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jojo · Newbie

my co-dependency

Maria123 · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to Miracles in Progress (MIP) Jojo,

Seems like you've answered your own question (ha ha). When I got busy, I got better. There's a book entitled the same. Keeping the focus on you helps too. Get to a meeting, meetings dilute our distorted thinking. You posted here too. You've recognized what you want to change. I think you are doing great so far. Just keep coming.

We have a chat room too. It's awesome: www.mipchat.net say yes to authenticity question.

welcome, Maria123

doxie · Senior Member

It is so true, when we get busy we get better. I don't like sitting around, it is to much of an opportunity to feel sorry for myself to to obsess over stuff.

Stay strong,

Doxie

bubbles1990 · Senior Member

((((((((((((((jojo))))))))))))))) welcome I total agree the busier you are the better you feel and you don't have time to sit around on your pitty pot thinking and obsession about things!!!

Keep up the great work jojo!!

love Ya

Bubbles123

quest · Veteran Member

hey jo jo (((((hugs))))) i know what you mean about discovering our co-dependancy. i certainly didn't think it applied to me, and was so surprised to see in it so many different areas of my life and relationships. reading the book co-dependant no more (beatte) really helped me to see it, not beat myself up about it and to make change. and i agree f2f meetings really help a lot. keep up the focus on you and take good care of yourself! quest

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I was just dealing with an issue I dealt with a while ago in a fourth step of sorts when a friend of mine did not tell me she was angry at me. Then she went and told everyone else and got them to act on it for her. I have been tremendously hurt by that action. At the same time as someone who was compulsively people pleasing most of my life I cannot judge her. At the same time I don't think we will have a close friendship again because clearly there was no honesty there.

My own codependency is mani layered and deep and I am willing these days to deal with it. The damage of that behavior is immense for me.

Maresie.

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