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Kink in the space/time continium....


Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral.  She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst.


Includes taking swings at me... not too big a deal, because under the influence it's like defending myself from a 5 year old.  She tried throwing my tape measure through the windshield of the racecar... Heck of a throw by the way, bounced off the windshield and off the fridge in the garage and through the window of the garage door.  I've replaced 2 doors that she has tried to put her fist through.  (they don't duck as well as I do)


I have brought back some of my sanity by reading the literature, going to meetings and getting some WONDERFUL insights from everyone here.


Then the curveball... All of a sudden Sunday morning she is fine, the sun is shining, the birds are singing and she loves her husband again.  Anybody who doesn't see this as a disease, some sort of hateful twist on the brain waves just hasn't seen enough yet.  This is not a trick... she had a great day and really enjoyed herself with us yesterday.  What comes this evening, or tomorrow when we are to go see the councelor... who knows and who cares.


I count it as a blessing and enjoyed myself for what it was... a GREAT day.  I could not have done that without you guys, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart!


 



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rtexas,


Glad you had a great day. Thanks for sharing your growth with us.


Much Love,



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What a great description of life with an A. One minute my A is wanting total commitment next proclaiming nothing is better. I have to remember it is his disease talking. When I detach I do not take it personally. I no longer go along the roller coaster with him. I can no longer be so easily manipulated.  I also no longer put him first.


Maresie.



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(((rtexas)))


That is the best part of it, being able to take every great day and even moment as a gift, and enjoying it. One day at a time.


I hope the counseling goes well and you both have many more great days together.


                                    Love Jeannie



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rtexas,


Glad you finally got a break.  Thanks for sharing it with me!  It gives us all hope!


 


Julia



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Wow ((((((((( hugs ))))))))) to you for enjoying the moments in the day for what they were...  each moment is to be cherished, treasured, & the fact that you did NOT project - I mean completely F* it, didn't project - shows you are really really allowing the Program to sink in!


Two major positive acheivements!  Proud of you sugars!


love, -K of Light



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