Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

flintfeet · flintfeet

i just recently have no contact with my dad. he is an A who chose drinking over his family.i think i am torturing myself. i keep thinking about my dad. i wonder what he is doing, where he is, what he's thinking, who he's with, how he is doing...blah blah blah. i know that he isn't thinking of me, and...

Lindy · Lindy

Living with a laid off alcoholic is draining my energy. I don't know how long I can take this and how long I can keep avoiding a fight. Last night when I walked in the door, my husband was of course drunk. He wasn't stumbling around, which I would've preferred because then at least he would just pass out. He...

bobump · bobump

Why I fired my secretary..... Last Week Was My Birthday And I Didn't Feel Very Well Waking Up That Morning. I Went Downstairs For Breakfast Hoping My Wife Would Be Pleasant And Say, "Happy Birthday!", And Possibly Have A Present For Me. As It Turned Out, She Barely Said Good Morning, Let Alone...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Got this in an email and thought it was rather nice. Feel free to insert the Higher Power of your choice

Monday Wash Day Lord, help me wash away all my selfishness and vanity, so I may serve you with perfect humility through the week ahead. Tuesday Ironing Day Dear Lord, help me iron out al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

my kids are being cheated!! it is my father who is doing this to them. he used to be involved with them. he would drink occasionally, then more and more and now he has gotten so bad that we don't talk to him anymore. he is never sober! so we have no contact with him. it's not good for them & not goo...

kitty · kitty

Something in this morning's meeting reminded me of an expression I picked up along the way & clung close to my heart always. I have been called an old soul, born with a sense of an ability to listen & be empathetic & even transmute other's pain, picking up...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I have really been struggling emotionally these past few days with my "a" and our relationship as some of you know. I have been feeling some real intense mood swings the last couple of weeks. I get bluesy at least once a month

, but I've never really had this overwhelming feeling of s...

JCSunshine · JCSunshine

Hi Everyone, I am new to the forum but not new to addiction. My name is Carla, and I'll try to explain in a nutshell my story. I come from a broken home with an alcoholic father that abused us kids and my mom. He abandoned us for an 18 yr old girl( I was 14 then). 21 years later, he called and wanted to speak with m...

diane53 · diane53

16 years ago my alcoholic husband went to AA and got sober.He has been sober ever since.The relationship seems to have had it's ups and downs but this time it has really hit the bottom.He met someone online,another recovering alcoholic and he wants to persue that relationship.Soon as we can se...

rtexas · rtexas

I had a hard time finding a site I felt would be helpful to post on. I would appreciate some input as I have noone to discuss this with at the moment. My A wife and I have been really struggling for the last 4-5 years. One seperation (her idea after a drunken fling with a bar buddy), many fig...

Lindy · Lindy

My alcoholic (but won't admit it) husband has been laid off now for six weeks. He has been cooking supper and doing dishes, which I appreciate and have told him. Yesterday, he asked me when I would be home for supper. I told him around 5:15. I picked up my son at his after school program and didn't get home u...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i took the 12 Steps to the latrine last night i decided i was going to tile my master bathroom floor....' i dug up all the old linoleum tiles, and i had the floor nice and clean and ready to go!!! things were going GREAT till i got around having to "tile around the toidie" and thats when thi...

learning76 · learning76

Hi! I read the book 'Women Who Love Too Much' & recognised myself in it. Being attracted to 'wrong' men... etc. The author suggests joining Al-Anon or something similar. I'm not sure if I 'qualify' for going there. What do you think? I don't have an alcoholic in my immediate family, except f...

Barbara · Barbara

Half Moon? Sober in the Sun? anyone join any of these organizations?

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Just a quick note to explain I won't be replying much for a while. I have a reoccuring eye problem called optic neuritis, can be stress related, a side effect of MS or my body just randomly attacking a nerve for no reason. In 4 years they have not found an answer and there is no medi...

Nettie · Nettie

So I get home from work, pick up our daughter to run an errand and return home to this: A: "There's a meeting tonight so I had my beer and I'm going to the meeting, what do you think about that?" ME: "Fine with me, enjoy" I'm thinking, how crazy is this? What on earth was he trying to prove? ...

kitty · kitty

Talking to a drunk person is like banging your head against a brick wall. Maybe, the wall makes more sense... eventually the wall will tell you, "yeah this does hurt, if you simply surrender, maybe I won't make u pass out w/ a concusion." Imagine working in a day care for ten yrs... ...

Nettie · Nettie

And here we go. I start the f2f meetings, one time and he's already starting. Wanting to know what's going on with "us". I explained that I'm trying to better myself, physically by working out and mentally by going to the meetings. That I needed to find serenity, as they say....

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I want to rush things (well ok alot of the time) and Im currently being reminded that its out of my control. I thought my mouth was getting better but no last night I lost another bloodclot. Back to the iced coffee this morn, mushy food for dinner, etc. Not working out either at Curves or WATP. I w...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I just wanted to thank you all for your support and encouragement. It has been a grounding force in my life to read your posts and to understand that there is hope and happiness could lie a head for me. I spent my first night away from my "a" i did better than I thought I would.&n...

Barbara · Barbara

Just cannot get myself back out of the house after working a fullday and stopping at the gym on the way home. Every once in a while I tell myself I'll return to 2 weekday night meetings but just cannot get myself to them. Anyone else relate? Its dark, its cold, etc.

Cyn · Cyn

I miss you all!! I cant get on the chat room at work - and I dont get home until 10pm everynight and I go right to bed... Only 60 someodd more days of this schedule!!

maresie · maresie

I think maybe my HP meant for me to hook up with my boyfriend to point out my boundarylessness and how little I do self care. I get absolutely furious with my boyfriend about his boundarylessness and how it affects us. Currently our lawn mower is not working and it is because he lent it to a friend wh...

Stormstayed · Stormstayed

Hi, I would just like some input or experiences with your A's drinking and driving. My A had figured out this morning that he didn't have enough liquor to get him through the night and was going to the car to drive into town (we live in the country about 25min out of town) anyways I had the keys to bo...

Feather · Feather

Hi Everyone!

I just wanted to share my latest favourite song. I find it is a great spirit raiser and very motivating! Do try to download it and have a listen, I have included the lyrics below. "Proud" Sung by Heather Small I look into the window of my mind Reflections of the fears I kn...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

HI..

Its been forever it seems like since i have posted here..

Alot has been happening and have had alot on my plate..

In Nov i was in a bad car accident.. I was hit by two cars..

Still have fears and stuff from that.. :ashamedstill have nightmares about all of it.. :c...

franB · franB

I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape, so I got my doctor's permission to join a fitness club and start exercising. I decided to take an aerobics class for seniors. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. But, by the time I got my leotards on, the class was over...

Barbara · Barbara

IF I DONT GET SOME MEAT INTO MY BODY SOON IM GONNA COLLAPSE! Honest to God! I got on the scale this morning and my weight is below goal! Its below where a doctor told me to stop! Ive been having cereal, yogurt, pudding, shakes, etc. I NEED MEAT! I want my "crazy eating habit" life back! Ok so they tell you in th...

Nettie · Nettie

So, I went to my first f2f meeting in our new town last night. I was scared to death. I walked in to the building and it was packed. People were loud and just stared at me. I finally walked in to an office where I was greeted by two very nice women who asked if I was there for Al-Anon....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Owning Our Power We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power. The first step in recovery is accepting powerlessness. There are some things we can't...

nycbt · nycbt

There have been people that come in to the room and are angry but they take it out on people in the room and i don't think that is right. It is hard to help someone that is so angry. I feel the whole room gets angry because of the person and I really don't think people need for people to be getting mad. We c...

Barbara · Barbara

Informed Women Healthy Women seminar in Marlboro May 13th? I attended the past 2 yrs and thought they were worthwhile.

hudsond · hudsond

Well a new week has started. I don't even know what I feel this week. After him using a couple of days last week--we really had some good talks, but I still don't feel like he has accepted things--His lack of control!!! I was a little optimistic last week, but after this weekend I just don't k...

ris · ris

I just wanted to say that I actually went through the day yesterday without crying all day long! Early yesterday morning, deep inside, I heard - "Just give it to God". God was speaking to me and I knew it! A beautiful peace covered me inside and out! I can breath again! You know...

Nettie · Nettie

So, I spent some time reading posts this morning and I think I'm more confused now than I was before. Instanity is being honest with our A about the affects their addiction has on us? That last night after "a couple beers", more like four just in the final 1/4 of the game and God only knows how...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: If you go around thinking you are being cheated, life becomes very unpleasant. --Felix Salten Sometimes we feel cheated that we have been given this darn disease to cope with. Why us? Why can't we just be like normal people? Why did we have to get into so much trouble and pai...

lory · lory

I am fairly new to the Alanon program I need some ESH since my A husband is coming home in the next few days he is been in a Rehab since Jan.4 I am happy for him and yet i am nervous can someone give me some pointers on what to do or not to do on my part? thanks

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, Thank you to all who answered my post on Friday. I do feel like I'm making progress in learning to accept that this disease is only part of the problem. The other part of the problem is me, and my desire to control everything in my life. Some days I am so angry at my...

Barbara · Barbara

just spoke with my mother who isnt making sense to me right now either. She said there may be another trial when brother gets finished with Bridgewater Feb 28th. Guess he's up on 2 charges. If guilty there may be more jailtime. He's talking about a 1/2way house. They want to send him for Anger Management...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i can see a little bit how me and my a's separation is a good thing. before i asked him to leave, he was slacking on going to meetings. because i atended alanon meetings at the same time and place as his meetings, i too was slacking on my meetings. if he wasn't going i didnt go. the past week i can truely see how...

nycbt · nycbt

I am growing so much lately. I am on step three. I have become an op and been able to help alot of people out. It is a great feeling. My husband and I are getting along. I am having a good life at this moment. My job is going good. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:07, 2006-02-06

jkl · jkl

Just posting to say this is the first time I've been on this site and I REALLY need advice, I love my dad sooo much and I miss him being the dad and me being the kid! I don't know what to do to help him!!!! He's trying so many things, the bible, rehab, and AA. Am I just selfish wanting him to grow up?? HELP Reply if...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I play a computer game, Shanghai, it is a match the tiles game and when you clear the board a little saying pops up. Today, the saying was "Your realism will avoid unpleasant surprises." Sometimes I often think the timing of these sayings is pretty funny. Last night as I was tryin...

Barbara · Barbara

Ive often thought of journaling (again). Im so afraid of ppl finding what Im writing though. Do you journal? do you find it helpful? When/how did you start? When you read Daily Meditation books do you find yourself highlighting certain parts?

allison · allison

My A Rarely calls. Called tonight to see what was going on. told him I was having friends over for superbowl(I live in Detroit area so very big this year)Called 3 times to ask me if I had a guy over...told him yes,I had 3 guys over but they had wives with them...each time he hung up he said he loved me...hasn`...

Barbara · Barbara

and son notices Dad says 1 thing 1 minute and completely opposite the next! The words coming from his mouth are twisted! But at least Im not the only one hearing them! Im not going nuts! (well not more so - lol)

jkl · jkl

Hi My dad is an alcoholic, trying so hard to recover, but His life sucks so bad, I can't help thinking that I would just want to get drunk if I were in his shoes. He's 54 or 55, got divorced from his wife of almost 30 years, got 2 DD's doesn't have a license or a job, bouncing checks left and right, owes everyone...

ditto · ditto

He is drinking very heavily constantly now. He has become delusional. He is accusing me of cheating on him (which I am not) but if he doesn't knock this stuff off, I may start just to give him something real to complain about. Is this a normal progress of the addiction that their brain cel...

Barbara · Barbara

but beyond that how do we know their backgrounds? How do we know who will be best for us? This meeting has ppl raise their hands before we break into groups. Im looking for a female with an active drinking husband and maybe another family member. Someone who knows the jail and rehab systems. How do I find t...

penny · penny

Hi I have been to 3 meetings, although I do visit this site daily. This might seem ignorant but what exactly does a sponser do, when do you get one and how will I benefit etc. as yet no one has mentioned sponser's at the meetings. Also at meeting...

sdisnie · sdisnie

GO STEELERS!!!

Barbara · Barbara

Since Im bad at words is there a poem/song lyrics I can print out to enclosed in a card to my brother who just entered rehab/jail? What about lyrics for a mother who just had to commit their child? Id like to send them both a little comfort - thank you

DeAnna · DeAnna

Am I enabling? I don't buy liquor, look for it, nor spill it out. I refuse to wash his liquor cups, or messes. If he breaks something accidently, he cleans it up. If he passes out in an awkward position or on the floor, I leave him there. I never wake him for work, no do his c...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Okay, sometimes when I sit here and read posts, my mind starts turning with all kinds of questions. I want to see what kinds of answers I get from this one: Why is it that we are supposed to completely step back from addicts and let them do what they want, chose their own paths, make their own decis...

Barbara · Barbara

Went to 4pm Mass yesterday. Priest has alot of 12step background which is why I left my church and joined his back in Oct. Definately identified myself w/him yesterday. He was speaking of rehab, Letting Go and that we can still have Hope. I have just never identified myself at Church in the past as much a...

maresie · maresie

This is an article on another kind of addiction. For some reason the idea of being able to spend years cleaning up a mess appeals to me. It means redemption for me. maresie Going to the dogs Having a bet in Britain has never been easier or more alluring. Online gambling is the new internet success story....

DeAnna · DeAnna

I'm married 17 yr. to a good person who happens to be an alcoholic. He comes home, bring $; cooks; cleans, isn't abusive mentally or physically. The bad, he goes into his little world alone & starts drinking till he passes out nightly. He has recently started see...

Barbara · Barbara

This was asked today in a f2f. Where can I find a link to AlAnon speaker tapes for the car? Thank you

mebjk · mebjk

Dear all, Thank you for being here. Until two months ago, I thought my life was in one of its most peaceful places. And it really was. In the past couple of months, though, lots of change has come into my life. My life has been riddled with alcoholic relationships, through the years. Thankfully, I am not l...

lilleah · lilleah

I think I am on the verge of an anxiety attack. My A went to pittsburgh to his friends house and a whole bunch of them are going out. Not to any "clubs" he said, just local. Anyway, this friend of his is a pig. He cheats on every woman he is with, including his ex wife. that is what started my anxiety. I have all t...

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	torturing myself... (Preview) i just recently have no contact with my dad. he is an A who chose drinking over his family.i think i am torturing myself. i keep thinking about my dad. i wonder what he is doing, where he is, what he's thinking, who he's with, how he is doing...blah blah blah. i know that he isn't thinking of me, and...	flintfeet	5	495	Feb 9, 2006 by Flora123
	Couldn't stop the fight last night (Preview) Living with a laid off alcoholic is draining my energy. I don't know how long I can take this and how long I can keep avoiding a fight. Last night when I walked in the door, my husband was of course drunk. He wasn't stumbling around, which I would've preferred because then at least he would just pass out. He...	Lindy	4	440	Feb 9, 2006 by Flora123
	expectations will get ya..... (Preview) Why I fired my secretary..... Last Week Was My Birthday And I Didn't Feel Very Well Waking Up That Morning. I Went Downstairs For Breakfast Hoping My Wife Would Be Pleasant And Say, "Happy Birthday!", And Possibly Have A Present For Me. As It Turned Out, She Barely Said Good Morning, Let Alone...	bobump	7	366	Feb 9, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Prayers (Preview) Got this in an email and thought it was rather nice. Feel free to insert the Higher Power of your choice Monday Wash Day Lord, help me wash away all my selfishness and vanity, so I may serve you with perfect humility through the week ahead. Tuesday Ironing Day Dear Lord, help me iron out al...	kismetstrand	2	294	Feb 9, 2006 by bobump
	my kids are cheated! (Preview) *my kids are being cheated!!* it is my father who is doing this to them. he used to be involved with them. he would drink occasionally, then more and more and now he has gotten so bad that we don't talk to him anymore. he is never sober! so we have no contact with him. it's not good for them & not goo...	flintfeet	3	374	Feb 9, 2006 by canadianguy
	spirits in the material world (Preview) Something in this morning's meeting reminded me of an expression I picked up along the way & clung close to my heart always. I have been called an old soul, born with a sense of an ability to listen & be empathetic & even transmute other's pain, picking up...	kitty	4	530	Feb 9, 2006 by bobump
	I feel like I'm losing it... (Preview) I have really been struggling emotionally these past few days with my "a" and our relationship as some of you know. I have been feeling some real intense mood swings the last couple of weeks. I get bluesy at least once a month , but I've never really had this overwhelming feeling of s...	twinmom2	5	486	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	My Story (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new to the forum but not new to addiction. My name is Carla, and I'll try to explain in a nutshell my story. I come from a broken home with an alcoholic father that abused us kids and my mom. He abandoned us for an 18 yr old girl( I was 14 then). 21 years later, he called and wanted to speak with m...	JCSunshine	7	414	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	feeling so empty (Preview) 16 years ago my alcoholic husband went to AA and got sober.He has been sober ever since.The relationship seems to have had it's ups and downs but this time it has really hit the bottom.He met someone online,another recovering alcoholic and he wants to persue that relationship.Soon as we can se...	diane53	12	544	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	Newbie wanting to vent... (Preview) I had a hard time finding a site I felt would be helpful to post on. I would appreciate some input as I have noone to discuss this with at the moment. My A wife and I have been really struggling for the last 4-5 years. One seperation (her idea after a drunken fling with a bar buddy), many fig...	rtexas	11	496	Feb 9, 2006 by rtexas
	Opted out of the fight last night (Preview) My alcoholic (but won't admit it) husband has been laid off now for six weeks. He has been cooking supper and doing dishes, which I appreciate and have told him. Yesterday, he asked me when I would be home for supper. I told him around 5:15. I picked up my son at his after school program and didn't get home u...	Lindy	4	407	Feb 9, 2006 by maresie
	i took the 12steps to the latrine (Preview) i took the 12 Steps to the latrine last night i decided i was going to tile my master bathroom floor....' i dug up all the old linoleum tiles, and i had the floor nice and clean and ready to go!!! things were going GREAT till i got around having to "tile around the toidie" and thats when thi...	rosie light shines	9	413	Feb 9, 2006 by kitty
	Advice needed (Preview) Hi! I read the book 'Women Who Love Too Much' & recognised myself in it. Being attracted to 'wrong' men... etc. The author suggests joining Al-Anon or something similar. I'm not sure if I 'qualify' for going there. What do you think? I don't have an alcoholic in my immediate family, except f...	learning76	8	349	Feb 9, 2006 by learning76
	What AA/AlAnon affilities? are you involved with? (Preview) Half Moon? Sober in the Sun? anyone join any of these organizations?	Barbara	5	369	Feb 9, 2006 by abbyal
	Thank you and absence (Preview) Hello everyone, Just a quick note to explain I won't be replying much for a while. I have a reoccuring eye problem called optic neuritis, can be stress related, a side effect of MS or my body just randomly attacking a nerve for no reason. In 4 years they have not found an answer and there is no medi...	Jennifer	4	426	Feb 9, 2006 by jkl
	Absolute Craziness (Preview) So I get home from work, pick up our daughter to run an errand and return home to this: A: "There's a meeting tonight so I had my beer and I'm going to the meeting, what do you think about that?" ME: "Fine with me, enjoy" I'm thinking, how crazy is this? What on earth was he trying to prove? ...	Nettie	4	347	Feb 8, 2006 by lin0606
	drunken monekys (for newbies) (Preview) Talking to a drunk person is like banging your head against a brick wall. Maybe, the wall makes more sense... eventually the wall will tell you, "yeah this does hurt, if you simply surrender, maybe I won't make u pass out w/ a concusion." Imagine working in a day care for ten yrs... ...	kitty	6	397	Feb 8, 2006 by notsonew1111
	And so it begins (Preview) And here we go. I start the f2f meetings, one time and he's already starting. Wanting to know what's going on with "us". I explained that I'm trying to better myself, physically by working out and mentally by going to the meetings. That I needed to find serenity, as they say....	Nettie	4	338	Feb 8, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Easy Does It comes to mind this morning (Preview) Sometimes I want to rush things (well ok alot of the time) and Im currently being reminded that its out of my control. I thought my mouth was getting better but no last night I lost another bloodclot. Back to the iced coffee this morn, mushy food for dinner, etc. Not working out either at Curves or WATP. I w...	Barbara	3	345	Feb 8, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thank you for the encouragement (Preview) Hello Group, I just wanted to thank you all for your support and encouragement. It has been a grounding force in my life to read your posts and to understand that there is hope and happiness could lie a head for me. I spent my first night away from my "a" i did better than I thought I would.&n...	twinmom2	2	271	Feb 8, 2006 by Rebecca
	anyone else have trouble getting to those nighttime meetings after working all day? (Preview) Just cannot get myself back out of the house after working a fullday and stopping at the gym on the way home. Every once in a while I tell myself I'll return to 2 weekday night meetings but just cannot get myself to them. Anyone else relate? Its dark, its cold, etc.	Barbara	6	412	Feb 8, 2006 by Scamper
	Miss you guys (Preview) I miss you all!! I cant get on the chat room at work - and I dont get home until 10pm everynight and I go right to bed... Only 60 someodd more days of this schedule!!	Cyn	3	357	Feb 8, 2006 by Scamper
	Boundarylessness (Preview) I think maybe my HP meant for me to hook up with my boyfriend to point out my boundarylessness and how little I do self care. I get absolutely furious with my boyfriend about his boundarylessness and how it affects us. Currently our lawn mower is not working and it is because he lent it to a friend wh...	maresie	5	469	Feb 8, 2006 by maresie
	Drinking and Driving (Preview) Hi, I would just like some input or experiences with your A's drinking and driving. My A had figured out this morning that he didn't have enough liquor to get him through the night and was going to the car to drive into town (we live in the country about 25min out of town) anyways I had the keys to bo...	Stormstayed	6	490	Feb 8, 2006 by Lindy
	Just wanted to share this... (Preview) Hi Everyone! I just wanted to share my latest favourite song. I find it is a great spirit raiser and very motivating! Do try to download it and have a listen, I have included the lyrics below. "Proud" Sung by Heather Small I look into the window of my mind Reflections of the fears I kn...	Feather	1	366	Feb 8, 2006 by Barbara
	Very Hurt (Preview) HI.. Its been forever it seems like since i have posted here.. Alot has been happening and have had alot on my plate.. In Nov i was in a bad car accident.. I was hit by two cars.. Still have fears and stuff from that.. :ashamedstill have nightmares about all of it.. :c...	AngelBearPoet	11	415	Feb 8, 2006 by koala
	smiles (Preview) I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape, so I got my doctor's permission to join a fitness club and start exercising. I decided to take an aerobics class for seniors. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. But, by the time I got my leotards on, the class was over...	franB	4	359	Feb 8, 2006 by koala
	Hungry! Back to the start - NO Coffee for me this morn! argh (Preview) IF I DONT GET SOME MEAT INTO MY BODY SOON IM GONNA COLLAPSE! Honest to God! I got on the scale this morning and my weight is below goal! Its below where a doctor told me to stop! Ive been having cereal, yogurt, pudding, shakes, etc. I NEED MEAT! I want my "crazy eating habit" life back! Ok so they tell you in th...	Barbara	4	542	Feb 7, 2006 by whitie
	First time f2f (Preview) So, I went to my first f2f meeting in our new town last night. I was scared to death. I walked in to the building and it was packed. People were loud and just stared at me. I finally walked in to an office where I was greeted by two very nice women who asked if I was there for Al-Anon....	Nettie	4	368	Feb 7, 2006 by northstar
	being powerless is NOT being helpless (Preview) You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Owning Our Power We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power. The first step in recovery is accepting powerlessness. There are some things we can't...	rosie light shines	0	304	Feb 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	patience (Preview) There have been people that come in to the room and are angry but they take it out on people in the room and i don't think that is right. It is hard to help someone that is so angry. I feel the whole room gets angry because of the person and I really don't think people need for people to be getting mad. We c...	nycbt	7	444	Feb 7, 2006 by nycbt
	anyone from MA going to Informed (Preview) Informed Women Healthy Women seminar in Marlboro May 13th? I attended the past 2 yrs and thought they were worthwhile.	Barbara	0	267	Feb 7, 2006 by Barbara
	A new week (Preview) Well a new week has started. I don't even know what I feel this week. After him using a couple of days last week--we really had some good talks, but I still don't feel like he has accepted things--His lack of control!!! I was a little optimistic last week, but after this weekend I just don't k...	hudsond	2	293	Feb 7, 2006 by hudsond
	Feeling Better! (Preview) I just wanted to say that I actually went through the day yesterday without crying all day long! Early yesterday morning, deep inside, I heard - "Just give it to God". God was speaking to me and I knew it! A beautiful peace covered me inside and out! I can breath again! You know...	ris	2	338	Feb 7, 2006 by leo
	More confused (Preview) So, I spent some time reading posts this morning and I think I'm more confused now than I was before. Instanity is being honest with our A about the affects their addiction has on us? That last night after "a couple beers", more like four just in the final 1/4 of the game and God only knows how...	Nettie	7	468	Feb 7, 2006 by leo
	when i am tempted to feel sorry for me (Preview) Today's thought is: *If you go around thinking you are being cheated, life becomes very unpleasant. --Felix Salten* Sometimes we feel cheated that we have been given this darn disease to cope with. Why us? Why can't we just be like normal people? Why did we have to get into so much trouble and pai...	rosie light shines	7	426	Feb 7, 2006 by kitty
	Rehab (Preview) I am fairly new to the Alanon program I need some ESH since my A husband is coming home in the next few days he is been in a Rehab since Jan.4 I am happy for him and yet i am nervous can someone give me some pointers on what to do or not to do on my part? thanks	lory	4	381	Feb 7, 2006 by northstar
	Acceptance (Preview) Hello group, Thank you to all who answered my post on Friday. I do feel like I'm making progress in learning to accept that this disease is only part of the problem. The other part of the problem is me, and my desire to control everything in my life. Some days I am so angry at my...	twinmom2	3	459	Feb 6, 2006 by Jill
	there may be another trial (Preview) just spoke with my mother who isnt making sense to me right now either. She said there may be another trial when brother gets finished with Bridgewater Feb 28th. Guess he's up on 2 charges. If guilty there may be more jailtime. He's talking about a 1/2way house. They want to send him for Anger Management...	Barbara	5	397	Feb 6, 2006 by abbyal
	a little bit of positivity (Preview) i can see a little bit how me and my a's separation is a good thing. before i asked him to leave, he was slacking on going to meetings. because i atended alanon meetings at the same time and place as his meetings, i too was slacking on my meetings. if he wasn't going i didnt go. the past week i can truely see how...	notsonew1111	3	311	Feb 6, 2006 by confused
	Growing (Preview) I am growing so much lately. I am on step three. I have become an op and been able to help alot of people out. It is a great feeling. My husband and I are getting along. I am having a good life at this moment. My job is going good. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:07, 2006-02-06	nycbt	3	345	Feb 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Please.. I really need advice! (Preview) Just posting to say this is the first time I've been on this site and I REALLY need advice, I love my dad sooo much and I miss him being the dad and me being the kid! I don't know what to do to help him!!!! He's trying so many things, the bible, rehab, and AA. Am I just selfish wanting him to grow up?? HELP Reply if...	jkl	6	391	Feb 6, 2006 by kitty
	Realism (Preview) I play a computer game, Shanghai, it is a match the tiles game and when you clear the board a little saying pops up. Today, the saying was "Your realism will avoid unpleasant surprises." Sometimes I often think the timing of these sayings is pretty funny. Last night as I was tryin...	kismetstrand	7	381	Feb 6, 2006 by kitty
	do you journal? and when did you start? (Preview) Ive often thought of journaling (again). Im so afraid of ppl finding what Im writing though. Do you journal? do you find it helpful? When/how did you start? When you read Daily Meditation books do you find yourself highlighting certain parts?	Barbara	5	559	Feb 6, 2006 by dogscribe
	he`s so weird! (Preview) My A Rarely calls. Called tonight to see what was going on. told him I was having friends over for superbowl(I live in Detroit area so very big this year)Called 3 times to ask me if I had a guy over...told him yes,I had 3 guys over but they had wives with them...each time he hung up he said he loved me...hasn`...	allison	3	355	Feb 6, 2006 by allison
	Revelation! Im not crazy! Even our son is picking up on what husband says (Preview) and son notices Dad says 1 thing 1 minute and completely opposite the next! The words coming from his mouth are twisted! But at least Im not the only one hearing them! Im not going nuts! (well not more so - lol)	Barbara	2	376	Feb 6, 2006 by megan
	taking care of dad? (Preview) Hi My dad is an alcoholic, trying so hard to recover, but His life sucks so bad, I can't help thinking that I would just want to get drunk if I were in his shoes. He's 54 or 55, got divorced from his wife of almost 30 years, got 2 DD's doesn't have a license or a job, bouncing checks left and right, owes everyone...	jkl	2	368	Feb 6, 2006 by flintfeet
	Delusional (Preview) He is drinking very heavily constantly now. He has become delusional. He is accusing me of cheating on him (which I am not) but if he doesn't knock this stuff off, I may start just to give him something real to complain about. Is this a normal progress of the addiction that their brain cel...	ditto	6	392	Feb 6, 2006 by KathyS
	ok so they have those willing to be sponsors raise their hands at the meetings (Preview) but beyond that how do we know their backgrounds? How do we know who will be best for us? This meeting has ppl raise their hands before we break into groups. Im looking for a female with an active drinking husband and maybe another family member. Someone who knows the jail and rehab systems. How do I find t...	Barbara	7	454	Feb 6, 2006 by KathyS
	What exactly is a sponser (Preview) Hi I have been to 3 meetings, although I do visit this site daily. This might seem ignorant but what exactly does a sponser do, when do you get one and how will I benefit etc. as yet no one has mentioned sponser's at the meetings. Also at meeting...	penny	4	497	Feb 6, 2006 by penny
	GO STEELERS! (Preview) GO STEELERS!!!	sdisnie	4	306	Feb 6, 2006 by jkl
	poem/song lyrics to comfort someone just admitted to rehab/jail (Preview) Since Im bad at words is there a poem/song lyrics I can print out to enclosed in a card to my brother who just entered rehab/jail? What about lyrics for a mother who just had to commit their child? Id like to send them both a little comfort - thank you	Barbara	1	1744	Feb 6, 2006 by GammyRose
	am I enabling? (Preview) Am I enabling? I don't buy liquor, look for it, nor spill it out. I refuse to wash his liquor cups, or messes. If he breaks something accidently, he cleans it up. If he passes out in an awkward position or on the floor, I leave him there. I never wake him for work, no do his c...	DeAnna	4	790	Feb 6, 2006 by jkl
	Why is it with A's We have to leave them alone, but in the real world...... (Preview) Okay, sometimes when I sit here and read posts, my mind starts turning with all kinds of questions. I want to see what kinds of answers I get from this one: Why is it that we are supposed to completely step back from addicts and let them do what they want, chose their own paths, make their own decis...	sdisnie	7	445	Feb 6, 2006 by Lunamoth
	ever attend a religious service and REALLY identify with the priest/etc? (Preview) Went to 4pm Mass yesterday. Priest has alot of 12step background which is why I left my church and joined his back in Oct. Definately identified myself w/him yesterday. He was speaking of rehab, Letting Go and that we can still have Hope. I have just never identified myself at Church in the past as much a...	Barbara	4	346	Feb 5, 2006 by mebjk
	Gambling (Preview) This is an article on another kind of addiction. For some reason the idea of being able to spend years cleaning up a mess appeals to me. It means redemption for me. maresie Going to the dogs Having a bet in Britain has never been easier or more alluring. Online gambling is the new internet success story....	maresie	0	1550	Feb 5, 2006 by maresie
	Please, I need your thoughts..... (Preview) I'm married 17 yr. to a good person who happens to be an alcoholic. He comes home, bring $; cooks; cleans, isn't abusive mentally or physically. The bad, he goes into his little world alone & starts drinking till he passes out nightly. He has recently started see...	DeAnna	8	385	Feb 5, 2006 by lin0606
	link to AlAnon speaker tapes for car (Preview) This was asked today in a f2f. Where can I find a link to AlAnon speaker tapes for the car? Thank you	Barbara	5	610	Feb 5, 2006 by lin0606
	Lot of changes going on... (Preview) Dear all, Thank you for being here. Until two months ago, I thought my life was in one of its most peaceful places. And it really was. In the past couple of months, though, lots of change has come into my life. My life has been riddled with alcoholic relationships, through the years. Thankfully, I am not l...	mebjk	2	381	Feb 5, 2006 by maresie
	verge of breakdown (Preview) I think I am on the verge of an anxiety attack. My A went to pittsburgh to his friends house and a whole bunch of them are going out. Not to any "clubs" he said, just local. Anyway, this friend of his is a pig. He cheats on every woman he is with, including his ex wife. that is what started my anxiety. I have all t...	lilleah	5	467	Feb 5, 2006 by maresie
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