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i have been keeping myself busy the past few days, and it feels great! i have not thought about my dad and worrying about him. but today something changed. i know it probably sounds corney, but i feel for him today. it's valentine's day, and everyone should have someone that loves them. i have my sister, my brother, my mom, my wonderful hubbie, and my 2 great kids. i am so blessed to have all these loving people around me. but my dad has no one, but it is by his choice. we have broken off all contact with him, and he doesn't care. he barely even flinched when we walked out a few weeks ago. so today i am just trying to imagine what it must be like for him. to know that no one is calling him to say "i love you." no one is going to take him out to dinner. no one to talk to, to share with, to love.
i'm not saying any of this to convince myself to call him. i don't want to, and am standing my ground and trying to stay strong for myself and my family. but it kind of hurts knowing that he has no one. he did this...not me.
that doesn't change the fact that i love him, but i feel sorry for him. there is a saying i posted before: "THOSE WHO DESERVE LOVE THE LEAST-NEED IT THE MOST" i read that and think i should be there for him, but i can't. it's not fair to me, my family, and (in a sick way)my dad.
so i'll secretly blow him a kiss knowing that no one knows but me. maybe that will help me get through this day.
happy v-day, everyone! hope you all have been blessed with loved ones the way i have.
My dad is exactly the same. The only problem is my mom will suffer, he's at the stage where he doesn't care if were in his life. However my mother has made her choice to stay. I feel sorry for her because he won't even realize what day it is and I know even after all these years she will be hurt. If they don't care, nothing you can do about it. Stay strong, it was his choice and you made yours.
