Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...

ditto · ditto

I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...

tk47834 · tk47834

I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...

gardengal · gardengal

I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...

mastiff · mastiff

I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...

nycbt · nycbt

I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...

rtexas · rtexas

My uncle (recovering A/addict) died over the weekend. He had so many serious health issues to to years of Heroin and A abuse that it was not totally a shock (even at 50). It hit me hard when I heard for 2 reasons. The first of course is because he was my favorite uncle growing up a...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok now A and his friend are kicked out of the friends moms house as of tomorrow. So who does he call? Me. Is telling me he might have to move into my barn. I said no way. I kept thinking and saying I can't have you here, you could hurt me. Just kept saying all the reasons why I had to say no. Then I tol...

mastiff · mastiff

This is not CAL approved literature, take what you like and leave the rest here. I picked this up at an open aa meeting, and it is from " the Moral and Spiritual Values in Educations, used by the Los Angeles City Schools as part of their educational program." I found this really helpful in determ...

Christy · Christy

I'm not sure what to report here as Dr.'s aren't able to figure out what is going on either. The good news is hubby is not in renal failure at this time, they were able to bring his potassium down to a more reasonable level with meds and insulin. High potassium causes, lethargy, confusion, swollen join...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hello friends, Just another reminder about the group inventory. The website is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool t...

debilyn · debilyn

TT I keep wondering how you are and did you go to court? I hope you are ok. Please, please post. love,debilyn

Barbara · Barbara

how long has it taken for them to respond?

rtexas · rtexas

You know... I have to say that my wife does do everything and I don't know that it's better. She gets off work at 4PM and I get home at 6PM each day. She has super cooked every day when I get there, which is odd since my son has normally already eaten something, and she drinks her supper most ni...

debilyn · debilyn

You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never thought about. Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of things that need to be done. I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can st...

Powerless · Powerless

Thank you for those who helped me think more clearly last night. You were right, I knew what to do, but had a difficult time doing it. I find that is generally the case. So I knew he had taken pills, what difference would have made if he had admitted it except it's something else to thro...

tea2 · tea2

In our meeting closing a part of it reads: Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. Here is my question-- How would you handle the Talk to each o...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband came home from an errand today and after about 30 minutes I was the signs that he had taken pills. Probably Xanax. His speech was slurred, his mood was volatile and he was in a daze. He swore he had not taken anything. I know I shouldn't have asked him in the first plac...

Christy · Christy

I took hubby to ER this morning at 9, he is in renal failure.. HP stepped in again to get him there. I took his blood pressure because he kept asking me the same questions over and over.. His BP was 47/70 They are doing everything possible to turn things around but we just don't know this time how things wi...

confused · confused

Today I am just so sad. As I have been the last week or so. I have been trying to pinpoint the why and just cannot seem to. Well, I guess I can, but just do not want to admit it. I miss my husband so much. I am lonely. So I look at our situation and try to see how things have...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, It never ceases to amaze me how delusional an A can become. We've had a few rough days here, nothing major, just the same old nonsence. Last night I ordered Pizza, it was Friday and we give up meat on Fridays for lent. My husband was drinking and groaning about having plain pizza, but I igno...

Barbara · Barbara

Made it to my Sat morn f2f after driving around construction and driving through traffic. Then the waitress at Dunkin Donuts decided to go for a break just as I came up to her counter. Oh well I made it to my meeting. I didnt get a raffle ticket but the lady next to me did. She won a book of her choice. Asked who...

allison · allison

Another let down but I guess I did it to myself.I should know by now not to trust one word that comes out of his mouth. Monday is our youngest daughters 12th birthday but I have to work 1 pm til 10 pm..to pay bills that he wont pay.We planned on celebrating today(sunday) well...he finally calls around 7 p...

liza · liza

I have not really shared before I am a little shy, I think I have stated in chat I selfishly sit and read and learn so much from those who have the guts, to open up. Having said that I am now going to share, my experience as to what has happened to get me here today. My A was in rehab for 119 days graduate...

cdb · cdb

My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy...

alystylz · alystylz

So, I got laid off from work today. Someone has been taking money since I started working there, and the boss has been off for surgery, so she asked me not to work for a couple weeks till she is back. I told her that there is no way I would ever do such a thing. I am just not made that way.&nb...

Barbara · Barbara

What if anything do you bring along with you on vacation? Im thinking the Courage to Change book is certainly small enough. But do I really want to get into anything "heavy" while on vacation or should I leave it all behind? What do you do?

maggy · maggy

Hi I am new here I just found this forum a couple days ago. I wish it was a couple of years ago though. Let me just say how powerful everyones words are on this forum. Until now I thought it was all my fault. Everything. Everyone's posts have touched me and reached me in diffrent ways. ...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated tomorrow, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in need...

Barbara · Barbara

Spoke with my mother earlier today. She sounds better than she did a few days ago. She spoke with the court who told her they have been in touch/seen my brother. He stayed in a hotel last night and attended an AA meeting at the Salvation Army. Im hoping this is a beginning for him. He needs to see his probati...

maresie · maresie

My A generally spends large portions of his time over at some friends house on a weekend. Generally this is accompanied or preceded by some sort of a row. This weekend he actually did a chore I had been asking him to do for months unbidden. I have not disclosed to him that I am going to be worki...

Powerless · Powerless

The house is almost finished. My mother-in-law has really helped me a lot. The furniture will be delivered tomorrow morning. The floors will be done in two to three weeks. The cleaning is almost finished. I even got my husband to hang curtains and do all of the yard wo...

Barbara · Barbara

Wow! just spent a few hours reading Step 1. Brought up alot of my past present emotions etc. Now I have a pit in my stomach. Ever happen to anyone else? I think Im going to skip the chat meeting and go read something else. Maybe go to bed

gardengal · gardengal

I can remember feeling ambitious, waking up excited about my day, having loads of energy. I dont know when all that slipped away? Now its all I can do to pull myself out of bed. I barely keep myself or my children washed and fed, and then only out of sense of guilt or embarrassment. I didnt see it coming. I ju...

sweetums · sweetums

well finally getting a quiet day here - kids gone to their dad's, house reasonably clean, sister's wedding over. whew. its been busy busy busy. Having a moment to reflect on me a bit. I looked back at my posts from before and came across the one where I was asking if maybe I am addicted to my A. I don't kn...

confused · confused

Just received this from someone in my f2f group. Thought it was great and wanted to share. F.I.N.E. [I'm] Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Recover N.U.T.S. Not Using The Steps E.G.O. Edging God Out D.E.N.I.A.L...

marmare · marmare

Well, the appointment wasn't a time line appointment so I guess that was a plus....however. Mom has a three inch mass on her right lung (in addition it looks as though she has a small case of pneumonia or the cancer has started to break down her bronchial tubes) , a two inch mass in the chest cavity lymph no...

bobump · bobump

Wow, I'm doing a terrible job detaching. Well I did yesterday. I'll try to start over today. My A keeps saying things like - I know I f'ed up big time this time. - I'm going to come home and do what ever I need to do. I just want to come home. - I'm going to stop drinking. - I've grown up alot in the la...

kitty · kitty

Well, i won't be crying for my mother anymore... all of these months feeling sad when i saw her. She told me to come pick up my check at the house... 2 months ago, she had her gate codes changed. I kept asking for a new code, I have a house key, but still. Her maid & yard guys come wee...

Cyn · Cyn

Hello all, Just an update - I am still alive!! I am just working my tail off with my new swim school and new job. Things are going well - I am being strong and staying away from my A. My new relationship with the guy in Chicago is going well - but I am trying not to sabotage it - however I se...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated today, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in n...

abbyal · abbyal

Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...

marcie301 · marcie301

I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...

Barbara · Barbara

Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?

Barbara · Barbara

Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...

marcie301 · marcie301

Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...

John · John

Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...

Barbara · Barbara

Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...

Nettie · Nettie

So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...

rtexas · rtexas

I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...

Lindy · Lindy

I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...

kitty · kitty

So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...

Christy · Christy

Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...

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	give the problem over and let it STAY there (Preview) hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...	rosie light shines	1	343	Mar 7, 2006 by KathyS
	A sad understanding (Preview) I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...	ditto	3	386	Mar 7, 2006 by chris52
	support group (Preview) I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...	tk47834	5	339	Mar 7, 2006 by tk47834
	Courage To Change March 8th and 9th (Preview) MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...	Debbie Lee	0	832	Mar 7, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	WAITING & IMPATIENCE (Preview) I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...	gardengal	1	484	Mar 7, 2006 by nmike
	25 days (Preview) It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...	jrtjosey	12	644	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	My teen angels (Preview) I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...	Jeannie	7	442	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	I can't believe I let it happen again (Preview) I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...	JulieLynn	7	444	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	keeping the focus and Letting it begin with me (Preview) I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...	mastiff	5	358	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	I think I'm finally done (Preview) In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...	twinmom2	5	661	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	Feeling alone (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...	Diane43	5	293	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	My Awsome time (Preview) I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...	nycbt	7	311	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	When it rains it pours... (Preview) My uncle (recovering A/addict) died over the weekend. He had so many serious health issues to to years of Heroin and A abuse that it was not totally a shock (even at 50). It hit me hard when I heard for 2 reasons. The first of course is because he was my favorite uncle growing up a...	rtexas	3	296	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	hp give me strength (Preview) Ok now A and his friend are kicked out of the friends moms house as of tomorrow. So who does he call? Me. Is telling me he might have to move into my barn. I said no way. I kept thinking and saying I can't have you here, you could hurt me. Just kept saying all the reasons why I had to say no. Then I tol...	debilyn	10	603	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	emotional maturity (Preview) This is not CAL approved literature, take what you like and leave the rest here. I picked this up at an open aa meeting, and it is from " the Moral and Spiritual Values in Educations, used by the Los Angeles City Schools as part of their educational program." I found this really helpful in determ...	mastiff	3	3229	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	Update/hubby/ICU (Preview) I'm not sure what to report here as Dr.'s aren't able to figure out what is going on either. The good news is hubby is not in renal failure at this time, they were able to bring his potassium down to a more reasonable level with meds and insulin. High potassium causes, lethargy, confusion, swollen join...	Christy	9	467	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	Group Inventory (Preview) Hello friends, Just another reminder about the group inventory. The website is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool t...	bob6502	0	287	Mar 6, 2006 by bob6502
	TT (Preview) TT I keep wondering how you are and did you go to court? I hope you are ok. Please, please post. love,debilyn	debilyn	1	401	Mar 6, 2006 by Jill
	once youve contacted person to be your sponsor (Preview) how long has it taken for them to respond?	Barbara	6	278	Mar 6, 2006 by KathyS
	My A does everything around the house... (Preview) You know... I have to say that my wife does do everything and I don't know that it's better. She gets off work at 4PM and I get home at 6PM each day. She has super cooked every day when I get there, which is odd since my son has normally already eaten something, and she drinks her supper most ni...	rtexas	3	460	Mar 6, 2006 by Jeannie
	loved your responses/more (Preview) You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never thought about. Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of things that need to be done. I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can st...	debilyn	2	440	Mar 6, 2006 by cdb
	Letting go of the anger (Preview) Thank you for those who helped me think more clearly last night. You were right, I knew what to do, but had a difficult time doing it. I find that is generally the case. So I knew he had taken pills, what difference would have made if he had admitted it except it's something else to thro...	Powerless	3	452	Mar 6, 2006 by mastiff
	a Question on the Al-Anon Closing (Preview) In our meeting closing a part of it reads: Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. Here is my question-- How would you handle the Talk to each o...	tea2	12	3345	Mar 6, 2006 by cdb
	I can't help myself...can you help me? (Preview) My husband came home from an errand today and after about 30 minutes I was the signs that he had taken pills. Probably Xanax. His speech was slurred, his mood was volatile and he was in a daze. He swore he had not taken anything. I know I shouldn't have asked him in the first plac...	Powerless	5	475	Mar 6, 2006 by leo
	ER again/renal failure (Preview) I took hubby to ER this morning at 9, he is in renal failure.. HP stepped in again to get him there. I took his blood pressure because he kept asking me the same questions over and over.. His BP was 47/70 They are doing everything possible to turn things around but we just don't know this time how things wi...	Christy	22	575	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	hate where i am today (Preview) Today I am just so sad. As I have been the last week or so. I have been trying to pinpoint the why and just cannot seem to. Well, I guess I can, but just do not want to admit it. I miss my husband so much. I am lonely. So I look at our situation and try to see how things have...	confused	8	365	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	So delusional (Preview) Hi everyone, It never ceases to amaze me how delusional an A can become. We've had a few rough days here, nothing major, just the same old nonsence. Last night I ordered Pizza, it was Friday and we give up meat on Fridays for lent. My husband was drinking and groaning about having plain pizza, but I igno...	Jeannie	11	425	Mar 5, 2006 by leo
	"the day that was meant to be" making progress (Preview) Made it to my Sat morn f2f after driving around construction and driving through traffic. Then the waitress at Dunkin Donuts decided to go for a break just as I came up to her counter. Oh well I made it to my meeting. I didnt get a raffle ticket but the lady next to me did. She won a book of her choice. Asked who...	Barbara	3	471	Mar 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	should have known better (Preview) Another let down but I guess I did it to myself.I should know by now not to trust one word that comes out of his mouth. Monday is our youngest daughters 12th birthday but I have to work 1 pm til 10 pm..to pay bills that he wont pay.We planned on celebrating today(sunday) well...he finally calls around 7 p...	allison	1	305	Mar 5, 2006 by bcanuck
	Jesus Take the Wheel (Preview) I have not really shared before I am a little shy, I think I have stated in chat I selfishly sit and read and learn so much from those who have the guts, to open up. Having said that I am now going to share, my experience as to what has happened to get me here today. My A was in rehab for 119 days graduate...	liza	6	447	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	Emergency prayers needed please! (Preview) My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy...	cdb	20	629	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	trying to let go (Preview) So, I got laid off from work today. Someone has been taking money since I started working there, and the boss has been off for surgery, so she asked me not to work for a couple weeks till she is back. I told her that there is no way I would ever do such a thing. I am just not made that way.&nb...	alystylz	5	315	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	Does the AlAnon literature go on vacation with you? (Preview) What if anything do you bring along with you on vacation? Im thinking the Courage to Change book is certainly small enough. But do I really want to get into anything "heavy" while on vacation or should I leave it all behind? What do you do?	Barbara	6	425	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	I'm new I didn't get it (Preview) Hi I am new here I just found this forum a couple days ago. I wish it was a couple of years ago though. Let me just say how powerful everyones words are on this forum. Until now I thought it was all my fault. Everything. Everyone's posts have touched me and reached me in diffrent ways. ...	maggy	10	517	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	PLEASE READ: Saturday March 4th--Leave Hope (Preview) Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated tomorrow, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in need...	Emmie11	1	333	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	brother is staying in hotel and attended AA (Preview) Spoke with my mother earlier today. She sounds better than she did a few days ago. She spoke with the court who told her they have been in touch/seen my brother. He stayed in a hotel last night and attended an AA meeting at the Salvation Army. Im hoping this is a beginning for him. He needs to see his probati...	Barbara	3	281	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	doing it differently (Preview) My A generally spends large portions of his time over at some friends house on a weekend. Generally this is accompanied or preceded by some sort of a row. This weekend he actually did a chore I had been asking him to do for months unbidden. I have not disclosed to him that I am going to be worki...	maresie	3	331	Mar 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Things are quieting down and I am scared (Preview) The house is almost finished. My mother-in-law has really helped me a lot. The furniture will be delivered tomorrow morning. The floors will be done in two to three weeks. The cleaning is almost finished. I even got my husband to hang curtains and do all of the yard wo...	Powerless	5	451	Mar 5, 2006 by marmare
	do you sometimes get a pit in your stomach after "working your program"? (Preview) Wow! just spent a few hours reading Step 1. Brought up alot of my past present emotions etc. Now I have a pit in my stomach. Ever happen to anyone else? I think Im going to skip the chat meeting and go read something else. Maybe go to bed	Barbara	9	437	Mar 5, 2006 by Barbara
	Now it is all I can do to pull myself out of bed (Preview) I can remember feeling ambitious, waking up excited about my day, having loads of energy. I dont know when all that slipped away? Now its all I can do to pull myself out of bed. I barely keep myself or my children washed and fed, and then only out of sense of guilt or embarrassment. I didnt see it coming. I ju...	gardengal	11	370	Mar 5, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Maybe some progress....? (Preview) well finally getting a quiet day here - kids gone to their dad's, house reasonably clean, sister's wedding over. whew. its been busy busy busy. Having a moment to reflect on me a bit. I looked back at my posts from before and came across the one where I was asking if maybe I am addicted to my A. I don't kn...	sweetums	3	298	Mar 5, 2006 by nmike
	acronyms for today, great for the frig. (Preview) Just received this from someone in my f2f group. Thought it was great and wanted to share. F.I.N.E. [I'm] Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Recover N.U.T.S. Not Using The Steps E.G.O. Edging God Out D.E.N.I.A.L...	confused	3	856	Mar 5, 2006 by Becky1
	Mom Update (Preview) Well, the appointment wasn't a time line appointment so I guess that was a plus....however. Mom has a three inch mass on her right lung (in addition it looks as though she has a small case of pneumonia or the cancer has started to break down her bronchial tubes) , a two inch mass in the chest cavity lymph no...	marmare	10	366	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	I have a hard time (Preview) Wow, I'm doing a terrible job detaching. Well I did yesterday. I'll try to start over today. My A keeps saying things like - I know I f'ed up big time this time. - I'm going to come home and do what ever I need to do. I just want to come home. - I'm going to stop drinking. - I've grown up alot in the la...	bobump	19	429	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	mom set me free! & didn't even know it (Preview) Well, i won't be crying for my mother anymore... all of these months feeling sad when i saw her. She told me to come pick up my check at the house... 2 months ago, she had her gate codes changed. I kept asking for a new code, I have a house key, but still. Her maid & yard guys come wee...	kitty	7	629	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	Still alive (Preview) Hello all, Just an update - I am still alive!! I am just working my tail off with my new swim school and new job. Things are going well - I am being strong and staying away from my A. My new relationship with the guy in Chicago is going well - but I am trying not to sabotage it - however I se...	Cyn	3	419	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	Please help if you can (Preview) Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated today, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in n...	Emmie11	2	301	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	HOPE (Preview) Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...	abbyal	10	410	Mar 4, 2006 by Jeannie
	It's happening again (Preview) I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...	marcie301	4	469	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	once you found someone - How did you get started with a sponsor? (Preview) Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?	Barbara	4	332	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Now I am truly in the middle - brother has contacted me (Preview) Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...	Barbara	4	313	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Can we afford a few more screws? (Preview) We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...	jrtjosey	13	405	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I went to a f2f and have a plan (Preview) Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...	marcie301	6	412	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	more recipies wanted (Preview) Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...	John	2	312	Mar 4, 2006 by lin0606
	Found - brother is loose! noone knows where he is! (Preview) Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...	Barbara	4	405	Mar 4, 2006 by Flora123
	Looking for advice (Preview) So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...	Nettie	4	310	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Struggling with Truth (Preview) I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...	rtexas	5	525	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Was told that I'm messed up! (Preview) I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...	Lindy	12	509	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	manipulative auntie (Preview) So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...	kitty	6	306	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Doctor Day/ hubby update (Preview) Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...	Christy	7	363	Mar 4, 2006 by Becky1
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