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well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but remember me saying he wanted me to get him a saw well yesterday he got one with his own money he paid 100.00 for it well that got stolen,i told him well that is 100 we r out of now,and i asked him if he had any money he said i have 4.00 i told him how r u going to get to work and get your truck now with no money,he said nothing..i told him im done i cant do this anymore,mentally or fiancially,enough is enough..he said im not drinking anymore..i asked him if he did drugs lastnite he said he did..i told him you got yourself into this you get yourself out,im not doing it for you..before when he got caught with a dui,he would go right into rehab but i dont think he is going to do that this time,but i dont care..i only have 2 more weeks before i am moving back to ny..and if he goes to work tomorrow im going to contact a lawyer and see what i can do about getting him removed from here till i am moved out.in the next few days he is going to turn into a monster,blaming and belittling me and im not going to take it ANYMOREbeen though this 5 or 6 times in the 7 years we have been together..i dont need this i deserve better then this.im a grown woman who can make up her own mind,and no man is ever going to control me or treat me they he does,and i am going to make sure if i ever get invovled with another guy,i will make sure he dont drink or do drugs thanks everyone
that is a GREAT piece of writing, right there. honest, factual, time to implement your plan B. Excellent. others take notice -- take away feelings and emotions, and the honest truths are right there. i agree that he is gonna be angry and may take action, knowing that you are leaving. i agree, very much, that you should either A) contact a lawyer or B) contact the local police/sheriff to remove him, at least till you are gone. living in fear is not living. i've always wanted to ask my Awife this one question, "what do you value me as a human being, supposedly your true love, to continue these ways?" but i don't need to ask, anymore. actions speak louder than words.
this disease blows. i don't speak for HP, but i wonder what lessons they are trying to teach our A? for me, this horrible episode has brought me to this place, where I've had revelations and humbleness to take my HP back off the old dusty shelf and have HP presence in my life. i wonder if that is the biggest lesson of my A? that might be a dangerous question for me to pose about someone else, as we are all on our own journeys.
anyway, Bev, my support, my love, my prayers be with you. cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
That is so hard, and I'm so impressed by your resolve knowing what is likely coming at you. That's true courage right there.
Best of luck to you through this very difficult time. Keep letting us know how you're doing. We're with you. And I'll bet you can find someone better, mainly because you have decided to not accept this behavior in your life. Thank you for sharing your story for the rest of us.
Bev, I am glad you had the courage to stand up for yourself. It's so hard for us to do. Hearing this makes me hopeful for myself and thankful for this program. Thank you for sharing this with us.
You sound determined, Bev. It takes courage. Reading your post is encouraging to me to find my own strength as times are tough right now. I wish you well! Hang Tough!....jaja
