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tea2 · ~*Service Worker*~

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abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello Tea - eventually even the toughest of us bend to the powers that be . and to me that is a good thing . Tears heal , let go and then u maybe able to finally let God.

Your human tea and occasionally the past seaps up thru the garbage one more time. Which means to me that we have never really taken care of the past and given ourselves a chance to heal. garbage rots all good stuff eventually.

I believe that if God brings it to you , He will walk u thru it. one last time.

aunitedway · ~*Service Worker*~

Hate to burst that bubble (the tear bubble, haha) BUT crying IS very productive even for the guys ... it releases all the gunk / crap/ unhealthy thoughts and feelings that have been building up inside. Holdin in a stressful cry ... can be very life damaging. Healthwise, Spiritual wise. many ways. Crying, lettin go a waterfall.... can change your life from sluggish and pourly to fit and fifty ((haha)) OK i got to humor some - so bear with me ....

DO THE CRY -- LET IT GO~~ USE IT FOR ALL ITS WORTH. YOUR WORTH IT!! WORK THAT FLOW LINE --- use your thought process as you cry to rid yourself of all the bunk ... truthfully, it is a form of Detox. Really. Especially, (((TEA))) if you dont allow yourself it very often. when you feel its enough tell yourself "i'm ok, now." "this was a good thing. " I feel better, I've let it Go and Let God have it ALL. " ~ Believe it or not. It can be a healthy thing. IF you choose to look at it as a healthy thing too. It (to me) is also a personal thing. And as an adult becomes even more personal. Its something for your SELF. Afterwards you will feel lighter and more able to take in the Healthy Stuff. Take in the things that are most necessary for your personal and spiritual growth I SAY~ GO AHEAD.... stand in the shower (no one can tell if its tears or the water flowing over your face....LOL) tell em you got water in your eyes.... you wont be lying.... (((Big Grin))) It may be what you have been needing to do ... to set you back on the road to .. a renewal of spirit and a start of the day as if its the First Day of the Rest of your Life ~ And A Beautiful Day It Is. Keep Lookin uP!

you are an inspiration my angel (((LOVE YOU VERY MUCH ~ TEA))))

kismetstrand · ~*Service Worker*~

Awww (((((((tea)))))))) I hear ya, boy do I hear ya. We go along thinking we're doing real good, we're strong, we're detached, we can get thru this.... and then wham! something happens to show us that yup, something needs to give, something needs to change.

For me, it was getting sick like I just did. Suddenly saw how very alone I was, too sick to help myself and kids who were too busy to help mom. And I got angry. Here we help these kids with everything, and they couldn't bring juice home to their sick mom??? Oh, that just really did it for me. I'm stepping back now and taking a good look at my life and where I want it to go from here. Tired of all the past issues and stuff...just want that all to be in the past and for life to move on. Course it never seems to be that easy. But I know it is something I can work towards. Making a new life...actually living instead of just existing. Thats what I want now. To live. Just gotta figure out how to make it so.

Hang in there (((tea))). We can get thru this. Love ya!

Kis

rtexas · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Tea2)))))

It was not long ago (about 6 wks ago) that I felt your emotion to a T. I am so sorry that you are in that place... kinda.

If I hadn't been in that place, I wouldn't be here. I was about ready to check myself into an institution, I was really in that bad a shape.

My wife acturally commented around Christmastime that she had never seen me cry. Think this was one of those wonderful talks where she thought she should leave and I would never know she was gone...

I am a 41 year old corporate software developer... ever seen Dilbert before? I came from a family that didn't display much emotion, and I just don't cry. Never felt the need.

My first F2F meeting was a step meeting, and I had no idea what was going on. People where reading and sharing about one of the steps and it came my turn. This was on step 12, and most of what others had read was very matter of fact stuff.

The page I started on was a story about a new member and all the crazy feelings she had bottled up inside, all the mental and verbal abuse in her life and how much it effected her kids.

I didn't get near that far before I just fell apart right there with 6 women I had never met.

On my way over to that meeting, I really didn't know if this would be for me. I was shocked and amazed that I was reading out of this book and it was telling my life story word for word. Thats when I realized, that I wasn't crazy, and that these people really knew how to help me help myself.

Guess all I'm trying to say is if you don't normally cry to gain relief, and you feel a burning desire to let it go... then maybe it's time. Maybe the flow of tears will open your heart to more healing than you were ready for before. That's the way I feel.

I know with the support of everyone here I will get better, not fixed, not today... but better every day if I try.

I know you can do that too, and that's what all these wonderful people are here for, to help each other.

You are worth it... Keep trying... take care of you!

- r

bubbles1990 · Senior Member

Hey((((((((((tea))))))))))) Hang in there!!! I too can relate to you and what your going through because just a few months ago I was going through it saying i am so sick of all this past crap and i want to move forward! I was tired of being bitter,hateful,resentful,dishonest,blaming,and judgmental so one night i just asked HP to help me get through this crap and move me forward and HP did and with that I did my 5th step,journaled,read the books, and begin a closer relationship with HP!!!! i am much better today!!!

Hang in there you are right this to shall pass I love ya (((((tea))))) you are a good person!! Just keep
taking ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!

Love, Bubbles123

peewee · Senior Member

Tea, you've got another hump to get over, and I know you can do it. When we are ill, things always seem worse, don't you think? I pray for your healing in all ways. Please take care of you. Maybe call a friend to come over? Whatever it takes, Tea, go for it.

MsPeewee

Karilynn · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((((((((((((((((((Sweet tea)))))))))))))))),

Oh how I know those feelings so well! There are days when I do fake so I can make it. There are days when I want to crawl under a rock, and stay there. Some days I just want to give up, but for whatever reason I don't. Probably too stubborn for my own good.

The emotional rollercoaster of this week, and in general with an A has left me emotionally as well as physically exhausted. I'm suppose to go to a wedding tomorrow and be this happy fun person?

Is there something in the water and air, because I know so many people who are feeling what we are right now. I wish I had the answer for you. But I don't. That's being the best friend I can be. I could lie to you and tell you I have the key to all of this. But I don't.

Just know that you are not alone in this. Pipers Kitty and I are sending you extra love, hugs and prayers to you as always. We love you very much. Hang in there sweet tea.

Live strong,
Karilynn and Pipers Kitty

Dolphin123 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((Tea)))))))))))),

Sending you the biggest hugs of support.

Much Love,

Lunamoth · ~*Service Worker*~

((((Tea))))

You are one of the kindest people I've met here. I wish that I could lift you from your pain. I do know that it is worse for me when I'm not well. With your ear, I can only imagine how the constant pain plus the day to day grind must be wearing on you. It is easy to say take care of yourself, but when there has been no solution and you've done all the footwork you just want to scream "okay God/Hp...what's the purpose in this." I have no answers or great words for you, only that you are in my prayers and you are on my gratitude list . Because I am grateful you are here.

Love you!!!!

leo · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Tea,

Like you I am not a cryer either. That is when I know that if I do feel like crying I am really, really low. I fell in a heap with depression many years ago because I did not cry and suppressed the emotions. It is not a weakness, just let it out there are hugs reaching out to you from all over the world now. Sometimes the body and the soul just get overloaded. I am not sure what your financial situation is Tea but if you can afford it go and have some reiki or a massage when you are feeling a little stronger. It will really help the healing process. Thinking of you across the miles. Please stay in touch so we know you are okay. Luv Leo xxx(((()))

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Tea

(((((Tea))))))

I am so sorry that you are struggling today.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Hello from the cape, know you are missed.

Megan

Becky1 · ~*Service Worker*~

((((Tea)))))))

mel123 · Senior Member

Hey tea,

Hang in there! I've been praying for you.....crying is a good thing, very cleansing and much needed sometimes. God will give you the strength to get through this......just let Him. Take care of yourself....look forward to "seeing" you in the chat room.

God Bless....

mel

bobump · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey Tea !

I'm just catching up a bit on the boards and saw this. {{{{{tea}}}}}

I'm too new at this to comment on having to start over but I'll say this. I've seen people in my f2f who appear to have a very strong program. They have multiple fellowships.

And they've shared at meetings and w/ me privately on how they feel that they have to go back and start from step 1 again.

It sounds like you are at awareness of where you are and possibly even acceptance. Sounds like your ready or almost ready for action.

I'm sooo glad you hit the submit button and reached out. Of all the places in the world, this is the place where you don't have to be strong. We are hear for each other. I know somehow you'll work through this, and then it will have indeed passed and you might be better for it in the long run.

Love in recovery,
Bob

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

Tea: I think sometimes we revisit the same issues at another level. When I was ill before when I was in therapy I was so dissociated I did not voice the frustration, loss, sense of abandonment I had. I merely acted it out. Paradoxically I think it gets harder for me rather than easier as I progress because I know how far I have come (I have also done my time in therapy and still do it).

For some of us being ill can bring up a lot of abandonment and frustration issues particularly if we feel alone. I know one reason I wanted a relationship was that I wanted someone to lean on. Paradoxically I got someone who abandons me regularly on many many levels and who is abosolutely hopeless around illness but expects me to be "there" for him when he is sick. I am no longer "there" in the same way I once was at the expense of myself

I am so glad that you can voice about feeling raw, overwhelmed and fed up. I think that's a great start to not being the saint that some of us try to be. These days I try to be infinitely human and have so many limits and at the same time grow. I never want to be that person who was trying to do it all alone again. I get so much from reaching out and sharing and being with others. I know I was so so afraid to admit how flawed and difficult and overwhelmed I was. At the same time once I started admitting that and receiving feedback and support I no longer felt the tremendous abandonment and shame I just drowned in before.

Maresie.

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