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I'm getting down to making the right decision for me...trying to base it on what is in my best interest and best for me and my recovery. I've been presented with two job offers. The one out of state I let go. Although the company sounded ideal and I have friends close by, I am just not up for a major move. I'm now down to the corporate high stress job or staying where I am at.
As I've worked through the process, the issue is coming down to the money. The corporate job is a huge increase in pay and benefits - though there would be travel, stress in commuting and lots of structure. It has its pros and cons. I spoke with my current employer yesterday to advise him of the offer and that I would be making a decision in 24 hours. I work for a small agency, a company of 8 and sometimes dysfunctional, sometimes it feels like an alcohlic home but I am learning to function in healthy ways despite that.
He said "Go for it" immediately and then we talked about whether the corporate environment would be agreeable to me. It is truly coming down to pay. This morning I woke up and thought, go for it myself. Got to work and loved that I have lots of freedom, I have an open flexible work schedule, I can work from home if I need to, I can wear whatever I feel comfortable in and I can walk outside into nature in a heart beat. So I talked to my boss again this morning and said if they could increase my base pay to X amount, that would help me with my decision.
I'm getting closer to my comfort level with my decision and truly ask myself at each moment, is this good for ME. I will know at the end of the day what they decide and I know that I need to be firm in what I want and will accept.
I often bring too many people into my decisions and get confused AND I take the As selfish feelings about what he wants to heart. This ihas tough but a good challenge for me. My HP is helping through this....it has been so challenging for me but I'm making my way through this without getting totally overwhelmed and overly emotional. Thank you for your support!
I don't have any advice. I just wanted to let you know that we are here for you whatever you choose to do. I'm sure you will make the right decision after you look at everything. Good luck hun.
Good for you, for asking for a raise. Whatever the response, you valued yourself enough to ask for it, to make the most informed decision you can in this situation. On the one hand these decisions are very hard, but on the other hand it really is a blessing to have these options! I try never to burn bridges, so if I make the wrong decision, I still have options. It sounds like you do the same.
Hope you and your HP figure this one out and you enjoy the results!
Seems like alot of us are in transition and thinking about making a change. I live in a small town and think that my company is soooo dysfunctional that I just need to leave. Everyone else must work for great company's. Thanks for the comparison of working in an environment that resembles an alcoholic home. So true for me. Need to update that resume
