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John


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Hi everyone,


I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday.


Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla.  September 10th, 2006.  It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm, and when the other came to visit her at approximately 7 pm, she too was murdered.  This happened in the first victims home and the home was set on fire in an attempt to destroy crime scene evidence.  The sheriff's office has a very general description of a man someone saw leaving the house around 7:30 pm and one of the aunts car is missing, but has yet to be found.


These two woman were my deceased mothers sisters.  Aunt Pat was 62 and Aunt Judy was 64 years old.  The fire and the bodies were discovered when Aunt Judy's daughter went to the home in search for her mother.


This has really emotionally tore up my family, especially one of my sisters who had just visited both aunts in fla, (from Va) less than a month ago.  I went to my brothers house, for a few days and then had my sister come to my home in Wilmington for a few days to help her get through this tragedy.


Police have not released the autopcy report or even the bodies as of yet, or much of any other information they might have from their investigation so we are all waiting to be informed of the results and take care of funeral arrangements still.


It has been a very rough week.  But I'm doing fairly well in the mist of it all, and hanging on to many of the simple slogans, sayings, prayers, and principles that I've learned to apply to every day life issues and problems to the best of my ability. 


No amount of recovery can make a blow like this any softer, but the recovery methods of dealing with it all sure stops it from getting any worse.


Yours In Recovery,


John F.


 


 



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((((((John))))))

So sorry to hear about your losses. This is just awful.

You and your family are in my prayers.

David

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(((((john)))))


I am so sorry,John.This is just awful for you and your family not to mention your dear aunts.


My prayers for all of you for God to hold you in His loving hands.


Remember to take care of yourself as you try to take care of others.


love in recovery and many hugs.....dru



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Am sorry for your loss John .  Louise

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(((((((John)))))))))))  You and your family are in my prayers.  Beth



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Dear John,

How horrid this must be for you and your family....my prayers are with all of you. I hope you find some answers and I will be praying for your family....

Best Wishes,
Andrea

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What a horrible shock, our thoughts are with you and your fmaily.

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(((John))) I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Nancy

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((((((((((((((John)))))))))))))))),

Extra love and prayers for you and your family at this horrible time. With deepest sympathies to you dear one. Know that your Alanon family has you wrapped around in their loving arms.

Karilynn

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(((((((((JOHN)))))))) I am so sorry for your losses John. Know that we here in your cyber family are praying for you and your family. What an absolutly horrible thing to happen!! Thanks for thinking of us,With Love and TLC

-- Edited by TLC2 at 08:50, 2006-09-18

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Diva


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John, there are no words to express my sorrow. I know that God will watch over you and your family during this tragic time.

Please accept my expression of sympathy which is sent with a heavy heart.

Diva

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Lexie


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John,


I am truely sorry for your loss.  It is difficult to lose a loved one at any time in any way, but murder has got to be the worst way of all.  I will keep you and your dear family in my prayers as you face the days ahead.  There are no words that can say enough at such a loss, but the peace that can come from feeling the prayers of others will help sustain you and carry you through as you grieve. 


Blessings, Lexie



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Dear John,


Of course you are wrapped in the arms of your family here.  No words can express how must compassion I have for you and your family.


I know HP is carrying you through these days.


You are loved!


Hugs!


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 ((John)) Please know I extend my deepest sympathies to you. If there is anything you need, please speak up.

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John,

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you
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John


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Thank all of you for your kind and warm words.  Here is a news article on the with a basic outline of events surrounding their deaths.  Other than what you read here, the family really doesn't have any other information either.  Police are keeping the exact cause and any evidence out of the news, and even from family.


I'm just doing what I can on my end which isn't much, but offering a reward for any one that can provide police with a tip that leads to an arrest and conviction.


http://www.news-press.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060912/NEWS0111/60912017/1075


John



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Hi John,


Hugs from Australia.  How tragic that your Aunts should be cut down so violently in their twilight years.  Please know we are all thinking of you and hope that justice will be quick.  Luv Leo xxx



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(((((((((((((((((((JOHN)))))))))))))))))))))


Oh my goodness!!! I have today returned to Turkey after a few months in the Uk and just read your post.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.What a terrible thing to happen.

As others have said John,you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Know that we all care very deeply.

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((((( John )))))


My heartfelt sympathies for your loss. May you and the family find closure from this tragedy



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(((John)))


My condolences to you and your family during this incredibly difficult situation.  You are all in my prayers.


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((((John and Family))))) How horrible and tragic.  I was horrified as I read your post, hope you and your family get some answers soon.


It seems like so many people do not value the human life anymore, it is shocking.  We live in a very dangerous world.


I am very, very sorry you are having to deal with this, and am very sorry for the deaths of two obviously very loved ladies.


It is at times like this, I am reminded how much we need to stick together.  We are always here for  you, as  you have been for us. 


Again, my deepest sympathies to you and all of your family.


Love in Recovery,


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((John)),


I wish I had the right words to give you comfort in this horrible time,  but my mind is empty.


So all I'll say is that we love you and your family, and will continue to keep all of you in our thoughts & prayers,


Yours in recovery,


Rita



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John:  My heartfelt condolences.


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John, My deepest sympathy to you and yours on your terrible tragic losses.   Try looking up when you get a chance.


I understand.  


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(((((John)))))


So sorry to hear about the tragedy you and your family have experienced.  Sometimes it is just so hard to believe that people can be so hateful and cruel.


My prayers and hope for finding the one(s) responsible for this hedious crime are with you.


Cilla



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Im really sorry (((((John)))))

My prayers are with you and your family in this dark hour......We may wonder why things so terrible have to happen in life. We do not always understand the plans of our HP. I think they had a higher calling to fulfill, and even tho the circumstances behind them ascending to that calling were so terrible, they have a new purpose now. They will be with your mom and will always be looking down on you John; to be with you when things are going rough, and to smack you upside the head when ya need it. Hang in there, take things odat and hold on to your serenity.

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John,


It is with a very heavy heart that I extend my sympathies to you and your family.


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((John)), so sorry to hear that.  My condolences to you and your family.


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I am sorry to hear of your lost.

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My dearest John,


My condolences on your losses. My prayers are going out for you and your family.


Love & God Bless


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