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I must be CRAZY!!
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I must be crazy!! Last week I was dead set to file for divorce and leave my AH. I have been ignoring him for 3 weeks. Building my wall around me to protect me from getting hurt again and to help me keep my strength to go through w/leaving him.
THEN Friday night came. I had a reall...
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Thoughts of totally giving up today...
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I guess I am only human and I do suffer from depression. It is a blessing for me to have a message board to vent and talk about my real feelings. So much has happened in my life this past week that was stressful and extremely overwhelming. I am not going to share it with you now. Tonight I was feeling li...
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This is so hard
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Last Friday was the day my h was going to file for divorce. He had an appt with his lawyer. In the morning he called to say his car broke down and would need to take it in to get fixed. I stupidly said he could have my car for the day. Here I am being nice and giving him my car and...
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uneasy feelings
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feeling kind of uncomfortable today. I have been getting weird vibes from my husband for a few days now. Kind of a cold, silent treatment. Don't really know what it is all about. We have plans to go to Maryland for the weekend. It will be the first time we are toge...
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POWERLESS? WHERE ARE YOU?
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Powerless, have not seen or heard from you in a while. Please let us know how you are. You are needed here.
Love in Recovery
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Dont want to ride...
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the roller coaster anymore. After attending the MA Alanon Convention this past weekend I had come to realizations for myself that I am putting into practice. The most important of them for me at this time is that I am chosing not to ride the roller coaster of my husband's disease. T...
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glad HP brought me here
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Met w/ one of my wifes clinicians today. She seemed pretty confident that they were going to read me to riot act. They asked what my concerns where and asked what theirs and my wifes concerns where since they called the meeting. We chatted, I expressed my concerns. He heard that I'm not comfortable w/ he...
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Quote from a children's book
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"The Little Prince" was published in 1943. It was written by Antoine de Saint Exupery. It is a children's book. It is amazing that in these 60 years little has happened to alter the disease of alcoholism. This is a quote from "The Little Prince" as translated from the...
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HP, please beam me up for an acceptance lesson
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Acceptance, boundaries, and focus on me ... oh my!
I thought I understood acceptance, but in recent mtgs you all and others have shared wisdom of your ESH that humbles me, and gives me insight. So, essentially, if I can ever get to a point of truly accepting, then by definition, the fear goes aw...
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being graceful under pressure
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Well I am back on the clumsy rhythm of trying to work and do EVERYTHING at home. The A has some skin condtion which he says precludes doing housework. He also injured his thumb pretty badly. And he likes to lay around and feel sorry for himself too of course because since he was diagnosed wit...
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me
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In class tonight we had to fill out this bio-poem sheet that our literature teacher gave us. Man did I struggle with this puppy. Here at home, with all of you, honesty is so much easier. In a nutshell here is what I wrote - just wanted to share it.
Cyndee
fiesty
caring
trustworthy...
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feeling discouraged, scared & confused
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cv
hi all!
i havent written in a long time, but tonite i feel the need to vent, and feel the need for some encouragement and support. i used to know many of the people here, but now i think there are many new people that probably dont know me. to make a long story short, through many trials a...
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I can honestly say Im in a better spot - thank you
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Wow! Just returned home from the Cape AlAnon convention. My head is in such a better spot today. Took a "spiritual walk" this morn- very frightening when it was my turn to walk down but I did it. Sun was shining on my way home - raining on the way to the Cape. Met alot of new friends - it was nice to put faces to n...
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please God...help me to stick to my guns
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I finally did it. I told my son he has to move out. May 1st is the deadline. I hope I can hold out. Why is it when he was in recovery he admitted he was A and now that he is active he says he is not. And he thinks I can actually believe that. Has he forgotten that 5 months ago he was an A?
I know it will be the hardes...
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he held out the bait and I jumped on the hook
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I thought I was doing so well earlier today.I have been noticing that I have been able to think of myself separately from my husband.At first when the whole thing came out about his online girlfriend and the enevitability of the marriage ending I was nable to do that.I have been with him 36 years....
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sorry! amp;am;? no clue where that came from!
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sorry about that amp; amp; thing....i have no idea how that happened!
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Nowhere to turn
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Hello. I've never done this before, but I need to unload and my friends have never dealt with this stuff. I need people who can understand how I feel and what I'm going through.
My husband is an alcoholic. He has been sober now for 29 months. I'm very glad that he's s...
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enough
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I divorced rather young, both body and mind. I did what I needed to do then. It was a matter of safety. We have a child, the A and I. Much to my dismay, the divorce did not solve the whole problem (no kidding?!) I find myself today, years after therapy, and some time in al-anon feeling rather ‘raw’ ….
A few e...
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question my decisions
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My first post so bare with me guys...
My AH is in recovery (1yr)....funny how him getting sober didnt fix me...actually in rcovery he has done almost if not more damge to our relationship than he did in his drinking years...He decided to take that 13th step... Funny how it all went down when i look back...
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It's just getting there
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Hello Friends,
Just sitting here needing to vent a little, so I thought what better place.....lol. Today I have made some decisions and have been doing so much soul searching lately. How did I get myself so lost in this crazy wolrd of addiction. It sucks the life right out of everyone it touches. Th...
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I KNOW you've all missed me...
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even though you didn't say, "Where's Diva?"
I decided I wanted to take a job in my veterinarian's office. Stupid mistake. I thought it would be fun. You know..."Hi Mrs. Jones. You and Skippy have a seat and the doctor will be right with you." Yeah you right!! There was more responsibility and more p...
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Feeling lonely and unneeded
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Here I am trying to set up boundaries to protect me from my family and other addicts taking advantage of me. And yet I find myself feeling all alone and unneeded. I called a friend this evening and she was telling me about the great day she had. I ended up feeling jealous and left out.&...
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new here, help?
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Hello,
My name is melissa, and I came here hoping for some insite to my situation with my husband. I dont have quite enough courage to go to an actual meeting, but I hope that i might get some instight this way. I am 23, and married nearly a year now to my husband, with whom I have been with for...
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dont know what to do
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hi my name is bev..i live in florida{we moved to florida in nov 05 from binghamton ny},and i dont know what to do...my husband was a recovering alcoholic,he is drinking again but on weekends,and only at a bar,when we were in ny he was on probation for dwi and dui..he has 3 of theme since 2000,and has been i...
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Song lyrics that I wanted to share...
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I wanted to share this song because the message applys to what most of us are dealing with every day. If you like it and want to hear it, I'll gladly share that too. :)
STILL BREATHING
Home, it's not brick or stone Or comfort in the firelight, not in that sense anyway Dreams, if only I ha...
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Standing Alone ~ I NEED Myself
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Growth hurts, sure, okay. I learned YOUNG that 'being a female' meant I exceptionally felt pain on a different level than what "men" do... it is hormonal; chemical, no "big deal" really.
Wow, I wish I had an unlimited sort of 'feelings' that took me off on a&...
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Full Hearts: Joy & Gratitude in the Home Group - NH convention Nov 2006
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ok so what exactly is a Home Group meeting during at convention? anyone planning on attending?
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What does it take for someone to change ??
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WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR SOMEONE TO CHANGE ???
That was a question that was ask today in church. Answers came such as.... A tradgedy, a miracle, a small child said when my Mommy spanks me, and a teenager said, you have to WANT to change.
I thought about that all day and at first I thought about my husba...
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Heartless
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I always enjoy talking to you, have a great day.
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Didn't hurt anything
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I went to speak to my husband today. He was not there, so my MIL asked if she could talk with me. I said ok.
She was pleasant and seemed genuinely concerned about my health. She said I looked tired and then said that a person cannot just keep going without eventually dropping. I told her that I found that o...
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Robert Burney Website
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Someone asked me to cite my resource regarding "Fear of Intimacy". Here is his website, loaded with wonderful insight. The only reason I found this website is because one of my character defects is to fix things, so I used it in a healthy way and found this site. Enjoy everyone!!
http://joy...
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Interesting website
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I went to look on anger and found some other reading as well for problems that can go along with alcoholism. www.apa.org/topics/topicanger.html -- Edited by wallsal55 at 14:13, 2006-04-08
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Step 9
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From the Forum,click attachment to read love angel -- Edited by angel123 at 12:59, 2006-04-09
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Want him to leave
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I feel so depressed and I don't know why. I can barely drag myself out of bed. I sleep about 20 hours a day and wish I were sleeping the other four. I can't concentrate on myself because I can't concentrate on anything. I keep telling myself all of the good that could come out of both of us worki...
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what does it take to be an AFG treasurer
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Our treasure may be stepping down for one of our meetings. My other meeting I'm already the designate to collect the money when the treasure is not there every other week.
What does it entail? Do you get checking account or do you just keep an envelope? What records do you keep?
Bob
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Am I creating a crisis?
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A little recient history... we have been very uncivil for the past 4 months. All of a sudden last sunday my AW decides everything is fine. Which is great for me... odd, but great.
We both like car racing and there is a Nascar race in Ft Worth this weekend. She got mad last night becau...
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Secrets ACA Childs Survial skills that can hurt others...
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Hey ((((((everyone)))))
Wow i have learned so much from this program and the one thing I have learned the most is Honesty about selfwarness like my feelings my attitude, the way I treat others,and the way I treat myself...
Well a few of you know i lost a new born child 14 years ago this coming Jul...
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Slipping
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I need support feel the slipping, say a prayer my A is in full mode.
Hugs Mary
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ok ok not A stuff
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It is poison oak not bugs...I have it on my tummy and butt cheek the worst..lol I got it from my wonderful little Basset Tavish. He always sleeps with me, either against my chest in my arms, or he is against my back....va la poison oak at the points of inpact of a dumb, but cute dog...
And.... the best med t...
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just a question
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for those of you who are with a's in early sobriety, what do you do when they are craving or they are slipping. i know we cant stop it in any way from occuring but how do you be supportive in these situations? how do you help them through the cravings when they want you there? im speaking of both drugs and alch...
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Step 8
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From the forum,1989,click attachment for reading
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School Auction Project - Heartless and Lexie
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Thanks for all your support guys, the teacher got the media request forms filled out and sent back today. It worked out, I am so glad she did that and I thanked her profusely. She said she didn't know, I didn't either. I feel a lot better.
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Getting comfortable with myself
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Living with an active user has created so much anxiety and worry in my life. I believe I became used to the unexpected and unpredictable lifestyle. Would he keep this job, will he get drunk tonight and take the car, will he overspend and overdraft our account? I held onto every disa...
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Fear of Intimacy
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"Fear of intimacy is at the heart of codependency. We have a fear of intimacy because we have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. We have a these fears because we were wounded in early childhood - we experienced feeling emotionally abandoned, rejected, and betrayed by our p...
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No more supermom!
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Hi everyone,
I hope this post finds you all well.
I have been doing so much thinking lately. I have been reevaluating my life and my marriage. I have had more time to think, as I have had to rest more after I ran myself into the ground. Now that I am better, the Doctor has me on rest and extra vitamins to bu...
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Reaching beyond blame
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REACHING BEYOND BLAME TO SOLUTIONS THAT WORK - No one sets out to marry an alcoholic. No child chooses an alcoholic for a parent. No parent dreams of a child who will one day become an alcoholic. No one willingly chooses to have a relationship with someone who is unavailable on an emotional and physic...
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Careful what you wish for...
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....You just might get it. LOL Here I sit in utter silence...and oh boy, this feels so strange and yet good all in the same time. The 2 older kids (21 and 23) have moved into their own apartment with grandson and 17 year old is staying there with them too. That leaves my two young...
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can't get into chatroom
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Hi All--
I'm getting this message:
Unable to connect: java.security.accessControlException : access denied
(java.net.SocketPermission irc.mipchat.net resolve)
Any help's appreciated -- I've been banished from my 10yr olds sleep over party as un-cool, lol, if I can't get in...
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Lunamoth
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He's Not Calling
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I am really depressed today. I am trying to get off of that pity pot but my 2 yr. Anniversary is coming up on Monday and I haven't heard from my AH in five weeks. I read on the board all the time about how other alcoholics keep calling the spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't h...
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living in your head
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I’ve heard people talk about living in their head. I think I understand what they are talking about. I know I try to analyze people, places, and things. I try to make my decisions by figuring “it” out. My thinking has always been that if I could just figure out the “rules,” figure out the “formula,” then I...
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What to look for?
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I am trying to figure out how my reasoning is flawed and what signs I am missing. I think this may be part of one of my steps. My late husband was a wonderful person who treated me kindly, worked hard, was honest, had no addictions. We were married for 18 years until his death.
I then d...
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Guidance
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GUIDANCE - As I searched for Guidance I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word and remembered reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...
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A word of advice.....
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Make sure when you clean out your pot bellied pigs house and treat them for mites, that you TAKE A SHOWER RIGHT AFTERWARDS.
omg I am miserable. lol I just put med everywhere, itching like crazy. OK don't be grossed out. You can get this by trying on cloths that somebody tried on right before you d...
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debilyn
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (POWERFUL)
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (alias the almighty powerful)!
Hope you have a great day!
Hugz & Balloonz 4 u !
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Lied to husband--HP showed me!
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Well as I posted several weeks ago I had another miscarriage. I lied to my husband and told him I wasn't even pregnant, the reason I was late was stress. I thought I did this with good intentions--I mean he has such a hard time and he didn't need one more thing--he gets really upset wit...
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Trying to live a "Normal"life
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I have been living with an alcholic for over 10 years. When My daughter was younger she had alot of issues which I needed to attend to so I really didn't care what my alcholic did. Now my daughter is older and her life is doing great. I find that now I have time to breather. So I took a look at my life. WHAT A MESS...
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personal breakthrough
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The last time I posted, I had gone to see my h's lawyer that day. I felt awful, couldn't get to sleep that night and lay awake thinking. I went through the pitiful me stage, how could he leave me and the kids when I love him so much. Then I got angry. If he was going to leave, that wou...
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new here, not sure what to do
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Hi this is my first post here. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings in person but haven't managed to speak up yet.
My father was physically abusive growing up; I don't know if he had a substance abuse problem or not. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 10 years.
My brother is an A (sober for 3 years now...
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Step 7
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From the forum click attachment
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Powerless - almost walked off my job today!
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I am sooooo mad my blood is boiling! Just came from Curves after work - good thing. There is a punching platform and I pretended it was my boss's face!
When I started my fulltime job (will have completed 8yrs fulltime end of June) there was my boss and 1 parttimer. Boss & I only fulltimers.
A new bo...
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