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like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes...
TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is the step in the right direction.
TEMPER IS WHAT GETS MOST OF US IN TROUBLE. PRIDE IS WHAT KEEPS US THERE! ***right now i am suffering from pride.
THOSE WHO DESERVE LOVE THE LEAST NEED IT THE MOST! ***sometimes i feel like my A doesn't deserve my love, but maybe it's not true.
YOU CAN WIN MORE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EARS THAN WITH YOUR MOUTH! ***i tend to be a talker, so i am going to work on my listening skills. this site has helped me a little with this.
THE BEST WAY TO BE SUCCESSFUL IS TO FOLLOW THE ADVICE YOU GIVE OTHERS! ***i give great advice, but sometimes don't always heed it.
SOMETIMES WE ARE SO BUSY ADDING UP OUR TROUBLES THAT WE FORGET ABOUT COUNTING OUR BLESSINGS! *** i'm guilty of this
THE BEST MEASURE OF A MAN'S CHARACTER IS NOT WHAT HE GETS FROM HIS ANCESTORS, BUT WHAT HE LEAVES HIS DESCENDANTS. *** i'm not going to comment on this b/c it might get negative.
A PERSON'S TRUE CHARACTER IS REVEALED BY WHAT HE DOES WHEN NO ONE IS WATCHING! ***i used to think that if i "babysit" my dad, he won't drink. but the truth was that when i walked out the door he drank. no on needs to babysit a grown up.
maybe these will help you get through the day. i feel like a weight has just been lifted. thank you
I know what you are feeling and as you work the program I believe your feelings will change. Several years ago I had a friend and neighbor, her husband was diagnosed with brain cancer. He was 38 yrs old and they had 2 children 8yrs and 4 yrs. There was nothing hospitalization could do so she brought him home. I, having nursing skills helped her out as much as I could. I was there when he took his last breath. I watched her climb in to the bed and hold his dead body. It was heart wrenching. I came home to my alcoholic that night, crawled in bed and held him too. I thanked God he was still with me. I realized through all our trials and tribulations that I wanted him to know I was glad he still here and whether he had the disease of being an Alcoholic or not, he was a human being and my husband and I wanted him to know he was loved.. My Alcoholic and I also have Grandchildren. My daughters bring the kids over and often let them stay all night. They wouldn't think of keeping the kids from me because of my A and they know Granpa adores them. My A plays with them (drunk) and they love him dearly. No matter what they understand, they will have good memories of Grandpa. That's all I have... Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
THOSE WHO DESERVE LOVE THE LEAST NEED IT THE MOST! ***sometimes i feel like my A doesn't deserve my love, but maybe it's not true.
So true. I feel that the addicts are just as deserving of love as anyone else. I love the person my brother is....it's his addiction and the horrible things the addiction causes him to do that I hate.
-- Edited by Jayda at 13:29, 2006-02-10
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Just concentrating on getting through one day at a time.
THE BEST MEASURE OF A MAN'S CHARACTER IS NOT WHAT HE GETS FROM HIS ANCESTORS, BUT WHAT HE LEAVES HIS DESCENDANTS. *** i'm not going to comment on this b/c it might get negative.
There are 2 other ways to look at this one:
1) Without my having to go through this, I might never have found Al-Anon and found myself and the person I really want to be. Therefore, all that has been left to me was actually a blessing in disguise.
2) I have children myself...what is it I want to leave to them? Again, what I learn in Al-Anon is giving me so much to pass on to them to enrich their life also.
Those were wonderful quotes. Thank you for sharing!!!
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
I just thought of those sayings about Children Learn What They Live. Your kids are in your hands now and they will learn what they live by your example. How nice that you have the ability to be such a good role model in their lives now! :) Your upbrining wasn't what you deserved but you can change how you live now to give your children a chance and their children (from learning from your example) the upbringing and lives that they deserve! Way to work a program that will make you a better person, parent, wife and friend :) your friend in recovery, cdb PS> thanks for this post, I needed to read it too :)
