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RamzDear


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I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games  (I'm 37 but still love the involvement;I beleive these games are going to comprise half of my upcoming days...this board the other half.)


I decided to look hard for an alon meeting. I don't know if I thought I was too smart since I had attended AA meetings in the past(for myself). I have a strong suspicion that part of the reluctance was the thought that I would be sending the message that I'm abandoning my A if he knew I had to seek an outside source for help. But damned it. I'm becoming choked up and the best friend I THOUGHT I had appears to disappear not even 2 months before our new child. Thank God I have a marvelous son living with us.Between your posts and his jokes ..man..what would I do??


I found a meeting.There's only one every Tuesday.Tuesday now seems a hundred miles away.I can't wait. I don't care if he sees it as abandonment (he prefers for us to spend our spare time together). I can't live like this. I can't leave. I'm sunburnt to death and need a cool swim.


I read a post earlier where the woman said she has learned to let her A have his addiction for himself. The one main thing I want to learn is how to accept that. I get the basic idea,I'm not too thin in the reasoning department. I just wonder how I can hand over his problem to him and live with it if he ends up causing an accident that takes a life.If he loses his job forever. If he has a stroke or heart attack. If..If..If..I guess I've been blessed with the opportunity to start another phase on Tuesday to find out. I'm already planning on making plans to leave because it doesn't seem to get any better in the years to come. I have no family,am unemployed at the moment and have packed up and left two A mates before.I'm just tired of having to be the one to uproot myself into another struggling. I guess THAT would be another goal I'd like to work through;AVOIDING such a choice. I'd want very much to ground my heels in and stand strong without letting someone else's illness affect me so drastically.


So many prayers are going up express style tonight


(soft chuckle) many 'hooz-its' are going to get blasted into oblivion on the TV screen tonight as well.Love ram.



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Maria123


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((((((((((((((Ramz))))))))))))))))))),

I too sooooooooooooooo love my sons senses of humor. They are amazing. Thank goodness for this program that I can now appreciate their humor and find laughter and love. What a gift!

Keep coming,
Maria123

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Dolphin123


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Ram,


So glad you found a face to face meeting to attend.


My "A" prefers me to go to my meetings, I am easier to live with then :). ANd even if he didn't like it, I like it, and I like who I am when I work a prgram.


Tell us how your meeting went.


Yours in Recovery,


Mandy (Dolphin123)



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