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lil_pieces · lil_pieces

so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...

BrandyCane · BrandyCane

Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...

lonelygirl · lonelygirl

Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...

getoverit · getoverit

Hi 2 all, I love this a.m. topic, rather a reflection on today's reading o d a a time in alanon..* Shimo, u r so the bomb girl, I do not know what we'd do without u, u precious person.. *Aug 3rd, 07 Today has been a magical day, I think my silly keyboard ( or silly me.. ) changed to the other language it is set for...

HC2007 · HC2007

I know how to make it stop, but I dont like how to make it stop... Its not realy what I want, but I know it is what I should want.... talking in circles to myself my head is spinning.. 20 years with an A, from one substance to another, I long for the days it was alcohol, is that bizarre or what? I love him more then...

david62 · david62

At my weekly meeting after the meeting last nite I was talking with one of my alanut friends about relationships. All of us sitting at the table were divorced, two within the last 3 months. We were talking about the expression batted around here in al-anon sometimes (or in codependent literature) tha...

Kim65 · Kim65

The A ran into my son and his friend in town, and asked them to come cut wood with him to make a little cash. These 20 yr old boys were thrilled, as the A told them he could make $500 in a single day. They waited for him at his place until they got bored and drifted over to a new friend's home. In the meantime, t...

flower · flower

I am still confused, but really appreciate the meetings and support here. You all postede right away and helped me. Thank you. I guess I'm confused on how to help my family and self. Mainly I'm trying to be happy no matter what. I started smoking again which I'm not happy about but with all the stress a...

Leetle · Leetle

When I first arrived at alanon's door in crisis, I heard one day at a time, one minute or second at a time if you have to. It helped me to deal with my obssesive thinking, etc. To calm myself down and figure out what the next best thing was for me. Now, I feel like I have moved on to a different phase of the exa...

getoverit · getoverit

Hello 2 all, Golly, The readings today are so kind of an affirmation to doing the slogan work - its written out like an insurance policy, do the slogans and peace back to serenity is so (2000 ed). The slogan for 8.02.07 that is most enforced here in the reader is, to live and let live. Then the reading is fu...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) Hello Again....(saw that in a movie, and wanted to say it)..lol Well, for three days, I have cried my eyes out over a lost love. I have been feeling, used, abused, worthless, useless, not good enough, comparing myself to other women, etc!!!(stinki...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) Here I am on a rainy Saturday afternoon! I had plans today to do some things, which have not happened for one reason or another, the lastest being the continued deluge of my area by rain. Not complaining...too much... as we have been in a drought for the last couple of years and have had...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I found a great website I think someone here may have mentioned it before but I thought it was one I already saw. They had forms and step by step instructions on how to file in NC. And it was a lawyer's website of all things. All I need to be concerned with now is custody and I have a restraining order that'...

serendipity · serendipity

I just tried to send a PM and I sent it to myself (HP trying to tell me something?) Where it says recipient it says my name and then subject is empty. Any suggestions or do I really need to hear what I am saying LOL!

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Sometimes here and there I find myself beating me up for sticking with this as long as I did. I have been with an A or addict or both for the past 14 years of my life. Here I am 36 with 3 kids, a single mom and no prospects and not even enough interest even if I found one. I get a lot of if only's. If only I would h...

Rita G · Rita G

I don't know if we have any MIP members that are in the Minneapolis area, but probably some will have friends or family members in the area. Just wanted to send out good thoughts & prayers for all those affected by this horrible accident. As a DOT (Dept of Transportation) employee, my co-workers we...

bev · bev

went to my mothers-in-laws yesterday to pick up the cell phone bills for the past 3 months{SAH is on my mother-in-law account.well to my surprise that woman he says he didnt do anything with{read earlier post from a few days ago}or really call there was her number on the cell bill starting in aril 7 to ma...

QOD · QOD

Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...

QOD · QOD

Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...

ddub · ddub

New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...

firstin911 · firstin911

Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...

ally · ally

(((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...

Becky1 · Becky1

My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1

Becky1 · Becky1

We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...

bobump · bobump

Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...

debilyn · debilyn

A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)

Loupiness · Loupiness

In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...

jaja · jaja

In the corner Of my eye I saw you in rudys You were very high You were high It was a cryin disgrace They saw your face On the counter By your keys Was a book of numbers And your remedies One of these Surely will screen out the sorrow But where are you tomorrow I cant cry anymore While you run around Break away Jus...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I just don't know how or why I'm feeling like this. axbf is out of town on vaction, things with the truck are in his hands.I'm staying out of it. He called to let me know he had gotten there, haven't heard from him since, thought maybe he would call . He gets back tomarrow and I find the closer he gets to coming...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Have you ever noticed how when you're doing the right thing everything seems to just magically fall into place? I had the garage sale last weekend (I'm still suffering from carrying all that heavy stuff out) and I sold almost all the big items that I wasn't going to take anyway. I swear! I would say I wi...

Heather72 · Heather72

My AHsober (30 days) is about to drive me crazy. He has been cycling from being "OK" to being very angry and loud. Last night, I went to an AA Speaker meeting with him. He invited me to go. It was OK. I could relate to some of what the speaker was sharing, other parts I could not. My AH seemed fine d...

Jamekaticy · Jamekaticy

My A's dad died a little over a week ago. It was a complicated relationship, but he still loved him a lot. Both were diabetic, and his dad was also an alcoholic who would stop drinking for a year or two at a time, then start up again. Worked like a fiend through it all, though, and was in tremendous shape wh...

cursed · cursed

Hello, I am 47 and I have just had enough of my parents bull****.... I live with the scare of their alcoholism everyday .. I cannot look at them anymore because they still will not take responsibility for what they have done ... i guess I am here to get some of this out of me and hopefully a miricle will ha...

barisax · barisax

I used to be a semi-regular at a Sunday night meeting, but since I have gotten involved in a relationship and she wants to go to Alanon too, I let her have that time slot. I don't feel we should *regularly* go to the same meetings, and especially since she was new to Alanon, I didn't want her to be uncomfort...

Rita G · Rita G

The theme for the convention this weekend was "Recipe for Recovery". Being in Lafayette, Louisiana, they had the room decorated with cooking things, fun stuff cause we are definitely known for our food, especially around Lafayette. At the registration table there were cards with thi...

gardengal · gardengal

Oh man for me its plenty. One big one is wondering what people are up to , especially my A. Being nosey wanting to know all the details, good or bad. I would sincerely like to let go of other's business, and live my own life, however I still want to know , "period"! Why ? Dont know? Another huge on...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

OMG it was a long drive I went to an al anon meeting. I was feeling so guilty! It was like I was "little Sarah" and I was being a "bad girl" all over again. I felt this compulsion to tell my parents "I'm going for a job interview with the Americorps in Indy. I'm really excited....

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I just burst into tears over missing my mom. The thing is, what I'm missing isn't the relationship I really have with my mom. I guess I am grieving over my childhood, over the love that my mom never showed me. My mom's attitude toward me and her on again off again very ugly relationship with my alcoholic fa...

bev · bev

hi all,been awhile since i posted..as you all know i left my SAH in jan went to live back up north in ny..came back here in march to take care of the house,and things,and had a long talk to SAH{who was in treatment in gainesville fl but moved in with a long term AAER THE BEGINNING OF APRIL}decided at that tim...

Jen · Jen

Guess Im done being the doormat. I'm nervous today. I told my AH last night and again this morning that if he couldn't get home at a reasonable hour, don't come home. We are self employed and I do the scheduling. I have been careful this year to work the schedule so that he can be home at a reasonable time. An...

Rita G · Rita G

Had the wonderful opportunity of attending our state convention this past weekend - It was awesome. Great, great speakers - Several of the speakers (although the live in different states) share the same Sponsor - great sense of family in recovery - The Alateen speaker was "out the butt" w...

weggie · weggie

It has taken me time and alot of help from Al-alon to understand that it is not my responsibility what my A does or does not do. It is not my responsibility to pay attention to every move he does or does not do. I sometimes still check to see how much he has drank or how much money has been spent and I am still...

Nedsaid · Nedsaid

I knew better before I even said it but, said it anyways. I gave my AH the choice of being married to me or the drink. Of course, he chose the drink. I knew he would but hoped he wouldn't. I am not financially prepared to throw out ultimatums. That was one day last month. In the meantime, I've gotten a s...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I have suspected for a long time that the neighbor lady was doing meth. I even restricted the kids from staying over night there. Well the paper confirmed it Tuesday, she got busted for possession and there was mention of possible sale. My kids are gone on vacation right now and do not know. I'm not su...

QOD · QOD

Hey everyone - I just wanted to let you know that I am feeling much better today. I am coming out of my gloom from yesterday. When I got off of work, I had a good 30 minute cry in the car on my way to pick up my daughter from my sister's house. I felt much better after that. And I did lots of thinking too. I deci...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Alanon Family, One of the two aunts I have been caring for over the last 2 1/2 years abruptly began an argument wtih me. It was over a blouse that she claimed her friend in the senior citizen complex gave her. I gently suggested to her that I had purchased it downstairs in the consignment store because...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, In a previous post I spoke of the Open House for our new business building tomorrow and my concern that my AHsober's affair (an active A) will be there. Ultimately, I was hoping it was a fear -based hypothetical situation. Well, he asked me today if she were to show up with her friend (also a f...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) Been quite an intense week for me. I am looking back at a lot of things in my life. Things that have happened, good and bad. Things I have done, or not done, should have or could have. People I have had in my life or have in my life today. I done something the other day I wou...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

You're never too old to grow up. --Shirley Conran A child's view of adults is that they have arrived at some fixed point where they are emancipated and have all the tools necessary for life. An adult knows that we never stop growing. Many of us have been stuck in an immature level of development. Our life...

kissers · kissers

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debilyn · debilyn

You know how we say we wish we did not love them anymore? It has happened to me. I cannot find it inside me anymore. It has made me feel pretty empty. Felt good to love him for thirty seven years. I have never known a time of not loving and longing for him. I know him living with that gross woman has really broke...

Kim65 · Kim65

I've been waking up in the morning afraid. By the time I have my coffee and get going for the day, I feel a little more together. Somedays are pretty good, there's much that needs doing around here and I put a dent in it. Other days I finish morning chores and take a long nap. I read Debilyn's post this mo...

2getoverit · 2getoverit

Hi howdy, I hope it is all good for all y'all and hopefully it is here also. I got to the log in for here and processed that log differently and here I am yippee!! Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken, - lol - I'm just in from the garden, we r coming up on a full moon and it seems a fine time to giv...

wp · wp

I am wondering if disloyalty within a family is a common symptom of ACOA. I get so angry and upset when a person in the family that you have trusted, lets another member down. Or am I confusing codependency with disloyalty? Something happened that I don't take lightly, and I feel that ..well, here I go...

Grateful Member Checking in · Cucamonga

Hi all, Just checking in to say I'm alive and kickin. And wanting to make sure that I don't relapse back to who I was before the healing hands of Alanon. Just getting in from the Airport after a week long family vacation to Chicago. Be well all. -- Edited by Cucamonga at 05:33, 2007-07-28

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Can be so hard to remain calm (Preview) so after our big fight which ended with him at the bar and two days of me getting up, going into the office, and coming home late, my AH said something to me about it all. I knew that he was probably confused, hurt, and a little angry that he hadn't seen me in two days, but I needed time away after the hurtful th...	lil_pieces	3	413	Aug 3, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Desperate! (Preview) Hi I am a new member. My story is long, but I will try and make it short and sweet. My husband is an A. He has been for the last 13 years that we have been together. We are in the middle of a remodel of our 35 year old home. Over the last few weeks he has been drinking more and more. It seems that he is drunk eve...	BrandyCane	2	394	Aug 3, 2007 by rtexas
	another newbie (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a few days and I just feel I need your friendship. I logged in as lonely girl, but I the ironic thing is that I don't think I've had a day to myself for at least 4 years. I have a long sad sob story just like everyone else. I feel so pathetic right now I don't even fe...	lonelygirl	10	357	Aug 3, 2007 by lil_pieces
	Today's a.m. topic (Preview) Hi 2 all, I love this a.m. topic, rather a reflection on today's reading o d a a time in alanon..* Shimo, u r so the bomb girl, I do not know what we'd do without u, u precious person.. *Aug 3rd, 07 Today has been a magical day, I think my silly keyboard ( or silly me.. ) changed to the other language it is set for...	getoverit	0	203	Aug 3, 2007 by getoverit
	I want off this ride... (Preview) I know how to make it stop, but I dont like how to make it stop... Its not realy what I want, but I know it is what I should want.... talking in circles to myself my head is spinning.. 20 years with an A, from one substance to another, I long for the days it was alcohol, is that bizarre or what? I love him more then...	HC2007	11	573	Aug 3, 2007 by HC2007
	Are Our Pickers Broken??? (Preview) At my weekly meeting after the meeting last nite I was talking with one of my alanut friends about relationships. All of us sitting at the table were divorced, two within the last 3 months. We were talking about the expression batted around here in al-anon sometimes (or in codependent literature) tha...	david62	12	666	Aug 3, 2007 by kismetstrand
	What a jerk . . . (Preview) The A ran into my son and his friend in town, and asked them to come cut wood with him to make a little cash. These 20 yr old boys were thrilled, as the A told them he could make $500 in a single day. They waited for him at his place until they got bored and drifted over to a new friend's home. In the meantime, t...	Kim65	5	1571	Aug 3, 2007 by Kim65
	confused (Preview) I am still confused, but really appreciate the meetings and support here. You all postede right away and helped me. Thank you. I guess I'm confused on how to help my family and self. Mainly I'm trying to be happy no matter what. I started smoking again which I'm not happy about but with all the stress a...	flower	4	314	Aug 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Taking care of myself every moment (Preview) When I first arrived at alanon's door in crisis, I heard one day at a time, one minute or second at a time if you have to. It helped me to deal with my obssesive thinking, etc. To calm myself down and figure out what the next best thing was for me. Now, I feel like I have moved on to a different phase of the exa...	Leetle	2	436	Aug 3, 2007 by Jerry F
	eight, the second zero seven readings o d a a t alanon (Preview) Hello 2 all, Golly, The readings today are so kind of an affirmation to doing the slogan work - its written out like an insurance policy, do the slogans and peace back to serenity is so (2000 ed). The slogan for 8.02.07 that is most enforced here in the reader is, to live and let live. Then the reading is fu...	getoverit	1	471	Aug 3, 2007 by aunitedway
	PICKING UP THE TOOLS OF AL-ANON (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) Hello Again....(saw that in a movie, and wanted to say it)..lol Well, for three days, I have cried my eyes out over a lost love. I have been feeling, used, abused, worthless, useless, not good enough, comparing myself to other women, etc!!!(stinki...	ally	4	441	Aug 3, 2007 by Barbs45
	The Good Ship "Al-Anon" (Preview) ((((Family)))) Here I am on a rainy Saturday afternoon! I had plans today to do some things, which have not happened for one reason or another, the lastest being the continued deluge of my area by rain. Not complaining...too much... as we have been in a drought for the last couple of years and have had...	david62	12	911	Aug 3, 2007 by bobump
	I found the forms and directions (Preview) I found a great website I think someone here may have mentioned it before but I thought it was one I already saw. They had forms and step by step instructions on how to file in NC. And it was a lawyer's website of all things. All I need to be concerned with now is custody and I have a restraining order that'...	carolinagirl	6	382	Aug 2, 2007 by maresie2
	private messaging mix up (Preview) I just tried to send a PM and I sent it to myself (HP trying to tell me something?) Where it says recipient it says my name and then subject is empty. Any suggestions or do I really need to hear what I am saying LOL!	serendipity	2	306	Aug 2, 2007 by tea2
	Life's too short. (Preview) Sometimes here and there I find myself beating me up for sticking with this as long as I did. I have been with an A or addict or both for the past 14 years of my life. Here I am 36 with 3 kids, a single mom and no prospects and not even enough interest even if I found one. I get a lot of if only's. If only I would h...	carolinagirl	9	517	Aug 2, 2007 by NANUKE
	Prayers for all those in Minneapolis (Preview) I don't know if we have any MIP members that are in the Minneapolis area, but probably some will have friends or family members in the area. Just wanted to send out good thoughts & prayers for all those affected by this horrible accident. As a DOT (Dept of Transportation) employee, my co-workers we...	Rita G	3	2135	Aug 2, 2007 by ally
	what a bad nite (Preview) went to my mothers-in-laws yesterday to pick up the cell phone bills for the past 3 months{SAH is on my mother-in-law account.well to my surprise that woman he says he didnt do anything with{read earlier post from a few days ago}or really call there was her number on the cell bill starting in aril 7 to ma...	bev	5	427	Aug 2, 2007 by bev
	UPDATE: Great News Everyone!!! (Preview) Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...	QOD	8	416	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Boy am I STUPID!!! (Preview) Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...	QOD	16	565	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	acknowledge the white elephant? (Preview) New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...	ddub	5	643	Aug 2, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	I would like some help (Preview) Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...	firstin911	5	621	Aug 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	IS THIS A NORMAL THING TO DO???? (Preview) (((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...	ally	9	510	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	It's gonna Be A .......... (Preview) My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1	Becky1	10	437	Aug 2, 2007 by Rita G
	Wedding Ring Cut In Two (Preview) We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...	Becky1	12	586	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Greetings from Jal-Con ! ! (Preview) Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob	bobump	8	532	Aug 2, 2007 by bobump
	Update on my friend (Preview) (((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...	twinmom2	5	430	Aug 1, 2007 by maresie2
	It is hard to wrap my mind around this (Preview) A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...	debilyn	10	570	Aug 1, 2007 by Alanoner
	Shifting into Recovery Mode, Thank you God!! (Preview) Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...	NANUKE	4	445	Aug 1, 2007 by mhgal
	It's time to file for divorce (Preview) I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...	carolinagirl	3	427	Aug 1, 2007 by SLS
	Awareness (Preview) Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...	kissers	3	232	Aug 1, 2007 by maire rua
	What are you Thankful for today? (Preview) Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)	Friendofyours	13	333	Aug 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	If it's the right thing, why do I feel so lousy? (Preview) In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...	Loupiness	8	623	Aug 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
	"Drink Your Big Black Cow" (Preview) In the corner Of my eye I saw you in rudys You were very high You were high It was a cryin disgrace They saw your face On the counter By your keys Was a book of numbers And your remedies One of these Surely will screen out the sorrow But where are you tomorrow I cant cry anymore While you run around Break away Jus...	jaja	4	3050	Jul 31, 2007 by barisax
	Feeling out of sorts???? (Preview) I just don't know how or why I'm feeling like this. axbf is out of town on vaction, things with the truck are in his hands.I'm staying out of it. He called to let me know he had gotten there, haven't heard from him since, thought maybe he would call . He gets back tomarrow and I find the closer he gets to coming...	sisdragonfly1957	4	390	Jul 31, 2007 by Friendofyours
	More Miracles... (Preview) Have you ever noticed how when you're doing the right thing everything seems to just magically fall into place? I had the garage sale last weekend (I'm still suffering from carrying all that heavy stuff out) and I sold almost all the big items that I wasn't going to take anyway. I swear! I would say I wi...	carolinagirl	5	289	Jul 31, 2007 by weggie
	At the end of my rope this morning (Preview) My AHsober (30 days) is about to drive me crazy. He has been cycling from being "OK" to being very angry and loud. Last night, I went to an AA Speaker meeting with him. He invited me to go. It was OK. I could relate to some of what the speaker was sharing, other parts I could not. My AH seemed fine d...	Heather72	10	589	Jul 31, 2007 by weggie
	Can't hope too much (Preview) My A's dad died a little over a week ago. It was a complicated relationship, but he still loved him a lot. Both were diabetic, and his dad was also an alcoholic who would stop drinking for a year or two at a time, then start up again. Worked like a fiend through it all, though, and was in tremendous shape wh...	Jamekaticy	3	328	Jul 31, 2007 by Kim65
	how can ya forgive but not forget (Preview) Hello, I am 47 and I have just had enough of my parents bull****.... I live with the scare of their alcoholism everyday .. I cannot look at them anymore because they still will not take responsibility for what they have done ... i guess I am here to get some of this out of me and hopefully a miricle will ha...	cursed	14	779	Jul 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Shopping for a Home Group (Preview) I used to be a semi-regular at a Sunday night meeting, but since I have gotten involved in a relationship and she wants to go to Alanon too, I let her have that time slot. I don't feel we should regularly go to the same meetings, and especially since she was new to Alanon, I didn't want her to be uncomfort...	barisax	3	408	Jul 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Recipe for Recovery (Preview) The theme for the convention this weekend was "Recipe for Recovery". Being in Lafayette, Louisiana, they had the room decorated with cooking things, fun stuff cause we are definitely known for our food, especially around Lafayette. At the registration table there were cards with thi...	Rita G	1	364	Jul 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	What behavioral habits can you improve? (Preview) Oh man for me its plenty. One big one is wondering what people are up to , especially my A. Being nosey wanting to know all the details, good or bad. I would sincerely like to let go of other's business, and live my own life, however I still want to know , "period"! Why ? Dont know? Another huge on...	gardengal	12	609	Jul 30, 2007 by Diva
	Update on Indy interview (Preview) OMG it was a long drive I went to an al anon meeting. I was feeling so guilty! It was like I was "little Sarah" and I was being a "bad girl" all over again. I felt this compulsion to tell my parents "I'm going for a job interview with the Americorps in Indy. I'm really excited....	Tiger2006	4	548	Jul 30, 2007 by wp
	How can you miss something you never had?? (Preview) I just burst into tears over missing my mom. The thing is, what I'm missing isn't the relationship I really have with my mom. I guess I am grieving over my childhood, over the love that my mom never showed me. My mom's attitude toward me and her on again off again very ugly relationship with my alcoholic fa...	seekingserenity	3	459	Jul 30, 2007 by shimo
	just need some feed back (Preview) hi all,been awhile since i posted..as you all know i left my SAH in jan went to live back up north in ny..came back here in march to take care of the house,and things,and had a long talk to SAH{who was in treatment in gainesville fl but moved in with a long term AAER THE BEGINNING OF APRIL}decided at that tim...	bev	5	1636	Jul 30, 2007 by mhgal
	I'm getting up off the floor. (Preview) Guess Im done being the doormat. I'm nervous today. I told my AH last night and again this morning that if he couldn't get home at a reasonable hour, don't come home. We are self employed and I do the scheduling. I have been careful this year to work the schedule so that he can be home at a reasonable time. An...	Jen	4	589	Jul 30, 2007 by Jen
	LA State Al-Anon Convention (Preview) Had the wonderful opportunity of attending our state convention this past weekend - It was awesome. Great, great speakers - Several of the speakers (although the live in different states) share the same Sponsor - great sense of family in recovery - The Alateen speaker was "out the butt" w...	Rita G	0	2215	Jul 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Wonderful Weekend (Preview) It has taken me time and alot of help from Al-alon to understand that it is not my responsibility what my A does or does not do. It is not my responsibility to pay attention to every move he does or does not do. I sometimes still check to see how much he has drank or how much money has been spent and I am still...	weggie	3	277	Jul 30, 2007 by maire rua
	Bored, Talking to the dog (Preview) I knew better before I even said it but, said it anyways. I gave my AH the choice of being married to me or the drink. Of course, he chose the drink. I knew he would but hoped he wouldn't. I am not financially prepared to throw out ultimatums. That was one day last month. In the meantime, I've gotten a s...	Nedsaid	6	748	Jul 30, 2007 by mhgal
	my boys' friends' Mom (Preview) I have suspected for a long time that the neighbor lady was doing meth. I even restricted the kids from staying over night there. Well the paper confirmed it Tuesday, she got busted for possession and there was mention of possible sale. My kids are gone on vacation right now and do not know. I'm not su...	jrtjosey	9	623	Jul 30, 2007 by Christy
	Feeling much better today. (Preview) Hey everyone - I just wanted to let you know that I am feeling much better today. I am coming out of my gloom from yesterday. When I got off of work, I had a good 30 minute cry in the car on my way to pick up my daughter from my sister's house. I felt much better after that. And I did lots of thinking too. I deci...	QOD	7	449	Jul 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Did my best_I'm nobody's convenience (Preview) Hi Alanon Family, One of the two aunts I have been caring for over the last 2 1/2 years abruptly began an argument wtih me. It was over a blouse that she claimed her friend in the senior citizen complex gave her. I gently suggested to her that I had purchased it downstairs in the consignment store because...	NANUKE	7	535	Jul 30, 2007 by getoverit
	Unbelievable? No, not really.... (Preview) Hi Friends, In a previous post I spoke of the Open House for our new business building tomorrow and my concern that my AHsober's affair (an active A) will be there. Ultimately, I was hoping it was a fear -based hypothetical situation. Well, he asked me today if she were to show up with her friend (also a f...	Loupiness	8	624	Jul 30, 2007 by Loupiness
	FEELING LOST (Preview) ((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) Been quite an intense week for me. I am looking back at a lot of things in my life. Things that have happened, good and bad. Things I have done, or not done, should have or could have. People I have had in my life or have in my life today. I done something the other day I wou...	ally	8	547	Jul 29, 2007 by 2getoverit
	Maturity and growth (Preview) You're never too old to grow up. --Shirley Conran A child's view of adults is that they have arrived at some fixed point where they are emancipated and have all the tools necessary for life. An adult knows that we never stop growing. Many of us have been stuck in an immature level of development. Our life...	Tiger2006	2	412	Jul 29, 2007 by weggie
	Recovery Radio (Preview) http://www.khlt.homestead.com/cap-archives.html	kissers	0	231	Jul 29, 2007 by kissers
	When our wish comes true, it hurts (Preview) You know how we say we wish we did not love them anymore? It has happened to me. I cannot find it inside me anymore. It has made me feel pretty empty. Felt good to love him for thirty seven years. I have never known a time of not loving and longing for him. I know him living with that gross woman has really broke...	debilyn	6	556	Jul 28, 2007 by Demilas
	Emptiness (Preview) I've been waking up in the morning afraid. By the time I have my coffee and get going for the day, I feel a little more together. Somedays are pretty good, there's much that needs doing around here and I put a dent in it. Other days I finish morning chores and take a long nap. I read Debilyn's post this mo...	Kim65	12	762	Jul 28, 2007 by Jen
	I made it in - whew (Preview) Hi howdy, I hope it is all good for all y'all and hopefully it is here also. I got to the log in for here and processed that log differently and here I am yippee!! Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken, - lol - I'm just in from the garden, we r coming up on a full moon and it seems a fine time to giv...	2getoverit	5	390	Jul 28, 2007 by belle1
	loyalty and disloyalty ACOA (Preview) I am wondering if disloyalty within a family is a common symptom of ACOA. I get so angry and upset when a person in the family that you have trusted, lets another member down. Or am I confusing codependency with disloyalty? Something happened that I don't take lightly, and I feel that ..well, here I go...	wp	5	778	Jul 28, 2007 by drucilla06
	Grateful Member Checking in (Preview) Hi all, Just checking in to say I'm alive and kickin. And wanting to make sure that I don't relapse back to who I was before the healing hands of Alanon. Just getting in from the Airport after a week long family vacation to Chicago. Be well all. -- Edited by Cucamonga at 05:33, 2007-07-28	Cucamonga	3	354	Jul 28, 2007 by drucilla06
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