Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

gknee · gknee

seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...

bobump · bobump

Well what a day it was. My oldest took on some older sis roles and assisted me w/ some Easter shopping and preparing the baskets and hiding eggs. I was afraid that it was casting her into an adult role which she had too much of in her life, but her outlook was she wanted to see the looks on her siblings fac...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((everyone)))) Have you ever know what the problem is within yourself and just can't let it go? I've been in al-alnon long enough to know that the feelings I'm having right now (that are making me physically sick) are coming from me and I'm not going to have any serenity until I can get thru th...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have been reading some online info on Codependence. I am not sure why I have never looked at it before... (maybe the name threw me) I need to do some more looking, but in the "Are you a ..." section I scored about 8 out of 12. LOL Bare with me... this is a lightbu...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

My 23 year old daughter just completed 31 days at an inpatient facility. Then instead of jumping right back in at work, she agreed to go to a Half-Way house in FL. She was making great progress until yesterday. The call came from the house manager. Amanda and her roomate were caught drinking on th...

bob6502 · bob6502

What is your serenity worth??? If someone tells you to rob a bank and you won't be punished even if someone gets hurt would you do it??? Is your serenity worth the guilt you might feel afterwards??? If someone hands you a scalding hot potato and says hold this and I will give you a million dol...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

Well I've never posted anything before and I thought I would try to see if getting this junk out of my head will actually help. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic who's been married to an alcoholic and who's also very co dependent. I'm trying to hard to over come all that I'm feeling.....

Cilla · Cilla

I'm sitting here feeling pretty grateful today. I have no voice, and can barely be heard by a whisper. This coming after having surgery two weeks ago on an abscess that grew to the size of what my daughter said was a bowling ball. Saw the surgeon post-op today and although he says it'...

sunny123 · sunny123

I am so glad to have been directed towards this site and have already learned so many things about my past and current behavior. I am just coming to terms with the fact that my husband in an alcoholic. I am going through the whole grieving thing now in the middle of final exams. I clearly missed many signs a...

debilyn · debilyn

I understand there are some underlying issues going on. As usual I am not with the majority. I do not mind being in the unpopular vote. To be honest, it is my nature to be. I am not perfect, but someone else was, a very unpopular person, and he was nailed to a stake and died. To be in the minority of...

Maria123 · Maria123

great site on detachment if you are interested . . . . http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm#develop yours in recovery, Maria

AlaMom · AlaMom

you really your really working your program? You get the best of all possible worlds. I had a pretty scary situation for me last night. My middle daughter let my dog out (not on her leash) then forgot about her. I was busy making dinner and did not realize the dog was out. It w...

agatha · agatha

Well, here we go again. It's been about six months since I desided not to post here again. Not because of anyone here but out of embarrassment and humiliation. I swore I would never put my thoughts and feelings in print again. For those of you who know, I apologize again and for those of you who don't, ma...

nmike · nmike

When I logged in it said posts: 499. My thought was that that is alot and I wonder if I have learned anything, changed, found serenity, or helped anyone else. So I know that I am immature. That I am alone and keep asking why? I spent some time with my A today and our interaction was still sick. Maybe more on my...

abbyal · abbyal

And we come to this program to heal, this is a disease of perception. How I feel about a situation does not have to agree with how anyone else feels. We have been given the courage to finally speak up and take a chance and voice an opinion , that is a big deal . Perception is tricky ki...

hudsond · hudsond

This weekend was so nice! I had the day off Friday b/c it was Good Friday. My a husband and I and step-daughter spent Friday and Saturday fishing on the river. It went well, only got yelled at a few times, but I would stare at him intently and then not speak to him for awhile and he would s...

kspear · kspear

Hello all... I've apparently gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or something. I'm just kind of aching over my son right now. I just feel like it's such a hopeless situation today, and that I just have to "endure" another day. I'm kind of tired of enduring. ...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just wanted to say thank you to all of you that were in the chat room last night. I came in needing support, and you all surrounded me with your love, support and understanding. That's what the chat room is for. Had to have hubby taken away in an ambulance bec...

matisa · matisa

Hello to all,,, Ok I have a request this is gonna sound strange to most of you, but I suspect there is someone who goes to the chat rooms who thinks they know who I am in Real life,,, I am asking now , Please Identify yourself to me in real life,,, There are no alanon meetings in this little town a...

gardengal · gardengal

I keep coming back to Alanon for many reasons, and sometimes I question why? Afterall the A in my life for many years is gone, and I dont have to directly deal with any A's in my immediate life. I have been coming to alanon now for over 6 years, and I remember how I once was a "newbie" and how desparate I truly w...

debilyn · debilyn

'Just hung out here and on my alanon message board. Seems one alanon sister had been a B and hurt this real nice gal I like, who is new, and basically told the nice gal to leave, with out meaning to!" I reread this and was horrified. crimany. I hope the meaning is clear,someone emailed me on my private ema...

just me · just me

OK...I need to vent. I have family visiting me. I am not used to active A's anymore. Both my sister and her husband are raging A's. 12+ beers a night. Screaming drunken fights and even illegal drug use. They think because they drink Michelob they are not A's.&n...

mebjk · mebjk

While I do think it is a good thing that we have an online resource to aid our recovery, my experience has been that it is often easier to be mean and to dodge reality online. Chat rooms tend to be mean-spirited places. And I don't need that in my life. I prefer to choose positive experiences, things that br...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning Everyone, Sitting here contemplating why I am happy LOL Yesterday morning my husband came home at the right time from work (he works nights) and I just got the feeling that he didn't go to work the night before. I asked, he said he did but my gut does not feel right about his answer for var...

debilyn · debilyn

You know ya wake up thinking things will be ok, things will be ok. I went out on the deck to spary off the pig pooty. Got it all nice and clean thinking how it is one of my favorite anti stressors just to spray spray spray.Chief, who has broken down the fence to the back yard again, is behind me ea...

bobump · bobump

In a post below someone asked what our holiday plans were. I spewed a stream of concience about everything I had to do and not really knowing what my holiday entailed yet but it I'd do my best and it would be what it would be and a chuckle. Well....I'm umpiring a game and I'm offered for tickets to a...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey guys i was up the country on a break with a friend for the last 2 days...eating out, having fun, going to a pop concert etc... i was actually having a good time..managed to smile and laugh for the 2 days... came home this evening and was hit with some news that knocked me for 6... ...my ex boyf. "A" hi...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

May the PEACE AND SERENITY OF HP BE WITH YOU ALL

BLESSINGS -- Edited by d53sjurne at 20:04, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 20:26, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 21:33, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 21:36, 2006-04-15

Jill · Jill

I am so grateful for AlAnon and MIP. I see that some people expect from us as individuals to "fix" their lives. This is typically newcomers. When I was the newcomer, I was too bewildered to expect someone to fix my life. Nonetheless, for some newcomers, I feel put on the spot, inadequate, a...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I was up to take my son (my current A) to work at 3 this morning as usual, and I was thinking. (I NEVER guarantee the coherency of my pre-5:00 AM thinking, so bear with me, please) Before I found recovery, I was a victim. If so and so hadn't acted in such a way, certai...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I feel like I am just this horrible person, mother, friend, sister. Hardly worthy to walk the earth in some people's eyes. One of the people I hold closest to my heart has just completely broke me down. ANY OTHER person and I could just let it roll off. Lately, she has been real...

Knees · Knees

I've been in program for many years and my family of origin still disappoints me. They haven't changed, so it's me that has the problem. My hurt is an old one. It's a small thing - call, email or send a card to acknowledge my natel birthday. I've asked, explained, and me...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hmmm !!!!! Been on this site only a couple weeks. Am I still concidered a newbie ? My 1st visit to 12 step program was 40 yrs ago. Been back and forth , in and out the rest of my 52 yrs. Been to all kinds of 12stepin' programs, ACA, ACOA, ALA, EA, SAA, IA, and some I just don't remember. I nev...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Is it at all possible for a non drinker & a alcoholic to continue a relationship? I started drinking at 16. I drank booze for 28 years. we would chug beer, I drank wine, & liquor. We were underage but older people would buy it for us every wekend. A gallon between 4 or 10 peop...

gardengal · gardengal

Alanon's purpose is to help families and friends of alcoholics. We come together to find help and support in dealing with the effects of alcoholism. In time we discover that the principles of our program can be practiced in "all our affairs". But there are times when, in order to work through especial...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hi All,

My gut sez to refresh the subject. My head ain't to sure how to go abou...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hello, I wanted to inform you of my state of being for the time being. I felt the sharks again. I am very glad to have had a couple weeks here to feel the ones who aren't. Both experiences are here in my opinion, as I have felt both. Its awful in my opinion that its this way. There seems to be alot of levels of u...

debilyn · debilyn

--- Sent: Wednesday, April 12, 2006 7:59 AM Subject: A morning at Eden Lately Sauvey (my Great Pyrenees) has been going nuts barking at day break. There are white tailed deer going thru here. They are so beautiful and healthy. Not concerned about this barking beast...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I did something interesting on this site tonight. I went down to the bottom of the message board and lclicked on the started by feature. I reread all of the posts that I had started during my time on this board. It was actually pretty interesting. Reviewing all the positives...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Okay I have been nothing but grouchy lately!

I have had it with work, and this morning I decided to give myself a mental health day. I already worked 5 days, and with hubby's disability check, I can afford to treat myself to a day off. A...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((John)))))))))))))), Can we please double check the meeting times that are posted in the chat room? I thought the Saturday meeting was at 11am Est as posted on the board. But when I came on at 10:45am the meeting was already in progress. I am on the East Coast so I don't have to worry...

sparkette · sparkette

Funny how considering what I am spending so much effort on right now that success is the thing I am fearing. I have been in and out of college for the better part of 15 years. I am nearing the end of my Junior year, for those of you who don't know I am an education major. I am terrified now that I might a...

flintfeet · flintfeet

at least for right now.

i decided to quit my disgusting habit of 12yrs. yesturday was my first full day without smoking in a LONG time. i felt fine. i felt a few times during the day when i would normally go outside to smoke, but i quickly remembered that i didn't have any smokes. for me it's not the...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I have been thinking alot about step 1 since I am starting this step journey.I struggled with powerlessness over 'alcohol' because I am not an alcoholic.Well, I AM powerless over alcohol but in a different way than the alcoholic is.I am powerless over how alcohol entered my life through my father and...

Barbara · Barbara

how do you get that connection back once youve grown apart? Someone else just mentioned this at my f2f and yes I identified - been feeling this for quite a while. Its especially glaring at me now that our 13yr son wants his own life, wants to hangout with his friends and not always his mother. My spouse cho...

search41 · search41

I just wanted to share about a reality tv show that is on in the mornings that i really get something out of from time to time. It is a show called "Starting Over" on ABC. it is a home in california where women go to "start over". as in, know they are at a stale-mate in their life, and go the...

Barbara · Barbara

There will be the usual egg hunt for DS13. He still likes waking up Easter morn and looking for the plastic candy filled eggs. Husband & I have an Easter basket for him. Husband bought him the new Narnia DVD. I'll be taking son to the Davis Farmland to see the new baby animals. We do enjoy the farm. No re...

leo · leo

I have been reading a lot of posts here over the last few days with regard to the board and chat room. Some negative some positive. I for one would like to thank John and all the moderators and ops at both sites who give up their own time willingly to provide these services for us. I thin...

Ria · Ria

I just wanted to say a very big thank you to those who offered to help me in chat last night. I asked if I could pm someone re:teenagers. Doubly difficult for me as teen in question isn't mine and as I don't have any children of any age I was working from a very limited frame...

mac57 · mac57

Oh, My God As I wake upon my bed, Push my way to the day ahead, I see the aftermath of a home astray Just like the one where I once played. Driving down the busy highway, Make my way through crowded streets, I see the chaos and the whirling, See the homeless and the hurtin...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey

unsure24 · unsure24

Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...

Hanna · Hanna

In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...

rtexas · rtexas

I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...

msykesp · msykesp

This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...

ditto · ditto

We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...

Hanna · Hanna

I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...

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	trying to regain serenity (Preview) seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...	gknee	5	334	Apr 18, 2006 by Jeannie
	Easter has passed yet the feeling remains (Preview) Well what a day it was. My oldest took on some older sis roles and assisted me w/ some Easter shopping and preparing the baskets and hiding eggs. I was afraid that it was casting her into an adult role which she had too much of in her life, but her outlook was she wanted to see the looks on her siblings fac...	bobump	12	443	Apr 18, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Could use a little help ... (Preview) ((((everyone)))) Have you ever know what the problem is within yourself and just can't let it go? I've been in al-alnon long enough to know that the feelings I'm having right now (that are making me physically sick) are coming from me and I'm not going to have any serenity until I can get thru th...	Lunamoth	10	424	Apr 18, 2006 by QOD
	Codependent? (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have been reading some online info on Codependence. I am not sure why I have never looked at it before... (maybe the name threw me) I need to do some more looking, but in the "Are you a ..." section I scored about 8 out of 12. LOL Bare with me... this is a lightbu...	rtexas	7	484	Apr 18, 2006 by rtexas
	Living It Out (Preview) My 23 year old daughter just completed 31 days at an inpatient facility. Then instead of jumping right back in at work, she agreed to go to a Half-Way house in FL. She was making great progress until yesterday. The call came from the house manager. Amanda and her roomate were caught drinking on th...	Jeff Reynolds	11	391	Apr 18, 2006 by Jeff Reynolds
	What is your serenity worth??? (Preview) What is your serenity worth??? If someone tells you to rob a bank and you won't be punished even if someone gets hurt would you do it??? Is your serenity worth the guilt you might feel afterwards??? If someone hands you a scalding hot potato and says hold this and I will give you a million dol...	bob6502	11	439	Apr 17, 2006 by mastiff
	the outside matches my insides (Preview) Well I've never posted anything before and I thought I would try to see if getting this junk out of my head will actually help. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic who's been married to an alcoholic and who's also very co dependent. I'm trying to hard to over come all that I'm feeling.....	katrina2000	6	416	Apr 17, 2006 by Jill
	Day By Day (Preview) I'm sitting here feeling pretty grateful today. I have no voice, and can barely be heard by a whisper. This coming after having surgery two weeks ago on an abscess that grew to the size of what my daughter said was a bowling ball. Saw the surgeon post-op today and although he says it'...	Cilla	0	254	Apr 17, 2006 by Cilla
	new to all this (Preview) I am so glad to have been directed towards this site and have already learned so many things about my past and current behavior. I am just coming to terms with the fact that my husband in an alcoholic. I am going through the whole grieving thing now in the middle of final exams. I clearly missed many signs a...	sunny123	8	389	Apr 17, 2006 by aunitedway
	Letting out feelings, how many times is enough? (Preview) I understand there are some underlying issues going on. As usual I am not with the majority. I do not mind being in the unpopular vote. To be honest, it is my nature to be. I am not perfect, but someone else was, a very unpopular person, and he was nailed to a stake and died. To be in the minority of...	debilyn	2	317	Apr 17, 2006 by matisa
	detachment (Preview) great site on detachment if you are interested . . . . http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm#develop yours in recovery, Maria	Maria123	6	336	Apr 17, 2006 by peewee
	What happens when... (Preview) you really your really working your program? You get the best of all possible worlds. I had a pretty scary situation for me last night. My middle daughter let my dog out (not on her leash) then forgot about her. I was busy making dinner and did not realize the dog was out. It w...	AlaMom	8	312	Apr 17, 2006 by Juster
	same as it ever was (Preview) Well, here we go again. It's been about six months since I desided not to post here again. Not because of anyone here but out of embarrassment and humiliation. I swore I would never put my thoughts and feelings in print again. For those of you who know, I apologize again and for those of you who don't, ma...	agatha	8	383	Apr 17, 2006 by sparkette
	500th Post (Preview) When I logged in it said posts: 499. My thought was that that is alot and I wonder if I have learned anything, changed, found serenity, or helped anyone else. So I know that I am immature. That I am alone and keep asking why? I spent some time with my A today and our interaction was still sick. Maybe more on my...	nmike	2	317	Apr 17, 2006 by sparkette
	We are hearts that hurt!! (Preview) And we come to this program to heal, this is a disease of perception. How I feel about a situation does not have to agree with how anyone else feels. We have been given the courage to finally speak up and take a chance and voice an opinion , that is a big deal . Perception is tricky ki...	abbyal	8	359	Apr 17, 2006 by Maria123
	good weekend (Preview) This weekend was so nice! I had the day off Friday b/c it was Good Friday. My a husband and I and step-daughter spent Friday and Saturday fishing on the river. It went well, only got yelled at a few times, but I would stare at him intently and then not speak to him for awhile and he would s...	hudsond	3	257	Apr 17, 2006 by twinmom2
	Rough morning for me (Preview) Hello all... I've apparently gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or something. I'm just kind of aching over my son right now. I just feel like it's such a hopeless situation today, and that I just have to "endure" another day. I'm kind of tired of enduring. ...	kspear	3	407	Apr 17, 2006 by Diva
	Thank you (Preview) (((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just wanted to say thank you to all of you that were in the chat room last night. I came in needing support, and you all surrounded me with your love, support and understanding. That's what the chat room is for. Had to have hubby taken away in an ambulance bec...	Karilynn	12	336	Apr 17, 2006 by lebe27
	Identify Please (Preview) Hello to all,,, Ok I have a request this is gonna sound strange to most of you, but I suspect there is someone who goes to the chat rooms who thinks they know who I am in Real life,,, I am asking now , Please Identify yourself to me in real life,,, There are no alanon meetings in this little town a...	matisa	3	327	Apr 17, 2006 by matisa
	I KEEP COMING BACK.......... (Preview) I keep coming back to Alanon for many reasons, and sometimes I question why? Afterall the A in my life for many years is gone, and I dont have to directly deal with any A's in my immediate life. I have been coming to alanon now for over 6 years, and I remember how I once was a "newbie" and how desparate I truly w...	gardengal	3	269	Apr 17, 2006 by nmike
	I need to clarify!! (Preview) 'Just hung out here and on my alanon message board. Seems one alanon sister had been a B and hurt this real nice gal I like, who is new, and basically told the nice gal to leave, with out meaning to!" I reread this and was horrified. crimany. I hope the meaning is clear,someone emailed me on my private ema...	debilyn	2	301	Apr 16, 2006 by mebjk
	know it all A's (Preview) OK...I need to vent. I have family visiting me. I am not used to active A's anymore. Both my sister and her husband are raging A's. 12+ beers a night. Screaming drunken fights and even illegal drug use. They think because they drink Michelob they are not A's.&n...	just me	9	373	Apr 16, 2006 by just me
	Recovery Online (Preview) While I do think it is a good thing that we have an online resource to aid our recovery, my experience has been that it is often easier to be mean and to dodge reality online. Chat rooms tend to be mean-spirited places. And I don't need that in my life. I prefer to choose positive experiences, things that br...	mebjk	5	264	Apr 16, 2006 by mebjk
	just another day with my A ESH please (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, Sitting here contemplating why I am happy LOL Yesterday morning my husband came home at the right time from work (he works nights) and I just got the feeling that he didn't go to work the night before. I asked, he said he did but my gut does not feel right about his answer for var...	Jennifer	8	359	Apr 16, 2006 by Jennifer
	Long cold spring at Eden (Preview) You know ya wake up thinking things will be ok, things will be ok. I went out on the deck to spary off the pig pooty. Got it all nice and clean thinking how it is one of my favorite anti stressors just to spray spray spray.Chief, who has broken down the fence to the back yard again, is behind me ea...	debilyn	3	313	Apr 16, 2006 by Christy
	an example of let go and let HP (Preview) In a post below someone asked what our holiday plans were. I spewed a stream of concience about everything I had to do and not really knowing what my holiday entailed yet but it I'd do my best and it would be what it would be and a chuckle. Well....I'm umpiring a game and I'm offered for tickets to a...	bobump	8	377	Apr 16, 2006 by peewee
	harsh reality hit me with a bang.. (Preview) hey guys i was up the country on a break with a friend for the last 2 days...eating out, having fun, going to a pop concert etc... i was actually having a good time..managed to smile and laugh for the 2 days... came home this evening and was hit with some news that knocked me for 6... ...my ex boyf. "A" hi...	Rebecca	6	326	Apr 16, 2006 by Cyn
	Please attempt to understand and help me to understand !!! (Preview) May the PEACE AND SERENITY OF HP BE WITH YOU ALL BLESSINGS -- Edited by d53sjurne at 20:04, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 20:26, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 21:33, 2006-04-15 -- Edited by d53sjurne at 21:36, 2006-04-15	d53sjurne	9	552	Apr 16, 2006 by debilyn
	Expectations for Chat Room and Message Board (Preview) I am so grateful for AlAnon and MIP. I see that some people expect from us as individuals to "fix" their lives. This is typically newcomers. When I was the newcomer, I was too bewildered to expect someone to fix my life. Nonetheless, for some newcomers, I feel put on the spot, inadequate, a...	Jill	13	479	Apr 16, 2006 by d53sjurne
	I am not a victim (Preview) Good morning, all. I was up to take my son (my current A) to work at 3 this morning as usual, and I was thinking. (I NEVER guarantee the coherency of my pre-5:00 AM thinking, so bear with me, please) Before I found recovery, I was a victim. If so and so hadn't acted in such a way, certai...	kspear	5	407	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Having trouble letting go and processing. (Preview) I feel like I am just this horrible person, mother, friend, sister. Hardly worthy to walk the earth in some people's eyes. One of the people I hold closest to my heart has just completely broke me down. ANY OTHER person and I could just let it roll off. Lately, she has been real...	ZiggyDoodles	3	267	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Family expectations (Preview) I've been in program for many years and my family of origin still disappoints me. They haven't changed, so it's me that has the problem. My hurt is an old one. It's a small thing - call, email or send a card to acknowledge my natel birthday. I've asked, explained, and me...	Knees	7	258	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Sharks or Trout ??? (Preview) Hmmm !!!!! Been on this site only a couple weeks. Am I still concidered a newbie ? My 1st visit to 12 step program was 40 yrs ago. Been back and forth , in and out the rest of my 52 yrs. Been to all kinds of 12stepin' programs, ACA, ACOA, ALA, EA, SAA, IA, and some I just don't remember. I nev...	d53sjurne	17	580	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Can this relationship last? (Preview) Is it at all possible for a non drinker & a alcoholic to continue a relationship? I started drinking at 16. I drank booze for 28 years. we would chug beer, I drank wine, & liquor. We were underage but older people would buy it for us every wekend. A gallon between 4 or 10 peop...	hmrnrnmm	6	390	Apr 16, 2006 by lalarainbow
	Tapping into other resources (Preview) Alanon's purpose is to help families and friends of alcoholics. We come together to find help and support in dealing with the effects of alcoholism. In time we discover that the principles of our program can be practiced in "all our affairs". But there are times when, in order to work through especial...	gardengal	5	280	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	1st impressions of chat ???Neg or Pos (Preview) Hi All,   My gut sez to refresh the subject. My head ain't to sure how to go abou...	d53sjurne	5	400	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Another Shark Attack (Preview) Hello, I wanted to inform you of my state of being for the time being. I felt the sharks again. I am very glad to have had a couple weeks here to feel the ones who aren't. Both experiences are here in my opinion, as I have felt both. Its awful in my opinion that its this way. There seems to be alot of levels of u...	d53sjurne	8	467	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	sharing a morning at Eden (Preview) --- Sent: Wednesday, April 12, 2006 7:59 AM Subject: A morning at Eden Lately Sauvey (my Great Pyrenees) has been going nuts barking at day break. There are white tailed deer going thru here. They are so beautiful and healthy. Not concerned about this barking beast...	debilyn	7	233	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Seeing our Growth... (Preview) I did something interesting on this site tonight. I went down to the bottom of the message board and lclicked on the started by feature. I reread all of the posts that I had started during my time on this board. It was actually pretty interesting. Reviewing all the positives...	AlaMom	3	241	Apr 16, 2006 by mastiff
	Mental Health Day (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Okay I have been nothing but grouchy lately! I have had it with work, and this morning I decided to give myself a mental health day. I already worked 5 days, and with hubby's disability check, I can afford to treat myself to a day off. A...	Karilynn	6	254	Apr 16, 2006 by Karilynn
	meeting times (Preview) ((((((((((((((((John)))))))))))))), Can we please double check the meeting times that are posted in the chat room? I thought the Saturday meeting was at 11am Est as posted on the board. But when I came on at 10:45am the meeting was already in progress. I am on the East Coast so I don't have to worry...	Karilynn	2	285	Apr 16, 2006 by John
	fear of success (Preview) Funny how considering what I am spending so much effort on right now that success is the thing I am fearing. I have been in and out of college for the better part of 15 years. I am nearing the end of my Junior year, for those of you who don't know I am an education major. I am terrified now that I might a...	sparkette	4	409	Apr 15, 2006 by mac57
	stopped smoking (Preview) at least for right now. i decided to quit my disgusting habit of 12yrs. yesturday was my first full day without smoking in a LONG time. i felt fine. i felt a few times during the day when i would normally go outside to smoke, but i quickly remembered that i didn't have any smokes. for me it's not the...	flintfeet	5	283	Apr 15, 2006 by nmike
	taking those first steps....... (Preview) I have been thinking alot about step 1 since I am starting this step journey.I struggled with powerlessness over 'alcohol' because I am not an alcoholic.Well, I AM powerless over alcohol but in a different way than the alcoholic is.I am powerless over how alcohol entered my life through my father and...	drucilla06	3	255	Apr 15, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Detachment from spouse while bringing up children - (Preview) how do you get that connection back once youve grown apart? Someone else just mentioned this at my f2f and yes I identified - been feeling this for quite a while. Its especially glaring at me now that our 13yr son wants his own life, wants to hangout with his friends and not always his mother. My spouse cho...	Barbara	4	368	Apr 15, 2006 by AlaMom
	Recommend "Starting Over" (Preview) I just wanted to share about a reality tv show that is on in the mornings that i really get something out of from time to time. It is a show called "Starting Over" on ABC. it is a home in california where women go to "start over". as in, know they are at a stale-mate in their life, and go the...	search41	5	656	Apr 15, 2006 by search41
	How is everyone spending their Easter? (Preview) There will be the usual egg hunt for DS13. He still likes waking up Easter morn and looking for the plastic candy filled eggs. Husband & I have an Easter basket for him. Husband bought him the new Narnia DVD. I'll be taking son to the Davis Farmland to see the new baby animals. We do enjoy the farm. No re...	Barbara	10	389	Apr 15, 2006 by seachange
	unsung heroes (Preview) I have been reading a lot of posts here over the last few days with regard to the board and chat room. Some negative some positive. I for one would like to thank John and all the moderators and ops at both sites who give up their own time willingly to provide these services for us. I thin...	leo	9	310	Apr 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	Chatroom help. Thank you (Preview) I just wanted to say a very big *thank you* to those who offered to help me in chat last night. I asked if I could pm someone re:teenagers. Doubly difficult for me as teen in question isn't mine and as I don't have any children of any age I was working from a very limited frame...	Ria	3	355	Apr 15, 2006 by mac57
	a poem from mac (Preview) Oh, My God As I wake upon my bed, Push my way to the day ahead, I see the aftermath of a home astray Just like the one where I once played. Driving down the busy highway, Make my way through crowded streets, I see the chaos and the whirling, See the homeless and the hurtin...	mac57	14	419	Apr 15, 2006 by mel123
	Just A Little Peace (Preview) As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...	Andrea12	4	268	Apr 15, 2006 by mel123
	Hello from Swolves (Preview) I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey	jrtjosey	2	230	Apr 15, 2006 by buzzfree
	frustrated (Preview) Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...	unsure24	4	264	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	getting through (Preview) In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...	Hanna	2	269	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	The art of being overwhelmed (Preview) I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...	rtexas	3	328	Apr 15, 2006 by Barbara
	I reacted... (Preview) This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...	msykesp	9	286	Apr 15, 2006 by unsure24
	And I shall take the blame (Preview) We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....	ditto	9	501	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Kari & the Camel (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...	Karilynn	3	331	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Don't make my mistake (Preview) For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...	jrtjosey	9	384	Apr 14, 2006 by aunitedway
	He promised (Preview) I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...	Hanna	10	472	Apr 14, 2006 by nmike
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