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evey · evey

Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...

bewildered · bewildered

hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...

gracefull · gracefull

Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...

gardengal · gardengal

Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...

ohera101 · ohera101

Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff".

My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...

gracefull · gracefull

I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....

sandie123 · sandie123

Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...

Rob · Rob

Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...

omajoy · omajoy

I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...

ollie · ollie

Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...

dori · dori

Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...

dori · dori

Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...

Maria123 · Maria123

Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.SA.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's wor...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Happy Monday Group))) After my last post on how the A is completly callous and cold towards me I took some much needed time for myself. I didn't get much work done on Friday, but was able to come in for a couple hours on Saturday and accomplish at least one major important task. I was abl...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-03-06 Georgia is good name, so I chose the font for that reason. I just wanted to follow-up. My Sweetie gets off of work soon, goes to an A.A. meeting, and then will be on his way to see me. My recovery is important to me. I must fit time in. I must write. I mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi All, Yesterday when I posted the original post, I had just finished the conversation with the woman who told me the story. And I was hot, as you can tell form the post. I have a tendancy to let my anger get the better of me, and just needed to vent when I came here So vent I did. I don't know the whole stor...

Wizkid · Wizkid

Okay, here goes... I don't know if it's okay with the members of this site that I journal here or not. Please let me know. When I was in college--often times--students were asked to respond to what they've read. I'd like to do that here since the material I am reading is Al-anon,...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok you know A wrote and did not want a divorce? He is in jail, dui. So I sent him a letter that he has a lot of work to do if he wants to stay married. Then I sent a letter telling him my boundaries. 90 in 90, AA serious program of recovery, go on lithium he is bi polar, go to Va everytime he feels sick headacke t...

texaslady417 · texaslady417

I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...

angel123 · angel123

Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...

serendipity · serendipity

my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...

Jill · Jill

I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...

shamama · shamama

bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...

peewee · peewee

This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW

LosingHope · LosingHope

Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...

megan · megan

Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...

Gailey · Gailey

I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol

) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))),

dori · dori

Hi, My 20 year old daugther still at home and has a job .She did take off for a month though.She has to pay the cell phone bill now that is a cell phone for her brother , myself and her. She couldnt pay it this month so I was going to pay it .Today was the last day to pay it .Something happen to my...

jj · jj

He I am 2:30 in the morning and can't sleep!!! So I decuided to pop in and see how every one was doing. Read a few post and so on. (((Cdb))) sorry your daughter relapsed I hold her and your family in my prayers. I am also really happy to see you on the board!!! My codependancy h...

Tammy · Tammy

Finally got my computer fixed ... !!! So much has happened since my last post... The last few weeks have been very hard for me.. My husband and I have been at each others throats.. We took seperate vacations and on the way home I listened to a message on his cell phone left by a female and assumed he wa...

confused · confused

I am so frustrated right now that I want to scream. My son leaves for camp tomorrow. Until today, I thought that my AH and I were both going to drive him there. (2.5 hours to New Hampshire) Well, now he is going to work instead. Ok, but he had just told me yesterday t...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am looking for work again. My temporary assignment ended. I feel like I am going to have to be far more vague with the A around my money. If he thinks I have some he finds a way for me to have to pay some of the bills. I think I need to be vague in order to protect myself. I know that...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

HAPPY CANADAY DAY TO ALL MY FELLOW CANADIANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maria123 · Maria123

Would you all please say a prayer for Mira? She's not feeling well, and I am sure she could use our prayers

Maria

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, I was just talking to a client of ours that is placed at a local treatment center in a receptionist position as a way to gain some work experience. She was talking to us about this kid she met at the treatment center. He had come in to do an intake to start services there. He completed...

marriage2 · marriage2

Do you ever sit back and wonder WHY ME? Not in the pity sense but just in general. I have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 3. He was sober when we met and was upfront about being an alcoholic. But he lied about the length of his sobriety. He padded his sobriety date by 4 years. Wh...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Here is a quote sent to me in email by our CEO. Now he is not talking about my life in the email, but... boy it sure hit home. Have a great weekend! Take care of you! "If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principle...

ET · ET

Okay, I'm new to this group, but not new to the horrors of living with an addict. My ex-husband (from a 25 year long relationship), for awhile destroyed my life. It's a really long story, I'm going to try to summarize it the best I can - it's such a long story, but I'll try to make it shorter.I would so much ap...

gardengal · gardengal

Many of us including myself find themselves revisiting situations that have come and gone. I for one still wonder "why me", and all the other things that creep up in our minds periodically. Not so good memories come along , and we seem to let it go there and rehash situations that we cannot possib...

Cyn · Cyn

Life has been difficult with me and my boyfriend - life has been difficult for HIM - and his reaction to it and me has been difficult for me. I keep saying I am trying to give him what he needs, he keeps saying maybe I am trying to hard and thats the problem. However this is all I am doing: letti...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	visit to rehab (Preview) Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...	evey	6	730	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	returning newbie (Preview) hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...	bewildered	5	555	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Checking In (Preview) Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...	gracefull	3	513	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Importance of reaching out... (Preview) Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...	hersh	1	212	Jul 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Should Children Witness Childbirth? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...	Dolphin123	1	199	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Do you try to reason things through rather than act on impulse? (Preview) Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...	gardengal	3	266	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Staying Strong... (Preview) Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...	AlaMom	3	340	Jul 5, 2006 by tea2
	Response to reader, & Q-TIP (Preview) 7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...	Wizkid	2	850	Jul 5, 2006 by drucilla06
	overcast of alcoholism (Preview) Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...	ohera101	3	362	Jul 5, 2006 by twinmom2
	Happy 4th! (Preview) Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff". My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...	lmt123	4	297	Jul 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	don't know what to do now.. (Preview) Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...	annmarie	6	502	Jul 5, 2006 by annmarie
	Need ESH, Please! (Preview) I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....	gracefull	7	679	Jul 4, 2006 by nmike
	Struggling with Grief...need ESH (Preview) Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...	sandie123	5	626	Jul 4, 2006 by angelnomore
	please send all of your prayers!!!! (Preview) its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...	notsonew1111	11	739	Jul 4, 2006 by peewee
	hi guys update (Preview) hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...	chrissy	5	512	Jul 4, 2006 by afglin
	What to do... (Preview) Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...	iwishuheaven	5	556	Jul 4, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Newbee to this board...My parents drink but im an alki too.. (Preview) Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...	Rob	13	805	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	grieving (Preview) I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...	omajoy	13	770	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	Taking a breather where I should (Preview) I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...	RamzDear	2	480	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	help (Preview) Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...	ollie	0	322	Jul 4, 2006 by ollie
	Long Entry: maybe it's necessary. (Preview) 7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...	Wizkid	2	505	Jul 4, 2006 by horselover58
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...	beachbaby	8	651	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	I'm Pregnant! (Preview) Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...	jacksmom	7	367	Jul 4, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	stupid disagreement , which is the best way? (Preview) We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...	hmrnrnmm	4	528	Jul 4, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	sh*it hit the fan.....again (Preview) hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...	notsonew1111	5	705	Jul 4, 2006 by Jerry F
	freedom.-free of (Preview) Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...	dori	8	434	Jul 3, 2006 by drucilla06
	I'm an AAer who needs help 'letting go' (Preview) Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...	jonibaloni	14	898	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Cancer Scare (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...	CAM0914	3	532	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	debilyn-hopeful (Preview) Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...	dori	1	292	Jul 3, 2006 by RichardA
	ASAP (Preview) Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.SA.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's wor...	Maria123	4	424	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	HP has me where he wants me... for now (Preview) (((Happy Monday Group))) After my last post on how the A is completly callous and cold towards me I took some much needed time for myself. I didn't get much work done on Friday, but was able to come in for a couple hours on Saturday and accomplish at least one major important task. I was abl...	twinmom2	4	554	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Follow-up journal entry... (Preview) 7-03-06 Georgia is good name, so I chose the font for that reason. I just wanted to follow-up. My Sweetie gets off of work soon, goes to an A.A. meeting, and then will be on his way to see me. My recovery is important to me. I must fit time in. I must write. I mu...	Wizkid	1	365	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	RE: Words Can Kill (Preview) Hi All, Yesterday when I posted the original post, I had just finished the conversation with the woman who told me the story. And I was hot, as you can tell form the post. I have a tendancy to let my anger get the better of me, and just needed to vent when I came here So vent I did. I don't know the whole stor...	Dolphin123	8	752	Jul 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Is it okay if I journal here? 7-3-06 (Preview) Okay, here goes... I don't know if it's okay with the members of this site that I journal here or not. Please let me know. When I was in college--often times--students were asked to respond to what they've read. I'd like to do that here since the material I am reading is Al-anon,...	Wizkid	4	488	Jul 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I am hopeless (Preview) Ok you know A wrote and did not want a divorce? He is in jail, dui. So I sent him a letter that he has a lot of work to do if he wants to stay married. Then I sent a letter telling him my boundaries. 90 in 90, AA serious program of recovery, go on lithium he is bi polar, go to Va everytime he feels sick headacke t...	debilyn	12	636	Jul 3, 2006 by TLC2
	Can't let go of resentments (Preview) I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...	texaslady417	5	548	Jul 3, 2006 by nmike
	Thank You (Preview) Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...	angel123	1	415	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Am I controlling or being controlled (Preview) I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...	hmrnrnmm	6	627	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	now what am i doing? (Preview) my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...	serendipity	3	483	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Finding relief (Preview) I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...	Jill	1	471	Jul 3, 2006 by annmarie
	the worrying if they are dead or not (Preview) bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...	shamama	5	440	Jul 3, 2006 by shamama
	2 L's and HN (Preview) This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW	peewee	3	373	Jul 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	In Desperation (Preview) Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...	LosingHope	8	776	Jul 2, 2006 by abbyal
	My latest divorce saga (long) (Preview) Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...	megan	10	439	Jul 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Dr Wayne Dyer (Preview) I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...	Gailey	2	404	Jul 2, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Private Messages (Preview) Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol ) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...	Karilynn	2	316	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	Prayers for Alanon families please (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))),	Karilynn	6	390	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	Bills pay them or not pay them (Preview) Hi, My 20 year old daugther still at home and has a job .She did take off for a month though.She has to pay the cell phone bill now that is a cell phone for her brother , myself and her. She couldnt pay it this month so I was going to pay it .Today was the last day to pay it .Something happen to my...	dori	5	535	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	can't sleep (Preview) He I am 2:30 in the morning and can't sleep!!! So I decuided to pop in and see how every one was doing. Read a few post and so on. (((Cdb))) sorry your daughter relapsed I hold her and your family in my prayers. I am also really happy to see you on the board!!! My codependancy h...	jj	3	548	Jul 2, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Catching UP !!! (Preview) Finally got my computer fixed ... !!! So much has happened since my last post... The last few weeks have been very hard for me.. My husband and I have been at each others throats.. We took seperate vacations and on the way home I listened to a message on his cell phone left by a female and assumed he wa...	Tammy	4	250	Jul 1, 2006 by nmike
	expectations - resentment - come off my pink cloud - ESH PLEASE! (Preview) I am so frustrated right now that I want to scream. My son leaves for camp tomorrow. Until today, I thought that my AH and I were both going to drive him there. (2.5 hours to New Hampshire) Well, now he is going to work instead. Ok, but he had just told me yesterday t...	confused	3	582	Jul 1, 2006 by abbyal
	looking for work (Preview) I am looking for work again. My temporary assignment ended. I feel like I am going to have to be far more vague with the A around my money. If he thinks I have some he finds a way for me to have to pay some of the bills. I think I need to be vague in order to protect myself. I know that...	maresie2	5	441	Jul 1, 2006 by maresie2
	happy c-day (Preview) HAPPY CANADAY DAY TO ALL MY FELLOW CANADIANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!	notsonew1111	3	1686	Jul 1, 2006 by peewee
	Mira (Preview) Would you all please say a prayer for Mira? She's not feeling well, and I am sure she could use our prayers Maria	Maria123	3	382	Jul 1, 2006 by peewee
	Words Can Kill (Preview) Hi Roomies, I was just talking to a client of ours that is placed at a local treatment center in a receptionist position as a way to gain some work experience. She was talking to us about this kid she met at the treatment center. He had come in to do an intake to start services there. He completed...	Dolphin123	9	673	Jul 1, 2006 by jkiss03
	NEW and LONG (Preview) Do you ever sit back and wonder WHY ME? Not in the pity sense but just in general. I have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 3. He was sober when we met and was upfront about being an alcoholic. But he lied about the length of his sobriety. He padded his sobriety date by 4 years. Wh...	marriage2	4	768	Jul 1, 2006 by lmt123
	Change and uncertainty (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Here is a quote sent to me in email by our CEO. Now he is not talking about my life in the email, but... boy it sure hit home. Have a great weekend! Take care of you! "If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principle...	rtexas	3	475	Jul 1, 2006 by Dolphin123
	How do I move on, let go of the pain? (Preview) Okay, I'm new to this group, but not new to the horrors of living with an addict. My ex-husband (from a 25 year long relationship), for awhile destroyed my life. It's a really long story, I'm going to try to summarize it the best I can - it's such a long story, but I'll try to make it shorter.I would so much ap...	ET	5	635	Jul 1, 2006 by ET
	Heard something today, wanted to share, found this statement very powerful (Preview) Many of us including myself find themselves revisiting situations that have come and gone. I for one still wonder "why me", and all the other things that creep up in our minds periodically. Not so good memories come along , and we seem to let it go there and rehash situations that we cannot possib...	gardengal	2	794	Jul 1, 2006 by gardengal
	Doing things differently (Preview) Life has been difficult with me and my boyfriend - life has been difficult for HIM - and his reaction to it and me has been difficult for me. I keep saying I am trying to give him what he needs, he keeps saying maybe I am trying to hard and thats the problem. However this is all I am doing: letti...	Cyn	1	445	Jul 1, 2006 by cdb
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