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sometimes your HP will do for you
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What you can't do yourself. My A asked to speak to me. Just grabbed me and hugged me. Said that now that she has her license it would be all better. She can do the things to make herself a better person, started talking about things she was going to do. She asked me if I would reconsider. We were both dis...
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I messed up my computer.....sorry
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I'm not sure how I did it but I deleted my sign in for MIP and I can not for the life of me remember my password so I had to start over again~ So now it shows I am a newbie...lol Hopefully one of the mods will help me retrieve it and have it sent to me. It said it sent it to me but I never got it. I want my old one back. :( S...
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being authentic
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Live and learn - seems I learn every thing by doing rather than hearing - the school of hard knocks! So I slept throught a weekly meeting but I went to an evening one a few days later. Then last wkend I really felt good, did well and had a good talk with A...... so I just forgot about the meeting the next morn...
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Had a lovely evening
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I had a horrible day. But I did get my butt up and took 2 friends to see a show that my best friend is in. I was supposed to go last weekend but was too depressed to move. I looked great, felt awsome, and the show was hysterical. It was The Musical of Musicals, The Musical. It was a parody of musicals. I swear I ha...
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how do you DETACH WITH LOVE
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i keep seeing this...i already suffer from being overly clingy (child of 2 alcoholics)...how can i do this...any tricks any suggestions?
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I need to mean what I say and not say it mean when he comes home :)
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Hi family, I am here because I need to vent before my hubby gets home. He went out last night and didn't come back. Nothing new, old behaviours coming back. Next Wednesday he will have been back from a 7 month stint in our county jail. about 3 weeks before he came home I asked him if he could not stay clean and...
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BIG changes, and I am doing okay !!!!!!!!
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Hello to My MIP Family, (((((( HUGS ))))) I know I haven't posted much, I have replied, I have taken breaks, and I have sat quietly and read. It is time for me to post......... A couple weeks ago, where I live, I heard late at night, on the scanner, that someone had found a man electricuted by a tra...
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well....
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well visting mom was just fine, i think we will be fine too. the past is the past and im in recovery and there is no reason to hate her she did what she thought was right and or worked with what she had/knew.... things could have turned out much worse and they didnt so thats good enough me. i can move on. ive sto...
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Back from the funeral
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The church was full of Eric's friends so it was a great turnout. His parents, who he hasn't talked to in years were there. Too bad that's what had to bring them together. You could tell his father was full of grief for not talking to his son earlier. They had a few people sing and one friend of Eric's even pla...
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healthier routines for recovery
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sitting here thinking which can be dangerous that while there are daily crisis, insanity, depression, etc wouldn't it be helpful to have daily routines to be pro active using al anon tools for a good mind set rather than dig out the tools to use as needed the biggest goal to me is keeping the mind in reco...
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I need to breath....
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<deep breath in> <exxxxxhale>I told my AW yesterday afternoon that I want a divorce. It was hard for me to say those specific words. I used phrases like we are done. The marriage is done. Amazing how hard it is to say. I was wondering what would be best, one on one, or with a counselor p...
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Ok I got thru court
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The RO stands for me. It was modified so that he can see the kids. I did not want that as he only ever uses the kids to get to me. My lawyer is an idiot and said " It would Ok for Mr. Doofus's sister to contact her to arrange supervised visitation." I think I looked at him like he had 3 heads. Doofus ag...
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Bottomed Out
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I have been playing with Al-Anon for some time now- going to meetings for short spurts, then convincing myself that I can do it on my own. That everything will turn out alright. I have been trying to do it all on my own my whole life and it hardly seems to be working. My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me fo...
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accepting inappropriate behavior
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I think I have done this all my life. Sometimes Im not sure what it looks like. Other people say to me that they are upset by how I am treated, but Im not upset. So it makes me wonder if I am suppose to be upset. After my ex and I split for the last time. Well let me back up a bit, to be honest we have been divorced f...
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Taking a break
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(((((((((MIP Family))))))))) I am finding for me that I need to take a break from this for a bit. I will see you all the end of October. Live large, Laugh long and Love deeply. love you all, lilms
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update
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Ok so I had the talk with my hubby about divorce. I spoke to him Sunday and told him I thought that this would be the best thing. He didn't get angry, just very upset. (SAD) WE talked about the house, and everything else that goes with having a divorce. It was sooo wierd. never thought that it would come to t...
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Four day weekend coming up!
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Well, today was a good day. I usually feel that way when I cheat on my diet and eat sugar...LOL . I have the next 4 days off and am pondering what to do with myself. I think I'm going to clean, go to a movie and if the predicted rain doesn't come go to the beach. It would be a nice change to go alone without ha...
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Hmmm.... something to ponder upon
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((((Family))))), Good morning! I was just skimming over hubby's new meditation book when I came across this passage. Then when I opened up my email, lo and behold here was the same reading. I'd like to share it with you. HP trying to tell me something? "Practicing tolerance Everyone has a d...
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sad day :(
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Feeling quite sad today..had to take my beloved dog Sandy of 11 yrs to the vet. She was a16yr old Shephard/Akita mix. Today was her day to pass on. She was a wonderful friend. She saw me thru many a rough day with my AH(sober now). I got her when she was 5yrs old from my sister who was moving and didn't wa...
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Closed threads
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Hi group.... I just closed a few threads that were not about anything remotely close to why we are all here. Not taking sides or giving personal opinions on ANY of this latest controversy - let's just all get back to why we are here - to learn from each other, to grow in knowledge, to focus on our respectiv...
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JADE
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Hi
I was just reviewing David's review of alanon and some abbreviations commonly used.
I came across one I had not seen....JADE...justify,argue,defend,explain.
My first response was" I remember my Abf accusing me of these things in every discussion"....he would be so angry that...
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Small, Tiny Strides...Joyous Satisfaction
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Dear ((((Roomies))),
I wanted to share a small, but meaningful victory.
In my family, we are often so focused on my father, the A, that we neglected many daily self-care routines like brushing our teeth regularly, flossing, and because we were poor, there were many, many years when I didn't go to...
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September 9 Business Meeting Minutes
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Miracles in ProgressBusiness MeetingSeptember 9, 2007 The chair opened the meeting w/the Serenity Prayer. The room chair schedule and op responsibilities were posted. The August minutes were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions A rough draft of...
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Hurricane Humberto
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Good Morning all just now getting to work - had a little difficulty cause we had this small thing called Hurricane Humberto - holy cr#p. Those things are so unpredictable - yesterday afternoon it was heading toward SoutheastTexas and it was just a Tropical Storm - last night it goes a little more North...
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Lordy, Lordy, you'll never guess who's 40 !!!!!!
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A very special Happy Birthday to one of our dear veterans ~~~~ txmom aka Regina Happy Birthday ((((((((((((Regina)))))))))))))))))))))))), Eat lots and lots of for me and have a banner day . You are just entering the prime of your life Girlfriend. Much love, Maria
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getting closer....
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Tomorrow is Dday on my job decision....I have such a headache at the moment. My current company came back with an ok offer but while I was listening to it and their ideas i thought....I don't know about this. I do know I want to leave my current employer at some point. It is not a terrible place and I will...
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Consider this....
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I wish to thank all of you who have, on the board, and personally, supported me. I might just stay around after all. I am a big girl. "Stay your ass here!" "Don't back down." "We love you." "Please don't go." THose comments mean something. Something won...
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court tomarrow
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I have to go face him tomarrow in court. He gets to tell his side of the story. He has everyone fooled. Just like always. All I want is for him to leave me alone. I will need to leave this village. I have no peace anymore. I have fleeting moments of hope. But they are few and far between. I have called the domes...
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feeling a little wierd (going to visit my mom)
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this is a reply to one of my post from last week or somethng, but i didnt know whether anyone actually would see it since its from last week. anyway thanks you guys.. i appreciate the support and feedback ;) i have slacked off or took it easy for a couple days on looking back into my childhood and enjoyed a fe...
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Insanity at MIP
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((((((((MIP Family))))))) It is not often I say anything or pot stir but today I am going to do so. Very recently I have had the displeasure of reading posts that in my opinion contain downright bigotry. How disgusting!!! For the majority I can say that my stay on this board has been a safe experience. ...
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I will not return to MIP.
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Personal attacks are not a part of my lifestyle. I will not lower myself to sling mud at anyone. To all of you who I have loved, I wish you joy and peace. Thank you for two years of making my life more pleasant. Take good care, Diva
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Milwaukee???????
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Hi Folks, I am off for seven fun conference filled days in October. I am going to Milwaukee. Not wanting to spend all of my very little free time in a booze laden conference atmosphere I am looking for suggestions for the two evenings I will have that are not conference related. The only thing I know abo...
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Rosh Hashanah
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For those of you who are interested, the blowing of the shofar (ram's horn) begins the Jewish New Year at sundown this evening. It is called Rosh Hashanah. The year is 5768. THis is a month-long celebration of joy and prayer. So, Happy Rosh Hashanah to all. Diva
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And my response was...
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My AHsober called after a week. I am 2 1/2 weeks into recovery from my 2 shoulder surgeries. I have been getting rides from family and friends to my PT and doctors appointments 2 hours away. My AHsober showed up for 2 days and then left. When I told him that I was going to have surgery, he said he wished that...
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Do you believe in Karma?
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Just wondering ~ Lately I feel like all of the "bad" i've done in my life (mostly towards my "x") is coming back to me in subtle ways. I'm beginning to wonder about the idea of karma - what goes around comes around. Is this possible? Do you believe in this? I never used to but now I wond...
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awareness can be shocking
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I've been feeling the shock waves lately of awareness and it is exhausting still. Just taking it all in from a new vantage point, sifting through it as kindly as I can to myself yet I often ask how can a smart, kind and patient soul like me become so stupid. Not really kicking myself down, just more in awe of...
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I can't explain mericles
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"Oh Christ Dad, leave me alone!" That was my exact thought when I saw the number on my cell during class. Why am I leaving class to answer another drunken rant? I thought, Why? It wasn't Dad. It was the District Manager for Finish Line Foot Wear Store. The local mall is looking for a new mana...
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a few things
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went to a f2f meeting tonite. askedsomeone to be my temporary sponsor yeah....i have to call her tomorrow.... i am excited and scared at the same time, i have some pretty bad things i want to admit to and i dont know if it will be tomorrow that i will tell her but at least its a step. on the way home i told my hus...
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not giving into the dramarama
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The A did not get taken into custody yesterday. He's elected for a jury trial, signed up a public defender. I guess they are trying him as a felony. Who knows. I have given up asking and worrying about it. He showed up at my house last night after I had told him not to. I ignored his more than 15 messages. I gav...
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Being positive and the power of ME
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I'm getting caught up with reading posts as I have been away from the boards for a few days. The posts on positive thoughts really caught my attention as they confirmed a thought that was nagging at me during the night. Just what I needed to read! My AH and I went to a marriage program over the weekend and i...
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Still here... a quick update
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(((MIP Friends))) I have not had much time to post lately. Things at work have picked up since the kids went back to school. The financial stuff is still there but slowly getting worked out. I am also being sued on top of everything else from a car accident that occurred over a year and half ago. It's a...
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Doing the right thing?
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I'm getting down to making the right decision for me...trying to base it on what is in my best interest and best for me and my recovery. I've been presented with two job offers. The one out of state I let go. Although the company sounded ideal and I have friends close by, I am just not up for a major move. ...
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I lost another best friend :(
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My friend Eric passed away a week ago from congestive heart failure,(they just found him) which started in his liver due to drinking heavily earlier in his life. He died at 50. We have been best buds for 16 years. He went home to rest from not feeling well and he didnt call anyone, he didn't pick up his pay...
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Kim65 is ok
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Well as ok as you can be with eight puppies chewing on your toes... She sounds great, computer is being a poop. Our girl felt good that we cared. love,debilyn
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debilyn
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politics in al-anon
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i don't say this to offend anyone and i accept that this allegiance is close to your hearts but if we are following alanon principles and traditions here, then maybe this is not the appropriate forum for posts of this nature. please have a look at traditions 6 and 10, they may clarify why i bring this up. ...
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Parenting
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I have had some concerns about my kids since I moved out but it seems that our communication has gotten much better over the past year. I have noticed a lack of respect for eachother and me, ungreatful and just generally bad attitude, lack of compassion for others, etc. I saw this book yesterday that I...
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"I am right where I need to be.."
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Be grateful for where you are now. "It doesn't take as much faith to believe that everything happens for a reason as it does to embrace the belief that I am who and where I am now, today, for a reason - even if I don't know what that reason is and even if I don't particularly like who or where I am today, &q...
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Trying not to "isolate"
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I haven't posted here for a while and I've been away for a couple of weeks so I haven't been to my weekly alanon meetings (two/week)... and I'm feeling it. I haven't had my alanon support ~ and I am feeling quite alone. Sure, I could call (or SHOULD call) my sponsor or someone on my list but I don't. It a...
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Feeling immensely sad
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This afternoon the A goes to court. He is likely to go to jail. He has failed to appear a number of times and has a lot of charges in front of him. As he has no income he can't offer to pay any fine. Yesterday I spoke to him and he gave me the same old sing song about how I had let him down by this and that.
I found so...
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Kim65?
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Haven't seen you around in a bit, just wondering how you're doing?
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carolinagirl
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My Sister Was Murdered on August 28th, by her husband :(
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Life has been really rough this past week for me. As you most likely know by now, my dearest sister, Dee, was murdered by her husband of 26 years last Tuesday. I have spent the last week in Roanoke Va, struggling to get her life insurance to cover burial expenses, as her husband is listed as her benefic...
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testing, testing, 123...
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I think my HP is testing my patience today! I had an appointment today to take my computer in to the repair place to have them help me with some things regarding the fax program that I have and a few other things that I just couldn't figure out. The computer tech and his wife are new friends of ours, so the...
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In rememberance of 9/11
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(((((((Family))))))), In rememberance of those who gave their lives on 9/11 and to those who continue to fight all over the world so that evil doesn't win, as well as to their family and friends: I will light a candle, say a prayer, make sure my flag is flying and practice a random act of kindness or two i...
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Karilynn
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general request
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So the MIP board is a very big help for me I am a night owl but my eyes tire before the rest of me tires. (-: After reading posts I am almost crosseyed - lol uh, can you tell I might be 39 ... or 49 again? so I have, I hope, a reasonable request After three to five sentences, could some of you leave a couple line spa...
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Lyrics....more
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I'm really excited to see the post about lyrics. They have had a very profound impact on me this week. I'm making a trip to see a dear close friend from HS. Not really sure if I should be making this trip. Especially after some roadblocks put in the way. I seriously questioned my will vs thy will, as di...
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I am soooo confused!
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I haven't posted in a while, I have been sucked back in and though I knew better I still let it happen and now I don't know which way to go. My axbf lives only six streets from me. His eight year old son is holding me more than he is, He has turned into someone I don't know and don't know if I want to be around him. H...
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shame spiral
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just wanting to share, i've been caught in a pattern of comparing and self- criticsim since an old freind visited 2 weeks ago. in my mind i want to see her as the loving one, i've invested in this belief about her, as have other freinds. but when she visited she was talking about freinds as having low or hi...
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florrie
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I definately need y'all on this one...
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Hello, I got your phone call. I have taken off Sunday the 21st[of Oct] to spend with you and John before you leave. I'm going to ask in the future that rather than saying things such as that you're looking forward to hearing about possible job interviews that you wait for me to discuss my employmen...
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Tiger2006
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Songs by The Eagles and how I see them today
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Awhile ago a member started a post about lyrics and a few responses said that they felt The Eagles wrote a lot about recovery or as I see the lack thereof. These are a few of their songs (I had to chuckle!) Take It Easy Already GoneTequila SunriseWitchy WomanOutlaw ManPeaceful Easy FeelingWasted TimeI...
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How did I become this?
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Sometimes I sit and wonder, how did I get like this? I feel so much better now but I feel like a whole different person. How did I turn into that other person? In some ways I am still that person with my kids but I remember being 19 and carefree. I remember other people's problems being their problems an...
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carolinagirl
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