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hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

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courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. The reading in Courage to Change today is about Step 8. Quote: "With this Step we sort out our part, taking responsibility for our actions but also releasing ourselves . . . from the burden of falsely-held responsibilities. . . . In All Our Affairs Reminder: Certainly I make ch...

DavidG · DavidG

Live and let live, I think is the official Alanon slogan. My mum would say:- "Let them stew in their own juice." Anyway i have friend who is selling up and going got the city. Where he and his SO have a son and grandkids. A few years ago i gave him an old tractor. I was reluctant to part with it. And he made g...

DavidG · DavidG

I scorned the slogan for some years- because they were too folksy and simplistic. There seemed to be a stable of 16 of them- and woe betide anyone who uttered one that was not conference approved. However many of the things we remember and repeat do appear, also in our literature. In this g...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I just wanted to say "Thank you" to David for helping me to get in touch with Hidden. I was locked out for over a week!! I still came to read though, so I appreciate everyone's Experience Strength and Hope, and their dedication to Service. Thank you Hidden for looking into this, and helping me to get back o...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page defines detachment as "emotionally separating myself from the disease of alcoholism." They thought it was easy to do if they attached with indifference, because they had years of practice at denying their feelings. Detaching with love, though -- that seemed out of the...

FluffyDogMom · FluffyDogMom

Hi everyone. I am new to these boards, although I have been to face to face meetings a few times before. I am currently struggling with how to handle a situation with my dad that has escalated over the past several days. A few months ago, he started giving me the silent treatment.... he did not stop talk...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses anonymity and how important it truly is. The writer suggests that fear of others finding out about their problems had them resisting going to Al-Anon. They didn't want anyone to find out, including their A. The writer's first step confirmed the fear...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT suggest that trying to control the alcoholic in our life is like trying to control the tides. It is also suggested that instead, we control our own thoughts, words and actions and therefore leaveroom for our improvement, because it truly is our obligation to have and find a satisfying li...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! I've been away from this board for awhile but I wanted to come back and say hi. The last year has been challenging. But I am headed in a new and good direction. 5 years ago I landed on this board in a state of desperation. Q had just gotten in trouble for the first time related to alcohol at our shared pl...

Shipshape · Shipshape

I am new here. I have never posted before, but tonight I need support! I am 50 years old. I have been married for 27 years to my husband, whom I love very very much. We have 3 daughters that are all adults and 2 of them still live at home (we are a very close family). I take turns with my sister staying at my...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of their imagination. Invited to speak at a different meeting, the author conjured up a large group of serious Al-Anon members meeting in a perfect location with a perfect meeting format. The author's role in this visualization was as the guest sp...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading observes the similarities of the common cold, alcoholism, and us Alanoners: all have definite, observable symptoms (Alanoners: obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, guilt to name just a few) and none chose to have the illness.Unlike a cold, however, alcoholism doesn't go away on i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Oh do I feel like an idiotI have my clients stuff for a week and I felt kind of icky about one of his kids tax returns but I could not put my finger on it because the filing version looked OK and so he comes today and we are chatting about Social security and I said oh yeah you want to pay Social Security because t...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/5, talks about when the alcoholic finds sobriety. There are still challenges and we may be disappointed to not find the happily ever after ending we were looking for. Problems that were attributed to drinking may still persist. Even longtime alanon members may need ext...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the negative energy spent in resentment and the power of forgiveness. The writer describes feeling much resentment toward an alcoholic mother who was not capable of unconditional love. Before alanon, the writer felt consumed with the energy of res...

MDA · MDA

Greetings everyone. I have a situation on my hands that I need to be able to help our family understand alcoholism. We have a loved one in our family who has been a closet drinker for the last decade. Over the past three years it has spun out of control. Late last year it was no longer able to be kept under w...

Ala2021 · Ala2021

My spouse has progressed to an average of 3-4 drinks nightly (equivalent) to 6 to 8 drinks due to pour size or choice of beer with close to 8% BAC. This has been going on now for about 1.5 years. I am tired of interacting with someone who is chronically impaired every night after 6pm. My boundary is to not in...

WendyP · WendyP

I live in a very strange Country, we have had really bad, long droughts, then destructive Bush Fires, and now there are Floods sweeping the Country, My heart goes out to all the people that are affected by all of it, when I see pictures of the destruction, and the extent, I feel very sad. The Courage it ta...

Lyne · Lyne

Well after four years, my son is ready to give my A a second chance. Now my A could have spent the last number of years working on recovery. She is involved with an OA sponsor, and making some progress. She is still an untreated alcoholic, and what drove my son and his wife away, was her passive aggressi...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page had a belief that, even when facing difficult struggles in life, they had to push themselves to get things done, otherwise they would turn into a slug. Doing a Fourth Step revealed that by being so hard on themselves, they made their own life unmanageable -- and accomplishe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Some good things to avoid drama While searching the web for something completely different, I ran across this list of neutral responses... That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information.Thank you for supporting me.I'll have to ponder that one.Wow.Hmmmmm.Golly-g...

Debb · Debb

Happy April 1st - MIP Family!Rhymes for April let me singThe pleasures of returning spring .Fools are made, by far the worst,On other days besides the First.~April Rhymes, The Comic Almanack for 1835by William Makepeace Thackeray, Albert Smith, Gilbert à Beckett and The Brothers MayhewTodays OD...

biosphere · biosphere

Hi All, Never thought I'd be here, but now that I am I'm very glad to see the community exists. I have a middle aged sibling who has significant multi organ damage from alcohol abuse. There's a reasonable chance of near term death due to the level of damage, but we're are as optimistic as we can be. Non...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/29, talks about being nicer to ourselves. The damaged self-esteem and the message that we are not good enough, comes from living with alcoholism. The writer recognized that these voices could be silenced! Alanon reminds us that we are lovable and can learn to love ourse...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the role of Al-Anon in the lives of folks who have lived with alcoholism. Al-Anon is the place where many grow up, learn to face the world as it is, and to take responsibility for actions. Members deal with feelings, share about experiences, and learn about th...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Hi all, Ive fallen off the wagon and have been white knuckling it for too long. Im merely surviving again, this last year has me in my knees and face. Life with covid as a nurse working full time hasnt been easy, life with two foster teens this last year hasnt been easy and everything else is falling away. I...

Debb · Debb

Silence, it is suggested, is a blessing when used in times of reflection and meditation, but if used as a way to punish the alcoholic,as to avoid confrontation, can be, "A grim and furious silence" that "can be more crushing and wounding than harsh words". Underthose circumstances, it is suggested...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading in C2C, the author shares about the moment they were able to accept that alcoholism is a disease, which allowed them to more easily separate the person from the disease. The author had been convinced that their loved one could stop drinking if they wanted to, after all, the author t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the feeling of safety that comes from alanon. The writer describes a childhood that featured all of the chaos of an alcoholic home, including a feeling that everyone (including the alcoholic parents) were children together. The writer describes be...

MaggieT · MaggieT

Hi All I have searched the internet and am at a loss as to what do next. My brother has been diagnosed with cirrhosis. He went into detox for 1 week and was booked I for rehab but after the detox he decided he wasn't going. So he is now at his house, drinking again. His wife has left and is staying with her adul...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Like many, when today's author first heard Alanon's suggestion that we keep the focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic, they thought that sounded like what they accused the alcoholic of being: inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. 'That's not who I am' they thought, they were generous and car...

WendyP · WendyP

I have started to, not only find Courage but also put into practice, as I have found sharing on MIP, putting my thoughts, feelings, and my Stories, and myself out there not easy, or comfortable. I have looked at why, and I am making, allowing myself to be very vunerable. But when I look at the other side o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hey Everyone!!! Hope you all are OK...I am working through a lot of stuff, I had some really tough health issues with stored pain causing back spasms so I got into physical therapy with the help of a trainer and my own research and my back is responding Add to that reading some GREAT books sent to me by a rec...

DavidG · DavidG

...home after a 2 week furlough. We never had holidays- always harvesting fruit through the summer. And hay. I found it really hard to take leave and to relax. Watched our city of Awkvegas [Auckland] come out lock-down... ...with a big yacht race. We got backpackers rates at a high end apartment- bec...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon delves into powerlessness as expressed in Step One. Although we might quibble over whether it means we are powerless over alcohol or over the alcoholic -- it is of course both. But we do have the power to change our own lives. We do not have to submit to degr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting tomorrow's daily tonight as I am volunteering in the morning followed by golf in the afternoon. The reading discusses how the traditions of Al-Anon Family Groups help us learn how a healthy family group functions. When problems involving others arise, we can turn to the Traditions for gu...

DavidG · DavidG

...should we wait until November to talk about Step 11? If we are learning the steps- yes- likely that is a good idea. But when we are "practising these principals in all our affairs" we can turn to the step we need- for the moment. In my view, anyway. This week I was reflecting on the "meet" in meeting....

john_jpd · john_jpd

I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A powerful spiritual concept in Alanon is that I am no better than the alcoholic and untreated, exhibit some of the same character defects I accused them of having. Today's reading specifically addresses manipulation and control.If I honestly assess my own behavior, I won't have to look far to see w...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Upon awakening, I think about the twenty-four hours ahead. I consider my plans for the day. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. I read from Courage to Change and from another book. Then, I reach into my god-box and pull out a word or sometimes it's a slogan. Today is was Easy Does It...But Do It...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 3/22, the author discusses how worrying becomes the norm. Its a habit difficult to shake off even if we know it serves no purpose. We think about yesterday and tomorrow, and miss the day we have. In alanon we can learn to free ourselves from worry, if we concentrate on a mana...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about what we gravitate toward, what our attitudes do to perception, and the choices we can make. The writer begins by stating that we dont necessarily veer toward what is good for us, but rather what is familiar. In the writers case, negative thinking was p...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about self-worth, one of the topics in the Fourth Step guide in the Blueprint for Progress literature. Working though the step, the author found that they had always judged their value on the basis of accomplishments or what others said. Thus, the author work...

Em1234 · Em1234

Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...

cranberry · cranberry

My AH has been an alcoholic for a long time, longer than the 13 yrs we've been together. We've been on the roller coaster, rehab, bouts of heavy drinking, 5 yrs sobriety, and hospital stays. The past year has been awful and 2021 is not off to a great start. He's become so angry and violent. He's only bee...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi peeps. Mel here. I was a member of this forum a few years ago, and the fellowship of this board helped me to leave an abusive relationship. I've been doing OK since- my kid is doing great and I feel like I am thriving. I come here today to talk about my brother Jimmy. My mother has just expressed to me that s...

WendyP · WendyP

I would like to share on my earlier journey with Detachment. I am no longer living with the active phase of Alcoholism, and haven't for some time. I still have a lot of Family members who have both sides of it, the effects and Active. So Detachment is still very important to me. From my earlier Marriage wi...

Freetime · Freetime

Judgmental -- The writer of today's page doesn't use that word, but describes a compulsion with focusing on other people, and knowing exactly how other people should behave. By always trying to impose their own rules on others, the writer was neglecting their own life. We don't know what is best for...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT reading discusses living with an alcoholic and the subsequent distortion in our thinking,in particular how it can lead to blaming all our problems on the bottle." It is that distortion/blamethat blurs the "truth that we must look within ourselves in order to take responsibility for o...

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	Some good things to say and actions to avoid drama (Preview) Some good things to avoid drama While searching the web for something completely different, I ran across this list of neutral responses... That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information.Thank you for supporting me.I'll have to ponder that one.Wow.Hmmmmm.Golly-g...	mamalioness	8	56	6 days ago by mamalioness
	April 1, 2021 – ODAT – Contentment (Preview) Happy April 1st - MIP Family!Rhymes for April let me singThe pleasures of returning spring .Fools are made, by far the worst,On other days besides the First.~April Rhymes, The Comic Almanack for 1835by William Makepeace Thackeray, Albert Smith, Gilbert à Beckett and The Brothers MayhewTodays OD...	Debb	8	81	7 days ago by DavidG
	Strategies for working with Enabling Partners who themselves are Alcoholics Enabler Strategy Communications Partner (Preview) Hi All, Never thought I'd be here, but now that I am I'm very glad to see the community exists. I have a middle aged sibling who has significant multi organ damage from alcohol abuse. There's a reasonable chance of near term death due to the level of damage, but we're are as optimistic as we can be. Non...	biosphere	8	95	8 days ago by Maresie888
	C2C, 3/29 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/29, talks about being nicer to ourselves. The damaged self-esteem and the message that we are not good enough, comes from living with alcoholism. The writer recognized that these voices could be silenced! Alanon reminds us that we are lovable and can learn to love ourse...	Lyne	5	64	9 days ago by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 31 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the role of Al-Anon in the lives of folks who have lived with alcoholism. Al-Anon is the place where many grow up, learn to face the world as it is, and to take responsibility for actions. Members deal with feelings, share about experiences, and learn about th...	Skorpi	7	58	9 days ago by Maresie888
	It’s been a long time! (Preview) Hi all, Ive fallen off the wagon and have been white knuckling it for too long. Im merely surviving again, this last year has me in my knees and face. Life with covid as a nurse working full time hasnt been easy, life with two foster teens this last year hasnt been easy and everything else is falling away. I...	Breakingfree	17	174	9 days ago by mamalioness
	March 25, 2021 – ODAT – How to properly use Silence (Preview) Silence, it is suggested, is a blessing when used in times of reflection and meditation, but if used as a way to punish the alcoholic,as to avoid confrontation, can be, "A grim and furious silence" that "can be more crushing and wounding than harsh words". Underthose circumstances, it is suggested...	Debb	5	79	9 days ago by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 24 (Preview) In today's reading in C2C, the author shares about the moment they were able to accept that alcoholism is a disease, which allowed them to more easily separate the person from the disease. The author had been convinced that their loved one could stop drinking if they wanted to, after all, the author t...	Skorpi	8	67	9 days ago by Maresie888
	Hope for Today March 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the feeling of safety that comes from alanon. The writer describes a childhood that featured all of the chaos of an alcoholic home, including a feeling that everyone (including the alcoholic parents) were children together. The writer describes be...	yanksfan51	7	67	9 days ago by Maresie888
	Advice needed - asap Alcohol advice alcoholic (Preview) Hi All I have searched the internet and am at a loss as to what do next. My brother has been diagnosed with cirrhosis. He went into detox for 1 week and was booked I for rehab but after the detox he decided he wasn't going. So he is now at his house, drinking again. His wife has left and is staying with her adul...	MaggieT	11	140	10 days ago by mamalioness
	3/30/21 Courage to Change - Focus on Ourselves, Unloving? (Preview) Like many, when today's author first heard Alanon's suggestion that we keep the focus on ourselves, not the alcoholic, they thought that sounded like what they accused the alcoholic of being: inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. 'That's not who I am' they thought, they were generous and car...	Enigmatic	6	64	10 days ago by mamalioness
	The Power of Recovery. (Preview) I have started to, not only find Courage but also put into practice, as I have found sharing on MIP, putting my thoughts, feelings, and my Stories, and myself out there not easy, or comfortable. I have looked at why, and I am making, allowing myself to be very vunerable. But when I look at the other side o...	WendyP	5	64	11 days ago by mamalioness
	No!! I did not die..Just LOADS on my plate and I missed you all (Preview) Hey Everyone!!! Hope you all are OK...I am working through a lot of stuff, I had some really tough health issues with stored pain causing back spasms so I got into physical therapy with the help of a trainer and my own research and my back is responding Add to that reading some GREAT books sent to me by a rec...	mamalioness	10	68	11 days ago by mamalioness
	Step 12 ... (Preview) ...home after a 2 week furlough. We never had holidays- always harvesting fruit through the summer. And hay. I found it really hard to take leave and to relax. Watched our city of Awkvegas [Auckland] come out lock-down... ...with a big yacht race. We got backpackers rates at a high end apartment- bec...	DavidG	5	38	11 days ago by DavidG
	ODAT - March 26 - Powerlessness and Acceptance (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon delves into powerlessness as expressed in Step One. Although we might quibble over whether it means we are powerless over alcohol or over the alcoholic -- it is of course both. But we do have the power to change our own lives. We do not have to submit to degr...	Freetime	9	83	12 days ago by DavidG
	C2C 3/26 (Preview) Posting tomorrow's daily tonight as I am volunteering in the morning followed by golf in the afternoon. The reading discusses how the traditions of Al-Anon Family Groups help us learn how a healthy family group functions. When problems involving others arise, we can turn to the Traditions for gu...	Iamhere	6	67	12 days ago by mamalioness
	Where is the "meet" in meeting. Step 11. (Preview) ...should we wait until November to talk about Step 11? If we are learning the steps- yes- likely that is a good idea. But when we are "practising these principals in all our affairs" we can turn to the step we need- for the moment. In my view, anyway. This week I was reflecting on the "meet" in meeting....	DavidG	5	60	13 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Brother's Death from Liver Failure-Guilt (Preview) I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...	john_jpd	30	2007	March 27th by Debb
	3/23/21 ODAT in Alanon – Our Own Manipulation (Preview) A powerful spiritual concept in Alanon is that I am no better than the alcoholic and untreated, exhibit some of the same character defects I accused them of having. Today's reading specifically addresses manipulation and control.If I honestly assess my own behavior, I won't have to look far to see w...	Enigmatic	3	73	March 23rd by Iamhere
	Easy Does It...But Do It (Preview) Upon awakening, I think about the twenty-four hours ahead. I consider my plans for the day. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. I read from Courage to Change and from another book. Then, I reach into my god-box and pull out a word or sometimes it's a slogan. Today is was Easy Does It...But Do It...	Wolfie55	4	100	March 23rd by a4l
	ODAT in alanon, 3/22 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 3/22, the author discusses how worrying becomes the norm. Its a habit difficult to shake off even if we know it serves no purpose. We think about yesterday and tomorrow, and miss the day we have. In alanon we can learn to free ourselves from worry, if we concentrate on a mana...	Lyne	6	62	March 22nd by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about what we gravitate toward, what our attitudes do to perception, and the choices we can make. The writer begins by stating that we dont necessarily veer toward what is good for us, but rather what is familiar. In the writers case, negative thinking was p...	yanksfan51	10	80	March 22nd by Debb
	C2C - 3/20 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about self-worth, one of the topics in the Fourth Step guide in the Blueprint for Progress literature. Working though the step, the author found that they had always judged their value on the basis of accomplishments or what others said. Thus, the author work...	Iamhere	6	66	March 21st by SunnyFrogs
	Losing my husband to AA ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...	Em1234	41	3144	March 21st by Lyne
	Good Mom? Bad Mom? Bad Wife (Preview) My AH has been an alcoholic for a long time, longer than the 13 yrs we've been together. We've been on the roller coaster, rehab, bouts of heavy drinking, 5 yrs sobriety, and hospital stays. The past year has been awful and 2021 is not off to a great start. He's become so angry and violent. He's only bee...	cranberry	6	107	March 20th by sunmustshine
	My Brother Jimmy (Preview) Hi peeps. Mel here. I was a member of this forum a few years ago, and the fellowship of this board helped me to leave an abusive relationship. I've been doing OK since- my kid is doing great and I feel like I am thriving. I come here today to talk about my brother Jimmy. My mother has just expressed to me that s...	Youknowme	9	186	March 20th by sunmustshine
	More on Detachment (Preview) I would like to share on my earlier journey with Detachment. I am no longer living with the active phase of Alcoholism, and haven't for some time. I still have a lot of Family members who have both sides of it, the effects and Active. So Detachment is still very important to me. From my earlier Marriage wi...	WendyP	6	95	March 20th by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change, March 19 - Judgement (Preview) Judgmental -- The writer of today's page doesn't use that word, but describes a compulsion with focusing on other people, and knowing exactly how other people should behave. By always trying to impose their own rules on others, the writer was neglecting their own life. We don't know what is best for...	Freetime	6	79	March 19th by SunnyFrogs
	March 18, 2021 – ODAT – Truth (Preview) Todays ODAT reading discusses living with an alcoholic and the subsequent distortion in our thinking,in particular how it can lead to blaming all our problems on the bottle." It is that distortion/blamethat blurs the "truth that we must look within ourselves in order to take responsibility for o...	Debb	4	75	March 18th by JerryF
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