Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

WebHelper · WebHelper

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lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

iris52 · iris52

My sober husband ( 30 years) has dementia and I am currently working at moving him to a nursing home.During these difficult times in the country, and world, everything moves much more slowly.Meanwhile I am finding new ways to reduce the stress on me for the constant care he needs.One day a strange thou...

DavidG · DavidG

This is a great place to learn boundaries. Not so much personal boundaries- but group boundaries... and small 'p' group politics. Being in a place where we get to get stuff done... and where, after years of internal battling, get to do stuff together... :D I am baching at home, at the moment. '...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi All, I recently visited with a friend whose son is currently staying with them due to having limited employment. My friend and I have been friends more than fifteen years. We visited outside her home and we social distanced. Her family was home but inside the home at the time. My friend's son has some...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning (or afternoon) MIP Family! Today's reading from C2C is about Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. "In Step 6 I contemplate my life undergoing change -- tremendous change. The great fear is this: If I shed many characteristics that stand in my wh...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I am in a whole other place on.denial. When I come up.against other people's denial I.am not able to see how long tetm it.is Moreover I am not able to respect it. I spent decades in therapy raging against my.sister's denial. I mean years and years just on my family of origin (which was of course violent...

DavidG · DavidG

Steps 10,11,12... The sun is streaming through my window, as I write. Gratitude is a great asset... and it does start with baby steps- we fake it til we make it. Our national programme radio playing in the background... wallpaper. 5 or 6 years ago I still thought and believed that I was 'god's gift to...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I grew up in a family where anything could happen any minute. Violence was common, alcohol, gamblimg, projection were all.ways they managed their turmoil. I have no idea how I survived that. Somehow I did. So you.would think growimg up like that that I would be able to live quite normally in these t...

john_jpd · john_jpd

I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's Courage to Change is about courage. The page discusses hesitating at times, hoping for a miracle, instead of trusting Higher Power. We often forget that the miracle is already here. With Al-Anon recovery, we each have a Higher Power who is always here for us, helping us to cope with fea...

Freetime · Freetime

Unable to be true to oneself, letting people take advantage in order to please them -- and then feeling either depressed or guilty -- the author was walking this tightrope. As a result of working the Al-Anon program, the author discovered their rights as a person: the right to speak without being int...

DavidG · DavidG

Would I walk into someone's home- without knocking? Without an invitation? Here, in this group I do do a certain amount of personal messaging. It is a really good practise in boundaries. We too have white board messaging as well- which anyone can see. In another group there was a discussion about l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who sohopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles.--Samuel SmilesIt is better to live one day wisely and reflectively than to live ahundred years in ignorance and indulgence."--BuddhaWithout forgiveness life is governed...by an e...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on resentments. Prior to Al-Anon, resentments occupied and poisoned most of the author's waking moments. The author could think about resentments for days, weeks, months, or years, constantly justifying why they felt the way they did a...

DavidG · DavidG

8.b. Made a list of those who had harmed us and vowed to get even. I can picture an old timer i knew- with hands on her hips- and saying:- "now what have we got here? !!!" In the USA people might have a sponsor- and do the steps away from the group. Larger groups seem to be a place where people come to show-ca...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Dear All, I would appreciate your support please as I am feeling emotionally very low. I have been living with my active AH while we have been saving some money for us to separate. Unfortunately his behaviour has become more and more unacceptable and I have asked him to leave this week on Tuesday (to ...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

Anyone have stories to share about divorcing an alcoholic mentally abusive spouse who refuse to work and children were involved? Im at the point of wanting out or maybe I could just say reality. Ive watched many out patient and inpatient attempts end the same way. I feel like Ive been kidding myself t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Vulnerability I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. --Anonymous Melodie Beattie talks about how many of us can only be strong...stiff upper lip...always confident, we believe t...

cestlavie · cestlavie

Hi! Pretty new to this end of the forum. I'm on the ACOA side moreso. Recently my sister has relapsed after 25 years sober. It's a long story, but hard drugs also involved in this relapse, which lasted for about a year. At the time I was focused on being there for her as I could and tried hard not to enable. Be...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

We may feel they are justified, we may feel we have the right to hold them, but today's reading reminds us that it is from our expectations of others that much of our unhappiness, frustration, and anger may spring.Reminder: Expecting others to follow our determination of what 'should' be done interf...

DavidG · DavidG

My growing years were fraught. If anything was said:- it seemed to be said through clinched teeth. Moves were like that too- Clint Eastwood spittoon out the end of a cheroot... ...but most movies and books had happy endings- or were meant to. My nearest group- is having a Sunday get together towar...

Finding grace · Finding grace

I haven't been here in a while, but making a commitment to get back to investing time on my program, and cutting from areas that really don't improve my life. I didn't post here too often, but did do the morning meetings almost every day as grace99. It's been about a year, a lot has happened, but I still sho...

lookingup · lookingup

been along time away from here, been missing everyone,,life gets super busy. im doing fine,still working my program always will. i have a question to ask ,hoping it can be done. ive got alot of messages here ,private messages between myself and ms betty from way back 2015 up to 2019. im wanting to save t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

been TRYING without much success to SLOW down and PAY attention as I self sabotage big time....I think I had to disassociate from my body too long and now I don't know how to be in it....so not online very much......trying to just teach me to STOP and BREATH....break this down in chunks....then when I ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a day to practice easy does it! I spent my entire weekend stressing. Now I want to start anew. I can't count totally depend on counseling to make my decisions but I can try to figure it out on my own. I will stand back & do the footwork when I can. I am hoping today I can share things other than what...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/3, discusses when it is time to make a self-appraisal. This happens when our own thoughts create turmoil. We are reminded that our first obligation is to work out our own thinking patterns. The reminder says we can change nothing but ourselves, and the principal source o...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

A boundary I have set for myself,quite awhile ago,is I refuse to be around AH when he's drinking. It's so different when he drinks compared to other substances and I just simply don't want to be around him when he does. With this pandemic, there's not a lot of options. Oh,and with this extreme heat on to...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all ... My ultimate gurus are Lois and Bill. They have pop star and film star status for me. I have their photo on the wall. But for a long time I wanted to be a guru and leader too! Not surprising since I used Bill's saying a lot. One that appears in the AA Big Book. "Half measures avail us nothing....

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Such a great page today in Courage, sums up how so many of us got here but more importantly: how to get to a better place. I came here to change others, but found out I needed to change myself...practice the 12 Steps of AA in my own life, develop a higher power, and accept that I am responsible for the serenit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of prayer, and the idea that we have the ability to pray in many different ways, in different places, and at any time. The writer begins with a description of how sleeping patterns have changed for him/her. The writer describes the inability...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Happy August! Today I will be pulling directly from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "Say thank you, until you mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns...

DavidG · DavidG

I say this more times than often. Even as i grow older- much older... Through my 20's my girls friends got rougher and tougher. In my steps 8 and 9 I took account of these people. Being a country lad- I was much slower on the uptake than my urban counterparts- and I could name each one of them. Doing Step...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a good day just to send out my random thoughts. I realized after reading some of my story that I have an idea. It seems like I can truly say that I can name naming, then I blame blaming & then shame shaming. Now I am claim claiming the fact that I came up w/these thoughts. Maybe this isn't exactly...

DavidG · DavidG

My home relationship has improved markedly over the last 18 to 24 months. Not quite where I want it- but getting fairly close... I am working part time. SO came home from work and found an element on on the stove. It had been like that since breakfast- so it must have been on very low. She put some toasti...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Every day at work I sign s statement that I am feeling well and can work. This oricess is repea4ed when I get to work. So it is twice.once when I check in. Once when I get screened Yesterday I called off. I have been working a lot.lately. my fatigue kevel was high Todsy I get a mote saying ny absence was un...

Freetime · Freetime

The author remembered reading a magazine article stating that the correct use of the mind leads to wisdom and the incorrect use of the mind mind leads to insanity. When coming into Al-Anon, the author realized that the core of the program was based on the right use of the mind as well as the heart. The au...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about decisions and choices we can make to be happy. We have all heard that happiness is an inside job, and that we can be as happy as we choose to me. While we all recognize it's unrealistic to be happy all the time, we can be happy most of the time if we make a commi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the spiritual nature of the Al-Anon program. Al-Anon is not based on any particular religion, and no religious belief is required. There is not a specific dogma or philosophy. The important part is believing in a power greater than ourselves. We need this h...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I have been working briefly with a coworker who compulsively lies. His lies are not anything that can affect my.job I spent years with the qualifier who lied comoulsively. He lied about crashing the car repeatedly (which I paid for). He lied about working, where he was, virtually anything he was res...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/27, asks the question: If alcoholism/addictions did not exist, would marriages and all other relationships be perfect? And of course the answer is no: sobriety does not end all problems. It is true that alcoholism does wreck marriages that might have otherwise been s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I really hope this doesn't get old. I am writing my life story as I speak. It has been over a year since I started in early July last year. It is very detailed & I hope it doesn't get too boring! I feel very exited about my memories! I really have a good story to tell--the whole truth! I feel like maybe I sh...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning MIP family! Today's reading talks about Courage. The author talks about after years and years of letting people take advantage of them, they had come to Al-Anon with quite a store of anger, resentment and guilt. So many times they wanted to "bite off their tongue" for saying "Yes," when w...

pinkchip · pinkchip

11 plus years sober. Was very sad to hear of Betty's passing. Working daily still as rehab is "essential" healthcare. It is crazy cuz I have plenty of exposure to barely recovering or relapsing people but now limited AA (and Alanon). BUT...on the flip side....still have a job and income and more likel...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

AlAnon is a spiritual recovery program that yields miracles after persistent, consistent thought and effort. This can be compared to the work of a stone cutter who may strike a stone 99 times with no apparent effect before the rewarding break on the 100th. Acceptance of Alcoholism as a disease, acce...

Toronto · Toronto

Good Afternoon All. Earlier I waded in on a post without properly introducing myself. My intent was not to offend, but share how applying Alanon priciples have enriched my life. I entered AA recovery 25 years ago when my then hubby kicked me to the curb. Smart man. He cut his losses quickly. I was in...

Christiob · Christiob

Ive been dragged into my alcoholic siblings problem for the last several months. It started as helping her get to detox (more than once) and once to rehab (she was sober for maybe 30 days after the rehab). Two months ago she had a bad fall and broke her arm, so needed help at home for awhile and has been un...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'a'll... Having this group here, and the MIP groups generally has been a great boon for me. It has taken me beyond the possible... as it was... ...I needed 3 or 4 meetings a week at times- and had none. The bonus here is that we have some of the high motivation members- from different corn...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I know in "that other thread" I said I doubted I would ever be logging in again,yet here I am. I actually logged in because I was going to apologize for the things I said because I wasn't feeling good about myself for it. I felt like I was wrong in what I said and felt I didn't have the right to say what I thought...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the twelve concepts and general warranties of the program. I will admit I dont know a lot about this except when they have been referred to in a meeting. The writer connects the warranties with being able adjust attitudes in relation to making decision...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

I thought I posted this! So sorry everyone. It was sitting here waiting to go as I got ready to write today. What day is it again???? My apologies. Heres last weeks writing: Good morning Everyone: Today?s reading is about our growth toward self sufficiency. Many of us who grew up in alcoholism or h...

foriver · foriver

Hi friends, I've gotten to a point where I don't know if what I'm doing/feeling is considered detaching "with love" or just plain I don't care anymore. I've been with my A for 5.5 years and we have a 1.5 year old daughter together. He relapses every few weeks - months. Never sober longer than 11 months...

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	STICKY: 7th Tradition for Forum Hosting (Preview) It's time for voluntary contributions to support our MIP forums. We are currently paid up through May 2020, and need $215.76 to extend that through the next 12 months. The donation link is below. Please note that the form says Al-Anon Family Groups, but donations will support all the forums on MIP...	WebHelper	4	202	May 2nd by WebHelper
	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	37	3093	March 22nd by gracesarah3787
	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	20	5791	Jan 23, 2020 by Beckon2
	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	65	61023	Nov 13, 2019 by DavidG
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	22	14501	Mar 7, 2019 by Iamhere
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	1718	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	48959	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	4738	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	17252	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	17451	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	new revelation (Preview) My sober husband ( 30 years) has dementia and I am currently working at moving him to a nursing home.During these difficult times in the country, and world, everything moves much more slowly.Meanwhile I am finding new ways to reduce the stress on me for the constant care he needs.One day a strange thou...	iris52	3	26	8h ago by tiredtonite
	Sunday share... (Preview) This is a great place to learn boundaries. Not so much personal boundaries- but group boundaries... and small 'p' group politics. Being in a place where we get to get stuff done... and where, after years of internal battling, get to do stuff together... :D I am baching at home, at the moment. '...	DavidG	1	9	8h ago by tiredtonite
	Self Respect (Preview) Hi All, I recently visited with a friend whose son is currently staying with them due to having limited employment. My friend and I have been friends more than fifteen years. We visited outside her home and we social distanced. Her family was home but inside the home at the time. My friend's son has some...	tiredtonite	17	168	10h ago by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 8/8/20 (Preview) Good morning (or afternoon) MIP Family! Today's reading from C2C is about Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. "In Step 6 I contemplate my life undergoing change -- tremendous change. The great fear is this: If I shed many characteristics that stand in my wh...	PosiesandPuppies	1	14	12h ago by Iamhere
	Denial denial denial (Preview) I am in a whole other place on.denial. When I come up.against other people's denial I.am not able to see how long tetm it.is Moreover I am not able to respect it. I spent decades in therapy raging against my.sister's denial. I mean years and years just on my family of origin (which was of course violent...	Maresie888	3	30	13h ago by Iamhere
	A Saturday share... (Preview) Steps 10,11,12... The sun is streaming through my window, as I write. Gratitude is a great asset... and it does start with baby steps- we fake it til we make it. Our national programme radio playing in the background... wallpaper. 5 or 6 years ago I still thought and believed that I was 'god's gift to...	DavidG	2	26	15h ago by DavidG
	Tevising expectations (Preview) I grew up in a family where anything could happen any minute. Violence was common, alcohol, gamblimg, projection were all.ways they managed their turmoil. I have no idea how I survived that. Somehow I did. So you.would think growimg up like that that I would be able to live quite normally in these t...	Maresie888	6	47	19h ago by Maresie888
	Brother's Death from Liver Failure-Guilt (Preview) I'm so glad there is place like this where there are people who understand this terrible disease. I had a brother who lived with me and was an alcoholic. He died recently this past August from end stage liver failure at the age of 57. I'm having tremendous problems dealing with it. He knew he had liver...	john_jpd	19	1476	19h ago by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 8/6 (Preview) Tomorrow's Courage to Change is about courage. The page discusses hesitating at times, hoping for a miracle, instead of trusting Higher Power. We often forget that the miracle is already here. With Al-Anon recovery, we each have a Higher Power who is always here for us, helping us to cope with fea...	Iamhere	4	33	yesterday by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope For Today - August 7 (Preview) Unable to be true to oneself, letting people take advantage in order to please them -- and then feeling either depressed or guilty -- the author was walking this tightrope. As a result of working the Al-Anon program, the author discovered their rights as a person: the right to speak without being int...	Freetime	3	34	yesterday by Lyne
	Personal messaging here- does or don'ts? (Preview) Would I walk into someone's home- without knocking? Without an invitation? Here, in this group I do do a certain amount of personal messaging. It is a really good practise in boundaries. We too have white board messaging as well- which anyone can see. In another group there was a discussion about l...	DavidG	7	69	2 days ago by tiredtonite
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who sohopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles.--Samuel SmilesIt is better to live one day wisely and reflectively than to live ahundred years in ignorance and indulgence."--BuddhaWithout forgiveness life is governed...by an e...	mamalioness	2	16	2 days ago by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change August 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on resentments. Prior to Al-Anon, resentments occupied and poisoned most of the author's waking moments. The author could think about resentments for days, weeks, months, or years, constantly justifying why they felt the way they did a...	Skorpi	3	31	3 days ago by DavidG
	Step 8, in reverse... tradition 4, too... (Preview) 8.b. Made a list of those who had harmed us and vowed to get even. I can picture an old timer i knew- with hands on her hips- and saying:- "now what have we got here? !!!" In the USA people might have a sponsor- and do the steps away from the group. Larger groups seem to be a place where people come to show-ca...	DavidG	0	14	3 days ago by DavidG
	Support needed please (Preview) Dear All, I would appreciate your support please as I am feeling emotionally very low. I have been living with my active AH while we have been saving some money for us to separate. Unfortunately his behaviour has become more and more unacceptable and I have asked him to leave this week on Tuesday (to ...	Bettertomorrow	12	113	3 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Need ESH (Preview) Anyone have stories to share about divorcing an alcoholic mentally abusive spouse who refuse to work and children were involved? Im at the point of wanting out or maybe I could just say reality. Ive watched many out patient and inpatient attempts end the same way. I feel like Ive been kidding myself t...	sunmustshine	4	52	4 days ago by Bettertomorrow
	Language of Letting go_Aug 4_ Vulnerability (Preview) You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Vulnerability I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. --Anonymous Melodie Beattie talks about how many of us can only be strong...stiff upper lip...always confident, we believe t...	mamalioness	0	18	4 days ago by mamalioness
	Boundaries (Preview) Hi! Pretty new to this end of the forum. I'm on the ACOA side moreso. Recently my sister has relapsed after 25 years sober. It's a long story, but hard drugs also involved in this relapse, which lasted for about a year. At the time I was focused on being there for her as I could and tried hard not to enable. Be...	cestlavie	3	52	4 days ago by Iamhere
	8/4/20 ODAT - Expectations: A Source of Unhappiness (Preview) We may feel they are justified, we may feel we have the right to hold them, but today's reading reminds us that it is from our expectations of others that much of our unhappiness, frustration, and anger may spring.Reminder: Expecting others to follow our determination of what 'should' be done interf...	Enigmatic	4	53	4 days ago by Iamhere
	Kicking back and talking about stuff... (Preview) My growing years were fraught. If anything was said:- it seemed to be said through clinched teeth. Moves were like that too- Clint Eastwood spittoon out the end of a cheroot... ...but most movies and books had happy endings- or were meant to. My nearest group- is having a Sunday get together towar...	DavidG	1	22	4 days ago by mamalioness
	It's been a long time! (Preview) I haven't been here in a while, but making a commitment to get back to investing time on my program, and cutting from areas that really don't improve my life. I didn't post here too often, but did do the morning meetings almost every day as grace99. It's been about a year, a lot has happened, but I still sho...	Finding grace	18	143	5 days ago by Maresie888
	Hi Everyone, (Preview) been along time away from here, been missing everyone,,life gets super busy. im doing fine,still working my program always will. i have a question to ask ,hoping it can be done. ive got alot of messages here ,private messages between myself and ms betty from way back 2015 up to 2019. im wanting to save t...	lookingup	4	55	5 days ago by lookingup
	HP, I THINK I've learned this lesson (Preview) been TRYING without much success to SLOW down and PAY attention as I self sabotage big time....I think I had to disassociate from my body too long and now I don't know how to be in it....so not online very much......trying to just teach me to STOP and BREATH....break this down in chunks....then when I ca...	mamalioness	6	84	5 days ago by mamalioness
	easy does it! (Preview) Today is a day to practice easy does it! I spent my entire weekend stressing. Now I want to start anew. I can't count totally depend on counseling to make my decisions but I can try to figure it out on my own. I will stand back & do the footwork when I can. I am hoping today I can share things other than what...	Hoot Nanny	1	28	5 days ago by Iamhere
	One Day at a Time in Alanon, 8/3 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/3, discusses when it is time to make a self-appraisal. This happens when our own thoughts create turmoil. We are reminded that our first obligation is to work out our own thinking patterns. The reminder says we can change nothing but ourselves, and the principal source o...	Lyne	6	55	5 days ago by DavidG
	Where Do You Go? (Preview) A boundary I have set for myself,quite awhile ago,is I refuse to be around AH when he's drinking. It's so different when he drinks compared to other substances and I just simply don't want to be around him when he does. With this pandemic, there's not a lot of options. Oh,and with this extreme heat on to...	SunnyFrogs	18	160	6 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Sunday sharing... dream dreaming... (Preview) Hi y'all ... My ultimate gurus are Lois and Bill. They have pop star and film star status for me. I have their photo on the wall. But for a long time I wanted to be a guru and leader too! Not surprising since I used Bill's saying a lot. One that appears in the AA Big Book. "Half measures avail us nothing....	DavidG	4	37	6 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	8/1 C2C - What Is AlAnon About (Preview) Such a great page today in Courage, sums up how so many of us got here but more importantly: how to get to a better place. I came here to change others, but found out I needed to change myself...practice the 12 Steps of AA in my own life, develop a higher power, and accept that I am responsible for the serenit...	Enigmatic	5	45	6 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today August 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of prayer, and the idea that we have the ability to pray in many different ways, in different places, and at any time. The writer begins with a description of how sleeping patterns have changed for him/her. The writer describes the inability...	yanksfan51	2	30	6 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Saturday's Daily 08/01/2020 (Preview) Happy August! Today I will be pulling directly from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "Say thank you, until you mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns...	PosiesandPuppies	2	38	7 days ago by mamalioness
	Relationships... (Preview) I say this more times than often. Even as i grow older- much older... Through my 20's my girls friends got rougher and tougher. In my steps 8 and 9 I took account of these people. Being a country lad- I was much slower on the uptake than my urban counterparts- and I could name each one of them. Doing Step...	DavidG	6	69	7 days ago by Maresie888
	just want to share of few thoughts. (Preview) Today is a good day just to send out my random thoughts. I realized after reading some of my story that I have an idea. It seems like I can truly say that I can name naming, then I blame blaming & then shame shaming. Now I am claim claiming the fact that I came up w/these thoughts. Maybe this isn't exactly...	Hoot Nanny	3	50	7 days ago by Lyne
	Gaslighting, par excellence... (Preview) My home relationship has improved markedly over the last 18 to 24 months. Not quite where I want it- but getting fairly close... I am working part time. SO came home from work and found an element on on the stove. It had been like that since breakfast- so it must have been on very low. She put some toasti...	DavidG	4	79	8 days ago by JerryF
	Double binds (Preview) Every day at work I sign s statement that I am feeling well and can work. This oricess is repea4ed when I get to work. So it is twice.once when I check in. Once when I get screened Yesterday I called off. I have been working a lot.lately. my fatigue kevel was high Todsy I get a mote saying ny absence was un...	Maresie888	6	60	8 days ago by Maresie888
	Hope For Today - July 31 (Preview) The author remembered reading a magazine article stating that the correct use of the mind leads to wisdom and the incorrect use of the mind mind leads to insanity. When coming into Al-Anon, the author realized that the core of the program was based on the right use of the mind as well as the heart. The au...	Freetime	4	43	8 days ago by DavidG
	Courage to Change 7/30 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about decisions and choices we can make to be happy. We have all heard that happiness is an inside job, and that we can be as happy as we choose to me. While we all recognize it's unrealistic to be happy all the time, we can be happy most of the time if we make a commi...	Iamhere	5	51	9 days ago by DavidG
	Courage to Change July 29 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the spiritual nature of the Al-Anon program. Al-Anon is not based on any particular religion, and no religious belief is required. There is not a specific dogma or philosophy. The important part is believing in a power greater than ourselves. We need this h...	Skorpi	3	48	10 days ago by Iamhere
	Lies (Preview) I have been working briefly with a coworker who compulsively lies. His lies are not anything that can affect my.job I spent years with the qualifier who lied comoulsively. He lied about crashing the car repeatedly (which I paid for). He lied about working, where he was, virtually anything he was res...	Maresie888	8	118	10 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT in alanon, 7/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/27, asks the question: If alcoholism/addictions did not exist, would marriages and all other relationships be perfect? And of course the answer is no: sobriety does not end all problems. It is true that alcoholism does wreck marriages that might have otherwise been s...	Lyne	3	53	11 days ago by Maresie888
	I hope this doesn't get old. (Preview) I really hope this doesn't get old. I am writing my life story as I speak. It has been over a year since I started in early July last year. It is very detailed & I hope it doesn't get too boring! I feel very exited about my memories! I really have a good story to tell--the whole truth! I feel like maybe I sh...	Hoot Nanny	4	43	11 days ago by Hoot Nanny
	Courage to Change 7/25/2020 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Today's reading talks about Courage. The author talks about after years and years of letting people take advantage of them, they had come to Al-Anon with quite a store of anger, resentment and guilt. So many times they wanted to "bite off their tongue" for saying "Yes," when w...	PosiesandPuppies	10	73	11 days ago by Maresie888
	Greetings (Preview) 11 plus years sober. Was very sad to hear of Betty's passing. Working daily still as rehab is "essential" healthcare. It is crazy cuz I have plenty of exposure to barely recovering or relapsing people but now limited AA (and Alanon). BUT...on the flip side....still have a job and income and more likel...	pinkchip	10	222	11 days ago by andromeda
	C2C 7/28/20 - Keep Coming Back: Benefits (Preview) AlAnon is a spiritual recovery program that yields miracles after persistent, consistent thought and effort. This can be compared to the work of a stone cutter who may strike a stone 99 times with no apparent effect before the rewarding break on the 100th. Acceptance of Alcoholism as a disease, acce...	Enigmatic	5	41	11 days ago by Iamhere
	I'm a loud mouthed schnook! (Preview) Good Afternoon All. Earlier I waded in on a post without properly introducing myself. My intent was not to offend, but share how applying Alanon priciples have enriched my life. I entered AA recovery 25 years ago when my then hubby kicked me to the curb. Smart man. He cut his losses quickly. I was in...	Toronto	7	84	12 days ago by Jen61
	How to detach from an alcoholic when doing so leaves them in physical danger (Preview) Ive been dragged into my alcoholic siblings problem for the last several months. It started as helping her get to detox (more than once) and once to rehab (she was sober for maybe 30 days after the rehab). Two months ago she had a bad fall and broke her arm, so needed help at home for awhile and has been un...	Christiob	6	106	12 days ago by Jen61
	A daily, or weekly share...??? (Preview) Hi y'a'll... Having this group here, and the MIP groups generally has been a great boon for me. It has taken me beyond the possible... as it was... ...I needed 3 or 4 meetings a week at times- and had none. The bonus here is that we have some of the high motivation members- from different corn...	DavidG	1	35	12 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	Take What You Like And Leave The Rest (Preview) I know in "that other thread" I said I doubted I would ever be logging in again,yet here I am. I actually logged in because I was going to apologize for the things I said because I wasn't feeling good about myself for it. I felt like I was wrong in what I said and felt I didn't have the right to say what I thought...	SunnyFrogs	10	139	13 days ago by mamalioness
	Hope for Today July 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the twelve concepts and general warranties of the program. I will admit I dont know a lot about this except when they have been referred to in a meeting. The writer connects the warranties with being able adjust attitudes in relation to making decision...	yanksfan51	2	50	13 days ago by Iamhere
	Last week’s hope for today! July 19 (Preview) I thought I posted this! So sorry everyone. It was sitting here waiting to go as I got ready to write today. What day is it again???? My apologies. Heres last weeks writing: Good morning Everyone: Today?s reading is about our growth toward self sufficiency. Many of us who grew up in alcoholism or h...	yanksfan51	2	41	13 days ago by tiredtonite
	How to detach with love...not just completely stop caring... (Preview) Hi friends, I've gotten to a point where I don't know if what I'm doing/feeling is considered detaching "with love" or just plain I don't care anymore. I've been with my A for 5.5 years and we have a 1.5 year old daughter together. He relapses every few weeks - months. Never sober longer than 11 months...	foriver	9	116	13 days ago by 2HP
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