Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

marmare · marmare

Just a quick update on the new job. We found a compromise at our last meeting over the weekend. I will work a few Saturdays to learn the business, their products, pricing etc. Then if the fit is comfortable I will give notice at my present job. So see, it does all work out. ...

captcodee · captcodee

I am a woman therefore, I am emotional I got home from work today, and the dog got out of her kennel, and had destroyed the house. My husband was not home I almost left my marraige over this. I could go on for pages and pages... would you read it? I wouldn't.

I yelled at God f...

marmare · marmare

I think yesterday had to be one of the nicest days since my A got clean and sober. We woke up and my A made us breakfast, we watched a movie, just laying in bed. Then when I wrote the grocery list, he volunteered to go shopping with me. It's been years since we went grocery shopping toget...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Today my husband will be home from rehab. Not sure how to feel about it, he has been gone about two months...took him awhile to go to detox after I threw him out. Kids really want him to come home. I am not sure at all how to react to the situation. I am still angry, hurt, disappointed and just down right p'd. R...

Phil · Phil

SELF ESTEEM, SELF LOVE and SELF CENTEREDNESS by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, fe...

ditto · ditto

What does "ESH" mean? Thank you for your help.

UncleLou · UncleLou

Need some help sorting this out. As my ex wife and I are trying to figure out whether we can work things out, we are still living in the same house with our 2 kids. She has moved back to our bedroom a few months ago. A strange living arrangement, I know. (The buyers of our house backed out on the deal, so we st...

sparkette · sparkette

I am walking around the house - like a nut - of course everyone else is sitting on their butts not doing a dang thing. And I have to ask myself - "What am I so pissed about - exactly??" OK it isn't that they aren't doing anything cause I could get them involved one way or another if I really wanted too. I am ticke...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I will be heading out next week for some time alone to make my final decision, although I think I it is pretty much being made for me every day in his actions. Please pray that I won't be selfish and that I will think of all envolved in this decision to stay or go. It h...

Gailey · Gailey

If my A (who is my son), is living with me in a separate guesthouse, goes out and doesn't come home all night sometimes, and I am not ready to make him leave yet, should I just ignore it and not ask any questions? I know he will lie so how do I just let it go so I am not worrying all the time. Most of the time I have be...

maresie · maresie

I have been looking closely at the issue of boundaries with the A as he is able to blur the boundaries and crash over mine so well. We have been 5 years into a relationship that has been one that has been essentialy boundaryless for me most of the time. I have bought a my own storyline about h...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i enjoy doing 5k run/walk with friends. so far i have ran for abused wives, cancer, AIDS, children's hospital,...ect. i feel they are a good pick me up and nice time away from the kids, while still helping a good cause. does anyone know of some sort of 5k run/walk that benefits alcoholic families, fam...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

First of all, may I just say an enormous thank you to everyone on the boards. I really did not expect the understanding and support that I have received here. I haven't been to a F2F meeting yet, but I plan to go today or tomorrow. (Wednesday is my birthday so I want to go at least once be...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Those of you that have kept up with my crazy insane story, and helped me out with your comments. Thank you, I love you all. Yesterday my husband told me from 1000 miles away he wanted a divorce, yadayadayada, you know the story. I had called my parents because I really have no one el...

sas · sas

Today is one of those days when I think I just hate my A husband. Well, hate is a strong word....let's say really, really, really don't like right now. He is sticking his nose into where it doesn't belong. He has almost a year of recover...

DeAnna · DeAnna

I figure there are 3 roads that I could take. 1) What if I choose to be on that negative road of despair & hopeless thought, ya know that "you" road, it's "your fault", "you should have"? And what if he too stays on this negative road? Well, I guess then there are tw...

tea2 · tea2

This was sent to me from my aunt, I hope it's not too preachy (will leave some of it out) I happen to love the story. Since she knows my on going goal (ok quest) of “letting go” and “detachment” I believe that my HP (God for me) was working when she told me of this and then sent the e-mail

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kitty · kitty

"You can't control the wind but you can set your sails."

allison · allison

My A who moved out 5 weeks ago is mad at me because I went out with my friends from work last night.we went to the Eagles which really isn`t a bar..it`s a club and even families go there.I had fun had a few drinks and left my car there and got a ride from a sober friend.He has went out with friends on a monthly bas...

Barbara · Barbara

Ever notice when things are going well its easier to take care of yourself physically (diet, exercise, water) and the focus is less on spiritually? But when there's an issue youre more focused emotionally and taking care of yourself physically tends to slide? Ive noticed that taking care of mys...

iona54 · iona54

(from typo queen iona54!!) The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid. Aoccdrnig to a rasercreeh at Cmagbirde Utivernisy, it deson't mttear in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taot...

bob6502 · bob6502

General Business Group Conscience Meeting February 1, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Co-Chair: Cabecka Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes from January meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBo...

John_R · John_R

I'm finally ready (after a mixture of procrastination and trouble with letting go) to work my fourth step. As a lot of you already know I'm a double winner and also ACoA, so this is going to get a little complicated for me. I don't have any illusions about never having to do this again, but I also w...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone, I attended a district AA workshop yesterday on sponsorship. Got to hear 5 different speakers talking about different issues regarding being or needing a sponsor. It was quite good and I learned many things which I can certainly apply to my own Al-Anon program. (And just for the reco...

gardengal · gardengal

Dont wait to seek help. Anyone who has suffered from the effects of someone elses drinking faces constant emotional strains and pressures, and needs help in releiving these. You will find relief, understanding, support, and warmhearted help in an alanon family group. There you will, as one member...

maresie · maresie

I am working really hard on not collecting any more resentments with the A. It is very difficult because he is always acting out in some way. Lately he has been on a dope binge. The financial aspect of that is bad enough (because he is hopelessly mired in debt) but there is a health aspect of i...

cabma · cabma

My A went out after work yesterday and hasn't come home yet. Today I found him in a sleazy hotel and confronted him (again). He said he wasn't ready and I should just leave him alone. Then I came home and read some of the posts here. (I read mostly, only posted a few times). ...

kissers · kissers

SHIFTING GEARS: THE ADULT CHILD AND SUCCESSFUL THERAPY By: Tarpley M. Long, LCSW Over the ten years I have worked with ACOAs and other codependents, my clients have presented me with an almost bewildering array of problems. Despite their diversity, however, a number of unifying them...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I went to a f2f the other day. It was a pretty small meeting. So, I shared my dirty laundry. Not to often I do that. I had a real need to get things out though. I have a male sponsor and he is from AA. At first he was just going to help me until we found a woman to help me. ...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi Friends, About a week and a half ago, my ex-boyfriend, whom I was letting walk my dog and just being friends with, got drunk and walked to a friend of his in these apts. The friend called ME and wanted me to come get him as he was almost passing out. I told the friend that I couldn't get him or carry him to m...

flintfeet · flintfeet

ok, this is going to be long. it was really a disaster yesturday, and i need to talk to someone. some backround info: my sister and dad (A) live in the same apt complex (NOT same apt, though). her and i are NOT talking with my dad b/c we don't approve of his life situation. Anyway.....

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm having a really hard time going to meetings the past few weeks. I feel very isolated and am not really making friends except for one couple. I'm trying to hang in there and see if this is just a mood that will pass, but it's discouraging that I've felt like this three weeks in a row now.&nb...

Barbara · Barbara

Spoke w/my mother today. Told her after she cancelled court Fri morn I called the lady at the courthouse. She got mad! Told me I went behind her back (which I did). Does not see that Ive been hearing soooo much about the abuse for over a year now that its time I finally do something! Told her I can file the rep...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Does anyone know of any new evidence or studies on the past usage of meth/drugs/alcohol in the male or female and birth defects or future developmental problems? With all the different drugs that addicts may have used that have such toxic chemicals in them, I ca...

marmare · marmare

Good Morning! So I have an opportunity to have this new job. My job satisfaction has been low since last September. This job is for a company that does erosion control, the pay is the same but after 90 days there is pay review and full family benefits, so why am I having problems sealing th...

Barbara · Barbara

We're having one at my F2F next Sat

cdb · cdb

Hello debilyn, I was channel surfing today and saw part of the Miss Americal Pageant. One of the contestants had a pet pig and it did tricks for her. I thought fondly of you and of all the care and support you have given me. I am glad you have been a part of my life in alanon. cdb :)

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

for so long i have been asking how can i tc of myself? how can i get better? i realized that asking my a to leave yesterday was taking care of me in the best way i can. i got away from the madness for yesterday and today. i got to relax. which is what i wanted last night and today. relaxation. no nonsense a...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends :) I came to alanon due to my 21 year old daughter's struggle with alcoholism/drug addiction. She is doing so well now, of course one day at a time :) The program tells us to focus on us which I have done and have been using the alanon tools in other areas of my life too. Recently I talk...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

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Barbara · Barbara

She just cant do it! Its going to be me going to court to file the report. I do have an older brother but he's mentally handicapped. It needs to be a blood relative and Im it. I did call and speak w/the lady my mother spoke w/yesterday. This lady said my mother really needs this done. There is a bite mark, la...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

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twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, I'm really feeling down today and needed to vent in a healthy place. My "a" is supposed to do his DUI course this weekend and low and behold his best friend from school came in to town yesterday. This is a person who he drank with consistently and always got into to trouble wit...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i keep wondering if my dad caves in and goes to rehab if it is worth his time and their's as well. he doesn't want to quit drinking, doesn't have a problem, can stop whenever he wants to,...ect. i know rehab won't work unless he wants it. i think he would go just to have contact with my bro, sis,and i. i see him...

mon123 · mon123

This is not from Alanon literature and therefore left me picking my chin up off the floor. Thought I would share it with you all. It's real Step One stuff!!!! My Love must be brought against every jarring circumstance, every uncertainty, to inject peace. You have found that your peace must never d...

kissers · kissers

Life Enrichment Workshops In an effort to offer Caron Life Enrichment Services to a greater number of our alumni and friends, we have instituted some modifications. The workshops have been reformatted into one-day events that will now be offered within the various regions throug...

kitty · kitty

"I just got back w/ an old flame, so I am taking it very, very slowly. Last month I told God I wasn't ready for a relationship & in HP's infinite humor, has proved me wrong again. " "But the self-protection that is coming from the self-love is a nice surprise, I never knew what it meant t...

Kim2 · Kim2

I'm hurting badly and just want someone who will understand to "hear" me. My alcoholic husband is playing serious head games with me and I've gotten so caught up in them it's making me sick, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I've gone to Al-Anon meetings for almost 6 yea...

kitty · kitty

Today was a better day & I'm feeling stronger in myself. I know when I reach out in pain, not only is it a release of it all but then it quiets my mind & I can usually get an answer or sign from HP. When I feel helpless or lost, & call on God i can feel those under your skin shivers...&n...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Hi. I am new here. I am thinking about going to Al-Anon. I have never been before. My father was an alcoholic, but he quit before I was born. The thing that is giving me trouble though is my boyfriend. I have been with him for almost four years and I love him more tha...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Hello roomies)))))))))))))))), Exactly 24 hours ago, my apartment complex had a major fire which destroyed completely 1 building and 1/2 of another. 24 families are now homeless, and another 24 are displaced because they had to turn of the utilities in the lower part of the compl...

nikkilou · nikkilou

HI everyone, I haven't been on the board to much lately. But tonight as i went to bed something made me get up and write this. Its all good. I have been online a little over a year now. When I first came I was mad at the world. Why did I have to pick a drunk to fall in love with...

MFran · MFran

My daughter had a seizure tonight and was taken to the hospital by ambulance. The doctor at the emergency said that since all of her tests were normal, more than likely the seizure was alcohol related. Have any of you experienced anything like this with your A?

Barbara · Barbara

Do they usually take these seriously? I called the Hotline 800# and they referred me to her district. Explained some of it, took 15mins So now Ive spoken with the Courthouse and with Elder Services. Do I need to call the police too or see what happens?

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

tonight my a came home from work and started playing his stupid mind games again and was so ignorant. he said he didnt need aa and wasnt going anymore. kept calling me names and all that other lovely stuff. so i said thats it, get your stuff together and get out. im done with this. im not sitting around wait...

Tammy · Tammy

That pretty much sums up my life. INSANITY .. !!! I keep hoping that my marriage will improve that things will get better.. But they dont.. The merry go round keeps going and I just continue to ride.. Why ?? What am I so afraid of ? Why do I let someone belittle me and tre...

Lindy · Lindy

Things are getting much, much worse for me now. I had a HUGE argument with my husband (my A) on Wednesday night. I told him for the thousandth time I was tired of his drinking, he called me a bitch and I told him I would rather be a bitch than an alcoholic. I thought that giant argument might wake him up to this...

bobump · bobump

As hard as it is, it's so much easier to set boundries to protect yourself when it's just you and your A. I found myself today though getting angry and getting ready to add to my resentment pile with my A. I remember being in my daughters therapy session w/ just my A and I, trying to figure out some daily...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I haven't been to a meeting yet. I kinda want to go because I want to be around people who understand and it feels like no one does. But there are two things that make me hesitant: 1) I don't believe in God. In any way shape or form. 2) I don't want to leave my boyfriend and I feel like i...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I've come to find out (if you've been following my nightmare of a story) that not only was my AH an A, a cocaine addict, but also a sex addict, not to mention being bi-polar. He had said he had been living with the guilt of all the times he go out on binge drinks and cheat on me, and told himself if he ever...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Happy Compromise (Preview) Just a quick update on the new job. We found a compromise at our last meeting over the weekend. I will work a few Saturdays to learn the business, their products, pricing etc. Then if the fit is comfortable I will give notice at my present job. So see, it does all work out. ...	marmare	5	417	Jan 31, 2006 by notsonew1111
	My Melt down (but we like chocolate melted anyhow...) (Preview) I am a woman therefore, I am emotional I got home from work today, and the dog got out of her kennel, and had destroyed the house. My husband was not home I almost left my marraige over this. I could go on for pages and pages... would you read it? I wouldn't. I yelled at God f...	captcodee	3	398	Jan 31, 2006 by sas
	A Nice Day & Prayer Request (Preview) I think yesterday had to be one of the nicest days since my A got clean and sober. We woke up and my A made us breakfast, we watched a movie, just laying in bed. Then when I wrote the grocery list, he volunteered to go shopping with me. It's been years since we went grocery shopping toget...	marmare	4	607	Jan 31, 2006 by leo
	coming home from rehab (Preview) Today my husband will be home from rehab. Not sure how to feel about it, he has been gone about two months...took him awhile to go to detox after I threw him out. Kids really want him to come home. I am not sure at all how to react to the situation. I am still angry, hurt, disappointed and just down right p'd. R...	Andrea12	6	459	Jan 30, 2006 by lin0606
	An article about self.... (Preview) SELF ESTEEM, SELF LOVE and SELF CENTEREDNESS by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, fe...	Phil	1	522	Jan 30, 2006 by captcodee
	ESH (Preview) What does "ESH" mean? Thank you for your help.	ditto	2	887	Jan 30, 2006 by captcodee
	'Ex' lover still in the picture? Am I being unreasonable? (Preview) Need some help sorting this out. As my ex wife and I are trying to figure out whether we can work things out, we are still living in the same house with our 2 kids. She has moved back to our bedroom a few months ago. A strange living arrangement, I know. (The buyers of our house backed out on the deal, so we st...	UncleLou	13	680	Jan 30, 2006 by ditto
	ticked at myself (Preview) I am walking around the house - like a nut - of course everyone else is sitting on their butts not doing a dang thing. And I have to ask myself - "What am I so pissed about - exactly??" OK it isn't that they aren't doing anything cause I could get them involved one way or another if I really wanted too. I am ticke...	sparkette	9	573	Jan 30, 2006 by maresie
	Prayers needed (Preview) I will be heading out next week for some time alone to make my final decision, although I think I it is pretty much being made for me every day in his actions. Please pray that I won't be selfish and that I will think of all envolved in this decision to stay or go. It h...	jrtjosey	11	531	Jan 30, 2006 by Andrea12
	What to do????? (Preview) If my A (who is my son), is living with me in a separate guesthouse, goes out and doesn't come home all night sometimes, and I am not ready to make him leave yet, should I just ignore it and not ask any questions? I know he will lie so how do I just let it go so I am not worrying all the time. Most of the time I have be...	Gailey	3	442	Jan 30, 2006 by maresie
	boundaries (Preview) I have been looking closely at the issue of boundaries with the A as he is able to blur the boundaries and crash over mine so well. We have been 5 years into a relationship that has been one that has been essentialy boundaryless for me most of the time. I have bought a my own storyline about h...	maresie	8	628	Jan 30, 2006 by maresie
	anyone know??? (Preview) i enjoy doing 5k run/walk with friends. so far i have ran for abused wives, cancer, AIDS, children's hospital,...ect. i feel they are a good pick me up and nice time away from the kids, while still helping a good cause. does anyone know of some sort of 5k run/walk that benefits alcoholic families, fam...	flintfeet	3	798	Jan 30, 2006 by sparkette
	just kidding (myself) (Preview) First of all, may I just say an enormous thank you to everyone on the boards. I really did not expect the understanding and support that I have received here. I haven't been to a F2F meeting yet, but I plan to go today or tomorrow. (Wednesday is my birthday so I want to go at least once be...	paintthinnr	2	398	Jan 30, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Me Today (Preview) Those of you that have kept up with my crazy insane story, and helped me out with your comments. Thank you, I love you all. Yesterday my husband told me from 1000 miles away he wanted a divorce, yadayadayada, you know the story. I had called my parents because I really have no one el...	sdisnie	4	395	Jan 30, 2006 by Jeannie
	STOP THE INTERFERENCE (Preview) Today is one of those days when I think I just hate my A husband. Well, hate is a strong word....let's say really, really, really don't like right now. He is sticking his nose into where it doesn't belong. He has almost a year of recover...	sas	4	481	Jan 30, 2006 by Christy
	The road we choose. (Preview) I figure there are 3 roads that I could take. 1) What if I choose to be on that negative road of despair & hopeless thought, ya know that "you" road, it's "your fault", "you should have"? And what if he too stays on this negative road? Well, I guess then there are tw...	DeAnna	2	499	Jan 30, 2006 by hudsond
	Two Monks - Letting Go (Preview) This was sent to me from my aunt, I hope it's not too preachy (will leave some of it out) I happen to love the story. Since she knows my on going goal (ok quest) of “letting go” and “detachment” I believe that my HP (God for me) was working when she told me of this and then sent the e-mail **...	tea2	6	560	Jan 30, 2006 by DeAnna
	choice/destiny (Preview) "You can't control the wind but you can set your sails."	kitty	9	468	Jan 30, 2006 by DeAnna
	double standard (Preview) My A who moved out 5 weeks ago is mad at me because I went out with my friends from work last night.we went to the Eagles which really isn`t a bar..it`s a club and even families go there.I had fun had a few drinks and left my car there and got a ride from a sober friend.He has went out with friends on a monthly bas...	allison	8	476	Jan 30, 2006 by DeAnna
	taking care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually - ever notice when (Preview) Ever notice when things are going well its easier to take care of yourself physically (diet, exercise, water) and the focus is less on spiritually? But when there's an issue youre more focused emotionally and taking care of yourself physically tends to slide? Ive noticed that taking care of mys...	Barbara	5	1694	Jan 30, 2006 by DeAnna
	for all of you who worry about typos :)) (Preview) (from typo queen iona54!!) The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid. Aoccdrnig to a rasercreeh at Cmagbirde Utivernisy, it deson't mttear in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taot...	iona54	9	524	Jan 30, 2006 by toto12
	Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) General Business Group Conscience Meeting February 1, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Co-Chair: Cabecka Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes from January meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBo...	bob6502	0	508	Jan 30, 2006 by bob6502
	Working 4th Step (Preview) I'm finally ready (after a mixture of procrastination and trouble with letting go) to work my fourth step. As a lot of you already know I'm a double winner and also ACoA, so this is going to get a little complicated for me. I don't have any illusions about never having to do this again, but I also w...	John_R	8	507	Jan 30, 2006 by bob6502
	Assumptions (Preview) Hi Everyone, I attended a district AA workshop yesterday on sponsorship. Got to hear 5 different speakers talking about different issues regarding being or needing a sponsor. It was quite good and I learned many things which I can certainly apply to my own Al-Anon program. (And just for the reco...	david62	8	671	Jan 30, 2006 by bob6502
	HELP YOURSELF NOW (Preview) Dont wait to seek help. Anyone who has suffered from the effects of someone elses drinking faces constant emotional strains and pressures, and needs help in releiving these. You will find relief, understanding, support, and warmhearted help in an alanon family group. There you will, as one member...	gardengal	3	403	Jan 30, 2006 by doxie
	Resentments (Preview) I am working really hard on not collecting any more resentments with the A. It is very difficult because he is always acting out in some way. Lately he has been on a dope binge. The financial aspect of that is bad enough (because he is hopelessly mired in debt) but there is a health aspect of i...	maresie	3	485	Jan 29, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Trying to be strong (Preview) My A went out after work yesterday and hasn't come home yet. Today I found him in a sleazy hotel and confronted him (again). He said he wasn't ready and I should just leave him alone. Then I came home and read some of the posts here. (I read mostly, only posted a few times). ...	cabma	9	550	Jan 29, 2006 by rosie light shines
	An ACOA Article "Shifting Gears" (Preview) SHIFTING GEARS: THE ADULT CHILD AND SUCCESSFUL THERAPY By: Tarpley M. Long, LCSW Over the ten years I have worked with ACOAs and other codependents, my clients have presented me with an almost bewildering array of problems. Despite their diversity, however, a number of unifying them...	kissers	2	520	Jan 29, 2006 by kissers
	Progress not perfection (Preview) I went to a f2f the other day. It was a pretty small meeting. So, I shared my dirty laundry. Not to often I do that. I had a real need to get things out though. I have a male sponsor and he is from AA. At first he was just going to help me until we found a woman to help me. ...	ZiggyDoodles	3	1092	Jan 29, 2006 by Maria123
	How Can I Forgive This? Adult Content!!! (Preview) Hi Friends, About a week and a half ago, my ex-boyfriend, whom I was letting walk my dog and just being friends with, got drunk and walked to a friend of his in these apts. The friend called ME and wanted me to come get him as he was almost passing out. I told the friend that I couldn't get him or carry him to m...	jonibaloni21	11	584	Jan 29, 2006 by david62
	what a diaster, why? (Preview) ok, this is going to be long. it was really a disaster yesturday, and i need to talk to someone. *some backround info:* my sister and dad (A) live in the same apt complex (NOT same apt, though). her and i are NOT talking with my dad b/c we don't approve of his life situation. Anyway.....	flintfeet	5	563	Jan 29, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Feeling Isolate & Wanting to Quit My F2F (Preview) I'm having a really hard time going to meetings the past few weeks. I feel very isolated and am not really making friends except for one couple. I'm trying to hang in there and see if this is just a mood that will pass, but it's discouraging that I've felt like this three weeks in a row now.&nb...	WakingUp	10	1012	Jan 29, 2006 by gardengal
	Mother is mad at ME! Is this where I Let Go/Let God? or push forward w/it? (Preview) Spoke w/my mother today. Told her after she cancelled court Fri morn I called the lady at the courthouse. She got mad! Told me I went behind her back (which I did). Does not see that Ive been hearing soooo much about the abuse for over a year now that its time I finally do something! Told her I can file the rep...	Barbara	3	407	Jan 29, 2006 by irish54
	The addict and birth defects? (Preview) Hello friends, Does anyone know of any new evidence or studies on the past usage of meth/drugs/alcohol in the male or female and birth defects or future developmental problems? With all the different drugs that addicts may have used that have such toxic chemicals in them, I ca...	cdb	4	956	Jan 29, 2006 by cdb
	so why am I second guessing (Preview) Good Morning! So I have an opportunity to have this new job. My job satisfaction has been low since last September. This job is for a company that does erosion control, the pay is the same but after 90 days there is pay review and full family benefits, so why am I having problems sealing th...	marmare	3	440	Jan 29, 2006 by leo
	what goes on at a Business Meeting? (Preview) We're having one at my F2F next Sat	Barbara	2	432	Jan 28, 2006 by lin0606
	debilyn :) (Preview) Hello debilyn, I was channel surfing today and saw part of the Miss Americal Pageant. One of the contestants had a pet pig and it did tricks for her. I thought fondly of you and of all the care and support you have given me. I am glad you have been a part of my life in alanon. cdb :)	cdb	2	421	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	realization (Preview) for so long i have been asking how can i tc of myself? how can i get better? i realized that asking my a to leave yesterday was taking care of me in the best way i can. i got away from the madness for yesterday and today. i got to relax. which is what i wanted last night and today. relaxation. no nonsense a...	notsonew1111	3	424	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	Living with an angerholic/rageaholic (Preview) Hello friends :) I came to alanon due to my 21 year old daughter's struggle with alcoholism/drug addiction. She is doing so well now, of course one day at a time :) The program tells us to focus on us which I have done and have been using the alanon tools in other areas of my life too. Recently I talk...	cdb	8	7405	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	a reading on detachment (Preview)     ...	notsonew1111	2	3758	Jan 28, 2006 by maresie
	Mother postponed taking brother to court (Preview) She just cant do it! Its going to be me going to court to file the report. I do have an older brother but he's mentally handicapped. It needs to be a blood relative and Im it. I did call and speak w/the lady my mother spoke w/yesterday. This lady said my mother really needs this done. There is a bite mark, la...	Barbara	4	506	Jan 28, 2006 by Flora123
	on personal boundaries (Preview)     &nb...	notsonew1111	5	2150	Jan 28, 2006 by maresie
	Feeling down and tired with the life of an "A" (Preview) Hello group, I'm really feeling down today and needed to vent in a healthy place. My "a" is supposed to do his DUI course this weekend and low and behold his best friend from school came in to town yesterday. This is a person who he drank with consistently and always got into to trouble wit...	twinmom2	6	550	Jan 28, 2006 by Flora123
	rehab...yeah right! (Preview) i keep wondering if my dad caves in and goes to rehab if it is worth his time and their's as well. he doesn't want to quit drinking, doesn't have a problem, can stop whenever he wants to,...ect. i know rehab won't work unless he wants it. i think he would go just to have contact with my bro, sis,and i. i see him...	flintfeet	5	484	Jan 28, 2006 by lin0606
	Found a massage from my Higher Power (Preview) This is not from Alanon literature and therefore left me picking my chin up off the floor. Thought I would share it with you all. It's real Step One stuff!!!! My Love must be brought against every jarring circumstance, every uncertainty, to inject peace. You have found that your peace must never d...	mon123	3	426	Jan 28, 2006 by david62
	Caron Foundation-Workshop Information (Preview) Life Enrichment Workshops In an effort to offer Caron Life Enrichment Services to a greater number of our alumni and friends, we have instituted some modifications. The workshops have been reformatted into one-day events that will now be offered within the various regions throug...	kissers	0	2032	Jan 28, 2006 by kissers
	? answered ~ emotional protection (Preview) "I just got back w/ an old flame, so I am taking it very, very slowly. Last month I told God I wasn't ready for a relationship & in HP's infinite humor, has proved me wrong again. " "But the self-protection that is coming from the self-love is a nice surprise, I never knew what it meant t...	kitty	4	631	Jan 28, 2006 by kitty
	Confusion (Preview) I'm hurting badly and just want someone who will understand to "hear" me. My alcoholic husband is playing serious head games with me and I've gotten so caught up in them it's making me sick, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I've gone to Al-Anon meetings for almost 6 yea...	Kim2	3	433	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	HP answers our prayers (Preview) Today was a better day & I'm feeling stronger in myself. I know when I reach out in pain, not only is it a release of it all but then it quiets my mind & I can usually get an answer or sign from HP. When I feel helpless or lost, & call on God i can feel those under your skin shivers...&n...	kitty	3	411	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	New. Please help! (Preview) Hi. I am new here. I am thinking about going to Al-Anon. I have never been before. My father was an alcoholic, but he quit before I was born. The thing that is giving me trouble though is my boyfriend. I have been with him for almost four years and I love him more tha...	paintthinnr	7	454	Jan 28, 2006 by leo
	Prayers needed for families (Preview) ((((((((((((Hello roomies)))))))))))))))), Exactly 24 hours ago, my apartment complex had a major fire which destroyed completely 1 building and 1/2 of another. 24 families are now homeless, and another 24 are displaced because they had to turn of the utilities in the lower part of the compl...	Karilynn	3	562	Jan 28, 2006 by leo
	I feel like me again (Preview) HI everyone, I haven't been on the board to much lately. But tonight as i went to bed something made me get up and write this. Its all good. I have been online a little over a year now. When I first came I was mad at the world. Why did I have to pick a drunk to fall in love with...	nikkilou	2	381	Jan 28, 2006 by leo
	Alcohol and seizures (Preview) My daughter had a seizure tonight and was taken to the hospital by ambulance. The doctor at the emergency said that since all of her tests were normal, more than likely the seizure was alcohol related. Have any of you experienced anything like this with your A?	MFran	8	971	Jan 28, 2006 by MFran
	I filed a report with Elder Services (Preview) Do they usually take these seriously? I called the Hotline 800# and they referred me to her district. Explained some of it, took 15mins So now Ive spoken with the Courthouse and with Elder Services. Do I need to call the police too or see what happens?	Barbara	3	411	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	i did it again...hopefully for good (Preview) tonight my a came home from work and started playing his stupid mind games again and was so ignorant. he said he didnt need aa and wasnt going anymore. kept calling me names and all that other lovely stuff. so i said thats it, get your stuff together and get out. im done with this. im not sitting around wait...	notsonew1111	2	377	Jan 28, 2006 by cdb
	Insanity= doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome (Preview) That pretty much sums up my life. INSANITY .. !!! I keep hoping that my marriage will improve that things will get better.. But they dont.. The merry go round keeps going and I just continue to ride.. Why ?? What am I so afraid of ? Why do I let someone belittle me and tre...	Tammy	4	438	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
	Driving drunk last night (Preview) Things are getting much, much worse for me now. I had a HUGE argument with my husband (my A) on Wednesday night. I told him for the thousandth time I was tired of his drinking, he called me a bitch and I told him I would rather be a bitch than an alcoholic. I thought that giant argument might wake him up to this...	Lindy	4	453	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
	trying to figure out how to detach from this (Preview) As hard as it is, it's so much easier to set boundries to protect yourself when it's just you and your A. I found myself today though getting angry and getting ready to add to my resentment pile with my A. I remember being in my daughters therapy session w/ just my A and I, trying to figure out some daily...	bobump	8	477	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
	Questions about Al-Anon (Preview) I haven't been to a meeting yet. I kinda want to go because I want to be around people who understand and it feels like no one does. But there are two things that make me hesitant: 1) I don't believe in God. In any way shape or form. 2) I don't want to leave my boyfriend and I feel like i...	paintthinnr	7	502	Jan 27, 2006 by lin0606
	Is it common that A's have many addictions? (Preview) I've come to find out (if you've been following my nightmare of a story) that not only was my AH an A, a cocaine addict, but also a sex addict, not to mention being bi-polar. He had said he had been living with the guilt of all the times he go out on binge drinks and cheat on me, and told himself if he ever...	sdisnie	10	480	Jan 27, 2006 by maresie
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