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Which works better for kids (under 10) affected by the active A when they are exposed to it every day (I can't hide the verbal abuse that goes with it). Alanon or counseling
I started with taking my children to cousuling. Which lead me to Alanon. There is also an Alateen program. I do know that my kids needed the chance to heal as well and we still are.
councelling is great but also see if you can pic up a book called WHATS DRUNK MAMA awsome for little kids a gentle book written by Al-Anon explains the disease to younger children, teaches them to respect the alcoholic and not blame themselves. Perhaps a meeting in your area will ahve a copy . goodluck
I don't think most kids under 10 will get much out of, nor are they typically ready, for Alateen....
I like the recommendation of the "what's drunk mama" book ( I read that one to my kids, and just had to substitute Daddy for Mommy). What they need, more than anything else, is ONE healthy parent..... Very few active A's can be anything close to a "healthy parent", so hopefully you can find recovery, to the point where you can trust yourself to be a positive influence and role model for them.... THis is an almost impossible feat, if you aren't doing things for yourself, and for your well being.... Al-anon and other facets of your recovery, will help you onto the place, where your kids can find out what they really want to know - that they are loved, and that they are safe.
I wish you all the best
Tom
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