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Tomorrow is Dday on my job decision....I have such a headache at the moment. My current company came back with an ok offer but while I was listening to it and their ideas i thought....I don't know about this. I do know I want to leave my current employer at some point. It is not a terrible place and I will be ok for a while if I stay but it is an unhealthy environment. So now back to the other offer on my plate which I need to decide on by tomorrow.... it is just such an unknown and I'm really terrified of making the wrong decision. A balanced life is important to me - making friends, socializing, going to Al-Anon and a new bible study I joined are important. But the money and beneifts of this company far exceed anything I've ever been offered. I don't know how much I'll be traveling and the hours will vary from 8-5 to 9-6 and beyond. I'll have an hour commute. I'm really afraid it will affect my after hours must haves. Money isn;t everything but if I can have it and still have a balanced life. I just don't know how demanding this is going to be. I have such mixed feelings.
My options are to 1/ take the job and just see what happens 2/keep looking and find something more local to the area and without travel
So torn - how do you help yourself and what do you do in these situations. I'm praying daily. I'm glad I've gotten this far and am having the conversations I need to along the way. Thanks for any input....I'm getting too stressed with this.
Well now that is a dilema , and both positve . If you took the new job can u move closer to it cutting the comute a little ? it sounds really good for you . Great benefits , good money etc . Al-Anon is everywhere I am sure u can find a meeting in new location . And since u have already made some big decissions regarding the course your life is going to take , making new friends and finding a bible study should be a snap hehe good luck Louise
Is there anyway you could just take a leave from your current job without technically quitting? Go to work at the other job for a week and see if it feels ok for you? Your in a really tough spot and it sounds like you need to try it to make sure. I wish I had advice for you. I know that sometimes praying about it may help you. Lots of luck sweetie.
Ya know, for me, change is scary. I don't do change very well. Especially when it threatens my current securities. And risks are not even something I am willing to contemplate. Big ol' scaredy cat here. LOL.
When I make am looking at making a big decision in my life, I really have to weigh those pros & cons and hash it out for a while. What will I gain and what will I lose if I make this change. I actually turned down a big paying job years ago b/c it had the same possibilities you are describing. It was a longer commute, more demanding, screwy hours and too much possibility for travel (even over seas). "Have kids, don't travel" was always my slogan at job interviews. LOL. Plus I am deathly afraid of flying or leaving the country period. LOL. So I turned down that job and stayed put. Turned out to be a good decision for me and I am glad I made it. But trust me when I say that I definately had to put serious thought into what I expected out of life and a job. For me, work is just that - work. It a necessity to pay the bills. That is it. Relative peace in a job is important but more importantly is the peace I can find outside of work and if work interferes w/that personal peace, then that is when I am willing to make serious changes.
LOL...hmmmm....does my post kind of point out that I have some serious fear issues??? LOL. Reckon I need to take stock in myself a bit and work on them.
I think I'd find a forest, walk back far enough that I was sure I was alone and plop down under a tree and just chill for a while. Then when my mind was a bit calmer I'd visualize what I wanted out of life and where I wish to be. Which of the two jobs would better help me get there? Could I use the hour commute productively or would it be a pain? Would I enjoy the travel and look at it as an adventure or would it be a pain too? Could the new job lead me to a new path or job? Is there advancement in either job? Would the new job allow you to do things with your family ($$$ vacations) that you can't do now? Can I get where I want to be in the old job?
More money usually means more opportunity no matter how you look at it. Opportunity to do more and with for your family too. You may not be able to be with them as much on a daily...but could you then afford a quality get away weekend?
Just throwin stuff out there... Christy
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