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quest · quest

hi all, question wrt detachment. i used to react when my a drank, lied, did drugs... lately i have been kind and understanding it is a disease. and it is certainly better for me. i say things like, i am sorry you are having such a hard time... the question is - i wonder if i...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Hi my name is Angelnomore: My boyfriend who has been attending meeting since January has now reached his 90 days actually its over 100. We have broken up. He said he is not able to handle my emotional stuff and he is taking a break; I can call it whatever I want he said bre...

tippergirl · tippergirl

I went to a counselor for the first time iin 10+ years. The counselor handles depression issues which I am very depressed at the moment. He is a marriage counselor and also my husband's addiction counselor. So it was helpful because he has some background info and knows what has been going on lately. He...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, Well, the HP works in strange ways. I had a restless night Friday thinking about my A and him not wanting to come for the weekend. About running my race and how my A and I use to do these things together. Well, I got up early, early and drove to the race. I was not feeling confident. As we warmed up I ra...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Evryone))) Quick update ... On Friday afternoon I started thinking I could stay until after work Saturday, that's when I knew I had to leave immediately or I may not. So here I am with my dogs and a few clothes. I miss my cats, I miss my house, I wish I were finishing the gardening projects I ha...

debilyn · debilyn

I just wondered??? love,debilyn

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Thanks you all so much for your prayers and there still need!!!! My trip was painful, hard, but learned that i had dealt with how to deal with my alcoholic family when i am around them but not with my Husbands Alcoholic father but he is so different from my alcoholic parents that i forget that HE is a...

girlthing181 · girlthing181

last saturday my boyfriend of 8 years asked me to marry him. i had been wanting this for a very long time and accepted. this should be one of the happiest times of my life, instead i sit here crying as i write this. i have known he had issues with acohol for a few years. it was mil...

Becky1 · Becky1

My sweet little Mom, who will be 86 this Nov. has been having problems coughing a lot for a while now. Thought it was allergies. Went to Dr. for coughing, they took x-rays, now want her to come back in tomorrow (Mon.) to talk about them. I am scared to death. I live in Ohio and my Mom lives in K...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well things have took a complete turn around once again. my a told me last night that he cant stay sober, that he cant handle it. he has been 41 days sober. these days have been the best. but now he is just giving up. he was in an outpatient program and has been finished for a week. so the cravings started. he s...

tea2 · tea2

I am glad I recalled this link

A friend had passed this along to me awhile back.. I just sent it to a few others and thought it worth sharing here as well. If you wish turn your volume/speakers on -unless on the job, even then -hey they may enjoy too

http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wi...

WishingOnAStar · WishingOnAStar

Today has been a rough day. I don't know why I have been so hard on myself today. For some reason, I am doubting if what is going on is real, or if I am just thinking all of this to put the blame on him for ending the relationship. A way to justify things in my mind. But then the images of every single empty beer ca...

SingingLeaves · SingingLeaves

Norm gets up his hair is ragged, ties his shoes without a thought. He’s going to the seven-eleven can’t recall the night. who wants to anyway. There ain’t no changin norm. Norm is Norm ain’t Norm was Norm is afraid of that. Roque bloke you are ferrel in nature ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Let Go Let God has been a confusing and challenging task for me. I'm still mastering it. I have felt conflicted with my feelings towards my "A". He says there is nothing for me to worry about with regards to him cheating on me, but don't most people say that even when its not true?&nbs...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My husband is in Jail for multiple Duis and he hung up on me this morning because he said he "doesn't have the energy for this" because I said he was being mean. SO I said "You think I do?'' and he said "F@#@ you!" and hung up on me. It just sucks because I cannot convince myself that I didnt do anything wrong in...

tippergirl · tippergirl

UGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I can't take it anymore. My husband has been not that great a husband for the past two years. I am trying to be supportive as he goes through his recovery. The problem is that I have no support. He doesn't support me and can nver seem to give me what I need. I locked myself in the bathroom...

lilms · lilms

Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie

roxie · roxie

Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...

Miranda · Miranda

I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...

lilms · lilms

I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...

txmom · txmom

I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel

confused · confused

Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...

Christy · Christy

I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest.

On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...

Barbara · Barbara

Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((alanon family)))) I understand the meaning of these three words more right now than I ever have. I have said before on another post that thanks to Alanon I have recently realized that one of the reasons I have stayed in a bad marriage to my A is because I was afraid of the insanity of my family of o...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon Friends, I am a mess today. I asked my sober AH to come for the weekend. He said he was golfing and couldn't make it. He said next weekend maybe. Then he told me how he was so busy this afternoon helping his neighbor prepare for a race tomorrow. I asked him last weekend too. He said he was too busy....

Maria123 · Maria123

You're my sunshine after the rain you're the cure against my fear and my pain 'cause im losing my mind when you're not around it's all . . . it's all because of you credit goes to 98 degrees God is the sunshine after my rain . . . This week's weather began with ominous clouds followed by three da...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Well today is 16 days of seperationn for my a hub. Today is also my 19th Wedding how crazy is that......Anyway, I am trying to remain strong, hub keeps calling, he's at his dad's house. He is recovering from surgery on his leg. This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life. The proble...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am not stupid. I found my A last night after mulitple attempts to contact him on his cell phone. He was in the American Legion, thankfully I knew a lady going in and asked her if she could get me in too. (need a key card to enter) She gladly obliged. I walked in and there sat my A, he look stunned to say the le...

Tammy · Tammy

I have been here nearly a year posting on this board reading everyone's post and relating it to my crazy life. I realized today, i am further along on the path of recovery than i give myself credit. During the last year, i have left and returned twice, once being gone for over a mont...

Barbara · Barbara

Is it a nearby lake, rock chasm, back yard deck? Im thinking mine this year is going to be the nearby dam/beach. Its less than .5mile from our house. My backyard neighbors have some type of wood cutting business maybe? They really trashed the place so the backyard is out. I do enjoy our front yard as it l...

serendipity · serendipity

the rehab that my a is in called this afternoon. in part because they won't be keeping him very long and were wondering about a discharge plan. i actually was caught so off guard that i think all i said was that the kids will be happy to know he is ok and we love him and care. she was telling me he was there as if i...

tigerseye · tigerseye

Tonight, I went to my first Friday night meeting, and stayed afterward to chat (which is fairly unusual for me). And...I just want to say thank you so much to those who were there. I haven't had SO MUCH JOY in my life for months, and it was such a huge blessing to me to laugh for so long, so absolutely sensele...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was doing a little research this morning on the meanings of certain words. My question for myself was: when is it gossip vs. constructive criticism vs. inventory taking vs. opinion? First I'd like to share the meanings I found online (bear with me, some are long), then I'd like to share...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I'm sitting here at my computer, having just made my first blog entry. I've been writing for as long as I can remember, especially when I am faced with something painful or difficult - or even sometimes when I am so full of joy I cannot find my voice to express myself. I have f...

Cyn · Cyn

Today is exactly 6 months that I broke up with my A - to me it doesnt feel that long. Sometimes it feels longer and that the time I spent with him was a dream and sometimes it feels somewhat shorter like I can still hear his voice. I know with him 6 months iapart is typical, a year is typical, 2 yea...

tigerseye · tigerseye

Hi, All. I'm looking for that list that someone (can't for the life of me remember who...maybe angel) referred to and copy/pasted into this morning's meeting. It was about rights and responsibilities... If anyone could post it in here, I'd really appreciate it. I had c/ped it and lost it....

Jennifer · Jennifer

Morning Everyone, err I guess it is afternoon, Well, where to begin .... With my zero tolerance boundary for lies that I set months ago and let slide little by little until last night. To make a long story short my A and I had an agreement about financial decisions, and in the last few days there were num...

WishingOnAStar · WishingOnAStar

I have never had to deal with alcoholism before, so this is entirely new to me, and confusing. My story goes like this.....14 years ago my boyfriend and I met at a mutual friend's party. We were both 14. We stayed together almost 3 years, but the relationship ended and 7 years went by...

Gailey · Gailey

as you saw in my prior post , charges were dropped when my A son went to court this morning. I prayed for my HP to accept His will for the outcome of this hearing. now, certain people at work are saying things like "that is not a good outcome for him, he is learning nothing from this experience". I sort of...

gardengal · gardengal

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I few days ago a topic was stated titled "Why are you here". I thought it was a great topic, I didn't take any offense to it, I believe I saw it for how it was meant to be seen. I read the responses and I got some out of them. I have been doing alot of thinking since I discovered last night th...

sparkette · sparkette

Tonights meeting had this as a topic. I was sitting down reading some Robert Frost tonight and came upon this poem that reminded me how easy it can be to keep things simple :O) You can always just rebalance the load :O) Love you all...enjoy! "The Armful" For every parcel I stoop down to seize I lose...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I have read alot of the stuff on the board the last couple of days. I took sometime away from it all for me. Took time off work to figure out what makes me Smile inside and out and wasn't feeling all that great. Happiness for me is being me being happy, perky, humble when wrong,&n...

luv123 · luv123

HUMOR IN RECOVERY When I take a look at the disease of alcoholism from the distance of years of detachment that my recovery has put between us, I can often have a good chuckle for myself. What a gift that is considering all the pain and suffering I once felt. When I see how someone goes from one alcoh...

kspear · kspear

Hello all, I love this program for so many reasons, today because I can come and share something difficult and know that somewhere in the rooms, someone has gone through something similar and can share ESH on it. My mom just emailed me the news from her doctor. About 1 year ago (almost to the d...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A has had some major outbursts and rages the last two days and of course he blames me for his reactions and actions. Says if I didn't say that this way, or make a comment like this that way he wouldn't get so furious with me. Wednesday, I asked him to take the kids to school and I would fill his...

kspear · kspear

Thank you to everyone, I so appreciate all the prayers and sympathies and ESH with regards to my mother. I truly feel wrapped in the love of this program! Karen

debilyn · debilyn

Someone brought up to me something that made me want to share this. I have been here a very long time at mip. Along with growing in alanon I am growing in my spiritual life. You guys know I am not perfect. I am doing my best to be the best person I know how to be. I make mistakes. I hope you know that...

Juster · Juster

As I have said in prior posts, my problems do not seem very significant in consideration of what some of you go through. My AW and I are very close, probably very codependent, and together all of the time except during work. We commute together so I don't have to worry about her driving, I ca...

Gailey · Gailey

and his charges were dropped. I don't know if that is a good thing or not but I prayed that the outcome is God's will so I have to believe it is a good thing. Thanks everyone! Now I can go on with my plans and feel ok for today.

Barbara · Barbara

His restraining order is lifted. He's back to visiting my mother. She's back to enabling. My brother's mad at me for calling the cops when he violated his restraining order. Im ready to detach from the family. I want off the roller coaster.

Gailey · Gailey

In about 1 hour my son is going to court for a dui. He is very scared and I think that is a good thing. Last night he was full of anxiety because of all the footwork he was suppose to do in preparation for this hearing and did not do. Why??? Because he is an A and could only drink away his problems up until last nig...

Unsure · Unsure

I wanted to take the time to thank the board for allowing me to be me, for never judging the things that I did before Alanon, the things that I did to have acceptance, to be with someone, the low self-esteem that had me by the throat for years. But then I realized that someone could either like me for w...

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	detachment - not sure if i am doing it right (Preview) hi all, question wrt detachment. i used to react when my a drank, lied, did drugs... lately i have been kind and understanding it is a disease. and it is certainly better for me. i say things like, i am sorry you are having such a hard time... the question is - i wonder if i...	quest	1	315	May 9, 2006 by abbyal
	I’M TERRIFIED (Preview) Hi my name is Angelnomore: My boyfriend who has been attending meeting since January has now reached his 90 days actually its over 100. We have broken up. He said he is not able to handle my emotional stuff and he is taking a break; I can call it whatever I want he said bre...	angelnomore	9	649	May 8, 2006 by angelnomore
	esh in crisis (Preview) I went to a counselor for the first time iin 10+ years. The counselor handles depression issues which I am very depressed at the moment. He is a marriage counselor and also my husband's addiction counselor. So it was helpful because he has some background info and knows what has been going on lately. He...	tippergirl	4	479	May 8, 2006 by quest
	update on my weekend (Preview) Hi all, Well, the HP works in strange ways. I had a restless night Friday thinking about my A and him not wanting to come for the weekend. About running my race and how my A and I use to do these things together. Well, I got up early, early and drove to the race. I was not feeling confident. As we warmed up I ra...	nmike	4	395	May 8, 2006 by megan
	One day at a time (Preview) Hello (((Evryone))) Quick update ... On Friday afternoon I started thinking I could stay until after work Saturday, that's when I knew I had to leave immediately or I may not. So here I am with my dogs and a few clothes. I miss my cats, I miss my house, I wish I were finishing the gardening projects I ha...	Jennifer	3	425	May 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) I just wondered??? love,debilyn	debilyn	6	385	May 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	I am back........ (Preview) Thanks you all so much for your prayers and there still need!!!! My trip was painful, hard, but learned that i had dealt with how to deal with my alcoholic family when i am around them but not with my Husbands Alcoholic father but he is so different from my alcoholic parents that i forget that HE is a...	bubbles1990	5	377	May 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	I really need advice (Preview) last saturday my boyfriend of 8 years asked me to marry him. i had been wanting this for a very long time and accepted. this should be one of the happiest times of my life, instead i sit here crying as i write this. i have known he had issues with acohol for a few years. it was mil...	girlthing181	9	483	May 8, 2006 by girlthing181
	Prayers for my Mom (Preview) My sweet little Mom, who will be 86 this Nov. has been having problems coughing a lot for a while now. Thought it was allergies. Went to Dr. for coughing, they took x-rays, now want her to come back in tomorrow (Mon.) to talk about them. I am scared to death. I live in Ohio and my Mom lives in K...	Becky1	14	571	May 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	need esh (Preview) well things have took a complete turn around once again. my a told me last night that he cant stay sober, that he cant handle it. he has been 41 days sober. these days have been the best. but now he is just giving up. he was in an outpatient program and has been finished for a week. so the cravings started. he s...	notsonew1111	10	615	May 8, 2006 by Juster
	happy thoughts (Preview) I am glad I recalled this link A friend had passed this along to me awhile back.. I just sent it to a few others and thought it worth sharing here as well. If you wish turn your volume/speakers on -unless on the job, even then -hey they may enjoy too http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wi...	tea2	2	437	May 8, 2006 by Maria123
	The images are still there, yet I am still doubting things (Preview) Today has been a rough day. I don't know why I have been so hard on myself today. For some reason, I am doubting if what is going on is real, or if I am just thinking all of this to put the blame on him for ending the relationship. A way to justify things in my mind. But then the images of every single empty beer ca...	WishingOnAStar	3	334	May 8, 2006 by Maria123
	Poem - There ain't no changin norm (Preview) Norm gets up his hair is ragged, ties his shoes without a thought. He’s going to the seven-eleven can’t recall the night. who wants to anyway. There ain’t no changin norm. Norm is Norm ain’t Norm was Norm is afraid of that. Roque bloke you are ferrel in nature ...	SingingLeaves	2	318	May 8, 2006 by peewee
	Letting go of my Fears... (Preview) Let Go Let God has been a confusing and challenging task for me. I'm still mastering it. I have felt conflicted with my feelings towards my "A". He says there is nothing for me to worry about with regards to him cheating on me, but don't most people say that even when its not true?&nbs...	twinmom2	5	530	May 8, 2006 by serendipity
	He hung up on me-feel so hopeless-need hope (Preview) My husband is in Jail for multiple Duis and he hung up on me this morning because he said he "doesn't have the energy for this" because I said he was being mean. SO I said "You think I do?'' and he said "F@#@ you!" and hung up on me. It just sucks because I cannot convince myself that I didnt do anything wrong in...	sarahlm	8	391	May 8, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	new and raw (Preview) UGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I can't take it anymore. My husband has been not that great a husband for the past two years. I am trying to be supportive as he goes through his recovery. The problem is that I have no support. He doesn't support me and can nver seem to give me what I need. I locked myself in the bathroom...	tippergirl	7	552	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Motherinlaw Had a stroke (Preview) Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie	lilms	5	312	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	HELP! (Preview) Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...	roxie	4	395	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Questions (Preview) I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...	Miranda	6	405	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	and what if they die (Preview) I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...	lilms	10	557	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	What tools are in your toolbox? (Preview) Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...	kspear	1	729	May 8, 2006 by angel123
	No Guarantees!! (Preview) Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...	Jerry F	1	477	May 8, 2006 by tippergirl
	Public Amends (Preview) I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...	txmom	5	593	May 8, 2006 by leo
	short update (Preview) Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel	cedarpines	13	553	May 7, 2006 by cedarpines
	hey everyone, missed you all (Preview) Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...	confused	1	348	May 7, 2006 by Ria
	15 months later in Alanon (Preview) I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...	Christy	19	620	May 7, 2006 by sunny123
	Am I Crazy? (Preview) Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...	SerenityGirl	6	480	May 7, 2006 by tippergirl
	New car, new boundaries (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest. On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...	Karilynn	6	482	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Good day - just returned home from being out all day (Preview) Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...	Barbara	4	355	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Rum & Diet = evil (Preview) He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......	jennneeefffurrr	5	500	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	experience,strength ,and hope (Preview) (((((alanon family)))) I understand the meaning of these three words more right now than I ever have. I have said before on another post that thanks to Alanon I have recently realized that one of the reasons I have stayed in a bad marriage to my A is because I was afraid of the insanity of my family of o...	drucilla06	3	459	May 7, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi Alanon Friends, I am a mess today. I asked my sober AH to come for the weekend. He said he was golfing and couldn't make it. He said next weekend maybe. Then he told me how he was so busy this afternoon helping his neighbor prepare for a race tomorrow. I asked him last weekend too. He said he was too busy....	nmike	6	473	May 7, 2006 by sweetums
	it's outta my hands (and I thank God it is) (Preview) You're my sunshine after the rain you're the cure against my fear and my pain 'cause im losing my mind when you're not around it's all . . . it's all because of you credit goes to 98 degrees God is the sunshine after my rain . . . This week's weather began with ominous clouds followed by three da...	Maria123	13	549	May 7, 2006 by bob6502
	Words of Wisdom Needed (Preview) Well today is 16 days of seperationn for my a hub. Today is also my 19th Wedding how crazy is that......Anyway, I am trying to remain strong, hub keeps calling, he's at his dad's house. He is recovering from surgery on his leg. This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life. The proble...	Andrea12	5	500	May 6, 2006 by sandie123
	He pulled me back in...and I know better (Preview) I am not stupid. I found my A last night after mulitple attempts to contact him on his cell phone. He was in the American Legion, thankfully I knew a lady going in and asked her if she could get me in too. (need a key card to enter) She gladly obliged. I walked in and there sat my A, he look stunned to say the le...	jennneeefffurrr	7	398	May 6, 2006 by isabela40
	And I laugh... (Preview) I have been here nearly a year posting on this board reading everyone's post and relating it to my crazy life. I realized today, i am further along on the path of recovery than i give myself credit. During the last year, i have left and returned twice, once being gone for over a mont...	Tammy	3	373	May 6, 2006 by Christy
	where is your place for serenity/ "happy place"? (Preview) Is it a nearby lake, rock chasm, back yard deck? Im thinking mine this year is going to be the nearby dam/beach. Its less than .5mile from our house. My backyard neighbors have some type of wood cutting business maybe? They really trashed the place so the backyard is out. I do enjoy our front yard as it l...	Barbara	7	514	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	suprise i changed! (Preview) the rehab that my a is in called this afternoon. in part because they won't be keeping him very long and were wondering about a discharge plan. i actually was caught so off guard that i think all i said was that the kids will be happy to know he is ok and we love him and care. she was telling me he was there as if i...	serendipity	2	487	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Joy (Preview) Tonight, I went to my first Friday night meeting, and stayed afterward to chat (which is fairly unusual for me). And...I just want to say thank you so much to those who were there. I haven't had SO MUCH JOY in my life for months, and it was such a huge blessing to me to laugh for so long, so absolutely sensele...	tigerseye	2	386	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	gossip/inventory/opinion/constructive criticism? (Preview) I was doing a little research this morning on the meanings of certain words. My question for myself was: when is it gossip vs. constructive criticism vs. inventory taking vs. opinion? First I'd like to share the meanings I found online (bear with me, some are long), then I'd like to share...	kismetstrand	4	642	May 6, 2006 by gardengal
	Written word (Preview) Good morning, all. I'm sitting here at my computer, having just made my first blog entry. I've been writing for as long as I can remember, especially when I am faced with something painful or difficult - or even sometimes when I am so full of joy I cannot find my voice to express myself. I have f...	kspear	1	320	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Taking inventory (Preview) Today is exactly 6 months that I broke up with my A - to me it doesnt feel that long. Sometimes it feels longer and that the time I spent with him was a dream and sometimes it feels somewhat shorter like I can still hear his voice. I know with him 6 months iapart is typical, a year is typical, 2 yea...	Cyn	5	372	May 5, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking for that awesome LIST that someone posted in the morning meeting. Help! (Preview) Hi, All. I'm looking for that list that someone (can't for the life of me remember who...maybe angel) referred to and copy/pasted into this morning's meeting. It was about rights and responsibilities... If anyone could post it in here, I'd really appreciate it. I had c/ped it and lost it....	tigerseye	3	381	May 5, 2006 by angel123
	I'm in my HP's hands now (Preview) Morning Everyone, err I guess it is afternoon, Well, where to begin .... With my zero tolerance boundary for lies that I set months ago and let slide little by little until last night. To make a long story short my A and I had an agreement about financial decisions, and in the last few days there were num...	Jennifer	4	375	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I'm new here and really could use help/support (Preview) I have never had to deal with alcoholism before, so this is entirely new to me, and confusing. My story goes like this.....14 years ago my boyfriend and I met at a mutual friend's party. We were both 14. We stayed together almost 3 years, but the relationship ended and 7 years went by...	WishingOnAStar	6	413	May 5, 2006 by WishingOnAStar
	not sure what to think (Preview) as you saw in my prior post , charges were dropped when my A son went to court this morning. I prayed for my HP to accept His will for the outcome of this hearing. now, certain people at work are saying things like "that is not a good outcome for him, he is learning nothing from this experience". I sort of...	Gailey	3	366	May 5, 2006 by lin0606
	Question? How do you let go of feelings of guilt for something that isnt your fault? (Preview)	gardengal	10	462	May 5, 2006 by abbyal
	Why I am here (Preview) Hello all, I few days ago a topic was stated titled "Why are you here". I thought it was a great topic, I didn't take any offense to it, I believe I saw it for how it was meant to be seen. I read the responses and I got some out of them. I have been doing alot of thinking since I discovered last night th...	Dolphin123	6	529	May 5, 2006 by tea2
	Keep it simple (Preview) Tonights meeting had this as a topic. I was sitting down reading some Robert Frost tonight and came upon this poem that reminded me how easy it can be to keep things simple :O) You can always just rebalance the load :O) Love you all...enjoy! "The Armful" For every parcel I stoop down to seize I lose...	sparkette	6	453	May 5, 2006 by peewee
	Trying to look at today not torrow (Preview) I have read alot of the stuff on the board the last couple of days. I took sometime away from it all for me. Took time off work to figure out what makes me Smile inside and out and wasn't feeling all that great. Happiness for me is being me being happy, perky, humble when wrong,&n...	angeleyes8462	1	462	May 5, 2006 by mebjk
	humor from distancing (Preview) HUMOR IN RECOVERY When I take a look at the disease of alcoholism from the distance of years of detachment that my recovery has put between us, I can often have a good chuckle for myself. What a gift that is considering all the pain and suffering I once felt. When I see how someone goes from one alcoh...	luv123	1	392	May 5, 2006 by Faith73
	Sad News (Preview) Hello all, I love this program for so many reasons, today because I can come and share something difficult and know that somewhere in the rooms, someone has gone through something similar and can share ESH on it. My mom just emailed me the news from her doctor. About 1 year ago (almost to the d...	kspear	22	685	May 5, 2006 by Ria
	Feeling bummed out today (Preview) My A has had some major outbursts and rages the last two days and of course he blames me for his reactions and actions. Says if I didn't say that this way, or make a comment like this that way he wouldn't get so furious with me. Wednesday, I asked him to take the kids to school and I would fill his...	twinmom2	6	401	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thank you, a response to sad news (Preview) Thank you to everyone, I so appreciate all the prayers and sympathies and ESH with regards to my mother. I truly feel wrapped in the love of this program! Karen	kspear	1	528	May 5, 2006 by Ria
	some of me to you (Preview) Someone brought up to me something that made me want to share this. I have been here a very long time at mip. Along with growing in alanon I am growing in my spiritual life. You guys know I am not perfect. I am doing my best to be the best person I know how to be. I make mistakes. I hope you know that...	debilyn	7	491	May 5, 2006 by DanaAngel
	A little ESH Please (Preview) As I have said in prior posts, my problems do not seem very significant in consideration of what some of you go through. My AW and I are very close, probably very codependent, and together all of the time except during work. We commute together so I don't have to worry about her driving, I ca...	Juster	7	464	May 5, 2006 by Juster
	his trial is over already (Preview) and his charges were dropped. I don't know if that is a good thing or not but I prayed that the outcome is God's will so I have to believe it is a good thing. Thanks everyone! Now I can go on with my plans and feel ok for today.	Gailey	1	351	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	brother made it through his pretrial, trial sent for end of July (Preview) His restraining order is lifted. He's back to visiting my mother. She's back to enabling. My brother's mad at me for calling the cops when he violated his restraining order. Im ready to detach from the family. I want off the roller coaster.	Barbara	4	385	May 5, 2006 by Jeannie
	feeling a little scared this morning (Preview) In about 1 hour my son is going to court for a dui. He is very scared and I think that is a good thing. Last night he was full of anxiety because of all the footwork he was suppose to do in preparation for this hearing and did not do. Why??? Because he is an A and could only drink away his problems up until last nig...	Gailey	2	422	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	What To Do (Preview) I wanted to take the time to thank the board for allowing me to be me, for never judging the things that I did before Alanon, the things that I did to have acceptance, to be with someone, the low self-esteem that had me by the throat for years. But then I realized that someone could either like me for w...	Unsure	5	527	May 5, 2006 by Faith73
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