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I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been.
She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff.
Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protecting me. They are both pit mixes.
Then they tried to pull my Tavish, who you all know i adore, thru the fence by his nose. I took over the 3 day eviction and gave her a twenty four hour notice i would be over there cleaning the back.
She said I did not give her notice, Put up fence with out her permission. She asked me to put it up a few feet from the other one so her dogs would not hurt mine. PLUS she let me use her post pounder as I did not want to walk all the way back to get mine.
She even called the sheriff becuz I took over the moving out instructions. ???
I feel totally sick about it. IF I had known she was A I would never have rented to her. Her daughter told me a few weeks later.
thanks. I gave up and have nothing to do with her. My son has taken over one hundred per cent. I refuse to deal with her insanity.
And the new tenant he is dealing with too. I am done.
Now i hear this insane person is going to put a stalking order on me??? I read about it and have done NOTHING. So when it is served on me. IF she does it, I will contest it and she can prove her alligations. Which she cannot.
She gave a 30 day notice. It was totally stupid. Her daughter typed it up and is being completely dragged into the disease.
Not my problem. But anyway, I have been ok. What started it was I asked her not to use profanity when she spoke to me, and told her no more pets. She has five pigs, two dogs and two cats. They were kept beautifully, she paid her rent, the house was so cute.
For some reason when I stopped doing anything for her, she freaked, NO one to enable her anymore.
She had someone call me and pretend to be a state worker and harrass me and scared me to death.
I realized that night it was a lie. I was so upset I could not calm down.
My illness is so made worse by stress.
So now the bronchitis is back. Ibs is horrible. ug.
So... I decided I don't like things how they are. am working on refi again and they think I can do it. IF so, that will help me a lot.
Maybe I will be able to afford to have someone stay here so I can rest. I have not rested in years. I mean not one day off.
I tell ya, this has been tough. I got bit by her dogs, did not turn her in, I took furniture over there becuz she had none, I took her a phone cord. took satellite over there, her pigs chewed it twice and i fixed it. I put up a fence and shelter for her pigs. I did all this becuz i wanted to.
then I realized I had enough of my own to do. told her no I could not make winter shelter for her pigs. she got mad. told her no, not another pig. geez/
She began talking crazy. Refused to pay the fee she was suppose to. I realized this was bad.
If she tries to put a stalking order on me..... I will be the lady I am and let her hang herself. And she will.
Right now I just am so sick of A's. Sorry.
That is rude I suppose. They are sick. But ya know I hate cancer too. Big time.
thanks for allowing me to spill. I read your posts. Just not right in the noggin right now. Plus I am working hard outside.
Whew! I was so worried about you, thought you were isolating. Just knew there was something wrong...I was just getting ready to email you.I knew you were fencing, and know how hard that is!!
Another A in your life is the last thing you need!!! Praying for your son to find a good tenant for you, maybe one that doesn't drink and will help you out around there, maybe a tall dark handsome one who is just as loving and caring as you are, hmmm???
My A is fixing up his mother's house, getting it ready to rent out or sell.She passed away 3 or 4 years ago, and we hadn't touched it. We knew what a HUGE job it would be! We have been working on it for over a month, I don't think they EVER threw anything away!! A was going to sell it 'as is', but I talked him out of it. There were a lot of beautiful antiques, and I absolutly love antiques! We got all that cleaned out,plus he had to take over $700. worth to the dump,(that's what it cost him to dump it, so much $$ a load depending on what it was).So now, my house and barn are full with just enough room for the horse and donkey.
I'm so sorry your tenant didn't work out, you must have thought you were in heaven with another pig and dog lover!! Then she turns out to be an A, so sad.
Well, my dear friend, I hope you manage to get some rest through all this, sure wish you were near me so I could give you a hand! Praying for you, with Love, TLC
I so sympathize. My Mom rents out her old house when she moved in with us and I helped her find a tenant (she doesn't make a profit, she rents it out for the mortgage payment only). I screened this tenant really carefully. I actually checked with all of her references, and they were solid citizens, one was her minister and I had checked his phone number with the phone book to make sure it was not bogus. She had a good credit record, and seemed to be a good christian lady with two well mannered kids.
Well...she was not only crazy, but criminal. She was a foster Mom and while she as living there she was arrested for abuse. Seemed she wanted my Mom's house so she could run a foster home with the max amount of kids, which was four. Turns out she thought she could live the high life. She refused to let them drink water so she would not have to worry about washing sheets from bed wetting, and they had to drink from the toilet. Then she only had her former small table that sat four, her and her two kids and the empty chair full of clutter, and she had the foster kids (all little, under five) sit on the floor and the kids fed them scraps they did not want like they were dogs.
I was sick when I read it in the paper, so I definately relate to how people can change and also fool you.
She got out on bail and trashed my Mom's place just to be nasty as she had nothing to lose, she was going to be a convicted felon.
How I got the next tenant was funny, LOL. I was telling one of our former neighbors (and friend) there what had happened (since it was my Mom's old house we used to live there) and I told her we had to find a new tenant. I jokingly said to her "I can't talk you into renting from me can I? LOL!". She didn't laugh...
She said she hated her landlord and she would LOVE to rent from my Mom! She has been there five years and is a dream tenant.
So, don't give up hope of finding someone to rent to who won't abuse you.
Thank goodness you have Mac to take over this nightmare for you!
As far as the restraining order is concerned, you can only fight fire with fire. Take one out on her for the dog problems, the profanity, and yes, her restraining order. When a judge sees both parties have restraining orders he knows it is just part and parcel of people having serious conflict. When only one person has one, the other may look bad.
Besides...to serve you they have to find you right? LOL! Don't answer the door and don't go out, have Mac go shopping and out for you and take care of the animals for you. Don't pick up registered mail.
I am so sorry this is happening to you! You have already been through so much...
I am a little puzzled about some stuff though...you say she was mad since you put the fence too close to her? Isn't this YOUR property since you are renting?
You say she "wanted" another pig and was mad since you did not make a winter enclosure for her pig...don't you have a lease which clearly defines what you are responsible for?
With both tenants I specifically told them to read the lease carefully as it was not a typical lease. I researched it at the library VERY carefully and combined the wording and clauses of all kinds of different leases to get the best of all of them. Nearly every possible problem is addressed thanks to all of the research I did. Whenever a problem came up I referred them to the lease.
Another tip I can give you is not to mix business with pleasure. Once my friend moved into the house she was no longer "my friend" and I backed off of the freindship. Once our relationship hinged on business the friend coat was off, although clearly I still care for her. When she was laid off and on unemployment I took food to her while I was still working, and still give her daughter clothes my daughter has outgrown as she is a struggling single Mom, so I am not talking about giving people the cold shoulder here, more like being careful to keep the relationship alwasys more business like so she never forgets she has a lease and it is a contractual agreement, it is not like she is living there for free as a good friend.
Debilyn...I worry so much about you and your heavy load. I wish so much you could lighten your load somehow.
I many times wonder why you could not turn your lovely place into a sort of non profit animal sanctuary, and give tours to to children (including a petting zoo) and so get public funding and grants then get some FORMAL help as in employees round the clock for your animals.
I see so many shows on animal planet of people who have done just that. They started out alone since they loved animals, then as they have grown they formalized things, got public funding, opened the place up for tours and got employees to help. Most of these people have a MUCH smaller place than you have!
Maybe you could contact someone at the animal planet and see if they can hook you up with the right agencies, or even Jack Hanna, someone who is in place to let you know what is possible.
Whatever happens I know you need to do something...you are not superwoman, you are only human and pushing yourself until you drop is not right for you OR your animals. Who will take care of them if something happens to you and you are bedridden for a long period of time? You have so many animals that you need to think of some way to see that they are provided for.
So many people care Debilyn! You just have to find a way to reach them. If anyone can get public funding I bet you can, after so many years of doing it yourself and proving your personal commitment and sincerity.
Prayers all works out for your benefit and your animals,
(((Deb)))) got your message last night. Was so glad to hear you were OK. Well, maybe not OK, but it could be worse!
Deb, I am so glad you have your faith and this program to help you get thru this. I was thinkin' you must attract A's like I do. I swear, there could be a room with 10,000 people in it, and I would pick out the 1 A, and start talking to them. It's scarey, I tell you.
That woman must not have realized when she had it good. I mean, I don't imagine there are a lot of places that let a person with 5 pigs, 2 dogs and 2 cats! And she must have seen the goodness in you, and abused that trust. That just kills me when people do that!
I wish I could come out there, and help you work so you could get some rest. What you do sounds terribly difficult and exhausting. Remember to try to eat well, drink your water, and get some rest, like you tell us to do, OK?
My parents have rental property and there is almost no end to the torment they go through with that. Over the years, my AW has suggested investing in rental property, but she thinks you buy it, rent it out and forget about it.
I so hope you can find someone who is a better fit for you. That is really important to your hapiness and your property. A bad tenant can destroy your place.
Take care of you! You deserve it! (((((more hugs)))))
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Good to hear from you again. I don't know whether you particularly attract A's or you are just a magnet for people to manipulate because you are so kind hearted. Don't change who you are we love you just the way you are. You are making good choices now and letting your son handle it. I think you probably have been a little more vulnerable than usual because of what you have endured lately. Okay to take time out. Is there anyone who you know that is reliable enough to farm/sit for a week or two to give you a break. Maybe you could do a house exchange with someone you know from here for a little while? Take care of yourself IBS is definitely stress related. Can highly recommend pure Aloe Vera Juice to help ease that problem a little I take it myself. Thinking of you. Luv Leo xxx
Debilyn: One huge red flag for me long term is health issues. I had a major case of bronchitis. I did not take care of it and it turned into asthma. So then I had a two year sojourn with asthma which was really truly awful.
I know first hand how normal it is for me not to take care of me. I do not know how to. I am learning how to. This Friday I will be back at the clinic again to get some treatment for a issue I went there last month. I am way overdue on the mammogram and other routine checks as I am on dental work.
I know also how normal it is for me to get so distraught my only mechanism is to shut down completely. I can let outside issues totally overwhelm me and just get lost in them.
I never set a time limit on stuff. That is one huge reason I have had to set limits on dealing with the A's family and his friends.
Take care of yourself. You do not need to have this bronchitis get worse. Winter is coming. You can rest and recuperate. You can take a step back and know there is a time limit on this stuff.
