Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

debilyn · debilyn

Well as some know I gave the A a chance, allowing him to stay in my rental and cont. with its fixing up. The rental is on the corner of my property. My son had patched every hole in the place and they were ready to texture and paint. A was drunk last night. I said you are already blowing it. Well now this mor...

maresie · maresie

Yesterday the A called me and told me he was in the hospital with a suspected heart attack. Now keep in mind that the A was sick most of last y ear and I footed all the bills for months on end. Subsequently I had to go to the hospital and he did not even return my calls. And keep in mind tha...

rtexas · rtexas

I have been reading alot about this because it is definitely something I use alot, but I don't want it to be counter-productive (or cruel). When my A has an off color comment I try to smile and keep doing what I'm doing, not grunt and stomp off. Sometimes it is not that clear cut. She is very...

kspear · kspear

Hi all. As you know I am new. I've heard a few times now about detaching. Can someone please explain what that is? Thanks so much - Karen

debilyn · debilyn

Oh thank you for all the funny responses. WE all need to giggle ya know? i have always wanted to have an alanon camp out here. I have room for RVs tents whatever. There is a river to play in and a great golf course right down the road. You can golf and have eagles flying over you. so cool. There ar...

sim1kag · sim1kag

I am new to this..... Been divorced for over a year now and my exhusband the "A" is still battling me over every little thing. He was ordered to attend AA for 6months twice a week and both of us to undergo alchohol evaluations. Mine came out that i needed to attend Al-Anon for a minimum of a y...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I taught gymnastics for 25 years. I got my degree in PE and training in order to continue with it. I taught but never took any responsibility in the gym as I had young children (they came to work with me) and my hubsbands drinking, caused some problems, as well as my attitudes about it. I retired from the...

Cilla · Cilla

I just read the statement in a previous post (thanks John), that "hurt people, hurt people". I though how true that is. After being away from my alcoholic for a few years and getting some "quality time" with myself, I had found that when I was feeling fustrated I would automatically think...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

If I don't get some help I am going to ruin my marriage. After seven years of him drinking and us being seperated for four years he's back and now he's been sober for five months. Now for some reason he's sober and I'm a ragine lunatic. I have this thing in my head that I am going to make him suffer now that he's...

bobump · bobump

Since I've had three members of my family evaluated and treated for them this month, I know anecdotally what they are, but didn't know the real definition. Interesting reading I found included Evaluation and Treatment of Patients with Suicidal Ideation p://www.aafp.org/afp/990315...

pixel04 · pixel04

I've learned a lot in Alanon about enabling. I've been looking at my part in it and what I can do about it. I'm trying to figure out what to do when it's my husband who is enabling, and his choices would affect both of us. My husband's brother recently got divorced. In that process he lost his part in his fa...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), This was the gift of the day from Hazeldon. Love it and had to share it with you. "The natural flight of the human mind are not from pleasure to pleasure, but from hope to hope." - Samuel Johnson - THE POWER OF OPTIMISM A truly powerful force in th...

debilyn · debilyn

I have heard this from others and now I see two more people feeling left out. What I always say is it is ok to ask for what you need. Most all of us here are in chao's or maybe our heads are full of marbles. Raising my hand!!!! (c: Anyway yes being in pain makes us say things in a different way than if w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. It feels so good to cry. . . . --Susan Cygnet Some of us were taught that it's bad to express our feelings directly--crying, wailing, jumping up and down for joy--that it's good manners to talk s...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello all, I just watched a movie that reminded me of being a kid and the dreams I had, grand dreams, little dreams, pure imagination dreams. Anything from building a wooden box to being a fairy princess, some I followed through on (the wooden box) others did not pan out (fairy princess thing). I'm...

holly123 · holly123

I know I probably have no right to say this but I will, I haven't been here in a long time but I never really felt much support from the members here. It discourages me to post here only to see people read the posts and not reply. I may be feeling this discouragement only because I am having a really h...

Juster · Juster

I am still pretty new here and spend most of my time reading everyone's posts to try to get a feel for what everyone else is going through. The feeling I am getting is that as far as having hope for our A's possible recovery, it is usually a false hope. For us, our future is one of trying to simpl...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i got asked the strangest ??? i got asked if i was quoting al-anon lit........well, when i post i use 12 step oriented stuff, like courage to change...hope for today.....aa stuff, lots of stuff but 12 steps for sure OR i just post a vent/ or pain/ or ??? / or esh request / or...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I've been out of internet for a while, but I'm back and happy to be back on this site. For those of you who have followed my story and helped me through those difficult times, Thank you! The times I got on here to post, or listen or read helped me tremendously and I couldn't have made it without...

holly123 · holly123

Hi Everyone, Its been a very long time since I was here and I am hitting my bottom so here I am. For about 2 1/2 months now I have been doing weight watchers and focusing much of my energy on that, I was feeling good and loosing weight but that old anger and resents are still there waiting, e...

QOD · QOD

I am curious about a few things. Maybe some of y'all can help with this puzzle. My husband told me in Nov 05 that he was using coke and had been for close to a year. Imagine my shock? We've been married for 13 years w/2 beautiful children. I have stuck to this marriage through his affairs and partyi...

Rebecca · Rebecca

Hi guys... it feels like i havent been here in years. the past few weeks have been "eventful" to say the least. i was communicating with my "A" as in going to his place to chat, give him words of encouragement etc... even tho he was drinking and taking tabs. i sat back one night when i came home and reali...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Taking Care Of Self ?????? Is it taking care of self when you learn how to put all the focus on self ? What is it we are to do to do this? I have wondered about what the limits and boundaries and other things involved in doing this are. Are we supposed to do this to learn something and to be able t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

My husband has accepted that we are leaving and we had a civil conversation about who gets what and are using the same attorney. No snags so far. What an awesome program, I could have never done this a year ago. Will sit down next week, about details after State Wrestling and visit...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i found this in a 12 steps thing, na, i think.....anyway, it triggered me to share something i had to accept.... God's Gift Our relationship with our Higher Power is a two-way street. In prayer, we speak and God listens. When we meditate, we do our best to listen f...

confused · confused

Looking for ESH. As most of you know, my A husband and I have been separated for a little of 3 months. I have begun to work a strong program, regular meetings, sponsor, small amounts of service work, reading CAL literature, frequent contact with program people etc... I feel much stronger...

marmare · marmare

The Air Force is sending my son home from Iraq for 2 weeks to spend some quality time with my mother...I take this as a blessing. We don't know how fast her cancer will spread or how fast her health will deteriote. My mother in-law fronted me money to get my daughter in-law and the grandkids home f...

Becky1 · Becky1

Am looking for a sponsor. Am fairly new to Alanon, have been addicted to this chatroom and board since end of Dec. 2005, and it has helped me cope. I am wanting today to stay in the marriage with my A. Not sure what direction that is headed, but for today I want to stay. Not too sure about him. I would pref...

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't been on here in a long time. My AH is working again (out of town), but I think it's helping things. He has no time to get drunk during the week, which is kind of funny for me. He is working ten hours a day. I only see him on weekends, where of course he makes up for his not drinking during the week, but it...

Iko · Iko

so few anwers in my head. I feel like the insanity of being married to an A is coming back. I need to ask....what is considered unacceptable behavior? what do you tell the A who exhibits unacceptable behavior? My A keeps making empty promises about EVERYthing, not just his drinking, ie, '...

abbyal · abbyal

When someone asked me that question many yrs ago i thought she was nuts, and said what kind of a question is that of course I am ready . then she said can i ask you some questions ??? I said sure go ahead ( still thinking she was nuts) Do understand the disease of alcoholism / how it work...

abbyal · abbyal

hi John Was suprised to see service worker under ny post , thank you . I was so worried kept watching for guru to turn up and wouldn't have liked that one bit . no guru here. service worker is so much nicer. thanks

twinmom2 · twinmom2

The last couple of days I have been thinking and believing in the power of prayer. Someone gave me a book called "The Power of the Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. This book is based for the woman who has committed to praying for her husband/partner. She talks about personal expe...

kitty · kitty

When I come to the Board, I either come to share or I come looking for inights. When I come looking for insights, it is to find a "title" that grabs my attention that will mirror what I am feeling at that moment... sometimes it is extreme anger or fear; working the Program; something f...

sandie123 · sandie123

The definition of abandonment is: To withdraw one's support or help from, especially in spite of duty, allegiance, or responsibility; desert. I have never had much of trust in others being there for me, for fear of abandonment. There have been the times that I have allowed myself t...

debilyn · debilyn

Incompetant justice system. A's attorney is a flake as is the courst. A went to court ready to go into jail and get it over with. Looking forward to being in a routine environ and being in AA in there. The stupid attorney and DA were not prepared so they put it off until April 20th. So now A has nowhe...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

First of all I would like to thank everyone that responded to my last two post. If it weren't for this board and my HP somedays I don't know if I could handle everyday life. It has been 2 weeks and 3 days since I heard from my A husband. Like I said before, this is the time that I really need to wo...

kspear · kspear

Hi all, This might sound like a strange question, but how do you know when it's enabling instead of good parenting? I decided not to let my son get a driver's license until he could pay for it himself, including insurance. He is now 18 and still does not have a license, just got his first jo...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I have the want and desire to be able to talk(and write)in a manner that is held to be an ideal. With

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in all that I say and express in a nonverbal way. Unfortunately I was raised in a dysf family and stayed and worked in the family busness because I couldn't figure out how to make it out in the...

maresie · maresie

I have been working a lot on my work issues and working on not being overinvolved at work. In doing my family of origin work I can see my family of origin has always been this stew of muddy boundaries, blurred boundaries, second guessing and more. I have transferred that way of relating t...

ditto · ditto

I am thinking of moving to a different state. I would be moving over 1000 miles. I have a house full of furniture that is older and has made several moves with me... 5 in the last 5 years. During each move more and more scratches and dents appear. I don't know that I am particularly attached...

Powerless · Powerless

My day started off badly today with my daughter throwing my puppy and breaking his neck. My sister-in-law, her husband and my son went to my daughter's us stop today as planned. They live about an hour to an hour and a half from me. She appeared excited to see them. My S-I-L ask...

Robinks · Robinks

As an acoa and alanon living and growing up with alcholics, the craziness was always there. The confusion, the lies, the decet, the controlling. Today, I am having a really hard time. Some of you have heard about my issues with my crazy neighbors and civic association. We have built a carport which i...

hudsond · hudsond

Today fear is eating at me. I'm not completely eaten up with it, but I have this constant--"what is going to come?" in my mind. Nothing huge has changed! My a isn't going to meetings, isn't really working his program, I know he is using but he doesn't come home all messed up. We...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --Eleanor Roosevelt In this moment, we are the best we can be. Today, we can work at loving the best in ourselves and not fearing the worst. We are truly wonderful and growing people with gifts and qualities that make u...

jeeves · jeeves

Hello All, I have been seeing a therapist to help me get through the daily, hourly issues that arise from living with an alcoholic wife. He has had some great advice but added a thought to the end of our session yesterday. He mentioned that anorexia, bolemia is sometimes deadly, and s...

seachange · seachange

Hi All! It's so easy to be there for others, and still hard for me to reach out for help--but here goes! I've been having a terrible time with asthma and allergy problems lately--so much so, that I can't sleep at nights with coughing and shortness of breath. And as a consequence, I'm...

maresie · maresie

As a child I was desperate to be rescued from my family of origin and I have really played that out a lot in my life. There is a theory of relating called the Karpman's triangle and my family of origin pretty much lived that. That meant that everyone was competing to be the victim (my elder sister wou...

kitty · kitty

Thanks (((John))) I think I am feeling a bit happy now to see 'Service Worker' under my name instead of guru. I did like "guru" but maybe there was some pride carrying around with it, like I know/knew more than anyone else. Who am I but a suffering humble servant of God, just a creature that God...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I have been seperated from my A husband since November. We were trying to work things out until a couple of weeks ago when we got into an argument and now he's not talking to me. I have been ask by several people including my therapist if I have talked to a divorce lawyer. Everytime I th...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Just For Today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...

sparkette · sparkette

That is how I have felt for sometime now. I know I don't really have to explain it - so many of you can understand. I drug my butt out of bed this morning for the meeting and it did help. I shared and that helped too. I still feel like I have my shoes on the wrong feet but I am taking one step at a time today...

sparkette · sparkette

I have had this poem in my possession for some time, just felt like sharing it today. No ESH just something to think about. Cyndee "The Layers" I have walked through many lives some of them my own and I am not who I was though some principle of being abides from which I struggle ...

rtexas · rtexas

We had planned an event all week, but since we had our nightly fight about my going to that "devil group" aka Al-anon, she was making excusses and not getting ready. I asked her several times if she wanted to go... I knew she did, but she appearantly wanted me to beg... *sigh* She said she wou...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" quit his great new job and took another assignment on a third shift with a friend of his. He got laid off because he was a temp and because his attendance was poor, partly because of everything going on with our family. At first I felt bad, but then my anxiety level went way down when I re...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, was hoping to hear some of your es&h on sponsorship... What kinda relationship do you have with your sponsor/sponsees? Personally for me, these relationships have turned into great friendships. I think because they know me, and i know them on a deeper more intimate relationship...

confused · confused

I was just reaading some posts and the one about gratitude hit home with me. I wanted to take the time to let you all know that I will be forever grateful for all of you and the Al-anon program for giving me back my life and my sanity. Ok, so occasionally I still feel pretty insane, but the preci...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just wanted to know how your doing hun. hope all is ok. my prayers are with you

Powerless · Powerless

I have been doing a lot of thinking today about the Serenity Prayer and thinking about the three parts of it and how they apply to my life. I cannot change my husband having an addiction or the choices he makes, but I can have the courage to be supportive of him and the courage to love him and detach with co...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im a bit mixed up today. yesterday my a told me he is going to a treatment center and definatly needs help this time. we have the papers and have started filling them out. one problem....... the soonest he can get in is may 1st. so until then........ i dont know. he even said he doesnt know if he can stay sobe...

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	Eden?? update )c: (Preview) Well as some know I gave the A a chance, allowing him to stay in my rental and cont. with its fixing up. The rental is on the corner of my property. My son had patched every hole in the place and they were ready to texture and paint. A was drunk last night. I said you are already blowing it. Well now this mor...	debilyn	5	307	Mar 25, 2006 by leo
	the A's heart attack (Preview) Yesterday the A called me and told me he was in the hospital with a suspected heart attack. Now keep in mind that the A was sick most of last y ear and I footed all the bills for months on end. Subsequently I had to go to the hospital and he did not even return my calls. And keep in mind tha...	maresie	5	272	Mar 25, 2006 by aunitedway
	Silence... (Preview) I have been reading alot about this because it is definitely something I use alot, but I don't want it to be counter-productive (or cruel). When my A has an off color comment I try to smile and keep doing what I'm doing, not grunt and stomp off. Sometimes it is not that clear cut. She is very...	rtexas	6	331	Mar 25, 2006 by abbyal
	What is detaching? (Preview) Hi all. As you know I am new. I've heard a few times now about detaching. Can someone please explain what that is? Thanks so much - Karen	kspear	9	928	Mar 24, 2006 by lisafreddyb
	u guys crack me up~~~ (Preview) Oh thank you for all the funny responses. WE all need to giggle ya know? i have always wanted to have an alanon camp out here. I have room for RVs tents whatever. There is a river to play in and a great golf course right down the road. You can golf and have eagles flying over you. so cool. There ar...	debilyn	7	361	Mar 24, 2006 by TLC2
	Court Ordered Al-Anon (Preview) I am new to this..... Been divorced for over a year now and my exhusband the "A" is still battling me over every little thing. He was ordered to attend AA for 6months twice a week and both of us to undergo alchohol evaluations. Mine came out that i needed to attend Al-Anon for a minimum of a y...	sim1kag	5	876	Mar 24, 2006 by marmare
	Is he an excuse not to follow my dreams? (Preview) I taught gymnastics for 25 years. I got my degree in PE and training in order to continue with it. I taught but never took any responsibility in the gym as I had young children (they came to work with me) and my hubsbands drinking, caused some problems, as well as my attitudes about it. I retired from the...	Jeannie	9	356	Mar 24, 2006 by nmike
	Hurt people, hurt people (Preview) I just read the statement in a previous post (thanks John), that "hurt people, hurt people". I though how true that is. After being away from my alcoholic for a few years and getting some "quality time" with myself, I had found that when I was feeling fustrated I would automatically think...	Cilla	5	323	Mar 24, 2006 by Cilla
	I need your help bad. (Preview) If I don't get some help I am going to ruin my marriage. After seven years of him drinking and us being seperated for four years he's back and now he's been sober for five months. Now for some reason he's sober and I'm a ragine lunatic. I have this thing in my head that I am going to make him suffer now that he's...	Friendofyours	16	442	Mar 24, 2006 by Ria
	Ria, you asked about suicidal ideations (Preview) Since I've had three members of my family evaluated and treated for them this month, I know anecdotally what they are, but didn't know the real definition. Interesting reading I found included Evaluation and Treatment of Patients with Suicidal Ideation p://www.aafp.org/afp/990315...	bobump	4	396	Mar 24, 2006 by kitty
	enabling (Preview) I've learned a lot in Alanon about enabling. I've been looking at my part in it and what I can do about it. I'm trying to figure out what to do when it's my husband who is enabling, and his choices would affect both of us. My husband's brother recently got divorced. In that process he lost his part in his fa...	pixel04	4	328	Mar 24, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Optimism (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), This was the gift of the day from Hazeldon. Love it and had to share it with you. "The natural flight of the human mind are not from pleasure to pleasure, but from hope to hope." - Samuel Johnson - THE POWER OF OPTIMISM A truly powerful force in th...	Karilynn	4	273	Mar 24, 2006 by aunitedway
	If You need a response (Preview) I have heard this from others and now I see two more people feeling left out. What I always say is it is ok to ask for what you need. Most all of us here are in chao's or maybe our heads are full of marbles. Raising my hand!!!! (c: Anyway yes being in pain makes us say things in a different way than if w...	debilyn	8	374	Mar 24, 2006 by QOD
	yes it does feel good to CRY!!! (Preview) You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. *It feels so good to cry. . . . --Susan Cygnet* Some of us were taught that it's bad to express our feelings directly--crying, wailing, jumping up and down for joy--that it's good manners to talk s...	rosie light shines	3	275	Mar 24, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Dreams .... Fantasy (Preview) Hello all, I just watched a movie that reminded me of being a kid and the dreams I had, grand dreams, little dreams, pure imagination dreams. Anything from building a wooden box to being a fairy princess, some I followed through on (the wooden box) others did not pan out (fairy princess thing). I'm...	Jennifer	3	292	Mar 24, 2006 by hudsond
	It is very discouraging!!! (Preview) I know I probably have no right to say this but I will, I haven't been here in a long time but I never really felt much support from the members here. It discourages me to post here only to see people read the posts and not reply. I may be feeling this discouragement only because I am having a really h...	holly123	11	346	Mar 24, 2006 by gardengal
	Doomed to Fail? (Preview) I am still pretty new here and spend most of my time reading everyone's posts to try to get a feel for what everyone else is going through. The feeling I am getting is that as far as having hope for our A's possible recovery, it is usually a false hope. For us, our future is one of trying to simpl...	Juster	10	403	Mar 24, 2006 by Juster
	is al-anon lit the only lit welcome here?? or is any 12 step stuff welcome??? (Preview) i got asked the strangest ??? i got asked if i was quoting al-anon lit........well, when i post i use 12 step oriented stuff, like courage to change...hope for today.....aa stuff, lots of stuff but 12 steps for sure OR i just post a vent/ or pain/ or ??? / or esh request / or...	rosie light shines	7	324	Mar 24, 2006 by gardengal
	Feeling better (Preview) I've been out of internet for a while, but I'm back and happy to be back on this site. For those of you who have followed my story and helped me through those difficult times, Thank you! The times I got on here to post, or listen or read helped me tremendously and I couldn't have made it without...	sdisnie	3	238	Mar 24, 2006 by Jeannie
	In need of support (Preview) Hi Everyone, Its been a very long time since I was here and I am hitting my bottom so here I am. For about 2 1/2 months now I have been doing weight watchers and focusing much of my energy on that, I was feeling good and loosing weight but that old anger and resents are still there waiting, e...	holly123	11	414	Mar 24, 2006 by holly123
	Curious to Know! (Preview) I am curious about a few things. Maybe some of y'all can help with this puzzle. My husband told me in Nov 05 that he was using coke and had been for close to a year. Imagine my shock? We've been married for 13 years w/2 beautiful children. I have stuck to this marriage through his affairs and partyi...	QOD	8	363	Mar 24, 2006 by QOD
	It's me...the STRANGER! (Preview) Hi guys... it feels like i havent been here in years. the past few weeks have been "eventful" to say the least. i was communicating with my "A" as in going to his place to chat, give him words of encouragement etc... even tho he was drinking and taking tabs. i sat back one night when i came home and reali...	Rebecca	5	270	Mar 24, 2006 by confused
	? Taking care of self ? (Preview) Taking Care Of Self ?????? Is it taking care of self when you learn how to put all the focus on self ? What is it we are to do to do this? I have wondered about what the limits and boundaries and other things involved in doing this are. Are we supposed to do this to learn something and to be able t...	d53sjurne	5	387	Mar 24, 2006 by Ria
	hubby has accepted (Preview) My husband has accepted that we are leaving and we had a civil conversation about who gets what and are using the same attorney. No snags so far. What an awesome program, I could have never done this a year ago. Will sit down next week, about details after State Wrestling and visit...	jrtjosey	4	373	Mar 24, 2006 by MFran
	STRONG material---something i had to accept (Preview) i found this in a 12 steps thing, na, i think.....anyway, it triggered me to share something i had to accept.... God's Gift Our relationship with our Higher Power is a two-way street. In prayer, we speak and God listens. When we meditate, we do our best to listen f...	rosie light shines	1	250	Mar 23, 2006 by Jennifer
	is looking for evidence of his program taking his inventoy? (Preview) Looking for ESH. As most of you know, my A husband and I have been separated for a little of 3 months. I have begun to work a strong program, regular meetings, sponsor, small amounts of service work, reading CAL literature, frequent contact with program people etc... I feel much stronger...	confused	6	300	Mar 23, 2006 by Powerless
	The selfishness (Preview) The Air Force is sending my son home from Iraq for 2 weeks to spend some quality time with my mother...I take this as a blessing. We don't know how fast her cancer will spread or how fast her health will deteriote. My mother in-law fronted me money to get my daughter in-law and the grandkids home f...	marmare	7	305	Mar 23, 2006 by Powerless
	Need On Line Sponsor (Preview) Am looking for a sponsor. Am fairly new to Alanon, have been addicted to this chatroom and board since end of Dec. 2005, and it has helped me cope. I am wanting today to stay in the marriage with my A. Not sure what direction that is headed, but for today I want to stay. Not too sure about him. I would pref...	Becky1	4	218	Mar 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	Alcoholic husband working again (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time. My AH is working again (out of town), but I think it's helping things. He has no time to get drunk during the week, which is kind of funny for me. He is working ten hours a day. I only see him on weekends, where of course he makes up for his not drinking during the week, but it...	Lindy	1	230	Mar 23, 2006 by Jeannie
	so many questions... (Preview) so few anwers in my head. I feel like the insanity of being married to an A is coming back. I need to ask....what is considered unacceptable behavior? what do you tell the A who exhibits unacceptable behavior? My A keeps making empty promises about EVERYthing, not just his drinking, ie, '...	Iko	8	306	Mar 23, 2006 by Juster
	AM I READY FOR SOBRIETY???? (Preview) When someone asked me that question many yrs ago i thought she was nuts, and said what kind of a question is that of course I am ready . then she said can i ask you some questions ??? I said sure go ahead ( still thinking she was nuts) Do understand the disease of alcoholism / how it work...	abbyal	7	456	Mar 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	message for John (Preview) hi John Was suprised to see service worker under ny post , thank you . I was so worried kept watching for guru to turn up and wouldn't have liked that one bit . no guru here. service worker is so much nicer. thanks	abbyal	1	323	Mar 23, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Power of Prayer (Preview) The last couple of days I have been thinking and believing in the power of prayer. Someone gave me a book called "The Power of the Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. This book is based for the woman who has committed to praying for her husband/partner. She talks about personal expe...	twinmom2	2	293	Mar 23, 2006 by BlueCloud
	negavtive vs. positive posts (Preview) When I come to the Board, I either come to share or I come looking for inights. When I come looking for insights, it is to find a "title" that grabs my attention that will mirror what I am feeling at that moment... sometimes it is extreme anger or fear; working the Program; something f...	kitty	10	399	Mar 23, 2006 by kitty
	Fear of Abandonment running rampant (Preview) The definition of abandonment is: To withdraw one's support or help from, especially in spite of duty, allegiance, or responsibility; desert. I have never had much of trust in others being there for me, for fear of abandonment. There have been the times that I have allowed myself t...	sandie123	3	444	Mar 23, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Gads now what???? (Preview) Incompetant justice system. A's attorney is a flake as is the courst. A went to court ready to go into jail and get it over with. Looking forward to being in a routine environ and being in AA in there. The stupid attorney and DA were not prepared so they put it off until April 20th. So now A has nowhe...	debilyn	10	468	Mar 23, 2006 by Lindy
	Trying to quiet my fears (Preview) First of all I would like to thank everyone that responded to my last two post. If it weren't for this board and my HP somedays I don't know if I could handle everyday life. It has been 2 weeks and 3 days since I heard from my A husband. Like I said before, this is the time that I really need to wo...	JulieLynn	5	239	Mar 23, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Enabling vs. parenting (Preview) Hi all, This might sound like a strange question, but how do you know when it's enabling instead of good parenting? I decided not to let my son get a driver's license until he could pay for it himself, including insurance. He is now 18 and still does not have a license, just got his first jo...	kspear	3	244	Mar 23, 2006 by Jeannie
	Learning to talk all over again (Preview) I have the want and desire to be able to talk(and write)in a manner that is held to be an ideal. With and in all that I say and express in a nonverbal way. Unfortunately I was raised in a dysf family and stayed and worked in the family busness because I couldn't figure out how to make it out in the...	d53sjurne	4	508	Mar 23, 2006 by tiredtonite
	over involved (Preview) I have been working a lot on my work issues and working on not being overinvolved at work. In doing my family of origin work I can see my family of origin has always been this stew of muddy boundaries, blurred boundaries, second guessing and more. I have transferred that way of relating t...	maresie	3	361	Mar 23, 2006 by Jennifer
	Moving (Preview) I am thinking of moving to a different state. I would be moving over 1000 miles. I have a house full of furniture that is older and has made several moves with me... 5 in the last 5 years. During each move more and more scratches and dents appear. I don't know that I am particularly attached...	ditto	8	295	Mar 23, 2006 by sweetums
	All in HIS time (Preview) My day started off badly today with my daughter throwing my puppy and breaking his neck. My sister-in-law, her husband and my son went to my daughter's us stop today as planned. They live about an hour to an hour and a half from me. She appeared excited to see them. My S-I-L ask...	Powerless	8	291	Mar 23, 2006 by bsf
	Need ES&H Help me to detach (Preview) As an acoa and alanon living and growing up with alcholics, the craziness was always there. The confusion, the lies, the decet, the controlling. Today, I am having a really hard time. Some of you have heard about my issues with my crazy neighbors and civic association. We have built a carport which i...	Robinks	4	367	Mar 23, 2006 by nmike
	Fear is eating at me (Preview) Today fear is eating at me. I'm not completely eaten up with it, but I have this constant--"what is going to come?" in my mind. Nothing huge has changed! My a isn't going to meetings, isn't really working his program, I know he is using but he doesn't come home all messed up. We...	hudsond	3	233	Mar 22, 2006 by confused
	sticking with WINNERS (Preview) Today's thought is: *No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --Eleanor Roosevelt* In this moment, we are the best we can be. Today, we can work at loving the best in ourselves and not fearing the worst. We are truly wonderful and growing people with gifts and qualities that make u...	rosie light shines	1	271	Mar 22, 2006 by just me
	Was it my fault? (Preview) Hello All, I have been seeing a therapist to help me get through the daily, hourly issues that arise from living with an alcoholic wife. He has had some great advice but added a thought to the end of our session yesterday. He mentioned that anorexia, bolemia is sometimes deadly, and s...	jeeves	17	447	Mar 22, 2006 by jeeves
	Struggling with physical problems (Preview) Hi All! It's so easy to be there for others, and still hard for me to reach out for help--but here goes! I've been having a terrible time with asthma and allergy problems lately--so much so, that I can't sleep at nights with coughing and shortness of breath. And as a consequence, I'm...	seachange	13	415	Mar 22, 2006 by seachange
	rescue and being rescued (Preview) As a child I was desperate to be rescued from my family of origin and I have really played that out a lot in my life. There is a theory of relating called the Karpman's triangle and my family of origin pretty much lived that. That meant that everyone was competing to be the victim (my elder sister wou...	maresie	3	362	Mar 22, 2006 by jrtjosey
	service worker (to John) (Preview) Thanks (((John))) I think I am feeling a bit happy now to see 'Service Worker' under my name instead of guru. I did like "guru" but maybe there was some pride carrying around with it, like I know/knew more than anyone else. Who am I but a suffering humble servant of God, just a creature that God...	kitty	1	278	Mar 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Making the decision to divorce (Preview) I have been seperated from my A husband since November. We were trying to work things out until a couple of weeks ago when we got into an argument and now he's not talking to me. I have been ask by several people including my therapist if I have talked to a divorce lawyer. Everytime I th...	JulieLynn	12	707	Mar 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Just For Today (Preview) Just For Today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...	wallsal55	1	251	Mar 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	shoes on the wrong feet (Preview) That is how I have felt for sometime now. I know I don't really have to explain it - so many of you can understand. I drug my butt out of bed this morning for the meeting and it did help. I shared and that helped too. I still feel like I have my shoes on the wrong feet but I am taking one step at a time today...	sparkette	5	767	Mar 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	a short poem (Preview) I have had this poem in my possession for some time, just felt like sharing it today. No ESH just something to think about. Cyndee "The Layers" I have walked through many lives some of them my own and I am not who I was though some principle of being abides from which I struggle ...	sparkette	1	237	Mar 22, 2006 by wallsal55
	Is this detatchment? (Preview) We had planned an event all week, but since we had our nightly fight about my going to that "devil group" aka Al-anon, she was making excusses and not getting ready. I asked her several times if she wanted to go... I knew she did, but she appearantly wanted me to beg... sigh She said she wou...	rtexas	6	398	Mar 22, 2006 by maresie
	Rationalizing and calming my anger (Preview) My "a" quit his great new job and took another assignment on a third shift with a friend of his. He got laid off because he was a temp and because his attendance was poor, partly because of everything going on with our family. At first I felt bad, but then my anxiety level went way down when I re...	twinmom2	2	233	Mar 22, 2006 by maresie
	sponsor / sponsee relationships (Preview) hi all, was hoping to hear some of your es&h on sponsorship... What kinda relationship do you have with your sponsor/sponsees? Personally for me, these relationships have turned into great friendships. I think because they know me, and i know them on a deeper more intimate relationship...	mastiff	3	1168	Mar 22, 2006 by alystylz
	thank you to all of you!!! (Preview) I was just reaading some posts and the one about gratitude hit home with me. I wanted to take the time to let you all know that I will be forever grateful for all of you and the Al-anon program for giving me back my life and my sanity. Ok, so occasionally I still feel pretty insane, but the preci...	confused	6	280	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	lauren ashley...... (Preview) just wanted to know how your doing hun. hope all is ok. my prayers are with you	notsonew1111	3	289	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	The Serenity Prayer and my life (Preview) I have been doing a lot of thinking today about the Serenity Prayer and thinking about the three parts of it and how they apply to my life. I cannot change my husband having an addiction or the choices he makes, but I can have the courage to be supportive of him and the courage to love him and detach with co...	Powerless	5	267	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	difficult situation (Preview) im a bit mixed up today. yesterday my a told me he is going to a treatment center and definatly needs help this time. we have the papers and have started filling them out. one problem....... the soonest he can get in is may 1st. so until then........ i dont know. he even said he doesnt know if he can stay sobe...	notsonew1111	8	365	Mar 22, 2006 by Jennifer
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