As some of you may know from message board posts or chat I have a real problem with my father in law.  He hates me and I hate him.  He is an obnoxious A.  He is a sociopath and a real user.  As a child he took my A out to bars and put him in harms way as young as 9.  He has always used my A over the years by guilting and bilking him out of any money he made.  He has a very weird control over my A (I believe he sexually abused my A as a child)  A has confirmed others but not his Dad.  First time I met father in law he was drunk and made a pass at me.  When my A was laying dying in the hospital two years ago he stole our truck and took it for a joy ride overnight while I was visiting my A at the hospital and told me it was none of my business where he went.  He spilled water on the spare bed and tried to use that as an excuse to get in bed with me while my A was in the hospital too.  Right now he is charging A's Aunt who is going through a divorce to drive her to PA from RI $600 so she can appear for a court appearance.  They arrived at our house yesterday and my A rode with them to show them the way to his friend's house in PA where they are staying for few days.  Plan was for me to go down after work and pick A up and bring him home.  Got down there last night.  A, his friend and father proceeded to go out to deliver some firewood (ended up at the bar of course and were gone several hours).  I visited with friend's wife and A's aunt.  When my A returned wanted to head home, roads were not great, it was almost 10 pm, had one hour + ride and had to work this morning.  My A was having trouble navigating once he sat down and I was coaxing him to get up and get going.  A's Dad comes over and puts his hands on my shoulders (I removed them not very gracefully and told him I did not wish to be touched)  Then he started telling me to go home, A wanted to stay, I should just leave him alone and get out of his life, that I was basically using his son (don't know for what - A has no money) etc.  Well I didn't drive down there to leave him there and have to go back another time.  A kept saying he wanted to go home but just couldn't seem to get off the couch.  Well father in law and I had it out.  Told him what was between A and I was none of his business.  That son was a grown man with his own life and that father should get his own life.  That if he didn't want to see his son die he would stop encouraging him to drink with him etc.  Ended up throwing a half full can of beer at him.  My knees were shaking like a leaf.  Finally A's friend interceded.  Helped me get A out to the car for the ride home.  A's friend not too happy he opened his home to my A's father (he was hitting on A's friends wife also) and I will be surprised if they don't throw him out before Monday when they plan to leave.   If I never see that Man again it will be a happy day.  At least A understands why I will not have him stay at our house and does not push the issue.

I know I am venting but just had to get it out.