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last night i decided i was going to tile my master bathroom floor....'
i dug up all the old linoleum tiles, and i had the floor nice and clean and ready to go!!!
things were going GREAT till i got around having to "tile around the toidie" and thats when things went wrong!!!! i could NOT figure out how to make the tiles go around the "bowl" and look nice....
i fought it/ forced my will on it or TRIED to force my way, and here i am the "codependent crazies" are kicking in BIG time....i wanted to rip the $%$%ing thing up and throw it out the window, tile the floor and use a portable MOVEABLE chamber potty in for my restroom use.
so here i am "hugging the bowl" and saying the Serenity prayer for all i am worth......THAN (as the program suggests ) i called my sponser and i shared my dilemma with her--- she asked me "what step are you working on this??" i said "steps, hell, u mean what sized HAMMER don't ya???" than we talked about it and my training kicked in --- "no major decisions till i talk with my sponser"so i did talk with her and the decision was that i was gonna "do my best and surrender the crapper to my higher power and DETACH".....so i tiled all around, leaving the "loo for last"......THAN when i got to it, i just kinda "pieced around it" with tiles shaped to fit it and used about a TON of caulk and i was able to "hide the little pieces over which i was POWERLESS" and even though i had to "accept what i coudln't change" it didn't hurt to hide the stuff with a ton of caulk. surrendering is ONE thing...having to LOOK at the god awful mess is quite another!!
than i did a step 3 and said "i am DONE with this, i am detaching"
this morining i got up, and i did my gratitude list in that i did the bathroom without injuring anythng in the bathroom and my self....
THAN , driving to work, it hit me--- my HP gave me the "solution to my problem"....i am in my truck , so i cannot turn around and go home to do this, but i GOT IT!!! i GOT the answer as to how i do the SECOND bathroom
ok!! the bowl is an oval shaped affair with already tile underneath it from someone who was NOT powerless over this job--- so all i gotta do is measure with a thin ruler a SQUARE---- draw 2 lines vertical at the widest points......draw 2 lines horizontal at the longest point and i have a sort of rectangle......i cut the old tile off, but don't go "IN my square"----than i do the new tiles around it, and use my calk around the bowl to hide the old stuff... OR i can make 4 triangular shapes to "fill within the square"
so ya see??? i did a step ONE " i am POWERLESS over this tileing around my john" step TWO "i know someone who WAS a carpenter, who HAS to know bathrooms, and that HP knows the solution to this problem---AND step THREE , i surrendered my "porcelean predicament" to my higher power, and i really did DETACH!!! and the end result??? i am driving in my truck and the answer hit....my HP probably waited till i was in my truck, so i would't try to "tackle the tile" in the morning and be late for work.....he/she/it wanted me to "see this lesson" FIRST...
this program really does work!!!! i woke up and was feeling very tired from the work, but i was serene and confident that i would have my answer so i can do the second bathroom.....moral of the story???? no matter WHAT u r doing, this program works....
hehe, had to giggle at your story a few times. I had the same dilemna only with linoleum pcs, I ended up getting a pc of printer paper (since it bends), placing the square corners of the paper where the square of the tile would go and tracing the curve of the toilet. I then cut my pattern and transferred it to the linoleum square, cut it and stuck it. Worked like a charm.
If your good with the tile cutter, that may work for you too.
GL Christy
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That story was just fabulous. Thank you so much for sharing and bringing a smile to my face today. I will be sure to remember this story as I too struggle with coodependant crazies when I'm trying to do something on my own.
For bringing a smile to my face...and my HP knows I need to smile a lot more. I sure can relate to all you say. Got a leaking shower upstairs, tried to fix it..my self...HA HA, not a plumber say I. So far it leaks through the upstairs wall, an down upon my washer and dryer, and of course on the clothes I neatly folded on the dryer..grrrrrrr, and hubby is no help. We finally got the real "guy" who knows what he's doing to fix it, and right in the middle of a relaxing movie..Im doing laundry of course..and guess what..you know it..drip drip from the ceiling, and plaster bits...unknown to me, my son was taking a shower. ...oooo back to plan B..and not sure even what that is..
Yes, the steps work if you work them...and sometimes I fall off or over them. And they amaze me with their wisdom and my lack of it. I want to smile, and not be so morose and melacholy, I ve been through hades and back...and Im still feeling the heat, and scorched a little bit. Maybe burned is better. But the healing journey is a long one, and I may trip and fall along the way. Nice to have someone pick me up along the way...thanks for the smile...that helps..love and hugs to ya Rosie, wish I could help you with that durn toilet...a la tolette...kat
Thank You for a great example of how to practice these principles in all our affairs! You Can Do It! For me, when I get too overwhelmed, I step back, do like you did, say the Serenity Prayer as needed -maybe rest on it, God will show me the way -if I am really listening Good for you! May you feel a great sense of accomplishment with your own hard work once it's completed wishes, tea2
Alright, Rosie! What a great share. I too have often wondered how you do those odd spaces with tiles. Good for you for working it out. I get the most amazing insights when I calm down and ask HP.
What a total hoot!!! Loved it! But you know what??? The truth is the truth and it always works...in every situation! God is practical and not just some mystical force...He's interested in everything you are interested in, and loves being a part of it! Bet He laughed too!
omfg! I wish u had my phone number & I'm SO HAPPY I read ur post this morning that is hysterical! I assume you're replacing the tile with vinyl - thisis the owrk I had been doing for over 3 yrs now _ I would see the tilers come in doing the porcelain/concrete bit & they are so bloody expensive, I started to have dreams of tile, reasearched it & begged my mother to allow me to try.
Of course she made me do a linoleum laundry area to prove I could do it absolutely 100% perfectly before we went our & spent $400 on a wet saw w/ a diamond blade for me to use he Itlaian porcelain & granite/marble.
Yeah, lifting the toilet out is a major pain & smelly & for all it weighs maybe 100-125# it feels heavier - seating it is tricky too, u have to get it right over the 2 bolts just right & drop it in the new wax or it's ruined, u gotta lift it back up, put a new wax ring & do it again.
I just LOVE concrete! I wish I had known what u were going through! I would have been able to help, sorry - it is backbreaking & frustrating work, proud of you for tackling it on your own!
Yes, the Program does work & it effects every single part of our lives, I actually sometimes have a hard time not talking Program when I'm out in the "real" world, it is so ingratiated in my life!
you're a dear! luv ya, -K
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and hubby is no help. We finally got the real "guy" who knows what he's doing to fix it, and right in the middle of a relaxing movie..Im doing laundry of course..and guess what..you know it..drip drip from the ceiling, and plaster bits...unknown to me, my son was taking a shower. ...oooo back to plan B..and not sure even what that is..
kat
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