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Another New Direction
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Isn't it funny how those new opportunities or directions in your life just seem to appear out of thin air? I am grateful that I have been able to grow through my participation in this program, or I would be completely lost in a maze of emotions right now. Not to say that what I am facing will be easy by any mea...
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Furious
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I am so furious that my hands are shaking as I type this. I had set a little bit of money aside and planned on going grocery shopping today. I just went into my purse to get the money and $100.00 was gone. Of course he had no idea were it went. He hadn't seen it. He was the only...
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Thanks to all
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Just wanted to thank all who post here.
This site has been a tremendous help to me in my recovery.
Such experience, warmth and non-judgemental people.
I am glad I found you all.
Thanks for your service.
In Recovery,
Doxie
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is this healthy?
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i have not thought about my dad in a few days. i have just been doing "my thing" for the past couple of days. it kind of feels good, not to be wondering and worrying about him. but in the same breathe, i wonder if it is ok. what am i doing? why break the chain today? is this normal?
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support system
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I have come a long way. I have a good support system set up. When I first came in didn't have any girlfriends. I didn't leave my husband side. I would call him all the time, follow him around every minutue of the day. I didn't feel comfortable leaving his side for any amount of time. The only time I was...
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For Leo
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Leo,
Sorry for the delay... I finally read your question about the Seven Weeks to Sobriety program.
The book is by Joan Mathews-Larson and explains how she began to search for a new rehabilitation program after her son had gone through so many failing attempts and tried to kill hims...
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continual challenge
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click on attachment for reading from forum on continual chalenge,love angel oops forgot to upload -- Edited by angel123 at 00:51, 2006-02-13
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turning it over
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click on the link good reading from Forum about turning it over hope you enjoy,love Sharon/angel
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Spiritual energy - Higher Power
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"There are three common places where spiritual energy is stored in great abundance: loneliness, failure and fear. We have to be lead there, because we will never go at our own initiative. These will first feel like descending, or the loss of energy. Only over time will we recognize a new aliveness and...
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feeling different
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well this whole situation has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for me. my a has been gone for a little over two weeks, staying at his mothers. i had a really hard time, praying for him to come home, and thinking of ways i could fix this. he was doing meetings and trying to work a program. so i wanted to ma...
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a quote to share
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We eventually realize that just as the pains of alcoholism had to come before sobriety, emotional turmoil comes before serenity. *
I ws reading some posts on the AA board, trying to get some insight into this cunning, insidious and baffling disease and came across this quote.
Don't know why but t...
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I don't believe his leaving is a result of his alcoholism/addictions
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I had a friend tell me something today that kind of hit me and made a lot of sense. First off, for those of you not familiar with my situation, to sum it all up in a nut shell: My A of 16 years (and 4 kids) took a good job offer in another state to try out, and if he liked, would move us all down there.&...
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Besides Courage to Change what would you suggest for 2nd book?
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If I was to buy another book (I have Courage to Change) what would you suggest?
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Sunday 7pm meeting coverage
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Hi Ops
If someone can cover my 7pm meeting I would appreciate it I am running late watching my nephews.
If not, there will be a delayed start.
thanks for your patience
megan
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Talking to our sponsor
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Have had an situation come up recently NOT related to alcoholism but still involving chinging my attitude and working an honest program. This is an honest program and we don't use our sponsors as "the good angel" sitting on the right shoulder. But our sponsors can help us work things out...
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A Special Sunday "Meeting"
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Howdy yall!
Well I went to a meeting of my other program this morning (church that is..he he) and was sure glad I didnt pick today to sleep late!!!
The person who normally leads our "meetings" is on vacation week, so a "guest speaker" was there for us today. This man is retired from leading "meet...
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Granny Ill Me Confused - Suggestions?
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I don't know where else to post this - I can really relate to some of the posts here & I feel in a way this is similar. So maybe some of you will have some suggestions?
I'm currently living with my parents (one of the worst decisions I ever took, but it was a learning experience as well). They're not alc...
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Who will ever be there for me?
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I am so frustrated! My mom is in the hospital 1 mile from my house and I cannot go there to be with her! I have several friends who live less than 5 miles away and I can get no one to call me back to watch my 4 year old while I check on my mother. The hospital does not allow any kids under the age...
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bummer and gratitude
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I'm a little bummed today. At my F2F this afternoon one of the Alanoners invited us all to their place to watch a tape of someone in our group on TV. (can't say who what when or channel of course, LOL )
I just couldn't go. It would have been a blast!
But hey, I have to be grateful that I found such a grea...
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How do I stop worrying?
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My husband came home today with his paycheck...but I am worried that he will slip out after I go to sleep tonight. My ex said he would bring my daughter tonight between 5-6pm...it's 5:22pm and they aren't here yet. What if they don't come? I worry over everything. I don't kno...
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sorry i just can not stop drinking
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help me please! i am in pain! tell me what i should do expect drinking alcoho............
i can not talk to my sponser she must sleeping now and she is sleeping..what i am suppose to do? i can not get beer or anything let me forget the pain .tell me what i should do?i want to fall asleep and wake up in...
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i have an idea - please read
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I have been reading and posting on this site for about 6 months now. About 2 months ago I started attending f2f meetings and have been doing so since, at least 2 a week. I am building a strong support system for myself, when I choose to reach out to it, which I am still having trouble doing.&nb...
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Crap
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I am so tired. I feel like I'm starting all over again. I took a lot of crap yesterday and I carried it around like it was gold in a basket. I'm so tired.
I'm starting all over again with step one...not like I've not done this a hundred times. I'm so powerless. It'...
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trying to get out of a slump and get more positive
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How do you pull yourself out of a slump? I just read Courage to Change "Let Go and Let God". Found a few readings helpful. How do you change your attitude? Physically Im starting to feel better. Spiritually I know my brother is in Gods hands.
There's something coming up in my life in March that Im...
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MY DAUGHTER CAME!!!!
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My daughter got here (3 hours late), but her daddy brought her. In fact, his girlfriend and their three other children came as well. It was a nice visit, but not long enough. She enjoyed her gifts. I missed Christmas and her birthday with her so had all of her gifts. Som...
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Rain Rain go AWAY
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The saying when it rains it's pours seems so fitting for this Washingtonian. This has not been the best week of my life. My plate is so full that it feels it will crack and crumble at any moment. First the A with the relapse, his attitude of knowing he can control it now. I was in bed sick...
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Interesting Site
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Merry Go Round Named Denial www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm note spelling
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Blizzard Buddies
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(((((((((Roomies))))))))))))),
To all of you who are in the path of the Noreaster/Blizzard please be safe. Hunker down with a good book, lots of blankets, good food and warm beverages. Let us know how you make out, we'll be thinking of you.
Please don't travel if you don't have to. Wouldn't wan...
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I bought the paint
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I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all.
I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...
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missylost
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Hey gang,
I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number.
I've often wondered where we'd be witho...
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My Favorite Prayers
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For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME!
Me:    
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Calm before the next storm
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The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...
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Singalong (relationship blues?)
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This isn't meant to be a downer, because my spouse and I are still together (miracle of the program). However, I CAN say the emotions of this song really played out in the roller coaster of the drinking and then in the SOBRIETY, too. Saying goodbye to all the zany stuff as we enter pea...
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My dad and every excuse
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The last 2 weeks have been something else. My dad who is one of the A's in my life just fell apart. His father who lives in another country and who we haven''t seen in 5 years passed away. Then my mother became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. She will be ok but needs to q...
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i'll share with u--
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like i have said before, i tend to be negative about my A. today i read these & i started to feel better. i think i will share them with you. here goes...
TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & DICOVER THAT PRISONER WAS YOU! ***i had a hard time forgiving, and i have not all the way, but this is...
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welcome sicntired :)
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Hello this is snapper/cdb who you talked to. It helps to post things too so everyone gets to know you and your situation. You are not alone. You can also do searches here on topics similiar to what you need to read. Hope to see you on the message board :) cdb xoxoxoxoxo
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Telling the kids
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Hello All,
Well I was able to speak to my husband last night, and he thinks he might be in for a while again, but hopefully this will be it. I mean hopefully this will clear up all the old stuff, and then he can get that out of the way.
The hardest part was telling the kids. My oldest is 6, I have a 4 year old, a...
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my a and I in parallel universes
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I think that I am doing ok and then whammeee, I am sinking again. I guess the awareness that I am sinking is progress, it allows me to do something about it. I am trying so hard to just do the next right thing, to take things a day at a time, but it is just so hard. Sometimes, especially whe...
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Ups and downs of the day
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Today has been full of ups and downs. I met with the attorney this morning and he informed me that he had to refer me to an attorney in the state my ex lives in. So now it is back to the drawing board. My daughter is coming for a visit tonight. He is only letting her come because he wa...
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some of you
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i know that some of you guys think that that i have an unhealthy attitude towards the situation with my dad. i'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and it is no one in paticular. i just hear myself tell myself:"it's his fault! it's not a disease! he chose drinking over his family! how could he do...
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jrtjosey,, update?
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Hello josey,
You had asked for prayers recently on a post and I was wondering how things are going now in regards to what you posted and the out of town visit. It is nice to know if our prayers are working in other's lives and if miracles are in progress. I hope things are going well fo...
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cdb
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He's messing with me horribly now
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I thought he was going to disappear, and I felt better because of that thought. He had disconnected his phone and told my dad, (like he had told me the last time I talked to him) that he just wanted to start his life over, in the state he's in. My dad got the impression from him that he just didn'...
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Brother relapsed...again
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After a couple of weeks of trying to stay clean and get his life together my brother relapsed again. Once again, we tried to help him while he was recovering from being shot in the eye. My mom let him stay at her place for a bit, but as soon as his eye was good enough to be able to put a contact lense in and he coul...
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Jayda
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anyone been to court to take person from jail to rehab?
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Mother asked me last night if on Feb 28 I would go to the courthouse with her. My brother is being released from Bridgewater on that day and being brought directly to court. From there the plan is to have him go directly into rehab. We will need to drive him there! He's gonna be BS! Has anyone done this? any a...
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Prayers Please
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*My aunt has almost died twice in the last few weeks. They will be doing open heart surgery on her. They are not exactly certain what is causing all of her problems but they say this is a start.It's been a tough couple of weeks.
* Last night my daughter broke her arm... we need to go see the orthopedic surg...
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Anxiety and me
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Dear Friends,
Thank you for all your posts out here. They mean a lot to me.
I have something that I am learning about myself right now, and I hope this will be helpful to someone else. It will also do me good to share.
I have been surrounded by alcoholics my whole life. My family has been "leveled" by t...
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Unique TRUTH
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Unlike an "A" alcohol is like a truth serum to me....
Give me a little & I speak the truth, unlike so may others... it does not scare me. I am not afraid of the truth or dos it scare me away.
Judge me if u will ~ God does not judge lest he be judged.
&...
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WOW!!! evidence HP does NOT test us
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This Is Not A Test
"We have found a loving, personal God to whom we can turn."
Basic Text p. 27
Some of us come into recovery with the impression that life's hardships are a series of cosmic tests designed to teach us something. This belief is readily apparent when something traumatic happens a...
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dealing with those moods - ugh
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Ok so we get out of the house or at least mentally leave the scene when our A husbands are drinking. Its the next day that bothers me too. When they are just moody moody moody. How do you deal with that? Again just mentally leave the scene, I know. And hope there's a 3rd day when they dont drink before the cycl...
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ahhh One of life's simple pleasure is mine right now!
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ahhh That hot Dunkin Donuts coffee is everything Ive been dreaming of all week! First cup of hot coffee in exactly a week and boy does it taste good. Thank you everyone for your support. Hopefully my mouth is finally healing.
Now let the rest of my life get better One Day At A Time.
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Hi, I am new
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Hello. I just thought I would come out here and introduce myself. My name is Julia. I am new to this site and to al-anon. I have been in a relationship with an addict for two years and I think it is time for me to change. I need a change because I cannot stand the way I constantly feel.
Lonely,despera...
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And the Cycle begins again
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Well, my A relapse last Friday, drank again on Superbowl Sunday and now has decided that he should be able to drink whenever he wants. I'm sad......not that he's drinking again but the last 3 months have been so wonderful. Yeah there were times of disagreements but it had nothing to do wit...
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I am back
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Hello my friends. I am back. I came into a little money and went out and bought a laptop today. I paid up all of our bills and paid our house payment for the next twelve months. I meet with my attorney tomorrow to pay him so I can get custody of my daughter. I still have not be...
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Doing a little better....
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I Just thought I'd tell you all a little about myself, mostly all I did last time was rant.
So My name is Linzie, I just turned 21 a few days ago.
My Dad is the A in my life. He and my mother seperated when I was about 16 or 17 but things had been bad for them for years.
They fought all the time and I fought wit...
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Jail
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Hello All,
I am sitting here feeling very overwhelmed. I Just got off the phone with a probation officer from our local court house. My husband went in this morning to quash a warrant he had and they have decided to keep him in the county jail until the 17th at the earliest. He has 65 days he needs to serve...
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Dolphin123
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A new life
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I haven't written in two months. A major change has taken place in my life and in my alcoholic/addict's life. Right after Christmas he admitted to me that he had stolen some of my prescription medication and took all of it. That was the last straw for me and I moved out three days late...
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sallyb
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Nervous-going out of town
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Well I am going out of town today. I will only be gone for one night, but I am extremely nervous. I won't get back until late tomorrow--why it would really make a decision in what he does is beyond me. But for some reason I just keep thinking "what if". See the last couple of times...
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hudsond
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putting our lives back on track sounds like a good idea
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when we're at work and cant do it but the minute we get home all we want to do is stare at the computer screen! lol Someday someday I will do everything I should do for myself/others/etc. But for now maybe what I do need to be doing is taking it easy and staring at the screen!
Anyone ever feel like this? They...
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Barbara
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What is "Detachment?"
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Some days I feel like I can detach and some days I can't..
Today I can't... I just keep thinking about all the many empty beer can's I find... all over the house.. and His constant denial of his problem... Like... "I can handle it now" I guess when I find alot of emty beer cans... I know he is n...
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Ninababy
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The Toxicity In My Family Is Coming At Full Force
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Hi everyone. My family is getting worse as the days go by. I asked my grandmother if she would watch my daughter three evening per week until the end of March. She agreed. I was awarded a chance to go through an entreprenurial workshop for women to start my own business. At the time, I was also looking for a...
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