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Very Hurt
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HI.. Its been forever it seems like since i have posted here.. Alot has been happening and have had alot on my plate.. In Nov i was in a bad car accident.. I was hit by two cars.. Still have fears and stuff from that.. :ashamedstill have nightmares about all of it.. :c...
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smiles
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I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape, so I got my doctor's permission to join a fitness club and start exercising. I decided to take an aerobics class for seniors. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. But, by the time I got my leotards on, the class was over...
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Hungry! Back to the start - NO Coffee for me this morn! argh
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IF I DONT GET SOME MEAT INTO MY BODY SOON IM GONNA COLLAPSE! Honest to God! I got on the scale this morning and my weight is below goal! Its below where a doctor told me to stop! Ive been having cereal, yogurt, pudding, shakes, etc. I NEED MEAT! I want my "crazy eating habit" life back! Ok so they tell you in th...
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First time f2f
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So, I went to my first f2f meeting in our new town last night. I was scared to death. I walked in to the building and it was packed. People were loud and just stared at me. I finally walked in to an office where I was greeted by two very nice women who asked if I was there for Al-Anon....
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being powerless is NOT being helpless
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You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.
Owning Our Power
We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power.
The first step in recovery is accepting powerlessness. There are some things we can't...
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patience
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There have been people that come in to the room and are angry but they take it out on people in the room and i don't think that is right. It is hard to help someone that is so angry. I feel the whole room gets angry because of the person and I really don't think people need for people to be getting mad. We c...
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anyone from MA going to Informed
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Informed Women Healthy Women seminar in Marlboro May 13th? I attended the past 2 yrs and thought they were worthwhile.
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A new week
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Well a new week has started. I don't even know what I feel this week. After him using a couple of days last week--we really had some good talks, but I still don't feel like he has accepted things--His lack of control!!! I was a little optimistic last week, but after this weekend I just don't k...
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Feeling Better!
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I just wanted to say that I actually went through the day yesterday without crying all day long! Early yesterday morning, deep inside, I heard - "Just give it to God". God was speaking to me and I knew it! A beautiful peace covered me inside and out! I can breath again! You know...
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More confused
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So, I spent some time reading posts this morning and I think I'm more confused now than I was before. Instanity is being honest with our A about the affects their addiction has on us? That last night after "a couple beers", more like four just in the final 1/4 of the game and God only knows how...
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when i am tempted to feel sorry for me
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Today's thought is:
If you go around thinking you are being cheated, life becomes very unpleasant. --Felix Salten
Sometimes we feel cheated that we have been given this darn disease to cope with. Why us? Why can't we just be like normal people? Why did we have to get into so much trouble and pai...
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Rehab
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I am fairly new to the Alanon program I need some ESH since my A husband is coming home in the next few days he is been in a Rehab since Jan.4 I am happy for him and yet i am nervous can someone give me some pointers on what to do or not to do on my part? thanks
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Acceptance
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Hello group,
Thank you to all who answered my post on Friday. I do feel like I'm making progress in learning to accept that this disease is only part of the problem. The other part of the problem is me, and my desire to control everything in my life. Some days I am so angry at my...
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there may be another trial
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just spoke with my mother who isnt making sense to me right now either. She said there may be another trial when brother gets finished with Bridgewater Feb 28th. Guess he's up on 2 charges. If guilty there may be more jailtime. He's talking about a 1/2way house. They want to send him for Anger Management...
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Barbara
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a little bit of positivity
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i can see a little bit how me and my a's separation is a good thing. before i asked him to leave, he was slacking on going to meetings. because i atended alanon meetings at the same time and place as his meetings, i too was slacking on my meetings. if he wasn't going i didnt go. the past week i can truely see how...
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Growing
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I am growing so much lately. I am on step three. I have become an op and been able to help alot of people out. It is a great feeling. My husband and I are getting along. I am having a good life at this moment. My job is going good. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:07, 2006-02-06
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Please.. I really need advice!
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Just posting to say this is the first time I've been on this site and I REALLY need advice, I love my dad sooo much and I miss him being the dad and me being the kid! I don't know what to do to help him!!!! He's trying so many things, the bible, rehab, and AA. Am I just selfish wanting him to grow up?? HELP Reply if...
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Realism
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I play a computer game, Shanghai, it is a match the tiles game and when you clear the board a little saying pops up. Today, the saying was "Your realism will avoid unpleasant surprises."
Sometimes I often think the timing of these sayings is pretty funny. Last night as I was tryin...
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do you journal? and when did you start?
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Ive often thought of journaling (again). Im so afraid of ppl finding what Im writing though.
Do you journal? do you find it helpful? When/how did you start?
When you read Daily Meditation books do you find yourself highlighting certain parts?
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Barbara
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he`s so weird!
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My A Rarely calls. Called tonight to see what was going on. told him I was having friends over for superbowl(I live in Detroit area so very big this year)Called 3 times to ask me if I had a guy over...told him yes,I had 3 guys over but they had wives with them...each time he hung up he said he loved me...hasn`...
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allison
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Revelation! Im not crazy! Even our son is picking up on what husband says
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and son notices Dad says 1 thing 1 minute and completely opposite the next! The words coming from his mouth are twisted! But at least Im not the only one hearing them! Im not going nuts! (well not more so - lol)
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Barbara
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taking care of dad?
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Hi My dad is an alcoholic, trying so hard to recover, but His life sucks so bad, I can't help thinking that I would just want to get drunk if I were in his shoes. He's 54 or 55, got divorced from his wife of almost 30 years, got 2 DD's doesn't have a license or a job, bouncing checks left and right, owes everyone...
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Delusional
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He is drinking very heavily constantly now. He has become delusional. He is accusing me of cheating on him (which I am not) but if he doesn't knock this stuff off, I may start just to give him something real to complain about.
Is this a normal progress of the addiction that their brain cel...
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ok so they have those willing to be sponsors raise their hands at the meetings
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but beyond that how do we know their backgrounds? How do we know who will be best for us? This meeting has ppl raise their hands before we break into groups. Im looking for a female with an active drinking husband and maybe another family member. Someone who knows the jail and rehab systems. How do I find t...
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What exactly is a sponser
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Hi
I have been to 3 meetings, although I do visit this site daily. This might seem ignorant but what exactly does a sponser do, when do you get one and how will I benefit etc. as yet no one has mentioned sponser's at the meetings.
Also at meeting...
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GO STEELERS!
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GO STEELERS!!!
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poem/song lyrics to comfort someone just admitted to rehab/jail
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Since Im bad at words is there a poem/song lyrics I can print out to enclosed in a card to my brother who just entered rehab/jail?
What about lyrics for a mother who just had to commit their child?
Id like to send them both a little comfort - thank you
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am I enabling?
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Am I enabling? I don't buy liquor, look for it, nor spill it out. I refuse to wash his liquor cups, or messes. If he breaks something accidently, he cleans it up. If he passes out in an awkward position or on the floor, I leave him there. I never wake him for work, no do his c...
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Why is it with A's We have to leave them alone, but in the real world......
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Okay, sometimes when I sit here and read posts, my mind starts turning with all kinds of questions. I want to see what kinds of answers I get from this one:
Why is it that we are supposed to completely step back from addicts and let them do what they want, chose their own paths, make their own decis...
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ever attend a religious service and REALLY identify with the priest/etc?
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Went to 4pm Mass yesterday. Priest has alot of 12step background which is why I left my church and joined his back in Oct. Definately identified myself w/him yesterday. He was speaking of rehab, Letting Go and that we can still have Hope. I have just never identified myself at Church in the past as much a...
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Barbara
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Gambling
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This is an article on another kind of addiction. For some reason the idea of being able to spend years cleaning up a mess appeals to me. It means redemption for me. maresie Going to the dogs Having a bet in Britain has never been easier or more alluring. Online gambling is the new internet success story....
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Please, I need your thoughts.....
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I'm married 17 yr. to a good person who happens to be an alcoholic. He comes home, bring $; cooks; cleans, isn't abusive mentally or physically. The bad, he goes into his little world alone & starts drinking till he passes out nightly. He has recently started see...
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link to AlAnon speaker tapes for car
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This was asked today in a f2f. Where can I find a link to AlAnon speaker tapes for the car? Thank you
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Barbara
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Lot of changes going on...
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Dear all, Thank you for being here. Until two months ago, I thought my life was in one of its most peaceful places. And it really was. In the past couple of months, though, lots of change has come into my life. My life has been riddled with alcoholic relationships, through the years. Thankfully, I am not l...
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verge of breakdown
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I think I am on the verge of an anxiety attack. My A went to pittsburgh to his friends house and a whole bunch of them are going out. Not to any "clubs" he said, just local. Anyway, this friend of his is a pig. He cheats on every woman he is with, including his ex wife. that is what started my anxiety. I have all t...
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am I wrong?
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My A husband has been gone atleast 6 weeks and hasn`t given me any money.Has seen the kids 3 times for ten minutes.One day he will call me and say he loves me,the next I`m a b***c and he wants a divorce.Then I wont hear from him for days.when he comes over he picks fights with me and makes me miserable.He call...
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addition: Please I need your thoughts
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I've left an addition to my earlier post of:
Please I need your thougts.
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DeAnna
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thanks to everybody from Koala
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Hi everybody,
Thanks to everybody who replied to my posting. This is the first time I meet people who understand my situation. My friends don't. They want me to throw my A out so I would be happy and peaceful and get on with my own life. They don't understand that he is a real nice guy when he is sober (that...
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koala
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Decision
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I get closer and closer to the door. But, it seems to be taking forever before I can go through it. I am impatient... but, I have always been impatient. In order to divorce him I must first sell the business that we own jointly. It is on the market. It is listed with a realt...
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ditto
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what exactly happens in a 30day rehab w/a jail sentence?
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Just wondering what type of treatment my a brother (charged with assault & battery) may be going through. Daily/hourly(?) AAmeetings? would there be anger management classes? What do they do with ppl in rehab? When do these ppl finally get through the anger and decide to listen?
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Barbara
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Just when I think my nights this wk cant get any worse
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one of the the tooth sockets where 2 teeth were removed at 3pm Fri (its now 5am Sat) wont stop throwing bloodclots! I havent slept more than 1/2hr at a time (if that). I keep watching the time go by on the clock.
I need some physical and mental rest! This has been a very very difficult week. Now it looks lik...
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Barbara
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How many f2f do you attend? and when did you finally "up your program"?
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I attended a M & a W f2f back in Oct. But due to the excuse of "Its to late in the day" never returned. Was hiding the fact that I attend AlAnon from husband. I did find a Sat morn and do attend every week. (Yesterday I got out of bed, didnt shower/brush teeth put on a baseball hat and off I went - ya I wasnt fee...
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Barbara
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a few days in and impatient
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My A has been home from rehab for 5 days. He has been doing the right thing by me, taking care of things around the house, had his taxes done and paid off some bills, applied for some jobs....today he went to a meeting and was a half hour late. He called but after the half hour. When he cam...
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Kim
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Allowing myself to heal
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Hello Group,
I got up the nerve last night to have a discussion with my "a" about our relationship and where things are headed. He has been very distant but not cold, just not affectionate. He said calmly to me that he meant what he said last Friday night about wanting to pay his half of the...
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advice needed.
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thanks to everyone who responded to my nervous breakdown post. It helped me a lot. anyway, my A called me 8 TIMES last night! I either didn't hear the phone b/c I was sleeping, or it didn't ring b/c we were having MAJOR phone problems last night, where if I was able to call out, no one could really hear me. I d...
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lilleah
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Higher Power
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When my brother attended detox and they started talking about God and a higher power he was totally turned off by it. He says that the AA steps are just some sort of a cult where they push religion on a person. Is there any alternative to this part? I know they say that your higher power doesn't necessarily...
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Off topic but....
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My appologies for being off topic on this board but.....
I would like to ask you all to keep my 72yo Mum in your prayers.
Twelve months ago we went through a horrible time, when she was diagnosed with cancer in both kidneys and the Bile Duct. She surprised her surgeons by getting through a huge...
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Feather
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Enabling?
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Here's the story: my brother got a rebate check from the government for $400. He took off for the day yesterday, came back with $280. He said he paid $100 at the storage facility where he has been keeping some of his furniture (he had until yesterday to pay his bill or it would be auctioned off because he ha...
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Jayda
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Support Needed
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Okay, my A called said he had to tell me something. So I waited, of course if you keep the same playmates and play on the same playground you are bound to play the same games. He said....."I've been drinking and I just wanted to tell you, I'm very sorry, I don't want to fight. I calmly re...
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marmare
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Dr Tells Me to Take Care of Myself
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I went to the dr today for a minor thing (follow up to quitting some meds) and she told me I have to quit stressing and take care of myself. I had a complete melt down and cried through the entire time I was there (I'm not a cryer, normally.) She's echoing Al-Anon, and I guess I just don't feel up...
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WakingUp
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We know something is wrong, but--------
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We know something is very wrong but we cant figure out what it si or we think we have identified the problem but can never seem to solve it. We may suspect that drinkign has something to do with our situaiton, but we dont rea want to think about it: afterall alcoholism can be embarrassing. Or we may be acute...
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Last Night
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Thank you all!
My A did show up, we didn't talk about his drinking very much. He was intoxicated as I thought he would be. He had drank, but I think my brain pictured a stumbling drunk man. We did however talk about feelings, about nothing changing if nothing changes. That b...
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thanks for all the encouragement...
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I just want to thank you all for your encouraging words. It helps to know I'm not alone, although at times of "war" with my daughter I feel helpless and alone.
She has not moved out yet...I asked her if she was moving out, and she said no. I said, you have bags pac...
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miss independent
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today was a very difficult day.i had to go grocery shopping for the first time on my own. after proscastinating all day i decided to go. i actually did my makeup and hair too and looked and felt great. so i went and got my shopping done with a few hurdles. i couldnt reach some stuff off the top shelves but man...
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overidentification
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Last year at this time my A came down with a debiliating illness. He developed a muscle disorder that left him in a great deal of pain and virtually bed ridden.
I over identified with his illness because I have had my own illness. I did not wait to be asked to help. I jumped right in drew money out...
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maresie
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What a great day!
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Wow! Today was great! The hubby is moving out. He has been packing all day. I have been doing a lot of thumb twittling and not sure what to do. I offered to lend a hand....not to get him out faster, but just to help. He didn't want any. That is fine. He s...
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My abbreviated "Lead"--it's still fairly long!
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I was born in the UK in 1940, in Liverpool. My family was already in great disarray—my mother suffering from mental illness, and my dad an active alcoholic. They were very poor, and moved a lot. Six of their eight children had already died of infantile diseases such as diphtheria a...
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i'm dreaming
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i think i am dreaming. who do i think/hope he will be?
my father is an A and i no longer am having contact with him. his behavior sickens me...anyway--he is on permenant social security disability (do to his drinking problem). i hold a bit of resentment for this b/c i have epilepsy(seizure disorder) a...
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BREAKAWAY - (Sing-A-Long)
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Well, do what you have to do. Get the travel channel on, or checkout a travel video, while on your treadmill, ha, ha. Close your eyes, or actually purchase a bus ticket, or an overnight stay w/a jacuzzi, but add this music for meditation! &...
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Newbie Post (2nd attempt)
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I spent a lot of time, composing my thoughts, finding my words, trying to be as coherent as possible while feeling that my sanity was hanging by a thread.
Satisfied with my efforts, I clicked the submit button -- but at the same moment, my internet service was interrupted. So it d...
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Taryn
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