About the house and the car: these things varies state to state. Ask your lawyer. They can divide the details and make it work.

 I would seriously call the lawyer ASAP. Ask them what they think.

I have been caught in the truck situation too.  I have a few more payments to make  on it then legally I will have paid for the whole thing. Right now I am paying insurance on it too.  I think that is another thing that some A's can cause havoc with. Their tendency to get DUI's does that to their family. Currently the A is up for a speeding ticket.  He may be arrested in the next month if he doesn't pay the fine.  The truck in theory could get impounded then.  Many of us live with this issue. The issue is to take it one day at a time without trying to kill yourself solving it all in one day. That is the only way I can do it.  I take each day one day at time. I cover myself as best I can (after all I paid insurance for the truck).  I seek out the options.   For me personally it is to finish paying for the truck (it is just one or two more payments) and then seek out other options.  Believe me I know how incredibly frustrating, anger making and unfair it all is.  At the same time it is their alcholism, it is not about my worth. I am worth having a partnership with, the  A doesn't want a partnership he wants a dictatorship with no consquences for him.  I want a partnership. 

We don't just dissolve our relationships with an A overnight, often for many of us it is along hard road of nitty gritty, ugly nasty horrible things to confront. The best way to deal with them is in calmness rather than panic.  I know my anger about the truck has nearly destoryed me. I had to get to a place where I saw the A did not care about me the truck anything and he did not care that I had worked so hard to get the thring in the first place.  He didn't care full stop.  I cared and he didn't.  I then had to work out what could I do.

I am not sure what you can do about this.  I know it is inherently unfair. You have a marriage, a home, if the truck is lost you can use it as a bargaining chip in the divorce.  No one wants to be put in the position you are in. I have regretted helping the A with the truck almost from the day I did it. At the same time I did it and I have to be responsible about it to others. I partly own the truck therefore I pay insurance on it. I make the payments. I clean up my side of it as hard as it is to be dealt this tremendously painful card I take responsibility for my part.  In time the payemnts will all be made there will be less of a burden for me I can make other choices. In the meantime I concentrate on taking care of me, what can I do to take care of me (one is to stop giving the A - I have given the A enough!!!). 

You can drive yourself crazy with this stuff.  Take it one day at a time.  If you are going through a divorce, document. I have the truck stuff documented to the hilt.  I know I can get it back to my sole ownership but if and when I do I need to be clear of the A because he will go nuts.  I  know I can also write it off if I have to. He could crash it and render it totally inoperable any day.  I can live with that too now because that is the beauty of the program, I can forgive myself for having helped him rather than punish myself torture myself or convict myself of giving what I did not have to give.

Maresie.