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i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move back to ny,i have been more happy then i have been in the pass year
alot of you would be happy to know that i also told him i am not paying any more of his bills that r in his name,last weekend he wanted me to pay a 800.00 credit card bill i said no..he also got a truck last weekend and i told him he has to have his own insurance.cause i dont want him under mine while he is drinking and driving..felt good to stand up to him on that...of couse he wasnt very happy about the whole thing ok got to go it is late love all my MIP FAMILY U ALL R SO GREAT,U HAVE HELPED ME IN SO MANY WAYS thanks
What are you...the infinite credit card!! Just joking....but really, you can't pay his bills for him, can you. You are not doing either him or you any favors by doing this. He needs to feel the consequences of his actions, and that means paying for anything he purchases.
He is is the grips of a powerful addiction, and his actions may be governed by this. But, you can chose a different way for your life. You do not have with alcohol in you life if you chose not to. It's up to you really, you can chose your own way forward.
I know ofcourse this is not easy. Change is often diffcult....but sometimes necessary too.
I hope you keep posting and letting us know how you are getting on. We are all here for each other.
I am in the procress of making alot of changes. It is hard but it feels good at the same time.
Rember only try to make one change at a time and sometime there seems to be a lot of steps to it. The big one for me is how to work out spending time with my eldery parents since I do not drive. I live 30 mile Rt. I am still adjusting to the death of my two nephew last year. From drug and alochol.
