Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

phillipslouise · phillipslouise

Hi, I met someone a few months ago and we started seeing each other and developing a relationship. We got on very well and had great fun, he did the odd thing which made we wonder if he had an alcohol problem but we never spoke about it. Eventually things came to a head and he told me he had a serious problem an...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Just for today I know I cannot make all my problems go away but I can push them to the side in my mind and think about other pleasant fun things I'd rather be doing like: ~Playing hookie from work and lounging by the pool ~Taking the kids to the beach and eating ice cream in the sand ~Curling up on my sofa with p...

klm4446 · klm4446

Grateful for the replies re: my boyfriend's death. I have not been able to check into face to face meeting because of baby/no sitter. I know there are different stages of grief, but this does not seem real. Again, he had not drank but was smoking pot CONSTANTLY and taking klonopin-5 a day. IS IT TR...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello everyone. My name is Silvana and my husband is an alcoholic. Unfortunately he don't thinks so. :( I'm going crazy over here and Can't take it anymore. My husband Really is a wonderful person and a wonderful father to our 2 small children. He get's mad when I threaten to leave him. He thinks there a...

Jen · Jen

My A that had everyone thinking he had 9 mos. sober is not. I made him leave last night . I can't think clearly when he is here, and I don't want to be mean to him as I am sooo angry. Now I'm not sure if I should let him back once I calm down or not. I told him before that he will not be allowed to live here if he does dru...

serendipity · serendipity

It is my best friend's daughter who died, it was my mom who was the adult in charge, and it was my 2 little ones in the water with her. I am taking it all very hard today. The investagation continues which is horrifing in itself. A social worker came and talked to me and the kids. The first time I actually lis...

ShelBell · ShelBell

I have been working like a dog and I feel the hole not making time for program has made. I try to read daily, but have posted very little lately. On August 9, my AH celebrated one year of sobriety. I went to his meeting with him, and he received his one year chip. I cried the entire meeting. The members th...

maresie2 · maresie2

i think I am incredibly naive to think that when I said No to the A he would not turn around and blame me for every single problem he has in the world. He is constintinally incapable of being honest about anything. He is also incapable of taking care of anything. He makes a huge mess every single day of the we...

maresie2 · maresie2

all weekend long the A has gone on that I should pay for ever. I am not paying of course. I am not going to pay anymore for him. I feel overwhelmed with rage and grief. At the same time I feel relieved to see the insanity. Mary

sadako · sadako

(i'm sorry i haven't replied to advice in my last thread but i am very thankful for it!) my boyfriend (clean & sober 21 years) just went into the ER on Tuesday with severe chest pain and trouble breathing, a CAT scan showed he has a blood clot in his lung. he's been in the ICU since then, they're trying t...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I was bent out of shape and mind to help others, take care of others, try to fix their mistakes, or cover up, or just basically take care of their needs first and foremost. My needs and wants fell onto the backburner. I was going to help them if they liked it or not, because that I thought was my job,...

meagain · meagain

I don't know but I think our generation raised "selfish" kids..... Just my opinion--AND I am talking from my own experience. DH jave 5 adult children between us. As i get older I feel-that perhaps they should "call" us once in awhile to see how we are. --Know it's usually us that...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

I posted a little while ago that my A boyfriend was in rehab. Well he's back, as of yesterday. He seemed really good at first and definitely more healthy, etc. but I could tell that he was getting frustrated easily at things. Well by the night he started telling me about how he was having really bad cravin...

lmt123 · lmt123

To all of the ladies out there, my sister sent me this in an email. I've copied and pasted it to share with you all. (Men can read it to, lol.) "HERE'S TO MY GIRLS!!! What's so poignant about this picture? Well, it shows a line of little girls holding hands facing the immensity of ocean waves. A...

lmt123 · lmt123

Ok, lol, I just noticed the pictures didn't come through on the post... The first one was of 5 toddler girls standing on the beach at the water's edge, facing the waves rolling in, and all were lined up holding hands. The second picture was a cartoon-ish looking pic of three very full-figured elderly wo...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

My ah was coming to see the kids (as usual) and he asked what I was doing visiting my sister. I told him the honest answer. My sister ran out of her pain meds and she borrowed a couple of mine. So she got hers today and asked if I would come out to her house to be paid back what she owes and to see her new puppy and to...

nmike · nmike

I worked so hard at taking care of my little family of my AHsober and 3 sons. We had our chores, we took our family trips, and we did our homework. It was so important to me. Now that they are grown and their AHsober father has moved out and said he wants a divorce, we don't seem much of a family. The oldest says...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

good morning i love sunday mornings - I still have anxiety attacks, altho, they are less intense than before - stability has helped me heal in a lot of ways. I guess I still have more healing to go as i keep getting the guilts. This is what i wrote first thing this morning and then decided to post it here. ...

roger12dodger · roger12dodger

As the title says, do i enjoy being hurt? My name is roger, and i'm an alcoholic. I'm 22 years old, and have been sober since April 29, 2005. thats a miracle. I came to these forums because i need help. My girlfriend is also an alcoholic. She is 33, and can;t seem to 'get it'. Before we met, she had 5 yea...

lil_pieces · lil_pieces

The AH and I have been doing better...okay, I've been doing better not obsessing about his drinking. He still stops at the bar and tries to "sneak" in shots, but I haven't been asking him if he's drinking or not. Plus, there's been trouble with the pregnancy that has been making it real ea...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Life has been a hellacious place for me in these past few months... My husband of 20 yrs Chuck passed away last week...it was horrible and hellish... I had to have him removed from life support in the end and he knew exactly what was happening talk about hell on earth.. Well Don turned out t...

florrie · florrie

i'm looking for some feedback... rationaly i know better than to look to my partner for conversation/company but that doesn't seem to stop me! we have just relocated to france with our 3 kids and my need to relate is backed up. normally i'd get a meeting once a week, avisit or two to alanon freinds and p...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have found I have become jaded, believing little, if any good my AHsober displays. I am not proud to be that way and know it is a form of self-protection, however, it is viewed as "negative" by others, because basically it is. We have been separated for 3 mos now and my AH has agreed to attend...

lilac1 · lilac1

Please would everybody continue to pray for my brother who was badly burnt in a fire last week, he is making some progress but is still very poorly in intensive care thanks

Gailey · Gailey

I really, really need to get back to f2f meetings. I am backsliding bigtime. My #1 A son has been drinking every night. I know this....why???...because I have been calling him every night to see if he is. He is really depressed. I can hear it when he talks. I'm a little bit afraid for him. He hates life at th...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I have always felt that we here in al anon do not talk enough about some of the more immediate, material consequences of the family disease--that our loved ones break promises, over and over again; that we feel at a loss to explain why it is our loved ones behave in bizarre and inappropriate ways to tho...

sadako · sadako

What do you do when your clean-and-sober-for-21-years partner acts like a raving drunk?? I read the "Courage to Change" book, I'm working on setting healthy boundaries, and using healthy detachment. I want this person in my life, I love him, I choose him. But I'm now very lost and confuse...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Trust An attitude of helpful expectancy can serve me very well today. My Higher Power has my day in His hands. Whatever happens, it will go most smoothly, and I will feel best about myself, if I am open to what the day brings, and at peace with whatever it holds for me. I can give my best if I do not get bogged d...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have no experience in this area so am hoping someone can give me some information. A friend of mine's husband was recently given 120 days shock time in a state facility. She is on disability and makes less than $400 per month. When she went to apply for low income housing she was told that because she i...

weggie · weggie

Today was a good day with my A. We are expecting my son, his wife and our grandbaby tonight and he helped me get things ready. It was a pleasent day with my A helping me but I noticed I can't do anything right. Surprize,, You name it, potatoes, sauce, houseclean. I didn't say to much as he was helping me an...

serendipity · serendipity

The anger has set in. I know it is part of the grieving process. I just don't know what to do with it. I am going to my meeting tonight and my daughter is going to the alateen. This has been our routein for over a year. And I would drop the 2 younger ones off to my mom's and my friend would drop off her 2 to my mom's s...

maresie2 · maresie2

last night the A had to have the truck towed because it finally came to a halt. He may or may not be able to get it repaired. It seems like it will be out of action for a long long time. Of course then he demanded that I come forth with a credit card to get him a rental card. I refused. I do not have any more credit. M...

QOD · QOD

I am just feeling flustrated today for some reason. One thing that happened was that I realized that I paid one of my credit cards the other day using the wrong checking acct. DUH what a dumb mistake. I do on-line bill pay and both of my checking accts come up on it. Unfortunately, the joint acct w/my AH...

klm4446 · klm4446

1st time here. lost and confused. my boyfriend died 6 days ago while dui. beer marijuana and klonopin . 50-70 mph, car slid on grass shoulder and catapulted into brick wall then tree. we have one year old son. i am still in shock. he quit drinking on his own(no AA,no rehab). when we moved away from ol...

maire rua · maire rua

I need to vent. Have just returned from an arduous trip buying a car, that went fairly well. On my return, I was informed that the centre that I volunarily manage was trashed by the weekend staff. It was in such a state that the fas worker Eugene thought the place had been broken into. I dealt with it, let go...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

I am at a very strange point where I don't know what I want in my life. My boyfriend, fresh out of rehab is drinking again- the first few days started out being able to hold it together until I went to bed then yesterday just went on a full out drinking binge all day. When I got home I was very proud of myself. I d...

Kim65 · Kim65

I'm pretty emotional right now, but I have to write it out and there's no meeting tonight. I just spent the last couple hours talking to my neighbor Melanie, who I haven't spoken with since right after we moved in here (neighbors are far apart around here). In a nutshell, I was able to apologize for all t...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) I haven't posted since our friend went off the "deep end". He is doing much better and is attending a couple of meetings with my AH. We are getting life back to normal now that everyone is out of the house. This week we've been hit hard with past debts that have to be rectifi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), A friend of mine sent me an ecard yesterday wishing me a HAPPY NATIONAL UNDERWEAR DAY! Apparently here in the states we have an official Underwear Day. Now I'm not sure what we were suppose to do yesterday but it really made me giggle. So I just in case, it's a very important ho...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

I am at a very strange point where I don't know what I want in my life. My boyfriend, fresh out of rehab is drinking again- the first few days started out being able to hold it together until I went to bed then yesterday just went on a full out drinking binge all day. When I got home I was very proud of myself. I d...

janey225 · janey225

Hello MIP Family. I havent been on much but I just needed to vent. Maybe then I can go to sleep. A few weeks back I posted about AH going to rehab. Well he comes home tomorrow. I am happy scared and confused. I have started reading in my Al-Anon books again and looking into meetings that I can attend. There is...

lmt123 · lmt123

Seems it never ends... I was online the other nite and pulled up the history so I could find a web address I visited earlier in the day (and yes, I do check the history OFTEN, but wasn't doing so that nite). I saw several swimsuit sites, and was wondering who was going to them. My daughter hadn't been home...

Free_Bird · Free_Bird

My ah (sober 2.5 yrs) is in his first year as a GSR. Last night he brought home registration papers for the annual convention and my question is: Do these conventions include spouses? Any information is greatly appreciated Thanks, Kim

maresie2 · maresie2

The A wanted to see me today. Every time he sees me always hits me up for money. I have told him this week repeatedly I have none. I am down to raiding the penny jar to get to work. I am also working really long hours (which is good because in time I'll have some money). I told the A this week to sell a piece of equi...

meagain · meagain

for the responses about my Step-daughter's drinking etc. My DH did call his daughter and talked to her about her drinking. He said you can hang up on me if you want---but she listened to him, and was responsive. I did stay out of it (thanks to all of your responses). I did mention alanon to him and said you...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

The hearing ear is always found close to the speaking tongue. -Ralph Waldo Emerson Listening research shows that we hear only about 60 percent of what is said. This has nothing to do with the functioning of our ears; it has to do with paying attention. Listening is a learnable skill, but it requires foc...

serendipity · serendipity

I went. I put my arms around my best friend, her mom, her husband and her son. I knelt by my best friend's daughter and said prayers. I received more love from friends than I ever thought possible. I don't know what tomarrow may bring and my kids are coping the best they can at the moment. Again, thank you fo...

danz123 · danz123

August 5, 2007 Al-anon Business Meeting The chair opened the meeting w/the Serenity Prayerand welcomed members to the meeting. The meeting chair schedule and the general responsibilities of Ops were reviewed. The position of Room Operator or Monitor is one of responsibility for the Al-Anon stil...

Nedsaid · Nedsaid

I was trying to put a picture of my favorite pet on here. Just seeing if it worked. Hi. While I'm here I might as well say a few words. Was in a car accident (not hurt, just bruised and sore) a week ago. Poor teenie bopper pulled right out in front of me. It totaled my paid off vehicle. In the distraction...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

Hello everyone, I am doing a workshop later on this year in which we will be making God Boxes. Would you please share your favorite slogan or saying you have heard in meetings that I might print out for use on the boxes. Thanks Barb

QOD · QOD

OMG!!! Do y'all remember a couple of weeks ago when that collection agency bullied me into doing a balance transfer of my AH's debt onto my credit card? Remember that I was also able to cancel the transfer. Well, I figured that the agency would call as soon as they figured out the transfer had been can...

serendipity · serendipity

Just wanted to say thank you for all the prayers, responses and love. I am numb, my kids are dealing, my mom is trying to be strong and grieve in the face of the anger and hate. I am thankful for the numbness and that it is allowing me to be there fully for my kids. I will attribute this blessing of numb peace to...

Helen · Helen

This is all new to me. I grew up with parents who hardly ever drank alcohol and so I never really have. I seldom drink, and have never to excess. I just discovered in May that my best friend (boyfriend/significant "other", actually) is an alcoholic. I feel stupid but I just didn't know. There...

marmare · marmare

I haven't posted in a while, I guess I have been busy....but I wanted you all to know that I continue to work my program everyday. I do my readings and practice detaching with love. I am doing so good at work, took #1 in our store again! My A, encourgages me and last week he brought me a card, a new Sudoku bo...

abbyal · abbyal

Hi it's me again , Most of you know about my recent involvment in an Alateen Confrence in our area . One of our Alateens has been invited to attend a WSO advisory meeting , she will go with her sponsor in a couple of weeks . As a sponsor I really don't understand why our kids are not part of our family recov...

ddub · ddub

I don't want to be here! .... at alanon msg board or meetings. I can't get to sleep at a reasonable hour for weeks and weeks. Long weekend out of town with family and friends, AH put on a good show and stayed in our room to drink at night. I worked at keeping my anxiety at bay but then when things went well,...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have told the A I am not paying his rent for him next week. I have switched off my cell phone and told the people who he is living with I am unavailable. He can give me the dogs now. I will just let him do whatever. He's destroyed absolutely everything around him. he is not going to destroy me with iht. Mare...

timsgirl89 · timsgirl89

Ok -- it's time for me to just vent and get through some of my emotions before I truly go insane. I have been pleased with my AH's recovery for the past 8 years with only one or two backslides that I remember. During the past 5 months I have found his "hidden evidence " that he has started drinki...

pabell · pabell

I've been going to al-anon meetings, I'm up to 3 a week. It seems to help and I know it's keeping me in motion. Iv'e written before but it's been a couple months so I'll recap the events. My AH and I have been together for 23 years. We have a 22 year old daughter who just graduated from college and...

Gailey · Gailey

Originally, I came to this program because my A son separated from his wife and 2 children. It was the most horrible time of my life. That was in 10/2005. They are now divorced and ex-wife is remarried. I was so fearful of what this was going to do with the relationship I have with my granddaughters and the...

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	Confused (Preview) Hi, I met someone a few months ago and we started seeing each other and developing a relationship. We got on very well and had great fun, he did the odd thing which made we wonder if he had an alcohol problem but we never spoke about it. Eventually things came to a head and he told me he had a serious problem an...	phillipslouise	5	442	Aug 13, 2007 by maresie2
	I'd rather be surfing.... (Preview) Just for today I know I cannot make all my problems go away but I can push them to the side in my mind and think about other pleasant fun things I'd rather be doing like: ~Playing hookie from work and lounging by the pool ~Taking the kids to the beach and eating ice cream in the sand ~Curling up on my sofa with p...	twinmom2	5	507	Aug 13, 2007 by rtexas
	struggling (Preview) Grateful for the replies re: my boyfriend's death. I have not been able to check into face to face meeting because of baby/no sitter. I know there are different stages of grief, but this does not seem real. Again, he had not drank but was smoking pot CONSTANTLY and taking klonopin-5 a day. IS IT TR...	klm4446	4	468	Aug 13, 2007 by maresie2
	I'm new to this (Preview) Hello everyone. My name is Silvana and my husband is an alcoholic. Unfortunately he don't thinks so. :( I'm going crazy over here and Can't take it anymore. My husband Really is a wonderful person and a wonderful father to our 2 small children. He get's mad when I threaten to leave him. He thinks there a...	sgraingermk	5	500	Aug 13, 2007 by maresie2
	Please, some ES&H (Preview) My A that had everyone thinking he had 9 mos. sober is not. I made him leave last night . I can't think clearly when he is here, and I don't want to be mean to him as I am sooo angry. Now I'm not sure if I should let him back once I calm down or not. I told him before that he will not be allowed to live here if he does dru...	Jen	9	868	Aug 13, 2007 by Jen
	In the middle of this tradgedy (Preview) It is my best friend's daughter who died, it was my mom who was the adult in charge, and it was my 2 little ones in the water with her. I am taking it all very hard today. The investagation continues which is horrifing in itself. A social worker came and talked to me and the kids. The first time I actually lis...	serendipity	5	571	Aug 13, 2007 by maresie2
	This & that (Preview) I have been working like a dog and I feel the hole not making time for program has made. I try to read daily, but have posted very little lately. On August 9, my AH celebrated one year of sobriety. I went to his meeting with him, and he received his one year chip. I cried the entire meeting. The members th...	ShelBell	1	399	Aug 13, 2007 by Kim65
	naivete (Preview) i think I am incredibly naive to think that when I said No to the A he would not turn around and blame me for every single problem he has in the world. He is constintinally incapable of being honest about anything. He is also incapable of taking care of anything. He makes a huge mess every single day of the we...	maresie2	2	374	Aug 13, 2007 by serendipity
	saying no to an A (Preview) all weekend long the A has gone on that I should pay for ever. I am not paying of course. I am not going to pay anymore for him. I feel overwhelmed with rage and grief. At the same time I feel relieved to see the insanity. Mary	maresie2	3	347	Aug 13, 2007 by maresie2
	now he has to quit smoking, too (Preview) (i'm sorry i haven't replied to advice in my last thread but i am very thankful for it!) my boyfriend (clean & sober 21 years) just went into the ER on Tuesday with severe chest pain and trouble breathing, a CAT scan showed he has a blood clot in his lung. he's been in the ICU since then, they're trying t...	sadako	3	493	Aug 13, 2007 by Diva
	Are you as good to yourself , as you would be to someone you care for? (Preview) For years I was bent out of shape and mind to help others, take care of others, try to fix their mistakes, or cover up, or just basically take care of their needs first and foremost. My needs and wants fell onto the backburner. I was going to help them if they liked it or not, because that I thought was my job,...	gardengal	4	431	Aug 13, 2007 by Diva
	adult children (Preview) I don't know but I think our generation raised "selfish" kids..... Just my opinion--AND I am talking from my own experience. DH jave 5 adult children between us. As i get older I feel-that perhaps they should "call" us once in awhile to see how we are. --Know it's usually us that...	meagain	1	364	Aug 13, 2007 by rtexas
	Feeling sick... (Preview) I posted a little while ago that my A boyfriend was in rehab. Well he's back, as of yesterday. He seemed really good at first and definitely more healthy, etc. but I could tell that he was getting frustrated easily at things. Well by the night he started telling me about how he was having really bad cravin...	summergrl83	5	1090	Aug 13, 2007 by klm4446
	fun reading (for a change, lol) (Preview) To all of the ladies out there, my sister sent me this in an email. I've copied and pasted it to share with you all. (Men can read it to, lol.) "HERE'S TO MY GIRLS!!! What's so poignant about this picture? Well, it shows a line of little girls holding hands facing the immensity of ocean waves. A...	lmt123	4	426	Aug 12, 2007 by itsgot2bgd
	Here's the visual for my earlier post titled "fun reading" (Preview) Ok, lol, I just noticed the pictures didn't come through on the post... The first one was of 5 toddler girls standing on the beach at the water's edge, facing the waves rolling in, and all were lined up holding hands. The second picture was a cartoon-ish looking pic of three very full-figured elderly wo...	lmt123	0	203	Aug 12, 2007 by lmt123
	What in the world just happend??? (Preview) My ah was coming to see the kids (as usual) and he asked what I was doing visiting my sister. I told him the honest answer. My sister ran out of her pain meds and she borrowed a couple of mine. So she got hers today and asked if I would come out to her house to be paid back what she owes and to see her new puppy and to...	Friendofyours	14	830	Aug 12, 2007 by Jen
	What family? (Preview) I worked so hard at taking care of my little family of my AHsober and 3 sons. We had our chores, we took our family trips, and we did our homework. It was so important to me. Now that they are grown and their AHsober father has moved out and said he wants a divorce, we don't seem much of a family. The oldest says...	nmike	5	562	Aug 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	the guilts (Preview) good morning i love sunday mornings - I still have anxiety attacks, altho, they are less intense than before - stability has helped me heal in a lot of ways. I guess I still have more healing to go as i keep getting the guilts. This is what i wrote first thing this morning and then decided to post it here. ...	CAM0914	3	363	Aug 12, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Do i enjoy pain? (Preview) As the title says, do i enjoy being hurt? My name is roger, and i'm an alcoholic. I'm 22 years old, and have been sober since April 29, 2005. thats a miracle. I came to these forums because i need help. My girlfriend is also an alcoholic. She is 33, and can;t seem to 'get it'. Before we met, she had 5 yea...	roger12dodger	7	1074	Aug 12, 2007 by roger12dodger
	One day at a time... (Preview) The AH and I have been doing better...okay, I've been doing better not obsessing about his drinking. He still stops at the bar and tries to "sneak" in shots, but I haven't been asking him if he's drinking or not. Plus, there's been trouble with the pregnancy that has been making it real ea...	lil_pieces	4	477	Aug 12, 2007 by lil_pieces
	The Passing of my Husband Chuck (Preview) Hello Friends, Life has been a hellacious place for me in these past few months... My husband of 20 yrs Chuck passed away last week...it was horrible and hellish... I had to have him removed from life support in the end and he knew exactly what was happening talk about hell on earth.. Well Don turned out t...	Andrea12	29	840	Aug 12, 2007 by tea2
	needs and anger (Preview) i'm looking for some feedback... rationaly i know better than to look to my partner for conversation/company but that doesn't seem to stop me! we have just relocated to france with our 3 kids and my need to relate is backed up. normally i'd get a meeting once a week, avisit or two to alanon freinds and p...	florrie	6	574	Aug 12, 2007 by florrie
	Stay On The Sunny Side... yeah, right (Preview) I have found I have become jaded, believing little, if any good my AHsober displays. I am not proud to be that way and know it is a form of self-protection, however, it is viewed as "negative" by others, because basically it is. We have been separated for 3 mos now and my AH has agreed to attend...	Loupiness	3	478	Aug 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Prayers please (Preview) Please would everybody continue to pray for my brother who was badly burnt in a fire last week, he is making some progress but is still very poorly in intensive care thanks	lilac1	10	463	Aug 12, 2007 by wheelie123
	Help me leave the A alone (Preview) I really, really need to get back to f2f meetings. I am backsliding bigtime. My #1 A son has been drinking every night. I know this....why???...because I have been calling him every night to see if he is. He is really depressed. I can hear it when he talks. I'm a little bit afraid for him. He hates life at th...	Gailey	9	570	Aug 12, 2007 by kissers
	A new prospective on the 7th tradition (Preview) I have always felt that we here in al anon do not talk enough about some of the more immediate, material consequences of the family disease--that our loved ones break promises, over and over again; that we feel at a loss to explain why it is our loved ones behave in bizarre and inappropriate ways to tho...	Tiger2006	2	1429	Aug 12, 2007 by kissers
	New and lost (Preview) What do you do when your clean-and-sober-for-21-years partner acts like a raving drunk?? I read the "Courage to Change" book, I'm working on setting healthy boundaries, and using healthy detachment. I want this person in my life, I love him, I choose him. But I'm now very lost and confuse...	sadako	8	522	Aug 12, 2007 by sadako
	The most important trust issue that will ever be worked on..at least for me (Preview) Trust An attitude of helpful expectancy can serve me very well today. My Higher Power has my day in His hands. Whatever happens, it will go most smoothly, and I will feel best about myself, if I am open to what the day brings, and at peace with whatever it holds for me. I can give my best if I do not get bogged d...	Tiger2006	1	277	Aug 12, 2007 by ddub
	Housing for convicted felons ? (Preview) I have no experience in this area so am hoping someone can give me some information. A friend of mine's husband was recently given 120 days shock time in a state facility. She is on disability and makes less than $400 per month. When she went to apply for low income housing she was told that because she i...	Mobirdie	2	1069	Aug 12, 2007 by Jerry F
	I should have known better (Preview) Today was a good day with my A. We are expecting my son, his wife and our grandbaby tonight and he helped me get things ready. It was a pleasent day with my A helping me but I noticed I can't do anything right. Surprize,, You name it, potatoes, sauce, houseclean. I didn't say to much as he was helping me an...	weggie	6	705	Aug 12, 2007 by Jerry F
	The Anger (Preview) The anger has set in. I know it is part of the grieving process. I just don't know what to do with it. I am going to my meeting tonight and my daughter is going to the alateen. This has been our routein for over a year. And I would drop the 2 younger ones off to my mom's and my friend would drop off her 2 to my mom's s...	serendipity	8	621	Aug 11, 2007 by nmike
	the money stuff (Preview) last night the A had to have the truck towed because it finally came to a halt. He may or may not be able to get it repaired. It seems like it will be out of action for a long long time. Of course then he demanded that I come forth with a credit card to get him a rental card. I refused. I do not have any more credit. M...	maresie2	5	477	Aug 11, 2007 by maresie
	Just venting or whining or whatever (Preview) I am just feeling flustrated today for some reason. One thing that happened was that I realized that I paid one of my credit cards the other day using the wrong checking acct. DUH what a dumb mistake. I do on-line bill pay and both of my checking accts come up on it. Unfortunately, the joint acct w/my AH...	QOD	6	321	Aug 11, 2007 by QOD
	death of loved one (Preview) 1st time here. lost and confused. my boyfriend died 6 days ago while dui. beer marijuana and klonopin . 50-70 mph, car slid on grass shoulder and catapulted into brick wall then tree. we have one year old son. i am still in shock. he quit drinking on his own(no AA,no rehab). when we moved away from ol...	klm4446	12	1343	Aug 11, 2007 by klm4446
	Need to turn it over (Preview) I need to vent. Have just returned from an arduous trip buying a car, that went fairly well. On my return, I was informed that the centre that I volunarily manage was trashed by the weekend staff. It was in such a state that the fas worker Eugene thought the place had been broken into. I dealt with it, let go...	maire rua	3	402	Aug 11, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Drinking with the alcoholic? (Preview) I am at a very strange point where I don't know what I want in my life. My boyfriend, fresh out of rehab is drinking again- the first few days started out being able to hold it together until I went to bed then yesterday just went on a full out drinking binge all day. When I got home I was very proud of myself. I d...	summergrl83	6	595	Aug 10, 2007 by lilac1
	Hostility, guard dogs and neighbors (Preview) I'm pretty emotional right now, but I have to write it out and there's no meeting tonight. I just spent the last couple hours talking to my neighbor Melanie, who I haven't spoken with since right after we moved in here (neighbors are far apart around here). In a nutshell, I was able to apologize for all t...	Kim65	10	460	Aug 10, 2007 by Kim65
	Had a relapse of fear last night (Preview) (((MIP Family))) I haven't posted since our friend went off the "deep end". He is doing much better and is attending a couple of meetings with my AH. We are getting life back to normal now that everyone is out of the house. This week we've been hit hard with past debts that have to be rectifi...	twinmom2	9	612	Aug 10, 2007 by twinmom2
	National Underwear Day???? (Humor) (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), A friend of mine sent me an ecard yesterday wishing me a HAPPY NATIONAL UNDERWEAR DAY! Apparently here in the states we have an official Underwear Day. Now I'm not sure what we were suppose to do yesterday but it really made me giggle. So I just in case, it's a very important ho...	Karilynn	6	587	Aug 10, 2007 by mhgal
	Drinking with the alcoholic? (Preview) I am at a very strange point where I don't know what I want in my life. My boyfriend, fresh out of rehab is drinking again- the first few days started out being able to hold it together until I went to bed then yesterday just went on a full out drinking binge all day. When I got home I was very proud of myself. I d...	summergrl83	3	669	Aug 10, 2007 by nmike
	So Mad Right Now (Preview) Hello MIP Family. I havent been on much but I just needed to vent. Maybe then I can go to sleep. A few weeks back I posted about AH going to rehab. Well he comes home tomorrow. I am happy scared and confused. I have started reading in my Al-Anon books again and looking into meetings that I can attend. There is...	janey225	6	457	Aug 9, 2007 by janey225
	is this a sex addiction? (a kinda long post, sorry) (Preview) Seems it never ends... I was online the other nite and pulled up the history so I could find a web address I visited earlier in the day (and yes, I do check the history OFTEN, but wasn't doing so that nite). I saw several swimsuit sites, and was wondering who was going to them. My daughter hadn't been home...	lmt123	7	613	Aug 9, 2007 by jonibaloni21
	General Service Assembly conventions (Preview) My ah (sober 2.5 yrs) is in his first year as a GSR. Last night he brought home registration papers for the annual convention and my question is: Do these conventions include spouses? Any information is greatly appreciated Thanks, Kim	Free_Bird	5	655	Aug 9, 2007 by Free_Bird
	saying no (Preview) The A wanted to see me today. Every time he sees me always hits me up for money. I have told him this week repeatedly I have none. I am down to raiding the penny jar to get to work. I am also working really long hours (which is good because in time I'll have some money). I told the A this week to sell a piece of equi...	maresie2	5	413	Aug 9, 2007 by Jen
	Thanks~ (Preview) for the responses about my Step-daughter's drinking etc. My DH did call his daughter and talked to her about her drinking. He said you can hang up on me if you want---but she listened to him, and was responsive. I did stay out of it (thanks to all of your responses). I did mention alanon to him and said you...	meagain	0	231	Aug 9, 2007 by meagain
	Pay attention here, people! Listen up! (Preview) The hearing ear is always found close to the speaking tongue. -Ralph Waldo Emerson Listening research shows that we hear only about 60 percent of what is said. This has nothing to do with the functioning of our ears; it has to do with paying attention. Listening is a learnable skill, but it requires foc...	Tiger2006	4	444	Aug 9, 2007 by Tiger2006
	The Calling Hours (Preview) I went. I put my arms around my best friend, her mom, her husband and her son. I knelt by my best friend's daughter and said prayers. I received more love from friends than I ever thought possible. I don't know what tomarrow may bring and my kids are coping the best they can at the moment. Again, thank you fo...	serendipity	11	525	Aug 9, 2007 by Leetle
	August 5 Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) August 5, 2007 Al-anon Business Meeting The chair opened the meeting w/the Serenity Prayerand welcomed members to the meeting. The meeting chair schedule and the general responsibilities of Ops were reviewed. The position of Room Operator or Monitor is one of responsibility for the Al-Anon stil...	danz123	1	1279	Aug 9, 2007 by Rita G
	Can you see my dog? (Preview) I was trying to put a picture of my favorite pet on here. Just seeing if it worked. Hi. While I'm here I might as well say a few words. Was in a car accident (not hurt, just bruised and sore) a week ago. Poor teenie bopper pulled right out in front of me. It totaled my paid off vehicle. In the distraction...	Nedsaid	2	331	Aug 9, 2007 by QOD
	Slogans (Preview) Hello everyone, I am doing a workshop later on this year in which we will be making God Boxes. Would you please share your favorite slogan or saying you have heard in meetings that I might print out for use on the boxes. Thanks Barb	Mobirdie	9	774	Aug 9, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Collections called again! Nasty mad about the transfer cancelation. LOL (Preview) OMG!!! Do y'all remember a couple of weeks ago when that collection agency bullied me into doing a balance transfer of my AH's debt onto my credit card? Remember that I was also able to cancel the transfer. Well, I figured that the agency would call as soon as they figured out the transfer had been can...	QOD	6	451	Aug 9, 2007 by Kim65
	Thank You so very much (Preview) Just wanted to say thank you for all the prayers, responses and love. I am numb, my kids are dealing, my mom is trying to be strong and grieve in the face of the anger and hate. I am thankful for the numbness and that it is allowing me to be there fully for my kids. I will attribute this blessing of numb peace to...	serendipity	7	454	Aug 9, 2007 by carolinagirl
	New to all of this! (Preview) This is all new to me. I grew up with parents who hardly ever drank alcohol and so I never really have. I seldom drink, and have never to excess. I just discovered in May that my best friend (boyfriend/significant "other", actually) is an alcoholic. I feel stupid but I just didn't know. There...	Helen	8	489	Aug 9, 2007 by Helen
	Hi (Preview) I haven't posted in a while, I guess I have been busy....but I wanted you all to know that I continue to work my program everyday. I do my readings and practice detaching with love. I am doing so good at work, took #1 in our store again! My A, encourgages me and last week he brought me a card, a new Sudoku bo...	marmare	7	348	Aug 8, 2007 by nmike
	Need your help and honesty (Preview) Hi it's me again , Most of you know about my recent involvment in an Alateen Confrence in our area . One of our Alateens has been invited to attend a WSO advisory meeting , she will go with her sponsor in a couple of weeks . As a sponsor I really don't understand why our kids are not part of our family recov...	abbyal	10	727	Aug 8, 2007 by wp
	tantrum (Preview) I don't want to be here! .... at alanon msg board or meetings. I can't get to sleep at a reasonable hour for weeks and weeks. Long weekend out of town with family and friends, AH put on a good show and stayed in our room to drink at night. I worked at keeping my anxiety at bay but then when things went well,...	ddub	5	331	Aug 8, 2007 by lilms
	Pulling the plug (Preview) I have told the A I am not paying his rent for him next week. I have switched off my cell phone and told the people who he is living with I am unavailable. He can give me the dogs now. I will just let him do whatever. He's destroyed absolutely everything around him. he is not going to destroy me with iht. Mare...	maresie2	20	578	Aug 8, 2007 by Jen
	NOT going there again (Preview) Ok -- it's time for me to just vent and get through some of my emotions before I truly go insane. I have been pleased with my AH's recovery for the past 8 years with only one or two backslides that I remember. During the past 5 months I have found his "hidden evidence " that he has started drinki...	timsgirl89	4	430	Aug 8, 2007 by mhgal
	Angry, Venting, Pain, Loneliness (Preview) I've been going to al-anon meetings, I'm up to 3 a week. It seems to help and I know it's keeping me in motion. Iv'e written before but it's been a couple months so I'll recap the events. My AH and I have been together for 23 years. We have a 22 year old daughter who just graduated from college and...	pabell	5	487	Aug 8, 2007 by Jen
	not sure about what I am feeling (Preview) Originally, I came to this program because my A son separated from his wife and 2 children. It was the most horrible time of my life. That was in 10/2005. They are now divorced and ex-wife is remarried. I was so fearful of what this was going to do with the relationship I have with my granddaughters and the...	Gailey	8	570	Aug 8, 2007 by Jen
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