Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Gailey · Gailey

I have not tried to get into the chat room for a long time. Today I decided to stop in on the 9:00 a.m. meeting. Cannot get in. This is what it says at the bottom of the white box: Connecting... Unable to conncet: java.net ConnectException: Connection refused: connect Please help!!!!

Newbie · Newbie

Just a quick question on how to overcome the characteristics we developed in your experiences with As. Does it help to address the issues with a recovering A. Is that where the issues reside or does just working the program do it? Just curious.

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am sure there are some of you who have left your A and have children in common. How do you deal with them seeing the children but not getting sucked into getting back together? How do you deal with seeing them even if you don't want to?

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I promise this is my last one tonight but I wanted to take a minute to talk about something the last post brought up. My daugher (his step) and my AH have not gotten along for many years. He constantly finds fault with everything she does. Sometimes I even think he lies about things to put her in a bad light....

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone, I have to vent, as many of you may remember, my ex bf A/CH and I split after he went to rehab, at the recommendation of his sponsor. No relationship in the first year, etc etc. I really understood and thought it best for me too. I held out some hope that we may reconcile an...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Just when I start to feel really good about my decision to divorce my A/cocaine addicted husband, so that I can get on with my life and have a happy future...... he calls me and begs me to come back. He says he promises that he won't use and will quit drinking if only I will come back to him. He says h...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) Just thought I would see if others have the problem with their As pretty much talking all about themselves, their goals, them, them, them!!! I was wondering that lastnight as AH came home, buzzed, began to tell me the same story for the second time, bragging about who he ran...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Family))) I have seen some big struggles on the board this week and also have been reading about alot of growth happening in so many people. I gain so much wisdom and insight from reading the post and people's honest open shares. My program is coming along very well and I'm n...

lilms · lilms

A quick note to let ya all know I won't be on for a few days. I am heading off to Toronto tomorrow to visit friends, laze around, eat good food and shop. I am just taking me, am only leaving an emergency number with my wife. Everyone else will have to go thru her and she will not...

nycbt · nycbt

I have been in Alanon for going 2yrs in Nov both on the site here and face to face meeting. Lately I have had a hard time getting my self to meeting. I have stayed in touch with my sponsor that was very important. She has helped me the whole time. She tells me that this is normal to want to space myself from the p...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) So I open my ODAT and read todays selection, which essentially says it is wrong to treat the A with disrespect when they are acting out in thier disease. I have recently been very close to that and it struck a bit close to home for me. My AW has a number of complaints about ou...

debilyn · debilyn

I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been. She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff. Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protect...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, the AH called again from AZ. I have been writing down all the numerous reasons that I don't want to go there again in the journal AND there are MANY! Whenever he calls he is crying and always asks the same questions. Can we be together again when I get back? Is there someone else? As if I can't just be ha...

LadyLibra · LadyLibra

Hello everyone. Can someone help with understanding what type of personalities become addicted. My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, I have a sister addicted to the same, and 2 brothers who are addicted to crack. Looking on the surface they all seem to have different personali...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

Here I am trying to face life straight ahead. Be the Captain of my Ship...all that stuff. But honestly....all I feel is...as soon as "everyone" discovers how much of a failure I really am on the inside I will be alone. I'm trying so hard to forget how disappointed I made my ex (who is also o...

Tammy · Tammy

Well, a lot has happened in the last 48 hours and i am falling to pieces. Monday I confronted my husband ( my A) about a girl he met in a bar about a month ago.. He said that he had been talking to someone but they were just friends. They hadnt seen each other since the night they met although they had talked....

John · John

Hi everyone, I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday. Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...

daisy2 · daisy2

You're An EXTREME Redneck When..... > > 1. You let your 14-year-old daughter smoke at the > dinner table in front of her kids. > > 2. The Blue Book value of your truck goes up and > down depending on how much gas is in it. > > 3. You've been married three times and still hav...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! My brothers abuse case against my mother was dismissed just FOURTEEN DAYS ago. Last wk my mother called to say brother moved back in w/her! Today she called to say she's moving into an apartment and brother is staying in the condo! Holy crap! And she says I never go see her, etc etc. Well I am the o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud of myself too, when we were talking about him coming back here I told him I was sure he could get his old job back and he asked me to call him (repeatedly) to test the water. I did this for him before he left to see what kind of reference he would give him (should have been bad personally but excel...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

On the 8th I got a text from my A bf saying that he was crashing at someone's house because his driver was drinking (he's 2 months sober and has no license). I was upset and let him know it. He and I had a long talk the next day about how he has gotten over some of his behaviors but I wasn't getting o...

daisy2 · daisy2

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong w...

david62 · david62

Well here it is! My 500th post to this board! Who’d a thunk it? Now hang on…cuz it is a long one!!! I thought I would do a little thinking back about my life since I first came into Al-anon on April 17, 2004. For some of you who have been here the whole time, you know most of this story. For those of you w...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today is a very sad day for my family and me. It is the one-year anniversary of my young brother in law’s death. He was a 28-year-old motorcycle instructor that had a passion for motorcycles. When I met him, he was only 7 year old and I watched him grow up to be an outstanding young man that loved life...

AH27 · AH27

Sorry- this is very, very long Hello everyone! I think this is where I need to be. I attended a few alanon meetings over a year ago, but I have since moved to an area where we don't have a chapter. Anyway, I think I just need to share my experience so that I can help clarify it for myself.&nb...

twinkie · twinkie

hi - i've really enjoyed reading your posts...they have given me a lot to think about and much learning. I'm new to this, just a month of so. Have been involved with A for 7 months - it was a whirlwind relationship and I was swept off my feet. Even moved three hours away to be with him.&n...

mommaof2 · mommaof2

I'm very new to this to please forgive me if I did this wrong or messed up in anyway shape or form. I had quite a night with my Alcoholic husband. See, he went out with his sister (also alcoholic). I knew full well what was going to happen, but I didn't try to control him. As well as my feelings. ...

RedHead · RedHead

I have so many questions while I'm trying to work the al-anon program. I know that we are not suppose to pay their bills but what if it's a bill that they are responsible for like the utilities...the A doesn't pay them and the utility gets shut off. This happens ALOT. I have two kids at home. I HAVE to get the...

desparate · desparate

Hi all~ This is my first time using anything like this, so I hope I'm figuring it out right. I decided to write because I need objective folks to talk with about my partner's drinking. See, my Dad drinks (5 scotches/night) he started in his 30's (I thought if you were an alcoholic it w...

Shocked · Shocked

I posted on another forum for Adult children but they said to come to this one. My grown son who has been fighting addiction for 20 years, he is 30 years old, was on his way yesterday to go to a faith based rehab. He had a 5 hour layover in Memphis,Tn and imagine this, he got lost, no one can find him, or anythin...

RedHead · RedHead

I am new to Al-anon and this board. After 13 years of living with an alcoholic, I hit MY rock bottom. I was lonely and my life felt so out of control. I used to pray to God..actually BEGGED God to cure my husband and would get angry when my prayers weren't answered. He did finally answer...

Gailey · Gailey

I SURE HOPE SO!!!! Last night I attended a new f2f. It was great. There were about 16 people in the meeting. It was a "speaker" meeting and the speaker was a woman with a 40 year old A son. She has been in Alanon for 23 years...since her son was 17 years old. Isn't that amazing??? She proceeded to spe...

nmike · nmike

I took Christy's challenge of having a great day. Focus on myself. Be all I can be. I did my long run around the lake in the morn. The geese and ducks are definitely on the move south. I went to my office to catch up and be ready for Monday. I spent 7 hours there. I pushed myself to attack those tasks that I avoid...

Gailey · Gailey

LOL...LOL...LOL!!! I cannot believe you found a weeble. It is soooo cute!!!!

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) I was sharing with my sponsor some of my crazyness from the weekend and I had a memory pop up and suprise me. Weebles... for those of you who don't remember, were little egg shaped people that had weights in the bottom. The kind of toy a little tyke would play with the right wa...

hersh · hersh

((((Hi everyone)))) Hope you all had some serenity over the weekend. Well after getting away to my motel last weekend after finding out the "affair" was real - I finally confronted AH about it and told him I knew it really happened now. I told him I needed some more time to digest, he sa...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am trying so hard not to get angry. I have to work tonite from 9pm to noon tuesday. The old man was suspicious last nite. If I was in another room , he would come look for me. He said where was the boss lady, She must have a boyfreind is why she is not working weekends. Sheesh she is there Fridays & Sunda...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi everyone, My AH is on his way back to the east coast from AZ and begging to stay (I just moved out of our house 3 weeks ago). I have been dreading the actual face to face confrontation which I know is coming. I find it a lot easier to be stong over the phone and in writing but face to face is har...

AlaMom · AlaMom

It seems like forever since I have been to this board. Home puter is on the fritz and work has been busy. I find myself pushing aside work to get this out of my head because it is starting to consume me. My sister and I had plans to attend a concert of my 2 favorite bands tomorrow night....

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am really sad today. Except for a couple of short conversations about bills, I haven't talked to my AH in 5 weeks. I have been doing really well this time, but of course this is only after being kicked out of the house for the zillionth time. I have been reading my alanon literature,...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello (((family))) I watched a movie today about a woman who awoke from a 20 year coma.Ironically,I could relate.I am very much feeling as if I have been asleep for over 30 years.Has anyone else felt that way? I didn't know I had the right to stand up for myself and go after what I want or what is best fo...

peewee · peewee

Hi all, I wanted to let you know that Joni21 asked me by way of a letter to say hi and love and misses you all. Peewee

irish54 · irish54

I have been coming to this board for almost a year now. sometimes I sign in and sometimes I don't. But, I ALWAYS read your posts. I come when I am down and out and your posts lift me up. It just doesn't get any better than a family like this!!!

Thank you all...

Diva · Diva

Not long ago, after a two-day binge and the process of sobering was completed, A and I had a little talk. Well, perhaps I should say I had a talk. He never has much to say except the occasional, "Maybe I just ought to leave." After I had my talk with myself, he answered, "Well, I have always done everything y...

serendipity · serendipity

wednesday night my ex ah called and we talked and i stayed in my program. for the most part. but he was getting drunker as we spoke and i finally just told him that he is not a victim. that he has choices. that this is his life and he is a grown up and can do what he wants. the only true vicitms in this are the child...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Well after what I considered a big step of leting go on Friday, I tripped a bit on detachment and plan b today. I wanted to go see my brother today in another city, (I think I really wanted to run away LOL ), but I asked my AW if she wanted to go. My brother is in the military and wil...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Good morning!

This time last year I did a post called "Blame it on Karilynn". Well I have decided that this is going to be an annual event. This may sound silly, but hang in there with me. Here's the deal: Ever...

irish54 · irish54

Hi everyone. Thought I would update y'all a little on the situation with my daughter and grandaughter who lost their father/husband this summer. Friday I received an email from my grandaughter who said she missed us very much and that her mom had a new "friend". she said she didn't lik...

Christy · Christy

((friends))) I see a lot of hurt and pain on the board lately so I had an idea. Take what you like and leave the rest. I have a challenge for everyone. Just for today... Be the person you want to be, no baggage, strong and solid. See and BE that person. Envision and act joyous and carefree. ...

ditto · ditto

I am completely confused. I don't think I will ever understand how an alcoholic thinks. My A husband and I were divorced this past June (3 months ago). It has actually been a very pleasant experience being rid of him. I no longer face worries about his health, what he will do w...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Why am I bothering? why am I trying to get Tina a ride home. She has been housesitting in Columbus since Wed. I got off work Wed at 6pm & took her up there around 8 to 9 pm. I then took our neighbor to the grocery store. I got home around 11pm. I had to get up around 4:30am Thursday & Friday to get to every...

TLC2 · TLC2

I was having a really crappy day two days ago, right from the early morning till evening. I came here, didn't even vent, just read your posts. Just seeing all the love and support in this room made me feel sooo much better!! Thanks family, Love Ya! TLC

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, it's so wonderful to come here and to meetings and to hear es&h. It's such a breath of fresh air to know I'm not the fault of the world like sometime the a and my family of origion makes me feel. My a's quiting tobacco products, or rather was, this whole weekend, I don't think i've s...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

YOu know, I was thinking he sure is a good excuse, I can't do or I haven't done (fill in the blank) because of him! When hes gone I feel like I can do anything I have no limits. I also have no one to blame or to expect to do things I know they will never do so I just do them myself and thin...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone and happy Friday!!!)))) It's been another tough week, but I finally had enough of the drama and went to a motel last night. You know, it was SO peaceful I cannot even believe it. I am tired of talking about the situation, just want to be alone and quiet. I told a great...

david62 · david62

Howdy (((((Everyone)))))) I just felt like posting something this morning about my experience last week. Been a busy week and I am just now sitting down and catching my breath for real! LOL. I was one of the luckies that got to meet a group of people from MIP in San Antonio last weekend. Six of us...

horselover58 · horselover58

I need some help. I cannot sign into the alanon chatroom. Says my host name is banned, that I am spam or abuser? Can't figure that one out. Any ideas?????? Email me,I will keep trying. Thanks, Deb

cytagirl · cytagirl

It's been a while since i last posted on here , though i regularly read the posts and thought i was learning how to cope with the situation i am in ... how wrong i was Living in Cyprus , i have no means of attending a meeting , the only one i found was 50 ks away from me , held on a mond...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hello everyone, i looked up the date of my first post on the message board and that was oct.1,2005 in the post i was looking for a sponsor and mentioned i was in the program for three weeks at that time. so i guess im happy to say its my one year anniversary since finding alanon!!!!! yay. im so thankful for ev...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has been laid off from work going on three weeks now. At first he was actually doing some work in the garage and keeping himself busy. I knew it wouldn't last. Now he's been drunk when I return home. It's taking every ounce of energy I have to keep going until I can get divorced and get him out of my life....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	getting into chat room problem (Preview) I have not tried to get into the chat room for a long time. Today I decided to stop in on the 9:00 a.m. meeting. Cannot get in. This is what it says at the bottom of the white box: Connecting... Unable to conncet: java.net ConnectException: Connection refused: connect Please help!!!!	Gailey	2	374	Sep 21, 2006 by tea2
	Overcoming the characteristics... (Preview) Just a quick question on how to overcome the characteristics we developed in your experiences with As. Does it help to address the issues with a recovering A. Is that where the issues reside or does just working the program do it? Just curious.	Newbie	7	1475	Sep 21, 2006 by lin0606
	Is anyone else in this position? (Preview) I am sure there are some of you who have left your A and have children in common. How do you deal with them seeing the children but not getting sucked into getting back together? How do you deal with seeing them even if you don't want to?	carolinagirl	7	652	Sep 21, 2006 by lin0606
	One last thing about children (Preview) I promise this is my last one tonight but I wanted to take a minute to talk about something the last post brought up. My daugher (his step) and my AH have not gotten along for many years. He constantly finds fault with everything she does. Sometimes I even think he lies about things to put her in a bad light....	carolinagirl	8	395	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Honesty about my obsession (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have to vent, as many of you may remember, my ex bf A/CH and I split after he went to rehab, at the recommendation of his sponsor. No relationship in the first year, etc etc. I really understood and thought it best for me too. I held out some hope that we may reconcile an...	beachbaby	3	516	Sep 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	begging and pleading for another chance... (Preview) Hello Just when I start to feel really good about my decision to divorce my A/cocaine addicted husband, so that I can get on with my life and have a happy future...... he calls me and begs me to come back. He says he promises that he won't use and will quit drinking if only I will come back to him. He says h...	artygirl	6	527	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Grandiose Ideas, Never Action (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) Just thought I would see if others have the problem with their As pretty much talking all about themselves, their goals, them, them, them!!! I was wondering that lastnight as AH came home, buzzed, began to tell me the same story for the second time, bragging about who he ran...	hersh	5	408	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	A quick update (Preview) (((Hello MIP Family))) I have seen some big struggles on the board this week and also have been reading about alot of growth happening in so many people. I gain so much wisdom and insight from reading the post and people's honest open shares. My program is coming along very well and I'm n...	twinmom2	5	393	Sep 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Taking care of me (Preview) A quick note to let ya all know I won't be on for a few days. I am heading off to Toronto tomorrow to visit friends, laze around, eat good food and shop. I am just taking me, am only leaving an emergency number with my wife. Everyone else will have to go thru her and she will not...	lilms	3	363	Sep 21, 2006 by TLC2
	alot of things (Preview) I have been in Alanon for going 2yrs in Nov both on the site here and face to face meeting. Lately I have had a hard time getting my self to meeting. I have stayed in touch with my sponsor that was very important. She has helped me the whole time. She tells me that this is normal to want to space myself from the p...	nycbt	5	388	Sep 21, 2006 by TLC2
	Treating them with respect when they are being unreasonable (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) So I open my ODAT and read todays selection, which essentially says it is wrong to treat the A with disrespect when they are acting out in thier disease. I have recently been very close to that and it struck a bit close to home for me. My AW has a number of complaints about ou...	rtexas	7	536	Sep 21, 2006 by Maksmommie
	A tenant (Preview) I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been. She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff. Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protect...	debilyn	7	430	Sep 20, 2006 by maresie2
	He called again need some input. (Preview) Well, the AH called again from AZ. I have been writing down all the numerous reasons that I don't want to go there again in the journal AND there are MANY! Whenever he calls he is crying and always asks the same questions. Can we be together again when I get back? Is there someone else? As if I can't just be ha...	carolinagirl	3	385	Sep 20, 2006 by carolinagirl
	What type of personalities (Preview) Hello everyone. Can someone help with understanding what type of personalities become addicted. My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, I have a sister addicted to the same, and 2 brothers who are addicted to crack. Looking on the surface they all seem to have different personali...	LadyLibra	9	495	Sep 20, 2006 by irish54
	no faith in myself (Preview) Here I am trying to face life straight ahead. Be the Captain of my Ship...all that stuff. But honestly....all I feel is...as soon as "everyone" discovers how much of a failure I really am on the inside I will be alone. I'm trying so hard to forget how disappointed I made my ex (who is also o...	katrina2000	6	417	Sep 20, 2006 by irish54
	Falling to pieces !! (Preview) Well, a lot has happened in the last 48 hours and i am falling to pieces. Monday I confronted my husband ( my A) about a girl he met in a bar about a month ago.. He said that he had been talking to someone but they were just friends. They hadnt seen each other since the night they met although they had talked....	Tammy	10	569	Sep 20, 2006 by Tammy
	Family Deaths (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday. Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...	John	29	880	Sep 20, 2006 by lildee
	Laugh your head off (Preview) You're An EXTREME Redneck When..... > > 1. You let your 14-year-old daughter smoke at the > dinner table in front of her kids. > > 2. The Blue Book value of your truck goes up and > down depending on how much gas is in it. > > 3. You've been married three times and still hav...	daisy2	2	387	Sep 20, 2006 by Gailey
	14 days since brothers case was dismissed and Mom's moving out of her condo, brother staying! (Preview) OMG! My brothers abuse case against my mother was dismissed just FOURTEEN DAYS ago. Last wk my mother called to say brother moved back in w/her! Today she called to say she's moving into an apartment and brother is staying in the condo! Holy crap! And she says I never go see her, etc etc. Well I am the o...	Barbara	5	386	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Proud of myself (Preview) I am very proud of myself too, when we were talking about him coming back here I told him I was sure he could get his old job back and he asked me to call him (repeatedly) to test the water. I did this for him before he left to see what kind of reference he would give him (should have been bad personally but excel...	carolinagirl	3	376	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Here We Go Again (Preview) On the 8th I got a text from my A bf saying that he was crashing at someone's house because his driver was drinking (he's 2 months sober and has no license). I was upset and let him know it. He and I had a long talk the next day about how he has gotten over some of his behaviors but I wasn't getting o...	SerenityGirl	5	409	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Another to put a smile on your face :-) (Preview) Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong w...	daisy2	1	342	Sep 20, 2006 by twinmom2
	The Big 5-0-0 (Preview) Well here it is! My 500th post to this board! Who’d a thunk it? Now hang on…cuz it is a long one!!! I thought I would do a little thinking back about my life since I first came into Al-anon on April 17, 2004. For some of you who have been here the whole time, you know most of this story. For those of you w...	david62	15	563	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	A sad day (Preview) Today is a very sad day for my family and me. It is the one-year anniversary of my young brother in law’s death. He was a 28-year-old motorcycle instructor that had a passion for motorcycles. When I met him, he was only 7 year old and I watched him grow up to be an outstanding young man that loved life...	shadow1	8	476	Sep 20, 2006 by leo
	alcholic husband while pregnant/ need feedback (Preview) Sorry- this is very, very long Hello everyone! I think this is where I need to be. I attended a few alanon meetings over a year ago, but I have since moved to an area where we don't have a chapter. Anyway, I think I just need to share my experience so that I can help clarify it for myself.&nb...	AH27	9	552	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	feeling sad...need some hope (Preview) hi - i've really enjoyed reading your posts...they have given me a lot to think about and much learning. I'm new to this, just a month of so. Have been involved with A for 7 months - it was a whirlwind relationship and I was swept off my feet. Even moved three hours away to be with him.&n...	twinkie	10	496	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	feeling used and abused, little confused (Preview) I'm very new to this to please forgive me if I did this wrong or messed up in anyway shape or form. I had quite a night with my Alcoholic husband. See, he went out with his sister (also alcoholic). I knew full well what was going to happen, but I didn't try to control him. As well as my feelings. ...	mommaof2	8	460	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	Paying their debt (Preview) I have so many questions while I'm trying to work the al-anon program. I know that we are not suppose to pay their bills but what if it's a bill that they are responsible for like the utilities...the A doesn't pay them and the utility gets shut off. This happens ALOT. I have two kids at home. I HAVE to get the...	RedHead	10	487	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	life love drinks (Preview) Hi all~ This is my first time using anything like this, so I hope I'm figuring it out right. I decided to write because I need objective folks to talk with about my partner's drinking. See, my Dad drinks (5 scotches/night) he started in his 30's (I thought if you were an alcoholic it w...	desparate	7	490	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	Need Advice Asap on This Post! (Preview) I posted on another forum for Adult children but they said to come to this one. My grown son who has been fighting addiction for 20 years, he is 30 years old, was on his way yesterday to go to a faith based rehab. He had a 5 hour layover in Memphis,Tn and imagine this, he got lost, no one can find him, or anythin...	Shocked	22	597	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	Newbie (Preview) I am new to Al-anon and this board. After 13 years of living with an alcoholic, I hit MY rock bottom. I was lonely and my life felt so out of control. I used to pray to God..actually BEGGED God to cure my husband and would get angry when my prayers weren't answered. He did finally answer...	RedHead	8	509	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	is detachment REALLY possible with a child? (Preview) I SURE HOPE SO!!!! Last night I attended a new f2f. It was great. There were about 16 people in the meeting. It was a "speaker" meeting and the speaker was a woman with a 40 year old A son. She has been in Alanon for 23 years...since her son was 17 years old. Isn't that amazing??? She proceeded to spe...	Gailey	5	503	Sep 20, 2006 by debilyn
	Christy's Challenge! (Preview) I took Christy's challenge of having a great day. Focus on myself. Be all I can be. I did my long run around the lake in the morn. The geese and ducks are definitely on the move south. I went to my office to catch up and be ready for Monday. I spent 7 hours there. I pushed myself to attack those tasks that I avoid...	nmike	9	508	Sep 19, 2006 by peewee
	rtexas (Preview) LOL...LOL...LOL!!! I cannot believe you found a weeble. It is soooo cute!!!!	Gailey	2	420	Sep 19, 2006 by rtexas
	Remember what a weeble is? (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I was sharing with my sponsor some of my crazyness from the weekend and I had a memory pop up and suprise me. Weebles... for those of you who don't remember, were little egg shaped people that had weights in the bottom. The kind of toy a little tyke would play with the right wa...	rtexas	9	434	Sep 19, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Some good news... (Preview) ((((Hi everyone)))) Hope you all had some serenity over the weekend. Well after getting away to my motel last weekend after finding out the "affair" was real - I finally confronted AH about it and told him I knew it really happened now. I told him I needed some more time to digest, he sa...	hersh	6	380	Sep 19, 2006 by isabela40
	hmmm my 24 plus a few more lol (Preview) I am trying so hard not to get angry. I have to work tonite from 9pm to noon tuesday. The old man was suspicious last nite. If I was in another room , he would come look for me. He said where was the boss lady, She must have a boyfreind is why she is not working weekends. Sheesh she is there Fridays & Sunda...	hmrnrnmm	2	490	Sep 19, 2006 by isabela40
	Need some support (Preview) Hi everyone, My AH is on his way back to the east coast from AZ and begging to stay (I just moved out of our house 3 weeks ago). I have been dreading the actual face to face confrontation which I know is coming. I find it a lot easier to be stong over the phone and in writing but face to face is har...	carolinagirl	4	383	Sep 19, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Selfish Stinking Thinking... (Preview) It seems like forever since I have been to this board. Home puter is on the fritz and work has been busy. I find myself pushing aside work to get this out of my head because it is starting to consume me. My sister and I had plans to attend a concert of my 2 favorite bands tomorrow night....	AlaMom	4	696	Sep 19, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Trying to fill this void (Preview) I am really sad today. Except for a couple of short conversations about bills, I haven't talked to my AH in 5 weeks. I have been doing really well this time, but of course this is only after being kicked out of the house for the zillionth time. I have been reading my alanon literature,...	JulieLynn	6	629	Sep 19, 2006 by Tiger2006
	waking up (Preview) Hello (((family))) I watched a movie today about a woman who awoke from a 20 year coma.Ironically,I could relate.I am very much feeling as if I have been asleep for over 30 years.Has anyone else felt that way? I didn't know I had the right to stand up for myself and go after what I want or what is best fo...	drucilla06	3	395	Sep 19, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Joni21 says hello (Preview) Hi all, I wanted to let you know that Joni21 asked me by way of a letter to say hi and love and misses you all. Peewee	peewee	1	507	Sep 18, 2006 by Maria123
	What a great Family!!! (Preview) I have been coming to this board for almost a year now. sometimes I sign in and sometimes I don't. But, I ALWAYS read your posts. I come when I am down and out and your posts lift me up. It just doesn't get any better than a family like this!!! Thank you all...	irish54	5	370	Sep 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Today the anger has surfaced/ (Preview) Not long ago, after a two-day binge and the process of sobering was completed, A and I had a little talk. Well, perhaps I should say I had a talk. He never has much to say except the occasional, "Maybe I just ought to leave." After I had my talk with myself, he answered, "Well, I have always done everything y...	Diva	19	686	Sep 18, 2006 by isabela40
	mixed emotions (Preview) wednesday night my ex ah called and we talked and i stayed in my program. for the most part. but he was getting drunker as we spoke and i finally just told him that he is not a victim. that he has choices. that this is his life and he is a grown up and can do what he wants. the only true vicitms in this are the child...	serendipity	3	347	Sep 18, 2006 by hersh
	No Academy award today... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Well after what I considered a big step of leting go on Friday, I tripped a bit on detachment and plan b today. I wanted to go see my brother today in another city, (I think I really wanted to run away LOL ), but I asked my AW if she wanted to go. My brother is in the military and wil...	rtexas	6	493	Sep 18, 2006 by hersh
	Blame it on Karilynn take two! (Preview) (((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Good morning! This time last year I did a post called "Blame it on Karilynn". Well I have decided that this is going to be an annual event. This may sound silly, but hang in there with me. Here's the deal: Ever...	Karilynn	8	483	Sep 18, 2006 by leo
	It's Monday! (Preview) Hi everyone. Thought I would update y'all a little on the situation with my daughter and grandaughter who lost their father/husband this summer. Friday I received an email from my grandaughter who said she missed us very much and that her mom had a new "friend". she said she didn't lik...	irish54	3	438	Sep 18, 2006 by irish54
	Just for today challenge, you up for it? (Preview) ((friends))) I see a lot of hurt and pain on the board lately so I had an idea. Take what you like and leave the rest. I have a challenge for everyone. Just for today... Be the person you want to be, no baggage, strong and solid. See and BE that person. Envision and act joyous and carefree. ...	Christy	15	537	Sep 18, 2006 by gardengal
	The thoughts of an A (Preview) I am completely confused. I don't think I will ever understand how an alcoholic thinks. My A husband and I were divorced this past June (3 months ago). It has actually been a very pleasant experience being rid of him. I no longer face worries about his health, what he will do w...	ditto	6	436	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Why do I bother? why am going on? (Preview) Why am I bothering? why am I trying to get Tina a ride home. She has been housesitting in Columbus since Wed. I got off work Wed at 6pm & took her up there around 8 to 9 pm. I then took our neighbor to the grocery store. I got home around 11pm. I had to get up around 4:30am Thursday & Friday to get to every...	hmrnrnmm	3	447	Sep 18, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thanks everyone, just for being you (Preview) I was having a really crappy day two days ago, right from the early morning till evening. I came here, didn't even vent, just read your posts. Just seeing all the love and support in this room made me feel sooo much better!! Thanks family, Love Ya! TLC	TLC2	4	381	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Keeping myself safe (Preview) Hi all, it's so wonderful to come here and to meetings and to hear es&h. It's such a breath of fresh air to know I'm not the fault of the world like sometime the a and my family of origion makes me feel. My a's quiting tobacco products, or rather was, this whole weekend, I don't think i've s...	mastiff	6	444	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Cop out (Preview) YOu know, I was thinking he sure is a good excuse, I can't do or I haven't done (fill in the blank) because of him! When hes gone I feel like I can do anything I have no limits. I also have no one to blame or to expect to do things I know they will never do so I just do them myself and thin...	carolinagirl	5	507	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Getting away.... (Preview) (((Hi everyone and happy Friday!!!)))) It's been another tough week, but I finally had enough of the drama and went to a motel last night. You know, it was SO peaceful I cannot even believe it. I am tired of talking about the situation, just want to be alone and quiet. I told a great...	hersh	5	531	Sep 18, 2006 by annmarie
	A Share from the Spleen! (Preview) Howdy (((((Everyone)))))) I just felt like posting something this morning about my experience last week. Been a busy week and I am just now sitting down and catching my breath for real! LOL. I was one of the luckies that got to meet a group of people from MIP in San Antonio last weekend. Six of us...	david62	9	490	Sep 17, 2006 by bob6502
	Trouble signing in chatroom (Preview) I need some help. I cannot sign into the alanon chatroom. Says my host name is banned, that I am spam or abuser? Can't figure that one out. Any ideas?????? Email me,I will keep trying. Thanks, Deb	horselover58	2	428	Sep 16, 2006 by peewee
	no light at the end of the tunnel (Preview) It's been a while since i last posted on here , though i regularly read the posts and thought i was learning how to cope with the situation i am in ... how wrong i was Living in Cyprus , i have no means of attending a meeting , the only one i found was 50 ks away from me , held on a mond...	cytagirl	7	575	Sep 16, 2006 by RedHead
	anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) hello everyone, i looked up the date of my first post on the message board and that was oct.1,2005 in the post i was looking for a sponsor and mentioned i was in the program for three weeks at that time. so i guess im happy to say its my one year anniversary since finding alanon!!!!! yay. im so thankful for ev...	notsonew1111	7	436	Sep 16, 2006 by confused
	Another drunkfest Thursday night (Preview) My AH has been laid off from work going on three weeks now. At first he was actually doing some work in the garage and keeping himself busy. I knew it wouldn't last. Now he's been drunk when I return home. It's taking every ounce of energy I have to keep going until I can get divorced and get him out of my life....	Lindy	6	488	Sep 16, 2006 by horselover58
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