Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...

allison · allison

God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...

LALA1 · LALA1

My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...

Trace123 · Trace123

Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...

RichardA · RichardA

-- Edited by RichardA at 01:02, 2006-07-08

RamzDear · RamzDear

Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...

horselover58 · horselover58

I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...

Maria123 · Maria123

I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...

patience · patience

I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...

hersh · hersh

Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...

mastiff · mastiff

HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...

MsSteph · MsSteph

Just joined the board today. Glad to be here. I have been spending a lot of time posting on another board for different reasons but found that I always ended up talking about the same thing which is my alcoholic husband and all the issues around that. So "dumm...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...

lilms · lilms

Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled

Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...

omajoy · omajoy

My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...

Mia2 · Mia2

Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...

shamama · shamama

he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...

John · John

http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John

hersh · hersh

    Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...

hersh · hersh

From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...

talbotts · talbotts

My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...

marmare · marmare

I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old,

.... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...

sunnymom · sunnymom

I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....

ollie · ollie

Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...

ollie · ollie

i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...

david62 · david62

Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...

shadow1 · shadow1

How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...

Powerless · Powerless

Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...

ollie · ollie

Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...

dori · dori

Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words

debora · debora

Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...

afglin · afglin

I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...

dori · dori

Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...

Cilla · Cilla

Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...

manic2 · manic2

Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...

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	Geez this is hard (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...	Jennifer	5	406	Jul 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	detatch with love (Preview) Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...	annmarie	2	322	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	I knew better!! (Preview) God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...	allison	5	437	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	Expectations and Boundaries (Preview) Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...	SerenityGirl	2	386	Jul 8, 2006 by Karilynn
	VERY confused (Preview) My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...	LALA1	3	294	Jul 8, 2006 by Maria123
	I am new, wanted to say hi (Preview) Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...	Trace123	7	340	Jul 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	WHAT IF ??? (Preview) -- Edited by RichardA at 01:02, 2006-07-08	RichardA	7	489	Jul 8, 2006 by twopoodles
	No phone today (Preview) Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...	RamzDear	7	312	Jul 8, 2006 by Ria
	Moral decline in alcoholics (Preview) I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...	horselover58	11	986	Jul 7, 2006 by horselover58
	I Miss My Friends (Preview) I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...	Maria123	3	334	Jul 7, 2006 by Lunamoth
	I had my Baby! (Preview) Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...	twopoodles	5	455	Jul 7, 2006 by twopoodles
	Setting boundaries (Preview) I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...	patience	4	353	Jul 7, 2006 by patience
	Out all night, sad and upset (Preview) Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...	hersh	4	483	Jul 7, 2006 by RamzDear
	serenity in yosemite (Preview) HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...	mastiff	1	331	Jul 7, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Be careful what you wish for... (Preview) Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...	AlaMom	5	351	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Fighting the urge to call... (Preview) I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...	AlaMom	7	604	Jul 7, 2006 by MsSteph
	My People! (Preview) Just joined the board today. Glad to be here. I have been spending a lot of time posting on another board for different reasons but found that I always ended up talking about the same thing which is my alcoholic husband and all the issues around that. So "dumm...	MsSteph	4	462	Jul 7, 2006 by MsSteph
	over reactions (Preview) hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...	notsonew1111	7	406	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Well Hell (Preview) Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...	lilms	8	787	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	sober rants (Preview) My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...	omajoy	4	509	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Which group do I choose? (Preview) Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...	Mia2	4	629	Jul 7, 2006 by Rita G
	finally found a meeting..and not too soon (Preview) I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...	RamzDear	2	234	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	embarrassed and ashamed (Preview) Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...	maire rua	3	399	Jul 7, 2006 by nycbt
	ok this tire problem is getting old/return to tire shop (Preview) I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...	hmrnrnmm	1	477	Jul 7, 2006 by hersh
	The Big 1000 (Preview) Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...	Dolphin123	7	367	Jul 7, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	What's Love Got To Do, Got To Do With It? (Preview) ((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...	BlueCloud	1	304	Jul 7, 2006 by annmarie
	need advice with kids' visitation and A father (Preview) he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...	shamama	6	584	Jul 7, 2006 by isabela40
	http://www.mipchat.net (Preview) http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John	John	0	609	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Words of Wisdom about LOVE (Preview)     Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...	hersh	3	429	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Don't put your life on hold... (Preview) From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...	hersh	6	766	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	light bulb moment/ a new way to look at life (Preview) I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...	hmrnrnmm	2	646	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	Hello (Preview) My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...	talbotts	5	646	Jul 6, 2006 by talbotts
	Balance and Discipline (Preview) 7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...	Wizkid	1	470	Jul 6, 2006 by Faith73
	Mom and Me (Preview) I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...	marmare	2	321	Jul 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Payback (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old, .... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...	Karilynn	8	427	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Up All Night... (Preview) I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...	CAM0914	3	281	Jul 6, 2006 by omajoy
	Not sure (Preview) I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...	sunnymom	4	513	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	my bull-headed self (Preview) I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...	RamzDear	5	534	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Thanks guys (Preview) Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....	RamzDear	3	484	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	big thanks (Preview) Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...	ollie	1	258	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	relieving some stresses (Preview) hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...	notsonew1111	2	285	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	hmm, worse than having a flat tire tonite & solution thursday 7/6 (Preview) I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...	hmrnrnmm	2	509	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	my first f2f meeting... (Preview) I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...	iwishuheaven	5	300	Jul 6, 2006 by beachbaby
	confused (Preview) i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...	ollie	10	1454	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	MMMMM....That new car smell! (Preview) Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...	david62	13	787	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Missing the "A" (Preview) Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...	Dolphin123	7	799	Jul 6, 2006 by tea2
	How is HP working in your life? (Preview) How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...	shadow1	5	300	Jul 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Just For Today (Preview) Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...	Powerless	3	417	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	sleep needed (Preview) Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...	ollie	3	422	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Feel like I'm doing my kids an injustice (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...	twinmom2	6	479	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	update (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...	notsonew1111	6	321	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Andrea and Diva (Preview) Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words	dori	0	319	Jul 6, 2006 by dori
	New and fearful (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...	debora	4	435	Jul 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Grumpy/Moody (Preview) I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...	DoN4me	2	446	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	My husband sent me a poem from prison (Preview) My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...	sarahlm	8	631	Jul 6, 2006 by david62
	only regulars in meetings? (Preview) I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...	afglin	6	586	Jul 6, 2006 by afglin
	Sara (Preview) Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...	dori	0	242	Jul 5, 2006 by dori
	Freeing (Preview) I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...	DoN4me	4	379	Jul 5, 2006 by DoN4me
	What Do We Teach Our Children (Preview) Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...	Cilla	3	378	Jul 5, 2006 by lin0606
	New here (Preview) Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...	manic2	5	534	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
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