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I accepted the job I was offered and already don't like it, after working just two days. There is a lot of down time and no customer contact. I had a hard time telling my A. I didn't want to see ungrateful, because I am grateful that I am employed. I had to work this out in my mind I guess. I am missing my mother also and as the holidays approach the missing gets worse. I have to buy a turkey something I haven't had to do since 1991, because Mom always did that...it's all so different. So anyway, I started thinking, what is my plan of action, I don't like the new job so what can "I" do. So on my time off, I am applying and setting up interviews for another job. I told my A last night when he inquired about why I seemed so down. He didn't say much and when I asked about his quietness he said he is trying to learn to just listen!!! LOL I couldn't believe it, he actually was listening to me without offering any advice or criticisms. I already have an interview set up for Monday! I feel better about going to work now.
Well I have had the same situation come up. The A did not pay insurance on the truck. He has some speeding ticket he probably won't pay so therefore he's likely to be arrested at some point. So I had to pay the insurance another $250.00. Of course the A can pay nothing thee is a whole viel of some lies around any of his money. Been like that for years. I have stopped listening. So I took a second job. On the surface it seemed ok. I managed 3 weeks then I left the supervisor there was horrible. I have enough stuff at home wih the lies, craziness and the never knowing what will happen. Then the hotel I work at asked me to work more hours (yeah!).
I am much more clear now on what I can put up with at work. Being micromanaged isn't for me.
I'm impressed you would even tell the A. My A could care less. All he cares about is can he do drugs? He could care less about my mood, health, feelings. His bottom line is what can he can get over on.
I don't actually bother to tell him about interviews anymore. He's not interested, never has been and probably never will be. I surrendered to that it helps. Why have the same argument over and over again (I have I know).
I'm glad you have another interview. I had one yesterday that went well. I would be paid enough there to think about making some moves. I still have a very very difficult next few months after that things will be easier. I just take it one day at a time doing the best I can that is all I can do.
Before you quit this job, I would get in touch with someone at "the higher levels." See if there's any way to take on more responsibility; to be more active within the company. Being an active member within the company shows that you're willing to be a team player.
After all, after two al anon meetings, did you absolutely worship every single one of us?
So anyway, I started thinking, what is my plan of action, I don't like the new job so what can "I" do. So on my time off, I am applying and setting up interviews for another job. I told my A last night when he inquired about why I seemed so down. He didn't say much and when I asked about his quietness he said he is trying to learn to just listen!!! LOL I couldn't believe it, he actually was listening to me without offering any advice or criticisms. I already have an interview set up for Monday! I feel better about going to work now.