this violates any rules please remove it. I have a brother who is spiraling (fourth DUI, fired, about to be homeless) who has three young children that live with him (all under 10). His wife is sober, but enables him (my opinion) sh...
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...my week...
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Had a full week this week... half down on the coast, an half here at home. Stayed at my cousin's in a shipping container- with bed and accoutrements. My cousin doesn't have great boundaries. Her daughter and Sil... are staying over lock-down and beyond in the loft. It was lovely to meet da. for the f...
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Self care inventory-Saturday night
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Well the countdown begins: roommate will be leaving by June 3 which is when her rent expires. I do want us to part in peace and goodwill and I think we will so what did I do today to take care of me? food wise I resisted all the junk foods that I normally get into one stressed out and I was tempted every time I go...
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Daily Saturday 05/23/20
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Sorry about the late post, folks! Today's topic is about Enjoyment and is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. She mentions, "Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced." She goes on to say that many of us were raised with the belief that we 'square our shoulders and...
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Stressors
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I think it is important at this time to talk about the stressors
Mine were: work (always pressure to work more), health (my.health deteriorared badly); displacement (being away from my home); support (i found some new sources of support but I.really need a therapist soon.
That is quite a list. Bef...
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I am here just sick with my back
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Had another back spasm on Wednesday and it was pretty bad. Yesterday it felt like a little bit better and today seems the same. So I will be laid up with this for a while I guess. I hope I dont have to get a shot. So thats where I have been, eating my muscle relaxers and lying on my heating pad and stretching. Pa...
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AH doesn't want to be "branded" an alcoholic. umm....
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During our latest disagreement about life (which started after AH ruined the end of son's birthday, oh joy), it came out that I consider our relationship broken and am considering divorce. AH got all hysterical and long story short, agreed to consider counseling with me. I don't have much hope that t...
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Reminder *Just for Today*
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Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy a...
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Boundaries
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I am relatively new to Alanon and have been focusing on boundaries with my ABF. I am wondering if some of you can share your boundaries that you have implemented? Thanks!
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question for 'old timers'
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I know there are some 'old timers' here so I have a question for you.Please tell me what life looks like after a long time in the program when you are still living with your alcoholic (drinking or not). Does it feel like a life of your own? Do you really feel fulfilled? Are you living separate lives but in th...
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Courage to Change 5/22
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Today's reading is about reaching self-love through trusting in a higher power. The author started out fearful, thinking that a self-inventory would show that they were hopelessly flawed and unworthy. Working on Steps One, Two, and Three they realized that, although powerless over the effects...
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News by text - support appreciated.
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Hi dear Family, This morning I received a text message from my cousin that my uncle passed. He was my Dad's brother. I ran outside to the mailbox to retrieve my uncle's birthday card before the mailman picked it up. His birthday is in a few days. I grew up on the same block with my cousins and we were over eac...
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Hope for Today May 17
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about denial. The writer describes becoming more aware of the magnitude of denial and how many areas of our lives it affects. For those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes, using denial was a way to block pain; unfortunately this also included the unintende...
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Courage to Change May 20
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In today's reading, the author shares their experience with obsessive thinking. Like alcoholism, obsessive thinking can be too much to handle. For the author, not starting is the best defense against obsessive thinking because, once started, it gains steam and is hard to interrupt. The author no...
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maybe this is a good thing
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I'm sure some of you roll your eyes when you see my post.What's wrong now?When is she going to finally get it?Well,I feel the same.I am tired of struggling with myself,my problems,my feelings.I'm just plain tired.I keep posting because I think maybe someone is following my struggles and not respond...
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Just wanted support from people who get it
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My Ex just texted me that he "Just wanted me to know how angry he was for me leaving him. I thought it was for better or worse." This after he has ghosted me since February. Not that I minded, as we are divorced and I was trying to move on, but trying to be kind and respectful of him. Also, he was paying for our so...
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C2C, 5/18-adversity
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The reading for Monday, 5/18, speaks about a time when the writer would avoid an argument rather than deal with an unpleasant situation. The results were not goodthey would become irritable and unreasonable as resentment grew. With program, the author has learned to deal with their problems and...
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