Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Scamper · Scamper

Just thought I would jot down a few words today. I am not feeling very well spritually or emotionally. I am really trying to get out of debt (a HUGE problem for me)...has been since I am 14 yrs. old. It seems like everytime I make a step or two (like everything else in my life)...the dis...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Edited for copyright infraction. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 15:08, 2006-04-04

DeAnna · DeAnna

I'm learning about enabling. First, my hub & me have very different ways of cooking. His is more elaborate, full meals. Mine are more simple dishes, & not as much food. I offer to cook dinner so that it's done @ a decent time. But the hub states he'll do it,...

QOD · QOD

Last Thurs my A husband didn't come home. I wasn't surprise when he didn't come home all weekend. I figured he was off getting high again and probably lost his job in the process. So Saturday I sat down w/my 12 year old son and opened up to him. I could see how much his dad's behav...

Feather · Feather

Hi All, I haven't been around for awhile as lots has been happening. Mainly with my Mum. She has been unwell again these last few weeks and was operated on last Sat. The surgeon warned us it would be a big op, a Whipples Procedure (the surgeon said it was equivalent in size to a heart transp...

iona54 · iona54

I get a weekly newsletter from an arts related source and this struck me as wonderful in that it it is like the alanon programme in the way that we strive to look after ourselves and look for the best. Hope you all enjoy as much as I did hugs iona54 Focusing the mind on a higher purpo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Well, the ride continues. My "A" and I had a wonderful weekend. We spent family time together, spent quality time together, and he was sober all weekend. He cut ties off from his "friends" on Wednesday after they returned the car completely out of gas, and it also had stolen prope...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I am looking for a sponsor. Hoping to find another woman who has an active alcoholic husband. It is a different life living with an active spouse. I live is a small farming community, the closest Alanon meetings are 20 miles away, plus I work evening shift that makes it doubly hard to get to f2f meetin...

kitty · kitty

I have some strange views for a westerner, I have read Zen since I was 16, after surviving my first suicide attempt. I do believe I came into this family, had these hardships, married an addict, it was all in God's divine plan... for me to disocver the love in me, the divinity or spark of God t...

kitty · kitty

This is really irony, I always felt like I did not want to be abandonnded & that I genuinely had a fear of it ~ yet I was the one that had abandonned myself all along. I spent all of my life pouring out all I had onto others & being jipped in the end... ironically I did it to myself!!! Bo...

Beth · Beth

Edna, Flora and Chris, I miss seeing you guys. I hope everything is alright. Hurry back. love ya, Beth123

bobump · bobump

Bear w/ me because this post may contain TMI and traces of peanuts but.... I thought it was interesting. I'm at my son's Sunday school. In an effort to save myself some gas and time, I usually do some literature or non cal reading in the parking lot and clean out the car a little. Today I d...

Maria123 · Maria123

I won, I won, I won .... The radio contest for VIP seating at the Soul to Soul II Contest with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw. I have been trying and trying to win tickets for five years and this time it worked. Just wanted to share with y'all. Love Maria

gknee · gknee

this was the sorry conclusion my A and I both came to this weekend. He has been out of commission all week with selfmedicating (alcohol/pot/ambien) his way thru spring fever or something. same old same old. I only wish he would be out of the house for 3 days like some of these A's . All mine does is remedi...

angel123 · angel123

one of my son's that live at home came home tippsy again....I walked away when he went on about things that have him down.Things I have already dicused when he was sober.He has a court date to determine if he is the father of a baby boy.Needing DNA test.As a mother I explain if the the child is his he is res...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I'm back on line in my home. Cujo has no Power, LOL More later. Josey

kitty · kitty

I have this printed out & put up in my condo all over the place, in the bathroom, on the ice box, the front door & next to my PC: LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan &nbs...

maggy · maggy

I haven't spoken to my ex-A for 3 months I have had no contact and haven't tried and neither has he. We went out for 8 years never married or even lived with each other. He lied about the drinking I would find out and we would break up. this went on for our entire relationship. It's funny we brea...

Juster · Juster

The other day I was taking my lunch walk around our office complex which includes a large hotel. As I was walking around the hotel, I saw a ladies dress shoe sitting on top of one of the hedges. My first thought was, "I wonder how one ladies shoe got there?" Well, t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Happy Day for me!

Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary. It's is also Piper Kitty's 3 birthday, and 1 year ago she came home to us! We became a family.

I look back on a year ago, and where we were. My hubby...

bob6502 · bob6502

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING APRIL 5, 2006 SenoraBob ;     &nb...

debilyn · debilyn

Seemed like a "normal" family at the time clear back in 1970. Two very cute country boys, darling little blond sister who had a pony. Mom home, Dad an electrician. I met my A's family very young. I watched my A get drafted, his mom and dad divorced after years of all kinds of abuse on the whole family. A's...

rtexas · rtexas

Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst. Includes taking swings at me...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I have been reading so many posts about infidelity, and abuse, from many people, myself included. There is a book I particularly like called "Marriage on the Rocks". The auther makes things kind of cut and dry and clear. She states that the first thing we have to do is accept alcoholism as a disease...

emma · emma

Tried but cant get in ... 1) Message box popped up: "Verify Certif... Do you wnt to trust the signed applet distributed by Phillippe DeTourneay?" DO I or is this a virus? 2) Then white box loads, but .... I get that "Unable to connect: java.security. AccessControlException: accessdenied. ...

Unsure · Unsure

Hi everyone. Its 8:14pm on SUnday night, and as in every weekend every night from dinner till bedtime, my S/O sits in the chair and snores. Its like he has no desire to even socialize with me, let alone anything else. He says its my fault, LOL. I'm the one awake, doing laundry,...

angel123 · angel123

This from Forum (meeting in my pocket)click attachment

cabma · cabma

After 15 years of marriage, he says he's unhappy and that's why he uses! He gave me all these reasons why he's unhappy, (he wanted more than 2 kids, I didn't, etc), but says if he doesn't get out, he'll never stop using. I found out a long time ago that he's never satisfied with his life...

bobump · bobump

One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...

kspear · kspear

Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...

leo · leo

Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...

QOD · QOD

I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...

peewee · peewee

D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...

hudsond · hudsond

I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...

angel123 · angel123

Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...

ditto · ditto

Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...

gardengal · gardengal

When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...

megan · megan

I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...

kitty · kitty

I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...

kspear · kspear

Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...

hudsond · hudsond

Last night I spoke up honestly for myself without worrying about how he was going to react. He hurt my feelings about how I cooked supper (I always thought I was a pretty decent cook until the 2 husbands I have had both didn't/don't like my cooking). I tried not to make a big deal out of it, I ju...

ditto · ditto

I have wanted to divorce my husband ever since I realized he is an a. I simply don't deserve the treatment I face due to his alcoholism. To that end, I have been working to separate our lives. We own a store together and I put it on the market and prayed really hard and tomorrow it...

Christy · Christy

I just talked to Josey and she is moved in to her new home, the boxes anyway..lol The boys (twins, age 11) are also doing well and are excited to be in their new home. Josey is pretty exhausted as anyone would be, but she has deficits from her stroke that make things much more difficult for her. I don'...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, As I have posted to my negative feelings about my one bad experience in the chat room, I would like to post today about the good things. I am so very grateful to have found this place. The meeting this morning was so wonderful and full of love. There is so much help, love and kindnes...

sparkette · sparkette

Something really cool happened to me today while I was at my f2f meeting. This is a new homegroup for me. I have gone the past 3 weeks, so I am still missing my old home group as many of you can relate. I didn't move - it was more of a schedule change that necessitated the home group change. Anyways... It was...

kissers · kissers

I give up on everything. The more I try to make my situation better, the more obstacles fly in the way. I was 1 of 110 people chosen for an entreprenuer program. My family said they would watch my daughter 3 evening per week while I was in the program, then decided to pull the rug out from under me. I was termi...

Powerless · Powerless

He finally admitted tonight that he has been seeing her and sleeping with her. He admitted it while make love to me. We were in the middle of sex and he told me exactly what happened. I got up and felt like I was going to throw up. I can't believe he admitted it. I guess part...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so angry. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't calm down enough to type. The other woman called me this morning and said she had been thinking all night and couldn't live with herself for lying to me yesterday. She said that they met each other two months ago, not one and that the...

rtexas · rtexas

Happy Birthday Month to everyone with a birthday this month! You know who you are! For the rest of the year you will have to settle for Happy Serenity Day, that is a 365 day per year holiday. Boy wouldn't that be a relief! Take care everyone! -- Edited by rtexas at 11:24, 2006-0...

confusedmom · confusedmom

It's been a long time since I've posted anything. I truly thought things were going better. My husband was drinking less and staying home more. I felt like he really wanted our family to work. Now, about 2 months ago the cycle started again. I can't figure out what my bigge...

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	Just Need to Talk Today..depressed (Preview) Just thought I would jot down a few words today. I am not feeling very well spritually or emotionally. I am really trying to get out of debt (a HUGE problem for me)...has been since I am 14 yrs. old. It seems like everytime I make a step or two (like everything else in my life)...the dis...	Scamper	10	511	Apr 4, 2006 by Lexie
	yeah, i can forgive mom (Preview) Edited for copyright infraction. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 15:08, 2006-04-04	rosie light shines	0	414	Apr 4, 2006 by rosie light shines
	enabling? (Preview) I'm learning about enabling. First, my hub & me have very different ways of cooking. His is more elaborate, full meals. Mine are more simple dishes, & not as much food. I offer to cook dinner so that it's done @ a decent time. But the hub states he'll do it,...	DeAnna	4	491	Apr 4, 2006 by Jeannie
	I told my son everything (Preview) Last Thurs my A husband didn't come home. I wasn't surprise when he didn't come home all weekend. I figured he was off getting high again and probably lost his job in the process. So Saturday I sat down w/my 12 year old son and opened up to him. I could see how much his dad's behav...	QOD	9	764	Apr 4, 2006 by QOD
	Tough Time (Preview) Hi All, I haven't been around for awhile as lots has been happening. Mainly with my Mum. She has been unwell again these last few weeks and was operated on last Sat. The surgeon warned us it would be a big op, a Whipples Procedure (the surgeon said it was equivalent in size to a heart transp...	Feather	7	602	Apr 4, 2006 by maresie
	looking after ourselves (Preview) I get a weekly newsletter from an arts related source and this struck me as wonderful in that it it is like the alanon programme in the way that we strive to look after ourselves and look for the best. Hope you all enjoy as much as I did hugs iona54 Focusing the mind on a higher purpo...	iona54	0	433	Apr 4, 2006 by iona54
	How long is this ride? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Well, the ride continues. My "A" and I had a wonderful weekend. We spent family time together, spent quality time together, and he was sober all weekend. He cut ties off from his "friends" on Wednesday after they returned the car completely out of gas, and it also had stolen prope...	Dolphin123	7	515	Apr 4, 2006 by leo
	Looking for a sponsor (Preview) Hi, I am looking for a sponsor. Hoping to find another woman who has an active alcoholic husband. It is a different life living with an active spouse. I live is a small farming community, the closest Alanon meetings are 20 miles away, plus I work evening shift that makes it doubly hard to get to f2f meetin...	horselover58	3	470	Apr 4, 2006 by horselover58
	I chose these lessons (Preview) I have some strange views for a westerner, I have read Zen since I was 16, after surviving my first suicide attempt. I do believe I came into this family, had these hardships, married an addict, it was all in God's divine plan... for me to disocver the love in me, the divinity or spark of God t...	kitty	5	630	Apr 4, 2006 by kitty
	Emotional Abandonnment (Preview) This is really irony, I always felt like I did not want to be abandonnded & that I genuinely had a fear of it ~ yet I was the one that had abandonned myself all along. I spent all of my life pouring out all I had onto others & being jipped in the end... ironically I did it to myself!!! Bo...	kitty	3	516	Apr 4, 2006 by DeAnna
	Edna, Flora and Chris (Preview) Edna, Flora and Chris, I miss seeing you guys. I hope everything is alright. Hurry back. love ya, Beth123	Beth	0	425	Apr 4, 2006 by Beth
	I thin HP was talking to me...on the pot, lol (Preview) Bear w/ me because this post may contain TMI and traces of peanuts but.... I thought it was interesting. I'm at my son's Sunday school. In an effort to save myself some gas and time, I usually do some literature or non cal reading in the parking lot and clean out the car a little. Today I d...	bobump	10	683	Apr 4, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	happy news (Preview) I won, I won, I won .... The radio contest for VIP seating at the Soul to Soul II Contest with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw. I have been trying and trying to win tickets for five years and this time it worked. Just wanted to share with y'all. Love Maria	Maria123	13	565	Apr 4, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	too lazy to leave (Preview) this was the sorry conclusion my A and I both came to this weekend. He has been out of commission all week with selfmedicating (alcohol/pot/ambien) his way thru spring fever or something. same old same old. I only wish he would be out of the house for 3 days like some of these A's . All mine does is remedi...	gknee	2	537	Apr 4, 2006 by abbyal
	Tippsy (Preview) one of my son's that live at home came home tippsy again....I walked away when he went on about things that have him down.Things I have already dicused when he was sober.He has a court date to determine if he is the father of a baby boy.Needing DNA test.As a mother I explain if the the child is his he is res...	angel123	3	627	Apr 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I'm on Cujo's off (Preview) I'm back on line in my home. Cujo has no Power, LOL More later. Josey	jrtjosey	2	529	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	Newbies ~ So many Excellent Slogans (Preview) I have this printed out & put up in my condo all over the place, in the bathroom, on the ice box, the front door & next to my PC: LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan &nbs...	kitty	3	560	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	How to respond (Preview) I haven't spoken to my ex-A for 3 months I have had no contact and haven't tried and neither has he. We went out for 8 years never married or even lived with each other. He lied about the drinking I would find out and we would break up. this went on for our entire relationship. It's funny we brea...	maggy	2	608	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	The Shoe (Preview) The other day I was taking my lunch walk around our office complex which includes a large hotel. As I was walking around the hotel, I saw a ladies dress shoe sitting on top of one of the hedges. My first thought was, "I wonder how one ladies shoe got there?" Well, t...	Juster	2	537	Apr 3, 2006 by kitty
	My anniversary (Preview) ((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Happy Day for me! Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary. It's is also Piper Kitty's 3 birthday, and 1 year ago she came home to us! We became a family. I look back on a year ago, and where we were. My hubby...	Karilynn	12	566	Apr 3, 2006 by Becky1
	Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING APRIL 5, 2006 SenoraBob ;     &nb...	bob6502	0	480	Apr 3, 2006 by bob6502
	Progression of hell (Preview) Seemed like a "normal" family at the time clear back in 1970. Two very cute country boys, darling little blond sister who had a pony. Mom home, Dad an electrician. I met my A's family very young. I watched my A get drafted, his mom and dad divorced after years of all kinds of abuse on the whole family. A's...	debilyn	10	655	Apr 3, 2006 by Becky1
	Kink in the space/time continium.... (Preview) Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst. Includes taking swings at me...	rtexas	5	528	Apr 3, 2006 by kitty
	Sick is no excuse for bad behavior (Preview) I have been reading so many posts about infidelity, and abuse, from many people, myself included. There is a book I particularly like called "Marriage on the Rocks". The auther makes things kind of cut and dry and clear. She states that the first thing we have to do is accept alcoholism as a disease...	Jeannie	7	651	Apr 3, 2006 by gknee
	can't get in chatroom (Preview) Tried but cant get in ... 1) Message box popped up: "Verify Certif... Do you wnt to trust the signed applet distributed by Phillippe DeTourneay?" DO I or is this a virus? 2) Then white box loads, but .... I get that "Unable to connect: java.security. AccessControlException: accessdenied. ...	emma	4	454	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	Not sure (Preview) Hi everyone. Its 8:14pm on SUnday night, and as in every weekend every night from dinner till bedtime, my S/O sits in the chair and snores. Its like he has no desire to even socialize with me, let alone anything else. He says its my fault, LOL. I'm the one awake, doing laundry,...	Unsure	7	552	Apr 3, 2006 by scared
	Step 4 (Preview) This from Forum (meeting in my pocket)click attachment	angel123	0	475	Apr 3, 2006 by angel123
	He's leaving me! (Preview) After 15 years of marriage, he says he's unhappy and that's why he uses! He gave me all these reasons why he's unhappy, (he wanted more than 2 kids, I didn't, etc), but says if he doesn't get out, he'll never stop using. I found out a long time ago that he's never satisfied with his life...	cabma	13	719	Apr 3, 2006 by cabma
	one of my fears might be coming true (Preview) One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...	bobump	14	853	Apr 3, 2006 by Alone
	Some trouble in paradise... (Preview) This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...	twinmom2	4	657	Apr 3, 2006 by Rebecca
	a new plan?? (Preview) Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...	robyn76	3	568	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	Is it really possible? (Preview) Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...	kspear	2	560	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	at the crossroads (Preview) Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...	leo	5	831	Apr 3, 2006 by leo
	Aargg! I don't get it!! (Preview) I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...	QOD	10	720	Apr 3, 2006 by QOD
	Is Infidelity Part of the Disease? (Preview) I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...	HadEnuff	7	747	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	Today is a new day (Preview) First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...	Powerless	4	530	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	D53 and pm (Preview) D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...	peewee	0	510	Apr 2, 2006 by peewee
	could use some help with boudaries (Preview) Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...	Mollyd	3	553	Apr 2, 2006 by Mollyd
	what if the A is not "active"? (Preview) Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...	drucilla06	6	1136	Apr 2, 2006 by drucilla06
	Why do they try so hard just to tick us off??? (Preview) I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...	hudsond	3	491	Apr 2, 2006 by kitty
	Step 3 (Preview) Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel	angel123	1	463	Apr 2, 2006 by just me
	love ONE day at a time (Preview) Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...	rosie light shines	3	592	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	A Revelation ... (Preview) I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...	HadEnuff	4	540	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Something to think about (Preview) Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...	ditto	7	731	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	What a difference a day makes (Preview) Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...	kspear	2	654	Apr 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	ARE YOU HUNGRY TO GET HEALTHY? (Preview) When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...	gardengal	2	466	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Past present future (Preview) I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...	megan	14	721	Apr 2, 2006 by leo
	Constantly Surrenderring (Preview) I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...	kitty	6	656	Apr 2, 2006 by bobump
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...	kspear	3	507	Apr 1, 2006 by Jeannie
	How far do I pursue truth?? (Preview) Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...	robyn76	6	611	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	Spoke up honestly for self (Preview) Last night I spoke up honestly for myself without worrying about how he was going to react. He hurt my feelings about how I cooked supper (I always thought I was a pretty decent cook until the 2 husbands I have had both didn't/don't like my cooking). I tried not to make a big deal out of it, I ju...	hudsond	3	521	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	Fearful (Preview) I have wanted to divorce my husband ever since I realized he is an a. I simply don't deserve the treatment I face due to his alcoholism. To that end, I have been working to separate our lives. We own a store together and I put it on the market and prayed really hard and tomorrow it...	ditto	11	653	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	jrtjosey report :) (Preview) I just talked to Josey and she is moved in to her new home, the boxes anyway..lol The boys (twins, age 11) are also doing well and are excited to be in their new home. Josey is pretty exhausted as anyone would be, but she has deficits from her stroke that make things much more difficult for her. I don'...	Christy	6	545	Apr 1, 2006 by ErinB
	Feeling the love in chat room (Preview) Hello All, As I have posted to my negative feelings about my one bad experience in the chat room, I would like to post today about the good things. I am so very grateful to have found this place. The meeting this morning was so wonderful and full of love. There is so much help, love and kindnes...	Andrea12	8	659	Apr 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Tripping over my own ego (Preview) Something really cool happened to me today while I was at my f2f meeting. This is a new homegroup for me. I have gone the past 3 weeks, so I am still missing my old home group as many of you can relate. I didn't move - it was more of a schedule change that necessitated the home group change. Anyways... It was...	sparkette	8	821	Apr 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	I Give Up (Preview) I give up on everything. The more I try to make my situation better, the more obstacles fly in the way. I was 1 of 110 people chosen for an entreprenuer program. My family said they would watch my daughter 3 evening per week while I was in the program, then decided to pull the rug out from under me. I was termi...	kissers	9	630	Apr 1, 2006 by Diva
	The truth at last (Preview) He finally admitted tonight that he has been seeing her and sleeping with her. He admitted it while make love to me. We were in the middle of sex and he told me exactly what happened. I got up and felt like I was going to throw up. I can't believe he admitted it. I guess part...	Powerless	8	637	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	The other woman (Preview) I am so angry. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't calm down enough to type. The other woman called me this morning and said she had been thinking all night and couldn't live with herself for lying to me yesterday. She said that they met each other two months ago, not one and that the...	Powerless	12	763	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	Last Happy Birthday Month for March '06 (Preview) Happy Birthday Month to everyone with a birthday this month! You know who you are! For the rest of the year you will have to settle for Happy Serenity Day, that is a 365 day per year holiday. Boy wouldn't that be a relief! Take care everyone! -- Edited by rtexas at 11:24, 2006-0...	rtexas	3	448	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	What do you do ? (Preview) It's been a long time since I've posted anything. I truly thought things were going better. My husband was drinking less and staying home more. I felt like he really wanted our family to work. Now, about 2 months ago the cycle started again. I can't figure out what my bigge...	confusedmom	3	546	Apr 1, 2006 by Angie
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