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It's time for voluntary contributions to support our MIP forums. We are currently paid up through May 2020, and need $215.76 to extend that through the next 12 months. The donation link is below. Please note that the form says Al-Anon Family Groups, but donations will support all the forums on MIP...
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i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...
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.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...
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The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...
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Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms
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Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...
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MIP Business Board
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The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...
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GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...
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INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION
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The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...
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Do's and Don'ts
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Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...
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Step Work Board
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http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...
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COURAGE TO CHANGE 10/24
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"The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...
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Saturday Share....
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We have a new member here... in my first group- if we had a new members, or members, we would do a Step One meeting. Basically where everyone could share their ESH- as it was on that day... ...I use social media a lot. I embraced facebook. Our community had doubled in size over the last four years. A...
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Grief/Letting up painful feelings
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Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...
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worse week so far...
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This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...
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Newbie
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Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...
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Each one of us is precious.
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I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...
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One of my recovery girls OD'd yesterday
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She was four years sober and attended our recovery groups at the church for quite some time...Live at the recovery center here in town and b4 Covid hit she had JUST gotten her new flat and was so excited to not have to live with mom anymore... yesterday, she OD'd and left behind 4 babies, all under 6 years o...
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Hope for Today, October 23
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The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...
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C2C - 10/21
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Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...
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Another Alanon share...
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I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...
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The trade secret of John F. founder of the MIP groups...
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We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...
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Courage to Change October 21
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The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...
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Courage to Change 10/17/20
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Good morning, MIP family! Today's reading in C2C speaks of Al-Anon specifically. The author talks about as a newcomers many of us were surprised at the minimal rules of Al-Anon. Before recovery, we may have had a very strict sense of order in our lives -- the only thing that may have kept our ships afloa...
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Al-Anon Friendships
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COVID and the moving to no meetings, online meetings, zoom, etc... has brought me a new insight I may not have gotten otherwise. I have listened to many speakers who talk about the connections they have through their AlAnon Group Meetings, Service, etc... I have attended since 2013 and have gone 5 ye...
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Hope for Today Oct 18
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reflection on the Serenity prayer. God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The writer acknowledges that when first coming to alanon it was impossible to tell the...
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Sponsorship
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Hi Guys a bit of advice please. I have been in Al-Anon for just over 2 years and I honestly cant think it enough. I honestly felt I was losing my mind before I got to meetings. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 24 years. When I met my wife she barely drank at all but over the last 6 years or so it p...
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C2C, 10/19
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The reading for Monday, 10/19, reminds us that we are not responsible for the workings of the universe. It is important to take care of our responsibilities and let HP do the rest. We can do the best we can, but cannot force actions to take place. Struggling and worrying are useless. Let go and let Go...
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10/20/20 ODAT Let Go, Let God
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The simplicity of a slogan does not rule out varied interpretation, sometimes fueled by long held notions.Example in today's reading: Let Go, Let God may sound to some as an easy way out: Announce abandonment of a problem over to god's care, forget about it, and it gets magically resolved.While the p...
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Yellow balloon
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Another beautiful send off. We let the yellow balloon go free & saw it rise into the clouds. Just for my mom. She was an Alanon member.
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Monday, Monday...
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... a good start... a bit cloudy outside... cool spring... ...we had big glitch in our church. It is a tiny one, really... [church that is] [but a seemingly big glitch.] But it did work through yesterday. The senior poster and I was on opposite poles, as far as our election went on Saturday. So I too...
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TID BITS OF WISDOM_MONDAY
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I am never alonenever abandonednever desertednever judgednever chastisedand never without Gods aid.--Shelley"As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.My soul thirsts for God."Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than critici...
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"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...
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If I was on my last year of life------
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Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...
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M mom passed away(brief)
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My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...
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"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...
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Memorial service tomorrow
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I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...
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Gratitude
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I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...
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how to heal
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I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM
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ODAT - October 16
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Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...
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A glitch, relapse- ugh! [Long]
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I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...
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C2C - 10/15
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Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...
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Courage to Change October 14
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In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...
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This story speaks to us- our founders are heroes...
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can you mute or block someone on Private message???
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I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...
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Re-experiencing loss
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Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...
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Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it
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Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...
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The last of my sisters died
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She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...
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Getting my head around JADE
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Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...
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C2C, 10/12
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In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...
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10/13/20 C2C – Easy Does it
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Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...
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It is all set w no regrets
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I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...
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The Need To Defend Myself
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I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...
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Courage to Change 10/10
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Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...
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Courage to Change 10/8
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Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...
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Hope for Today Oct 11
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...
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It's been a while / brand new qualifier(s)
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Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...
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Courage to Change - October 9 - Surrender
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The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...
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Progress, not perfection...
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Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...
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Newbie again picking up the solutions from the past.
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I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...
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Struggling to keep perspective
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My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...
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