Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bev · bev

hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...

belle1 · belle1

Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...

tea2 · tea2

Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what *is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08

kerry5 · kerry5

I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...

jaja · jaja

I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...

maresie2 · maresie2

My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor.

She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...

Pippy · Pippy

I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...

abryann · abryann

I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...

smpoli · smpoli

Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...

exhausted · exhausted

Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...

Diva · Diva

Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...

ditto · ditto

I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...

Gailey · Gailey

Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....

mawani · mawani

I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...

maresie2 · maresie2

I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...

kissers · kissers

My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...

Klynn · Klynn

After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...

maresie2 · maresie2

I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...

Pippy · Pippy

Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...

texsmama · texsmama

Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...

irish54 · irish54

Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...

Fifi · Fifi

being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi

CJ · CJ

God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...

rita · rita

Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, It has been quite some time since I posted on here...The past six months have been horrible for me..I lost my mother in June

, and had two more deaths in my family since then~ my aunt and my grandma, then was fired from my job in November...I have had a hell of a time dealing with ever...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

Hello all, I need advice - I'm suffering from anxiety, it generally is a physical shaking, jittering and unable to concentrate on anything but making it stop. I used Ativan for a while but started getting "rebound" shakes when it was wearing off. My MD switched me to Xanax which worked nice...

Klynn · Klynn

Welp so I balled the WHOLE freaking hour, I think almost everyone after said something to me, gave me a hug....told me to call them if I needed!!!! I was even SO pathetic that someone bought me a book cause they said I REALLY needed it!!!! So aside from THAT!!!! It went well....I feel...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So I went to meet the director, and wow, the lady's brilliant. And she's very encouraging. She told me to be upfront with the comittee about my GPA. Just put it in my open letter to the comittee of admissions, she said. In that, discuss any "concerns:" Why transfer from a $35,000/ye...

ColeShan · ColeShan

Hello all. First, I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and shared experience which is giving me a glimmer of hope here. I am doing a lot of thinking and trying to figure it all out now. I have never been a patient person and I seem to think my higher power is trying to teach me this. If I could s...

Klynn · Klynn

So I was on a meeting last night here and I found one tonight....I want to go but I dont!! I guess by going I am really admitting there is somthing terribly wrong. I am just scared that thing will change between us. I am having a hard time just surrendering to the idea that there is a prob...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Higher Power puts a theme in your day and if you are lucky you get the message from the theme. With the holidays I have been a little lax on going to meetings and with puter at home being on the fritz I haven't made it to the board or the chat room in a while. Today we had electrical p...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

This is my first real post but you've all be a tremendous support to me in the last few weeks just from my daily visits, thankyou. My AH was sober for 20 years, in that time I still worked my program and our marriage was okay not great. We have 2 kids with one being away in college now, the other in High school....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I filed for child support a month or two ago and had nowhere to have my AH served but now he is in a recovery house and working so I called them today and provided them with all the info. even did a little research to get the company info. It was Hard (emotionally of course)! As it is...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I went out to shop this evening and I brought home Chineese food. I waited over 3 hours to open my fortune cookie, not that I am a fanatic. Anyway, here is what the fortune said: "Including others in your life will bring you great happiness."

lilliput · lilliput

Does anyone else have experience with this? This happened to my husband in November. He seemed ok when he came home from the hospital. Then, when he got off his meds he went nuts....psychosis. Blames me for his drinking. Coming onto my daughter - he's been her dad since she was 12 - and...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am having a hard time with the detaching with love thing. How do you detach and still have love? If I detach I need to be totally detached. I am having a hard time grasping this concept I guess I see love as doing/saying what he wants me to? I just can't hold on to "loving" and det...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) I hate this disease, I just received this e-mail from a close friend. My heart is breaking -- you know divorce/separation doesn't separate us from the pain of this disease. My friend has been divorce from her AH for 4 yrs. She has been thru so much Hell, but she h...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I know that I have been just posting chaotic stuff going with me and my A, this is where I am at right now. I hope that it doesn't offend anyone. You have the power to delete the message when you see mine come in, but I hope you all care for me more than that.

8strong · 8strong

This is my first time posting, I find this very difficult, but I need to express my thoughts, and currently I have no outlet. I am not sure what things are ok to say, so I will just explain my situation and hopefully someone will be able to relate. My girlfriend of over three years is an A.&n...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Anyone else having problems getting into the chat room? Tried and tried and nothing lets me in! Hubby has tried to fix it from our end, and nothing seems to be working. Oh great ops in the sky, help me please! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

meagain · meagain

I have shared before about my DIL coming here every day for lunch. It is now going on 3 months and I am having lots of anxiety about it. On Friday I was just waiting for the "Big Blow" afraid I might say something I would regret. She came 25 minutes late with a bouquet of flowers for watching the...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This weekend I was dressed down for something that I'm not sure was all mine. I have always told people that if I have done something wrong or offended someone to tell me for I cannot fix it unless I know what it is. What I learned is that I cannot handle criticism of any kind. There is no fix f...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, tomorrow I go to meet the director of the program for International and Comparitive Politics. Right now, quite frankly, I'm too tired to be scared. But I will be tomorrow. Or, if nothing else, at 9am she could say "And, as a part of this program we require your immortal soul..." And I...

ColeShan · ColeShan

Hi all! So, here it is Monday and I am having a rough time of it. I had a fairly good weekend as I went to a meeting with my partner and then out to eat. I had to push my partner, but finally got her out and had a good time with some other people. Sat. night we had another couple over who we are trying to get to know th...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am in a place and i do not know how to deal with it. For those of you that know me you know all i did last year with court and mothers death, and bullying with school, bullying has continued on into this year with more extreme abuse. Including sexual with my daughters friend telling her how to sexually abus...

Fifi · Fifi

hi another interesting moment for me and being aware of myself and ways i am trying to be different. so i am trying to focus on my own feelings, right? know what i want,what i feel, be responsible for myself...and only myself. this is hard for me as a newly identified co-dependant (tho if can brist...

nmike · nmike

I had a great holiday with my sons. Two home from college and my soldier home on leave. They are amazing people. I have felt so full of love for 3 weeks. Someone in the house, someone to help with the chores, someone to hug. I talked to them about their father and me and our separation. I think it bothers them...

snoopy · snoopy

Someone told me to start a new thread on this question so here goes. I have a question for everyone. This was a fatal question I asked 2 years ago when he left me for the 5th time and we were reconciling and going to meetings. I paid for this for 2 weeks afterward as my question was take...

chrissy · chrissy

Hi guys, Sorry it has been so long. Everything has been wonderful Chuck has been clean sober. Amanda is great & we are very happy. My whole family celebrated all the holidays together. We havent done that since my mom passed away 4 years ago

. i really miss...

serendipity · serendipity

i have gained 30 pounds since september. that is when my ex ah got sober(again) and started hanging out here with the kids (whom he had abandonded in march). he also has bipolar disorder which is currently unmedicated and is in a "remission" of sorts. yeah, back to me. well, it seems that i am in a pretty b...

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	dont understand something{upset} (Preview) hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...	bev	3	472	Jan 12, 2007 by canadianguy
	Hello Friends (Preview) (((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...	Andrea12	10	399	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	RE:Ally (Preview) Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...	belle1	1	271	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	Update On Scout (Preview) Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08*	tea2	10	452	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	John (Preview) I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...	kerry5	4	371	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	how do they earn trust? (Preview) I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...	jaja	4	484	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	sticking it out (Preview) My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...	maresie2	1	284	Jan 12, 2007 by annmarie
	Loss of Physical affection and intimacy (Preview) Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor. She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...	Cucamonga	7	882	Jan 12, 2007 by abbyal
	I guess It may be really over. I get so defensive when he associates with his family---RAGE (Preview) I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...	hippietrippiechick	7	489	Jan 12, 2007 by maresie2
	Never knew or forgot how mean someone can be (Preview) I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...	Pippy	6	471	Jan 12, 2007 by Akasha
	So sad to watch (Preview) I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...	abryann	3	299	Jan 11, 2007 by ShelBell
	The starting of a new year (Preview) Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...	smpoli	5	267	Jan 11, 2007 by sandie123
	moving through molasses (Preview) I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...	maresie2	5	409	Jan 11, 2007 by debilyn
	Please Help - new to program (Preview) Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...	exhausted	10	595	Jan 11, 2007 by peewee
	Lookey there. (Preview) Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva	Diva	8	402	Jan 11, 2007 by Akasha
	Stupid me... (Preview) My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...	carolinagirl	8	487	Jan 11, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Setting Boundaries (Preview) I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...	ditto	9	395	Jan 11, 2007 by lilms
	back to therapy (Preview) Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...	Gailey	5	338	Jan 11, 2007 by carolena
	i think..therefore i am (Preview) (((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....	drucilla06	9	426	Jan 11, 2007 by leo
	The ever changing wind (Preview) I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...	mawani	2	313	Jan 10, 2007 by nmike
	HELP: all HELL broke loose tonight and it wasn't even the a but;;;;; (Preview) My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...	hippietrippiechick	8	537	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	progress not perfection (Preview) I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...	maresie2	3	389	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	Got Laid Off Today (Preview) My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...	kissers	10	396	Jan 10, 2007 by Klynn
	today is GOOD!! (Preview) After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...	Klynn	2	231	Jan 10, 2007 by Fifi
	for some people there is no bottom (Preview) I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...	maresie2	8	532	Jan 10, 2007 by maresie2
	Please remind me of what I already know. (Preview) Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...	Pippy	4	459	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	Newbie (Preview) Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...	texsmama	6	290	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	OMG! LOL (Preview) Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...	irish54	11	435	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	working the program (Preview) being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi	Fifi	3	312	Jan 10, 2007 by hudsond
	2am-can't shut off brain-obsessing (Preview) God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...	CJ	21	3590	Jan 10, 2007 by mel123
	ACCEPTABLE VS UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR (Preview) Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...	BlueCloud	4	717	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	so lonely (Preview) Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita	rita	7	313	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Another issue with my F2F meeting!!!! (LONG) (Preview) I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...	carolinagirl	11	490	Jan 10, 2007 by barisax
	Is it my problem or his? new here and confused.... (Preview) As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...	DebiDeb	8	632	Jan 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	A threat to me (Preview) Hello everyone, It has been quite some time since I posted on here...The past six months have been horrible for me..I lost my mother in June, and had two more deaths in my family since then~ my aunt and my grandma, then was fired from my job in November...I have had a hell of a time dealing with ever...	Diane43	11	609	Jan 10, 2007 by leo
	Anxiety treatment (Preview) Hello all, I need advice - I'm suffering from anxiety, it generally is a physical shaking, jittering and unable to concentrate on anything but making it stop. I used Ativan for a while but started getting "rebound" shakes when it was wearing off. My MD switched me to Xanax which worked nice...	Orchid Lady	14	545	Jan 10, 2007 by debilyn
	1st f2f (Preview) Welp so I balled the WHOLE freaking hour, I think almost everyone after said something to me, gave me a hug....told me to call them if I needed!!!! I was even SO pathetic that someone bought me a book cause they said I REALLY needed it!!!! So aside from THAT!!!! It went well....I feel...	Klynn	2	322	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	So, I went to meet the director... (Preview) So I went to meet the director, and wow, the lady's brilliant. And she's very encouraging. She told me to be upfront with the comittee about my GPA. Just put it in my open letter to the comittee of admissions, she said. In that, discuss any "concerns:" Why transfer from a $35,000/ye...	Tiger2006	6	372	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	If pain is growth then this is one hell of a growth spurt (Preview) Hello all. First, I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and shared experience which is giving me a glimmer of hope here. I am doing a lot of thinking and trying to figure it all out now. I have never been a patient person and I seem to think my higher power is trying to teach me this. If I could s...	ColeShan	3	346	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	still struggling (Preview) So I was on a meeting last night here and I found one tonight....I want to go but I dont!! I guess by going I am really admitting there is somthing terribly wrong. I am just scared that thing will change between us. I am having a hard time just surrendering to the idea that there is a prob...	Klynn	12	530	Jan 10, 2007 by lin0606
	Every once in a while... (Preview) Higher Power puts a theme in your day and if you are lucky you get the message from the theme. With the holidays I have been a little lax on going to meetings and with puter at home being on the fritz I haven't made it to the board or the chat room in a while. Today we had electrical p...	AlaMom	2	403	Jan 10, 2007 by Jerry F
	newbie question along the same lines as others (Preview) This is my first real post but you've all be a tremendous support to me in the last few weeks just from my daily visits, thankyou. My AH was sober for 20 years, in that time I still worked my program and our marriage was okay not great. We have 2 kids with one being away in college now, the other in High school....	tryingtoheal	5	486	Jan 10, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	Just called child support enforcement. (Preview) Well, I filed for child support a month or two ago and had nowhere to have my AH served but now he is in a recovery house and working so I called them today and provided them with all the info. even did a little research to get the company info. It was Hard (emotionally of course)! As it is...	carolinagirl	4	471	Jan 10, 2007 by Jerry F
	we need each other---please read (Preview) I went out to shop this evening and I brought home Chineese food. I waited over 3 hours to open my fortune cookie, not that I am a fanatic. Anyway, here is what the fortune said: "Including others in your life will bring you great happiness."	hippietrippiechick	2	306	Jan 10, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Seizures caused by excessive drinking & lack of food. Dt's caused by continued drinking and lack of nourishment. (Preview) Does anyone else have experience with this? This happened to my husband in November. He seemed ok when he came home from the hospital. Then, when he got off his meds he went nuts....psychosis. Blames me for his drinking. Coming onto my daughter - he's been her dad since she was 12 - and...	lilliput	2	490	Jan 9, 2007 by carolena
	Detaching with love???? (Preview) I am having a hard time with the detaching with love thing. How do you detach and still have love? If I detach I need to be totally detached. I am having a hard time grasping this concept I guess I see love as doing/saying what he wants me to? I just can't hold on to "loving" and det...	carolinagirl	14	718	Jan 9, 2007 by Christy
	Request for prayers, please... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I hate this disease, I just received this e-mail from a close friend. My heart is breaking -- you know divorce/separation doesn't separate us from the pain of this disease. My friend has been divorce from her AH for 4 yrs. She has been thru so much Hell, but she h...	Lunamoth	12	503	Jan 9, 2007 by Andrea12
	Apology to all Please read (Preview) I know that I have been just posting chaotic stuff going with me and my A, this is where I am at right now. I hope that it doesn't offend anyone. You have the power to delete the message when you see mine come in, but I hope you all care for me more than that.	hippietrippiechick	7	590	Jan 9, 2007 by Andrea12
	New to this, thought the tough times were behind me (Preview) This is my first time posting, I find this very difficult, but I need to express my thoughts, and currently I have no outlet. I am not sure what things are ok to say, so I will just explain my situation and hopefully someone will be able to relate. My girlfriend of over three years is an A.&n...	8strong	9	455	Jan 9, 2007 by lin0606
	Can't get into chat (Preview) Anyone else having problems getting into the chat room? Tried and tried and nothing lets me in! Hubby has tried to fix it from our end, and nothing seems to be working. Oh great ops in the sky, help me please! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	6	371	Jan 9, 2007 by shadow1
	O/T-anxiety (Preview) I have shared before about my DIL coming here every day for lunch. It is now going on 3 months and I am having lots of anxiety about it. On Friday I was just waiting for the "Big Blow" afraid I might say something I would regret. She came 25 minutes late with a bouquet of flowers for watching the...	meagain	2	259	Jan 9, 2007 by Rita G
	Criticism (Preview) This weekend I was dressed down for something that I'm not sure was all mine. I have always told people that if I have done something wrong or offended someone to tell me for I cannot fix it unless I know what it is. What I learned is that I cannot handle criticism of any kind. There is no fix f...	Mobirdie	7	409	Jan 9, 2007 by Mobirdie
	So, tomorrow I go to meet the director... (Preview) So, tomorrow I go to meet the director of the program for International and Comparitive Politics. Right now, quite frankly, I'm too tired to be scared. But I will be tomorrow. Or, if nothing else, at 9am she could say "And, as a part of this program we require your immortal soul..." And I...	Tiger2006	8	380	Jan 9, 2007 by carosie
	Having a Rough Day (Preview) Hi all! So, here it is Monday and I am having a rough time of it. I had a fairly good weekend as I went to a meeting with my partner and then out to eat. I had to push my partner, but finally got her out and had a good time with some other people. Sat. night we had another couple over who we are trying to get to know th...	ColeShan	3	369	Jan 9, 2007 by nmike
	Being true to me???? (Preview) I am in a place and i do not know how to deal with it. For those of you that know me you know all i did last year with court and mothers death, and bullying with school, bullying has continued on into this year with more extreme abuse. Including sexual with my daughters friend telling her how to sexually abus...	kerry5	6	472	Jan 9, 2007 by isabela40
	watching myself (Preview) hi another interesting moment for me and being aware of myself and ways i am trying to be different. so i am trying to focus on my own feelings, right? know what i want,what i feel, be responsible for myself...and only myself. this is hard for me as a newly identified co-dependant (tho if can brist...	Fifi	1	269	Jan 9, 2007 by rtexas
	back to reality (Preview) I had a great holiday with my sons. Two home from college and my soldier home on leave. They are amazing people. I have felt so full of love for 3 weeks. Someone in the house, someone to help with the chores, someone to hug. I talked to them about their father and me and our separation. I think it bothers them...	nmike	1	243	Jan 9, 2007 by rtexas
	equal but opposite needs--who trumps (Preview) Someone told me to start a new thread on this question so here goes. I have a question for everyone. This was a fatal question I asked 2 years ago when he left me for the 5th time and we were reconciling and going to meetings. I paid for this for 2 weeks afterward as my question was take...	snoopy	16	562	Jan 9, 2007 by nmike
	hey guys (Preview) Hi guys, Sorry it has been so long. Everything has been wonderful Chuck has been clean sober. Amanda is great & we are very happy. My whole family celebrated all the holidays together. We havent done that since my mom passed away 4 years ago . i really miss...	chrissy	4	397	Jan 9, 2007 by chrissy
	boundries....again (Preview) i have gained 30 pounds since september. that is when my ex ah got sober(again) and started hanging out here with the kids (whom he had abandonded in march). he also has bipolar disorder which is currently unmedicated and is in a "remission" of sorts. yeah, back to me. well, it seems that i am in a pretty b...	serendipity	4	374	Jan 8, 2007 by carolena
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