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maresie2 · maresie2

For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...

lilms · lilms

Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie

Barbara · Barbara

anyone else feel this way? I sure do

Rita G · Rita G

This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...

Dog · Dog

Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...

lila · lila

Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over.

Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up".

...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...

tea2 · tea2

I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...

babysteps · babysteps

We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...

flintfeet · flintfeet

well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...

Scota · Scota

Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul.

Damn I hate that. I don't want...

QOD · QOD

I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, Having some trust isssues. First let me say that when I met my husband, he was the only man I had ever trusted, he didn't gawk @ other women. He didn't flirt with them. But lately, I am not feeling very trusting of him. He has become good friends with our nieghbors, they are alcoholics. I witnessed...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Poor me! I have to go to a training the next two days. Poor me! I have to go to Leavenworth, WA (not the prison

) Poor me! I have to stay in this resort called the Sleeping Lady! Poor me! I have to eat wonderful food that I don't have to cook. (Doesn't that make it bett...

confused · confused

Hi (((roomies))) Hope everyone had a fantastic long weekend. My AH, sons and I went to Maryland for the long weekend. Had a really great time and I have decided that I am ready to reconcile with my AH. Will definitely need to stay focused on my own program....living with recovery...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Things have been quiet in our house for the last week and a half. No late night binges or 2 hour disappearing acts. I have been to f2f meetings BUT today I am angry. I should be happy ...right...things have been calm I am angry for the past hurt and the future hurt t...

Lana · Lana

I’ve been hearing a lot about people’s business lately. There’s my business, your business, and God’s business. I’m finding that I am much happier when I mind my own business, but sometimes figuring out what is my business is difficult. I’ve also been learning that a part...

kerry5 · kerry5

This will be a long share. I come back to mip a changed person. Some of you know my story some dont, for those of your that dont i was raised in a violent acoholic home abused on a regular basis. I am so confused and for the first time in my life, not in complete panic mode. Which is usually how i ha...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Well, I made it through the weekend without calling him, sending text messages or any desperate letters. Saturday I went to a friend's house just to hang out. A girl I graduated with in 1987 and had only really seen a few times since then was there. She was very friendly, both hugging me, but both of the...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) I just can't seem to get over this hump in the road. My AW is screaming and crying again over the fact that I refuse to quit going to Al-Anon meetings. We had a decient weekend last weekend going out of town with her folks to the beach. Almost as soon as we got home sh...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am back after an absence, then not long after i lost my computer for a few months. I have grown somehow in my absence i guess thats why hp took my computer away so i could really see, and i had to be alone to see it. I realized how very mean i was in chat also. How mean i was period. I realized that i do not a...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Here's a link I got from a friend that i found helpful: http://joy2meu.com/Alcoholism.html Lanchas

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Ok, I admit it...I listen to country, I'm a country gal at heart. Heehee. Just heard this song and thought to myself how it gives a tiny bit of insight into the other side, the struggle they go thru, the shame they feel. Why does that matter to me? Well, it helps me to have compassion, t...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...

penny · penny

Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...

Barbara · Barbara

They remind me that we dont have many friends or family

DrystaneDyke · DrystaneDyke

and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...

QOD · QOD

My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...

Tracys Mom · Tracys Mom

I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...

New member · sandi

Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...

shadow1 · shadow1

Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...

lin0606 · lin0606

I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...

miamiave · miamiave

hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...

nycbt · nycbt

i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky

momofthree · momofthree

My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...

sunny123 · sunny123

My AH and I are separating in 2 days as he has requested. I have been suspicious that it was more than my coming down on the drinking that spurred this on. I believe it is a combination of factors. I figured that he was either having an affair or wanting to have an affair with someone. I confronted him and of c...

krise · krise

My husband (A) and I separated 3 months ago. It was a spur of the moment thing . . . another fight . . . well, more like a non-fight (I get upset and he hides in a shell) . . . but it ended with him saying that maybe I should go to my mother's house for a while. So, I left and haven't been back.&n...

serendipity · serendipity

today was my father's memorial service. it was perfect. we had a reception afterwards at his favorite resturant. he was a very popular loved man. the entire community cam to show their love. my kids were terrific. i had all of my friends there. i am such a lucky woman. to have had my father in my life and be...

Christy · Christy

If anyone's interested the site is at: www.rockisland.com/~castalia/friends.html I found this on the site..lots and lots of good stuff there, many links at bottom of page.. [url=http://www.rockisland.com/~cas...

angelnomore · angelnomore

I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 Dear Friends Yesterday, the A in my life told me that while on this break he realized that; he doesn’t have that kick in stomach feeling for me and he never has, also the lack of attention both emotional and physical that I been feeling fro...

MrBlue42 · MrBlue42

(((everyone)))

sandie123 · sandie123

I have been having a bad problem with my self confidence... well that has been going on all my life but I am realizing it more now. I am feeling very confused as to why someone would want to be my friend, why someone would be willing to spend their time sponsoring me. I don't feel I deserve it. There is a p...

leo · leo

Today has been a long one. My husband was late it has been raining all day very unusual for here and my gut instinct told me he was drinking. He did not answer my phone calls and my instinct was spot on. He rocks up with his friend and pretends he has not been drinking which always makes m...

Attention AOL Users · John

If you are using AOL as your internet provider, please read the post at the top of our message board and it will tell you what you need to do in order to be seen by other room members when you enter our chatroom. Your chatroom nickname needs to be registered with StarChat.net in order for AOL users to have...

jonniejane1314 · jonniejane1314

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

It is strange how making changes in ourselves and how we approach our A and our own shortcomings creates changes in our family, life, acquaintances, relationships. My A is still not living at home. I am just amazed at how much peace I am feeling with all of this. I find myself lookin...

debilyn · debilyn

Mil went to the "dark" side. lol I don't care one bit. She called and told friend that she does not want her or me doing anything now.Meth daughter came to her on her knees and begged her to give her another chance. Co that she is... uno the rest. Whatever. What do light and darkness have in common anywa...

Rita G · Rita G

Have you ever looked in the mirror and said: "God, I can't believe this is my Life" Prior to recovery everyday in my life, I remember looking in my mirror, trying to get ready for work, dark circles from no sleep, a night of worry, financial woes, fretting about my daughters, wond...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	giving up martyrdoom (Preview) For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...	maresie2	5	317	May 31, 2006 by maresie2
	Just a quick note... (Preview) ((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...	rtexas	3	291	May 31, 2006 by quest
	Smileys (Preview) Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie	lilms	3	299	May 31, 2006 by confused
	Side effect of A husband is too much alone time for wife (Preview) anyone else feel this way? I sure do	Barbara	12	403	May 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Al-Anon's Promises (Preview) This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...	Rita G	5	759	May 31, 2006 by Lana
	New here, new to Al-Anon (Preview) Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...	Dog	5	445	May 31, 2006 by Dog
	I did good...AND weirdo is BAAAACCCKKKK! (Preview) I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...	jennneeefffurrr	6	417	May 31, 2006 by debilyn
	I learned a good tip in Yoga to calm yourself and stop your mind ticking over! (Preview) Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over. Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...	lila	3	307	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	it's official... (Preview) Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up". ...	lmt123	6	324	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...	Karilynn	11	414	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Fight or Flight? (Preview) I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...	tea2	4	557	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	New Server (Preview) Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...	lebe27	4	279	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Using my tools (Preview) We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...	babysteps	3	302	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	so far so good... (Preview) well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...	flintfeet	1	279	May 31, 2006 by Gailey
	Setting healthy Boundaries (Preview) Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...	Jennfer32	7	1607	May 31, 2006 by canadianguy
	another week..... (Preview) Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul. Damn I hate that. I don't want...	Scota	6	276	May 31, 2006 by babysteps
	So Confused - Just a Wishy Washy Mess!! (Preview) I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...	QOD	8	377	May 31, 2006 by QOD
	Gods will? (Preview) I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...	hmrnrnmm	3	350	May 31, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Trust issues (Preview) Hi, Having some trust isssues. First let me say that when I met my husband, he was the only man I had ever trusted, he didn't gawk @ other women. He didn't flirt with them. But lately, I am not feeling very trusting of him. He has become good friends with our nieghbors, they are alcoholics. I witnessed...	horselover58	6	340	May 31, 2006 by maresie2
	Poor Me! (Preview) Poor me! I have to go to a training the next two days. Poor me! I have to go to Leavenworth, WA (not the prison ) Poor me! I have to stay in this resort called the Sleeping Lady! Poor me! I have to eat wonderful food that I don't have to cook. (Doesn't that make it bett...	Dolphin123	1	375	May 31, 2006 by tiredtonite
	reconciling with AH - ESH??? (Preview) Hi (((roomies))) Hope everyone had a fantastic long weekend. My AH, sons and I went to Maryland for the long weekend. Had a really great time and I have decided that I am ready to reconcile with my AH. Will definitely need to stay focused on my own program....living with recovery...	confused	4	391	May 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	anger (Preview) Things have been quiet in our house for the last week and a half. No late night binges or 2 hour disappearing acts. I have been to f2f meetings BUT today I am angry. I should be happy ...right...things have been calm I am angry for the past hurt and the future hurt t...	Elizabeth M	9	400	May 30, 2006 by alystylz
	Whose business is it? (Preview) I’ve been hearing a lot about people’s business lately. There’s my business, your business, and God’s business. I’m finding that I am much happier when I mind my own business, but sometimes figuring out what is my business is difficult. I’ve also been learning that a part...	Lana	9	1147	May 30, 2006 by Lana
	For me (long) kind of mixed :) just thoughts (Preview) This will be a long share. I come back to mip a changed person. Some of you know my story some dont, for those of your that dont i was raised in a violent acoholic home abused on a regular basis. I am so confused and for the first time in my life, not in complete panic mode. Which is usually how i ha...	kerry5	3	315	May 30, 2006 by jrtjosey
	back and forth weekend (Preview) Well, I made it through the weekend without calling him, sending text messages or any desperate letters. Saturday I went to a friend's house just to hang out. A girl I graduated with in 1987 and had only really seen a few times since then was there. She was very friendly, both hugging me, but both of the...	jennneeefffurrr	4	293	May 30, 2006 by Tammy
	The hump... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I just can't seem to get over this hump in the road. My AW is screaming and crying again over the fact that I refuse to quit going to Al-Anon meetings. We had a decient weekend last weekend going out of town with her folks to the beach. Almost as soon as we got home sh...	rtexas	6	341	May 30, 2006 by Jennifer
	For Our Oldtimers Of Alanon (Preview) I am back after an absence, then not long after i lost my computer for a few months. I have grown somehow in my absence i guess thats why hp took my computer away so i could really see, and i had to be alone to see it. I realized how very mean i was in chat also. How mean i was period. I realized that i do not a...	kerry5	13	520	May 30, 2006 by Christy
	internet help (Preview) Here's a link I got from a friend that i found helpful: http://joy2meu.com/Alcoholism.html Lanchas	Lanchas	0	214	May 30, 2006 by Lanchas
	Anywhere but Here (a share and lyrics) (Preview) Ok, I admit it...I listen to country, I'm a country gal at heart. Heehee. Just heard this song and thought to myself how it gives a tiny bit of insight into the other side, the struggle they go thru, the shame they feel. Why does that matter to me? Well, it helps me to have compassion, t...	kismetstrand	2	366	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Hard choices...Big cries (Preview) Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...	robyn76	4	328	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	OH MY.... (Preview) Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...	Jennfer32	3	302	May 30, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Beware hoax email... (Preview) Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...	Feather	4	369	May 30, 2006 by rosie light shines
	I ask too many questions (Preview) Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...	nmike	3	308	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Being strong (Preview) Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...	penny	3	277	May 30, 2006 by Dolphin123
	holidays are bad times (Preview) They remind me that we dont have many friends or family	Barbara	6	336	May 30, 2006 by Hopefloats
	I'm new (Preview) and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?	DrystaneDyke	7	321	May 30, 2006 by DrystaneDyke
	Dont know if I love him anymore/sponsor not calling back (Preview) My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...	sarahlm	4	327	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	The Tension Finally Exploded! (Preview) My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...	QOD	10	369	May 30, 2006 by QOD
	Confusion vent (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...	Jennifer	5	329	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Divorced - But he's relapsing (Preview) I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...	Tracys Mom	3	383	May 30, 2006 by gardengal
	New member (Preview) Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...	sandi	4	288	May 30, 2006 by sandi
	Things are looking up (Preview) Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...	shadow1	1	300	May 30, 2006 by nmike
	Why I Need Program (Preview) I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...	lin0606	4	355	May 30, 2006 by abbyal
	mother died 6 months ago (Preview) hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...	miamiave	6	514	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Thinking (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...	Andrea12	4	295	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	need coverage for may 30 tuesday (Preview) i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky	nycbt	1	265	May 29, 2006 by tea2
	I am new. Advice needed. (Preview) My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...	momofthree	10	387	May 29, 2006 by nycbt
	Snooping and Venting (Preview) My AH and I are separating in 2 days as he has requested. I have been suspicious that it was more than my coming down on the drinking that spurred this on. I believe it is a combination of factors. I figured that he was either having an affair or wanting to have an affair with someone. I confronted him and of c...	sunny123	6	533	May 29, 2006 by aunitedway
	Separated (Preview) My husband (A) and I separated 3 months ago. It was a spur of the moment thing . . . another fight . . . well, more like a non-fight (I get upset and he hides in a shell) . . . but it ended with him saying that maybe I should go to my mother's house for a while. So, I left and haven't been back.&n...	krise	6	315	May 29, 2006 by Jennfer32
	i don't want to (Preview) today was my father's memorial service. it was perfect. we had a reception afterwards at his favorite resturant. he was a very popular loved man. the entire community cam to show their love. my kids were terrific. i had all of my friends there. i am such a lucky woman. to have had my father in my life and be...	serendipity	3	285	May 29, 2006 by Maria123
	Came across awesome site while surfing.. (Preview) If anyone's interested the site is at: www.rockisland.com/~castalia/friends.html I found this on the site..lots and lots of good stuff there, many links at bottom of page.. [url=http://www.rockisland.com/~cas...	Christy	4	392	May 28, 2006 by marmare
	I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 (Preview) I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 Dear Friends Yesterday, the A in my life told me that while on this break he realized that; he doesn’t have that kick in stomach feeling for me and he never has, also the lack of attention both emotional and physical that I been feeling fro...	angelnomore	5	310	May 28, 2006 by nmike
	New Server (Preview) (((everyone)))	MrBlue42	3	302	May 28, 2006 by kismetstrand
	self confidence (Preview) I have been having a bad problem with my self confidence... well that has been going on all my life but I am realizing it more now. I am feeling very confused as to why someone would want to be my friend, why someone would be willing to spend their time sponsoring me. I don't feel I deserve it. There is a p...	sandie123	2	289	May 28, 2006 by canadianguy
	gut instinct (Preview) Today has been a long one. My husband was late it has been raining all day very unusual for here and my gut instinct told me he was drinking. He did not answer my phone calls and my instinct was spot on. He rocks up with his friend and pretends he has not been drinking which always makes m...	leo	9	625	May 28, 2006 by canadianguy
	Attention AOL Users (Preview) If you are using AOL as your internet provider, please read the post at the top of our message board and it will tell you what you need to do in order to be seen by other room members when you enter our chatroom. Your chatroom nickname needs to be registered with StarChat.net in order for AOL users to have...	John	0	282	May 28, 2006 by John
	hello im jonnie (Preview)	jonniejane1314	5	320	May 28, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Strange... (Preview) It is strange how making changes in ourselves and how we approach our A and our own shortcomings creates changes in our family, life, acquaintances, relationships. My A is still not living at home. I am just amazed at how much peace I am feeling with all of this. I find myself lookin...	Jennfer32	2	238	May 28, 2006 by sandie123
	typical (Preview) Mil went to the "dark" side. lol I don't care one bit. She called and told friend that she does not want her or me doing anything now.Meth daughter came to her on her knees and begged her to give her another chance. Co that she is... uno the rest. Whatever. What do light and darkness have in common anywa...	debilyn	0	217	May 28, 2006 by debilyn
	God, I can't believe this is my Life (Preview) Have you ever looked in the mirror and said: "God, I can't believe this is my Life" Prior to recovery everyday in my life, I remember looking in my mirror, trying to get ready for work, dark circles from no sleep, a night of worry, financial woes, fretting about my daughters, wond...	Rita G	6	342	May 27, 2006 by lonely girl
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