Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

moto · moto

Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...

ally02 · ally02

HI ALL FELLOW MEMBERS I JUST WANTED TO SAY A BIG, BIG, THANK YOU TO YOU ALL. I HAVE BEEN IN AL-ANON LESS THAN A YEAR, BEEN IN HERE ABOUT FOUR MONTHS. I AM JUST BEGINING TO LET GO OF WHO I THOUGHT I WAS. NOW I KNOW THAT PERSON WAS NOT ME. THAT PERSON WAS A THE CHILD WITHIN ME, I AM GROWING UNDER THE INFLUENC...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hey all! Just got back from our anniversary trip last night about 6pm. We had a fantastic time, went to Put-In-Bay, rode the ferry over to South Bass Island. We had neither one been there, and didn't even know anything about what we would find. It was great, the weather was ov...

irish54 · irish54

Today I've found myself falling deep deep into a self pity chasm and I can't seem to crawl out of it. Withing the past few years I've lost my mother, my bro in law, my sister to suicide, my son to prison, other son to mental illness, and now my daughter wants nothing to do with me since her hsuband died.&nb...

Barbara · Barbara

A year ago I was a mess. Ended up at the docs office where they tried putting me on Zoloft, started back at AlAnon (it had been several years), joined a new gym and a new Church. Husband had just had his left kidney removed due to cancer (he's doing fine now - its been a year). I kept telling myself it was due to...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I got home a couple hours ago from the most awesome 12 step recovery, women only retreat. This was my first year to go and I am so pumped up I don't think I'll come down any day soon. I learned so much about myself, my inner feelings, how to work my steps even further than I have worked them to dat...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

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sld488 · sld488

A few days ago I posted about my bf's daughter, her decision to move back with her biological mother, and now wants to come back. Last night I got a call from the bio mom. She informed me she had called the local authorities to come pick up the daughter to remove her from the home. She had told me how the dau...

frog58 · frog58

In alanon it is suggested that we all do something for someone and not tell them. Michael's Craft Stores (in USA) are running their afghans for charity program again. All they ask participants to do is knit or crochet a rectangles 7" by 9" and drop them off at a Michael's craft store and the...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, everything was great, and now we are on an impromptu trip (left Sat. morning) in upper Ohio, headed for LAKE ERIE!!! We had dinner at the winery, went home, went to bed Fri, got up Sat and took off on the motorcycle and went thru and Indian Cave yesterday, stayed all night at a hotel in Bellevu...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I believed that things should be a certain way, period! There was a right way and a wrong way! I assumed my way of thinking was the right way. Dealing with active alcoholism distorts our way of thinking rationally, and in my case I began trying to control the drinker, his wa...

Barbara · Barbara

A year has gone by since my husband had his left kidney out due to cancer. He's busy at work, attending union meetings, told his drinking buddy he needs a few months by himself since he's busy w/work. Our son turned 14 and doesnt want his mother to fill up all his free time (Hey I was lucky to have his compani...

Karilynn · Karilynn

A day shall come when shall not hold these hands, nor "see" these dear familiar faces, Therefore, let us cheerish our Loved ones NOW, ...while there is time, and hold them close and treat them with all great tenderness. For soon, ... so soon we must part, ...and we shall not "find" them a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have a long history with my son's father an A. 18 years, we have had alot of problems lately in reguards to our son. I haven't really talked to him since I joined recovery. But my son had made a decission I had to respect his thoughts and opinions as he is growing in being a teenager. He wanted to go stay with...

WolfSong · WolfSong

Learning to keep the focus on me has been the hardest thing for me to accomplish. Being a mother of five, the sister of 6, the daughter of Daniel and Barbara and the wife of George.... I was totally lost at who I was, who I was suppose to be and what it was that I truly wanted for myself.... My father w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just want to thank everyone for their support, especially Jerry F for reminding me that I choose my consequences. I put a collect call block on the phone and haven't heard from him again. I wonder here and there about what's going on. He helped me move in so he could theoretically s...

twinkie · twinkie

I really need some help. I am feeling a lot of guilt and anxiety and so unclear which direction to go. I am engaged but wondering should I marry my A? He doesn't drink but just had a relapse. We were stuck in a terrible obessive cycle just before the relapse. We've broken that cy...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hi (((Everyone))), Just wanted to say hi and let you know what's up with me. This summer has been a whirlwind as I have been making 3 or 4 ftf meetings a week even in the TX heat with no a/c in my car! I have been proud of myself that I (gasp - are you sititng down for this one) - I ASKED FOR HELP.&n...

AllyNon · AllyNon

Hi, I'm SO grateful for the Al-Anon program, it has helped me SO much in the 8 months I've been coming to meetings! I've started working the steps and have a sponsor, and I love love LOVE this program! My question is about making major life decisions -- in particular, whether to marry my boyfr...

kissers · kissers

This is the Hero of the dysfunctional family/alcoholic family. I read another post hmrnrnmm had and wanted to share why those who experience this in the adult years. People who develop panic attacks were often denied their childhoods. Yes, they were children. But often, they were require...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

HI all, Feeling kinda weird... nervous. Anxious. Sometimes, I feel like I do/say things and then I look back at them and think, "Oh gosh, I didn't handle that very well." "I should've worded that better" (to avoid offending someone or hurting his feelings) "Why was I afraid to be clear?" (ins...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Family))) Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I myself have been coming to some tough resolutions. I had counseling with the A on Thursday and told him and the counselor that I'm tired of being a victim and have realized how unhealthy I've become. Whether the A is wi...

nmike · nmike

(((((Good morning friends))))) I am truly humble on a day like today. So many died and so many families have suffered a loss. I hope that somewhere in this is the reason my son is in combat overseas. I spent a day with my AHsober. It never goes very well. But even in that I can find things to put on my gratit...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

In one of my meetings, someone mentioned their racing thoughts. A lot of people seemed to relate, me included. In my effort to deal with my racing thoughts, I wonder why we even have them. Are these thoughts generally about what needs to get done? Are we always trying to solve our problems,...

pearlygirrl · pearlygirrl

Thank you all, so much, for responding to my last post. Reading your responses has helped me to feel more secure about my action to not stop for him. Today, he stayed in bed all day. Its been 30 hours that he's been in bed. I have gone about my day... offering to talk if he wanted t...

Rita G · Rita G

((MIP Family)) - I have missed all of you - it has been over a week since I have been able to get on line - and what a week it has been - just a brief summary of the chaos - medical issues for me, death of a dear Aunt, a 26 yr old niece in ICU because of her addiction - with only a 10 % chance of survival, our daughter re...

WolfSong · WolfSong

Hello all I am new here... I joined tonight after laying in my bed attempting to feel sorry for myself.. I have been in the program for about 3 years now and feel for the first time in about a year that I am loosing my grip on my serenity.... It has been hard for me to attend f2f meetings as my work hours are sp...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, Well, started my new job this week, have been in training all week.....omg.....it is a biatch...lol. I am sure once I actually start the job...instead of looking at everything on paper form I am going to like it.....wow...I have forgotten how wonderful it is to have a piece of...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Another update on my situation. I had my A/cocaine-addicted husband served with divorce papers on Tuesday. He's still living here in our house with me. He claims to have no place to go. As you can imagine, things are rather uncomfortable around here. He's been doing everything he can t...

WifeinDespair · WifeinDespair

Hello my fellow friends. It has been a week since I wrote my first post and so many of you have shared great words of wisdom that I was able to apply into my life. I wanted to share where I am today, a week later. Last night I went to an open meeting with my A. It was in...

irish54 · irish54

Hello Friends, Well, I did go over to my grandaughter's cross country meet ... she did very well btw.

After it was over we went on into town. On the way in we called my daughters house and got no answer, so we went on by anyway. As I suspected, there was no answer. So we went o...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have many significant obstacles in front of me in my task to get out from under the A. Finances alway seem to have been part of the issue in my dealing with the A. Another is my depression. I overate to compensate for that. In the last few weeks I have joined o.a. and lost 13 lbs I am on my way to m...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I had a hard weekend visit with my mom this last week. My parents are splitting up after 30 yrs and I find myself stuck somewhere in the middle. I think what it boils down to is that mom wants me to pick sides, and since i dont want to, she assumes i'm on dad's side. I feel like i'm a k...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, since i quit my job (still have 3 weeks left) i'm in a great form, so here is another joke have a nice day Love Daisy His and Her Road Trip HERS: Pulls off at wrong exit. opens window asks directions of a knowledgeable police officer Arrives at destination presently. HIS: Pulls off at wron...

kingston · kingston

My A continues to Drink and drive, even after his last dui distroyed us and has still not been settled, I just can't believe he keeps doing it. I came home from work and he went to work out drunk again and took my car. What kind of mental defective works out drunk. We had a boundry of n...

marks girl · marks girl

He will be in home sometime today. THe doctor says he is doing good enough to come home. Seems he was in detox not rehab. I can't wait to see him this afternoon. course Ima little nervous to. I just keep telling myself to take one day at a time. barb

marmare · marmare

I know I'm not supposed to try and figure out what is going on in the A's head, but it's so hard at times. I think my A has given up drinking, but has not said a word to me. His last attempt was last November and it lasted until the first weekend of February. After the conversation this pas...

maresie2 · maresie2

In a week and a half his mother goes to live in another state and will be gone out of my life for probably ever that is physically although I have not physically seen her for years, her presence around the A is ever present.... And like my anger at the A a lot of anger is swirling at her. She was incredib...

Gailey · Gailey

Next month it will be one year since my son and dil separated. Everyone seems to be going forward in their lives except me. I am trying but some days when I think about each of them dating someone else and maybe starting new lives, saddness just overwhelms me. I have 2 granddaughters that we all love dearl...

marmare · marmare

If you look at my last posting about trying to figure stuff out you will see that a prayer will help so much. My HP is giving me just what I need when I am ready for it. I have to smile at this one....I picked up my "Learning to Let Go" for my reading this morning, Sept. 9th, and today's reading i...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi All, time to time i browse in AA site and found this, i had to share A Spanish teacher was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine. ''House'' for instance, is feminine: ''la casa.'' ''Pencil,'' however, is masculi...

pearlygirrl · pearlygirrl

I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...

tigerlilli44 · tigerlilli44

I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...

sld488 · sld488

Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...

Lindy · Lindy

I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...

greta · greta

I have been reading the posts about sponsorship. Just thought this might be a good question to ask. If you never had one, how would a person know? Do I need one or don't I? I sure didn't think I did at first. I had this wonderful place online...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) ..."boring, workaholic who labels me an Alcoholic" That was the sentiment of a conversation my AW and I had last night. I didn't address boring or workaholic at all... I went ahead and agreed on those. *patting himself on the back* But I didn't pass up the la...

irish54 · irish54

Hi everyone, I'm sorry I haven't posted on here for a long time, but I do visit often and read your ESH often. Thank you for that. You have helped me tremendously. My situation is this; My Son in law was killed in a car accident June 1st. His daughter, my grandaughter's birthday w...

TLC2 · TLC2

Throughtout my life, I have always had trouble with insomnia, it seems to be getting worse.. I have been reading books on the subject, getting pills to help me,even tried drinking myself to oblivion, seemed to work for my A, lol.All THAT did was give me a miserable headache! Nothing seems to wor...

Maria123 · Maria123

My wonderful friends, I am off now. I am going to Texas for the week and won't be back on the boards until Sunday the 17th or so. I am attending an International City Managers Conference in San Antonio which I am excited about and hope to meet up with some of you Texans. Take good care of yo...

sld488 · sld488

Two months ago, my bf's ex decided she wanted her daughter back. Her reason was because my bf/her ex was never home.(he does travel a lot) And she felt like it was not the gf's(me) job to raise their daughter. I have grown to love this little girl as my own. (I shouldn't say little, she...

maresie · maresie

When I am able to take a step back from my relationship with the A I can see I have really been forced into this martyr role. I think that by giving I am showing love. In fact with this specific A there is never enough for him. When he was ill, I was the 'only ' one there for him. All his "friends" sc...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I read last nite Sept 6 Hope for Today about Lone Member Services? Does anyone know how I can find out more about this? I could go for this Lone Member Services. I would appreciate any more information. I am like this Geographically challenged (30 to 45 miles one way), disabled ( I sometimes need help t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So I've been reading the posts the past few days, reminding myself that each person is in perfect process with their higher power. But I keep noticing a pattern. I don't hear people talk about what their sponsor said. That they have a sponsor. That they're using their sponsor. ...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

Today I am carrying around my ODAT (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon book). I feel too weak to run errands by myself so "she" will be my friend for the day. Do you ever get that feeling like you are the only person in the world that understands your thoughts and feelings? And that you are isolated and completely a...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thanks for all the kind words yesterday, it really helped me out. There is a story one of my old professors told in class about frogs. Something my sponsor sent me made me think of it and I thought you might want to hear it. It was a biology experiment on cold blooded...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Well, something that i thought would never happen to me in amillion years, happened last night: Husband physically attacked me. He came home drunk and got upset with me b/c he blew into my face and I told him to stop. It started int he bedroom and it ended up throughout the house endi...

Diva · Diva

If Isabela's posts suggest to you that she is "dangerously close" to rejecting AlAnon tenets, what must you think of mine? Yours is the attitude I feel is "dangerously close" to suggesting that no one is allowed to disagree with any teachings of AlAnon. I think for myself, and while I agree with AlAnon...

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	Back and forth between Self Righteous and Guilt (Preview) Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...	moto	4	495	Sep 13, 2006 by moto
	FINDING MYSELF AT LAST (Preview) HI ALL FELLOW MEMBERS I JUST WANTED TO SAY A BIG, BIG, THANK YOU TO YOU ALL. I HAVE BEEN IN AL-ANON LESS THAN A YEAR, BEEN IN HERE ABOUT FOUR MONTHS. I AM JUST BEGINING TO LET GO OF WHO I THOUGHT I WAS. NOW I KNOW THAT PERSON WAS NOT ME. THAT PERSON WAS A THE CHILD WITHIN ME, I AM GROWING UNDER THE INFLUENC...	ally02	1	237	Sep 13, 2006 by shadow1
	This Stuff Really Works (Preview) Hey all! Just got back from our anniversary trip last night about 6pm. We had a fantastic time, went to Put-In-Bay, rode the ferry over to South Bass Island. We had neither one been there, and didn't even know anything about what we would find. It was great, the weather was ov...	Becky1	5	451	Sep 13, 2006 by Lexie
	i'm soooo tired (Preview) Today I've found myself falling deep deep into a self pity chasm and I can't seem to crawl out of it. Withing the past few years I've lost my mother, my bro in law, my sister to suicide, my son to prison, other son to mental illness, and now my daughter wants nothing to do with me since her hsuband died.&nb...	irish54	4	294	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	is feeling like I can go out and do things myself part of the recovery? (Preview) A year ago I was a mess. Ended up at the docs office where they tried putting me on Zoloft, started back at AlAnon (it had been several years), joined a new gym and a new Church. Husband had just had his left kidney removed due to cancer (he's doing fine now - its been a year). I kept telling myself it was due to...	Barbara	6	326	Sep 13, 2006 by nmike
	Heart to Heart Retreat (Preview) I got home a couple hours ago from the most awesome 12 step recovery, women only retreat. This was my first year to go and I am so pumped up I don't think I'll come down any day soon. I learned so much about myself, my inner feelings, how to work my steps even further than I have worked them to dat...	Mobirdie	7	4451	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	" I love you enough to............. " Poem Thanks to Cilla (Preview) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~	hmrnrnmm	1	3386	Sep 13, 2006 by smpoli
	Battle lines almost drawn (Preview) A few days ago I posted about my bf's daughter, her decision to move back with her biological mother, and now wants to come back. Last night I got a call from the bio mom. She informed me she had called the local authorities to come pick up the daughter to remove her from the home. She had told me how the dau...	sld488	3	339	Sep 12, 2006 by lin0606
	doing something for someone less fortunate (Preview) In alanon it is suggested that we all do something for someone and not tell them. Michael's Craft Stores (in USA) are running their afghans for charity program again. All they ask participants to do is knit or crochet a rectangles 7" by 9" and drop them off at a Michael's craft store and the...	frog58	3	320	Sep 12, 2006 by peewee
	Our Anniversary (Preview) Well, everything was great, and now we are on an impromptu trip (left Sat. morning) in upper Ohio, headed for LAKE ERIE!!! We had dinner at the winery, went home, went to bed Fri, got up Sat and took off on the motorcycle and went thru and Indian Cave yesterday, stayed all night at a hotel in Bellevu...	Becky1	9	353	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	QUESTION? DO YOU REALIZE THAT LIFE IS NOT BALCK AND WHITE OR GOOD AND BAD, BUT RATHER SOMEWHERE INBETWEEN? (Preview) For years I believed that things should be a certain way, period! There was a right way and a wrong way! I assumed my way of thinking was the right way. Dealing with active alcoholism distorts our way of thinking rationally, and in my case I began trying to control the drinker, his wa...	gardengal	2	275	Sep 12, 2006 by Christy
	life is running smoothly - do i need alanon (Preview) A year has gone by since my husband had his left kidney out due to cancer. He's busy at work, attending union meetings, told his drinking buddy he needs a few months by himself since he's busy w/work. Our son turned 14 and doesnt want his mother to fill up all his free time (Hey I was lucky to have his compani...	Barbara	10	544	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	In remembrance (Preview) A day shall come when shall not hold these hands, nor "see" these dear familiar faces, Therefore, let us cheerish our Loved ones NOW, ...while there is time, and hold them close and treat them with all great tenderness. For soon, ... so soon we must part, ...and we shall not "find" them a...	Karilynn	6	352	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	Things that finally needed to be said (Preview) I have a long history with my son's father an A. 18 years, we have had alot of problems lately in reguards to our son. I haven't really talked to him since I joined recovery. But my son had made a decission I had to respect his thoughts and opinions as he is growing in being a teenager. He wanted to go stay with...	DoN4me	1	276	Sep 12, 2006 by rtexas
	Keeping the Focus on Me! (Preview) Learning to keep the focus on me has been the hardest thing for me to accomplish. Being a mother of five, the sister of 6, the daughter of Daniel and Barbara and the wife of George.... I was totally lost at who I was, who I was suppose to be and what it was that I truly wanted for myself.... My father w...	WolfSong	2	420	Sep 12, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thanks for all your support (Preview) I just want to thank everyone for their support, especially Jerry F for reminding me that I choose my consequences. I put a collect call block on the phone and haven't heard from him again. I wonder here and there about what's going on. He helped me move in so he could theoretically s...	carolinagirl	1	225	Sep 12, 2006 by Tiger2006
	guilt, anxiety....help? (Preview) I really need some help. I am feeling a lot of guilt and anxiety and so unclear which direction to go. I am engaged but wondering should I marry my A? He doesn't drink but just had a relapse. We were stuck in a terrible obessive cycle just before the relapse. We've broken that cy...	twinkie	6	396	Sep 12, 2006 by babysteps
	Update (Preview) Hi (((Everyone))), Just wanted to say hi and let you know what's up with me. This summer has been a whirlwind as I have been making 3 or 4 ftf meetings a week even in the TX heat with no a/c in my car! I have been proud of myself that I (gasp - are you sititng down for this one) - I ASKED FOR HELP.&n...	cedarpines	6	227	Sep 11, 2006 by cedarpines
	should I marry this guy? (Preview) Hi, I'm SO grateful for the Al-Anon program, it has helped me SO much in the 8 months I've been coming to meetings! I've started working the steps and have a sponsor, and I love love LOVE this program! My question is about making major life decisions -- in particular, whether to marry my boyfr...	AllyNon	16	524	Sep 11, 2006 by AllyNon
	to hmrnrnmm & Agoraphobia (Preview) This is the Hero of the dysfunctional family/alcoholic family. I read another post hmrnrnmm had and wanted to share why those who experience this in the adult years. People who develop panic attacks were often denied their childhoods. Yes, they were children. But often, they were require...	kissers	0	333	Sep 11, 2006 by kissers
	44 going on 13 (Preview) HI all, Feeling kinda weird... nervous. Anxious. Sometimes, I feel like I do/say things and then I look back at them and think, "Oh gosh, I didn't handle that very well." "I should've worded that better" (to avoid offending someone or hurting his feelings) "Why was I afraid to be clear?" (ins...	itsgot2bgd	6	473	Sep 11, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Coming to some tough realizations. (Preview) (((Hello Family))) Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I myself have been coming to some tough resolutions. I had counseling with the A on Thursday and told him and the counselor that I'm tired of being a victim and have realized how unhealthy I've become. Whether the A is wi...	twinmom2	4	374	Sep 11, 2006 by Rita G
	Humble .... (Preview) (((((Good morning friends))))) I am truly humble on a day like today. So many died and so many families have suffered a loss. I hope that somewhere in this is the reason my son is in combat overseas. I spent a day with my AHsober. It never goes very well. But even in that I can find things to put on my gratit...	nmike	2	339	Sep 11, 2006 by Rita G
	Thinking about racing thoughts (Preview) In one of my meetings, someone mentioned their racing thoughts. A lot of people seemed to relate, me included. In my effort to deal with my racing thoughts, I wonder why we even have them. Are these thoughts generally about what needs to get done? Are we always trying to solve our problems,...	BeBlessed	4	393	Sep 11, 2006 by hersh
	was this control? part 2 is this my illness? (Preview) Thank you all, so much, for responding to my last post. Reading your responses has helped me to feel more secure about my action to not stop for him. Today, he stayed in bed all day. Its been 30 hours that he's been in bed. I have gone about my day... offering to talk if he wanted t...	pearlygirrl	2	417	Sep 11, 2006 by Diva
	Trying to Breathe "Sane" Air (Preview) ((MIP Family)) - I have missed all of you - it has been over a week since I have been able to get on line - and what a week it has been - just a brief summary of the chaos - medical issues for me, death of a dear Aunt, a 26 yr old niece in ICU because of her addiction - with only a 10 % chance of survival, our daughter re...	Rita G	6	832	Sep 11, 2006 by cedarpines
	New Here (Preview) Hello all I am new here... I joined tonight after laying in my bed attempting to feel sorry for myself.. I have been in the program for about 3 years now and feel for the first time in about a year that I am loosing my grip on my serenity.... It has been hard for me to attend f2f meetings as my work hours are sp...	WolfSong	6	308	Sep 10, 2006 by nmike
	Stepping out of the Darkness (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, Well, started my new job this week, have been in training all week.....omg.....it is a biatch...lol. I am sure once I actually start the job...instead of looking at everything on paper form I am going to like it.....wow...I have forgotten how wonderful it is to have a piece of...	Andrea12	5	332	Sep 10, 2006 by mel123
	Guilt Trip (Preview) Hello Another update on my situation. I had my A/cocaine-addicted husband served with divorce papers on Tuesday. He's still living here in our house with me. He claims to have no place to go. As you can imagine, things are rather uncomfortable around here. He's been doing everything he can t...	artygirl	5	274	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Wanted to Share (Preview) Hello my fellow friends. It has been a week since I wrote my first post and so many of you have shared great words of wisdom that I was able to apply into my life. I wanted to share where I am today, a week later. Last night I went to an open meeting with my A. It was in...	WifeinDespair	3	329	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Update;What do I do? (Preview) Hello Friends, Well, I did go over to my grandaughter's cross country meet ... she did very well btw. After it was over we went on into town. On the way in we called my daughters house and got no answer, so we went on by anyway. As I suspected, there was no answer. So we went o...	irish54	4	480	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	making obstacles smaller (Preview) I have many significant obstacles in front of me in my task to get out from under the A. Finances alway seem to have been part of the issue in my dealing with the A. Another is my depression. I overate to compensate for that. In the last few weeks I have joined o.a. and lost 13 lbs I am on my way to m...	maresie2	2	471	Sep 10, 2006 by Jerry F
	doubting myself (Preview) Hi all, I had a hard weekend visit with my mom this last week. My parents are splitting up after 30 yrs and I find myself stuck somewhere in the middle. I think what it boils down to is that mom wants me to pick sides, and since i dont want to, she assumes i'm on dad's side. I feel like i'm a k...	mastiff	8	417	Sep 10, 2006 by mastiff
	Good days (Preview) Hi all, since i quit my job (still have 3 weeks left) i'm in a great form, so here is another joke have a nice day Love Daisy His and Her Road Trip HERS: Pulls off at wrong exit. opens window asks directions of a knowledgeable police officer Arrives at destination presently. HIS: Pulls off at wron...	daisy2	0	189	Sep 10, 2006 by daisy2
	DRINKING AND DRIVING AGAIN!! (Preview) My A continues to Drink and drive, even after his last dui distroyed us and has still not been settled, I just can't believe he keeps doing it. I came home from work and he went to work out drunk again and took my car. What kind of mental defective works out drunk. We had a boundry of n...	kingston	19	600	Sep 9, 2006 by Jeannie
	mark is coming home (Preview) He will be in home sometime today. THe doctor says he is doing good enough to come home. Seems he was in detox not rehab. I can't wait to see him this afternoon. course Ima little nervous to. I just keep telling myself to take one day at a time. barb	marks girl	6	283	Sep 9, 2006 by Jeannie
	I'm not supposed to figure him out.... (Preview) I know I'm not supposed to try and figure out what is going on in the A's head, but it's so hard at times. I think my A has given up drinking, but has not said a word to me. His last attempt was last November and it lasted until the first weekend of February. After the conversation this pas...	marmare	3	412	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	in a week an a half his mother goes (Preview) In a week and a half his mother goes to live in another state and will be gone out of my life for probably ever that is physically although I have not physically seen her for years, her presence around the A is ever present.... And like my anger at the A a lot of anger is swirling at her. She was incredib...	maresie2	3	296	Sep 9, 2006 by Andrea12
	JUST FEELING SAD TODAY (Preview) Next month it will be one year since my son and dil separated. Everyone seems to be going forward in their lives except me. I am trying but some days when I think about each of them dating someone else and maybe starting new lives, saddness just overwhelms me. I have 2 granddaughters that we all love dearl...	Gailey	6	276	Sep 9, 2006 by omajoy
	Coincidence, I think not (Preview) If you look at my last posting about trying to figure stuff out you will see that a prayer will help so much. My HP is giving me just what I need when I am ready for it. I have to smile at this one....I picked up my "Learning to Let Go" for my reading this morning, Sept. 9th, and today's reading i...	marmare	3	428	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny (Preview) Hi All, time to time i browse in AA site and found this, i had to share A Spanish teacher was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine. ''House'' for instance, is feminine: ''la casa.'' ''Pencil,'' however, is masculi...	daisy2	2	357	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	was this control? (Preview) I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...	pearlygirrl	5	409	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Death of a friend (long) (Preview) I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...	tigerlilli44	6	446	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Jonibaloni where are you? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...	sld488	0	199	Sep 9, 2006 by sld488
	I do not need people in my life anymore. (Preview) I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...	hmrnrnmm	6	375	Sep 9, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Decision to divorce has been made (Preview) I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...	Lindy	5	525	Sep 9, 2006 by Tammy
	Blessed Be the Tie That Binds (Preview) Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...	Becky1	7	369	Sep 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	What does a sponsor do for you? (Preview) I have been reading the posts about sponsorship. Just thought this might be a good question to ask. If you never had one, how would a person know? Do I need one or don't I? I sure didn't think I did at first. I had this wonderful place online...	greta	4	747	Sep 9, 2006 by greta
	Trying to not take it personally (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) ..."boring, workaholic who labels me an Alcoholic" That was the sentiment of a conversation my AW and I had last night. I didn't address boring or workaholic at all... I went ahead and agreed on those. patting himself on the back But I didn't pass up the la...	rtexas	8	443	Sep 9, 2006 by Tiger2006
	what do I do? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm sorry I haven't posted on here for a long time, but I do visit often and read your ESH often. Thank you for that. You have helped me tremendously. My situation is this; My Son in law was killed in a car accident June 1st. His daughter, my grandaughter's birthday w...	irish54	6	422	Sep 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Let go and let God (Preview) Throughtout my life, I have always had trouble with insomnia, it seems to be getting worse.. I have been reading books on the subject, getting pills to help me,even tried drinking myself to oblivion, seemed to work for my A, lol.All THAT did was give me a miserable headache! Nothing seems to wor...	TLC2	6	419	Sep 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Be Away for a while (Preview) My wonderful friends, I am off now. I am going to Texas for the week and won't be back on the boards until Sunday the 17th or so. I am attending an International City Managers Conference in San Antonio which I am excited about and hope to meet up with some of you Texans. Take good care of yo...	Maria123	7	295	Sep 9, 2006 by Barbara
	Wisdom to know the difference (Preview) Two months ago, my bf's ex decided she wanted her daughter back. Her reason was because my bf/her ex was never home.(he does travel a lot) And she felt like it was not the gf's(me) job to raise their daughter. I have grown to love this little girl as my own. (I shouldn't say little, she...	sld488	4	450	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	martyrdom (Preview) When I am able to take a step back from my relationship with the A I can see I have really been forced into this martyr role. I think that by giving I am showing love. In fact with this specific A there is never enough for him. When he was ill, I was the 'only ' one there for him. All his "friends" sc...	maresie	1	323	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	My turn...Lone Member Services??prayers for my SS hearing needed (Preview) I read last nite Sept 6 Hope for Today about Lone Member Services? Does anyone know how I can find out more about this? I could go for this Lone Member Services. I would appreciate any more information. I am like this Geographically challenged (30 to 45 miles one way), disabled ( I sometimes need help t...	hmrnrnmm	6	1234	Sep 9, 2006 by leo
	No topic. Just rambling. (Preview) So I've been reading the posts the past few days, reminding myself that each person is in perfect process with their higher power. But I keep noticing a pattern. I don't hear people talk about what their sponsor said. That they have a sponsor. That they're using their sponsor. ...	Tiger2006	8	437	Sep 8, 2006 by lin0606
	ODAT is my friend today (Preview) Today I am carrying around my ODAT (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon book). I feel too weak to run errands by myself so "she" will be my friend for the day. Do you ever get that feeling like you are the only person in the world that understands your thoughts and feelings? And that you are isolated and completely a...	Strong4myboys	3	315	Sep 8, 2006 by Diva
	The frog experiment (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thanks for all the kind words yesterday, it really helped me out. There is a story one of my old professors told in class about frogs. Something my sponsor sent me made me think of it and I thought you might want to hear it. It was a biology experiment on cold blooded...	rtexas	6	315	Sep 8, 2006 by Diva
	Husband hit rock bottom (Preview) Well, something that i thought would never happen to me in amillion years, happened last night: Husband physically attacked me. He came home drunk and got upset with me b/c he blew into my face and I told him to stop. It started int he bedroom and it ended up throughout the house endi...	desperate for help	12	400	Sep 8, 2006 by jkiss03
	Canadianguy (Preview) If Isabela's posts suggest to you that she is "dangerously close" to rejecting AlAnon tenets, what must you think of mine? Yours is the attitude I feel is "dangerously close" to suggesting that no one is allowed to disagree with any teachings of AlAnon. I think for myself, and while I agree with AlAnon...	Diva	5	474	Sep 8, 2006 by debilyn
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