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It has taken me time and alot of help from Al-alon to understand that it is not my responsibility what my A does or does not do. It is not my responsibility to pay attention to every move he does or does not do. I sometimes still check to see how much he has drank or how much money has been spent and I am still working on this daily.
It all comes down to respect. Respect for one another is the icing on the cake. My daughter in law and son were in this weekend with my first grandbaby of 7 weeks. My son knows what is going on and I was determined to make it a nice weekend for all. This weekend showed me how a household should run ..smooth....no hassles...no tension...no yelling...no fighting...It's all about respect for another human being.
I changed my attitude about my A a few days ago. It is what it is and we all have to move forward with our lives or we will go crazy. I have learned this weekend that please and thank you's along with respect go along way. I know this weekend went smooth because of my attitude. I have always been an upbeat person willing to help anyone at anytime except my A, I have changed. I praise God and give him all the glory. Thank you Jesus.
I'm glad you had a good weekend. I would have been so busy hogging the baby. I need to learn from what you just said. My AH is not drunk everyday and yet I carry over resentment and treat him like garbage when he is genuinely trying to be good to me. He is a good man and deserves my respect. He is also the best Grandpa. My grandson (he's 2) and his "crapppa" are each other's favorite person. I really love to be around when they are together. Thanks for the insight Weggie.
I spent so much time and energy so angry about my situatuaion. Why me, how did I deserve this life? Wasted thoughts that I have turned around positive. I am not saying that this will last forever and I know there will be sceens at the house but what I am saying is I will handle them differently. I can do all things thru Christ, he who strengthens me. P.S. I had the baby every minute I could. I went to work 1/2 hour earlier to show her around as the pround Grammy I am.
