Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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Iamhere · Iamhere

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Iamhere · Iamhere

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hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Regardless of circumstances, we have the capability to take at least a small step towards a positive result or feeling notes this writer. This can be an action in the program, for someone else, addressing a health or emotional need of our own, something we fear, something that will recharge or stir o...

Lyne · Lyne

The newcomer to alanon is given a suggestion to wait 6 months before making any major decisions. Thinking can change dramatically after 6 months of program. At that time, the writer decided to continue to wait, to learn and to recover, before deciding about their relationship. But the writer ha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the slogan: think. As the writer points out, for many of us thinking (too much) is the problem. The intention of this one word slogan is to think before acting, think without acting impulsively, act with thoughtfulness, not reaction. The writer ha...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...

SunnyFrog · SunnyFrog

I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...

DM2021 · DM2021

I must warn you all you may find this long! Today's C2C reading discusses how anyone new to Al-Anon expects that they will learn how to "cure" the alcoholic in their life. That the Al-Anon program will, in essence, produce their serenity, by easing all their past and present pain. What we soonlea...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This author worked hard learning and applying Alanon principles before falling prey to self pity and resentment over the perceived failures of the alcoholic to deliver emotional support. Meditation on Steps 6 and 7 shed light: were entirely ready, humbly asking higher power to remove our shortc...

Chinstrap · Chinstrap

Hello, I'm sure my story is a familiar one. My husband of 4 years has always had a problem with drinking to excess. Previous to meeting me it resulted in serious cases of self harm. When we got together he seemed to turn a corner despite some back slides but I always made sure I was there for him, loved h...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading begins: " The alcoholic was obsessed with alcohol, and I was obsessed with the alcoholic.". The writer watched, monitored, controlled, felt hurt, self-pity, embarrassment, superiority, resentment, and anger. The writer also felt misery, wretchedness, and gloom, but eventuall...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of violence, and of the fact that whilst al-anon does not give advice regarding staying or leaving relationships, but emphasises personal responsibility for our own safety and well-being. It reminds us that no matter how unfair, dangerous or harmful the behaviour of another is...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Last week I mistakenly wrote a reflection on todays date in Hope for Today, so todays reflection will be from Jan 22, in case you have the book and are reading as well. Todays reading is a focus on the al-anon suggestions to seek progress rather than perfection and to mind our own b...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's C2C reading suggests that one cannot make changes for a multitude of issues, in one day. That sometimes we find our selves so troubled over a small issue when in fact that small issue is just the strawthat broke the camel's back. Talking it out with an Al-Anon member or sponsor ca...

shimo · shimo

A Credo of Detachment by Evelyn Leite You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs. I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain. I will try to have sympathy for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares about how hard it was to talk about themselves in meetings initially, and how hard it was to focus on themselves, their feelings, their wants, and their needs. With the help of their sponsor, the author realized that they were overly interested in others because...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers alcoholism as a disease, something that cannot be controlled by will power alone. If that is so, why do I perhaps act toward the alcoholic like it can be? Reminder - 'Arguments are useless against sickness.' Compassion and understanding are powerful and helpful because they...

WendyP · WendyP

HI it's WendyP, at the moment I am going through a very stressful family issue, and feeling the effects of it, not being able to sleep, eat, etc, and because I am in that zone at the moment, and feeling like I am, I started to Question myself, if I was working my program, and not working my program. I started...

Drpc · Drpc

My AH is now sober and active in AA. I found out that he cheated on me for years with different women and I am having so much trouble forgiving him. Is there anything in Al-anon that can specifically help with cheating or would I find a therapist?

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer is exploring how to understand and keep an attitude of gratitude. It isn't when life happens the way we want, nor a high from instant gratification. Instead, it has been learned that gratitude is an integral part of serenity, and it is often the means to restoring serenity. Gratitu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between our responsibilities and the responsibilities we take on out of some sense of obligation. The writer begins with a comparison between how the responsibility and authority of Al-anon world services belongs to al-anon grou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Apologies everybody- I wrote about the writing for 1/29. Next week I will double back and write about 1/22. sorry- the last thing I want to do is wish time away! m

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's reading it is about the spiritual foundation of one of Al-Anon's Traditions, "anonymity."The author tries to impress on the reader the importance of both the members and the alcoholicsanonymity and the obligation membership has to provide for each other a safe, free from labelsenviro...

youknowme2 · youknowme2

Me here. I had to make yet another new account. I'm so sorry- I must have 6 or 7 now. My computer was destroyed yesterday in a random electrical event (I am so sad about it, it's an expensive nightmare) and when I tried to log in from my old laptop it didn't have my details. I wasn't able to recover my password...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shared that they almost didn't come back to Al-Anon when they heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on oneself. The author interpreted Al-Anon as a heartless place, and a place that would force them to stop caring about their loved ones. The a...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently my ex Spouse managed to get his second (of 3) DUIs dismissed. This despite a staggeringly awful police report, and the fact that he couldn't even show up to the arraignment because he was in the hospital for alcohol withdrawl. And yet the legal system is very happy to ignore the fact that he dr...

luv123 · luv123

I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...

DM2021 · DM2021

Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...

luv123 · luv123

HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...

imom · imom

I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...

glad lee · glad lee

This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...

Lyne · Lyne

Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...

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	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	25	21717	Feb 3, 2021 by DavidG
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	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	51981	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	8122	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
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	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	19869	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
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	C2C, Monday, 2/6, Please wait (Preview) The newcomer to alanon is given a suggestion to wait 6 months before making any major decisions. Thinking can change dramatically after 6 months of program. At that time, the writer decided to continue to wait, to learn and to recover, before deciding about their relationship. But the writer ha...	Lyne	2	18	6h ago by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Feb 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the slogan: think. As the writer points out, for many of us thinking (too much) is the problem. The intention of this one word slogan is to think before acting, think without acting impulsively, act with thoughtfulness, not reaction. The writer ha...	yanksfan51	2	19	yesterday by PosiesandPuppies
	Hey All...Sharing my Life Updates (Preview) Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...	Iamhere	14	132	2 days ago by tiredtonite
	Forgiveness (Preview) I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...	SunnyFrog	22	162	3 days ago by SunnyFrog
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	1/31/23 C2C Hard Work: Necessary, but not Sufficient (Preview) This author worked hard learning and applying Alanon principles before falling prey to self pity and resentment over the perceived failures of the alcoholic to deliver emotional support. Meditation on Steps 6 and 7 shed light: were entirely ready, humbly asking higher power to remove our shortc...	Enigmatic	5	48	5 days ago by Taraxacum1
	Need guidance/advice (Preview) Hello, I'm sure my story is a familiar one. My husband of 4 years has always had a problem with drinking to excess. Previous to meeting me it resulted in serious cases of self harm. When we got together he seemed to turn a corner despite some back slides but I always made sure I was there for him, loved h...	Chinstrap	6	64	7 days ago by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/30, obsession (Preview) This reading begins: " The alcoholic was obsessed with alcohol, and I was obsessed with the alcoholic.". The writer watched, monitored, controlled, felt hurt, self-pity, embarrassment, superiority, resentment, and anger. The writer also felt misery, wretchedness, and gloom, but eventuall...	Lyne	2	30	8 days ago by DM2021
	C2C 29 September- Violence and personal responsibility. (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of violence, and of the fact that whilst al-anon does not give advice regarding staying or leaving relationships, but emphasises personal responsibility for our own safety and well-being. It reminds us that no matter how unfair, dangerous or harmful the behaviour of another is...	Youknowme	7	328	8 days ago by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 29 (22) (Preview) Good morning everyone- Last week I mistakenly wrote a reflection on todays date in Hope for Today, so todays reflection will be from Jan 22, in case you have the book and are reading as well. Todays reading is a focus on the al-anon suggestions to seek progress rather than perfection and to mind our own b...	yanksfan51	2	43	8 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – January 27, 2023 - Ironing out those rough spots!! (Preview) The author of today's C2C reading suggests that one cannot make changes for a multitude of issues, in one day. That sometimes we find our selves so troubled over a small issue when in fact that small issue is just the strawthat broke the camel's back. Talking it out with an Al-Anon member or sponsor ca...	DM2021	4	46	10 days ago by Lyne
	A Credo of Detachment (Preview) A Credo of Detachment by Evelyn Leite You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs. I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain. I will try to have sympathy for...	shimo	11	3601	11 days ago by PK
	Courage to Change January 25 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares about how hard it was to talk about themselves in meetings initially, and how hard it was to focus on themselves, their feelings, their wants, and their needs. With the help of their sponsor, the author realized that they were overly interested in others because...	Skorpi	3	36	12 days ago by Daffodils
	1/24/23 ODAT Alcoholism – a Disease? (Preview) Today's page considers alcoholism as a disease, something that cannot be controlled by will power alone. If that is so, why do I perhaps act toward the alcoholic like it can be? Reminder - 'Arguments are useless against sickness.' Compassion and understanding are powerful and helpful because they...	Enigmatic	4	52	12 days ago by DM2021
	Being an older member and The Head of the Family in Al-Anon. (Preview) HI it's WendyP, at the moment I am going through a very stressful family issue, and feeling the effects of it, not being able to sleep, eat, etc, and because I am in that zone at the moment, and feeling like I am, I started to Question myself, if I was working my program, and not working my program. I started...	WendyP	5	70	13 days ago by DM2021
	Infidelity (Preview) My AH is now sober and active in AA. I found out that he cheated on me for years with different women and I am having so much trouble forgiving him. Is there anything in Al-anon that can specifically help with cheating or would I find a therapist?	Drpc	4	55	January 24th by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/23, maintaining an attitude of gratitude (Preview) Today's writer is exploring how to understand and keep an attitude of gratitude. It isn't when life happens the way we want, nor a high from instant gratification. Instead, it has been learned that gratitude is an integral part of serenity, and it is often the means to restoring serenity. Gratitu...	Lyne	4	41	January 23rd by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between our responsibilities and the responsibilities we take on out of some sense of obligation. The writer begins with a comparison between how the responsibility and authority of Al-anon world services belongs to al-anon grou...	yanksfan51	5	51	January 22nd by serenity47
	Wrong date for hope for today ! (Preview) Apologies everybody- I wrote about the writing for 1/29. Next week I will double back and write about 1/22. sorry- the last thing I want to do is wish time away! m	yanksfan51	1	39	January 22nd by DM2021
	C2C – January 20, 2023 (Preview) In today's reading it is about the spiritual foundation of one of Al-Anon's Traditions, "anonymity."The author tries to impress on the reader the importance of both the members and the alcoholicsanonymity and the obligation membership has to provide for each other a safe, free from labelsenviro...	DM2021	1	53	January 21st by Lyne
	Woohoo! And a question (Preview) Me here. I had to make yet another new account. I'm so sorry- I must have 6 or 7 now. My computer was destroyed yesterday in a random electrical event (I am so sad about it, it's an expensive nightmare) and when I tried to log in from my old laptop it didn't have my details. I wasn't able to recover my password...	youknowme2	4	74	January 20th by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change January 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shared that they almost didn't come back to Al-Anon when they heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on oneself. The author interpreted Al-Anon as a heartless place, and a place that would force them to stop caring about their loved ones. The a...	Skorpi	4	61	January 19th by El
	Legal system - Sanctioned Gaslighting - Looking for my own pot of courage. (Preview) Recently my ex Spouse managed to get his second (of 3) DUIs dismissed. This despite a staggeringly awful police report, and the fact that he couldn't even show up to the arraignment because he was in the hospital for alcohol withdrawl. And yet the legal system is very happy to ignore the fact that he dr...	Fedora	11	131	January 19th by luv123
	Putting My Son In Your Carre (Preview) I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...	luv123	3	69	January 18th by SunnyFrog
	1/17/23 C2C - Restored to Sanity (Preview) This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...	Enigmatic	3	59	January 17th by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/16, understanding humility (Preview) Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...	Lyne	3	59	January 17th by Enigmatic
	Wahoo!! (Preview) Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	9	110	January 15th by Fedora
	Hope for Today Jan 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...	yanksfan51	2	61	January 15th by Fedora
	Morning Pages (Faith / HP Letters) (Preview) HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...	luv123	2	68	January 14th by Lyne
	C2C – January 13, 2023 (Preview) In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...	DM2021	5	67	January 13th by DM2021
	I'm back (Preview) I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...	imom	6	80	January 13th by Enigmatic
	The Bridge... (Preview) This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...	glad lee	12	619	January 13th by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change January 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...	Skorpi	2	48	January 12th by Daffodils
	Question about Boundaries (Preview) My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...	mamamary1964	6	157	January 11th by mamamary1964
	things aren't always as they seem(sad) (Preview) Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...	Hoot Nanny	4	70	January 11th by Lyne
	1/10/23 C2C If I Could Put Time (spent in fear & worry) in a Bottle… (Preview) ...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...	Enigmatic	4	71	January 11th by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...	yanksfan51	3	76	January 10th by Enigmatic
	My Brother Ruined Christmas Again, and other stories. (Preview) Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...	Youknowme	4	96	January 10th by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/9, Whose fault is my suffering? (Preview) The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...	Lyne	4	80	January 9th by Daffodils
	C2C – January 5, 2023 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...	DM2021	5	196	January 7th by Daffodils
	37 wonderful years (Preview) I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,	Hoot Nanny	6	87	January 6th by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change January 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...	Skorpi	5	78	January 5th by DM2021
	1/3/23 C2C Every Long Journey Starts Somewhere (Preview) Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...	Enigmatic	3	88	January 3rd by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, January 2, No bread in the hardware store (Preview) This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...	Lyne	4	99	January 3rd by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 1 (Preview) Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...	yanksfan51	3	76	January 1st by SunnyFrog
	Happy New Year to my MIP family! (Preview) Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne	Lyne	3	105	December 31st by Hoot Nanny
	C2C – December 30, 2022 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...	DM2021	5	124	December 31st by DM2021
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