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carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Interesting responses to my post on the police report, I never said I enjoyed his pain, I said I would enjoy having some truth for once. In any case, the report was vague and so light you couldn't even read the original. It did show that he was driving though which was my primary concern. Now somehow bet...

nycbt · nycbt

Thank you everyone one for all the nice things you said. My grandma wake was on Labor day and the burial was on the Tuesday. With the burial from the church to the burial place the sherffi block entrance ramp and closed highways so no one would interfer that was the cool part. It was nice to be around all my f...

FrannieC · FrannieC

Hi everyone. I am new to this and I figured someone here could help me. I've gone o a few Al-anon meetings but wasn't real crazy about it. But my husband has recently joined AA( 2 months ago) He has relapsed once. He blames me b/c of a fight we had. I am excited that for the first time I have hope for him. This pr...

MISC · MISC

Anyone have a schizoid (not schizophrenic) personality disorder A ? If so, how do you feel it affects the drinking ?

twinkie · twinkie

In my earlier post I wrote about how I am trying to decide if a recent job offer is a good move for me. A second one came in, this one is out of state and back where I used to live. The company is an ideal size for me - 200 people - and the community is much smaller, just what I like! The downside is I would have to...

maresie2 · maresie2

I spoke to the A today one day before he has to go to court. He lives, eats sleeps fantasy. He has a broken pair of glasses and is walking around looking really wierd as the glasses are broken and it amkes him look crazy. He refuses to go cash in on medi-cal which he is eligible for because he is "moving&...

maire rua · maire rua

this morning I said no to various requests three times, this is real breakthough for me, also I am going to ask ex-A to move on now, as I feel I am ready. He's off the booze but dying for his term of treatment to be up so he can go back to the same ol same ol. Its very boring listening to him, but am going to cork for...

twinkie · twinkie

Hi All - into over a year of my recovery and have finally found serenity for me. I am out of the fog I was in called insanity - yeah! Part of my past behaviors was to always be on the go, once I'd hit a point of discontent, I was on to another boyfriend, another job or another state. This year has helped me see...

maresie2 · maresie2

After all the A has put me through with vehicles, speeding tickets, trashing the truck and more he stil has a sense of entitlement. He'a asked me numerous times to fund a rental car for him (he is living in a rural area with no/limited public transit). I jsut tell him my credit is ruined and I have no money....

maresie2 · maresie2

This will be a weekend I will be spending without the a and I am looking forward to quiet time and a time to regroup before I have to move onto to another phase of my life. I am deeply deeply in debt and must repair my credit somehow if I am going to rent again in the next few years. I will have to get another job an...

CJ098 · CJ098

Okay, so I'm reading my books and trying to not be codependent and trying to detach, but it's really hard. The last 3 weeks have been hell. I have a lot a patience but it's wearing thin. Trying to detach when on our days off he goes to the liquor store 3 times a day to get drunk, as I will not have any alcohol...

tea2 · tea2

Hi Fellow Al-Anons , As you may have already read we are gathering Frequently Asked Questions (aka) FAQs for the MIP Al-Anon Group Members and future members who will find their way here. These questions will pertain to both this message board and the chat room. If you have a question or know of a questi...

paul123 · paul123

So, my wife of 12 years tells me that she loves me but is not in love with me anymore. She has been sober for 5 years, goes to AA meetings. Well she says that I am no fun anymore and that I am a grump. It seems that ever since she stopped drinking the fun in our marriage has gone away and my role has changed. I defin...

ddub · ddub

I wanna fight. baby steps get me to a new vantage point and you face more truths that are real and again don't meet my fantasy. Can't go back to denial now after what I've learned so far. And just feel like I am kicking and screaming as I don't want to keep going forward and facing any more honest truths...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Truth does not become more true by virtue of the fact that the entire world agrees with it, nor less so even if the whole world disagrees with it. -Maimonides so, Mom abruptly decided that she was going to come into Dayton this weekend. And of course my flags go up. I'm feeling like, "Lady, does noth...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

First of all, just wanted to thank you for all the kind responses from my last post. Ok so I've been going over and over it in my head and decided it's time to end this marriage. I really just can't do it anymore. I think I have put up with it for way too long. Things will never change with my AH and I don't want ti...

twinkie · twinkie

oops! Sorry -- Edited by twinkie at 14:52, 2007-09-09

lmt123 · lmt123

I tried to bite my tongue tonite (I didn't really do a good job at it...) My AHsober was watching sports on the tv in the bedroom, while I was watching tv in the living room. He decided to listen to a particular game on the radio in the sunroom, and left the bedroom tv and light on. During a commercial on m...

frazzled · frazzled

continuation of the other day i guess i am just able to sit down and get some more stuff that is on my mind. i talked about my daughter my a and my mom growing up. i didnt mention that even after my mom got us out of that other state and got us all back together in one household i can still remember the night it ha...

MISC · MISC

ANABUSE....I haven't seen any posts on the subject of this drug. I had a written script for it for A son, but never filled it as I didn't feel that I knew enough about it....side effects, etc. Comments, please.

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Today, I will solve the problems of today. I might have become so focused on solving all the problems in my life that I haven't noticed the little problems that arise each day. Do I have anything that needs to be completed or resolved today? I will take a moment each day and work on what I need to do just for t...

Rita G · Rita G

As many of you know, my 6th grandchild will be 1 month old tomorrow. Jace is a beautiful healthy little man - born to our addict daughter. She struggled during this pregnancy and I prayed like all of you do, that she would do better this time. But the disease knows NO boundaries. Her boyfriend came ho...

Jill · Jill

One of the previous posts talked about maintaining our fabulousness. Its a great concept. Let me consider ways I can maintain mine.I think mine involve taking care of myself. I take time to pray and to walk.I brush my teeth every night, regardless of someone waiting for me in bed, and every morning,...

moms3 · moms3

I posted this poem I wrote to my A over a year ago. There are so many new members and I see alot of posts about detaching I wanted to post it again, to share with you all. Prayers and Hugs, Kim Each and every day, it gets easier, to go away.......

serendipity · serendipity

Yesterday, I did go to the ex's work. I did attempt to show his GF (fiancee I just found out, he bought her a beautiful diamond) the text messages he's been sending me for a couple months. He smashed my cell, and got very physically violent and threw me out the door. I went straight to the police station a...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Well about less than 2weeks ago i thought i had this detachment thing FINALLY figured out. After 13 years of dealing with AH, i thought "wow i'm finally taking care of myself. and to the extent I still am. But it's so hard. I was started to see a change in him as well. But of course that was too good to be...

ddub · ddub

Not feelin' real great so gonna just write what I feel good about and why not .... so I can try and find some light at the end of the tunnel - like a very bad roller coaster ride in a very long dark tunnel - couple sky lights now and then but false hope of more consistant progress bites. gratitude and way to go t...

MISC · MISC

O.K. here is my very first post as a newbie..........and my question is.........do you think it's ok for us (as the parents )of a 22 year old A son who is living with us to demand he attend AA meetings ? He's in denial, but has had problems for the past 6 plus years.............mips, jail, treatment pr...

Toni · Toni

I think it's been a couple weeks since I joined and I have been sort of quiet since. I think I'm just trying to enjoy the peacefulness of having my daughter living somewhere else without feeling guilty because I feel that way and without trying to project too much into the future. Her situation is not pe...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was going to quit smoking today (AGAIN!!!). I was sure I was going to do it. Half way to work I stopped and bought a pack of cigarettes and I was soooo disappointed in myself. Then I thought this must be what they feel like times ten. Cigarettes may be killing me but at least they don't cost me EVERYTHI...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have not seen you post in a long long time. I hope all is ok with you. I wrote my creditors today and thought of you and your struggle. I am going to work on it one day at a time. Please post soon and let us all know how you are. maresie.

lmt123 · lmt123

I just got back from having the echocardiogram. The tech said he didn't see anything (could he tell me if he did?), but he had to send the results to the cardiologist and I'd hear from them on Monday. Hopefully he/she won't see anything and hopefully they can explain why the size of my heart has changed...

maresie2 · maresie2

I saw the A yesterday and decided to keep the beagle for another week. I managed to get it out of him that he is going to court on Monday. He looks absolutely terrible, worse than I have ever seen him. He is not making any sense about what he is going to do. I imagine he presumes he will go to jail although he do...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I finally got thru to the "special police" who arrested the A back in November the night before I was leaving on my trip to DC with the kids. Anywho, I am going tomorrow to get a copy of the police report to try to clear my name with the insurance company. I learned that this place is a private...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

it occurred to me this morning that I keep fighting a losing battle. I keep waiting for the day when everything and everybody is easily handled. The last 3 weeks have been crazy. Filled with loss. The first situation is one of change. I can still have this person in my life just not in the capacity I am used...

torias · torias

My spouse has been sober for three years now. I am so happy for him. The problem I am having is that I do not want to be married any longer. I am surprised by that because I fought so long for saving our marriage and put up with so much. Now, he has been sober but I do not have any feelings for him as a sp...

TheArtOf · TheArtOf

I have been reading some literature concerning the diagnosis of alcoholism. One book in particular identifies it as a physiological disease. My question is how do you know when someone is an alcoholic? One could say after the first DUI, or the second or the third... Or how about finding stashed bo...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well I went to switch insurance companies today and found out that back in Nov. when the A got the dui and the truck was impounded and damaged that the claim I called in was filed under MY driving record as an accident that was MY fault. Considering that I was not anywhere near the vehicle I am extremely fr...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi All, ex-A got out of hospital yesterday with Ulceritis Colitis, drink has nothing to do with that right! he went out last night and drank moderately. He is convinced that it is worse than cancer and was a real pain in the butt last night. I knew this would be the case so I detached very quickly. He kept gi...

Becky1 · Becky1

The surgery for my "trigger Thumb" went OK, only a 1" incision, and 2 stitches, but the scar tissue is pretty big and the stitches painful. I have exercises I have to do to keep my thumb limber, will be off work total of 14 days, today is 1 week since the surgery. AH has been pretty nice. I a...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been talking to one of my recovery partners at length about a topic that we both seem to have compulsive behaviors behind. I believe now that my long extended relationship with the A was a core symptom of hiding from life. I had to make his life more important than mine in order to hide from all my ne...

kissers · kissers

Hi Everyone, I was invited by another Alanon member to attend a lecture on Alcoholism. The topic of trust was discussed and how important trust is in a relationship. A guy I started dating told me twice he would call me the next day and didn't. I went from feeling angry to feeling betrayed to feeling very...

CJ098 · CJ098

Hi everyone, It was suggested to me that I read, "Getting Them Sober", by Toby Rice Drews. It happened to be the same time that I thought I would go crazy if I didn't do something about me, to help me, TODAY. So when I logged on this site this morning in the middle of my little crisis, I saw that...

Rita G · Rita G

Yesterday, 9/3 was my Al-Anon Birthday. I have been on this path of recovery for 4 yrs. Wow - what an amazing path my HP has brought me thru. What original brought me to the rooms of Al-Anon was seeking a cure for the pain - what I have found is a beautiful new way of life. The circumstances around me have n...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

For as long as I can remember I have been dealing with a sibling (58 yo) that is addicted to prescription pain medications. Earlier this year she went to detox, came home started attending meetings and seemed to be doing great. In June her husband was hit with 120 days shock time. Feeling I was doin...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi everyone, I had a dr appointment today because I was having a little chest "discomfort", not sure if it was heartburn or indigestion, as I have never had that before. I hesitated calling the doctor, but did anyway, just in case. They said to come on in to have him check me out, and since I h...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi ddub, The author of Angel Thoughts is Alice CanlasAvancena-so glad you enjoyed it. It's all about us all working the Twelfth step-giving back what we received by sharing life's lessons and wisdom-filled literature here on MIP. SERENITY AND GENTLENESS, NANUKE

lmw · lmw

Nine years ago today I married my AH. The divorce should be final in about a month..... so instead of thinking about all the bad things - or putting on rose colored glasses and looking back at the beginning, I decided to tell the kids we'd celebrate our family here today. I think I read in a post here tha...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate. To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or most of...

John · John

Dear Family, I am sorry that we have not been in the rooms for the past 2 weeks. We have had a death in the family, Johns sister. We will be able to provide more information when we get home. We have been in Virginia taking care of family in the time of crisis. We will still be out of town for a few more da...

frazzled · frazzled

you might read this and get grossed out or think what does this have to do with alcohol. it all ties together and some of it doesnt its just about me and my beginning of my journey to get to the root of my problems so i can deal with them and find the real me.there are so many freakin things running through this...

serendipity · serendipity

I was reading Carolina girl's post on the A and their overblown sense of entitlement. I completley agree and I used to even admire my A's courage to think that way. My thought has always been the exact oppisite. I don't feel I deserve anything, even when I work hard for it. But my question is, when does th...

serendipity · serendipity

It would be a really bad idea to "blackmail" my ex into paying for my little one's nursery school, right? I have asked twice very nicely and he has not responded except to want sex from me. I should NOT threathen to tell his GF and her mother all that he has done with me while living with her. That...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was thinking the other day about how wonderful new love is when you first find that love and there's that energy and nothing but loving words. I remember at our wedding ceremony the guy saying the paper isn't what is important it's the words that you say to eachother. Always use loving words, etc. I...

Fifi · Fifi

I have been missing you all here lately but have been too tired to write or read much.....kids back to school,me with various medical tests (all ok and no more cancer so far), one daughter broke her arm, fell off a wall and scraped her face bad, lost a tooth and turned 7 all this week(all on different days n...

renah · renah

All, Only 2.5 more weeks till my delivery date. I have to admit that fears come up regularly about whether or not I need to get to the hospital. I chose to not be near family and it seems like I get reminded by my family of that a lot. But of course its my own guilt about it rather than their issue. The AH wi...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. --William James Many of us learned as children that rejection and abandonment are part and parcel of being alive. We are so used to feeling as though things won't work out, that fear - like a shadow - is al...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A I was with for the last 7 years has a major physical illness as well as his own emotional illness and his addiction. This weekend I saw him. As I am preparing that he will probably go to jail and don't want there to be any last minute crisis for me I offered to let him have some space in my storage space. I h...

serendipity · serendipity

Well, first let me say I look GREAT! I look like an adult, going to court. Nevermind that I have duct tape in my shoes and my skirt is 10 years old, I look fabulous! I got there early and sat and read my book, centered myself. My idiot lawyer shows up and quickly goes over things. My ex shows up and hides in the...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

Boohoo. Boohoo. I am tired of hearing AH crying about how sick he feels because they are cutting him back on his methadone. After all the money he has taken away from our family to feed his addictions over the years. After all of the money he has already spent over the past 7 months at the methadone clin...

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	Got the Police Report (Preview) Interesting responses to my post on the police report, I never said I enjoyed his pain, I said I would enjoy having some truth for once. In any case, the report was vague and so light you couldn't even read the original. It did show that he was driving though which was my primary concern. Now somehow bet...	carolinagirl	5	536	Sep 11, 2007 by maire rua
	grandma funeral (Preview) Thank you everyone one for all the nice things you said. My grandma wake was on Labor day and the burial was on the Tuesday. With the burial from the church to the burial place the sherffi block entrance ramp and closed highways so no one would interfer that was the cool part. It was nice to be around all my f...	nycbt	4	253	Sep 10, 2007 by Karilynn
	My AH has joined AA and is driving me crazy!!! (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new to this and I figured someone here could help me. I've gone o a few Al-anon meetings but wasn't real crazy about it. But my husband has recently joined AA( 2 months ago) He has relapsed once. He blames me b/c of a fight we had. I am excited that for the first time I have hope for him. This pr...	FrannieC	8	1582	Sep 10, 2007 by Karilynn
	SCHIZOID PERSONALITY (Preview) Anyone have a schizoid (not schizophrenic) personality disorder A ? If so, how do you feel it affects the drinking ?	MISC	1	381	Sep 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	And another decision - oh my (Preview) In my earlier post I wrote about how I am trying to decide if a recent job offer is a good move for me. A second one came in, this one is out of state and back where I used to live. The company is an ideal size for me - 200 people - and the community is much smaller, just what I like! The downside is I would have to...	twinkie	5	511	Sep 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Living in fantasy (Preview) I spoke to the A today one day before he has to go to court. He lives, eats sleeps fantasy. He has a broken pair of glasses and is walking around looking really wierd as the glasses are broken and it amkes him look crazy. He refuses to go cash in on medi-cal which he is eligible for because he is "moving&...	maresie2	2	434	Sep 10, 2007 by maresie2
	saying No (Preview) this morning I said no to various requests three times, this is real breakthough for me, also I am going to ask ex-A to move on now, as I feel I am ready. He's off the booze but dying for his term of treatment to be up so he can go back to the same ol same ol. Its very boring listening to him, but am going to cork for...	maire rua	2	247	Sep 10, 2007 by maresie2
	indecision - help! (Preview) Hi All - into over a year of my recovery and have finally found serenity for me. I am out of the fog I was in called insanity - yeah! Part of my past behaviors was to always be on the go, once I'd hit a point of discontent, I was on to another boyfriend, another job or another state. This year has helped me see...	twinkie	4	351	Sep 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	saying no to the A no matter what (Preview) After all the A has put me through with vehicles, speeding tickets, trashing the truck and more he stil has a sense of entitlement. He'a asked me numerous times to fund a rental car for him (he is living in a rural area with no/limited public transit). I jsut tell him my credit is ruined and I have no money....	maresie2	5	492	Sep 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	another weekend (Preview) This will be a weekend I will be spending without the a and I am looking forward to quiet time and a time to regroup before I have to move onto to another phase of my life. I am deeply deeply in debt and must repair my credit somehow if I am going to rent again in the next few years. I will have to get another job an...	maresie2	3	305	Sep 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	trying....but it's really hard (Preview) Okay, so I'm reading my books and trying to not be codependent and trying to detach, but it's really hard. The last 3 weeks have been hell. I have a lot a patience but it's wearing thin. Trying to detach when on our days off he goes to the liquor store 3 times a day to get drunk, as I will not have any alcohol...	CJ098	9	563	Sep 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	The “Questionnaire” for Frequently Asked Questions (Preview) Hi Fellow Al-Anons , As you may have already read we are gathering Frequently Asked Questions (aka) FAQs for the MIP Al-Anon Group Members and future members who will find their way here. These questions will pertain to both this message board and the chat room. If you have a question or know of a questi...	tea2	9	1945	Sep 10, 2007 by jonibaloni21
	Where do I go from Here????? (Preview) So, my wife of 12 years tells me that she loves me but is not in love with me anymore. She has been sober for 5 years, goes to AA meetings. Well she says that I am no fun anymore and that I am a grump. It seems that ever since she stopped drinking the fun in our marriage has gone away and my role has changed. I defin...	paul123	8	521	Sep 10, 2007 by ddub
	wanna fight facing truth (Preview) I wanna fight. baby steps get me to a new vantage point and you face more truths that are real and again don't meet my fantasy. Can't go back to denial now after what I've learned so far. And just feel like I am kicking and screaming as I don't want to keep going forward and facing any more honest truths...	ddub	7	552	Sep 10, 2007 by ddub
	Thought y'all would like to know about the long term results of boundries (Preview) Truth does not become more true by virtue of the fact that the entire world agrees with it, nor less so even if the whole world disagrees with it. -Maimonides so, Mom abruptly decided that she was going to come into Dayton this weekend. And of course my flags go up. I'm feeling like, "Lady, does noth...	Tiger2006	2	475	Sep 9, 2007 by Jen
	It's Over (Preview) First of all, just wanted to thank you for all the kind responses from my last post. Ok so I've been going over and over it in my head and decided it's time to end this marriage. I really just can't do it anymore. I think I have put up with it for way too long. Things will never change with my AH and I don't want ti...	sgraingermk	4	500	Sep 9, 2007 by Fifi
	Indecision - need guidance... (Preview) oops! Sorry -- Edited by twinkie at 14:52, 2007-09-09	twinkie	0	227	Sep 9, 2007 by twinkie
	Done Yet? (Preview) I tried to bite my tongue tonite (I didn't really do a good job at it...) My AHsober was watching sports on the tv in the bedroom, while I was watching tv in the living room. He decided to listen to a particular game on the radio in the sunroom, and left the bedroom tv and light on. During a commercial on m...	lmt123	2	348	Sep 9, 2007 by Diva
	lonnnnng one again. letting more of the past out step 4?? (Preview) continuation of the other day i guess i am just able to sit down and get some more stuff that is on my mind. i talked about my daughter my a and my mom growing up. i didnt mention that even after my mom got us out of that other state and got us all back together in one household i can still remember the night it ha...	frazzled	2	617	Sep 9, 2007 by getoverit
	ANABUSE (Preview) ANABUSE....I haven't seen any posts on the subject of this drug. I had a written script for it for A son, but never filled it as I didn't feel that I knew enough about it....side effects, etc. Comments, please.	MISC	8	1215	Sep 9, 2007 by Christy
	Just for today.... (Preview) Today, I will solve the problems of today. I might have become so focused on solving all the problems in my life that I haven't noticed the little problems that arise each day. Do I have anything that needs to be completed or resolved today? I will take a moment each day and work on what I need to do just for t...	Tiger2006	2	299	Sep 9, 2007 by maire rua
	The disease seperates Mom & child - breaks a Grandmother's heart (Preview) As many of you know, my 6th grandchild will be 1 month old tomorrow. Jace is a beautiful healthy little man - born to our addict daughter. She struggled during this pregnancy and I prayed like all of you do, that she would do better this time. But the disease knows NO boundaries. Her boyfriend came ho...	Rita G	7	674	Sep 9, 2007 by moms3
	Fabulousness (Preview) One of the previous posts talked about maintaining our fabulousness. Its a great concept. Let me consider ways I can maintain mine.I think mine involve taking care of myself. I take time to pray and to walk.I brush my teeth every night, regardless of someone waiting for me in bed, and every morning,...	Jill	6	475	Sep 8, 2007 by lmt123
	Detachment With Love (Preview) I posted this poem I wrote to my A over a year ago. There are so many new members and I see alot of posts about detaching I wanted to post it again, to share with you all. Prayers and Hugs, Kim *Each and every day,* *it gets easier,* *to go away.......*	moms3	5	480	Sep 8, 2007 by Fifi
	Not too fabulous (Preview) Yesterday, I did go to the ex's work. I did attempt to show his GF (fiancee I just found out, he bought her a beautiful diamond) the text messages he's been sending me for a couple months. He smashed my cell, and got very physically violent and threw me out the door. I went straight to the police station a...	serendipity	7	515	Sep 8, 2007 by frazzled
	Having a hard time. :( (Preview) Well about less than 2weeks ago i thought i had this detachment thing FINALLY figured out. After 13 years of dealing with AH, i thought "wow i'm finally taking care of myself. and to the extent I still am. But it's so hard. I was started to see a change in him as well. But of course that was too good to be...	sgraingermk	5	420	Sep 8, 2007 by Jen
	balance while baby steppin' (Preview) Not feelin' real great so gonna just write what I feel good about and why not .... so I can try and find some light at the end of the tunnel - like a very bad roller coaster ride in a very long dark tunnel - couple sky lights now and then but false hope of more consistant progress bites. gratitude and way to go t...	ddub	5	1006	Sep 7, 2007 by Kim65
	FORCE son to go to AA meetings ? (Preview) O.K. here is my very first post as a newbie..........and my question is.........do you think it's ok for us (as the parents )of a 22 year old A son who is living with us to demand he attend AA meetings ? He's in denial, but has had problems for the past 6 plus years.............mips, jail, treatment pr...	MISC	7	620	Sep 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Unusual peace (Preview) I think it's been a couple weeks since I joined and I have been sort of quiet since. I think I'm just trying to enjoy the peacefulness of having my daughter living somewhere else without feeling guilty because I feel that way and without trying to project too much into the future. Her situation is not pe...	Toni	3	336	Sep 7, 2007 by abbyal
	Today I really feel for the A (Preview) I was going to quit smoking today (AGAIN!!!). I was sure I was going to do it. Half way to work I stopped and bought a pack of cigarettes and I was soooo disappointed in myself. Then I thought this must be what they feel like times ten. Cigarettes may be killing me but at least they don't cost me EVERYTHI...	carolinagirl	4	566	Sep 7, 2007 by lin0606
	twinmum where are you? (Preview) I have not seen you post in a long long time. I hope all is ok with you. I wrote my creditors today and thought of you and your struggle. I am going to work on it one day at a time. Please post soon and let us all know how you are. maresie.	maresie2	0	238	Sep 7, 2007 by maresie2
	had echo today (Preview) I just got back from having the echocardiogram. The tech said he didn't see anything (could he tell me if he did?), but he had to send the results to the cardiologist and I'd hear from them on Monday. Hopefully he/she won't see anything and hopefully they can explain why the size of my heart has changed...	lmt123	5	279	Sep 7, 2007 by lmt123
	facing jail time (Preview) I saw the A yesterday and decided to keep the beagle for another week. I managed to get it out of him that he is going to court on Monday. He looks absolutely terrible, worse than I have ever seen him. He is not making any sense about what he is going to do. I imagine he presumes he will go to jail although he do...	maresie2	4	420	Sep 7, 2007 by QOD
	And the plot thickens.... (Preview) So I finally got thru to the "special police" who arrested the A back in November the night before I was leaving on my trip to DC with the kids. Anywho, I am going tomorrow to get a copy of the police report to try to clear my name with the insurance company. I learned that this place is a private...	carolinagirl	6	444	Sep 7, 2007 by maresie2
	The only thing that stays the same is change... (Preview) it occurred to me this morning that I keep fighting a losing battle. I keep waiting for the day when everything and everybody is easily handled. The last 3 weeks have been crazy. Filled with loss. The first situation is one of change. I can still have this person in my life just not in the capacity I am used...	seekingserenity	3	447	Sep 6, 2007 by Maria123
	Difficult Relationship EVEN though 3 years Sobriety!! (Preview) My spouse has been sober for three years now. I am so happy for him. The problem I am having is that I do not want to be married any longer. I am surprised by that because I fought so long for saving our marriage and put up with so much. Now, he has been sober but I do not have any feelings for him as a sp...	torias	10	437	Sep 6, 2007 by torias
	What is alcoholism? (Preview) I have been reading some literature concerning the diagnosis of alcoholism. One book in particular identifies it as a physiological disease. My question is how do you know when someone is an alcoholic? One could say after the first DUI, or the second or the third... Or how about finding stashed bo...	TheArtOf	11	603	Sep 6, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Another painful reminder. (Preview) Well I went to switch insurance companies today and found out that back in Nov. when the A got the dui and the truck was impounded and damaged that the claim I called in was filed under MY driving record as an accident that was MY fault. Considering that I was not anywhere near the vehicle I am extremely fr...	carolinagirl	5	413	Sep 6, 2007 by carolinagirl
	update on situation (Preview) Hi All, ex-A got out of hospital yesterday with Ulceritis Colitis, drink has nothing to do with that right! he went out last night and drank moderately. He is convinced that it is worse than cancer and was a real pain in the butt last night. I knew this would be the case so I detached very quickly. He kept gi...	maire rua	2	337	Sep 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Healing from Surgery (Preview) The surgery for my "trigger Thumb" went OK, only a 1" incision, and 2 stitches, but the scar tissue is pretty big and the stitches painful. I have exercises I have to do to keep my thumb limber, will be off work total of 14 days, today is 1 week since the surgery. AH has been pretty nice. I a...	Becky1	5	420	Sep 6, 2007 by Becky1
	hiding from life in general (Preview) I have been talking to one of my recovery partners at length about a topic that we both seem to have compulsive behaviors behind. I believe now that my long extended relationship with the A was a core symptom of hiding from life. I had to make his life more important than mine in order to hide from all my ne...	maresie2	4	452	Sep 6, 2007 by maresie2
	TRUST (Preview) Hi Everyone, I was invited by another Alanon member to attend a lecture on Alcoholism. The topic of trust was discussed and how important trust is in a relationship. A guy I started dating told me twice he would call me the next day and didn't. I went from feeling angry to feeling betrayed to feeling very...	kissers	4	322	Sep 6, 2007 by Jen
	Break Thru (Preview) Hi everyone, It was suggested to me that I read, "Getting Them Sober", by Toby Rice Drews. It happened to be the same time that I thought I would go crazy if I didn't do something about me, to help me, TODAY. So when I logged on this site this morning in the middle of my little crisis, I saw that...	CJ098	4	463	Sep 6, 2007 by Jen
	Happy Sanity Birthday to ME (Preview) Yesterday, 9/3 was my Al-Anon Birthday. I have been on this path of recovery for 4 yrs. Wow - what an amazing path my HP has brought me thru. What original brought me to the rooms of Al-Anon was seeking a cure for the pain - what I have found is a beautiful new way of life. The circumstances around me have n...	Rita G	8	356	Sep 6, 2007 by carosie
	Set a boundary and stuck to it (Preview) For as long as I can remember I have been dealing with a sibling (58 yo) that is addicted to prescription pain medications. Earlier this year she went to detox, came home started attending meetings and seemed to be doing great. In June her husband was hit with 120 days shock time. Feeling I was doin...	Mobirdie	5	486	Sep 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	doctor appt today, prayers please... (Preview) Hi everyone, I had a dr appointment today because I was having a little chest "discomfort", not sure if it was heartburn or indigestion, as I have never had that before. I hesitated calling the doctor, but did anyway, just in case. They said to come on in to have him check me out, and since I h...	lmt123	13	551	Sep 6, 2007 by rtexas
	ddub (Preview) Hi ddub, The author of Angel Thoughts is Alice CanlasAvancena-so glad you enjoyed it. It's all about us all working the Twelfth step-giving back what we received by sharing life's lessons and wisdom-filled literature here on MIP. SERENITY AND GENTLENESS, NANUKE	NANUKE	2	225	Sep 6, 2007 by getoverit
	W Family Day (Preview) Nine years ago today I married my AH. The divorce should be final in about a month..... so instead of thinking about all the bad things - or putting on rose colored glasses and looking back at the beginning, I decided to tell the kids we'd celebrate our family here today. I think I read in a post here tha...	lmw	2	281	Sep 5, 2007 by janey225
	receiving love (Preview) Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate. To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or most of...	Tiger2006	4	359	Sep 5, 2007 by moms3
	Family Emergency Please Read (Preview) Dear Family, I am sorry that we have not been in the rooms for the past 2 weeks. We have had a death in the family, Johns sister. We will be able to provide more information when we get home. We have been in Virginia taking care of family in the time of crisis. We will still be out of town for a few more da...	John	20	704	Sep 5, 2007 by moms3
	really long and sometimes graphic thoughts (Preview) you might read this and get grossed out or think what does this have to do with alcohol. it all ties together and some of it doesnt its just about me and my beginning of my journey to get to the root of my problems so i can deal with them and find the real me.there are so many freakin things running through this...	frazzled	4	557	Sep 5, 2007 by moms3
	entitlement and kids (Preview) I was reading Carolina girl's post on the A and their overblown sense of entitlement. I completley agree and I used to even admire my A's courage to think that way. My thought has always been the exact oppisite. I don't feel I deserve anything, even when I work hard for it. But my question is, when does th...	serendipity	7	415	Sep 5, 2007 by maresie2
	oh P.S. (Preview) It would be a really bad idea to "blackmail" my ex into paying for my little one's nursery school, right? I have asked twice very nicely and he has not responded except to want sex from me. I should NOT threathen to tell his GF and her mother all that he has done with me while living with her. That...	serendipity	4	332	Sep 5, 2007 by Jen
	Taking people for granted (Preview) I was thinking the other day about how wonderful new love is when you first find that love and there's that energy and nothing but loving words. I remember at our wedding ceremony the guy saying the paper isn't what is important it's the words that you say to eachother. Always use loving words, etc. I...	carolinagirl	7	502	Sep 5, 2007 by Jen
	check in (Preview) I have been missing you all here lately but have been too tired to write or read much.....kids back to school,me with various medical tests (all ok and no more cancer so far), one daughter broke her arm, fell off a wall and scraped her face bad, lost a tooth and turned 7 all this week(all on different days n...	Fifi	4	329	Sep 5, 2007 by maresie2
	Detaching from Feelings (Preview) All, Only 2.5 more weeks till my delivery date. I have to admit that fears come up regularly about whether or not I need to get to the hospital. I chose to not be near family and it seems like I get reminded by my family of that a lot. But of course its my own guilt about it rather than their issue. The AH wi...	renah	2	307	Sep 5, 2007 by Leetle
	Ideations on self fufilling prophecies (Preview) Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. --William James Many of us learned as children that rejection and abandonment are part and parcel of being alive. We are so used to feeling as though things won't work out, that fear - like a shadow - is al...	Tiger2006	7	279	Sep 5, 2007 by Jen
	finally seeing him as very ill (Preview) The A I was with for the last 7 years has a major physical illness as well as his own emotional illness and his addiction. This weekend I saw him. As I am preparing that he will probably go to jail and don't want there to be any last minute crisis for me I offered to let him have some space in my storage space. I h...	maresie2	5	382	Sep 5, 2007 by Jen
	back from court (Preview) Well, first let me say I look GREAT! I look like an adult, going to court. Nevermind that I have duct tape in my shoes and my skirt is 10 years old, I look fabulous! I got there early and sat and read my book, centered myself. My idiot lawyer shows up and quickly goes over things. My ex shows up and hides in the...	serendipity	6	266	Sep 5, 2007 by Jen
	No more sympathy (Preview) Boohoo. Boohoo. I am tired of hearing AH crying about how sick he feels because they are cutting him back on his methadone. After all the money he has taken away from our family to feed his addictions over the years. After all of the money he has already spent over the past 7 months at the methadone clin...	Denoraphy	5	449	Sep 5, 2007 by Loupiness
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