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my momentary lapse in sanity
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after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...
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jewely
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Not a wife -only a means of financial support
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That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...
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A side of kerry you say you dont see
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I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...
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OP!!!!! Cant get into chat???????? (help needed)
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I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal
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more chaos
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Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...
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so much negativity around me
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Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...
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absolutely helpless!!!
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Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...
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FIVE DAYS LATER:::::::::
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(((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...
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ally
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Favorite pamphlet
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Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...
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Prayers Needed
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I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...
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Need a Laugh?? Please read this LOL!!
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((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...
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Threads of Disease
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I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...
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kitty
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The things I wont do anymore
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It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...
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NEW POEM
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My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...
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Feb. 8th 1979
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Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...
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Jerry F
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ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies
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I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...
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feeling sorry for myself and need to vent
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Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...
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maire rua
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What to do about Unsolicited Advice from Family?
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Many of you know my story. My AH and his crack binging. Well what do you do when you reach the point where you are tired of talking about all of the problems? You see, this has been going on for so long and has been at it's worst for the last year. It has taken me a year to get to this great point in my recov...
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Don't feel like I've LOVED pets, girlfriends
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hi, I grew up with a rageaholic/ alcoholic father and a mother who stuffed feelings. Some how my father took a liking for me as a baby and I ended up in the middle of my parents relationship. My father expressed his feelings to me, rather than my mother. After lots of therapy and alanon and aa I have real...
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djdrew01
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A whole new prospective on humility
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Wash. cabbie returns $6,000 left in car LYNNWOOD, Wash. - A taxi driver found a wallet containing almost $6,000 in the back of his car, then raced to the airport in time to return it to his owner. Vinod Mago, 55, says he never thought twice. The owner thanked him with $100, which Mago used to take his famil...
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My Story
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Ive been reading a lot of touching stories and I felt the urge to write my own. I come from a really amazing family full of teachers, leaders, social activists, and brave souls. Within this mix of beauty and pride, there are also alcoholics, addicts, and family members that suffer from mental illness...
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EarthAngel
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He left and took my stepkids away from me.
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After helping him get half custody of his kids and after helping raise them for 10+ years, my husband chooses alcohol over me and walks out the door with my entire family. He didn't leave because I was a bad stepmom--I was a GREAT stepmom...I did things for the kids their own narcissistic mother wo...
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Maverick
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My Broken Life
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Hello everyone. Just wanted to let you know, for those who are interested, what is going on with me. My computer is sick. My husband tried all day yesterday to fix it, but it is still broken. We even bought a new Modem, but now the screen resolution is unreadable. I was having withdrawls yesterday fro...
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My Wish Bracelet
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Since Labor Day, I have worn a "Wish Bracelet". I bought it at the campground when we went to Michigan to see baby granddaughter. It was braided cotton cord with 5 tan colored beads. When I put it on, I made a wish, and supposedly, when the bracelet wore off, your wish would come true. It did...
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AAAAAHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGG!!![i am screaming inside]
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AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!![i am screaming inside] changing my own behavior is sooooooooo hard. i can see where my behavior contributes to the situation i am living in. even when i want to change, i am unable. i feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, just as an addict must go back to it&...
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jewely
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my story, kinda long
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Well, my husband finally admitted to me last night what I've know for a couple years now-he's an alcoholic. I don't know what prompted me to bring up the subject, it just kinda came out of my mouth. I asked him why he felt it neccessary to drink every single night. He said I don't know...
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minnie
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the truth comes out
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finally the truth comes out and I am not the bad guy anymore. I have been trying to convince my ex husbands parents that he is an alcoholic and that they needed to help me keep my daughters safe from his disease. They never believed me. But I stopped trying to talk to them about it about 4 months ago becau...
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ugh
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hi all
so the weeks that my Abf has ben home from rehab have been so hard for me. i am filled with questions about our future...i am resentful that he has so little to give me...i am wishing for more for me and my kids...all selfish, but normal feelings i guess. i love this man - and we have had so many fun and...
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Making and owning my choices without guilt
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I am a compromiser .... my brother often laughs with me because he will choose a side of a debate he knows I believe in just to watch me stand up for someting I do not believe in to make the outcome that we meet in the middle. Although this is a good quality to have, I feel it is limiting me in some ways. Choice...
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Jennifer
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O for over involvement.
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I've been seeing a therapist now, an intern for a few months. I have to say its never really gone that that well. I saw another intern before her for a few months too and that helped although I never spoke about my relationship there. I think its pretty hard to get a therapist who really understand...
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test post
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I tried to respond to someone that responded to my post and it disappeared into thin air and never appeared. Is there a limit to how many people can respond under a specific thread? Or is something wrong with my computer? -- Edited by Alanoner at 17:37, 2007-02-10
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Alanoner
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The NOW
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When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone ca...
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Tiger2006
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Jeannie
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Just got on the board and thought that it has been a really long time since i have seen Jeannie post. Does anyone know if she is okay? Luv Leo xx
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Is it a disease & other bitter pills
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The word disease means - dis-ease, literally, it is not healthy, homeostatic or balanced. Is alcoholism a disease like any other mental disease, absolutely! That is the cornerstone of the 12 steps - just like sex addiction, work-a-holism or any other compulsive and out of control behaviour tha...
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kitty
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sickER than the alcoholic?
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This is a very interesting thread... As my name implies I do really research Al-anon thoroughly, not only the literature, but also it's history and inception. The philosophy of its founder, his history, his story, his rationale, etc.. After all, if we follow a man, then Al-anon is a cult and tha...
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Ziggy's Update
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Kids are feeling much better...now if we can just get my bf better. Still haven't managed that MRI for my daughter but she will be seeing a specialist the end of March for the seizures. I am sure they will order another MRI. In my last post about our eventful emergency room trip, I spoke about my dau...
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Record slow time
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Wow sometimes I feel I'm moving through this program soooooo sloooooow. Quite a bit different from my first meeting, where I felt like I completed the first three steps before the meeting ended! LOL. I'm getting ready to start my fourth step, I'm inbetween sponsors, everytime I fe...
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Anyone ever end up in the wrong 12 step group?
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So I went to a new meeting tonight. I had never been to this location and it was dark and raining and...well you get the picture, I was late going in because I got lost (being my first time to this location) So I walk in, I see an al-anon sign, I see a brightly lit room with coffee set up, so for sure this must b...
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Moon
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update and a bit long
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Been a little while since I have been here. I have been sorting through all of the events that have been happening since December. So a little update. I went back to my home because hub said he would pay the bills and leave me alone. Should have known better. He was back sweet talking within days. Tal...
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Nobody in chat
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Ok, what is up. Is there a conspiracy? I am so used to going into the chat room and having several people to talk to. This is the second time in the past couple of days that nobody is in there. I think I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed! Hubby wanted to go fishing, but didn't want to go w/o any $$ in hi...
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A little bit of trouble
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I mean, things are OK, but not really. Just like quiet before a storm (I hope I'm exagerating). This week I started my CNA class. I have to get up very early so I keep trying to go to bed early. Sunday night we are making the bed. We start to bicker, which is not unusual. I hate making the bed with him, it...
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I went to the meeting haha so there!
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On Wednesday night my A was getting ready for his dissappearing act but I said "you can't go now I'm going for a walk" and went right out the door. It was a step meeting and they were on step two. I didn't speak but what I would have said was: "My life became unmanageable becau...
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RainyJamie
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charater defects that show up when I am not in contact with HP
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(((((((((roomies)))))))))) I know that I will always have my terrible charater defects but I sure thought by now I would have gotten a little better at relaxing and forgiving myself when i stumble over my Terrible charater defects ..... OH MY this last week I have been battling with GUILT over My char...
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10 things you like to do
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Hi, something I read suggested, as a babystep, to find ten things that you like to do that doesn't really involve anybody else (AKA the A in your life). The idea was to eventually move on to more pressing ideas like what you want out of life and stuff like that. I found it felt good to think of them even t...
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Bobisms for today
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While we are busy talking let's not forget to listen. Higher Power doesn't always wrap presents in pretty paper...sometimes miracles happen when I receive things that don't look like presents. What other people think of me is none of my business. This means that if I do my b...
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Question? "Where do you feel neglected, weak, or unlovable?
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I ask this question , as this an Alanon program it is about ourselves. If we understand where we need the most help in healing , perhaps we can also understand that there are choices and solutions that we can make. We who are affected by anothers alcoholism/drugs usually feel we are to blame somehow a...
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My A-what a big boy! (long)
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Yesterday, I posted about feeling insecure and how I think I function well in a crisis, but the everyday stuff gets me! Well so I opened my big mouth and so last night here comes a "mini" crisis. the following material may be angering to some: I have not shared it to make anyone uncom...
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Job Update
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Well after only 60 days with the company, the numbers came out for January....I am #9 out of 24 sales people in 8 showrooms!!!! I was so excited I had to share with you all. It is amazing what has happened to me in just 2 years with learning how to and continuing to learn how to take care of me. I know I can acco...
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Emotional Rescue
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Ha I knew I'd get your attention!! (rolling eyes) BTW where is the rolling eye's smiley? Anyway don't you all think it's hillarious that the al-anon message board has a huge amount of emotional smiley's? Well maybe you don't think it's funny, but I do. I have another...
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The Never Ending Story.............
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I've introduced myself to you all, so here goes, this is my story. Having been brought into the world, and not realising throughout my childhood I was living with alcoholisim. My father being the ah and my mother being his enabler, they still to this day carryout their roles. How I feel for them, bu...
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she lied sto me..........
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well, i finally talked to my daughter this morning. when asked why........, she didn't call, SHE LIED TO ME !!! when i hung up the phone knowing full well she lied, the thought occurred to me. this has become a game to her, she lies, waits for my reaction and then when i have made my move, she makes her...
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this lonliness
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Hi everyone, I'm just feeling a bit lost and sad today. Just need to vent and I know you'll all understand. I broke up from my Abf at Christmas. I had too. I couldn't cope with it at all. But I love him and I miss him so much. I try to fill my time, be busy, but I can't ignore the void. Is this the...
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Glad to be back!
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I first found Al-Anon in 1991, that's when I attended my very first meeting. All I did was cry couldn't do anything else, but went home feeling alot better for going. I attended a few more meetings during that year, then did the silly thing by never going back. Although I'm glad to say I'...
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Barbs45
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To serve or not to serve??? That is the question.
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Ok so I have been reading ya'll's advice (starting to fit in here...) I have a restraining order that is good thru the end of this month that I got from November when he broke into my house. The situation has been that we have seen eachother and he has come over to visit the kids and I have gone to s...
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The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage
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I just finished reading this book by the Al-Anon Family Groups and for me personally this book has been a gift of wisdom and discernment for many of the "dilemmas" in my marriage to an A. I was not sure that AL-Anon would be of help to me personally but this program really is helping me to focus o...
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Wilted
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Reasons to be Greatful
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Hi all its Debs My mom sent this to me in my email and i thought maybe y'all would like to read it. It feels good to focus on the positive things in our life .. lets not forget our blessings:) What Happens in Heaven I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-...
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Excuse me, all of you, for not being a proper AlAnoner.
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I prefer to effect my recovery in the way I see works best for me. If I sometimes do not adhere unerringly and unbendingly to the concepts, steps, and traditions...well what can I say....I am not a cookie cutter. I firmly believe that we all must take from AlAnon what we need. I further believe there i...
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Diva
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Boundary Setting Sentences
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When I entered recovery, I had no idea what was the definition of "boundary" then to try to set one with the A's & other people in my life????? - I couldn't fathom how that was going to happen. But it has & it is still happening - some areas are easier than others, some me &...
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Rita G
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Married to an AH and soooo confused!
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I'm a newbie to the group, but not a newbie to the messed up life I've had with my AH. God, I pray I'm not as messed up in the head as he is. I'm married to an educated AH with some issues from childhood. Had I known how messed up he was about his childhood, I would not have married him. He w...
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RoseX
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The Plot Thickens
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So I went today to get a copy of the police report and it said basically nothing so I decided to stop by the motel he was arrested at. The girl talked THANK GOD and said that a girl had come running in to the lobby in her tshirt and underwear hysterical saying somone had just raped her (my A) and he was arreste...
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