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Donations Needed for Web Hosting - UPDATED
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Our GoDaddy annual subscription of $187.87 for web hosting is due May 15. A MIP member has graciously volunteered to collect donations via PayPal and use the funds to pay our bill. Please use PayPal to send donations of any amount to lightning711@yahoo.com ------------------------ Financia...
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Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms
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Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...
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MIP meeting room
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i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...
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MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times
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.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...
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THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON
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The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...
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MIP Business Board
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The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...
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INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION
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The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...
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Do's and Don'ts
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Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...
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Step Work Board
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http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...
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Courage to Change 6/12
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Good morning and happy Saturday MIP. Today's reading talks about Step 10 - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. It is suggested that this step is a gentle, warm and loving way to take care of self. By continuing to take our own inventory and admitting pro...
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June 11 - C2C - Amends
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Today's reading asks the question, if the Ninth Step says we need not make direct amends to someone we have harmed "if to do so would injure them or others," -- then how do we decide what kind of amends to make, and when? Today's author says that if they are willing to make amends, then higher power will l...
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email ugliness from the ex - can I reduce this?
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I wonder if there is a way to reduce the amount of email/texting contact I have with my ex. We live in the same house (for 2 more months) and have 2 kids so I understand it isn't possible to cut him off entirely. But I wish there was a way to reduce it. I feel like things are hitting a new level of low for him, wh...
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June 10, 2021 – ODAT – Only One Side Of The Story
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In todays reading the author discusses when a newcomer to Al-Anon "tells his/her sponsor about the alcoholicconflict in the home" and how what is recanted is "only one side of the story."Our involvement in the chaos can literally make it difficult, in the midst of the upheaval, to see that our senseo...
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Courage to Change June 9
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Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about Step 7. The author shares that when they got to step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our short comings), they initially stumbled over the very first word - humbly. The author felt that being humble their whole life had only resulted in abuse. But then, the author r...
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I Know You're Lying
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I'm looking for ESH for dealing with the lying. Of course I've learned from experience(tons of experience) that calling AH on a lie leads to nothing good at all. I don't need to describe or explain how that goes,I'm sure you all already know. I don't really want to just allow all the lying to be someth...
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P-p-p-panic... but not on Step 12?
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Hi y'a'll... heading for a northern city where i plan to roll out some ACA stuff. I have an Alanon meeting pegged in for Monday coming. Alanon is thin on the ground in NZ- and ACA thinner. So Alanon groups are great standbys for us- with the alcoholic or addiction in the family... One time I thought I wo...
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6/8/21 Courage to Change – Hanging on to Defects
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Today's writer admits to a guilty pleasure of enjoying their Step 6 defects, in this case thoughts of Revenge and payback for wrongs, along with the satisfaction of pridefully thinking they were always right.Also acknowledged, however, was that this practice kept them from treating self and othe...
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When Lois threw the shoe
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One part of Lois Wilson's story is that one night Bill was hurrying her up to go to a meeting. Lois picked up a shoe and threw it as hard as she could at him. Then she said a few choice words about Alcoholcs Anonymours. I have spent most of my life throwing shoes. Any time there was an issue I got all riled u...
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briefly I don't like change or challenges
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I don't like to have to adjust myself to whatever comes my way! I am very stubborn & really don't like change at all. I know that the only constant thing is change. I have tried to work the Program on these issues & lately I can't stand the way I have been thinking. I am managing to live one day at a tim...
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ODAT in alanon, 6/7, A deeper look at courtesy
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The reading for Monday, June 7th, asks us to think about courtesy. In alanon, courtesy is thought to express loving and warm concern for the other persons comfort. The writer says we often overlook this in the home. In How Alanon Works for the Families and Friends of Alcoholics, that author says th...
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Hope for Today June 6
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the power of detachment. The writer describes becoming pretty good at detaching from tense situations or arguments by removing him/herself from the scenario and reading some of the Alanon literature or responding to criticism with you may be rig...
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Learned helplessness- old habits die hard.
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We didn't take our kayaks out once this year- they still sit on the garage floor. Fact is that we went to rowing six or seven times. We have an old English caravan- and hauled i dover the pass into the next big valley. Two of our grand-kids are rowers. Both were in the national champs- and we ended up goin...
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6th step
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When Betty was active in this board she was very diligent about mentioning the steps. I have grown to really love the meetings that focus on topics. How her presence is missed on a daily basis For me today I have been exposed to a large number of essential workers who have been working under such duress....
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ODAT in alanon, 5/31, For their own good?
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In the reading for Monday, 5/31, the author questions whether we should create a crisis for the alcoholic to help them come to their senses? They go on to say this idea is misunderstood and wrongly applied. They say further that it is not our job to interfere with the drinkers activities, plan pitfal...
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What did I do for myself today
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well I am becoming my own auto mechanic on the basics. I had to change out the engine filter and the cabin filter in the car and a very nice gentleman stood over me and watched me do my thing, supervising me and he was very impressed that I knew how to do that crap and that I used common sense and that I looked at...
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online vs live sponsor?
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Hi all. In recent months I've not attended my F2F group because my Q has no drivers license and my kid had an activity that required me to drive him to/from, and thus miss my meeting. I was literally about to ask a person in my group to be my sponsor, but now I've been away from meetings and I've since learned...
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A Saturday share
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My life is busy and full these days- at the age of 70. I suffered from chronic pain all of my life. Three ir four years ago i was running to the bathroom every 20 mins. ... The first of April, in Courage To Change -from memory- brings us the three A's Anxiety, anguish and annihilation. No, no no... awar...
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Courage to Change 6/5
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The author suggests that this Power, for them, is a presence that loves as is, accepts with compassion on bad days as well as good days. Once we accept alc...
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June 4 - C2C - Hope
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Today's reading covers the basics of the Second Step. It suggests that we open our minds to the possibility that help is available to do for us what we are unable to do for ourselves -- restore us to sanity. We don't have to believe that it will happen, only that it could happen. This glimmer of hope might s...
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June 3, 2021 – ODAT – Personal Changes
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Todays reading suggests that if we want to correct a bad habit, daily practice of a good replacement is what Al-Anon helps us strive for. It is also suggested that, "we learn we cannot go on functioning as we have been, impulsively and automatically, if we hope to improve our lives."The reading goes o...
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Helping others rather than helping yourself
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My life used to revolve around helping others. In particular the qualifier only had to ask me for help and I dropped everything to go to extraordinary lengths for him. He was really a very very good manipulator. In fact he was expert at it. Many alcoholic addicts are. This week I heard that someone wh...
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Things I think about...
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Hi Y'all... ...I have a sponsee now. In a different part of the country- but we zoom. My hunch is- to see newcomers do their steps 2 and 3 within the group. To find their higher power. To shake down our belief systems. This is not something I am telling Alanon to do! Au contraire. it is just a personal choi...
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Corona virus update
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In this past week I spoke to one of my co workers who told me basically she is not getting vaccinated Another one of my coworkers is also not getting vaccinated I can detach pretty quickly. However the barriers around COVID are far more then basic. Wearing a mask all the time is beyond tedious. The soc...
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Today's Hope June 2
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Today's topic is from yesterday's share on today's hope.
Don't just do something-sit there. The author reflects on how hard it can be to not jump to action, to sit in uncertainty or discomfort. The author at times finds it impossible to act because of fear, and equally difficult to sit still. At such t...
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6/1/21 Courage to Change – Expectation > Resentment?
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Today's writer recalls the saying that an expectation is a 'premeditated resentment'. We may hold certain standards as important to us, but then expect others also to hold to them or face our judgment or wrath.Alternative: adjust our expectation of others, especially when we are aware there is hig...
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What can I say? It does get better!
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Sometimes it gets different before it gets better but it does! I am living proof that the sun always rises after the dawn. It is memorial day Friday today & I already put some special things on my stepdad's grave & it felt pretty good. Of course it is sad & I cried. His wife my mom is laid to rest...
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May 27, 2021 – ODAT – Getting Our Perspective
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In todays reading the author is speaking about when our problems are overwhelming and thatthe fault may lie with the fact that our perception of the problem is the problem!When we parse out and go beyond the problematic thinking we realize that we do have anoption to "Let Go and Let God." Sometimes o...
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Courage to Change 5/29
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about fear and worry. This sentence, "When we anticipate doom, we lose touch with what is happening now and see the world as a threatening place against which we must be on constant alert." speaks to me today. We were informed yesterday that my AH's youngest bro...
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Hope for Today May 30
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on gratitude. The writer expresses gratitude for the message of hope in al-anon, for the literature, and for strong and helpful sponsors. The writer acknowledged that early in the program the feeling was more one of defeat than gratitude, and certai...
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One day out and we're back to the same old BS
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So my daughter who was in rehab and returned home Wednesday is back to her old ways. I was holding on to hope after speaking with her and her therapist on Monday that she was going to follow through. She seemed so sincere. PHP for 2 weeks and IOP after. She was supposed to go to PHP yesterday and did not. ...
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A Letter Home- Saturday share,,,
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Kia ora koutou... greetings from New Zealand. Today I am in New Zealand's biggest city, Auckland. I tend to call it "Awkvegas". If I tried to find a meeting here- Would get bamboozled in the first ten minutes- trying to find the rooms! 60 years ago most of us lived out in the country and a tangi [funeral] w...
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Hope for Today May 23
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of al-anon. The writer describes a situation in which he/she was told after a meeting that he/she was speaking so quietly the words were inaudible. The writer considered what this message from the two people who mentioned this at the mee...
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May 28 - ODAT - Resentment
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Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon talks about resentment and the desire for retaliation against someone who we believe has hurt us. It asks if we really know the other person's motive, and suggests that in some cases the hurt might have been unintentional or we might have been over sensit...
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Anxiety Inside My Hula Hoop
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It's a little after 3:00 in the afternoon right now. AH is drunk,slurring and making/receiving phone calls during this. Right now he's talking to his mother. I walked away from his conversation with her. I so wanted to correct his words, everything he is saying he is pronouncing wrong. His words wer...
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Courage to Change May 26
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that they at times have tried to avoid making the same mistake twice by creating strict rules for their behavior. However, it is impossible to plan for everything that might happen in the future, and by doing so, the author realized that they were limi...
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My F2F group...
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Two of our members were in other parts of the country this week. In this neck of the woods- a solo member my sit alone for months and months sometimes, waiting for the next member to arrive. But tonight there were two of us there- and we got a newcomer. In our district one rural city has large Alanon gr...
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Straws in the wind...
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The idea of straws and winnowing appeals to me. An image i used a lot in my healing. Gleaning too- from The Book of Ruth. But also that grim saying:- "The straw that broke the camel's back." I was broken and lost for much of my life. So lost there was no way out. I did need a miracle- because I was so stuck....
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5/25/21 C2C – How Are You…Really?
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For a long time, this page author would automatically answer 'Fine, how are you?', even when they were not. Some may point to denial as a trait of alcoholics when in fact, we may use it just as much by always pretending that 'everything is fine'.Honesty is an important part of Alanon recovery, and deter...
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Impulsivity
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One of my core issues with the qualifier was his impulsivity. He reacted constantly. He was barely able to contain his emotions There is a long list of things he did that brought chaos to my life: 1) Quit jobs 2) Lost jobs 3) spent money (lots of it) 4) Had car accidents (I lost count) 5) Stormed out an...
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Recovery song- long before AA and Alanon...
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We have two gorges out of this valley, and two passes. We are slap-bang in the middle of this big island. I have to go up one gorge to my meeting- which seems to be going well. ... First weeks- I was playing heavy prison blues in my truck. But just lately i notice a change. Many people won't have heard of...
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6 step
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Originally AA was 6 steps. Bill W decided to expand it to 12 steps In the beginning it was a knowledged that what kept the alcoholic sober was going to meetings Certainly for me dealing with numerous qualifiers but one truly sociopathic one before I came into these rooms I had to trust that al anon mig...
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Courage to Change 5/22
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Good morning MIP and happy Saturday to all. Today's reading is all about the gift of a spiritual relationship with a higher power that we gain in our recovery journey. We come to realize that we are powerless to change the fact that alcoholism has affected our lives. We come to believe that a Power gr...
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Divorced finalized and so many things have already gotten easier.
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My divorce was finalized about a week ago. Although we are still in the same house (and will be until the end of the year), I feel like this is bringing me to a whole new level of recovery and I am Very happy about it. Now that we are no longer connected by law, I don't have to use any imagination to work my pro...
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May 21 - Courage to Change - Humility
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Today's reading in Courage to Change talks about the quietness of heart that comes from taking the Seventh Step, "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings." Humbly means calmly. It is not groveling, and it is not trying to impress. Humility is not humiliating. It is doing my part, and trusting a...
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C2C, 5/17, right here, right now
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In the reading for Monday 5/17, the author says we really have no choice but to live one day at a time. We can make plans and scheme, but we cannot control results. We can compress ODAT to one hour or one minute, which can make life not only bearable but precious. By focusing on what is going on right here...
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C2C, 5/24, can we let go of self-will
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This reading is for Monday, 5/24. Oscar Wilde is quoted: In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it. The last is much the worst. The writer says their will gets them into trouble, for even if they get it, they are not satisfied. The 12 Ste...
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Manipulation and Guilt
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Why do I feel guilty when I know I am being manipulated and say no? My situation is making me sick to my stomach. I cannot seem to get it through my daughter's head that the gravy train is derailed! When I say no, she keeps telling me I never help her and curses at me and threatens to start doing illegal thi...
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Courage to Change May 19
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In today's reading, the author reflects on a former belief that if they could just find the right words, do the right things, dress in the right way, etc. people would agree with them and they would be accepted and belong. The author tended to look at others and believe that their outward appearances (h...
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May 20, 2021 – ODAT – Al-Anon 12 Steps
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The author of todays reading brings to light the guiding "illumination" of reading and working the 12 Steps of Al-Anonand the benefits that not only helps the AA member but that the Al-Anon Step program guides the Al-Anon membersto attain the "aspirations" of a new beginning of a better way to live as...
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