Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night!

He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow.

He's on solid foods, bland but solid. There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). :c...

alina · alina

Hello. I was told by my family group therapist to start a consequences contract with my husband if he used drugs or alcohol again. I'm not sure where to start? Any help? I know I need to make the rules reasonable. Thanks

brownie · brownie

Hi Everyone. Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...

cabma · cabma

This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...

John · John

Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...

bobump · bobump

I can't even get in via irc. Bob

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing.

I decided to give myself a break.

Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...

Gailey · Gailey

If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.

peewee · peewee

Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration. Oh pleez, can it be this difficult? thx Perfectly confused, MsPeewee

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...

LISA LOU · LISA LOU

I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you, Debbie

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((Hi everyone))), Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you

Tammy · Tammy

Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...

tea2 · tea2

(((((all))))) For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance. I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next. I know many have it worse then me. I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...

lilms · lilms

This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google. I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...

Miranda · Miranda

Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...

peewee · peewee

Sorry, but I'm going nuts trying to get into business meeting. I reloaded J2DR ....update 7 Cannot get in. hmmm help help peewee

katrina2000 · katrina2000

My son's father called this morning. He worked nights last night, so I'll make the assumption that he's sober. I could tell he needed a drink. He yelled at me because I didn't kiss his bum. So tired of dealing with him. He ruined my memorial day by returni...

lilms · lilms

The only links I can access from this page are the step work link and the site tdchnical problems link. I cannot get into chat through any other method either including google. This page is the only MIP link in my favorites that is also working. Will try when I get into work this eveni...

aunitedway · aunitedway

John!!!!!! ((I'm TELLING!!)) ~~~ n0n0., ((haha)) Im reallly asking you to help us understand..... what is going on.... today Wednesday Afternoon 060706. We are... arnt we., ... ...

txmom · txmom

Is anyone having trouble getting in this morning or is it just me/my computer?

bob6502 · bob6502

General Business Group Conscience Meeting June 7, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items Old Business 1)Approval of Minutes from May 3, 2006 meeting 2) Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3) Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff/SenoraBob New Business...

Lindy · Lindy

Here we go again with my AH. He has been off of work the last 2 weeks (in between jobs) and I get to come home to his slurring, stumbling, and sulking. The last two days I was on the road for my job for nine hours (3 on Monday and the rest yesterday). Anyway, I've been noticing he's been steadily getting more dr...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am trying to work on channeling my energy rather than having all my energy go into dysfunction. Last night the A's mother dropped by just at dinner time. He of course ran off with her for an hour or so. Normally I would be obsessed with rage, resentment and disorder. I am workin...

bobbi665 · bobbi665

I am new to this board. I have looked everywhere for a family support group for drug addicts but no luck. I am the mother of a 22 year old meth addict. I am divorced and have been raising my daughter's child since her birth. I have lost almost everything due to my daughter...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this was a response to some more literature that i like to read.... "I rarely cried while I was growing up in myalcoholic family. I was sure it was a sign ofweakness. However, my emotions came as apackage. When I turned off one feeling, I shut offall the others. My grief was, and sometimes still is,unb...

moms3 · moms3

As my "a " was on his last crack binge, I started to write this down, it turned out to be a poem/letter to him. I would like to share with all of you, this is what my first share ever was about in a meeting, this morning. Each and everyday, it gets easier, to go away........ To never look back, ...

Dog · Dog

I have been hanging around this board for about a week and will attend my second f2f tomorrow. It has helped me tremendously to progress and I am incredibly grateful to everyone who has shared their stories because they have had a profoundly sobering effect on me. Consequently my relationship with my...

artemis · artemis

i just found out my son is using narcotics again . He's been in rehab and I thought he was clean for the past two years. He has been using all along. I'm depressed, freaked out and scared for him. It explains why he has been having trouble keeping jobs and basically taking good care of himself. He has an apar...

LALA1 · LALA1

I wanted to know if anyone could help me on the topic of a sponsor. I am still fairly new to alanon and I am really trying to learn as much as I can. I have been reading constantly and I am finally ready to try to change for me and me only, I can say the past few days I have felt more at peace tha...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

sorry i goofed and submitted it twice -- Edited by rosie light shines at 12:15, 2006-06-07

QOD · QOD

I am so stressed, tired, confused. I am working so hard to keep my life from falling completely apart but I feel as if the walls are starting to crumble in around me. My AH still is not working. It has been almost 4 weeks since he has been home from his last week long binge. He hasn't ha...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Can anyone explain this acronym? I am new to this message board and sometimes see things such as F2F that I don't know.

mf310 · mf310

She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request. While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door. Very out of character for her not to say goodnight. 15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin. I men...

brownie · brownie

My partner stopped drinking about 1 month ago. He has been on a home detox programme. I don't know what is happening to him at the moment. It's like living with 2 different people. One minute he's ok the next he's a mad man. Never seen him like this before. It is breaking my heart. He was fine yesterday when...

serendipity · serendipity

i was at my f2f tonight and a friend brought up a topic of powerlessness. her son worrying about his father (her ex). and another friend said how nice that she has raised a son who can care deeply and express his feelings. i just love when people can turn our sorrows into joys. it is all in the perspective. a...

peewee · peewee

Got out 4 books to bring self down from anger level, and here's what showed up: "I don't have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone." "Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitle...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 19. I'm still unsure where I feel most comfortable.....on this board or the Alateen board. I also have been thinking of actually going to a f2f Al-Anon meeting but I'm unsure. Anyways.... How old are some of you? Lanchas

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

last night i cried AGAIN!!! i am lying in bed last night, getting ready for sleep, and it hit me!! here i am goin on 60 this month and i **feel** like i MISSED out on life.....the abuse-- the resultant addictions/ codependency disease, u know, the aftershocks of the trauma, and NOW, i get my...

mf310 · mf310

So what if I just want her to go away? And thus begins my rambling for the day. Should I ignore the drinking? Yep. Do I? Nope. Why? Here's the issue I have with letting her "get away" with the drinking. Like many stories I've seen here, she denies drinking eve...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Everyone I haven't posted in a while, I guess I've been withdrawn in my own little world. Basically I've been plodding along from day to day but not really feeling much peace. I threw my back out and its been pretty bad for the last week. Being in pain really drains me and depr...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Well, at least there is a plan to relocate. I thought it might be in a few weeks. I called to get sq.footage of apt and found out only mailing app today and may be 2-3 wks to process and maybe some weeks after to move in. The isolation gets soooo hard to deal with. I used to be able to have a bus just down the stree...

megan · megan

Hi my friends old and new. I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full. I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life. One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken. The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profess...

emma · emma

I have been praying to HP all day ... since yesterday. Let go, let God. Detach. Believe it will be OK, HP, please help me do the next right thing... these are all my mantras today. My most difficult challenge with this program is not just feeling like someone is ...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Hello Everyone)))) Been out of town for our aniversery and it started off miserably. All last week, my AW said she didn't want to go, didn't like the place I picked, wanted me to take the kids and she would stay home.... on and on. The disease at it's best. Well, we settled on the kid...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, I am 50. My qualifier is my spouse. Welcome any time to this board. My experience with alanon, mixed ages, same feelings even though different situations, environments. One alanon shoe size does not fit all, so that is why you have a choice. ...

brownie · brownie

Hi Everyone. I'm new to this site. Like everyone else I need a little help. My partner of 8 years Paul is an Alcoholic. He has been on a detox programme. He detoxed at home for 2 weeks with the help of tablets and the doctors. The last few days I think he has been having Vodka. He has been acting drunk. Whe...

zoolander101 · zoolander101

I'm new here, please bare with me When my stepson got out of rehab (drugs and alcohol) we were told that we needed to go home and clean out the closets so-to-speak. My husband and I didn't have anything to throw-away as we are not drinkers/druggers so there was no problem there. We did however, lock up S...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i just wanted to thank U guys for taking time to "hug" me in my world of hurt here i am working the steps on having to accept that all i may get out of this program is to love/treat me and others better... there may NOT be any lights at the end of the tunnel...there may NOT be any be...

angel123 · angel123

I never fgure out whether a happy incident is a lovely ending or a beautiful beginning. Feeling are not right or wrong they just are. It's easier to ask "How Important Is it?" than carry resentment. Serenity is choosing to live with things as they happen,not choosing them to happen as you wish...

kitty · kitty

It has been hard to deal with, it comes in waves. Being bombarded lately, even though I have come out of the dumps a bit, it still does such a number in your head, on your self-esteem/psyche... it is SO hard to remember hurt people... hurt people & not to take it personally but I have so mu...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Thanks, everyone, for listening (reading) and responding. I appreciate all comments. I am a fairly new Al-Anon member. I attend meetings locally. This is my first online posting. I am living apart from my A boyfriend. We lived together for several years, b...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Quick question for those that have sponsored. . . My one year anniversary in the program is in November. I have worked the steps, go to 5 meetings a week and currently sponsor 3 newcomers. My sponsor says that I am living and breathing the program, tha...

Rita G · Rita G

My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy??? Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had e...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Sheesh, some of you may remember that song from the late 60's. "They are coming to take me away ha ha........." I feel like that lately. I have my HP working overtime restoring me to sanity. My A is driving me nuts. I don't think she has drank in the last few days. But I suppose she thi...

marmare · marmare

How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...

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	Hubby Update (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night! He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow. He's on solid foods, bland but solid. There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). :c...	Karilynn	14	411	Jun 8, 2006 by leo
	HOW TO WRITE FAMILY CONTRACT (Preview) Hello. I was told by my family group therapist to start a consequences contract with my husband if he used drugs or alcohol again. I'm not sure where to start? Any help? I know I need to make the rules reasonable. Thanks	alina	6	1912	Jun 8, 2006 by debilyn
	Withdrawal Symptoms (Preview) Hi Everyone. Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...	brownie	4	305	Jun 8, 2006 by hightide
	divorce is on again and it's my fault (Preview) This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...	cabma	9	430	Jun 8, 2006 by hightide
	Chatroom Entrance(s) (Please Read) (Preview) Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...	John	2	396	Jun 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	chat down? (Preview) I can't even get in via irc. Bob	bobump	3	331	Jun 8, 2006 by peewee
	a MONTH and NO A/Well deserved vacation!/Pen Pal Club INFO! (Preview) Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing. I decided to give myself a break. Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...	jennneeefffurrr	6	324	Jun 8, 2006 by rosie light shines
	open AA meetings (Preview) If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.	Gailey	6	335	Jun 8, 2006 by bobump
	photo posting whew! (Preview) Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration. Oh pleez, can it be this difficult? thx Perfectly confused, MsPeewee	peewee	6	383	Jun 8, 2006 by shadow1
	sorry if i seemed judgemental or insensitive (Preview) i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...	rosie light shines	2	426	Jun 8, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Update - and Thankfulness (Preview) Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...	DoN4me	2	325	Jun 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Sometimes I feel lost (Preview) I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...	LISA LOU	8	418	Jun 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Trouble getting in chatroom (Preview) Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you, Debbie	horselover58	2	275	Jun 8, 2006 by Lexie
	Hi (Preview) (((Hi everyone))), Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...	Jeannie	3	238	Jun 8, 2006 by tea2
	hello (Preview) just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you	notsonew1111	4	324	Jun 8, 2006 by nmike
	Why does the plan B have to hurt so much ?? (Preview) Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...	Tammy	7	413	Jun 8, 2006 by nmike
	a request (Preview) (((((all))))) For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance. I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next. I know many have it worse then me. I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...	tea2	17	454	Jun 8, 2006 by sandie123
	I so DONT care anymore (Preview) This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google. I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...	lilms	3	351	Jun 8, 2006 by tea2
	Butterfly Kisses (Preview) Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...	Miranda	3	292	Jun 8, 2006 by sandie123
	GOING CRAZY WITH JAVA (Preview) Sorry, but I'm going nuts trying to get into business meeting. I reloaded J2DR ....update 7 Cannot get in. hmmm help help peewee	peewee	1	311	Jun 7, 2006 by lilms
	afraid and tired (Preview) My son's father called this morning. He worked nights last night, so I'll make the assumption that he's sober. I could tell he needed a drink. He yelled at me because I didn't kiss his bum. So tired of dealing with him. He ruined my memorial day by returni...	katrina2000	10	334	Jun 7, 2006 by artemis
	CHAT ROOM (Preview) The only links I can access from this page are the step work link and the site tdchnical problems link. I cannot get into chat through any other method either including google. This page is the only MIP link in my favorites that is also working. Will try when I get into work this eveni...	lilms	2	275	Jun 7, 2006 by peewee
	JOHN!!!! ARE WE UNDER CONSTRUCTION !?!?! (Preview) John!!!!!! ((I'm TELLING!!)) ~~~ n0n0., ((haha)) Im reallly asking you to help us understand..... what is going on.... today Wednesday Afternoon 060706. *We are... arnt we., ... ...*	aunitedway	1	321	Jun 7, 2006 by peewee
	Chat Room (Preview) Is anyone having trouble getting in this morning or is it just me/my computer?	txmom	4	301	Jun 7, 2006 by tea2
	General Business Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) General Business Group Conscience Meeting June 7, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items Old Business 1)Approval of Minutes from May 3, 2006 meeting 2) Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3) Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff/SenoraBob New Business...	bob6502	2	232	Jun 7, 2006 by tea2
	Slurring, stumbling, and sulking, oh my! (Preview) Here we go again with my AH. He has been off of work the last 2 weeks (in between jobs) and I get to come home to his slurring, stumbling, and sulking. The last two days I was on the road for my job for nine hours (3 on Monday and the rest yesterday). Anyway, I've been noticing he's been steadily getting more dr...	Lindy	4	471	Jun 7, 2006 by Rita G
	reactivity (Preview) I am trying to work on channeling my energy rather than having all my energy go into dysfunction. Last night the A's mother dropped by just at dinner time. He of course ran off with her for an hour or so. Normally I would be obsessed with rage, resentment and disorder. I am workin...	maresie2	2	250	Jun 7, 2006 by kathy570
	HELP!!!! (Preview) I am new to this board. I have looked everywhere for a family support group for drug addicts but no luck. I am the mother of a 22 year old meth addict. I am divorced and have been raising my daughter's child since her birth. I have lost almost everything due to my daughter...	bobbi665	4	334	Jun 7, 2006 by kathy570
	WOW!! me after 28 months (Preview) this was a response to some more literature that i like to read.... "I rarely cried while I was growing up in myalcoholic family. I was sure it was a sign ofweakness. However, my emotions came as apackage. When I turned off one feeling, I shut offall the others. My grief was, and sometimes still is,unb...	rosie light shines	2	248	Jun 7, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Detachment with love (Preview) As my "a " was on his last crack binge, I started to write this down, it turned out to be a poem/letter to him. I would like to share with all of you, this is what my first share ever was about in a meeting, this morning. Each and everyday, it gets easier, to go away........ To never look back, ...	moms3	3	332	Jun 7, 2006 by kathy570
	Thanks and an update (Preview) I have been hanging around this board for about a week and will attend my second f2f tomorrow. It has helped me tremendously to progress and I am incredibly grateful to everyone who has shared their stories because they have had a profoundly sobering effect on me. Consequently my relationship with my...	Dog	3	229	Jun 7, 2006 by Dog
	help and support dealling with 20 year old narcotics addict. (Preview) i just found out my son is using narcotics again . He's been in rehab and I thought he was clean for the past two years. He has been using all along. I'm depressed, freaked out and scared for him. It explains why he has been having trouble keeping jobs and basically taking good care of himself. He has an apar...	artemis	6	389	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Needing some advice (Preview) I wanted to know if anyone could help me on the topic of a sponsor. I am still fairly new to alanon and I am really trying to learn as much as I can. I have been reading constantly and I am finally ready to try to change for me and me only, I can say the past few days I have felt more at peace tha...	LALA1	3	429	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	sorry i goofed up, and sent my post 2 x (Preview) sorry i goofed and submitted it twice -- Edited by rosie light shines at 12:15, 2006-06-07	rosie light shines	0	197	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Burning my candle at both ends (Preview) I am so stressed, tired, confused. I am working so hard to keep my life from falling completely apart but I feel as if the walls are starting to crumble in around me. My AH still is not working. It has been almost 4 weeks since he has been home from his last week long binge. He hasn't ha...	QOD	6	342	Jun 7, 2006 by QOD
	What is F2F? (Preview) Can anyone explain this acronym? I am new to this message board and sometimes see things such as F2F that I don't know.	jacksmom	5	309	Jun 7, 2006 by nycbt
	A first step (Preview) She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request. While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door. Very out of character for her not to say goodnight. 15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin. I men...	mf310	2	309	Jun 7, 2006 by nycbt
	Help needed (Preview) My partner stopped drinking about 1 month ago. He has been on a home detox programme. I don't know what is happening to him at the moment. It's like living with 2 different people. One minute he's ok the next he's a mad man. Never seen him like this before. It is breaking my heart. He was fine yesterday when...	brownie	3	232	Jun 7, 2006 by brownie
	perspective (Preview) i was at my f2f tonight and a friend brought up a topic of powerlessness. her son worrying about his father (her ex). and another friend said how nice that she has raised a son who can care deeply and express his feelings. i just love when people can turn our sorrows into joys. it is all in the perspective. a...	serendipity	0	211	Jun 6, 2006 by serendipity
	Lambasted by control freak (Preview) Got out 4 books to bring self down from anger level, and here's what showed up: "I don't have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone." "Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitle...	peewee	12	442	Jun 6, 2006 by peewee
	age (Preview) I'm 19. I'm still unsure where I feel most comfortable.....on this board or the Alateen board. I also have been thinking of actually going to a f2f Al-Anon meeting but I'm unsure. Anyways.... How old are some of you? Lanchas	Lanchas	3	271	Jun 6, 2006 by lmt123
	geeeez i feel like doggie doo doo (Preview) last night i cried AGAIN!!! i am lying in bed last night, getting ready for sleep, and it hit me!! here i am goin on 60 this month and i feel like i MISSED out on life.....the abuse-- the resultant addictions/ codependency disease, u know, the aftershocks of the trauma, and NOW, i get my...	rosie light shines	11	387	Jun 6, 2006 by justme
	Please just leave! (Preview) So what if I just want her to go away? And thus begins my rambling for the day. Should I ignore the drinking? Yep. Do I? Nope. Why? Here's the issue I have with letting her "get away" with the drinking. Like many stories I've seen here, she denies drinking eve...	mf310	11	667	Jun 6, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Cheating Myself (Preview) Hello Everyone I haven't posted in a while, I guess I've been withdrawn in my own little world. Basically I've been plodding along from day to day but not really feeling much peace. I threw my back out and its been pretty bad for the last week. Being in pain really drains me and depr...	twinmom2	4	312	Jun 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Packing, waiting, feel so left out (Preview) Well, at least there is a plan to relocate. I thought it might be in a few weeks. I called to get sq.footage of apt and found out only mailing app today and may be 2-3 wks to process and maybe some weeks after to move in. The isolation gets soooo hard to deal with. I used to be able to have a bus just down the stree...	d53sjurne	6	357	Jun 6, 2006 by nmike
	Dateing in my 40's (Preview) Hi my friends old and new. I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full. I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life. One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken. The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profess...	megan	10	455	Jun 6, 2006 by nmike
	ESH please (Preview) I have been praying to HP all day ... since yesterday. Let go, let God. Detach. Believe it will be OK, HP, please help me do the next right thing... these are all my mantras today. My most difficult challenge with this program is not just feeling like someone is ...	emma	1	223	Jun 6, 2006 by rtexas
	Life is stranger than fiction (Preview) ((((Hello Everyone)))) Been out of town for our aniversery and it started off miserably. All last week, my AW said she didn't want to go, didn't like the place I picked, wanted me to take the kids and she would stay home.... on and on. The disease at it's best. Well, we settled on the kid...	rtexas	6	433	Jun 6, 2006 by QOD
	Age differs, but many feelings the same (Preview) Hi, I am 50. My qualifier is my spouse. Welcome any time to this board. My experience with alanon, mixed ages, same feelings even though different situations, environments. One alanon shoe size does not fit all, so that is why you have a choice. ...	wallsal55	0	233	Jun 6, 2006 by wallsal55
	Alcoholic (Preview) Hi Everyone. I'm new to this site. Like everyone else I need a little help. My partner of 8 years Paul is an Alcoholic. He has been on a detox programme. He detoxed at home for 2 weeks with the help of tablets and the doctors. The last few days I think he has been having Vodka. He has been acting drunk. Whe...	brownie	7	368	Jun 6, 2006 by nycbt
	Leading by example? (Preview) I'm new here, please bare with me When my stepson got out of rehab (drugs and alcohol) we were told that we needed to go home and clean out the closets so-to-speak. My husband and I didn't have anything to throw-away as we are not drinkers/druggers so there was no problem there. We did however, lock up S...	zoolander101	3	276	Jun 6, 2006 by nycbt
	thanks to all the ANGELS who comforted me (Preview) i just wanted to thank U guys for taking time to "hug" me in my world of hurt here i am working the steps on having to accept that all i may get out of this program is to love/treat me and others better... there may NOT be any lights at the end of the tunnel...there may NOT be any be...	rosie light shines	1	241	Jun 6, 2006 by Christy
	Reflections (Preview) I never fgure out whether a happy incident is a lovely ending or a beautiful beginning. Feeling are not right or wrong they just are. It's easier to ask "How Important Is it?" than carry resentment. Serenity is choosing to live with things as they happen,not choosing them to happen as you wish...	angel123	0	183	Jun 6, 2006 by angel123
	verbal & psychological abuse (Preview) It has been hard to deal with, it comes in waves. Being bombarded lately, even though I have come out of the dumps a bit, it still does such a number in your head, on your self-esteem/psyche... it is SO hard to remember hurt people... hurt people & not to take it personally but I have so mu...	kitty	7	478	Jun 6, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Is lying part of the disease? (Preview) Thanks, everyone, for listening (reading) and responding. I appreciate all comments. I am a fairly new Al-Anon member. I attend meetings locally. This is my first online posting. I am living apart from my A boyfriend. We lived together for several years, b...	jacksmom	10	400	Jun 6, 2006 by jacksmom
	sponsorship (Preview) Quick question for those that have sponsored. . . My one year anniversary in the program is in November. I have worked the steps, go to 5 meetings a week and currently sponsor 3 newcomers. My sponsor says that I am living and breathing the program, tha...	tommyecat	3	349	Jun 6, 2006 by Rita G
	What do you think (Preview) My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy??? Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had e...	Rita G	4	318	Jun 6, 2006 by Rita G
	They are coming to take me away............ (Preview) Sheesh, some of you may remember that song from the late 60's. "They are coming to take me away ha ha........." I feel like that lately. I have my HP working overtime restoring me to sanity. My A is driving me nuts. I don't think she has drank in the last few days. But I suppose she thi...	hmrnrnmm	1	387	Jun 6, 2006 by isabela40
	Is it time? (Preview) How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that...	marmare	4	311	Jun 6, 2006 by tea2
	Pain (Preview) I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...	tommyecat	1	253	Jun 5, 2006 by doxie
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