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Public Amends


I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning.  In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another.  While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help.  I completely missed it and did not respond.  The member became hurt, said so and left the room. 


While newcomers are so very important, I feel like I was so focused on that one area that I missed a cry for help from a dear friend.  I am so sorry for any hurt that I caused that member.  I promise to make amends through my actions from this point forward.


With all my heart,


 


Regina



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We all miss things that fly by on our screens.  Don't beat yourself up.  You did the right thing, now move on.


Josey



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Aloha Txmom and thanks so much for the "walk" experience.  The tenth step is very necessary and important to ongoing recovery and as an "old timer" I appreciate all humility and reminders to "walk" it myself without any justifications not to.


Again thanks for the sponsorship from across the seas. ((((hugs))))



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((((((((((Regina))))))))))))))),


As we know, amends are for us, so I am happy that you got to make your amends.


However, know that we cannot be everything to everyone here.  I've been in your shoes before.  For me, it was not malicious being that I did not purposely ignore someone else but it's very hard to carry on two conversations at a time.


Love you,


Maria



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(((((((((((((((((Txmom)))))))))))))))))),

How sweet of you to want to make amends. You are such a remarkable human being and have been there for me many, many times. You have such a big heart, and I love you dearly. We all have seen many members old and new that have come into chat, and couldn't get to all of them at the same time. It can be frustrating. We all want to help one another. You did the best you could, and sometimes there are so mant different convesations going on at once, that it is hard to keep up. Don't be so hard on yourself. You would never deliberately hurt anyone. There isn't a mean bone in your body.

Live strong,
Karilynn


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Hi you cannot be there for every single person when they need help.  We can give what we have available at the time.  Please forgive yourself I am sure your dear friend values your friendship too much to let this get in the way.   Luv Leo xxx   

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