Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · lookingup

i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...

courage101 · courage101

.(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...

Tigger · Tigger

The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...

hotrod · hotrod

Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Peggy7 ~*Service Worker*~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...

david62 · david62

GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...

hotrod · hotrod

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...

John · John

http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...

Aloha · Aloha

I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....

Jnazarieh · Jnazarieh

I want to start by thanking everyone here for all their kind words of encouragement and hope. My brother is my qualifier and Im at such a lose as to what to do. Hes been struggling for years and been in and out of rehab. Hes Been involved with A.A. for years. Hes done individual therapy, group therapy , out...

DavidG · DavidG

Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...

lynn0628tammy · lynn0628tammy

I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...

DavidG · DavidG

I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...

Debb · Debb

on:http://www.alanon.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Service-Tool-6-Cros...

DavidG · DavidG

I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...

Debb · Debb

The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...

Aloha · Aloha

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/

Hopeful11 · Hopeful11

I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...

Debb · Debb

Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...

Debb · Debb

It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...

Aloha · Aloha

I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...

DavidG · DavidG

Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...

Katie55 · Katie55

I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...

hotrod · hotrod

he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...

Debb · Debb

© Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl

Debb · Debb

Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...

Debb · Debb

Let It Begin with Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and Let It Begin with Me. Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...

DavidG · DavidG

An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...

Debb · Debb

Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...

DavidG · DavidG

The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...

hotrod · hotrod

the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...

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	STICKY: MIP meeting room (Preview) i can not get in,it keeps saying to prove who I am, ive tried everything ,it didn't say how to prove me, has or is anybody having or had this problem with the meeting/chat room?? Please let me know how you solved it. thank you in advance. Lookingup...	lookingup	34	2301	4 days ago by Iamhere
	STICKY: MIP Al-Anon Chat Room Meeting Times (Preview) .(Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time .(Nite Meetings) Mon - Saturday 9PM eastern time Sunday 7PM eastern time Hope you will come to meetings & join us. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. Ther...	courage101	20	4844	4 days ago by Beckon2
	STICKY: THE Gifts/PROMISES OF ALANON ( 1 2 ) (Preview) The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-...	Tigger	65	56669	November 13th by DavidG
	STICKY: Continuation of Funding Drive (Preview) Hello all, we have now paid our "Go Daddy "account in full for the year. Thank you We still need to pay our other vendor, Sparklit and plan on a continuation of the funding drive starting this weekend and intend to cut it off when we get to 1 year @ $17.98/month prepaid. We will turn on Commu...	hotrod	14	1590	May 13, 2019 by Lyne
	STICKY: Donations needed for web hosting renewal (Preview) Our GoDaddy bill of $187.87 is due in May. This supports our Miracles In Progress web hosting and domain registration. If you are able, please contribute in gratitude for what MIP provides to us. Click here to donate via PayPal or Credit/Debit card or use the button below.	WebHelper	15	769	Apr 28, 2019 by Bo
	STICKY: Sticky Alanon Slogans in Poem and other helpful acronyms (Preview) Peggy7 ~Service Worker~ Status: OnlinePosts: 650Date: 1h ago Reply Quote More Attachments AlanonSlogans10-28-15.pdf (119.6 kb)v Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out o...	hotrod	22	12862	Mar 7, 2019 by Iamhere
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	4	1104	Sep 22, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: MIP Funding Drive (Preview) Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...	hotrod	16	2225	May 17, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (closed) (Preview) GENERAL INFORMATION 1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you! By going to the following link:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting...	david62	23	48143	May 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	STICKY: INFORMATION FOR THE NEW COMER--POSTING GUIDELINES AND OTHER IMPORTANT INFORMATION (closed) (Preview) The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. When responding please consider asking yourself the question:" do my words support an alanon principle or philoso...	hotrod	7	3947	May 7, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Do's and Don'ts (closed) (Preview) Hi ((((Family))) I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too. We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer! Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism. Do's Do learn the facts about alcoholism. . Do tal...	david62	33	16171	Apr 24, 2018 by hotrod
	STICKY: Step Work Board (closed) (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.comHi Family and Friends!We are working on bringing our Step Work Board to the forefront of this site again. This is where newcomers can learn about each of the 12 steps and old timers can share their experience, strength and hope related to them.This week we are star...	John	16	16470	Dec 18, 2016 by Liz14
	Celebrating 12 years (Preview) I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....	Aloha	6	31	8h ago by hotrod
	Feeling Lost (Preview) I want to start by thanking everyone here for all their kind words of encouragement and hope. My brother is my qualifier and Im at such a lose as to what to do. Hes been struggling for years and been in and out of rehab. Hes Been involved with A.A. for years. Hes done individual therapy, group therapy , out...	Jnazarieh	10	130	12h ago by JerryF
	Progress, or perfection...? (Preview) Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...	DavidG	3	34	15h ago by Bo
	C2C, 1/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...	Lyne	4	30	18h ago by PosiesandPuppies
	What I Learned From Contacting His Doctor (Preview) This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...	SunnyFrogs	18	294	19h ago by Bo
	Needing support (Preview) I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...	lynn0628tammy	10	75	19h ago by Aloha
	The Alanon opening... (Preview) I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...	DavidG	4	76	yesterday by Bo
	Hope for Today Jan 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...	yanksfan51	3	37	yesterday by PosiesandPuppies
	Al Anon Service Tool #6 - Cross-Talk & Loving Interchange (Preview) on:http://www.alanon.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Service-Tool-6-Cros...	Debb	16	253	2 days ago by hotrod
	From help into hope... (Preview) I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...	DavidG	4	70	2 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT for 1/25/2020 - (Preview) The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...	Debb	4	74	2 days ago by PosiesandPuppies
	'Why Do I Act as Though He Were Willfully Bad?' (Preview) When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...	Enigmatic	6	117	2 days ago by hotrod
	Group Inventory discussion has been moved to the business board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/	Aloha	1	57	3 days ago by Debb
	Help (Preview) I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...	Hopeful11	18	233	3 days ago by Hopeful11
	C2C, January 24 (Preview) The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...	Freetime	4	64	3 days ago by DavidG
	Just did it and what a relief! (Preview) Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...	lgnutah	9	239	3 days ago by Debb
	So frustrated: having heart and BP issues (Preview) Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...	andromeda	7	123	3 days ago by Debb
	Grandiosity & Addiction (Preview) Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...	Debb	4	109	4 days ago by Debb
	"Group Inventory" and "Traditions" for Group Participation ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...	Debb	41	612	4 days ago by DavidG
	Martyrdom (Preview) I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...	Aloha	8	128	4 days ago by Bo
	Worried about finances... (Preview) Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...	DavidG	5	101	4 days ago by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1/23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...	Iamhere	3	54	4 days ago by Lyne
	Courage to Change January 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...	Skorpi	5	72	5 days ago by Freetime
	The unknown (Preview) I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...	Katie55	14	203	5 days ago by Iamhere
	Just to clarify.. (Preview) I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...	Hoot Nanny	0	47	6 days ago by Hoot Nanny
	My share for today... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...	DavidG	0	40	6 days ago by DavidG
	C2c reading 1-21 (Preview) he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...	hotrod	5	95	6 days ago by DavidG
	My live in boyfriend is abuseive (Preview) Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...	Beckon2	17	422	6 days ago by milkwood
	Our dreams, and goals... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...	DavidG	2	77	7 days ago by DavidG
	Our Group Conscience (Preview) © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...	Debb	3	85	7 days ago by DavidG
	Meetings (Preview) Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl	Beckon2	3	94	7 days ago by Bo
	It has been a while!! (Preview) Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...	Debb	20	272	7 days ago by Bo
	Let It Begin With Me! (Preview) *Let It Begin with Me* When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and *Let It Begin with Me.* Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!	Debb	8	166	7 days ago by JerryF
	C2C, 1/20 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...	Lyne	3	70	7 days ago by Debb
	Hope for Today Jan 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...	yanksfan51	5	90	8 days ago by DavidG
	the LAST resort!!! (Preview) Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...	mamalioness	10	191	8 days ago by Maresie888
	An attitude of gratitude... (Preview) An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...	DavidG	6	99	8 days ago by Bo
	Step 10 and gratitude... (Preview) Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...	DavidG	4	73	8 days ago by Bo
	ODAT for 1/18/2020 (Preview) Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...	Debb	4	88	9 days ago by JerryF
	ODAT - January 17 (Preview) In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...	Freetime	8	96	10 days ago by JerryF
	Just another birthday to remember... (Preview) This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...	Hoot Nanny	3	52	10 days ago by hotrod
	Processing Feelings (Preview) I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...	tiredtonite	24	308	11 days ago by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...	Iamhere	5	85	11 days ago by JerryF
	Maybe I should Contact His Doctor(?) ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...	SunnyFrogs	43	507	11 days ago by SunnyFrogs
	Courage to Change January 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...	Skorpi	5	59	12 days ago by Iamhere
	Me and professionals... (Preview) The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...	DavidG	7	95	12 days ago by Debb
	C2 C reading 1-14 (Preview) the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...	hotrod	6	73	13 days ago by JerryF
	Awareness acceptance and action (Preview) This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...	el-cee	5	78	13 days ago by DavidG
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