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Post Info TOPIC: Weekend with a drunk; doesn't remember what he said!


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Weekend with a drunk; doesn't remember what he said!


I know there are people on here who have much bigger problems than I have. It helps me to talk about what happened over the weekend. I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. Anyway, my A came home later on Sat. from working so he didn't start drinking until around 2:30. I thought it was going to be a pretty easy day. I took my son to a movie later in the day. The A was invited to go with but as usual, he declined because he can't drink in the movie theatre so he won't go. My A took the alcoholic neighbor lady (who is in her 60's) with him to another friend's house. They were still gone when I got back from the movies with my son. When he came home, he was stumbling drunk, red eyed, and stupid looking. He DROVE like that. Within three short hours he was completely plowed and so was the neighbor. Since he doesn't remember anything he says or does when he's drunk, I take advantage of it and tell him that he said my son could do this or do that, whatever. I know it's wrong, but it's my little revenge thing. The next day, he was all hung over and started bitching at my son for using a space heater. It was cold in the house. I told him he said it was okay the night before and he can't go back on his word. He doesn't even question whether or not he really said that! He can't remember anything and just seems to accept it. I can someone go through life saying things and not remembering it and not being horrified by that??? So Sunday started off with the hungover A bitching and complaining that he has "no authority". I told him I can't respect someone who drinks like he does. He started drinking at 10am on Sunday morning! I'm so tired of this and now I think I'm getting sick too. Just needed to vent...

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Lindy,


Hate to read about another unhealthy home out there - mine was so that way for many, many years.  Even since recovery, it can still get that way, if we don't practice these principles in all our affairs.


I often used my husband's "lack of memory" to manipulate things, it made me feel like I had some control over my miserable life.  Now in recovery, I know I was just reacting to his and my disease.


Hope that you are able to attend some f2f meetings, the readings on boundaries helped me a lot to know it was ok to take care of myself. 


Keep coming back,


Rita G.


 



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I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything.

Is there anywhere else you can go with your son on the weekends that you have him? It is so sad that you cannot spend quality time and feel relaxed while having him with you.

I will pray for you and your son to have some peace and happiness together without a lot of stress and worries.

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Hi Lindy


Good job taking you son and going to the movie. That is nice that you were able to take care of you and your son.


I know that awhile ago you said you were going to go to a face to face meeting but it snowed a foot.


here is the information on alanon meetings.


World Service Organization Website –


 


 


WWW.al-anon.alateen.org


 


 


Phone number is 1-888-425-2666


 


 


Alanon meetings 800-351-9996


 


 


Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666


 


 


Alanon meeting info. 800-433-7266 AA info.


 


 


Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html


 


 


Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.


 


 


 


 


Go face to face meeting & online meeting.


post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.


 


· Set support system. people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first get in this program.



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