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DoN4me · DoN4me

I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...

kent_s · kent_s

I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...

shimo · shimo

Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...

angelnomore · angelnomore

(Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...

Lana · Lana

Due to my illusions concerning fairytales and reality, I was impressed with the following and wanted to share it here. I was listening to an Al-Anon member that gave a new meaning to the phrase happily ever after. She said that, "Happily ever after is working your recovery." ...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I no longer wish to be thought of as...."the sweetest person I know" by a few of my friends. I want to be that mean and evil...no care for human emotion girl, with guns blazing. Maybe not completely. One of the many things I have learned from this program is that, I am only responsible...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

It was suggested to me that perhaps my A is MY addiction. I had not seen OR spoken to my A since May 12. I sent him a letter confessing my undying love and devotion, I sent him a text, I left him a voice mail...not a single response. Yesterday, I passed him. He immediately picked up his phone a called me, a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I read back over my last post yesterday and decided I needed to make a change before it came between my family and I. I said what I meant and I said it nicely. I know they are happy for me and want me to have a different life than the rollercoaster I have been on the last 2 or so years. I un...

Diva · Diva

My dear, dignified, graceful, 12 year-old Boston Terrier was diagnosed with canine Cushing's Disease several months ago. This is a disease which has no cure, and the medications used to treat it are oftentimes as bad or worse than the disease tiself. Ultimately it is fatal. So hubby and I decided not...

hudsond · hudsond

Sometimes I find it difficult to know when to open my mouth and when to shut it. I'm not talking about in an arguement with my a I'm talking about just talking about stuff. I might have the opportunity for a new position at my school--becoming the music teacher. I'm very excited abou...

ohera101 · ohera101

I am as new as you get to this. I found out two weeks ago that my AH had cheated on me. He saw it as an opportunity to say how he really feels.....he isn't happy with our marriage....we aren't who we used to be....and he doesn't want to work at it. We have been together for almost 8 years, and that would have bee...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Weird day today........not feeling to good about some things so I had to write. I know of the saying "doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity" but isn't doing things differently and getting the same old results insanity too???? Just don't get it. Anyway.....wr...

Tammy · Tammy

As most of you know, I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years .. I have two teenage children. My husband is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. His parents were/are alcoholics and his mother died less than two years ago at 57 suddenly after a night of drinking..( no autopsy done, i do... >

sunny123 · sunny123

I am feeling really scared today. I just can't seem to get it together. I am exhausted and crying and need to do some many things in order to move out. I have been resting all day when I know I need to pack and find an apartment. My AH and I haven't talked in over 3 weeks. I can't believe that he hasn't tried...

nycbt · nycbt

Well I am very angry because my husband goes to this friends house all the dam time. I know he not having sex with her but that have some kind of money thing going on. I am really pissed off because I worried when the stuff is every going to end. I mean really. Some people say he is doing drug and buying i...

shimo · shimo

Hi Rose: Just wanted to let you know I e-mailed some recipes for the book yesterday (Sunday), but received a message "delivery delayed" and that I do not have to send my message again. Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)

serendipity · serendipity

just wanted to thank everyone for their love and support.

bob6502 · bob6502

I was feeling a little sad today so I thought I would apply a little program to my pity party. I have been feeling alone and lonely lately. At the same time happy in my independence, but wishing I had someone to share it with. Scared that if I get close to someone they will realize that I am not perfect and u...

John · John

Hi Everyone, When you registered on the Miracles In Progress message board it automatically added your email address to a Broadcast/Mailing List. This list of emails is not shared with anyone, for any reason, outside of MIP, and it's only utilization by MIP is to provide all registered mem...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm sitting here waiting for my lawyers office to open. It's hard at 6AM with not much to do and trying to be fairly quiet to not wake the house to sit and be nervous. I know logically what I am doing is right. There was a letter in the mail the other day when I stopped home, to th...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey u 2, i got that microsoft thing too and i just hit the "delete button".... i mean , hey we all make mistakes, and i was never mad anyway...some folks are into that "chain letter thing" i am not..... i didn't see what the big deal was........i mean D...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Dear M After today Sunday May 21, 2006 it’s pretty clear there isn’t a chance in hell for us. The words I remember last were “you don’t know what do anymore you don’t respect the boundaries I set or the boundaries you’ve set” and my patience is running pretty thin now” &nb...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Today was a new day. I could have sat home feeling sad...I could have hunkered down in loneliness....I could have lived someone else's existence....I had a choice. I went to the park with my kids, and we had a picnic. I left my cell phone behind, and we sat in the gras...

Lindy · Lindy

I know there are people on here who have much bigger problems than I have. It helps me to talk about what happened over the weekend. I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. Anyway, my A came home later on Sat. from working...

tippergirl · tippergirl

My A is driving me a little crazy right now. It's hard for me to know that my A only gives just enough information to our friends to make me look like the bad guy. He doesn't truly accept his behavior as his own. I don't air our dirty laundry out to anyone that we are associated iwth, but it seems that he is. Aft...

mattress_feller · mattress_feller

i already posted this in aa postings.and not everyone can change.but i know with the LORD i already have.and im sorry for anyone who was hurt by alcholics in family,i feel bad.and i know some people can change,and i hope its yours. hello,i dont know where to begin.my wife had this site on t...

angelnomore · angelnomore

How do I pause in a relationship? My AABoyfriend is telling me this is what he needs. But I can’t and I’m so TERRIED! I tried to not speaking to him while he goes through sobriety but he keeps leaving messages to tell me Hi and to see how my father is, my Father is very ill and is critical I’m not s...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

Detachement for me has been "walking away from everyone I love and have come to respect in my life." But for me the detachment I choose was because "I" wanted to find me to learn what it is that I have lost over so much time. I had gotten close to so many people and forgot th...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I really did not feel like posting this but isn't that the time I usually need to post the most? I moved out of my house 2 weeks ago. In that time I stopped by a few times, once I was supposed to stay the night for a doc appointment the next day but while I was there the police showed up...

sarahlm · sarahlm

So my AH wants a divorce. He told me from prison. Its not that Im that upset, I just feel so crappy being rejected by such a loser. Whatever. I am pretty sure Im not that upset because we have been thru this routine before and its hard to believe its true but maybe it really is. If it is, I am sure I will be de...

amommyfirst · amommyfirst

Hello My name is Christa and I am new to the board but no where near new to what is going on. My husband is a alcholic. it started really even before we were married. We both partied and drank but only on weekends and when I got pregnant he even stoped drinking since I could not. well 8 months after our daughte...

nycbt · nycbt

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marmare · marmare

Hi to All, Well, with my new job, (I already got a raise), mom being ill, my A being active, etc. etc. I have had lots of stress. Two years ago this would have affected every aspect of my life making me unable to do the smallest tasks like pay the bills. The skills I have learned through Alano...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling sorry for myself today. I feel like my life has been wasted. It has had no meaning. My A is in bed sick asleep all day. I found this poem that helped me feel better. I thought my alanon family might benefit from it as well. I have no one in my real life outside my f2f meetings to talk to when I am mad a...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((((family)))))))))) Something I read in a post has started me thinking.We know the A's are addicted to alcohol,but what are alanons addicted to? To the a's? Maybe not...... I had a friendship with a woman where I work that lasted about 8 years.I had just gotten back together with my AH afte...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi everyone I have been reading the board all weekend as it helps me stay in reality. Although my AH isn't as bad as some I have read about, the cycle of disappointment,despair and anger has been apart of my life for too long. This weekend has been stressful for me not because he is drinking b...

Becky1 · Becky1

I, Becky1, do hereby declare that today, Saturday, May 20, to be "What Email??? Day". Rose already feels bad enough, and probably feels worse when it keeps being brought up. She already apologized. We need to just let it go, forget it, banish it from our minds forever and ever. I...

kathy570 · kathy570

Sat. May 20/06 Dear John & ROSE, Hey, "We need not be organized " !!! Stuff happens and 90 % of the time it can be corrected !!!!!!!! Dear Rose, do NOT be so hard on yourself - IT WAS A MISTAKE - no one is perfect. Being the fiance of John, who works endlessly to keep...

serendipity · serendipity

my dad died today.it has been long comming. the cancer was everywhere. he was so good about the entire process. he rolled with it all. i felt he was gone on thursday and that it would only be 2 more days. it was.we had a different relationship. but whenever i needed him or his help he was there which always s...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello my alanon family. Thank you to all for praying for my family today. My "A" called me 5 minutes before I left for home to say that my gradfather had made it out of surgery. He is to stay in the ICU tonight and move to a different room tomorrow. My Grandmother told me when I got home that he has already...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, sad news again. My oldtimer Winny was put to sleep last night. For those that were here about a year back, you remember when i had to put Blue down too. As hard as it was this time, it was also a lot easier in a lot of ways.He was old, had kidney failure and just wasn't doing good at a...

agatha · agatha

About five or six weeks ago my A was told he was most likely bipolar by a mood specialist. He told my A that depression was "screammingly obvious" and gave him anti-psychotic medication that is suppose to work along with some pretty heavy anti-depressants. Amazingly enough they seem to be working for...

feelinhopeful · feelinhopeful

When I got to work last night, I was in a really bad place. MyA relapsed (again). A much younger co-worker took me aside and relayed a story that was given to her by her AA counselor: At Niagra Falls, people stood by and watched as a bald eagle landed to feed on a deer lying in the river. ...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

As many of you might know, I asked my AH to leave last week. I have been detaching from him slowly over the last two months, but still struggle with this. I got out the Blue Book yesterday, and read up on alcoholism, which gave me such a sense of compassion for this man...and regret that I judg...

Busbe · Busbe

Can anyone explain to me what the true perspective of the disease of alcoholism really is Im still struggling with that. Is it that the disease has no power over us. What do the rest of you get when u read "when u put it in its true perspective it loses its power over your thoughts and li...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello my Dear (((Friends))), Yesterday I took a step towards freedom, very small step but a step

Hub went off big time on the pitty pot with Mental Health yesterday, they sent the police there because they were afraid he was going to kill himself...heck he is already doing that.........

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I went to a friends "basement" last night, a bar, for an hour. I had to drive past, well didnt HAVE to, my A's place. His car was in the carport, but I could tell noone was home. I only cried a little bit. Then, on my way there, I think I passed him driving an unfamiliar car, with a female in the passenger se...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am wanting to scream. I have a migraine again. I feel like my head is going to explode. Saturdays we are suppose to do sales in town to earn money for our animals. We loaded the truck last nite. Supposedly my A has been sober since the last weekend in April. I took trash off during the week and foun...

feelinhopeful · feelinhopeful

This got emailed to me and I thought I would share it with all. FOOTPRINTS...A New Version In a dream, you and the Lord Jesus are walking down the road together. For much of the way, the Lord's footprints go along steadily, consistently, rarely varying the pace. But, your footprints are a disorg...

sallyb · sallyb

"This hurts like hell and the only kind of detachment that I can imagine is to remove myself from this situation entirely and move on with my life. I know that sounds selfish but I don't see a bright future living with an alcoholic. He is depressed and has lost al...

leo · leo

Just wanted to share this little story with you and how I handled it. My eldest son went out tonight and I did also. On my way home I noticed the police were doing random breath testing. I texted my son to let him know in case one of his friends or himself was silly enough to drink and driv...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, My husband and I have been talking a lot lately. Not arguing, just talking and about things that are important, to both of us. My sending out his resume had a lot of results. There have been several calls a day about possible jobs. I was getting aggravated as he found a reason to shoot dow...

lmt123 · lmt123

hey all, Good news! The spot and the cyst on my eyelid are NOT cancer! Whoo hoo! Just wanted to thank you all for prayers, they DO work. The doctor said the cyst on the lower lid is an oil gland that is just kinda big, and if I want to have it removed, I can. It...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

I have always been a logical, analytical thinker. Today, I am working on detachment. Detachment with love.....and it starts for me, learning about the disease of alcoholism. My father in law (h's step dad) passed away 4 yrs ago, and was a recovering alcoholic who was heavy into AA, an...

sarahlm · sarahlm

I am so sick of dealing with his insanity. I told AH some bad news today and he totally lost it on me and accused me of trying to upset him on purpose. Im so irritated. HE IS IN JAIL so Im supposed to tiptoe around everything and sugar coat it!! Plus it was the answer to a question he wnted me to find!!!!!! He put...

sunny123 · sunny123

So, here I am packing up my stuff while my AH is at his firm retreat that I was supposed to go on. It is so hard to find the strength to pack and sort when I am so upset and grieving. Moving is hard enough, but dealing with a separation, possible divorce, no job, no apartment is too much. I am trying to take it fir...

gardengal · gardengal

It says cannot connect.........??????

Lana · Lana

So, why I’m I so afraid to let people know who I am? I keep trying to get an account going here, but I have to keep deleting and changing my account because of something I said, something someone else said or didn’t say, or because the alias I picked didn't "feel right." I see people that have 300+ post a...

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	Tired of the headaches (Preview) I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...	DoN4me	2	401	May 23, 2006 by DoN4me
	Ask nothing of another person... (Preview) I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...	kent_s	4	578	May 23, 2006 by kent_s
	ROSE - RECIPES (Preview) Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...	shimo	0	545	May 23, 2006 by shimo
	don’t know how it’s evolved to this PART 2 (Preview) (Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...	angelnomore	3	560	May 23, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	another knot in the rope (Preview) A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...	katrina2000	6	575	May 23, 2006 by Rita G
	illusions of reality (Preview) Due to my illusions concerning fairytales and reality, I was impressed with the following and wanted to share it here. I was listening to an Al-Anon member that gave a new meaning to the phrase happily ever after. She said that, "Happily ever after is working your recovery." ...	Lana	2	677	May 23, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Make the sweet stuff go away! (Preview) I no longer wish to be thought of as...."the sweetest person I know" by a few of my friends. I want to be that mean and evil...no care for human emotion girl, with guns blazing. Maybe not completely. One of the many things I have learned from this program is that, I am only responsible...	ZiggyDoodles	1	403	May 23, 2006 by wallsal55
	Revelations...about MY addiction (Preview) It was suggested to me that perhaps my A is MY addiction. I had not seen OR spoken to my A since May 12. I sent him a letter confessing my undying love and devotion, I sent him a text, I left him a voice mail...not a single response. Yesterday, I passed him. He immediately picked up his phone a called me, a...	jennneeefffurrr	8	840	May 23, 2006 by sarahlm
	Family Talk & Apology (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I read back over my last post yesterday and decided I needed to make a change before it came between my family and I. I said what I meant and I said it nicely. I know they are happy for me and want me to have a different life than the rollercoaster I have been on the last 2 or so years. I un...	Jennifer	1	557	May 23, 2006 by megan
	Off the subject... (Preview) My dear, dignified, graceful, 12 year-old Boston Terrier was diagnosed with canine Cushing's Disease several months ago. This is a disease which has no cure, and the medications used to treat it are oftentimes as bad or worse than the disease tiself. Ultimately it is fatal. So hubby and I decided not...	Diva	14	539	May 23, 2006 by TLC2
	what to say/do (Preview) Sometimes I find it difficult to know when to open my mouth and when to shut it. I'm not talking about in an arguement with my a I'm talking about just talking about stuff. I might have the opportunity for a new position at my school--becoming the music teacher. I'm very excited abou...	hudsond	4	602	May 23, 2006 by hudsond
	And the words came out.... (Preview) I am as new as you get to this. I found out two weeks ago that my AH had cheated on me. He saw it as an opportunity to say how he really feels.....he isn't happy with our marriage....we aren't who we used to be....and he doesn't want to work at it. We have been together for almost 8 years, and that would have bee...	ohera101	3	447	May 23, 2006 by confused
	Falling Stars (Preview) Weird day today........not feeling to good about some things so I had to write. I know of the saying "doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity" but isn't doing things differently and getting the same old results insanity too???? Just don't get it. Anyway.....wr...	buzzfree	10	497	May 23, 2006 by sparkette
	Does growing stronger make you NUMB ? (Preview) As most of you know, I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years .. I have two teenage children. My husband is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. His parents were/are alcoholics and his mother died less than two years ago at 57 suddenly after a night of drinking..( no autopsy done, i do... >	Tammy	4	544	May 22, 2006 by quest
	scared (Preview) I am feeling really scared today. I just can't seem to get it together. I am exhausted and crying and need to do some many things in order to move out. I have been resting all day when I know I need to pack and find an apartment. My AH and I haven't talked in over 3 weeks. I can't believe that he hasn't tried...	sunny123	11	512	May 22, 2006 by sunny123
	ANGRY (Preview) Well I am very angry because my husband goes to this friends house all the dam time. I know he not having sex with her but that have some kind of money thing going on. I am really pissed off because I worried when the stuff is every going to end. I mean really. Some people say he is doing drug and buying i...	nycbt	10	495	May 22, 2006 by Maria123
	ROSE RE RECIPE'S (Preview) Hi Rose: Just wanted to let you know I e-mailed some recipes for the book yesterday (Sunday), but received a message "delivery delayed" and that I do not have to send my message again. Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	475	May 22, 2006 by Becky1
	thank you (Preview) just wanted to thank everyone for their love and support.	serendipity	4	408	May 22, 2006 by bubbles1990
	It's a journey (Preview) I was feeling a little sad today so I thought I would apply a little program to my pity party. I have been feeling alone and lonely lately. At the same time happy in my independence, but wishing I had someone to share it with. Scared that if I get close to someone they will realize that I am not perfect and u...	bob6502	9	596	May 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	Deepest Apology (Preview) Hi Everyone, When you registered on the Miracles In Progress message board it automatically added your email address to a Broadcast/Mailing List. This list of emails is not shared with anyone, for any reason, outside of MIP, and it's only utilization by MIP is to provide all registered mem...	John	18	3950	May 22, 2006 by moonstorm
	Waiting (Preview) Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm sitting here waiting for my lawyers office to open. It's hard at 6AM with not much to do and trying to be fairly quiet to not wake the house to sit and be nervous. I know logically what I am doing is right. There was a letter in the mail the other day when I stopped home, to th...	Jennifer	6	567	May 22, 2006 by Jennifer
	Add yourself to MIP MAP (closed) (Preview) This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...	jrtjosey	0	460	May 22, 2006 by toto12
	to john and rose (Preview) hey u 2, i got that microsoft thing too and i just hit the "delete button".... i mean , hey we all make mistakes, and i was never mad anyway...some folks are into that "chain letter thing" i am not..... i didn't see what the big deal was........i mean D...	rosie light shines	4	440	May 22, 2006 by toto12
	don’t know how it’s evolved to this. (Preview) Dear M After today Sunday May 21, 2006 it’s pretty clear there isn’t a chance in hell for us. The words I remember last were “you don’t know what do anymore you don’t respect the boundaries I set or the boundaries you’ve set” and my patience is running pretty thin now” &nb...	angelnomore	3	524	May 22, 2006 by abbyal
	An experience I need to share (Preview) Today was a new day. I could have sat home feeling sad...I could have hunkered down in loneliness....I could have lived someone else's existence....I had a choice. I went to the park with my kids, and we had a picnic. I left my cell phone behind, and we sat in the gras...	Jennfer32	5	538	May 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Weekend with a drunk; doesn't remember what he said! (Preview) I know there are people on here who have much bigger problems than I have. It helps me to talk about what happened over the weekend. I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. Anyway, my A came home later on Sat. from working...	Lindy	3	659	May 22, 2006 by megan
	hard to focus on self (Preview) My A is driving me a little crazy right now. It's hard for me to know that my A only gives just enough information to our friends to make me look like the bad guy. He doesn't truly accept his behavior as his own. I don't air our dirty laundry out to anyone that we are associated iwth, but it seems that he is. Aft...	tippergirl	6	551	May 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	addiction (Preview) i already posted this in aa postings.and not everyone can change.but i know with the LORD i already have.and im sorry for anyone who was hurt by alcholics in family,i feel bad.and i know some people can change,and i hope its yours. hello,i dont know where to begin.my wife had this site on t...	mattress_feller	5	479	May 22, 2006 by carol g
	HOW DO YOU PAUSE!!!! (Preview) How do I pause in a relationship? My AABoyfriend is telling me this is what he needs. But I can’t and I’m so TERRIED! I tried to not speaking to him while he goes through sobriety but he keeps leaving messages to tell me Hi and to see how my father is, my Father is very ill and is critical I’m not s...	angelnomore	3	911	May 21, 2006 by kent_s
	Detachment (Preview) Detachement for me has been "walking away from everyone I love and have come to respect in my life." But for me the detachment I choose was because "I" wanted to find me to learn what it is that I have lost over so much time. I had gotten close to so many people and forgot th...	angeleyes8462	3	423	May 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	UGH I did not think it could hurt more (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I really did not feel like posting this but isn't that the time I usually need to post the most? I moved out of my house 2 weeks ago. In that time I stopped by a few times, once I was supposed to stay the night for a doc appointment the next day but while I was there the police showed up...	Jennifer	4	426	May 21, 2006 by Tammy
	The pain of being rejected by a LOSER!!! (Preview) So my AH wants a divorce. He told me from prison. Its not that Im that upset, I just feel so crappy being rejected by such a loser. Whatever. I am pretty sure Im not that upset because we have been thru this routine before and its hard to believe its true but maybe it really is. If it is, I am sure I will be de...	sarahlm	3	1195	May 21, 2006 by Busbe
	need help (Preview) Hello My name is Christa and I am new to the board but no where near new to what is going on. My husband is a alcholic. it started really even before we were married. We both partied and drank but only on weekends and when I got pregnant he even stoped drinking since I could not. well 8 months after our daughte...	amommyfirst	6	426	May 21, 2006 by nycbt
	JAL-CON 2006 NJ (Preview) HI EVERYONE JAL-CON 2006 31ST ANNUAL NEW JERSEY AL-ALANON CONVENTION EARLY BIRD RATE REGISTRATION FORM MUST BE POSTMRKED BY JUNE 23, 2006 "GET YOUR KICKS" AL-ANON MEETINGS-ALATEEN MEETINGS-AA MEETINGS SPEAKERS-LONG-TIMER'S PANEL-FAMILY PANEL-SKIT-BANQUET-DANCE JULY 21ST,...	nycbt	4	432	May 21, 2006 by nycbt
	What a switch (Preview) Hi to All, Well, with my new job, (I already got a raise), mom being ill, my A being active, etc. etc. I have had lots of stress. Two years ago this would have affected every aspect of my life making me unable to do the smallest tasks like pay the bills. The skills I have learned through Alano...	marmare	2	416	May 21, 2006 by Tammy
	inspirational poem wanted to share (Preview) I was feeling sorry for myself today. I feel like my life has been wasted. It has had no meaning. My A is in bed sick asleep all day. I found this poem that helped me feel better. I thought my alanon family might benefit from it as well. I have no one in my real life outside my f2f meetings to talk to when I am mad a...	hmrnrnmm	1	376	May 21, 2006 by Lana
	the "substance" alanons are hooked on (Preview) (((((((((family)))))))))) Something I read in a post has started me thinking.We know the A's are addicted to alcohol,but what are alanons addicted to? To the a's? Maybe not...... I had a friendship with a woman where I work that lasted about 8 years.I had just gotten back together with my AH afte...	drucilla06	7	1260	May 21, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Holding Back (Preview) Hi everyone I have been reading the board all weekend as it helps me stay in reality. Although my AH isn't as bad as some I have read about, the cycle of disappointment,despair and anger has been apart of my life for too long. This weekend has been stressful for me not because he is drinking b...	Elizabeth M	4	446	May 21, 2006 by maresie
	No More Discussion Please (Preview) I, Becky1, do hereby declare that today, Saturday, May 20, to be "What Email??? Day". Rose already feels bad enough, and probably feels worse when it keeps being brought up. She already apologized. We need to just let it go, forget it, banish it from our minds forever and ever. I...	Becky1	4	512	May 21, 2006 by shellsea
	Rose's MIXUP - READDDDDDDDDD (Preview) Sat. May 20/06 Dear John & ROSE, Hey, "We need not be organized " !!! Stuff happens and 90 % of the time it can be corrected !!!!!!!! Dear Rose, do NOT be so hard on yourself - IT WAS A MISTAKE - no one is perfect. Being the fiance of John, who works endlessly to keep...	kathy570	2	539	May 21, 2006 by shellsea
	grief (Preview) my dad died today.it has been long comming. the cancer was everywhere. he was so good about the entire process. he rolled with it all. i felt he was gone on thursday and that it would only be 2 more days. it was.we had a different relationship. but whenever i needed him or his help he was there which always s...	serendipity	7	483	May 21, 2006 by maresie
	Update: Prayers Needed (Preview) Hello my alanon family. Thank you to all for praying for my family today. My "A" called me 5 minutes before I left for home to say that my gradfather had made it out of surgery. He is to stay in the ICU tonight and move to a different room tomorrow. My Grandmother told me when I got home that he has already...	Dolphin123	4	439	May 21, 2006 by peewee
	had to put my kids/lesson horse to sleep last night (Preview) Hi all, sad news again. My oldtimer Winny was put to sleep last night. For those that were here about a year back, you remember when i had to put Blue down too. As hard as it was this time, it was also a lot easier in a lot of ways.He was old, had kidney failure and just wasn't doing good at a...	mastiff	7	598	May 21, 2006 by bob6502
	Bipolar (Preview) About five or six weeks ago my A was told he was most likely bipolar by a mood specialist. He told my A that depression was "screammingly obvious" and gave him anti-psychotic medication that is suppose to work along with some pretty heavy anti-depressants. Amazingly enough they seem to be working for...	agatha	2	429	May 21, 2006 by confused
	The Eagle and the Deer (Preview) When I got to work last night, I was in a really bad place. MyA relapsed (again). A much younger co-worker took me aside and relayed a story that was given to her by her AA counselor: At Niagra Falls, people stood by and watched as a bald eagle landed to feed on a deer lying in the river. ...	feelinhopeful	2	450	May 20, 2006 by sarahlm
	Revelations and regrets--INSIGHT PLEASE (Preview) As many of you might know, I asked my AH to leave last week. I have been detaching from him slowly over the last two months, but still struggle with this. I got out the Blue Book yesterday, and read up on alcoholism, which gave me such a sense of compassion for this man...and regret that I judg...	Jennfer32	5	502	May 20, 2006 by Jennfer32
	True perspective (Preview) Can anyone explain to me what the true perspective of the disease of alcoholism really is Im still struggling with that. Is it that the disease has no power over us. What do the rest of you get when u read "when u put it in its true perspective it loses its power over your thoughts and li...	Busbe	4	426	May 20, 2006 by Busbe
	A Step Towards Freedom (Preview) Hello my Dear (((Friends))), Yesterday I took a step towards freedom, very small step but a step Hub went off big time on the pitty pot with Mental Health yesterday, they sent the police there because they were afraid he was going to kill himself...heck he is already doing that.........	Andrea12	7	628	May 20, 2006 by whitie
	Fear, Agony & Hope (Preview) I went to a friends "basement" last night, a bar, for an hour. I had to drive past, well didnt HAVE to, my A's place. His car was in the carport, but I could tell noone was home. I only cried a little bit. Then, on my way there, I think I passed him driving an unfamiliar car, with a female in the passenger se...	jennneeefffurrr	4	691	May 20, 2006 by maresie
	I want to scream, lied to again? I think (Preview) I am wanting to scream. I have a migraine again. I feel like my head is going to explode. Saturdays we are suppose to do sales in town to earn money for our animals. We loaded the truck last nite. Supposedly my A has been sober since the last weekend in April. I took trash off during the week and foun...	hmrnrnmm	5	516	May 20, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Footprints - A New Version (Preview) This got emailed to me and I thought I would share it with all. FOOTPRINTS...A New Version In a dream, you and the Lord Jesus are walking down the road together. For much of the way, the Lord's footprints go along steadily, consistently, rarely varying the pace. But, your footprints are a disorg...	feelinhopeful	3	487	May 20, 2006 by Andrea12
	Trying to heal (Preview) "This hurts like hell and the only kind of detachment that I can imagine is to remove myself from this situation entirely and move on with my life. I know that sounds selfish but I don't see a bright future living with an alcoholic. He is depressed and has lost al...	sallyb	3	538	May 20, 2006 by leo
	tricked (Preview) Just wanted to share this little story with you and how I handled it. My eldest son went out tonight and I did also. On my way home I noticed the police were doing random breath testing. I texted my son to let him know in case one of his friends or himself was silly enough to drink and driv...	leo	7	502	May 20, 2006 by sandie123
	Mother In Law (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband and I have been talking a lot lately. Not arguing, just talking and about things that are important, to both of us. My sending out his resume had a lot of results. There have been several calls a day about possible jobs. I was getting aggravated as he found a reason to shoot dow...	Jeannie	5	736	May 20, 2006 by maresie
	update on my eye problem... (Preview) hey all, Good news! The spot and the cyst on my eyelid are NOT cancer! Whoo hoo! Just wanted to thank you all for prayers, they DO work. The doctor said the cyst on the lower lid is an oil gland that is just kinda big, and if I want to have it removed, I can. It...	lmt123	9	570	May 20, 2006 by peewee
	Learning Healthy Compassion (Preview) I have always been a logical, analytical thinker. Today, I am working on detachment. Detachment with love.....and it starts for me, learning about the disease of alcoholism. My father in law (h's step dad) passed away 4 yrs ago, and was a recovering alcoholic who was heavy into AA, an...	Jennfer32	5	441	May 20, 2006 by kent_s
	I hate him!!!!! (Preview) I am so sick of dealing with his insanity. I told AH some bad news today and he totally lost it on me and accused me of trying to upset him on purpose. Im so irritated. HE IS IN JAIL so Im supposed to tiptoe around everything and sugar coat it!! Plus it was the answer to a question he wnted me to find!!!!!! He put...	sarahlm	6	733	May 20, 2006 by feelinhopeful
	Packing Up (Preview) So, here I am packing up my stuff while my AH is at his firm retreat that I was supposed to go on. It is so hard to find the strength to pack and sort when I am so upset and grieving. Moving is hard enough, but dealing with a separation, possible divorce, no job, no apartment is too much. I am trying to take it fir...	sunny123	2	388	May 20, 2006 by sunny123
	Is anyone else having problems getting into chat? (Preview) It says cannot connect.........??????	gardengal	1	371	May 20, 2006 by jrtjosey
	who am I? (Preview) So, why I’m I so afraid to let people know who I am? I keep trying to get an account going here, but I have to keep deleting and changing my account because of something I said, something someone else said or didn’t say, or because the alias I picked didn't "feel right." I see people that have 300+ post a...	Lana	11	754	May 20, 2006 by Maria123
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