Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Powerless · Powerless

I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...

annah · annah

Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...

Tammy · Tammy

Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...

rtexas · rtexas

I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...

Christy · Christy

I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy

bobump · bobump

Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob

moto · moto

I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...

bobump · bobump

We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...

Powerless · Powerless

I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...

Jayda · Jayda

Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...

kitty · kitty

okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08

Jayda · Jayda

"Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)

Jeannie · Jeannie

Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...

hudsond · hudsond

Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...

Sondee · Sondee

I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...

kitty · kitty

It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...

rtexas · rtexas

I asked the questions of myself ... Why do I feel this way, why is my life in such chaos, why do the A's/Addicts in my life do what they do? Why do I react the way I do to them? I haven't let my HP have much room in my life in a long time. I have a real problem with the difference between believing in...

cdb · cdb

It is sure hard keeping my heart open and my mouth shut but I am doing the best I can. I know my daughter's hormones are out of wack but there has always been a worry that she may have another mental disease going on besides depression. Any continued prayers are appreciated. If I didn't know people were pra...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

www.wandascountryhomeinspirational.com/butterflyfree/ Type in if link doesn't work.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...

ditto · ditto

I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...

tk47834 · tk47834

I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...

gardengal · gardengal

I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...

mastiff · mastiff

I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...

nycbt · nycbt

I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...

rtexas · rtexas

My uncle (recovering A/addict) died over the weekend. He had so many serious health issues to to years of Heroin and A abuse that it was not totally a shock (even at 50). It hit me hard when I heard for 2 reasons. The first of course is because he was my favorite uncle growing up a...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok now A and his friend are kicked out of the friends moms house as of tomorrow. So who does he call? Me. Is telling me he might have to move into my barn. I said no way. I kept thinking and saying I can't have you here, you could hurt me. Just kept saying all the reasons why I had to say no. Then I tol...

mastiff · mastiff

This is not CAL approved literature, take what you like and leave the rest here. I picked this up at an open aa meeting, and it is from " the Moral and Spiritual Values in Educations, used by the Los Angeles City Schools as part of their educational program." I found this really helpful in determ...

Christy · Christy

I'm not sure what to report here as Dr.'s aren't able to figure out what is going on either. The good news is hubby is not in renal failure at this time, they were able to bring his potassium down to a more reasonable level with meds and insulin. High potassium causes, lethargy, confusion, swollen join...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hello friends, Just another reminder about the group inventory. The website is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool t...

debilyn · debilyn

TT I keep wondering how you are and did you go to court? I hope you are ok. Please, please post. love,debilyn

Barbara · Barbara

how long has it taken for them to respond?

rtexas · rtexas

You know... I have to say that my wife does do everything and I don't know that it's better. She gets off work at 4PM and I get home at 6PM each day. She has super cooked every day when I get there, which is odd since my son has normally already eaten something, and she drinks her supper most ni...

debilyn · debilyn

You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never thought about. Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of things that need to be done. I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can st...

Powerless · Powerless

Thank you for those who helped me think more clearly last night. You were right, I knew what to do, but had a difficult time doing it. I find that is generally the case. So I knew he had taken pills, what difference would have made if he had admitted it except it's something else to thro...

tea2 · tea2

In our meeting closing a part of it reads: Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. Here is my question-- How would you handle the Talk to each o...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband came home from an errand today and after about 30 minutes I was the signs that he had taken pills. Probably Xanax. His speech was slurred, his mood was volatile and he was in a daze. He swore he had not taken anything. I know I shouldn't have asked him in the first plac...

Christy · Christy

I took hubby to ER this morning at 9, he is in renal failure.. HP stepped in again to get him there. I took his blood pressure because he kept asking me the same questions over and over.. His BP was 47/70 They are doing everything possible to turn things around but we just don't know this time how things wi...

confused · confused

Today I am just so sad. As I have been the last week or so. I have been trying to pinpoint the why and just cannot seem to. Well, I guess I can, but just do not want to admit it. I miss my husband so much. I am lonely. So I look at our situation and try to see how things have...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, It never ceases to amaze me how delusional an A can become. We've had a few rough days here, nothing major, just the same old nonsence. Last night I ordered Pizza, it was Friday and we give up meat on Fridays for lent. My husband was drinking and groaning about having plain pizza, but I igno...

Barbara · Barbara

Made it to my Sat morn f2f after driving around construction and driving through traffic. Then the waitress at Dunkin Donuts decided to go for a break just as I came up to her counter. Oh well I made it to my meeting. I didnt get a raffle ticket but the lady next to me did. She won a book of her choice. Asked who...

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	So many Blessings (Preview) I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...	Powerless	1	333	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	why did I choose the A (Preview) My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...	maresie	3	693	Mar 9, 2006 by Sondee
	Breaking the behavior the negative pattern (Preview) ''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...	Hopefloats	9	557	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Expectations vs boundaries (Preview) Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...	annah	6	802	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Feeling better (Preview) I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...	Powerless	3	334	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Confused (Preview) Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...	Tammy	9	412	Mar 8, 2006 by marmare
	yes, the SWEETNESS of surrender (Preview) Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...	rosie light shines	3	468	Mar 8, 2006 by kitty
	It's time to fight for my boundaries (Preview) Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...	twinmom2	9	468	Mar 8, 2006 by emma
	guys in your f2f meetings... (Preview) I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...	rtexas	12	502	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	Thursday A.M. Chairperson needed (Preview) I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy	Christy	2	396	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	A little late but... appreciate some quick prayers. :) (Preview) Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob	bobump	14	453	Mar 8, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Looking for a male sponsor (Preview) I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...	moto	0	331	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	ATTN GUYS - MIP Men's Meetings (Preview) We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...	bobump	8	582	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	My new soap opera situation (Preview) Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...	sdisnie	6	489	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	Good Morning, God! HP! (Preview) This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...	wallsal55	0	304	Mar 8, 2006 by wallsal55
	i had to change my eyes (Preview) MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. *This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm* There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...	rosie light shines	4	404	Mar 8, 2006 by alystylz
	Having a problem with detaching (Preview) I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...	Powerless	6	452	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Discouraged Again (Preview) Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...	Jayda	3	417	Mar 8, 2006 by TLC2
	hmm (Preview) okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08	kitty	1	378	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Life isn't fair... (Preview) "Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...	Jayda	1	419	Mar 8, 2006 by Christy
	MONDAY A.M. ALANON MTG (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	357	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	I'm not a nice person (Preview) Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...	Jeannie	13	640	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	when life gives you lemons (Preview) Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...	hudsond	10	520	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	A is back home (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...	Karilynn	7	413	Mar 8, 2006 by tea2
	AH came back after 3 months (Preview) Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...	sdisnie	6	436	Mar 8, 2006 by nmike
	Feeling calm after the loss (Preview) Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...	cdb	24	706	Mar 8, 2006 by Jayda
	Twisting emotions (Preview) I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...	Sondee	4	540	Mar 7, 2006 by Sondee
	who does it hurt? (Preview) i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...	flintfeet	3	443	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
	rocky times (Preview) It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...	kitty	4	394	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
	I guess I asked for it... (Preview) I asked the questions of myself ... Why do I feel this way, why is my life in such chaos, why do the A's/Addicts in my life do what they do? Why do I react the way I do to them? I haven't let my HP have much room in my life in a long time. I have a real problem with the difference between believing in...	rtexas	3	422	Mar 7, 2006 by just me
	Daughter acting manic :( (Preview) It is sure hard keeping my heart open and my mouth shut but I am doing the best I can. I know my daughter's hormones are out of wack but there has always been a worry that she may have another mental disease going on besides depression. Any continued prayers are appreciated. If I didn't know people were pra...	cdb	10	558	Mar 7, 2006 by cdb
	Inspirational Page...turn it over (Preview) www.wandascountryhomeinspirational.com/butterflyfree/ Type in if link doesn't work.	wallsal55	2	378	Mar 7, 2006 by myst n rayne
	give the problem over and let it STAY there (Preview) hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...	rosie light shines	1	440	Mar 7, 2006 by KathyS
	A sad understanding (Preview) I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...	ditto	3	488	Mar 7, 2006 by chris52
	support group (Preview) I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...	tk47834	5	424	Mar 7, 2006 by tk47834
	Courage To Change March 8th and 9th (Preview) MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...	Debbie Lee	0	992	Mar 7, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	WAITING & IMPATIENCE (Preview) I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...	gardengal	1	610	Mar 7, 2006 by nmike
	25 days (Preview) It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...	jrtjosey	12	715	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	My teen angels (Preview) I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...	Jeannie	7	530	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	I can't believe I let it happen again (Preview) I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...	JulieLynn	7	526	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	keeping the focus and Letting it begin with me (Preview) I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...	mastiff	5	431	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	I think I'm finally done (Preview) In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...	twinmom2	5	772	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	Feeling alone (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...	Diane43	5	387	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	My Awsome time (Preview) I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...	nycbt	7	398	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	When it rains it pours... (Preview) My uncle (recovering A/addict) died over the weekend. He had so many serious health issues to to years of Heroin and A abuse that it was not totally a shock (even at 50). It hit me hard when I heard for 2 reasons. The first of course is because he was my favorite uncle growing up a...	rtexas	3	383	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	hp give me strength (Preview) Ok now A and his friend are kicked out of the friends moms house as of tomorrow. So who does he call? Me. Is telling me he might have to move into my barn. I said no way. I kept thinking and saying I can't have you here, you could hurt me. Just kept saying all the reasons why I had to say no. Then I tol...	debilyn	10	680	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	emotional maturity (Preview) This is not CAL approved literature, take what you like and leave the rest here. I picked this up at an open aa meeting, and it is from " the Moral and Spiritual Values in Educations, used by the Los Angeles City Schools as part of their educational program." I found this really helpful in determ...	mastiff	3	3554	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	Update/hubby/ICU (Preview) I'm not sure what to report here as Dr.'s aren't able to figure out what is going on either. The good news is hubby is not in renal failure at this time, they were able to bring his potassium down to a more reasonable level with meds and insulin. High potassium causes, lethargy, confusion, swollen join...	Christy	9	581	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	Group Inventory (Preview) Hello friends, Just another reminder about the group inventory. The website is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool t...	bob6502	0	382	Mar 6, 2006 by bob6502
	TT (Preview) TT I keep wondering how you are and did you go to court? I hope you are ok. Please, please post. love,debilyn	debilyn	1	475	Mar 6, 2006 by Jill
	once youve contacted person to be your sponsor (Preview) how long has it taken for them to respond?	Barbara	6	337	Mar 6, 2006 by KathyS
	My A does everything around the house... (Preview) You know... I have to say that my wife does do everything and I don't know that it's better. She gets off work at 4PM and I get home at 6PM each day. She has super cooked every day when I get there, which is odd since my son has normally already eaten something, and she drinks her supper most ni...	rtexas	3	552	Mar 6, 2006 by Jeannie
	loved your responses/more (Preview) You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never thought about. Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of things that need to be done. I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can st...	debilyn	2	503	Mar 6, 2006 by cdb
	Letting go of the anger (Preview) Thank you for those who helped me think more clearly last night. You were right, I knew what to do, but had a difficult time doing it. I find that is generally the case. So I knew he had taken pills, what difference would have made if he had admitted it except it's something else to thro...	Powerless	3	540	Mar 6, 2006 by mastiff
	a Question on the Al-Anon Closing (Preview) In our meeting closing a part of it reads: Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. Here is my question-- How would you handle the Talk to each o...	tea2	12	3727	Mar 6, 2006 by cdb
	I can't help myself...can you help me? (Preview) My husband came home from an errand today and after about 30 minutes I was the signs that he had taken pills. Probably Xanax. His speech was slurred, his mood was volatile and he was in a daze. He swore he had not taken anything. I know I shouldn't have asked him in the first plac...	Powerless	5	554	Mar 6, 2006 by leo
	ER again/renal failure (Preview) I took hubby to ER this morning at 9, he is in renal failure.. HP stepped in again to get him there. I took his blood pressure because he kept asking me the same questions over and over.. His BP was 47/70 They are doing everything possible to turn things around but we just don't know this time how things wi...	Christy	22	660	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	hate where i am today (Preview) Today I am just so sad. As I have been the last week or so. I have been trying to pinpoint the why and just cannot seem to. Well, I guess I can, but just do not want to admit it. I miss my husband so much. I am lonely. So I look at our situation and try to see how things have...	confused	8	477	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	So delusional (Preview) Hi everyone, It never ceases to amaze me how delusional an A can become. We've had a few rough days here, nothing major, just the same old nonsence. Last night I ordered Pizza, it was Friday and we give up meat on Fridays for lent. My husband was drinking and groaning about having plain pizza, but I igno...	Jeannie	11	528	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	"the day that was meant to be" making progress (Preview) Made it to my Sat morn f2f after driving around construction and driving through traffic. Then the waitress at Dunkin Donuts decided to go for a break just as I came up to her counter. Oh well I made it to my meeting. I didnt get a raffle ticket but the lady next to me did. She won a book of her choice. Asked who...	Barbara	3	626	Mar 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
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