|
|
STICKY:
MIP Business Board
(Preview)
The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...
|
WebHelper
|
4
|
275
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON
(
1 2
)
(Preview)
The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...
|
Tigger
|
62
|
45437
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Continuation of Funding Drive
(Preview)
Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...
|
hotrod
|
12
|
626
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
MIP Funding Drive
(Preview)
Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...
|
hotrod
|
16
|
839
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
(closed)
(Preview)
GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...
|
david62
|
24
|
44562
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION
(closed)
(Preview)
The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...
|
hotrod
|
7
|
2198
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Do's and Don'ts
(closed)
(Preview)
Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...
|
david62
|
33
|
12119
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times
(Preview)
.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...
|
courage101
|
12
|
2005
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
MIP meeting room
(Preview)
i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...
|
lookingup
|
30
|
1129
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms
(Preview)
Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...
|
hotrod
|
20
|
9952
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Step Work Board
(closed)
(Preview)
http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...
|
John
|
16
|
14540
|
|
|
|
Hope for Today Jan 20
(Preview)
Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...
|
yanksfan51
|
3
|
24
|
|
|
|
|
Men in Al-Anon
(Preview)
I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...
|
canadianguy
|
6
|
97
|
|
|
|
|
Relapse after 120 days
(Preview)
My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...
|
MelanieJ
|
4
|
28
|
|
|
|
|
Marriage Counseling --can I talk about the alcohol? anyone have experience with marriage counseling?
(Preview)
So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...
|
Dancer66
|
12
|
122
|
|
|
|
|
Why does it hurt so much?
(Preview)
Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...
|
Twinkies
|
8
|
92
|
|
|
|
|
My slogan for today
(Preview)
LET IT BEGIN WITH ME ***************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...
|
mamalioness
|
3
|
21
|
|
|
|
|
Meeting starting in chat room
(Preview)
Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM
|
Overcome
|
1
|
23
|
|
|
|
|
A look at the Serenity Prayer
(Preview)
We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...
|
mamalioness
|
0
|
13
|
|
|
|
|
TID BITS OF WISDOM_17 JAN
(Preview)
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. --Carl Jung (1875 - 1961) The best portions of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts, of kindness and love. --William WordsworthAlone we can do so little; together we can do so much. --Helen...
|
mamalioness
|
5
|
55
|
|
|
|
|
Irritated ..
(Preview)
I'm really trying not to react vs respond to what's going on at the moment. If there was a middle finger emoji it would so be flying .. and I apologize I get a little to real with things at times. I am utterly dumbfounded at the moment for someone who "isn't drinking" .. "living a Christian life" the man i...
|
SerenityRUS
|
9
|
203
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change, January 18
(Preview)
When starting out in Al-Anon, the author was disturbed to hear that the best way to help an alcoholic is to focus on ourselves. It seemed heartless to stop helping our loved ones. Then another member shared that our desire to help is compassionate, but our old ways of helping may not be helpful. If we d...
|
Freetime
|
9
|
67
|
|
|
|
|
What is AlAnons position?
(Preview)
Hi, Where can answers to these questions be found in our literature? (TIA)What is AlAnon's position on members bringing kids fundraisers for schools, bands, sports, etc..in to meeting rooms before, during and after meetings? What is AlAnon's position on members bringing in home business ite...
|
Conflicted
|
3
|
68
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change 1/17/19
(Preview)
Today's reading talks about our own process of self-discovery using Al-Anon. The author discusses that perhaps searching from bar to bar, making scenes in public places and getting hysterical over little things is a bit insane. Often, we (friends and family) are the ones who agonize over the alc...
|
Iamhere
|
6
|
54
|
|
|
|
|
Cross Talk
(Preview)
Curious does AlAnon have any literature approaching this related to within meetings? Are there official guidelines related to cross talk? -- Edited by Conflicted on Friday 18th of January 2019 12:33:56 AM
|
Conflicted
|
6
|
85
|
|
|
|
|
My Half Baked Idea
(Preview)
OK.. I hope this will make you lol if you're not having a good day. Mine has been one of feeling powerless but just accepting it. So here goes.. I thought I might help the alcoholic in my life and myself to eat a little healthier. We both like desserts but they are often high fat and high sugar and we're beg...
|
tiredtonite
|
9
|
106
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change January 16
(Preview)
In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author reflects on an important lesson they have learned in AlAnon - thinking before speaking. The author shares that they used to say everything that came to mind, even if they were not sure if what they said was true. Through work in the program, the autho...
|
Skorpi
|
8
|
58
|
|
|
|
|
Received validation
(Preview)
As my dating life unfolds, the one man I had been dating, well last weekend, after 7 months of knowing him, he admitted to me he is an active alcoholic and said you can not leave any alcohol around my home as I will drink it. I was feeling a bit crazy and feeling a bit unstable being around him. I thought it was...
|
joker
|
6
|
73
|
|
|
|
|
Relapse and Denial
(Preview)
I am rarely at a loss for words, but find myself there tonight. The details are not important - I am. So often, we can get bogged down in the what happened and the summary is my son has relapsed. Of course, as the evidence presented last evening, my mind goes off to the races wondering how long has this be...
|
Iamhere
|
25
|
240
|
|
|
|
|
Watching the progression
(Preview)
Hello MIP family, I am sure I have written before about the undeniable progression of my AH's disease. It is obviously taking its toll on him physically and cognitively. The times we can be out doing "normal" activities is getting shorter and shorter before he is ready to pass out or even somewhat en...
|
El
|
5
|
105
|
|
|
|
|
Some memories...
(Preview)
Hi y'all Coming up 36 years in Alanon... I am blessed, truly blessed to be here... it was hard at first- and nothing seemed to happen. "now, if not sooner" seems to be the motto at that stage. I am 13 or 14 in this photo. A wee squirt. By age 20 I was 5'6"... This was our family home- our kitchen. I had gotten...
|
DavidG
|
6
|
68
|
|
|
|
|
ODAT Reading 1-15-2019
(Preview)
The ODAT Reading for today, January,15 speaks about the erroneous assumption that once the alcoholic reaches sobriety all our problems will be solved. The reading points out that this is an illusion. Sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. We both need to work to overcome the emo...
|
hotrod
|
5
|
54
|
|
|
|
|
Prayers/good thoughts, etc. requested
(Preview)
Went to see my Primary Care Physician this morning. This is funny--first one in 40 years and he's retiring in 2 months. I'd been seen by his nurse, and therefor contaminated before I ever got to talk to him, and he's this big teddy bear of a man who comes in beaming at me. And I broke down sobbing while he w...
|
Temple
|
24
|
178
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 13 Hope for Today
(Preview)
Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about taking inventory, examining our behavior and participating in our own recovery. The writer describes meetings when a group inventory was taken. The writer felt impatient and anxious to get back to the meeting without the inventory. He/she began t...
|
yanksfan51
|
11
|
97
|
|
|
|
|
Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room
(Preview)
Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room. Follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Unacceptable Behavior and dealing with lies and excuses from the alcoholic. Open topic as it applies to the al-anon program. Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Mo...
|
Overcome
|
0
|
22
|
|
|
|
|
C2C, 1/14
(Preview)
The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the al...
|
Lyne
|
3
|
45
|
|
|
|
|
Therapy visits
(Preview)
Good morning everyone. Had my first visit with the therapist today. Fortunate to meet with someone who I think I am going to stick with, so her personality meshes with my personality very well. We of course covered a lot of basics when it comes to what I want out of therapy/life. It felt good to sit down an...
|
gloves808
|
12
|
165
|
|
|
|
|
How did I take care of me today????
(Preview)
BIG PROGRESS!!!! I went into work today and told everyone that I was still sore from my back and that I would work as long as it was still comfortable adn then I'm leaving when I get tired and sore.....so the folks may or may NOT get their W2's... I was stiff and a bit sore after 4 hrs.,doing my regular work, s...
|
mamalioness
|
7
|
57
|
|
|
|
|
My Soul Just Hurts!
(Preview)
Hey Family... To Say I've had a Blessed Holiday would be an Understatement... I have Had So Many Wonderful Moments with my Kids, Grandkids, Nieces & Nephews, Mom, Siblings, and Friends...Even got a New Puppy to Love... and Her Name too is "Jozie" :D But For what ever Reason, My Heart is Just In Such...
|
Jozie
|
11
|
169
|
|
|
|
|
TEMPLE
(Preview)
the "kids" are playing waaay past our bedtime....older dog got sick and tired of the play so she got up, off her nice towel and LEFT...She is in the office, in her crate, crashed out on her stuff toys..... It 11pm so I'm gonna tell these kids to go to bed.... Got you these 2 videos...when you click on them, t...
|
mamalioness
|
4
|
73
|
|
|
|
|
Realization about why I am attracted to active alcoholics
(Preview)
I have been working hard on my recovery with breaks in between so I do not get overwhelmed. I am accessing one on one therapy along with reading on line here and I had a break through. I have been dating two different type of men. One that is sober and does not drink and we get along very well and another that i...
|
joker
|
12
|
129
|
|
|
|
|
Can you simply stop talking about it?
(Preview)
Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...
|
Twinkies
|
5
|
117
|
|
|
|
|
what am i grateful for today
(Preview)
I made a NEW friend who is in recovery like me..we had a GREAT chat at coffee grateful that I have a warm, dry place to sleep in this soggy, cold weather
|
mamalioness
|
6
|
86
|
|
|
|
|
A New Start
(Preview)
It's been awhile since I've posted here, although I do visit and read your posts from time to time. For those of you who are new to the board, here is where I was almost six years ago to this day: https://alanon.activeboard.com/t52215254/this-horrible-disease-took-away-my-ah-last-night/ Tod...
|
Green Eyes
|
8
|
101
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change, January 11
(Preview)
Good morning, MIP Family -- That is exactly the topic of today's reading. The author feels lucky to have found a second family where they can speak freely, be accepted as they are, have the dignity to solve their own problems, and are freely given the empathy and love that they deserve just by being the...
|
Freetime
|
6
|
55
|
|
|
|
|
Stepping out of my comfort zone tonight
(Preview)
The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are bu...
|
Twinkies
|
10
|
102
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change 1/10/19
(Preview)
Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses worry. The author suggests that when we succumb to worry, we open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices and relentless self-criticism. When we give substance to this worry, we lose touch with reality, and typically nothing useful...
|
Iamhere
|
5
|
56
|
|
|
|
|
Let go. Let HP
(Preview)
The slogan says let go and let God, I just say let go let my higher power and boy was I tested with that this afternoon when I came home I fired up my computer and the profile would not load, I kept getting an error so I did deal let go and let God. And I also paused and prayed. I took deep breaths and said OK, will g...
|
mamalioness
|
2
|
69
|
|
|
|
|
someone help
(Preview)
my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...
|
loranard
|
21
|
196
|
|
|
|
|
If I told you this already, forgive me. Bear of very small mind presently.
(Preview)
When I came home from the hospital the second time, everything was very rosy around here. Husband had gotten enough of a scare about losing me to be over hisownself, and I had had my night of forgiveness and acceptance and all. And everything was more loving than it's been in decades. And I asked him on...
|
Temple
|
4
|
60
|
|
|
|
|
Courage to Change January 9
(Preview)
Hello MIP! Today's C2C speaks about one of my own character defects: looking outside myself for approval. The author shares that when the approval of others becomes necessary in order for us to feel satisfaction in our own good works, when the applause of others become THE reason for our behavior o...
|
Skorpi
|
6
|
49
|
|
|
|
|
In God's time...
(Preview)
I saw some pictures posted on facebook by our grand daughter in law of the great grand kids. How stunning in beauty they are!! I desire to hug/hold them again while they are "up there" and we are "down here" oceans apart. We found out that grand son/daughter are separated...so soon after being marri...
|
JerryF
|
11
|
98
|
|
|
|
|
Canadian Guy
(Preview)
Tom-- So glad to see you on the board. Would love to hear how it is working out with the new GF, should you decide to share. You are able to sit up and type, so I am encouraged. Well that was pretty snarky, wasn't it. You've been forgiving me for a long time,and I hope you continue. And I really do want you to b...
|
Temple
|
4
|
72
|
|
|
|
|
what is wrong w/ me?
(Preview)
Not looking for a diagnosis or anything. I just need to share a few things that have been happening. Actually if I shared what I really feel would anyone really care? Sometimes when I go to any kind of meeting, it seems that I always feel uncomfortable when I leave. I can't believe I have after 33 years in t...
|
Hoot Nanny
|
3
|
57
|
|
|
|
|
To Jerry
(Preview)
Thanks for the reminder about Psycho-Cybernetics. I read it a million years ago and forgot. Have to see if I still have it, or get another copy. I've read every self-help book and New Thought kind of thing, it seems, and lots of it has been helpful. I tend to be a "sampler" and always moving onto the next...
|
Temple
|
12
|
85
|
|
|
|
|
A story about my mom .. lol
(Preview)
I realize as I get older that there are a couple of things going on .. first off my mom just can't help herself .. and second off .. it's not going to change. I was a bad daughter and didn't call during the holidays which sends my mother into panic mode that I'm angry with her .. I'm not angry .. I just don't wan...
|
SerenityRUS
|
6
|
96
|
|
|
|
|
Struggling with ex-A in rehab
(Preview)
Hi, all -- I don't often post here but in between my local meetings, I read a lot here and get a lot of strength and clarity from all of you. I am posting because I have been struggling a bit since my ex-husband ("R)") announced that he'd decided to go to rehab, and then entered rehab on Dec. 17. We were marrie...
|
norasq
|
14
|
128
|
|
|
|
|
Asking for some input, please
(Preview)
Hi family! I am struggling today... I would say not with the same issues, but you know, it all circles back to Letting Go and lack of control. Here is the backstory - My Kid is now 18. He struggles with anxiety. He has had periodic episodes of such high anxiety, that he begins crying and has a panic attack. T...
|
PosiesandPuppies
|
25
|
219
|
|
|
|
|
NON-resistance_09 Jan (Each day a new beginning)
(Preview)
Each Day a New Beginning The Chinese say that water is the most powerful element, because it is perfectly nonresistant. It can wear away a rock and sweep all before it. --Florence Scovel Shinn **Florence talks about nonresistance being the key to serenity and better karmic energy in our lives....
|
mamalioness
|
3
|
40
|
|
|
|
|
Down with another back spasm but I see change in me
(Preview)
Down with another back spasm but I see a change in me. I didnt go nuts with anger, I didnt curse it and God for this horrible pain. I just immediately started deep breathing, took a whole med instead of 1/2. Immediately started stretching, did everything that you do when you first are stricken with one o...
|
mamalioness
|
15
|
106
|
|
