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arty · arty

im trying my hardest not to angry with my A when he breaks his promises...i know that if the alcohol wasnt controlling him he would keep his word. So how does one get over the fact that promises get broken? At the moment i am choosing to write this than have an arguement. But i am boiling on the inside. i...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I went out and got the protection order today even though I have no idea where to serve him. Now I feel so guilty. Nevermind that he broke into my house and stole food out of my children's mouths. Nevermind the fact that he said he was going to file for divorce and wanted joint custod...

jaja · jaja

Lately my A comes off as is if I'm the one who has a problem which maybe I do - I am co-dependant, after all - but so does he! He's an alcoholic!!! He goes to AA again now ( starting 2 mos.or so ago) and he knows I'm back in Al-Anon. But he acts like h...

maresie2 · maresie2

Both the A and his brother have significant substance abuse issues. When the A's mother decided out of the blue to move out and go marry some guy several states away she didn't think twice about kicking the A's older brother out to live on his own. Right now the older brother is showi...

jaja · jaja

barisax · barisax

When I first joined this forum, I made a post about this being more "in the trenches" than the f2f meetings I normally attend. More newcomers, more people in the thick of things, and posting a blow-by-blow like an embedded reporter. I have been in these rooms long enough to have seen and heard much o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

You said earlier on one of your posts that your attorney made it so you could be solely responsible for selling the house. What was the process for this? Our house has an offer and we have both signed the contract but I don't think he'll show for the closing and that will kill the deal! ...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has already started on the trying to manipulate me for Thanksgiving stuff. He has been saying how low his brother is. Every year since I got together with the A they all spent thanksigivng with his mother. At some point I opted out of that because I felt resentment o...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone)))) I have started on Step Two in my stepwork, and have realized that it is such a big deal.... "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity"... This whole year has been one giant glob of insanity, insanity from the alcoholic in my life, insanity...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi All Feeling pretty good this AM. I have been waiting for my AH to break the polite silence that we have been living with ( for 2 weeks) since he returned from his vacation. I been waiting for a kind word or acknowledgement that my feelings were hurt by his actions before he left. W...

maresie2 · maresie2

Last night I watched a documentary on HBO "Thin". I thought it was pretty riveting stuff. One of the huge issues the women confront is the lies. That is one of my huge issues with the A everything is a lie. Another is their rebelliousness and inability to follow...

Gailey · Gailey

As I have posted this before...I am addicted to food...especially sugar. It has made my life unmanageable and miserable. I have even tried, by self will, to give it up. I would say to myself if I can get off the rollercoaster of binge eating, then maybe I will have more hope for my A son. The cravings a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) It's been so long since I trusted people's motives for being kind. I somehow got used to being treated special either before a bad incident or after one that I no longer trusted anyone's motives for doing something nice. Over the last year I have worked hard giving up&nb...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have talked before about the truck that is registered in both my husband's and my name. It is in the impound from his recent dui. I am tired of paying insurance on it and know that the payments for it will not get made. I'm not even sure if he's going to get it out of the impound. W...

Gailey · Gailey

Probably one of the most profound things I have learned from this program is to let go of expectations. This Thanksgiving I have decided to go out of town to my younger son's and dil's. I usually go to my sister's house with the rest of my family. My son and dil cannot make it this year so we decided to go...

Barbara · Barbara

First I heard from my brother. He wanted to say Happy Birthday. He doesnt sound like himself but at least he reached out to me. Said Mom and our other brother will be okay, that if they ever need cars he will buy them for them. I felt like asking when he'll pay rent/buy moms condo as she's moved out and he's st...

Christy · Christy

My A sent me this prayer today. He's come so far and I'm so proud of his accomplishments. Both his sobriety and his ability to do his job in Alaska. What was supposed to be a three month stint is going to be perm. The company wants him to stay and has offered almost twice his inital pay (wooohooo!!). He was 9 m...

afmom03 · afmom03

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

was reading a good article in the newspaper. It was written by a women that tries to encourage us. It was an article about how much lose brings us down. the article was so true. She talked about how letting go of things lifts a tremendos amount of weight from our shoulders. I got to thinking about wher...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well tonight is my last night in DC and I have tried to contine the trrip and have a good time. The A went to jail on a DUI the night before I left, lost his job, etc. Nobody bailed him and he got out the next day anyway so in the middle of my trip I get a call from him saying hes going to my house and the...

bob6502 · bob6502

My contribution to experience, strength, and hope.

Enjoy my friends, SenoraBob

    ...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) My AW left a card at the house for me a week or so ago. It was a sappy "your the greatest" kind of card. But in it she wrote: " God provides enough seed to feed all the birds, but he doesn't throw it into the nest ... " I am not sure what that ment to her? Or why she woul...

albertarose · albertarose

Being very new to the Alanon group I am finding myself very shy to speak at the meetings. I am lost for words and when I do I tremble or my voice quivers with nervousness. It's very hard to speak and especially when it comes to the steps. I was at a meeting last night and the topic was step 5. I am of course not...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone))))) I have never been good at cutting to the chase with her and saying what I mean. You know, say what you mean and don't say it mean. So now that I am trying to do that... she doesn't believe me. Guess that is a tough pill to swallow. I have been very direct, but not ug...

jeeves · jeeves

Hey Everyone, My wife is still not working any sort of program and simply asks me to be patient while she searches for her 'right solution'. My family has expressed an interest in seeing her at our Thanksgiving because they haven't in two years. She is getting sicker by the week,...

Tryin2havfaith · Tryin2havfaith

Left the A. several messages last week-one apologizing for giving him crap and the other to thank him for telling me about a certain hiking path-it was so beautiful. Didn't hear back. Didn't expect to. I started moving my stuff to the new place back home. He knows nothing about this m...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I'm being quiet. Along the lines of if nothing good to say don't say anything. Last week I wrote about spending the night at my Mom's, it was nice ... would have been nicer if I had not beat myself up for telling my A he could not come along. So dumb, we're getting divorced, he never wan...

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

Gailey · Gailey

Karilynn wrote: He is now almost 6 months sober and he now tells me that as a "chronic relapser" he wasn't ready to get sober. He wanted it, but wasn't ready for it. That sentence says alot to me. I thought that if you wanted something enough you would go to any...

kicky · kicky

Since I asked my A to leave, he has bounced from place to place just waiting for me to (once again) change my mind and give him another chance. But I know he has to feel pain to get better, and my house isn't painful enough. It's warm and happy, with dogs and kids,a roaring fireplace, a good cook, clea...

kerry5 · kerry5

: > : > : >Around the corner I have a friend, : > : > : > : > : >In this great city that has no end, : > : > : > : > : >Yet the days go by and weeks rush on, : > : > : > : > : >And before I know it, a year is gone. : > : > : > : > : >And I never see my old frie...

laurab · laurab

Here's what's happening. My A son's separated from wife couldn't reach him on the phone so she went over to his empty apartment and found him drunk and maybe coked and he told her to leave because he would be dead anyway in an hour. She left and called me. My H and I suggested she call 911. She did. He called m...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have been trying for sometime to get my son intrested in going to alateen. But he has no desire. Things here are getting progressively worse with him and his attitude. He has been in and out of therapy with and with out me as well. I know there is something at the root causing this. I know I haven't b...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday I had a slip. I have gone off when of the drugs that I have been trying to get off of for a while. I am also have PMS, and this weekend I was very emional. On Saturday I snap and I broke glass. I was so upset this weekend. So I had to share with everyone it does happen to people even those who have been...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Hope everyone enjoyed the weekend. Over the weekend I took some time out to just slow things down a bit in my head. Life has been moving pretty fast in my world lately and its been difficult to get a hold on what this all means. Things are going very well for my A. H...

marmare · marmare

Please add my daughter in-law, Lisa, to your prayer list. She is headed to the hospital this morning. She has Cystitis Fibrosis, it looks like Pneumonia. Husband is home, seems like he has accepted that I too am human and make mistakes. We will just take it slow and smart....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! This monday morning and I am spending some time with you all to round out the weekend experience. Was a part of the hosting district for a Fall Assembly for our Al-Anon Family Group Area. This happens every four years and I was here at that one also. One small part of...

Barbara · Barbara

During this wknds AA w/AlAnon convention I heard a few good things. The last AlAnon meeting I attended was on serenity. Im now content to be home. I use to thrive on chaos and now its finally ok to be able to sit back and be calm - read that book, burn those candles, watch a movie, play w/the bunnies, etc. Im s...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Have been arguing all week with my baby boy's father since last weekend when I found him drunk while our son was with him. At first I said it concerned me and didn't want my son staying the night anymore, but he can still see him during the day. This made him very defensive and he flat out refused. ...

AlaMom · AlaMom

ten years ago that I could have a life of my own today, I would tell you that you were either nuts or that I had a life of my own. Oh how much I did not know back then. This past weekend, I attended w/ my hubs the MA AA convention w/ Alanon participation. Hubs and I were able to go our sepera...

omajoy · omajoy

I know that holidays will receive much attention here in the coming days. I am very into worrying about my plans for Thanksgiving. Months ago we made plans to fly to another state to spend three days with my aging parents and extended family. Since then my mom has grown physically weaker, so I am so happy...

AFP · AFP

Hi, I’m new here and have so many thoughts bouncing around in my head I’m not even sure where to start. My husband drinks. Is he A? I don’t know, and I don’t know if it is for me to say… he says he’s not. However, after 5 years of being together, with him drinki...

curious · curious

ET-- I have been worried about you and your daughter. Please let me know if you both are okay. --Ramona

Mindy · Mindy

So, i pick him up friday and saturday hes drinikning a minature and sunday is drinking god knows what. So upset, dissapointed, angry....The little hope I did have is gone.Honestly I knew he was goign to do this. He has sone it every time he has gotten outof rehab. Drinks within 2 weeks of getting out and t...

maresie2 · maresie2

I woke up today and the A was in his self pity funk. He did not want to do anything but sit around and feel sorry for himself. He did his usual scream a thon. Rather than becoming lost in it I called a friend, a friend who accepts me as I am and who has become very very dear...

marmare · marmare

I GOT A JOB!!!! Brand new position at a local furniture store, like an inventory control position.....I just got back from drug screen and interview, they hired me on the spot!!!! Drug screen will be fine, I don't have to worry about stuff like the A. I haven't heard from him, he still is living el...

John · John

Dear Isabela40, I am moved to provide you with an amends for my reaction to your post entitled "confused about cookbook". I handled it in a way that I am not proud of by any means. Having had a bit of time to step back and look at the whole situation and my role in it, I am appalled by the way I at...

Ann · Ann

I am new to this message board and al-anon online but have been going to real time meetings off and on for a couple of years. Right now I just need to vent as I have not been able to make my meetings because I have a 3 yr old, a 5 month old and an alcoholic husband. I can't take his inability to handl...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I told Ziggy that I didn't fly away, just need more hours in the day. This past week has been nuts. I spent hours on the computer looking for research on Marijuana as it was the topic of my term paper that was due this past Thursday. There is tons of information out there, and not all of it good. I f...

Jill · Jill

hi I don't remember how this happened, but the message board on my pc shows in order or replies. I prefer them to be in order of when originally posted. Can anyone clue me in? thanks! Jill

laurab · laurab

Today is a quiet day. Breakfast with friends, Sunday papers, reading and a little cleaning up. Yesterday I arranged to meet my A son to give him the extra key to his storage place. We decided to meet at my part time job a 1/2 hour before my work time. I had loaded my car with lots of his stuff from his move. N...

mandalynn38 · mandalynn38

I wish ........I did not love him, It would make things so much easier. I have been trying to work my steps. Well,,,, I have also set up boundries.... like no vodka at my house period!!!!! walked away last night and left him home because he had to bring the bottle.... I went home alone... no big deal. So muc...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Just curious to know how you are doing? Any word on if the hubby is able to make it home to you soon? Ziggy

bob6502 · bob6502

In my efforts to be more involved in my program, I have decided I need to read the literature more often. The April 18th page in Courage to Change has summed alot of issues I have been having the passed few days. Here it is: "...As a part of my Al-Anon recovery, I was encouraged to put...

ditto · ditto

My ex-husband was an a. I N-E-V-E-R want to have to deal with that sort of thing again. Not ever. We are divorced now and I am in a sort of long-distance friendship with a man. He has come to visit once. He is coming to visit again. He has always remained respectful of my bounda...

tea2 · tea2

When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise), without the prior permission of the publisher. It i...

jaja · jaja

DoN4me · DoN4me

I guess best way to start is letting you know some more back ground. I am very scared of the net have been for sometime. Alot of the things I have been dealing with are more emotional then anything. It is how I meet my A. We had a great relationship online. But I found out not everything is as it seems. I don't b...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((Friends)))))))), Just wanted to post a little update.......my transmission went in my car, motor is blown up in the jeep....how lovely is this....sigh.....I have a co-worker who is out to get me...long story goes way back...boss asked me today, what is the bad blood, I said, I have no i...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Boy what a week... I sit back today and wonder how much of this drama do I bring on myself? I will skip most of the details, they are much the same as everyone else's chaos, slamming doors, breaking things and yelling and screaming. But... how often do I put mysel...

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	dealing with the broken promises (Preview) im trying my hardest not to angry with my A when he breaks his promises...i know that if the alcohol wasnt controlling him he would keep his word. So how does one get over the fact that promises get broken? At the moment i am choosing to write this than have an arguement. But i am boiling on the inside. i...	arty	6	580	Nov 16, 2006 by arty
	Why do I feel so guilty? (Preview) So I went out and got the protection order today even though I have no idea where to serve him. Now I feel so guilty. Nevermind that he broke into my house and stole food out of my children's mouths. Nevermind the fact that he said he was going to file for divorce and wanted joint custod...	carolinagirl	6	482	Nov 16, 2006 by rosemary
	How do you tell if they r arrogant or if it's disease? (Preview) Lately my A comes off as is if I'm the one who has a problem which maybe I do - I am co-dependant, after all - but so does he! He's an alcoholic!!! He goes to AA again now ( starting 2 mos.or so ago) and he knows I'm back in Al-Anon. But he acts like h...	jaja	1	320	Nov 15, 2006 by maresie2
	watchiing people go down the toilet (Preview) Both the A and his brother have significant substance abuse issues. When the A's mother decided out of the blue to move out and go marry some guy several states away she didn't think twice about kicking the A's older brother out to live on his own. Right now the older brother is showi...	maresie2	7	387	Nov 15, 2006 by maresie2
	me and my big mouth (Preview)	jaja	4	368	Nov 15, 2006 by jaja
	The Irony (Preview) When I first joined this forum, I made a post about this being more "in the trenches" than the f2f meetings I normally attend. More newcomers, more people in the thick of things, and posting a blow-by-blow like an embedded reporter. I have been in these rooms long enough to have seen and heard much o...	barisax	4	354	Nov 15, 2006 by barisax
	ARTY!! I need your exper. (Preview) You said earlier on one of your posts that your attorney made it so you could be solely responsible for selling the house. What was the process for this? Our house has an offer and we have both signed the contract but I don't think he'll show for the closing and that will kill the deal! ...	carolinagirl	2	325	Nov 15, 2006 by carolinagirl
	Good news (Preview) The A has already started on the trying to manipulate me for Thanksgiving stuff. He has been saying how low his brother is. Every year since I got together with the A they all spent thanksigivng with his mother. At some point I opted out of that because I felt resentment o...	maresie2	3	321	Nov 15, 2006 by Gailey
	Really surrendering..... (Preview) (((Hi everyone)))) I have started on Step Two in my stepwork, and have realized that it is such a big deal.... "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity"... This whole year has been one giant glob of insanity, insanity from the alcoholic in my life, insanity...	hersh	4	315	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	No longer waiting (Preview) Hi All Feeling pretty good this AM. I have been waiting for my AH to break the polite silence that we have been living with ( for 2 weeks) since he returned from his vacation. I been waiting for a kind word or acknowledgement that my feelings were hurt by his actions before he left. W...	Elizabeth M	4	307	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	documentary on HBO "thin" (Preview) Last night I watched a documentary on HBO "Thin". I thought it was pretty riveting stuff. One of the huge issues the women confront is the lies. That is one of my huge issues with the A everything is a lie. Another is their rebelliousness and inability to follow...	maresie2	1	632	Nov 15, 2006 by hudsond
	really understanding the craving (Preview) As I have posted this before...I am addicted to food...especially sugar. It has made my life unmanageable and miserable. I have even tried, by self will, to give it up. I would say to myself if I can get off the rollercoaster of binge eating, then maybe I will have more hope for my A son. The cravings a...	Gailey	3	377	Nov 15, 2006 by hersh
	Accepting kindess as I change so does my world (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) It's been so long since I trusted people's motives for being kind. I somehow got used to being treated special either before a bad incident or after one that I no longer trusted anyone's motives for doing something nice. Over the last year I have worked hard giving up&nb...	Jennifer	1	290	Nov 15, 2006 by hersh
	Legalities suggestions please!! (Preview) I have talked before about the truck that is registered in both my husband's and my name. It is in the impound from his recent dui. I am tired of paying insurance on it and know that the payments for it will not get made. I'm not even sure if he's going to get it out of the impound. W...	carolinagirl	4	534	Nov 15, 2006 by abbyal
	Letting go of expectations (Preview) Probably one of the most profound things I have learned from this program is to let go of expectations. This Thanksgiving I have decided to go out of town to my younger son's and dil's. I usually go to my sister's house with the rest of my family. My son and dil cannot make it this year so we decided to go...	Gailey	4	320	Nov 15, 2006 by hersh
	today on my 49th birthday my brother & mother both called me (Preview) First I heard from my brother. He wanted to say Happy Birthday. He doesnt sound like himself but at least he reached out to me. Said Mom and our other brother will be okay, that if they ever need cars he will buy them for them. I felt like asking when he'll pay rent/buy moms condo as she's moved out and he's st...	Barbara	12	1258	Nov 15, 2006 by Barbara
	Prayer for change (Preview) My A sent me this prayer today. He's come so far and I'm so proud of his accomplishments. Both his sobriety and his ability to do his job in Alaska. What was supposed to be a three month stint is going to be perm. The company wants him to stay and has offered almost twice his inital pay (wooohooo!!). He was 9 m...	Christy	8	455	Nov 15, 2006 by carosie
	Al-Anon Commercial (Preview)	afmom03	5	1012	Nov 15, 2006 by Diva
	finding my purpose / my first 11 months in alanon (Preview) was reading a good article in the newspaper. It was written by a women that tries to encourage us. It was an article about how much lose brings us down. the article was so true. She talked about how letting go of things lifts a tremendos amount of weight from our shoulders. I got to thinking about wher...	purplebutterfly	2	343	Nov 15, 2006 by BlueCloud
	I'm out of town and he broke into my house! (Preview) Well tonight is my last night in DC and I have tried to contine the trrip and have a good time. The A went to jail on a DUI the night before I left, lost his job, etc. Nobody bailed him and he got out the next day anyway so in the middle of my trip I get a call from him saying hes going to my house and the...	carolinagirl	11	772	Nov 14, 2006 by carolinagirl
	I started as a little seed (Preview) My contribution to experience, strength, and hope. Enjoy my friends, SenoraBob     ...	bob6502	4	391	Nov 14, 2006 by MrBlue42
	Bird Seed (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) My AW left a card at the house for me a week or so ago. It was a sappy "your the greatest" kind of card. But in it she wrote: " God provides enough seed to feed all the birds, but he doesn't throw it into the nest ... " I am not sure what that ment to her? Or why she woul...	rtexas	4	390	Nov 14, 2006 by Tiger2006
	To shy to speak out (Preview) Being very new to the Alanon group I am finding myself very shy to speak at the meetings. I am lost for words and when I do I tremble or my voice quivers with nervousness. It's very hard to speak and especially when it comes to the steps. I was at a meeting last night and the topic was step 5. I am of course not...	albertarose	9	453	Nov 14, 2006 by albertarose
	Welp... so tomorrow is her birthday (Preview) ((((Everyone))))) I have never been good at cutting to the chase with her and saying what I mean. You know, say what you mean and don't say it mean. So now that I am trying to do that... she doesn't believe me. Guess that is a tough pill to swallow. I have been very direct, but not ug...	rtexas	10	584	Nov 14, 2006 by Becky1
	Family Thanksgiving...should I take her? (Preview) Hey Everyone, My wife is still not working any sort of program and simply asks me to be patient while she searches for her 'right solution'. My family has expressed an interest in seeing her at our Thanksgiving because they haven't in two years. She is getting sicker by the week,...	jeeves	6	445	Nov 14, 2006 by Rita G
	So Much For That (Preview) Left the A. several messages last week-one apologizing for giving him crap and the other to thank him for telling me about a certain hiking path-it was so beautiful. Didn't hear back. Didn't expect to. I started moving my stuff to the new place back home. He knows nothing about this m...	Tryin2havfaith	1	331	Nov 14, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Being quiet (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I'm being quiet. Along the lines of if nothing good to say don't say anything. Last week I wrote about spending the night at my Mom's, it was nice ... would have been nicer if I had not beat myself up for telling my A he could not come along. So dumb, we're getting divorced, he never wan...	Jennifer	2	332	Nov 14, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Letting Go Takes Love (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	5	608	Nov 14, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Somthing Karilynn wrote.................................. (Preview) Karilynn wrote: He is now almost 6 months sober and he now tells me that as a "chronic relapser" he wasn't ready to get sober. He wanted it, but wasn't ready for it. That sentence says alot to me. I thought that if you wanted something enough you would go to any...	Gailey	7	553	Nov 14, 2006 by AndiLynn
	A is spinning out of control (Preview) Since I asked my A to leave, he has bounced from place to place just waiting for me to (once again) change my mind and give him another chance. But I know he has to feel pain to get better, and my house isn't painful enough. It's warm and happy, with dogs and kids,a roaring fireplace, a good cook, clea...	kicky	5	442	Nov 14, 2006 by Noni
	Poem I Received (Preview) : > : > : >Around the corner I have a friend, : > : > : > : > : >In this great city that has no end, : > : > : > : > : >Yet the days go by and weeks rush on, : > : > : > : > : >And before I know it, a year is gone. : > : > : > : > : >And I never see my old frie...	kerry5	2	326	Nov 14, 2006 by ally
	He's in the emergency room and I'm at home. (Preview) Here's what's happening. My A son's separated from wife couldn't reach him on the phone so she went over to his empty apartment and found him drunk and maybe coked and he told her to leave because he would be dead anyway in an hour. She left and called me. My H and I suggested she call 911. She did. He called m...	laurab	26	1072	Nov 13, 2006 by laurab
	Alateen? (Preview) I have been trying for sometime to get my son intrested in going to alateen. But he has no desire. Things here are getting progressively worse with him and his attitude. He has been in and out of therapy with and with out me as well. I know there is something at the root causing this. I know I haven't b...	DoN4me	6	434	Nov 13, 2006 by abbyal
	MY SLIP (Preview) On Saturday I had a slip. I have gone off when of the drugs that I have been trying to get off of for a while. I am also have PMS, and this weekend I was very emional. On Saturday I snap and I broke glass. I was so upset this weekend. So I had to share with everyone it does happen to people even those who have been...	nycbt	6	443	Nov 13, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	When is it o.k. to relax? (Preview) Hello Group, Hope everyone enjoyed the weekend. Over the weekend I took some time out to just slow things down a bit in my head. Life has been moving pretty fast in my world lately and its been difficult to get a hold on what this all means. Things are going very well for my A. H...	twinmom2	4	517	Nov 13, 2006 by hudsond
	Prayer Request (Preview) Please add my daughter in-law, Lisa, to your prayer list. She is headed to the hospital this morning. She has Cystitis Fibrosis, it looks like Pneumonia. Husband is home, seems like he has accepted that I too am human and make mistakes. We will just take it slow and smart....	marmare	5	334	Nov 13, 2006 by Lexie
	You just have to go...you have to!! (Preview) Aloha Family!! This monday morning and I am spending some time with you all to round out the weekend experience. Was a part of the hosting district for a Fall Assembly for our Al-Anon Family Group Area. This happens every four years and I was here at that one also. One small part of...	Jerry F	0	355	Nov 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	Im feeling calm, relaxed - content to be home (Preview) During this wknds AA w/AlAnon convention I heard a few good things. The last AlAnon meeting I attended was on serenity. Im now content to be home. I use to thrive on chaos and now its finally ok to be able to sit back and be calm - read that book, burn those candles, watch a movie, play w/the bunnies, etc. Im s...	Barbara	2	373	Nov 13, 2006 by barisax
	attention seeking? (Preview) Have been arguing all week with my baby boy's father since last weekend when I found him drunk while our son was with him. At first I said it concerned me and didn't want my son staying the night anymore, but he can still see him during the day. This made him very defensive and he flat out refused. ...	mama_nz	12	503	Nov 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	If you told me... (Preview) ten years ago that I could have a life of my own today, I would tell you that you were either nuts or that I had a life of my own. Oh how much I did not know back then. This past weekend, I attended w/ my hubs the MA AA convention w/ Alanon participation. Hubs and I were able to go our sepera...	AlaMom	1	505	Nov 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	Holidays (Preview) I know that holidays will receive much attention here in the coming days. I am very into worrying about my plans for Thanksgiving. Months ago we made plans to fly to another state to spend three days with my aging parents and extended family. Since then my mom has grown physically weaker, so I am so happy...	omajoy	6	417	Nov 13, 2006 by barisax
	New to the group and I have a couple of questions (Preview) Hi, I’m new here and have so many thoughts bouncing around in my head I’m not even sure where to start. My husband drinks. Is he A? I don’t know, and I don’t know if it is for me to say… he says he’s not. However, after 5 years of being together, with him drinki...	AFP	9	573	Nov 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	ET are you there? (Preview) ET-- I have been worried about you and your daughter. Please let me know if you both are okay. --Ramona	curious	1	279	Nov 13, 2006 by ET
	My A relapses 24 hours out of rehab (Preview) So, i pick him up friday and saturday hes drinikning a minature and sunday is drinking god knows what. So upset, dissapointed, angry....The little hope I did have is gone.Honestly I knew he was goign to do this. He has sone it every time he has gotten outof rehab. Drinks within 2 weeks of getting out and t...	Mindy	6	388	Nov 13, 2006 by hudsond
	Controlling my day (Preview) I woke up today and the A was in his self pity funk. He did not want to do anything but sit around and feel sorry for himself. He did his usual scream a thon. Rather than becoming lost in it I called a friend, a friend who accepts me as I am and who has become very very dear...	maresie2	5	380	Nov 13, 2006 by rtexas
	New Job!!!!! (Preview) I GOT A JOB!!!! Brand new position at a local furniture store, like an inventory control position.....I just got back from drug screen and interview, they hired me on the spot!!!! Drug screen will be fine, I don't have to worry about stuff like the A. I haven't heard from him, he still is living el...	marmare	10	498	Nov 13, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	To Isabela40 (Preview) Dear Isabela40, I am moved to provide you with an amends for my reaction to your post entitled "confused about cookbook". I handled it in a way that I am not proud of by any means. Having had a bit of time to step back and look at the whole situation and my role in it, I am appalled by the way I at...	John	3	530	Nov 13, 2006 by isabela40
	Head Spinning (Preview) I am new to this message board and al-anon online but have been going to real time meetings off and on for a couple of years. Right now I just need to vent as I have not been able to make my meetings because I have a 3 yr old, a 5 month old and an alcoholic husband. I can't take his inability to handl...	Ann	4	292	Nov 12, 2006 by ShelBell
	RE: Dolphin123 did you fly away (Preview) Hi all, I told Ziggy that I didn't fly away, just need more hours in the day. This past week has been nuts. I spent hours on the computer looking for research on Marijuana as it was the topic of my term paper that was due this past Thursday. There is tons of information out there, and not all of it good. I f...	Dolphin123	3	514	Nov 12, 2006 by peewee
	sequence of messages (Preview) hi I don't remember how this happened, but the message board on my pc shows in order or replies. I prefer them to be in order of when originally posted. Can anyone clue me in? thanks! Jill	Jill	6	899	Nov 12, 2006 by Karilynn
	can't stop wondering and worrying (Preview) Today is a quiet day. Breakfast with friends, Sunday papers, reading and a little cleaning up. Yesterday I arranged to meet my A son to give him the extra key to his storage place. We decided to meet at my part time job a 1/2 hour before my work time. I had loaded my car with lots of his stuff from his move. N...	laurab	5	489	Nov 12, 2006 by jaja
	Back on the crazy train (Preview) I wish ........I did not love him, It would make things so much easier. I have been trying to work my steps. Well,,,, I have also set up boundries.... like no vodka at my house period!!!!! walked away last night and left him home because he had to bring the bottle.... I went home alone... no big deal. So muc...	mandalynn38	9	453	Nov 12, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Dolphin123 did you fly away? (Preview) Just curious to know how you are doing? Any word on if the hubby is able to make it home to you soon? Ziggy	ZiggyDoodles	1	311	Nov 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	April 18 Courage to Change (Preview) In my efforts to be more involved in my program, I have decided I need to read the literature more often. The April 18th page in Courage to Change has summed alot of issues I have been having the passed few days. Here it is: "...As a part of my Al-Anon recovery, I was encouraged to put...	bob6502	6	1324	Nov 12, 2006 by bob6502
	How Much Is Too Much (Preview) My ex-husband was an a. I N-E-V-E-R want to have to deal with that sort of thing again. Not ever. We are divorced now and I am in a sort of long-distance friendship with a man. He has come to visit once. He is coming to visit again. He has always remained respectful of my bounda...	ditto	8	523	Nov 12, 2006 by lin0606
	gentle reminder re: Copyrighting (Preview) When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise), without the prior permission of the publisher. It i...	tea2	5	602	Nov 12, 2006 by kismetstrand
	What to do? (or maybe do nothing?) (Preview)	jaja	2	310	Nov 12, 2006 by Christy
	Fear of online (Preview) I guess best way to start is letting you know some more back ground. I am very scared of the net have been for sometime. Alot of the things I have been dealing with are more emotional then anything. It is how I meet my A. We had a great relationship online. But I found out not everything is as it seems. I don't b...	DoN4me	1	318	Nov 12, 2006 by TLC2
	Still Getting Thru (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))))), Just wanted to post a little update.......my transmission went in my car, motor is blown up in the jeep....how lovely is this....sigh.....I have a co-worker who is out to get me...long story goes way back...boss asked me today, what is the bad blood, I said, I have no i...	Andrea12	9	521	Nov 12, 2006 by mel123
	Wanna buy my fake HP liscense... cheap (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Boy what a week... I sit back today and wonder how much of this drama do I bring on myself? I will skip most of the details, they are much the same as everyone else's chaos, slamming doors, breaking things and yelling and screaming. But... how often do I put mysel...	rtexas	7	498	Nov 12, 2006 by carosie
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