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Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have often been asked "How do you detach". I did a google search this morning on detachment and found the following article. I found it very insightful and want to share it with you all. I only hope that it will help some of you as much as it has me. The Incredible Shrinking Relativ...

maresie2 · maresie2

I really feel for me the task of getting through the holidays is so so key. After the holidays some of my financial pressures get better. There will always be financial pressures living with an active A. There will always be crisis, he lives them day in day out. Yesterday it was a huge crisis he los...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I went to a F2F meeting I had never been to last week on Wednesday, because I missed my regular meeting on Tuesday. I told the folks in there that I appreciated them being there because I needed to bolster up my courage for the holiday. So here is how my holiday went. ...

Newme · Newme

Hello to my real friends whom understand me and they are always there for me...I have had many lonely evenings in the past few weeks which left me very very angry, frustrated and down...i even started having doubts in fellowship as a result of my anger and that I didn't know how to deal with the situation...

Jill · Jill

What’s the deal with a’s (maybe I shouldn’t generalize, it might just be this one) and customer service? Mine gets lit and gets on the phone with you-name-it company’s cust serv. The poor agents! He’s at it now concerning our printer. He rebukes them if they’re in a foreign country (most of them are in t...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((everyone))))) Today at my f2f meeting I had an experience that has made me very uneasy. It's been almost 6 hrs ago and I'm still thinking about it. I've been going to this particular f2f meeting for three years and am the treasurer for the group. I love this group.&...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) Hope you all are doing well. Things are fair here, husband almost has 30 days sobriety (on Wed) due to a DUI - he is too afraid I guess to continue drinking. I have been staying home, enjoying the peace - and enjoying him being home for a change. But, things ha...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

-- Edited by drucilla06 at 02:04, 2006-11-29

HereIam · HereIam

I can see how an addict needs it to just get through a day without drinking, but I don;t see it as very helpful. i mean, I have a life and a family. i need to think about them and their future. One day at a time does not cut it. This is an example of take what you need and leave the rest, for me, as far as Al-Anon...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Greetings to my long lost family. It's sooo good to be back. Happy Belated Thanksgiving to all of you. It has been quite the few weeks. A week before Thanksgiving hubby dropped me off at work because it was raining. 20 minutes later he called me and told me to...

Gailey · Gailey

My son's children are only 4 and 6 but my dil still has to deal with their concerns about why daddy doesn't live with them anymore. It is hard for her to try to explain things to them as my son could never get into those conversations with them. dil and myself have told him not to promise the girls anythi...

Gailey · Gailey

Just got finished with a long IM conversation with my other dil. She is married to my son who is in the Navy. They live about 4.5 hours away from us in Norfolk, VA. She is from Japan and really knows nothing about Alanon or dealing with aism. I told her that I would help her to understand things that she n...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) I have not been able to post until today since I don't have a computer at home. Thanksgiving was a good time. Lots of people and lots of food. Everyone had a great time. The wedding on Friday was beautiful. Everything went according to plan and was v...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

This weekend two of my four children told me that my attendance at Alaon meetings was not helping. I told them it was helping me cope but unfortunately they see their father getting worse. My oldest went so far as to say he didn’t believe in that sh--. He thinks we need marriage couns...

maresie2 · maresie2

Thanksgiivng was pretty brutal for me but I made it through. I ended up with an enormous headache which may have been sinus or migraine that went on for days. I worked super hard not to go into super toxic resentment with the A. I have to admit it was hard going but I kept at it....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was reading a story in Time magazine online about how we are afraid of things we shouldn't be and ignore the things we should.... and I got to this paragraph and it answered a question for me that I had been pondering about why I left so easily the first time and how we tolerate such unbearable circumstan...

Gailey · Gailey

If you read my other post titled "God bless the children of A's...................... well....he did not go!!!! I am just about losing it today. I seem to be able to be compassionate until it comes to him letting down my granddaughters. I have 1 more hour here at work and can barely hold back th...

barisax · barisax

You know, recent postings bring together some thoughts I've had and rather than respond on the individual threads, I thought I'd try to summarize my thoughts a bit. We've had recent threads on AAs in Alanon, Men in Alanon, and some very graphic descriptions of "male" behavior at its worst. Alcoh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was just reading over some of my posts from two weeks ago when my life was in turmoil. Am I so desperate for kindness that upon receiving just a little I forgive and forget all the hell I have been put thru. By the way he signed the papers for the house when he came for Thanksgiving! He s...

hudsond · hudsond

Today is a good day. The past 3 months have been good months. My ah has been sober for 3 and 1/2 months. My ex-husband is working in India for close to 9 months--so I haven't had to shuffle the kids back and forth. I have a new position at my school--less work same pay. We ar...

irish54 · irish54

Hi, A lot of new people have joined our family here and I say WELCOME to all!!! I won't rehash all of my story, but I do have an update and request ESH and prayers. My son in law was killed in a car wreck June 1st... 3 days before his daughter's 14th birthday. Since then things have been a c...

jaja · jaja

Here I go again back down into a small slump. I'm not exactly sure why since my AH is being nice and we are getting along fine now. Of course that's because we are not actually living under the same roof. But he comes over every day to visit, calls at least once a day, and makes sure stuff...

Lexie · Lexie

(((((((((friends)))))))))) I am not good at posting here, just try to answer some posts. I am still a "veteren"........lol. Anway, I am fighting depression and so much sadness and thought maybe I could just get my thoughts out here and hopefully help me to feel better. My hu...

ally · ally

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Maria123 · Maria123

Has anyone seen or heard from memeself???? If you don't want to post the information, please private message me. I'd like to tell her that I am thinking of her and her beautiful Smiley and hope things are ok with her health. Thanks, Maria123

lmt123 · lmt123

Today I went on a wonderful power walk, on my usual route. I often see this girl I know from AA (she's also at my Alanon meetings) around the lake where I walk. I'll call her "E" for the sake of this post, so as not to break her anonymity. E usually walks along with me whenever we see eac...

artygirl · artygirl

Haven't seen you on the board for a few days... is everything okay?

gardengal · gardengal

For me I learned that things may not be as they seem,,thus I learned not to jump to conclusions, like I had always done in various areas of my life. The alcoholic had made me to the point where I didnt trust anyone anymore,including close friends and family members, so slowly I learned to trust again. I th...

Rebecca · Rebecca

albertarose · albertarose

I am feeling very stuck on a situation that came to me on Sunday November 26th. I do not know if I am feeling jealous, scared, worried, frustrated or what.... Here is the story. my AH and I have been separated since August. When we separated I found out through his son, (my step son) that AH turned to his ex w...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Always forgive your enemies --nothing annoys them so much. --Oscar Wilde Letting Go According to a Japanese legend, two monks were walking down the road when they saw a finely dressed young woman standing before a large mud puddle. She explained that she had no way of crossing the water withou...

Messy · Messy

Well… I really hate my life right now and my depression is growing! Thanksgiving was uneventful, thank goodness, but I did not get out of bed for 3 days. I did not want to face the world; thank goodness my son was with his “father” for the weekend (son’s father – this is another story in itself!) &nb...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I recently checked out "Inside My Heart" by Robin McGraw. It is an easy read of about 200-230 pages. Helps us gals think about ourselves, knowing when we are right, trusting our intuition, being better choosers and pickers, having confidence, and standing up for ourselves.&nb...

debilyn · debilyn

That did not come out like I meant it. Anyway, well my time came to get rid of all Ah's stuff. I have everything down to his toothbrush for over 3 months isn't it? Had a weak moment and sent a note to him via maybe where he says he is not staying. Right Told him I would like to see him before I die. Had a coup...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((((Everyone)))) Ugh ... a long story short, I listened to 7 hours of hysterical crying, wailing, yelling while my A was drunk. the phone rang and kaboom he went from happily singing at the top of his lungs to sobbing like I have never seen before .... seems his best friend also one of mine from ch...

HereIam · HereIam

I simply am not playing along any longer. Gosh, it makes the alcoholic so mad (as well as her enablers). It's amazing, when you simply live in the real world. Honesty can be so foreign when you have been raised to play the alcoholic's game.

ollie · ollie

Hi all,a little recap,h got depression,started drinking ,had the worst time of my life,threw him out may,since then he has been living in a salvation army refuge,been attending AA although i dont think regular,getting good councilling,i believe he has not been drinking for at least 10 wks,his who...

Gailey · Gailey

I was laying in bed last night watching tv. As I was laying there a negative thought came to my mind about my A son. It wasn't anything that actually happened but it was a moment of projecting something happening. As this thought was passing through me I got that feeling in my stomach...you know that feel...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))))))))))))))) I have been doing a lot of posting the last few weeks, sharing and answering. Something Is encouraging me to do It. It seems a good idea at the time,(lol), I am getting some satisfaction from this, as well as getting rid of things fr...

alora_red · alora_red

Wow, I have a long long story, so I will try to make it as short as possible. I will tell you about 3 or 4 incidents, but there are 50 or 60 in between these ones believe me! My boyfriend has had a drinking and drug problem for many many years. He lost a marriage over it already and has a 9 year old son he d...

JillyJo · JillyJo

Here it is, almost the end of November and winter snow will soon arrive and the tons of oak leaves that cover our very large hilly yard have not been picked up. Most years I raked and bagged them myself just to get it done before the snow came but this year I'm having back problems and to...

marty · marty

Hi every one,my problem is dealing with my self i have a problem with a women she in AA too like me,we would have fight on line but i wanted her love she would never give it to me and we would argu and get mad at each other and i would take her out of my ims but she would keep taking me back and post t...

just me · just me

Wow....I can't believe I have posted 500 times. It has been a great journey of personal discovery. I wanted to thank my al-anon online family for helping me find my way! Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season! Yours in recovery, J...

debilyn · debilyn

From my experience, what some call personality disorders are the symptoms of being an Addict. When they don't use, they still have the symptoms of aism. Aism is NOT the product of an mental disorder. There are clearly genetic markers that show a person is an addict and or has the potential to be one. I...

Mom2EB · Mom2EB

Hey everyone, I am coming to this board because of my mother-in-law and her alcoholism. Since I've known her she has always been an alcoholic and I have had to deal with her for about 4 years...nothing compared to the nearly 10 that my husband has had to go through. She was sober for most of his childhood u... >

albertarose · albertarose

My AH has been sober since September 3/06. We are both going to therapy, alanon, AA, and church. Things are falling into place but I have a hard time trusting his word. When he was drinking he would break promises, do things that he said he would never do but did anway. I want to trust him on an issue that he s...

Rebecca · Rebecca

Update on my situation......  

marty · marty

i have a problem want love from a person who say they dont love me,i feel it might have some to do with my dad i was always trying to get him to love me even up to the day he die, i thought the person was in this morning meeting,i try to talk to this person when the meeting was over but she would not talk to me it ma...

maureen · maureen

New to this site...not to Alanon. I am in need of a meeting for experience, strength and hope to get through a painful divorce. My heart feels like it is going to explode inside my chest. I have to go, there really is no other option but I hurt so bad today I can hardly breath. Please share with me, M...

Feather · Feather

Hi All, As you may remember I have an AH, we have set boundaries, he has his own house where he can go when he drinks, when he is sober he is welcome to spend time with me and our 3 children - it works for us. My latest worry is my 15yo daughter who has (I just learned) been drinking alot. She dr...

twinkie · twinkie

I am still having a hard time with this insanity and craziness of the disease. Why the lies, why the provoking of fear and anxiety? I've had enough adn just want to let go of it all. I was away for the holiday and had a wonderful time with my family. My A did not want to go with me and...

ShelBell · ShelBell

H behaved like a total ass today, shouting at everybody. Later, he said he had a knot in his shoulder. I asked him if it matched the one he had been earning on his head. :) He apologized, realized he had missed his meds a couple days in a row. Sometimes, I think I should get myself...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Just wanted to post and thank all my dear friends who responded with such love to my "falling" post. I always know I can count on you to lift me up when I am feeling low. Your support and understanding mean the world to me. We often use that phrase "what goes around, comes around" when talking about hur...

Elly · Elly

Hello, my name is Elly and I am an Adult Child of an alcoholic. He hasn't been in my life for 34 years now. But the effects of his alcoholism have been with me daily throughout my life. And, I've only now - in the last few weeks - discovered this!!! I married and divorced an alcoholi...

lovette · lovette

I sat down this morning to check up on the board and am overwhelmed at the love I feel here. We care so deeply for others and always have. It occurs to me that turning that kind of love IN is what has brought me the greatest joy. It has been the catalyst for all the love I am able to see around me now. I finally c...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

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Newme · Newme

Dear ALL, I really appreciate your warm words...I didn't touch the picture and neither he did...I even decided to don't go into that room to avoid hurting myself...I will not touch it and will wait for him to clean up his actions! I am new in the fellowship and proud of my little thoughts and decisions...

Newme · Newme

Hi everyone...my A husband came back home drunk last night and without any argue I found my little sister's pic in pieces this morning (They have had some problems in the past)...what should be my reaction when he wakes up? it has really broken my heart...should I talk about it?leave the pieces right t...

BnA2006 · BnA2006

This is my first time to visit this site, and so far the topics seem very helpful. My fiance is an alcoholic and drug addict:( The first year of us dating he was sober. I actually met him when he had been 6 months sober. So I was never introduced to "B" the addict. Until recently that is. After a year and a half...

bigwheel888 · bigwheel888

Hi. Just looking for some ways to get through. My AH and I have been together for 8 years. We have 3 kids, I am a fulltime student (graduating with my Associate in Arts in 3 weeks!) and I am really praying hard I can tolerate him until I can find a job that will support me & the kids. He is outside in his "man cave...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Detachment (Preview) I have often been asked "How do you detach". I did a google search this morning on detachment and found the following article. I found it very insightful and want to share it with you all. I only hope that it will help some of you as much as it has me. The Incredible Shrinking Relativ...	Mobirdie	2	615	Nov 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Getting through the holidays (Preview) I really feel for me the task of getting through the holidays is so so key. After the holidays some of my financial pressures get better. There will always be financial pressures living with an active A. There will always be crisis, he lives them day in day out. Yesterday it was a huge crisis he los...	maresie2	0	349	Nov 29, 2006 by maresie2
	What a difference a year makes... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I went to a F2F meeting I had never been to last week on Wednesday, because I missed my regular meeting on Tuesday. I told the folks in there that I appreciated them being there because I needed to bolster up my courage for the holiday. So here is how my holiday went. ...	rtexas	9	446	Nov 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	My experience of reading"Getting them sober I" (Preview) Hello to my real friends whom understand me and they are always there for me...I have had many lonely evenings in the past few weeks which left me very very angry, frustrated and down...i even started having doubts in fellowship as a result of my anger and that I didn't know how to deal with the situation...	Newme	4	449	Nov 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	Customer Service (Preview) What’s the deal with a’s (maybe I shouldn’t generalize, it might just be this one) and customer service? Mine gets lit and gets on the phone with you-name-it company’s cust serv. The poor agents! He’s at it now concerning our printer. He rebukes them if they’re in a foreign country (most of them are in t...	Jill	2	371	Nov 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	How do I handle this? (Preview) (((((everyone))))) Today at my f2f meeting I had an experience that has made me very uneasy. It's been almost 6 hrs ago and I'm still thinking about it. I've been going to this particular f2f meeting for three years and am the treasurer for the group. I love this group.&...	Lunamoth	7	499	Nov 29, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Hurting but growing..... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Hope you all are doing well. Things are fair here, husband almost has 30 days sobriety (on Wed) due to a DUI - he is too afraid I guess to continue drinking. I have been staying home, enjoying the peace - and enjoying him being home for a change. But, things ha...	hersh	6	413	Nov 29, 2006 by Becky1
	deleted by drucilla (Preview) -- Edited by drucilla06 at 02:04, 2006-11-29	drucilla06	0	288	Nov 29, 2006 by drucilla06
	OK I do not get how "One day at a Time" applies to families of alcoholics (Preview) I can see how an addict needs it to just get through a day without drinking, but I don;t see it as very helpful. i mean, I have a life and a family. i need to think about them and their future. One day at a time does not cut it. This is an example of take what you need and leave the rest, for me, as far as Al-Anon...	HereIam	14	543	Nov 28, 2006 by abbyal
	Flooded and greatful (long) (Preview) (((((Family))))), Greetings to my long lost family. It's sooo good to be back. Happy Belated Thanksgiving to all of you. It has been quite the few weeks. A week before Thanksgiving hubby dropped me off at work because it was raining. 20 minutes later he called me and told me to...	Karilynn	13	505	Nov 28, 2006 by lebe27
	God bless the children of A's!!! (Preview) My son's children are only 4 and 6 but my dil still has to deal with their concerns about why daddy doesn't live with them anymore. It is hard for her to try to explain things to them as my son could never get into those conversations with them. dil and myself have told him not to promise the girls anythi...	Gailey	2	417	Nov 28, 2006 by MrBlue42
	the other shoe is dropping.....help!!! (Preview) Just got finished with a long IM conversation with my other dil. She is married to my son who is in the Navy. They live about 4.5 hours away from us in Norfolk, VA. She is from Japan and really knows nothing about Alanon or dealing with aism. I told her that I would help her to understand things that she n...	Gailey	7	525	Nov 28, 2006 by Christy
	Good Times and Good Fun... an update (Preview) (((MIP Family))) I have not been able to post until today since I don't have a computer at home. Thanksgiving was a good time. Lots of people and lots of food. Everyone had a great time. The wedding on Friday was beautiful. Everything went according to plan and was v...	twinmom2	5	415	Nov 28, 2006 by maresie2
	children in denial (Preview) This weekend two of my four children told me that my attendance at Alaon meetings was not helping. I told them it was helping me cope but unfortunately they see their father getting worse. My oldest went so far as to say he didn’t believe in that sh--. He thinks we need marriage couns...	Elizabeth M	7	522	Nov 28, 2006 by Maria123
	detaching really helps (Preview) Thanksgiivng was pretty brutal for me but I made it through. I ended up with an enormous headache which may have been sinus or migraine that went on for days. I worked super hard not to go into super toxic resentment with the A. I have to admit it was hard going but I kept at it....	maresie2	0	272	Nov 28, 2006 by maresie2
	Revelation! (Preview) I was reading a story in Time magazine online about how we are afraid of things we shouldn't be and ignore the things we should.... and I got to this paragraph and it answered a question for me that I had been pondering about why I left so easily the first time and how we tolerate such unbearable circumstan...	carolinagirl	1	377	Nov 28, 2006 by barisax
	losing compassion for the A today (Preview) If you read my other post titled "God bless the children of A's...................... well....he did not go!!!! I am just about losing it today. I seem to be able to be compassionate until it comes to him letting down my granddaughters. I have 1 more hour here at work and can barely hold back th...	Gailey	1	359	Nov 28, 2006 by carolinagirl
	AAAlanon ManWoman MarsVenus Etc. (Preview) You know, recent postings bring together some thoughts I've had and rather than respond on the individual threads, I thought I'd try to summarize my thoughts a bit. We've had recent threads on AAs in Alanon, Men in Alanon, and some very graphic descriptions of "male" behavior at its worst. Alcoh...	barisax	3	431	Nov 28, 2006 by carolinagirl
	How quickly we forget!!! (Preview) I was just reading over some of my posts from two weeks ago when my life was in turmoil. Am I so desperate for kindness that upon receiving just a little I forgive and forget all the hell I have been put thru. By the way he signed the papers for the house when he came for Thanksgiving! He s...	carolinagirl	6	477	Nov 28, 2006 by carolinagirl
	Accepting what is (Preview) Today is a good day. The past 3 months have been good months. My ah has been sober for 3 and 1/2 months. My ex-husband is working in India for close to 9 months--so I haven't had to shuffle the kids back and forth. I have a new position at my school--less work same pay. We ar...	hudsond	4	400	Nov 28, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Update on grandaughter/daughter who lost husband/father in June (Preview) Hi, A lot of new people have joined our family here and I say WELCOME to all!!! I won't rehash all of my story, but I do have an update and request ESH and prayers. My son in law was killed in a car wreck June 1st... 3 days before his daughter's 14th birthday. Since then things have been a c...	irish54	1	366	Nov 28, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	I am sooooo self-conscious! (Preview) Here I go again back down into a small slump. I'm not exactly sure why since my AH is being nice and we are getting along fine now. Of course that's because we are not actually living under the same roof. But he comes over every day to visit, calls at least once a day, and makes sure stuff...	jaja	3	554	Nov 28, 2006 by carolinagirl
	just needed to talk (Preview) (((((((((friends)))))))))) I am not good at posting here, just try to answer some posts. I am still a "veteren"........lol. Anway, I am fighting depression and so much sadness and thought maybe I could just get my thoughts out here and hopefully help me to feel better. My hu...	Lexie	15	582	Nov 28, 2006 by mel123
	LOOKING FOR EVIE (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))	ally	0	481	Nov 28, 2006 by ally
	memeself (Preview) Has anyone seen or heard from memeself???? If you don't want to post the information, please private message me. I'd like to tell her that I am thinking of her and her beautiful Smiley and hope things are ok with her health. Thanks, Maria123	Maria123	0	250	Nov 27, 2006 by Maria123
	what is my part in it? (warning...kinda long...lol) (Preview) Today I went on a wonderful power walk, on my usual route. I often see this girl I know from AA (she's also at my Alanon meetings) around the lake where I walk. I'll call her "E" for the sake of this post, so as not to break her anonymity. E usually walks along with me whenever we see eac...	lmt123	3	493	Nov 27, 2006 by twinkie
	Carolinagirl! (Preview) Haven't seen you on the board for a few days... is everything okay?	artygirl	1	265	Nov 27, 2006 by carolinagirl
	WHAT DID YOU "UNLEARN" WHEN YOU CAME INTO ALANON?? (Preview) For me I learned that things may not be as they seem,,thus I learned not to jump to conclusions, like I had always done in various areas of my life. The alcoholic had made me to the point where I didnt trust anyone anymore,including close friends and family members, so slowly I learned to trust again. I th...	gardengal	11	931	Nov 27, 2006 by Karilynn
	Update on my situation...... (Preview)	Rebecca	2	372	Nov 27, 2006 by snoopy
	I feel Stuck! (Preview) I am feeling very stuck on a situation that came to me on Sunday November 26th. I do not know if I am feeling jealous, scared, worried, frustrated or what.... Here is the story. my AH and I have been separated since August. When we separated I found out through his son, (my step son) that AH turned to his ex w...	albertarose	2	357	Nov 27, 2006 by hersh
	Common topic here (Preview) *Always forgive your enemies --nothing annoys them so much. --Oscar Wilde* Letting Go According to a Japanese legend, two monks were walking down the road when they saw a finely dressed young woman standing before a large mud puddle. She explained that she had no way of crossing the water withou...	Tiger2006	7	540	Nov 27, 2006 by AndiLynn
	GONNA LOSE IT SOON! (Preview) Well… I really hate my life right now and my depression is growing! Thanksgiving was uneventful, thank goodness, but I did not get out of bed for 3 days. I did not want to face the world; thank goodness my son was with his “father” for the weekend (son’s father – this is another story in itself!) &nb...	Messy	5	409	Nov 27, 2006 by lin0606
	Book Review "Inside My Heart" (Preview) I recently checked out "Inside My Heart" by Robin McGraw. It is an easy read of about 200-230 pages. Helps us gals think about ourselves, knowing when we are right, trusting our intuition, being better choosers and pickers, having confidence, and standing up for ourselves.&nb...	wallsal55	1	518	Nov 27, 2006 by albertarose
	Where is my bottom, lol lol lol geez (Preview) That did not come out like I meant it. Anyway, well my time came to get rid of all Ah's stuff. I have everything down to his toothbrush for over 3 months isn't it? Had a weak moment and sent a note to him via maybe where he says he is not staying. Right Told him I would like to see him before I die. Had a coup...	debilyn	5	524	Nov 27, 2006 by hersh
	A little vent cuz I fell in the hole (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) Ugh ... a long story short, I listened to 7 hours of hysterical crying, wailing, yelling while my A was drunk. the phone rang and kaboom he went from happily singing at the top of his lungs to sobbing like I have never seen before .... seems his best friend also one of mine from ch...	Jennifer	1	319	Nov 27, 2006 by carolinagirl
	No longer participating in the Alcoholic's Lies (Preview) I simply am not playing along any longer. Gosh, it makes the alcoholic so mad (as well as her enablers). It's amazing, when you simply live in the real world. Honesty can be so foreign when you have been raised to play the alcoholic's game.	HereIam	1	339	Nov 27, 2006 by hersh
	VERY WORRIED NEED SOME TLC (Preview) Hi all,a little recap,h got depression,started drinking ,had the worst time of my life,threw him out may,since then he has been living in a salvation army refuge,been attending AA although i dont think regular,getting good councilling,i believe he has not been drinking for at least 10 wks,his who...	ollie	7	353	Nov 27, 2006 by hersh
	Last night I had an AHA moment!!!! (Preview) I was laying in bed last night watching tv. As I was laying there a negative thought came to my mind about my A son. It wasn't anything that actually happened but it was a moment of projecting something happening. As this thought was passing through me I got that feeling in my stomach...you know that feel...	Gailey	3	446	Nov 27, 2006 by hersh
	POSTING - - - JUST DO IT (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))))))))))))))) I have been doing a lot of posting the last few weeks, sharing and answering. Something Is encouraging me to do It. It seems a good idea at the time,(lol), I am getting some satisfaction from this, as well as getting rid of things fr...	ally	3	278	Nov 27, 2006 by Karilynn
	First time here...My Story...need advice (Preview) Wow, I have a long long story, so I will try to make it as short as possible. I will tell you about 3 or 4 incidents, but there are 50 or 60 in between these ones believe me! My boyfriend has had a drinking and drug problem for many many years. He lost a marriage over it already and has a 9 year old son he d...	alora_red	9	473	Nov 27, 2006 by Jennifer
	Getting jobs done (Preview) Here it is, almost the end of November and winter snow will soon arrive and the tons of oak leaves that cover our very large hilly yard have not been picked up. Most years I raked and bagged them myself just to get it done before the snow came but this year I'm having back problems and to...	JillyJo	3	259	Nov 27, 2006 by Gailey
	the topic is dealing with my self (Preview) Hi every one,my problem is dealing with my self i have a problem with a women she in AA too like me,we would have fight on line but i wanted her love she would never give it to me and we would argu and get mad at each other and i would take her out of my ims but she would keep taking me back and post t...	marty	3	380	Nov 27, 2006 by marty
	Service worker (Preview) Wow....I can't believe I have posted 500 times. It has been a great journey of personal discovery. I wanted to thank my al-anon online family for helping me find my way! Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season! Yours in recovery, J...	just me	5	363	Nov 27, 2006 by rtexas
	Snoopy on personality (Preview) From my experience, what some call personality disorders are the symptoms of being an Addict. When they don't use, they still have the symptoms of aism. Aism is NOT the product of an mental disorder. There are clearly genetic markers that show a person is an addict and or has the potential to be one. I...	debilyn	1	431	Nov 27, 2006 by Becky1
	New to this...need advice (Preview) Hey everyone, I am coming to this board because of my mother-in-law and her alcoholism. Since I've known her she has always been an alcoholic and I have had to deal with her for about 4 years...nothing compared to the nearly 10 that my husband has had to go through. She was sober for most of his childhood u... >	Mom2EB	4	380	Nov 27, 2006 by missingKodiak
	How to trust again (Preview) My AH has been sober since September 3/06. We are both going to therapy, alanon, AA, and church. Things are falling into place but I have a hard time trusting his word. When he was drinking he would break promises, do things that he said he would never do but did anway. I want to trust him on an issue that he s...	albertarose	9	587	Nov 27, 2006 by snoopy
	Update on my situation...... (Preview) Update on my situation......	Rebecca	2	301	Nov 26, 2006 by Tiger2006
	dealing with my self (Preview) i have a problem want love from a person who say they dont love me,i feel it might have some to do with my dad i was always trying to get him to love me even up to the day he die, i thought the person was in this morning meeting,i try to talk to this person when the meeting was over but she would not talk to me it ma...	marty	1	381	Nov 26, 2006 by isabela40
	In a lot of pain (Preview) New to this site...not to Alanon. I am in need of a meeting for experience, strength and hope to get through a painful divorce. My heart feels like it is going to explode inside my chest. I have to go, there really is no other option but I hurt so bad today I can hardly breath. Please share with me, M...	maureen	4	415	Nov 26, 2006 by Andrea12
	Daughter in danger...... (Preview) Hi All, As you may remember I have an AH, we have set boundaries, he has his own house where he can go when he drinks, when he is sober he is welcome to spend time with me and our 3 children - it works for us. My latest worry is my 15yo daughter who has (I just learned) been drinking alot. She dr...	Feather	6	404	Nov 26, 2006 by tishrijo
	my anger and my fears (Preview) I am still having a hard time with this insanity and craziness of the disease. Why the lies, why the provoking of fear and anxiety? I've had enough adn just want to let go of it all. I was away for the holiday and had a wonderful time with my family. My A did not want to go with me and...	twinkie	4	333	Nov 26, 2006 by Newme
	rough day (Preview) H behaved like a total ass today, shouting at everybody. Later, he said he had a knot in his shoulder. I asked him if it matched the one he had been earning on his head. :) He apologized, realized he had missed his meds a couple days in a row. Sometimes, I think I should get myself...	ShelBell	2	299	Nov 26, 2006 by Newme
	Thank You Friends (Preview) Just wanted to post and thank all my dear friends who responded with such love to my "falling" post. I always know I can count on you to lift me up when I am feeling low. Your support and understanding mean the world to me. We often use that phrase "what goes around, comes around" when talking about hur...	kismetstrand	2	296	Nov 26, 2006 by bob6502
	Another Newbie Introduction (Preview) Hello, my name is Elly and I am an Adult Child of an alcoholic. He hasn't been in my life for 34 years now. But the effects of his alcoholism have been with me daily throughout my life. And, I've only now - in the last few weeks - discovered this!!! I married and divorced an alcoholi...	Elly	7	369	Nov 25, 2006 by irish54
	a home away from hell (Preview) I sat down this morning to check up on the board and am overwhelmed at the love I feel here. We care so deeply for others and always have. It occurs to me that turning that kind of love IN is what has brought me the greatest joy. It has been the catalyst for all the love I am able to see around me now. I finally c...	lovette	3	424	Nov 25, 2006 by david62
	Off Topic - Mr. Gobbles (Preview) [img]http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/kismetstrand/album?.dir=fb91scd&.src=ph&store=&prodid=&.done=http%3a//pg.phot...	kismetstrand	1	308	Nov 25, 2006 by david62
	Just an update on my sister's pic! (Preview) Dear ALL, I really appreciate your warm words...I didn't touch the picture and neither he did...I even decided to don't go into that room to avoid hurting myself...I will not touch it and will wait for him to clean up his actions! I am new in the fellowship and proud of my little thoughts and decisions...	Newme	1	288	Nov 25, 2006 by ally
	Just a quick question before he wakes up! (Preview) Hi everyone...my A husband came back home drunk last night and without any argue I found my little sister's pic in pieces this morning (They have had some problems in the past)...what should be my reaction when he wakes up? it has really broken my heart...should I talk about it?leave the pieces right t...	Newme	11	751	Nov 25, 2006 by bigwheel888
	I'm a newby... thought I'd introduce myself:) (Preview) This is my first time to visit this site, and so far the topics seem very helpful. My fiance is an alcoholic and drug addict:( The first year of us dating he was sober. I actually met him when he had been 6 months sober. So I was never introduced to "B" the addict. Until recently that is. After a year and a half...	BnA2006	12	581	Nov 25, 2006 by albertarose
	newbie (Preview) Hi. Just looking for some ways to get through. My AH and I have been together for 8 years. We have 3 kids, I am a fulltime student (graduating with my Associate in Arts in 3 weeks!) and I am really praying hard I can tolerate him until I can find a job that will support me & the kids. He is outside in his "man cave...	bigwheel888	3	356	Nov 25, 2006 by abbyal
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