Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

lylaanju · lylaanju

Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...

Gailey · Gailey

Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...

mama_nz · mama_nz

After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...

Autumn118 · Autumn118

I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

What is really hard for me is when he is on the phone with his "family", I have no access to my puter--line tied up due to phone call. Tried Verizon DSL and I could never get it to work. Ihaave suggessted that he get prepaid callphone such as NET 10,or Trac Phone. Now that is up to him. He got this...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

Hi all. Its been a while since I have posted. I again went back to the A in my life. For I would say the 100th time I was wrong to do so. Why I do this I still don't know. Anyway, my A is now away. It sorta happened so fast this time. Usually in the past 6 years ...

heather · heather

Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this message board thing. I have been in search of some release from my husband that is an addict. He hasn't drank or used for just about 2 years, but acts in rage at times; like he used to when he drank. I know it isn't my fault but when he is yelling I can...

debilyn · debilyn

Where is our Bad, bad Bill update dahling. love,debilyn

bev · bev

hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...

belle1 · belle1

Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...

tea2 · tea2

Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what *is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08

kerry5 · kerry5

I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...

jaja · jaja

I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...

maresie2 · maresie2

My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor.

She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...

Pippy · Pippy

I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...

abryann · abryann

I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...

smpoli · smpoli

Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...

exhausted · exhausted

Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...

Diva · Diva

Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...

ditto · ditto

I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...

Gailey · Gailey

Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....

mawani · mawani

I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...

maresie2 · maresie2

I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...

kissers · kissers

My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...

Klynn · Klynn

After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...

maresie2 · maresie2

I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...

Pippy · Pippy

Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...

texsmama · texsmama

Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...

irish54 · irish54

Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...

Fifi · Fifi

being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi

CJ · CJ

God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...

rita · rita

Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, It has been quite some time since I posted on here...The past six months have been horrible for me..I lost my mother in June

, and had two more deaths in my family since then~ my aunt and my grandma, then was fired from my job in November...I have had a hell of a time dealing with ever...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

Hello all, I need advice - I'm suffering from anxiety, it generally is a physical shaking, jittering and unable to concentrate on anything but making it stop. I used Ativan for a while but started getting "rebound" shakes when it was wearing off. My MD switched me to Xanax which worked nice...

Klynn · Klynn

Welp so I balled the WHOLE freaking hour, I think almost everyone after said something to me, gave me a hug....told me to call them if I needed!!!! I was even SO pathetic that someone bought me a book cause they said I REALLY needed it!!!! So aside from THAT!!!! It went well....I feel...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So I went to meet the director, and wow, the lady's brilliant. And she's very encouraging. She told me to be upfront with the comittee about my GPA. Just put it in my open letter to the comittee of admissions, she said. In that, discuss any "concerns:" Why transfer from a $35,000/ye...

ColeShan · ColeShan

Hello all. First, I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and shared experience which is giving me a glimmer of hope here. I am doing a lot of thinking and trying to figure it all out now. I have never been a patient person and I seem to think my higher power is trying to teach me this. If I could s...

Klynn · Klynn

So I was on a meeting last night here and I found one tonight....I want to go but I dont!! I guess by going I am really admitting there is somthing terribly wrong. I am just scared that thing will change between us. I am having a hard time just surrendering to the idea that there is a prob...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Higher Power puts a theme in your day and if you are lucky you get the message from the theme. With the holidays I have been a little lax on going to meetings and with puter at home being on the fritz I haven't made it to the board or the chat room in a while. Today we had electrical p...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

This is my first real post but you've all be a tremendous support to me in the last few weeks just from my daily visits, thankyou. My AH was sober for 20 years, in that time I still worked my program and our marriage was okay not great. We have 2 kids with one being away in college now, the other in High school....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I filed for child support a month or two ago and had nowhere to have my AH served but now he is in a recovery house and working so I called them today and provided them with all the info. even did a little research to get the company info. It was Hard (emotionally of course)! As it is...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I went out to shop this evening and I brought home Chineese food. I waited over 3 hours to open my fortune cookie, not that I am a fanatic. Anyway, here is what the fortune said: "Including others in your life will bring you great happiness."

lilliput · lilliput

Does anyone else have experience with this? This happened to my husband in November. He seemed ok when he came home from the hospital. Then, when he got off his meds he went nuts....psychosis. Blames me for his drinking. Coming onto my daughter - he's been her dad since she was 12 - and...

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	When will I be ready to change? (Preview) Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...	lylaanju	4	410	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	just tired (Preview) I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...	lilleah	2	343	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	Living in the purple city (Preview) Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...	Gailey	6	423	Jan 13, 2007 by CJ
	New behaviors, old reactions (Preview) It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...	Tiger2006	6	395	Jan 13, 2007 by Fifi
	He said...she said (Preview) My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...	DebiDeb	6	570	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Pity (Preview) After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...	mama_nz	4	260	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Disease progressing (Preview) Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...	Elizabeth M	2	308	Jan 12, 2007 by AndiLynn
	A special thank you to everyone at (((((((((MIP)))))))) (Preview) I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...	hippietrippiechick	1	283	Jan 12, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Newbe who HAS to somehow let go.. (Preview) I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...	Autumn118	6	393	Jan 12, 2007 by Autumn118
	Being a Martyr (Preview) I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...	maresie2	1	490	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Complaint...... (Preview) I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...	ZiggyDoodles	5	358	Jan 12, 2007 by bubbles1990
	phone calls and needing to get online with you alll (Preview) What is really hard for me is when he is on the phone with his "family", I have no access to my puter--line tied up due to phone call. Tried Verizon DSL and I could never get it to work. Ihaave suggessted that he get prepaid callphone such as NET 10,or Trac Phone. Now that is up to him. He got this...	hippietrippiechick	12	433	Jan 12, 2007 by maresie2
	Do I stop talking? and a few more questions (Preview) Hi all. Its been a while since I have posted. I again went back to the A in my life. For I would say the 100th time I was wrong to do so. Why I do this I still don't know. Anyway, my A is now away. It sorta happened so fast this time. Usually in the past 6 years ...	daisygrl4	4	455	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	New to the board (Preview) Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this message board thing. I have been in search of some release from my husband that is an addict. He hasn't drank or used for just about 2 years, but acts in rage at times; like he used to when he drank. I know it isn't my fault but when he is yelling I can...	heather	9	438	Jan 12, 2007 by canadianguy
	DIVA!!? (Preview) Where is our Bad, bad Bill update dahling. love,debilyn	debilyn	32	861	Jan 12, 2007 by debilyn
	dont understand something{upset} (Preview) hi all,i have been a member of MIP for well over a year..and i see new members that have come on in dec and some before that,what i want to know is they r veteren members and senior members already and all i am is a plain old member.....can someone explain to me why this is,and why im not a senior member...	bev	3	491	Jan 12, 2007 by canadianguy
	Hello Friends (Preview) (((((((((Friends)))))))), Been awhile since I've been able to post.....my new job is going really well, what a differance it is to be able to go to work and do your job and not have to put up with bull...lol.... I have calmed down some...was going a little wacko for awhile.....just realizing...	Andrea12	10	414	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	RE:Ally (Preview) Hi All I spoke with ally today and shes been real down since her internets been down, says to tell ya all shes missing everyone loads , and she has an engineer coming out on monday to find out what the prob is and to fix it hopefully. So hopefully she will be back with us all again come monday smiling as ev...	belle1	1	289	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	Update On Scout (Preview) Hello All, Just wanted to give a short update on my lil’ guy Scout. He was adopted out as soon as the shelter had him available. I am told it was to a wonderful home. I was hoping to say a proper goodbye. Tho now, I can move on and be grateful for what is. T -- Edited by tea2 at 14:12, 2007-01-08*	tea2	10	470	Jan 12, 2007 by Lexie
	John (Preview) I had to write this to you. I am in a very new place in my life, i am shocked really. Never before have i trusted myself. I lived most of my life and still do put down by every single person that i know face to face(no exageration). I have never trusted myself to make decisions i always need major reassu...	kerry5	4	390	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	how do they earn trust? (Preview) I hope I don't sound too stupid. A's are known for their lying - drunk or sober. How do we trust again without ever being leery again. Or do we? I mean they can apologize but they can't promise.. How do they earn trust again if they have violated it? Will we always wonder? I don't think that it will eve...	jaja	4	503	Jan 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	sticking it out (Preview) My former employer has called me to say the check will probably be available tomorrow. I have faxed them to ask them to call me. I am through just giving them the benefit of the doubt. So hopefully I will have that paycheck this week. I am still so far from getting through plan b but that is o...	maresie2	1	310	Jan 12, 2007 by annmarie
	Loss of Physical affection and intimacy (Preview) Hi all, My AW is 3 weeks sober, goes to her AA meetings and her counseling sessions with vigor. She is back to work full time. I am helping pick up the slacks by picking up the kids, cooking, keeping house clean etc, while she goes to all her meetings. We joke around that I have b...	Cucamonga	7	903	Jan 12, 2007 by abbyal
	I guess It may be really over. I get so defensive when he associates with his family---RAGE (Preview) I cannot really stand my A's family. They are the kind of people you get an immediate sense they are fake--at least to me, which is why "All Hell Broke Loose", and his sister tried to attack me. However anytime he is on the phone with them I just can't keep my big mouth shut. I run my mouth so much he can't even...	hippietrippiechick	7	514	Jan 12, 2007 by maresie2
	Never knew or forgot how mean someone can be (Preview) I posted a topic "remind me" my boyfriend (maybe X) is in jail. I dont want him in my life like this. I will not take calls from him any longer. He is just to disrespectful and angry. He has talked with some of his friends though. Wow!!! I cant believe the denial and...	Pippy	6	486	Jan 12, 2007 by Akasha
	So sad to watch (Preview) I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but things are so sad at home. My boyfriend is not doing well and it hurts my heart to see him. He hasn't been sober for an entire day since Christmas. I know that doesn't really seem like such a long time, but it feels like forever. ...	abryann	3	319	Jan 11, 2007 by ShelBell
	The starting of a new year (Preview) Howdy to all of my MIP family! I know it has been too long since I have been here and I really need to keep coming back and especially more often! I have been having several issues that I am battling with. My husband is still drinking and now in denial as to being an alcoholic. He had 10 yrs c...	smpoli	5	283	Jan 11, 2007 by sandie123
	moving through molasses (Preview) I feel like patience is something I just do not have so today I have had to do much much turning over to my HP. I have still not been paid by the hotel. It isn't that much money like $600 or something but when you have nothing every penny counts. The A is well aware of this he says and do...	maresie2	5	429	Jan 11, 2007 by debilyn
	Please Help - new to program (Preview) Hello, I'm new to the forum and new to reaching out for help. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do or if i'm making the right decisions. Background: I've been married for 6 years to my wife, and have been together with her for 10. I'm 31 and she's 29. We spent our 20's partying every weekend, and worki...	exhausted	10	613	Jan 11, 2007 by peewee
	Lookey there. (Preview) Our membership here on MIP has passed 3000. Now that's a LOT of friends to have. Diva	Diva	8	420	Jan 11, 2007 by Akasha
	Stupid me... (Preview) My A called me at work yesterday right at the beginning of a very important meeting and questioned me about why I had to go and then asked me to call him later so I did and... The subject of child support came up and he point blank asked me if I had filed the paperwork for support enforcement after he said I w...	carolinagirl	8	504	Jan 11, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Setting Boundaries (Preview) I have started to date...actually, I've really only begun to think about dating. Everyone that I am meeting for a potential date has not really been acceptable to me. I am comfortable living alone right now. I am learning to feel comfortable with my isolation, although I know that is not heal...	ditto	9	417	Jan 11, 2007 by lilms
	back to therapy (Preview) Yesterday I started back to therapy with someone I have been seeing on and off for several years. She does a therapy that is called emdr (eye movement disensitation reprocessing). It is a type of therapy that helps you to connect to the things in the past that have caused your pain and reprocess them cor...	Gailey	5	357	Jan 11, 2007 by carolena
	i think..therefore i am (Preview) (((((((((((MIP friends)))))))))))) Just wanted to thank everyone who responded and pm'd to my 'don't exist' post.I was soooo low that day and all the kind,warm responses really helped to bring me up and out of the pit.I went to work feeling like an empty,invisible,spirit but the night went well....	drucilla06	9	445	Jan 11, 2007 by leo
	The ever changing wind (Preview) I am so stressed out at the moment and I know it is within my control but I just can't get a hold of it. I married an alcoholic who has been sober for about a year (six months when we married six months ago). Since then we've moved twice for him to pursue better jobs. Now in my third country within a year he h...	mawani	2	331	Jan 10, 2007 by nmike
	HELP: all HELL broke loose tonight and it wasn't even the a but;;;;; (Preview) My A's sister came to bring him foood tonight. He has been sick I spent most of the day at my neighbors house while he slept==he complained I never went to the store to get him all the crap he needs for his cold. I just couldn't do it. Alll I could do was sit on my neighbors house on the couch and talk and hang out...	hippietrippiechick	8	561	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	progress not perfection (Preview) I don't want to make out my life is all doom and gloom. 3 months ago I found a friend just by chance. He is not someone I would normally call a friend. He has major major disability issues. This friend has turned out to be really "there" for me. In November they were availa...	maresie2	3	414	Jan 10, 2007 by Andrea12
	Got Laid Off Today (Preview) My company laid off 12 employees today. Since I am new, I was given notice to terminate the end of February. At first I felt like HP will be opening a new door for me. Then I left work and the sadness hit. It will be interesting to see what HP has in mind for me. The funny thing is that I got the sense there was ins...	kissers	10	412	Jan 10, 2007 by Klynn
	today is GOOD!! (Preview) After the day I had yesterday I felt lost and hopless!!!! However this morning I read the Jan 10 page in the book I was given and it made me smile and realize I just gotta live TODAY!!!! I did!! There was NO arguing with our child about getting ready for school....it is normally a battl...	Klynn	2	250	Jan 10, 2007 by Fifi
	for some people there is no bottom (Preview) I had a very difficult weekend with the A. He has stopped doing anything but play video games, watch TV and sleep. He hasn't changed his clothes in like a week. He has been at this place before of complete self indulgence and withdrawal. I always coaxed him out. I don't know what's wo...	maresie2	8	548	Jan 10, 2007 by maresie2
	Please remind me of what I already know. (Preview) Please give me some advice and a kick in the butt if needed. I am AA and Alanon. My boyfriend was in recovery and decided to try drinking again. It has been a living hell. Even though I knew better I stuck in there and helped him along. He was put in jail again for 30 d...	Pippy	4	489	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	Newbie (Preview) Hi all, I have just begun MY recovery and am learning a lot. Boy, let me tell you - reading your posts makes my mouth just drop wide open as that is MY life! I just wish for one moment, my A, DH, could be in my shoes to read what I am going through on a daily basis. A little about me, I have been married for 14 mo...	texsmama	6	306	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	OMG! LOL (Preview) Hi All!! Some of you will remember the past year and a half the battle I had with my daughter who was 16 and dating and "in love" with a 21 yr old on parole from prison. Then just this past December this same daughter who will be 18 this month moved out blaming me for all that trouble with that now 23 yr...	irish54	11	453	Jan 10, 2007 by albertarose
	working the program (Preview) being relatively new to alanon, i am curious, what does "working the program" mean to you? i would love to hear some of your answers..... sharing all this ESH with you all has certainly worked wonders for me so far. i thank you for being here. love,fifi	Fifi	3	332	Jan 10, 2007 by hudsond
	2am-can't shut off brain-obsessing (Preview) God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, Wisdom to know the difference. God, Grant me the serenity to accept...	CJ	21	3673	Jan 10, 2007 by mel123
	ACCEPTABLE VS UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR (Preview) Dear ((((Roomies))), I just completed the exercise suggested by Tiger (in her response to Carolinagirl's post on detachment). I am not sure I did the exercise completely correctly as described, but I want to share what I did and my results. I created two columns. In the first column I listed unac...	BlueCloud	4	740	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	so lonely (Preview) Hi to everyone, I'm writing to just have contact with someone. I am so lonely, I can't seem to find my God today. My A. is here, but that is no help. I just want a little human or spirtual company. Rita	rita	7	329	Jan 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Another issue with my F2F meeting!!!! (LONG) (Preview) I went last night to my F2F meeting because it had been several weeks (holidays). When I got there it was obvious that it was the alateen meeting night, 1 a month is alateen. As most of you know I am TOTALLY alone here no friends no family. I have been having problems with my daughter's...	carolinagirl	11	509	Jan 10, 2007 by barisax
	Is it my problem or his? new here and confused.... (Preview) As you can see, this is my first post..and I’m feeling anxious about it – perhaps fear of what might be said or what I must do (or not do). This is really long but I don’t know any other way to do this – and it’s a reflection of how I analyze everything. This is me- the long winded woman. ...	DebiDeb	8	654	Jan 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	A threat to me (Preview) Hello everyone, It has been quite some time since I posted on here...The past six months have been horrible for me..I lost my mother in June, and had two more deaths in my family since then~ my aunt and my grandma, then was fired from my job in November...I have had a hell of a time dealing with ever...	Diane43	11	625	Jan 10, 2007 by leo
	Anxiety treatment (Preview) Hello all, I need advice - I'm suffering from anxiety, it generally is a physical shaking, jittering and unable to concentrate on anything but making it stop. I used Ativan for a while but started getting "rebound" shakes when it was wearing off. My MD switched me to Xanax which worked nice...	Orchid Lady	14	565	Jan 10, 2007 by debilyn
	1st f2f (Preview) Welp so I balled the WHOLE freaking hour, I think almost everyone after said something to me, gave me a hug....told me to call them if I needed!!!! I was even SO pathetic that someone bought me a book cause they said I REALLY needed it!!!! So aside from THAT!!!! It went well....I feel...	Klynn	2	340	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	So, I went to meet the director... (Preview) So I went to meet the director, and wow, the lady's brilliant. And she's very encouraging. She told me to be upfront with the comittee about my GPA. Just put it in my open letter to the comittee of admissions, she said. In that, discuss any "concerns:" Why transfer from a $35,000/ye...	Tiger2006	6	389	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	If pain is growth then this is one hell of a growth spurt (Preview) Hello all. First, I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and shared experience which is giving me a glimmer of hope here. I am doing a lot of thinking and trying to figure it all out now. I have never been a patient person and I seem to think my higher power is trying to teach me this. If I could s...	ColeShan	3	366	Jan 10, 2007 by CJ
	still struggling (Preview) So I was on a meeting last night here and I found one tonight....I want to go but I dont!! I guess by going I am really admitting there is somthing terribly wrong. I am just scared that thing will change between us. I am having a hard time just surrendering to the idea that there is a prob...	Klynn	12	545	Jan 10, 2007 by lin0606
	Every once in a while... (Preview) Higher Power puts a theme in your day and if you are lucky you get the message from the theme. With the holidays I have been a little lax on going to meetings and with puter at home being on the fritz I haven't made it to the board or the chat room in a while. Today we had electrical p...	AlaMom	2	422	Jan 10, 2007 by Jerry F
	newbie question along the same lines as others (Preview) This is my first real post but you've all be a tremendous support to me in the last few weeks just from my daily visits, thankyou. My AH was sober for 20 years, in that time I still worked my program and our marriage was okay not great. We have 2 kids with one being away in college now, the other in High school....	tryingtoheal	5	515	Jan 10, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	Just called child support enforcement. (Preview) Well, I filed for child support a month or two ago and had nowhere to have my AH served but now he is in a recovery house and working so I called them today and provided them with all the info. even did a little research to get the company info. It was Hard (emotionally of course)! As it is...	carolinagirl	4	490	Jan 10, 2007 by Jerry F
	we need each other---please read (Preview) I went out to shop this evening and I brought home Chineese food. I waited over 3 hours to open my fortune cookie, not that I am a fanatic. Anyway, here is what the fortune said: "Including others in your life will bring you great happiness."	hippietrippiechick	2	321	Jan 10, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Seizures caused by excessive drinking & lack of food. Dt's caused by continued drinking and lack of nourishment. (Preview) Does anyone else have experience with this? This happened to my husband in November. He seemed ok when he came home from the hospital. Then, when he got off his meds he went nuts....psychosis. Blames me for his drinking. Coming onto my daughter - he's been her dad since she was 12 - and...	lilliput	2	524	Jan 9, 2007 by carolena
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