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Feeling Let Down
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 I am sitting here feeling so let down by my "A." He is so smart he is actually dumb. We are in the middle of doing some minor fix ups on our house, and he is doing nothing but drinking more and more. Yesterday I explained to him if the drinking continues we are wasting our time fixing up a ho...
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In the emotional soup trying to dig out..
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Hi Friends,
I had an incredibly emotional weekend with myself and my children. I was able to post on Saturday evening and received some good support. Thank you. My "a" has moved on and living with another woman, driving her car with out a license and endangering himself and her a...
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well I have an oppostie problem of most Alanon's this Vday.
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Yesterday my A tells me, if someone comes to the door tomorrow answer it. Hmmm.... am I getting a gift or divorce papers? Personally I'm not sure which would be worse. The papers because then I didn't file myself (weird thought huh?) or receiving a gift.
I don't know if it's a codie thing or experien...
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The pattern is becoming clear
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I know I've been on here a lot and I know all my posts are so long. I'm starting to come to a realization about my situation and my alcoholic husband. When I first met him two and a half years ago, I thought he was wonderful. He told me what a witch his ex-wife was and how he's had so many psycho girlfriends in th...
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painfully
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When I thought my boyfriend now husband was going to go to jail for ten years and I wasn’t over my ex boyfriend I sleep with ex boyfriend him a couple of times. My boyfriend now husband told me that he wasn’t mad because he knew this guy was taking advantage of me. He told me to let it go. I was angry with myself...
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Vacation nearly over
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Well, my *a* has been away in Mexico for a week with a coworker, and I think I got more relaxation out of this week than he did 
Sure gives you some space to think and clear your head when your *a* is out of the picture for a while....the question is what do you do with your newly cleared head...
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Is this day over yet?
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Whoops...I don't know what happened. I just posted a note, but it never hit the board. I hope it doesn't post twice.
I was saying that it's just after 7 pm here and I can't wait for this day to be over. It's been almost a month since my A husband moved out. It's been harder and more lonely than I ever imagine...
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HAPPY LOVE DAY!!!!
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hi guys
happy LOVE DAY to all!!! well the worst work in my house re-decor is over and i feel like rigormortis is setting in my tired body!!!
i checked my pulse this am to see if i was still alive!!!
the place (floors) looks great!!! i'll tell ya, i was...
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If you are solid in the program, I could sure use your help.
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I am wavering so bad with the alanon principles.
I asked my husband not to come home today. I don't want to see him today. I am so angry that all the things I do to try to make our marraige, home, and family better are useless.
Because of alanon I stopped trying to change his alcohol use.&n...
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Question stemming from confusion
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So, we go through this program to make ourselves better whether or not we stay with our A. I'm chosing to stay with my A right now, so how does that work with disciplining the children? I tend to think he's hard and unreasonable. However, I can be just the oposite, letting things just...
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Split again???
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Working with an alcoholic is hopeless.
I tried to come up with a comprimize, tried to change my behavior, tried to let his behaviour go, nothing works!
It is valentine's day, and I asked him not to come home today.
Tomorrow, I will make a new decision.
I need to figure out if this is worth doing.&...
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Restraining order
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My dad made me go and file for a restraining order today, in case my AH was to come back to this state to try to get in contact with the kids. I didn't want to do this, and the reason is because if for some reason he comes back to defend himself at the next court date which is in 14 days, I will have...
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he's in love
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I am trying to remember if anyone else has ever talked about this.
My A is staying at his friends mom's house with his friend. They are out in the
garage. He calls this friend his, "budi" his "partner." Makes me ill.
I mean they are in trouble together and everything else together. Where one go...
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At a loss
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Well, I am new here, I see all of you and the stories sound all too familiar. I can say that I have gotten strength from knowing I'm not alone. Although I am alone in my life a lot of the time. My A chooses to go out drinking, and not stay home, he currently has a court date for the last drink...
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Freedom
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This was the topic in my Friday night face to face meeting.
The leader of the meeting had an eloquent share and then we all shared
This weekend I watched my 3 nephews while my brother and his wife spent a romantic weekend in Florida.
They are teenagers, 12, 14, and 16.
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megan
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Doesn't matter where...
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we get the messages - just so long as we get the message.
Tonight I was putting youngest to bed and he did not want to sleep in his room because of nightmares last night. To take his mind of the nightmares and ease the fear I read him a story (something I admit to not doing enough of). As I am rea...
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no one to love
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i have been keeping myself busy the past few days, and it feels great! i have not thought about my dad and worrying about him. but today something changed. i know it probably sounds corney, but i feel for him today. it's valentine's day, and everyone should have someone that loves them. i have my sister,...
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willngness to surrender
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Willingness to surrender, a willingness give up & into the process of life & the Program.
It is so irritating the way other ppl chime in with their two cents & tell you how you should be living your life or what u should be doing, when their lives are in no state of 'model perfection.' ...
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Deailing with your "A"
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So, I've now had my most recent "A" boyfriend out of my life, for the most part, for 6 weeks. I've had no contact with him and things have been going really well. However, last week a financial matter came up that we were both responsible for. We thought that it was taken care of up as it turns out, we owe mone...
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Happy Valentines Day
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Happy Valentines Day to everyone - thanks for the love and support you have all given me!!
Cynthia
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Time for truth
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I have been doing a lot of reading and thanks for all the feedback you have provided. I have a question....
For those living with an active A who does not think treatment for them is an option... Following the guidelines to make you better. Keeping in mind the 3Cs, detatching from...
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this helps me
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i have been trying to stay positive. sometimes it just seems like it is more work to smile than to just sit here and complain. so i have been trying to find motivational things that cheer me up...
ONE THING YOU CAN LEARN BY WATCHING THE CLOCK IS THAT IT PASSES TIME BY KEEPING ITS HANDS BUSY.--i find that i...
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what is a defect of character?
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Before we go putting ourselves down even more, thinking we really arent worthy of life, can someone please explain "defect of character"?
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Barbara
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progress again...
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just wanted to update you all. it's been a little over two weeks since my a has went to stay at his mother's. he did slip, which i knew, drank and did coke again, and we had a long talk today. i told him i really hope for his sake whether we have a future or not that he can get back on the aa track and if he does to cal...
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This board is a good reminder for me
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Even though I broke up with my ex 3 months ago - doesnt mean I am truly over him. I thought I was so much further along than I really am. I am so busy doing my three jobs and living my life that I thought he was a distant memory. But not so much. Seems that I put him on the backburner eve...
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Tradition and Concept Question
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Hello all- I have a question..
Anyone know how I may tie in Tradition 2 with Concept 4 ??? I am drawing a blank with this. Or what does Tradition2 and Concept 4 mean to you? 
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tea2
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olline sponcer?
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Hello everyone, I've been attending weekly Al-anon meetings since May. I need to find a sponcer now but my options are limited. I live in a remote area and the meeting I go to is 35 miles away. There is only one other male that attends reguarly. So I asked myself, why not look for an online sponcer? Is that e...
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I think I'm finally grieving
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Hello all,
I never get to post on the weekends because I don't have a computer, but I'm hiding out at my brother's and felt I needed to vent. Yesterday was an extremely emotional day. My "a" has moved out but the kicker is he's hooked up with an unsuspecting female at work and has obviously...
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Another New Direction
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Isn't it funny how those new opportunities or directions in your life just seem to appear out of thin air? I am grateful that I have been able to grow through my participation in this program, or I would be completely lost in a maze of emotions right now. Not to say that what I am facing will be easy by any mea...
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Furious
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I am so furious that my hands are shaking as I type this. I had set a little bit of money aside and planned on going grocery shopping today. I just went into my purse to get the money and $100.00 was gone. Of course he had no idea were it went. He hadn't seen it. He was the only...
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Thanks to all
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Just wanted to thank all who post here.
This site has been a tremendous help to me in my recovery.
Such experience, warmth and non-judgemental people.
I am glad I found you all.
Thanks for your service.
In Recovery,
Doxie
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doxie
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is this healthy?
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i have not thought about my dad in a few days. i have just been doing "my thing" for the past couple of days. it kind of feels good, not to be wondering and worrying about him. but in the same breathe, i wonder if it is ok. what am i doing? why break the chain today? is this normal?
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support system
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I have come a long way. I have a good support system set up. When I first came in didn't have any girlfriends. I didn't leave my husband side. I would call him all the time, follow him around every minutue of the day. I didn't feel comfortable leaving his side for any amount of time. The only time I was...
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For Leo
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Leo,
Sorry for the delay... I finally read your question about the Seven Weeks to Sobriety program.
The book is by Joan Mathews-Larson and explains how she began to search for a new rehabilitation program after her son had gone through so many failing attempts and tried to kill hims...
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continual challenge
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click on attachment for reading from forum on continual chalenge,love angel oops forgot to upload -- Edited by angel123 at 00:51, 2006-02-13
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turning it over
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click on the link good reading from Forum about turning it over hope you enjoy,love Sharon/angel
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Spiritual energy - Higher Power
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"There are three common places where spiritual energy is stored in great abundance: loneliness, failure and fear. We have to be lead there, because we will never go at our own initiative. These will first feel like descending, or the loss of energy. Only over time will we recognize a new aliveness and...
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feeling different
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well this whole situation has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for me. my a has been gone for a little over two weeks, staying at his mothers. i had a really hard time, praying for him to come home, and thinking of ways i could fix this. he was doing meetings and trying to work a program. so i wanted to ma...
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a quote to share
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We eventually realize that just as the pains of alcoholism had to come before sobriety, emotional turmoil comes before serenity. *
I ws reading some posts on the AA board, trying to get some insight into this cunning, insidious and baffling disease and came across this quote.
Don't know why but t...
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I don't believe his leaving is a result of his alcoholism/addictions
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I had a friend tell me something today that kind of hit me and made a lot of sense. First off, for those of you not familiar with my situation, to sum it all up in a nut shell: My A of 16 years (and 4 kids) took a good job offer in another state to try out, and if he liked, would move us all down there.&...
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Besides Courage to Change what would you suggest for 2nd book?
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If I was to buy another book (I have Courage to Change) what would you suggest?
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Barbara
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Sunday 7pm meeting coverage
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Hi Ops
If someone can cover my 7pm meeting I would appreciate it I am running late watching my nephews.
If not, there will be a delayed start.
thanks for your patience
megan
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Talking to our sponsor
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Have had an situation come up recently NOT related to alcoholism but still involving chinging my attitude and working an honest program. This is an honest program and we don't use our sponsors as "the good angel" sitting on the right shoulder. But our sponsors can help us work things out...
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A Special Sunday "Meeting"
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Howdy yall!
Well I went to a meeting of my other program this morning (church that is..he he) and was sure glad I didnt pick today to sleep late!!!
The person who normally leads our "meetings" is on vacation week, so a "guest speaker" was there for us today. This man is retired from leading "meet...
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Granny Ill Me Confused - Suggestions?
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I don't know where else to post this - I can really relate to some of the posts here & I feel in a way this is similar. So maybe some of you will have some suggestions?
I'm currently living with my parents (one of the worst decisions I ever took, but it was a learning experience as well). They're not alc...
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Who will ever be there for me?
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I am so frustrated! My mom is in the hospital 1 mile from my house and I cannot go there to be with her! I have several friends who live less than 5 miles away and I can get no one to call me back to watch my 4 year old while I check on my mother. The hospital does not allow any kids under the age...
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bummer and gratitude
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I'm a little bummed today. At my F2F this afternoon one of the Alanoners invited us all to their place to watch a tape of someone in our group on TV. (can't say who what when or channel of course, LOL )
I just couldn't go. It would have been a blast!
But hey, I have to be grateful that I found such a grea...
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How do I stop worrying?
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My husband came home today with his paycheck...but I am worried that he will slip out after I go to sleep tonight. My ex said he would bring my daughter tonight between 5-6pm...it's 5:22pm and they aren't here yet. What if they don't come? I worry over everything. I don't kno...
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sorry i just can not stop drinking
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help me please! i am in pain! tell me what i should do expect drinking alcoho............
i can not talk to my sponser she must sleeping now and she is sleeping..what i am suppose to do? i can not get beer or anything let me forget the pain .tell me what i should do?i want to fall asleep and wake up in...
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i have an idea - please read
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I have been reading and posting on this site for about 6 months now. About 2 months ago I started attending f2f meetings and have been doing so since, at least 2 a week. I am building a strong support system for myself, when I choose to reach out to it, which I am still having trouble doing.&nb...
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Crap
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I am so tired. I feel like I'm starting all over again. I took a lot of crap yesterday and I carried it around like it was gold in a basket. I'm so tired.
I'm starting all over again with step one...not like I've not done this a hundred times. I'm so powerless. It'...
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trying to get out of a slump and get more positive
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How do you pull yourself out of a slump? I just read Courage to Change "Let Go and Let God". Found a few readings helpful. How do you change your attitude? Physically Im starting to feel better. Spiritually I know my brother is in Gods hands.
There's something coming up in my life in March that Im...
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MY DAUGHTER CAME!!!!
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My daughter got here (3 hours late), but her daddy brought her. In fact, his girlfriend and their three other children came as well. It was a nice visit, but not long enough. She enjoyed her gifts. I missed Christmas and her birthday with her so had all of her gifts. Som...
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Rain Rain go AWAY
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The saying when it rains it's pours seems so fitting for this Washingtonian. This has not been the best week of my life. My plate is so full that it feels it will crack and crumble at any moment. First the A with the relapse, his attitude of knowing he can control it now. I was in bed sick...
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Interesting Site
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Merry Go Round Named Denial www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm note spelling
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Blizzard Buddies
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(((((((((Roomies))))))))))))),
To all of you who are in the path of the Noreaster/Blizzard please be safe. Hunker down with a good book, lots of blankets, good food and warm beverages. Let us know how you make out, we'll be thinking of you.
Please don't travel if you don't have to. Wouldn't wan...
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I bought the paint
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I went to bed last night excited that I saw my daughter, but focusing on the fact that it was such a short visit. I should have been focusing on the fact I get to visit at all.
I tried to stay up with my husband until he fell asleep because I was afraid he would use last night. I don't know why I fe...
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missylost
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Hey gang,
I just wanted to let y'all know that Missy is struggling here lately. She's lost her internet connection and thus her connection to us. So please keep her in your prayers and if someone wants to give me a call, send me a PM for her number.
I've often wondered where we'd be witho...
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Maria123
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My Favorite Prayers
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For the Alcoholic: GOD BLESS HIM, GOD KEEP HIM, GOD SAVE ME! 
Me: ;  
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Calm before the next storm
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The cycle of life with my A goes like this: he drinks, then starts drinking more, then starts badgering me about everything, then spends more time in the bar, makes mean comments to and about my son, and then there is a huge blow up when I can't take it anymore. The blow-up happened Wednesday night and yes...
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