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I used to be a semi-regular at a Sunday night meeting, but since I have gotten involved in a relationship and she wants to go to Alanon too, I let her have that time slot. I don't feel we should *regularly* go to the same meetings, and especially since she was new to Alanon, I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. So when we do go on Sundays, I go to the adjacent AA meeting and she goes to Alanon.
Well the end result is it has been like 4-5 months since I've been to a f2f Alanon meeting. I still go to my AA home group and other meetings here and there.
We have at least one group locally which is a combined AA+Alanon meeting for people in relationships. I haven't been there in many years just because I was not in a relationship. That might be one to try, but I still would like my own semi-regular Alanon group.
Oddly enough, I've never really been in this position before. So over the next couple weeks I'm going to try a few different meetings that might be convenient for me and see what I discover. My life has been very occupied lately as you might expect in a new relationship. Sobriety is still my #1 priority so I still always make it to my AA home group. But I do miss the gentle hand of Alanon. Things are going great for me today, but I don't ever want to forget where I've been and what I have worked through. I also want to share my own experience strength and hope where possible, but I am always aware that I will forever have gotten more out of the program than I can ever give back, just because that's how it works. I can't repay the gift of a higher power, only accept it and remain grateful.
Glad things are still going well in your relationship. I recently had a discussion with one of my daughters. She is contemplating attending Al-Anon and I believe she would greatly benefit from the program. Since my home group meets 4 x a week, I offered her that I would limit my meetings to 2 nites a week giving her the other 2 meetings until she felt comfortable with me in the group and/or truly understood that the people in the group would respect her and my anonymity.
She said she would think about it.
So anyway, I understand what you are saying - I usually try to make it to 3 or 4 meetings, but in the spirit of cooperation I'm willing to give her a chance - will wait and see if she's ready.
Hope you find another place you can continue your recovery growth,
Wishing you Serenity & Joy, Rita
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Hi I can from personal experience recomend that u attend the joint meeting together , it was an amazing experience for my husb and my self . Unfortunaley it was the only meeting my husb went to for yrs , and it has closed now due to lack of support . But i also agree u need a meeting of your own . goodl uck in the search , open mind and not comparing it to the one u gave up will help . Louise Change is a good thing = stops ruts hehe
